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  • @coleandcharisma
    @coleandcharisma  Před 3 lety +593

    Thanks everyone for watching! Be sure to let us know which of our adventures you enjoyed the most below! STAY POSITIVE! Happy Easter!
    THANK YOU for all the amazing and supportive comments! We don’t deserve such amazing supporters! 😭

    • @bethanye8611
      @bethanye8611 Před 3 lety +4

      The hike

    • @FREAKOUT123ism
      @FREAKOUT123ism Před 3 lety +1

      Charisma i thought you were pregent why you heavy liftig
      🍭🦄

    • @atukwasemargret6256
      @atukwasemargret6256 Před 3 lety +6

      The ride in the woods was epic. lol from Uganda

    • @deannawheeler4362
      @deannawheeler4362 Před 3 lety +25

      Don't listen to the negative, Live life!!!! You are happy, who cares what they say???

    • @ruthleger8594
      @ruthleger8594 Před 3 lety +3

      The hike was awesome! I’d like to recommend Cades Cove for an adventure.

  • @keinicoleebeaute9726
    @keinicoleebeaute9726 Před 3 lety +460

    Life does not stop because Cole is in a wheelchair.. Ppl are weird.. I love that Cole is doing all of this stuff & I love that Charisma is in his life to do it with him

    • @mon6745
      @mon6745 Před 3 lety +5

      Exactly!

    • @evelynprice3976
      @evelynprice3976 Před 3 lety +2

      Keith Nicolee Beaute , Well said.

    • @stacyaugust8241
      @stacyaugust8241 Před 3 lety +15

      Apparently being handicapped means he's supposed to stay home and mope and be depressed and not go out and live his life to the fullest. And why is it Charisma's fault? She's his wife, not his mother. And even then his mother doesn't try to hold him back from living his life.

    • @LC-widowed
      @LC-widowed Před 3 lety +2

      Absolutely!

    • @rachelgless3123
      @rachelgless3123 Před 3 lety +6

      Yes! I think Cole can trust Charisma’s judgement by now and he has a voice and a mind to say no if need be.

  • @ElusvOptmst1
    @ElusvOptmst1 Před 3 lety +403

    Many trolls like to bully and target the woman in a interracial relationship, especially if she is black. Charisma and Cole just live your lives, accordingly. God bless you both.

    • @hellaSwankkyToo
      @hellaSwankkyToo Před 3 lety +9

      exactly! i just left a comment to this effect. it’s misogynoir + a good amount of it is subconscious + unintended, which as we know does not negate the impact it has. but you’re exactly right.

    • @gloriagaines6305
      @gloriagaines6305 Před 3 lety +4

      I agree

    • @Rae8Anne
      @Rae8Anne Před 3 lety +9

      Agreed. I also think that some of these trolls call themselves Christians (but don't live accordingly). I'm thinking of the group of so-called "Christians" who are the most judgmental of others, especially women of other women. We have a lot of females here, right?
      I believe a lot of this judgement is rooted in toxic masculinity, where these women have internalized this idea of what a wife and mother should look and act like...a very old-fashioned, conservative picture of a wife...more like a mother figure than a partner.
      Sadly, these trolls are going to blame Charisma for nearly everything because they see Cole as the "perfect" Christian husband, and she the one responsible for keeping him happy and healthy. While they may see Charisma as a good Christian woman who is very loving and devoted to her husband, they'll still set these impossible-to-reach "perfect" standards for her to live up to. "Do this. Do that. Love and care for him like so." It's so unfair and misogynistic.
      Charisma, if you see this: You are an AMAZING person, friend, wife, dog mom, and daughter. You are awesome and shouldn't change a thing about yourself. You could never please everyone anyway. Love ya both!

    • @madisonq2920
      @madisonq2920 Před 3 lety +3

      Hey guys, continue to live and enjoy your lives without apologies. God bless

    • @bubbaj8023
      @bubbaj8023 Před 3 lety +3

      @@Rae8AnneMatthew 7:21 is so true. I loved your comment. God bless you.

  • @tanarana83
    @tanarana83 Před 3 lety +257

    People forget that Cole is a MAN and makes his own decisions and you are his WIFE and not his mother... you guys are great!!!! So blessed!! Btw love the sweater it's so bright and pretty!

  • @maureenkarkos9882
    @maureenkarkos9882 Před 3 lety +47

    Cole is a grown ass man. You two support one another. People need to mind their own business. Stay Positive❣️

  • @df6069
    @df6069 Před 3 lety +141

    I think people fail to understand that Cole is a grown man. It's insulting to say that Charisma "makes" him do things - he has a voice and if he ultimately does something it's his choice, he made his own decision just like any other man. Charisma is wonderful and spunky. Keep the adventures coming ! ! ! !

    • @vivmonroe8760
      @vivmonroe8760 Před 3 lety +4

      Live your life its be as uti

    • @cynthiathompson4268
      @cynthiathompson4268 Před 3 lety +5

      People just need to mind their business period!!! Don’t listen to these naysayers. Live and enjoy your lives. And continue to love each other 💕

  • @kerryfitting6070
    @kerryfitting6070 Před 3 lety +928

    The moral of the story: mind your own business and stay positive lol

  • @nats2976
    @nats2976 Před 3 lety +424

    Dear community, please be respectful of the content creators, this is a unique opportunity to see this couple develop and grow. Let's give Cole and Charisma our support. Make a positive comment and give the video a thumbs up!

    • @tawanaavery9840
      @tawanaavery9840 Před 3 lety +1

      💯truth

    • @Tee-kc3pn
      @Tee-kc3pn Před 3 lety

      I'm confused why Charisma would even consider dating Cole. She will be taking care of him for the rest of her life. Charisma is a small woman and looks like she struggle to assist him most of the time. I understand how she fell for him because you can fall in love with a person's mind based off the conversation you have with them. I just can't understand how she let it go further than admitting him and being best friends. If they have a child she'll be caring for the baby and Cole... that's an insane amount of work

    • @jeanharvin3754
      @jeanharvin3754 Před 3 lety +6

      Let's let Cole and Chrisma live their lives. Show love & support.

    • @enyimabonney8299
      @enyimabonney8299 Před 3 lety +7

      @@Tee-kc3pn I'm sorry but i don't think this was necessary okay.

    • @wheelinthroughlifewithbria7570
      @wheelinthroughlifewithbria7570 Před 3 lety +5

      @@Tee-kc3pn your just jealous! He's a regular human! End of story!

  • @swizzle876
    @swizzle876 Před 3 lety +480

    Don't listen to them, they wouldn't even last a day in Charisma's shoes, period!

    • @vilmawatson5443
      @vilmawatson5443 Před 3 lety +23

      Not a minute much more a day

    • @swizzle876
      @swizzle876 Před 3 lety +8

      @@vilmawatson5443 exactly.

    • @kevinmansell8746
      @kevinmansell8746 Před 3 lety +26

      she loves Cole i love them both they become family of ours when we watch our favorite show

    • @SuJaHo
      @SuJaHo Před 3 lety +6

      Right.... lol ❤

    • @ChloeMoudy
      @ChloeMoudy Před 3 lety +10

      I can for sure. I’m a single mom with a 20 yrs old who is in a wheelchair and it’s not easy. It’s fun though to go onto or get into adventures and challenge yourself on things. We get a kick out of the things We thought We can do. It is hard and not that easy.

  • @NonaKey
    @NonaKey Před 3 lety +83

    I’m paralyzed been that way for 16 years. Enjoy yourself do everything you can.

    • @io1681
      @io1681 Před 3 lety

      ❤️👍👋🇮🇹

  • @Aitch_154
    @Aitch_154 Před 3 lety +57

    Personally, I think this woman is amazing!

  • @subscriber8881
    @subscriber8881 Před 3 lety +218

    People that say Charisma is weak, has not seen how toned she is! She's goals! They're both goals!!!

    • @allisonhinds8384
      @allisonhinds8384 Před 3 lety +5

      Charisma is very very protective of Cole and won't let anything happen to him. Cole knows his limitations. So step off of them.

    • @hello_446
      @hello_446 Před 3 lety +4

      @@allisonhinds8384 lol they weren’t talking bad about them

    • @subscriber8881
      @subscriber8881 Před 3 lety +3

      @@hello_446 Appreciate the backup. My intentions are 100% to compliment not to step on them. I mean each person has their opinion I guess

    • @projectkj7643
      @projectkj7643 Před 3 lety +3

      People don’t say that she’s weak...TROLLS say that she’s weak. Trolls have 0 credibility. 😁

    • @projectkj7643
      @projectkj7643 Před 3 lety +1

      @@subscriber8881 I understood it was a positive statement, too. 😁

  • @angiemiller117
    @angiemiller117 Před 3 lety +294

    As a person with a disability I just want to state that call has as much if not more responsibility for his life and what he does in it as charisma has… He has a right to fully participate in life to whatever level he wants and charisma is right for supporting him in his endeavors… That’s what any wife would do for their husband…

    • @faithsmith8114
      @faithsmith8114 Před 3 lety +2

      Amen, well said👍🏾👍🏾

    • @AaronShu
      @AaronShu Před 3 lety +3

      As someone with a disability too, I couldn't agree more! Sometimes people forget we are capable of making our own decisions. Just keep enjoying life, you're doing great guys.

  • @joeanthony2879
    @joeanthony2879 Před 3 lety +298

    Cole is not 12 years old, he can always say ‘no’ to anything! He should be more assertive in supporting his wife.

    • @mestillme3921
      @mestillme3921 Před 3 lety +17

      Cole is supportive!! 100% He is simply more advanced than many of us and doesn't just recognize that challenges aren't solved with anything but courage but understands and acts/reacts with Love & kindness and sometimes Those 2 things take more courage than all other things. They are the epitome of love. Keep on keeping on.

  • @TdotsTravel
    @TdotsTravel Před 3 lety +31

    Charisma is a wonderful wife for Cole! Cole is a wonderful husband for Charisma! It’s call enjoying their life ❤️💙❤️💙

  • @EvaVilla-pm5mv
    @EvaVilla-pm5mv Před 3 lety +20

    Cole had an accident that gave him a disability, thankfully he survived. People with disabilities want to live life to the fullest. Enjoy what you guys do. Blessings 🙌

  • @sakumzimbatha1072
    @sakumzimbatha1072 Před 3 lety +353

    Continue taking risks, having beautiful adventures. Doesn't matter what people think, what matters is your happiness. Huge fan from🇿🇦

    • @zamakhosimpanza3902
      @zamakhosimpanza3902 Před 3 lety +5

      Aaa-greed

    • @astridmeyer2750
      @astridmeyer2750 Před 3 lety +6

      I totally agree! Have fun and enjoy your lives no matter what people say.

    • @wwashington270
      @wwashington270 Před 3 lety +6

      Agree

    • @mestillme3921
      @mestillme3921 Před 3 lety +2

      Boom!!!

    • @Usapatriette
      @Usapatriette Před 3 lety +4

      I'm new to your channel, but already a huge fan, and admittedly, intrigued by your delightful personalities, fortitude and spirit. I saw the hiking video. Charisma seemed to be very confident and sure of what she was doing. That in itself, reassured me while watching that everything was okay and nobody was in danger of getting hurt. So, I am happy to know you will continue to fully live your lives and be happy. You both have encouraged me to be more positive and adventuresome in spite of my own disability living with MS. All the best, Cole and Charisma! 💕

  • @kingbaylister
    @kingbaylister Před 3 lety +236

    I was born with a cerebral palsy, so according to my doctors, I shouldn't have been able to walk or talk. But 32 years later, I have a masters degree I can walk fully unaided, I completed in my cross-country running and GCSE (exam level PE despite my teachers saying I would fail but I passed same with my degree despite people saying I would fail. At each stage of my life people predudted I would fail, because it was to hard to dangerous or I might get hurt. But i conquered it. I see you guys as a bacon of hope for someone like me. Their is no limitation or never any risk on anything you do. But what's the alternative living life sitting in a corner and letting the days pass us by. Or we can live life to the fullest and be the people God created us to be. The greatest disability you have in life is your mind not your physical limitations, you can choose to give up or get up. For me I have my life in its right perspective I am not going to accept the limitations society places on me because I am a person who is differently abled I am going to live my life without limits and to fulfill my dreams. I will adapt where I have to and always ensure that when I have to take a risk it's comes with my physically safety in mind. Happy Easter everyone God bless you. Charisma the heros of the modern disability movement.a quote to finish. "To keep moving up ... , you have to abandon the security of that ledge and reach for another hold. Letting go of that sense of security.. is the challenge. ... think of yourself as climbing a ladder. To move to the next rung, you must give up your grip and reach for the next one."
    Nick Vujicic,

    • @carolynnurse9694
      @carolynnurse9694 Před 3 lety +4

      James you are so right no matter what u must enjoy life to the fullest and always be positve and u saw it right from they point of view .God bless and happy easter

    • @kingbaylister
      @kingbaylister Před 3 lety +4

      @@carolynnurse9694 absolutely

    • @carolynnurse9694
      @carolynnurse9694 Před 3 lety +1

      I myself have a condition name myasthenia gravis and they are a lot of things I tried .I can even drive and a lot of adventures I had.That what u call living life to the fullest.

    • @dare_challenge_a_god1536
      @dare_challenge_a_god1536 Před 3 lety +2

      Good job my brother

    • @kingbaylister
      @kingbaylister Před 3 lety

      @@carolynnurse9694 absolutely that's what you call living I can't drive as I'm visually impaired but use public transport mostly to get to where I need to be.

  • @girlmeetsreality4644
    @girlmeetsreality4644 Před 3 lety +148

    Y'all, Cole is a grown ass man, I'm sure he's told Charisma no before. It's a shame they have to address this type of crap.

    • @ladyrochelle9388
      @ladyrochelle9388 Před 3 lety +3

      GirlMeetsReality, I LOVE your response to the haters!! Short, sweet and to the point!!👍🏾👍🏾

  • @veganamanda5345
    @veganamanda5345 Před 3 lety +31

    Cole is his own person. He makes his own choices. That hike looked like a lot of fun.

  • @JAvantGartist
    @JAvantGartist Před 3 lety +31

    I dropped my phone at the end and while my phone is face down on the floor I hear Charisma say "oop" 😂😂 thanks for your concern Charisma 😂😂

  • @judithjackson1182
    @judithjackson1182 Před 3 lety +175

    Do people expect you to just sit around? Please ignore the haters and keep having fun so that others of us can keep smiling. Cole was athletic before the accident. It's not like he's still recovering? Live it up.

    • @roseypeach8363
      @roseypeach8363 Před 3 lety +8

      People should get off the couch and have some adventures of their own.

  • @zahsimmy
    @zahsimmy Před 3 lety +100

    This is a marriage. Have fun you guys you both adults, you make decisions together..Stay positive.

  • @amberammerman5449
    @amberammerman5449 Před 3 lety +476

    It’s SICK that others can’t stand to see others happy!! Just because Cole is in a wheelchair doesn’t mean he can’t make his own decisions. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄. IF HE DOESNT WANT TO DO SOMETHING IM SURE HE DOES NOT DO IT!!

  • @Nerdificent
    @Nerdificent Před 3 lety +34

    Cole is a grown, competent man and capable of making his own decisions and choices.

  • @deecraig-arnold7883
    @deecraig-arnold7883 Před 3 lety +27

    Have so fallen in love with you two, C&C. You are a perfect example of true love and devotion. Charisma, as a "Sister" don't forget that there are some people who will come at you unfairly because of your ethnicity. I feel badly that you are placed in a position where you must explain or justify your activity level. Just be who you both are and do what you decide to do for yourselves and ignore the negative criticism and shall I say it: envy. Live and Love well.

  • @balerinachic2748
    @balerinachic2748 Před 3 lety +83

    What Charisma is doing is showing Cole that he is capable of doing even more than he thinks. That she wont limit him based on his ability or what people belief the lack of. She believes in him and thats why he chose her as his wife. Please remember that she went to school for and has experience in this area. Let's applaud them for all their successes and encourage them to push as many boundaries as possible. It helps them to grow individually and together. Bravo to you both! Keep pushing and watch God show up everytime.

  • @laurie29google.comlaurence69

    For people who followed you since day one, they know for sure that either Charisma or Cole (himself) will never do something without acknowledge all potential risk or without a minimum of preparation... it's okay to try, sometimes to take a risk (in a good way). Just live your life the best way you can. Love you guys ♥️

  • @audreyg50
    @audreyg50 Před 3 lety +45

    Just because Cole is a quadriplegic does not mean , that he has lost his ability to think or decide for himself. Keep on doing you. Charism, you are a lovely person who truly loves Cole. Cole you are a lucky man who has a lady to go through these crazy adventures with you.

  • @jaded9641
    @jaded9641 Před 3 lety +10

    Omg I fell in love with Charisma.. her vibes , her straightforward, persistence. They are a perfect match! Best part.. they are happy! Love them

  • @alisondewar6179
    @alisondewar6179 Před 3 lety +16

    I love how you encourage him to try to do new things. He's experiencing new adventures because your together. You treat him like you treat everybody, you don't treat him like he's got a disability. You should be proud of your relationship.

  • @catherinelogan6362
    @catherinelogan6362 Před 3 lety +69

    Love that Cole doesn’t let his disability define him and
    Charisma backs him up on his adventures thru life. Love this couple.

  • @cherylhunter1244
    @cherylhunter1244 Před 3 lety +184

    OMG!!!! Cole and Charisma, old Chinese proverb: “Never explain. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe you anyway.” People should REALLY mind their own business (1Thessalonians 4:11). You all are an amazing couple! Charisma girl, you just keep doing what you’re doing with your boo! 💕

  • @fayjohnson9891
    @fayjohnson9891 Před 3 lety +64

    Moral of the story: ppl mind your own business and let this lovely happy couple live their lives

    • @Tee-kc3pn
      @Tee-kc3pn Před 3 lety

      This statement makes no sense.... you can't make your life public then turn around and say mind your business....if they wanted privacy they wouldn't have made a CZcams page about their relationship 🙄

    • @lindsaywentworth9144
      @lindsaywentworth9144 Před 3 lety +2

      @@Tee-kc3pn What Fay Johnson is saying, yes, they’re channel is to instill everyday learning in a life such as Cole’s to help others and yes it’s public, but people sometimes need to pump their breaks. What she also means by people need to mind their own business, C&C make decisions TOGETHER. Charisma doesn’t force Cole to do anything. So, for people to shame her and attack her, Cole is not going to let anyone disrespect his wife like that. Like he’s not the kind of person who can’t speak or think for himself, he can and he will. So, people need to stop acting like Charisma pushes him around, because she does no such thing.

    • @roseleemorgan
      @roseleemorgan Před 3 lety +1

      @@lindsaywentworth9144 exactly, and just because people put their lives out there in public does not give others the right to intrude or overstep boundaries. It is like you minding your business, going out in public to do transactions and have people talking about what you should and should not wear or what you should and should not look like.

  • @reneaslifestyle
    @reneaslifestyle Před 3 lety +13

    There's no need to explain anything to anyone baby girl continue to do y'alls. I love you guys.

  • @sharazod989
    @sharazod989 Před 3 lety +19

    What the hell!! Cole didn’t get to do a whole lot of things. Charisma is such a wonderful person, that she helps him have a real life. The things that they have done is so much harder on her than him. It’s is wonderful to give him something to look forward to and have something to look back on. Keep on giving him that life.😍😍😍😍😍

  • @Aquintisburnett
    @Aquintisburnett Před 3 lety +64

    Cole is a grown man. He can make his own decisions. Life is all about risks “if you’re not taking risks in your life are you really living ?” Live life to the fullest with no regrets. Happy Easter.

  • @traceytucker9185
    @traceytucker9185 Před 3 lety +64

    Look y’all are married and young, enjoy your life. Charisma is going to take care of Cole and he’s going to take care of her. Y’all haters mind your business, they got this. Y’all two keep doing you and what’s makes you happy. Love you both♥️♥️

  • @laurie29google.comlaurence69

    Sophie came to make a point "Daddy and mommy are the most cautious people in this house... wouf, wouf" 🐕‍🦺🐕‍🦺 😅😅

  • @jomarieingram9657
    @jomarieingram9657 Před 3 lety +31

    Forget those comments! You guys are showing my family its possible to give our son with a TBI more to life. I never thought we could wheel him to a beach, go swimming or go on hikes as a family. He is not as advanced as Cole and is non mobile, non verbal but to know we can look into this for the future gives us more hope. So thank you!

  • @bonniefurman7476
    @bonniefurman7476 Před 3 lety +10

    I love how you two are so adventurous and wisely choosing what Adventures to do. It is encouraging.

  • @FormerHeathen
    @FormerHeathen Před 3 lety +41

    This man had an unfortunate accident years ago , and is so blessed to be alive and have the partner that he has ! I think it’s amazing that they are out and about living life . Blessings to the both of you . Ignore the nay-sayers ... keep enjoying life . 💋💫

  • @memyselfi9737
    @memyselfi9737 Před 3 lety +104

    Cole is grown and I’m super happy he has someone in his life to show him he don’t have to just exist he can still live!!!!!!!!👑👑😘❤️

    • @rosalindisaacs1443
      @rosalindisaacs1443 Před 3 lety +4

      I just Lover this couple they are soo happy and in Love .Charisma and Cole God bless you both, Love conquers All.

  • @geeniality4215
    @geeniality4215 Před 3 lety +145

    People are trying to force their fear upon you. I guess people just close their ears when you guys talked about helping Cole having a little more independence. I believe the activities you guys do definitely work towards him building his confidence. It also shows the trust he has for Charisma. You guys keep creating new memories and documenting you adventures. I'm sure you guys are showing many families who has someone with a disability that life is still possible. 💛

  • @StyleMySweets
    @StyleMySweets Před 3 lety +83

    Love watching your adventures and always look forward to your videos together!! ❤️

  • @Goddessofpeace111
    @Goddessofpeace111 Před 3 lety +8

    OMG yall That "eat a whole cake" scene had me laughing SO friggen hard bc I didn't actually expect to see yall with that cake🤣🤣🤣🤣
    I love how real yall are as well!! And can I just say yall are two beautiful souls ❤

  • @LucyGirl-61
    @LucyGirl-61 Před 3 lety +80

    People overstep their boundaries with everyone 🤦🏻‍♀️ you share your life so they think they know you.

  • @dooba7707
    @dooba7707 Před 3 lety +66

    Wait! I'm not even finished watching this video. People need to stay in their lanes!! Please don't give them any of your energy! No explanation is needed. Continue to do you and what makes y'all happy. If it makes y'all happy, do it! 🤗
    I LOVE YOU GUYS!! 💜💟

    • @vilmawatson5443
      @vilmawatson5443 Před 3 lety

      Love them too

    • @moniquehamilton5195
      @moniquehamilton5195 Před 3 lety +1

      I agree no explanation is necessary however they are sharing these adventures with the viewers. The viewers have a right to comment in a respectful way.

  • @lilpopcandy
    @lilpopcandy Před 3 lety +89

    I go through the same thing. People always ask my mom “did you really let her get tattoos” I’m literally 25 and can make my own decisions. Just because I’m disabled does not mean I can’t be spontaneous or have a mind of my own. I don’t understand why people don’t get that!

    • @syliviamayanja1770
      @syliviamayanja1770 Před 3 lety +3

      May GOD bless u, bt that's life we live in people hates us fo no reason

    • @disabledbabe
      @disabledbabe Před 3 lety +9

      The minute you let other people's voices in your head, is the moment you lose your happiness.

    • @Sunnypeach
      @Sunnypeach Před 3 lety

      exactly!

  • @miketj2516
    @miketj2516 Před 3 lety +12

    Risk is inherent in being alive and Cole is an adult. Getting out, being active and taking risks provides an immensely positive message to others with disabilities. Do what you want and have fun. Live your life and don't listen to the doubters. Peace.

  • @georgelewis8798
    @georgelewis8798 Před 3 lety +12

    This is a wonderful thing to have someone who loves you care so much for you. You must always encourage her as well.

  • @kylasaundersmiller2286
    @kylasaundersmiller2286 Před 3 lety +156

    In the immortal words of Julia Roberts in Steel Magnolias, “ I’d rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special.”

    • @ashlinshayk
      @ashlinshayk Před 3 lety +1

      Yes!! I cry too much with that movie. Love Steel Magnolias❤️

    • @caitlinmay2322
      @caitlinmay2322 Před 3 lety

      Love that movie ❤️❤️❤️

    • @dennisl7799
      @dennisl7799 Před 3 lety

      Love that movie to,love all the wise cracks they say in the movie

    • @missladyanonymity
      @missladyanonymity Před 3 lety

      I swear I don't remember that line. But i assume its pre wedding?

    • @missladyanonymity
      @missladyanonymity Před 3 lety +1

      Or after she got pregnant?

  • @wunmikeji
    @wunmikeji Před 3 lety +44

    Hello everyone. Happy Ressurection day to you all and to Charisma and Cole. God bless you all

  • @sinjon
    @sinjon Před 3 lety +63

    It bothers me so much when people think us disabled people can’t or shouldn’t do things because we are disabled, when in reality we ourselves weigh the risks more so than most able-bodied people. Just because we are disabled doesn’t mean we shouldn’t go on adventures or that we have to stay inside in a safe little bubble. What kind of life is that? It’s also horrible that people think Charisma controls Cole by “making” him do things. We have a mind of our own and we have things we want to try. That wheelchair is *meant* just for that purpose.....to give the disabled more freedom by being able to do something that maybe they couldn’t without it. People just really need to lay off Charisma.

  • @brethenatural1206
    @brethenatural1206 Před 3 lety +15

    I love your relationship! I absolutely love how much more independent Cole has become over the years, because of the risks that they’ve taken. I remember Cole saying in a previous video, that for so long he assumed that there were so many things that he wasn’t able to do before she came along. Lastly, Cole may be physically disabled, but he is fully capable of making his own decisions. Stop placing your limitations on him and your fears on her. That’s not fair to either of these fully capable adults. Thank you!

  • @BPb123
    @BPb123 Před 3 lety +7

    You guys are young, adventurous and just living your lives to the fullest! Super sweet couple!💕

  • @grouch314
    @grouch314 Před 3 lety +58

    So many people assume that disabled adults are incapable of looking after ourselves and treat us like kids. Assuming that Charisma is making Cole do this stuff is treating Cole like he's a child and incapable of saying no.

  • @candisbar524
    @candisbar524 Před 3 lety +38

    Y'all are such great people. Cole is not forced to do things he doesn't want to. He can say no. Let's face it, sometimes we wives have to encourage our guys to do what they want. Have you seen in his eyes how excited he is when he succeeds?

  • @ambricem
    @ambricem Před 3 lety +162

    I feel like Charisma gets a lot of heat for no reason. She does SO MUCH for Cole. She’s literally made a commitment for life and that takes a certain type of person that 95% of viewers honestly probably wouldn’t have made, so people need to chill out. If anything Cole needs to start pampering Charisma 😂☺️

  • @laurabongard2682
    @laurabongard2682 Před 3 lety +7

    In my eyes, you guys are just perfect together. You don't know what you're able to do unless you try.

  • @andreawaite7978
    @andreawaite7978 Před 3 lety +5

    Stay positive. You are both grown people and you have been taking care of cole so good from what i have seen. The adventures are good for him. Love you guys

  • @chriskrajec8984
    @chriskrajec8984 Před 3 lety +57

    Live life as you see fit. Just because Cole has a disability doesn’t mean he can’t experience challenging adventures. Thank you both for allowing us to see that being disabled does not mean you cannot do fun and adventurous activities.

  • @angelas3883
    @angelas3883 Před 3 lety +27

    The fact that you two have to actually address this subject matter is CRAZY!
    Cole and Charisma... live your lives and enjoy living it TOGETHER...
    LOVE YOU MUCH!!!

  • @omadjourney
    @omadjourney Před 3 lety +36

    Cole is a living being and while he is alive....he will live and enjoy this life.

  • @Shortyboogs
    @Shortyboogs Před 3 lety +6

    I appreciate how you guys chose to positively address they nay-sayers and educate them rather than go on a rant. Mad love :)

  • @carebear1155
    @carebear1155 Před 3 lety +7

    Girl you are amazing. The love I see between you two and the love you have for Cole is endless. It’s hard to blow off what ppl say (because they can be mean) but please try to ignore them,there are many of us that see the great,goodness,genuineness way you love and protect Cole.
    I wish you both nothing but happiness.. ALL YOU PPL STOP!
    Cole you have done more then I have ever done and I am 43 with 3 kids. Live this amazing beautiful life God gave you(us all)
    Love from Minnesota
    Kari

    • @AaronShu
      @AaronShu Před 3 lety +1

      Absolutely! They should enjoy life to the fullest hey. People will always have something to say.

  • @debireitknecht6302
    @debireitknecht6302 Před 3 lety +44

    What? Charisma, you are Cole soulmate. You take very good care of him. This is why I watch. Hey people, STAY POSITIVE or say nothing at all.

  • @l.7608
    @l.7608 Před 3 lety +132

    People acting like Cole can't think and make decisions on his own...I am so sorry that you have to deal with this 💕

    • @kevinmansell8746
      @kevinmansell8746 Před 3 lety +9

      i do not think they should have to force themselves to address it this is a normal couple like everyone else i look pass the wheel chair look at Cole and Charisma as a super couple

    • @Roxy-33
      @Roxy-33 Před 3 lety +2

      Yeah. Its really pathetic. They think they are " speaking up for him" but instead they are indirectly insulting his intelligence. Do they think he doesn't have a personality or a mind of his own. Do they think all he does in sit in his chair and follow the crowd. Geeeeez

  • @orlandop7786
    @orlandop7786 Před 3 lety +29

    You guys don't have to explain your life. It shows you guys take care of each other

  • @terridenman8236
    @terridenman8236 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you Cole and Charisma for helping me with depression. 80 and with spine and gut issues feeling sorry for myself. You two are full of love and positivity. I found your channel a week ago and have watched your videos non stop. You both took away my depression and I am grateful you shared your life with all of us. You are both beautiful inside and outside and are a lovely couple. You are both brave and full of love. Thank you for spreading positivity!

  • @feliciabethea9963
    @feliciabethea9963 Před 3 lety +13

    Life is a risk, so enjoy it!❤️🙏🏾❤️

  • @beyond50skin
    @beyond50skin Před 3 lety +51

    The title! Go Charisma! I’m an OT and totally approve of you two “living life to the fullest” every single mother lov’n day!! You two Rock 💜

  • @mjcigar
    @mjcigar Před 3 lety +45

    Ok two adults who have free will and can voice their own opinions to each other......YOU JUST DO YOU TWO! Life is too short not to make some memories and adventures!

  • @angiemoss9814
    @angiemoss9814 Před 3 lety +29

    Charisma and Cole keep living your best life together. I liked the hiking adventure, nothing like being outdoors. Life is......

  • @garpenat
    @garpenat Před 3 lety +3

    It's so sad that you guys have to do this video. I am disabled myself and your channel always gives me hope, both of finding a partner that loves me nearly as much as you Charisma love Cole and also, of the many possibilities open when you are with the right people. No one has the right to judge you Charisma, you are just doing what any partner would do, disabled or not, which is sharing life and its adventures, nothing else. You have my support, as well as the support of many others. I send you a big hug to you and Cole and I thank you for always making me smile with your videos, which are the ones I go to when I need a distraction if my life gets sad or whatever, so I cannot wait to watch more of your adventures and to find relief in seeing how this or that can be accessible ^^

  • @kimlindsey5178
    @kimlindsey5178 Před 3 lety +5

    You two are awesome! Anyone with common sense will know that your number 1 concern is each other’s safety. Having said that, Cole almost lost his life several years ago. He appreciates life and wants to live it at its fullest. Now he can live it with the love of his life, Charisma.❤️ Enjoy your life together.

  • @undftd28
    @undftd28 Před 3 lety +49

    as someone who can walk Cole does wayyyyy more stuff than me, good for him. 😉

  • @Howtocookjamaican
    @Howtocookjamaican Před 3 lety +451

    Hello Cole and charisma I've been watching your channel for a long time and have never commented not once this will be my first time
    let me first say I do feel your pain on the comment section as I get similar comments let's say negative comment all the time based on what I do in my own kitchen but let me tell you guys you cannot ever change the thoughts of the viewers whether it's good or bad they just wait in a glance to come out shouting to make our lives as unhappy just as there's
    So continue to do what you do best 💕showing love to each other embracing each other flaws and welcome in the laughter of the days to come I love you guys and I will be watching you guys always love Juliana

    • @wunmikeji
      @wunmikeji Před 3 lety +20

      Well said, God bless you

    • @kingbaylister
      @kingbaylister Před 3 lety +34

      Live life without limits I was born with cerebral palsy and my doctors thought I wouldn't amount to anything I wouldn't do anything or achieve anything. Don't be afraid to fail. If you fall down it's not the end. It's only the end when you give up so keep going keep pushing, ignore those who are not for and keep pushing on. Your are in control and you can do this. James Bayliss Master's graduate.

    • @Howtocookjamaican
      @Howtocookjamaican Před 3 lety +4

      @@kingbaylister thank you

    • @Howtocookjamaican
      @Howtocookjamaican Před 3 lety +5

      @@wunmikeji thank you

    • @darleneharvey8648
      @darleneharvey8648 Před 3 lety +6

      Amen ❤️

  • @jenniferrae6646
    @jenniferrae6646 Před 3 lety +40

    Oh, my, God people!!🤐🤐🤐🤐🤐
    Cole and Charisma, please, let it all go straight over your head.
    What is wrong with these people????
    🦋🌻❣❣

  • @raquelburton356
    @raquelburton356 Před 3 lety +49

    It's great to see Cole and Charisma are doing outside activities. People need to mind their business.

  • @maryweeks9474
    @maryweeks9474 Před 3 lety +5

    I love that you both work well together, listen to each other, and encourage each other. Isn't that what marriage is all about ☺ Life is to be lived and adventure are worth experiencing❤ Never thought you took (risk) that you both aren't up to or comfortable with! Keep being yourselves ❣

  • @sburwell75
    @sburwell75 Před 3 lety +25

    I think you both give hope and encouragement to others.

  • @laurenelisabethdooley6451
    @laurenelisabethdooley6451 Před 3 lety +22

    I think it’s great that you’re showing people that it’s not the end of the world becoming disabled, You can still live a full life!

  • @globalconcern4995
    @globalconcern4995 Před 3 lety +29

    Those people are trolls, just trolls, Charisma and Cole. They don't want to see people happy, they are lowkey miserable people.
    Block them from your channel.
    You are an inspiration. You have actually been the motivating factor in me wanting to live again, instead of just sitting back wanting to die because I am recently paralyzed.

  • @colleenpinx3744
    @colleenpinx3744 Před 3 lety +1

    As for a person who is handicapped, I say that until they sit in our chairs...mind your own business. Keep on sharing your thoughts, actions,and deeds, cause you're great and life is toooooooo short to just sit in your chair. Keep living life and forget their nonsense and enjoy, I think you're both wonderful and please let people see your life. Love you both...Colleen

  • @SuperBerya
    @SuperBerya Před 3 lety +9

    Your wife's personality is amazing too👏🏻👏🏻

  • @lordisgoodgracegrace6346
    @lordisgoodgracegrace6346 Před 3 lety +23

    HAPPY EASTER day to everyone here 🙌🙏 Cole and Charisma stay blessed... watching from Congo..

  • @patrickmccarty3249
    @patrickmccarty3249 Před 3 lety +33

    Don’t listen to those people You and Cole are perfect for each other keep up what you’re doing
    Some People are scared I don’t know would like to have a disability

  • @reneerich2028
    @reneerich2028 Před 3 lety +16

    The two of you are an amazing couple. People will always have something to say... the only thing you can do is love each other and continue to stay who you two are. Just keep being who you are....

  • @nathanbugg3221
    @nathanbugg3221 Před 3 lety +4

    I'm so glad that you two can remain positive. I know it is exhausting with people being negative toward another. Thank you for being a "shinny" beacon. :)

  • @hlbztransparency8722
    @hlbztransparency8722 Před 3 lety +4

    Let these people live! The fact they share this with the world and give people with handicaps positivity. Love them and pray for all people

  • @lisaread5895
    @lisaread5895 Před 3 lety +17

    I do believe Cole has had his big boy pants for many years! Lol keep having adventures and living life...you 2 are awesome!!💜

  • @iknowshannon
    @iknowshannon Před 3 lety +29

    I think it is great that the two of you are stepping out of your comfort zone which allows you guys to have so many wonderful memories. Keep it up guys!

  • @rosalinrowe4307
    @rosalinrowe4307 Před 3 lety +31

    I really hate that the two of you take time from your life to explain your choices in activities. It's your life, your choice. Continue to do you boo. 💗

    • @aleshawilson1041
      @aleshawilson1041 Před 3 lety +4

      They are young and really don’t understand that other people have zero say so in their grown, married life. I’m now 40 and have learned the fine art of “talk less, smile more” Most people don’t even know I’ve been married for almost 2 years now lol

  • @suzybausch8587
    @suzybausch8587 Před 3 lety +10

    FYI, Studies show that taking small risks together makes people fall/stay in love. 💕

  • @samanthabaez2503
    @samanthabaez2503 Před 3 lety +8

    Can’t believe you get comments like these. You’re amazing Charisma. Don’t let them stop your shine!!❤️❤️

  • @sandrap6308
    @sandrap6308 Před 3 lety +24

    I think Cole has a fear of falling so sometimes it may come across like he's not enjoying it but I believe he's just being mindful of his safety during the more risky moves and I love how Charisma challenges him and fully supports him. Stay positive people!!!! Stay positive!!!!

  • @malachix3037
    @malachix3037 Před 3 lety +20

    What's up, C & C factory? Man, Im 53 yrs old and I wish u had someone to get me out like that. I dont do a lot of things because I need help. You live once, you're young. Be free... Much love to you both. Be safe, but not afraid. STAY POSITIVE.

    • @malachix3037
      @malachix3037 Před 3 lety +2

      Btw when i said that Cole isn't helping , I was being sarcastic. Im in the same position as Cole. ( well not exactly). Anyway, I know Cole does what he can. Im lucky and blessed enough to have my injury just a tad bit lower than his and I have full use of my right hand. Im totally independent, but I have no money and no one in my life like Charisma. She us totally amazing. Cole, you are soooo blessed!! Cant wait ti meet you guys some day.. Keep living life...

  • @wytx
    @wytx Před 3 lety +21

    Cole is an adult, he can say no to anything he doesn't want to do. I like that Cole and Charisma have fun together.

  • @mattiebrand2676
    @mattiebrand2676 Před 3 lety +2

    I watched an episode of NCIS i they showed a guy who was sky diving they show him jumping out of the plane landing getting in a wheel chair it was the most memorable scene and I thought of you do what you love don't ever let anyone clip your wings you keep soaring do what makes you both happy