Yes, we can reduce violence against women | Rumana Monzur | TEDxStanleyPark
Vložit
- čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
- Violence against women is shockingly frequent and often horrific beyond words. Rumana Monzur was blinded in 2011 due to domestic violence. She survived and gained light despite her darkness. Now she wants to launch a global crusade to reduce violence against women.
Rumana Monzur is an Assistant Professor at the Department of International Relations, University of Dhaka, Bangladesh. She is a single mother and a first year law student at the University of British Columbia in Canada. Email: rumanamonzur@gmail.com
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Rumana, I am in tears. I was so moved by your speech. You are such a powerful force, and I feel so incredibly blessed to be with you on this journey through law school. I want everyone to know that not only is Rumana a powerful advocate and an absolute triumph of human spirit, she is also one of the kindest, friendliest, and brightest people you will ever meet! Thank you for sharing your incredible story with us, Rumana! We all must join in this fight. Share her message!
This guy gone many people’s bed by the name of education. Now she give speech women violence.
She tortured her husband oftenly.
When her husband was custody the man suicide 😢
"I decided to take control of my life.I told myself,happiness and sorrow;they are just some chemicals playing with your brain.I want to be a chemist to control those chemicals"(Rumana Mam)
Excellent speech,heart touching,inspiring..!!!
Can't stop my tear..!!
Thanks Rumana for your inspiring speech. Many educated women in Bangladesh tolerate and hide domestic violence they face because of the fear of social stigma from divorce. We need to gain the courage to fight against violence to make this world a better living place for us and for our daughters. Zero tolerance to any form of domestic violence!! I am with you!!
I have known Rumana Monzur since October 2010 when we were first graduate students living at Saint John's College at UBC. I like to think that I somehow saw this horrific story/event unfold right before my eyes but this brought tears to my eyes again.
Rumana possess extreme inner strength yet she is as gentle as a lamb.
Rumana's story reminds us again how violence against women is not simply something that happens to obscure women in some remote parts of the world, it happens and can happen to anyone of us. This is not just Rumana's story, this is our story. We owe it to ourselves and our future generation of not only girls but also boys, to spread the word. We cannot accept this, we must not accept this. Violence against women should not be tolerated.
It takes an incredibly strong human being to endure and overcome such an injustice. Stay strong, you are not alone. Keep inspiring the global community!
Such an inspiring story. I was moved by your strength and determination.
Rumana, you are an amazing example of strength, perseverance, and kindness. Your call to end violence against women is so urgent and important. I will do whatever I can to help spread your message and to take action against this social evil.
You are amazing, Rumana! Your story moved me to tears but your strength is an inspiration - I hope your message travels far, violence against women is NOT acceptable.
Heartbreaking but what a powerful empowering message she has: "I have to create my own identity." Bravo. Bravo. All the best.
Incredibly inspiring, I'm in awe of your pecerverance and the vision you have gainned as your third eye is indeed powerful with the ability to truly impact the world!
Amazing story of bravery and resilience from such a strong woman. Congrats to her for taking something horrific and turning into learning experience for everyone. Violence against women should never be tolerated, no one should have to suffer this way.
Wow! What an amazing woman!
What an invigorating speech!!
Her story breaks your heart in million pieces...and then gives you strength and hope and defiance against social injustice.
Rumana Monzur is an amazing woman and our pride. She proved to the world that if you have strong will and determination nothing is impossible. My respect and admiration for you Rumana Monzur ! We are always with you.
Hi Rumana,
I knew from the first time I saw you and heard your speech, that I would like to have lunch with you... and we did. Your very soul shines through with your mission in assisting women in society. You are to be heralded as a champion of women, and I am sure your efforts are just starting to be recognized.
Thank you for the honour of meeting you and sharing a meal.
Blessings on your journey.
Love,
Zale
Rumana in every possible way you are truly an amazing person and now inspirations for others. Your resilience is unparalal, that's why you moved on, gained light despite your darkness and all set to hold a torch for others. Am extremely proud of you. This world surely need persons like you to make a difference.
A phenomenal talk! I could not hold back my tears once again. Please keep going Rumana, you are an inspiration for all of us. Our best wishes and prayers are with you always.
Wow! Such an amazing and inspirational story. Should be required viewing for everyone. Your strength is incredible.
Thank you for your talk! You said that if we can get EVERYONE to hate violence, then domestic violence will end! I agree, and I already hate violence…but I see evidence in the world that many people glorify and embrace violence, which breaks my ❤. How can we change this mentality in the whole of society?
Rumana, thank you for sharing your story. Your experience is devastating, but your reaction to it is full of strength and grace. Domestic violence is not just a women's issue, and you highlight that fact so perfectly with your comparison to other recognized social evils. I wish you and your daughter all the best in life!
Excellent talk, Rumana, thank you for sharing your story and encouraging us all to do our part. You are a wonderful human being and I am proud to call you my friend. Let's keep fighting the good fight together!
Both the storytelling and the motivation gave me goosebumps!
So proud that this brave and strong girl is a Bangladeshi! You go, girl!
Rumana, your bravery and perseverance is astounding. This talk is very moving, and I hope that your message extends far to those who need to hear it most. The world is a better place with you in it. :)
Dear Rumana, no words can properly express the amount of respect I have for you as a human being. Thank you for inspiring us all to be better people than we thought we could be, thank you for reminding us that there are good people on this planet, who can go out of their way to help someone in need. Thank you for the reminder that we can be the chemist who will raise the chemical of happiness within so we can enjoy life regardless of any challenge we may face. And thank you for your strength and courage. You are MY HERO!
Lots of respect for this strong Bangladeshi women and hell to her cowardly husband. Proud of her accomplishment
What a remarkable turnaround and journey to overcome all the obstacles Rumana! You are strong woman. Keep up with your amazing journey and keep inspiring the rest of us.
You are a true inspiration, Rumana. The leadership you demonstrate through your courage and compassion lays down a clear path for all of us. We can, and must, all move forward on this issue. I am so grateful that you exist!
An amazing story indeed. Let's us all stand against domestic violence. I am happy for your realization that it is challenges and difficulties that make this life meaningful. Keep going Rumana, we are behind you!
I remember this incident happened when i was in class 6... All the tv chanels were covering her interview and hearing her voice were making my hands and feets cold..... That time my mom said i am never gonna let u get married
A BIG hug for you Rumana and Anusheh! All our thoughts and prayers for your journey so meaningful and you make it to the end seeing the world as you dream today....yes we are with you and so will be our children be they males or females!!
Rumana: Yours is an incredible success story that empowers and inspires millions. Your determination to lead a meaningful life with a vision and purpose challenging extraordinary odds not only brings about changes in our contemporary thoughts about alternative approaches to human capacity building but also contributes in the area of social injustices. Your talk was highly informative and would be a valuable reference document for any women's studies and social anthropology instructional program. Best wishes, Matiul Alam / Vancouver
Amazing resilience and optimism, keep moving forward Rumana!
Thanks Rumana for sharing your heart felt story. It's very inspiring. I wish you very good fortune in life ahead. You are the best.
Such a powerful account from an inspiring woman. Thank you Rumana for sharing your experiences- so proud of you.
It's truly inspiring ma'am. We all know you faced really the toughest moment in your life but the way you took the challenges & made all tasks possible despite having too many setbacks is really worth mentioning.#Respect ma'am
A truly spellbinding talk. Your story is already an inspiration to men and women all over the world. I cannot wait to witness you touching the lives of thousands more.
What an inspiring and captivating talk! You are an incredible woman. I look forward to continue seeing all of the amazing things you achieve during your life.
A wonderful inspiration and an incredible woman. Yes, we can eliminate violence against women!!
You are amazing and so courageous to share your story in hopes of helping others. You are truly an inspiration!
I just love you.... I am proud to see such a strong woman coming out of Bangladesh. Respect and love...
The beauty and strength of your soul is admirable. You amaze me. I can't wait to see where your life and career take you, I feel you are going to do some great things in your life!!!
She is such an illuminating human being❤️
Humbly request everyone to watch this video.
In a world where violence against women is so rampant and destroying the basic fibers of our society, we need strong voice and role models like Rumana to raise awareness against this global menace. Her inspiring word and steely determination will indeed inspire millions.
What an inspirational and moving speech! Your inner strength is so powerful you seem to glow! Domestic violence is very real, in all countries! You have my full support in this fight.
Rumana you are our hero!!! your speech was wonderful, it touches our heart and at the same time you made us very proud. Incredible inspiration. Love you always !!!
Huge respect to you... keep moving; fight back to every obstacles and live life fully. Wish you lots of happiness.
Proud to be your direct student, dear Rumana!
That was such an inspiring and powerful presentation Rumana!
ma'm.....really proud of you.....wish u lots of happiness and keep going....take care.
What a powerful and profound message of hope against overwhelming odds. My heart goes out to Rumana and I will do anything I can to help her in her - no, OUR - struggle to stop violence against women.
She is the strongest, most wonderful person I know
I was in my 10th grade when this happened and the news came up . I was so shocked that it was happened to a Person who was the top university professor. I saw Her husband was also an educated but seemed he was an uneducated monster. I saw the rough pic when the incident happened. It was so painful for me as a 10th grader. And I always afraid of arrange marriage because how the parents wants us to get married whom I don't spend an amount of time without knowing that person's behavior.
But I am a graduate from Bachelor's and living in the US . I always heard ted and it came up. She is such an inspiration and persistent. She is an example of motivation for keep going.
My life long respect to you and your work.
Rumana, you are an amazing and inspiring woman!
Mam, you are the first teacher of my varsity life who inspired me a lot personally. Hearty gratitude.
Mam, you are our hero.. go on Mam! we are with you .. and we miss you everyday
A story of resilience, a call to action to stop violence against women.
Jane Sterk you find crotch kicking funny I bet I noticed the most vocal women against violence against women are themselves the most violent women people you would know. . so give me one good reason to help fund breast cancer research if you don't do anything about testicular injuries witch are your fault.
Jane Sterk I noticed the women most strongly active in talking about violence against women are at the most violent people you ever know. they laugh at crotch kicking. your mother sisters grand mother aunts and so. called female friends . they are the last people you should turn to if in abusive relationships with a woman you know who's side they be on. who in to testicular injuries.
I'm sick and tired of women having to suffer and be strong while cowardly men do nothing.
Respect madam for your courage in this situation!
salute you just nothing to say one and only fight against patriarchal thoughts pattern
You are my inspiration Rumana apa. Your fighting spirit encourages me to stand against all injustice, both in personal and social level.
Rumana - I'm so glad to have shared the TEDx Stanley Park stage with you, and hear your very important message. You've touched me very much with your courage, your story, and above all, your friendship. Thank you for telling your story for all to hear. It would be an honour to join you! David
respect!
i am sorry on behalf of the whole male caste. forgive.
Respect for this sister.
Support Rumana. Against violence.
You are such a brave soul hun! Salute to you XOXO
Thanks Farzana, I appreciate for this TED Talk video
She was in Extramarital affairs with Canadian iranian boy. Her husband protested and that incident happened. The Bangladesh police murdered the husband at police custody.
Bravo! You were taken down but you never stayed down.
May Allah give you strength courage and ability to do what you want to do and contribute for the whole world women. Allah bless you and your loving daughter and your parents and loved ones
rumana, well done.
Great work Hema, continue on!
You are amazing Rumana!
My deepest sympathy for her injuries. Thank goodness she still has her life.
Xian Peng is a man who lost his life in the most agonising way. I have nightmares when I think of his death through domestic violence.
Five men die prematurely for every woman. Many more men die a very long torturous death. Very sad and we must think of them too.
See the following story in Sydney Australia:
www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/nsw/drugged-mutilated-then-cut/story-e6freuzi-1226003972236?nk=318c60345932683a5dd4f0675047845c
In Australia, providing you are a woman, you can kill your ex-partner for leaving you without consequence - but you must prepare minimally.
The male murder victim in the above article didn't live with his ex-partner, Jian Chen, any longer but she was angry because he left her. She was obviously infuriated because he was going to take some of her wealth as legal settlement.
She invited him to her place for soup and that was the end of him.
The crime:
Jian Chen drugged her ex-partner, tied him up, and waited until he was awake. She then cut off his penis and flushed it down the toilet, she cut an artery in the groin, and while he was screaming for mercy, she watched him die in agony. Then, hours later, when he was unconscious through lack of blood, she called an ambulance. The victim died in hospital.
Some months later when in court, this scorned woman maligned her dead victim's character by suggesting he was a child molester (no evidence) and suggested he was abusive (no evidence). Then when that didn’t work - because of evidence to the contrary, she claimed temporary insanity. The female judge agreed (with her female barrister and the female prosecutor) that she temporarily lost her mind and gave her a light sentence for manslaughter.
This sadistic murderer was imprisoned for 3 years and 9 months (unless an appeal gave her an even smaller sentence). She planned the murder but didn't plan her defense case. If she been just a little bit more prepared she would have been acquitted due to false allegations of DV.
If a man wants to leave his partner in Australia, it's wisest to just leave the home without any discussion. If the women decides upon punishment the man may die and not be alive to defend himself when she maligns his reputation with lies of DV.
This story has been partially covered up by female control of the media but there is still enough out there to verify the truth of what I write.
If a man kills a woman in Australia, the media deride him as evil and he is headlined on the front page of newspapers. He is in remand prison for a year or two putting up with other male prisoners spitting on him and abusing him. When sentenced, he is given about 20 years and is unlikely to get parole easily. The judge criticises him heavily for 45 minutes.
If a woman in Australia commits a murder of a spouse a different process kicks in. She can always accept a reduced to manslaughter charge or obtain an acquittal. It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are. To be convicted of spousal murder women must have other women angry at them, such as the mother of their dead husband, and even then a murder conviction is rare.
To demonstrate this consider a case where the murder was unusually cruel and premeditated, but the charge was still downgraded to manslaughter.
In February 2011, businesswoman, Jian Chen, 47, of Sydney tortured and murdered her husband Xian Peng.
• Jian Chen lived at the $1 million mortgage-free house in North Ryde with her two sons, the youngest of which was the child of the man she murdered, Xian Peng.
• Chen had moved into the house in1999 and opened a business importing seafood in July 2009. She had one child in a previous relationship which had ended. No detail or background was given by the media about her previous relationship.
• Jian Chen had one child with Xian Peng and they had a defacto relationship. He had lived in her house for a number of years. Xian Peng left the relationship recently and had started a new relationship with another woman in China. He had left the defacto relationship with Jian Chen which meant that, at the time of the murder, he was Chen’s ex-partner. He had just returned from China and was having a meal cooked by Jian Chen in her house. Jian Chen must have invited him to her house for the meal and made him believe that she was ok with the situation and accepting of the settlement of their finances.
• Jian Chen laced his soup with sleeping pills.
• When he was asleep she tied his feet and wrists.
• When he was awake she stabbed him in the neck and groin (or jaw and leg; depending which media source you read. The fact that he died suggests that it was neck and groin -because they contain major arteries).
• She cut off part of his penis and flushed it down the toilet. It appears that his struggles prevented entire castration.
• Sometime later she called an ambulance. Peng died the next day due to loss of blood.
You can imagine the terror she inflicted on this man while taking his life. This case was interesting because of the confidence I had that a woman would surely be convicted of a spouse murder. It didn’t seem plausible that she could make a defence case.
Wrong.
The media did not deride Xian Peng as an abusive man or a criminal or a bully in any form. The media always grasp at any hint of a man being evil therefore it can be concluded that Xian Peng had no history of bad behaviour. Unfortunately for him he had no family in in Australia to speak for him. His Chinese mother may have died. When arrested Chen admitted what she had done and appeared to have no excuses other than anger that he was leaving her.
It appears that she had accumulated significant wealth which she didn’t want to lose during the settlement process. She had a previous marriage so it is possible she had gained wealth from her previous settlement and knew what having a common child meant that her partner was entitled to a share of her wealth.
There was never any evidence of DV or mental health problems before her arrest that could be used in her defence.
The case did not arouse media interest nearly as much as if a man had tortured and killed a woman.
News articles on this case:
Feb 11, 2011. Before Peng was dead, Chen was charged with grievous bodily harm with intent to murder:
www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/nsw/drugged-mutilated-then-cut/story-e6freuzi-1226003972236?nk=318c60345932683a5dd4f0675047845c
September 14, 2011. Chen is charged with one count of causing grievous bodily harm with intent to murder and one count of murder:
www.smh.com.au/national/penis-hack-killing-woman-refused-bail-20110914-1k8v1.html
Jun 1, 2012. The Crown accepted a guilty plea to the lesser charge of manslaughter.
www.abc.net.au/news/2012-06-01/woman-admits-castration-killing-of-ex-partner/4046884
August 30, 2012. Jian Chen pleaded guilty to the manslaughter of Jin Xiang Peng, 48, after she drugged his soup with sleeping pills, bound his wrists and feet and stabbed him and mutilated his penis at her North Ryde home on February 9 last year. He died from multiple stab wounds.
www.smh.com.au/nsw/woman-who-cut-lovers-penis-is-jailed-for-manslaughter-20120829-2514h.html
In an earlier news article, Chen was referred to as: “penis hack killing woman” and in a later article she was referred to as: “woman who admits castration killing”.
During the above article for the sentence hearing, court reporter Louise Hall refers to Chen as: “woman who cut lovers penis”. Louise Hall deviously describes the sadistically tortured murder victim, Jin Xiang Peng, as Chen’s “lover”. Peng was in fact her ex-partner.
Louise Hall is deceptively giving the reader the impression that the murder was a result of a lover’s spat rather than the planned murder of an ex-partner who no longer lived with Chen.
The above article covers the sentence hearing where Chen was allowed to desecrate the murder victim’s memory by describing him, without any justification or evidence, as a ''serial predator'' and conman who got wealthy women such as herself pregnant in order to extort money.
What these defamatory comments against the victim actually mean is straight forward. Murder victim Peng was going to get some of Chen’s wealth due to a separation settlement. This is because he had a child with her and lived in the family home with her for several years. He would be entitled to the same sort of money that a female spouse would get. This is not extortion it’s just something that a spouse with a child is entitled to in a settlement. Feminists have won generous separation entitlements but they don’t like it when these laws work in favour of a man.
Chen probably gained settlement money herself when she separated from the father of her first child, so she knew about Australian family law and how it works against the partner who has money.
Murder victim Peng could not give a response to Chens defamatory descriptions to his character, because he was dead.
If a man tied up a woman, stabbed her in the neck and groin, cut off her clitoris and allowed her to bleed out - because he was angry that she would get some of his money at settlement; he would be reviled by the media. The male killer would be front page news after each court hearing, he would have his history paraded after each court hearing, and he would be reviled in editorials and in readers’ comments. A judge would give him a 45 minute condemnation before issuing a 23 year minimum. This would be followed by an outcry of excessive leniency in the media.
If a man had killed a woman under similar circumstances, the prosecutor would condemn any attempts at libellous accusations of bad character made up by the murderer. The judge would not allow it and the media would not print it. Witnesses from China would be brought over, at taxpayers’ expense, to provide information about the victim’s good character.
Consider that; then read the following news article AUGUST 29, 2012.
www.news.com.au/national/nsw-act/short-stint-in-jail-for-woman-who-killed-partner-by-cutting-off-his-penis/story-fndo4bst-1226460649450
The above article gives Chen a favourable photo and watered down Chen’s crimes; it omitted her obvious motives, it omitted that she tied him up, it omitted that she stabbed him multiple times. This is the sort of disgraceful reporting that only happens to benefit women spousal murderers.
Look at the words:
Chen was suffering from an "abnormality of the mind" due to mental illness and the belief Peng was going to take their child to China.
In Australia it is legally impossible to take a child away from a mother to another country. Chen was more accustomed to Australian law than Peng would have been. She could easily verify her rights with legal advice and this fabrication could easily have been exposed. Saying that she had a “belief” means that there was no evidence for the claim.
As for the “abnormality of the mind” one would expect that any spouse murderer would have an “abnormality of the mind” when murdering. The journalist writes this nonsense uncritically.
She was allowed to plead guilty to manslaughter and was sentenced to a minimum sentence of 3 years and 9 months so she will be released soon to go back to her life. This is what torturing an ex-husband to death gets you in Australia. The prosecutor, the judge and the defence lawyer were all female.
Respect mam..... miss u
I’m in tears.
you are such an inspiration...
what happened to you is a consequence of the adultery that you committed, to every force there is an opposite an equal reaction and you are an example of that.
Altered State You are a Bumhole and deserve to eat shit.
Moving.
Bravo!!!
Heartfelt 😭
Her husband was an insecure SOB. I hope someone let's him HAVE IT!
I want to know what happened to the husband?
Not needed. World wide they are the safest demographic by any measure.
You moron
what about the Iranian guy ?