Overcome Codependency with Healthy Boundaries - Terri Cole - 339
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- čas přidán 20. 04. 2021
- How do you set healthy boundaries?
Boundaries are essential to draw a clear line between what‘s ok for you and what‘s not. Without them, you‘ll sooner or later end up feeling exhausted, hurt, or even resentful towards your partner.
In this week‘s episode, I talk with licensed psychotherapist and author Terri Cole about codependency and how you can overcome it by being a „boundary boss“.
If you want to find out, listen here.
Shownotes:
4:00 The relationship between codependency and boundaries
8:40 High-functioning codependency vs regular codependency
11:20 The cost of high-functioning codependency
20:10 Codependent Relationship dynamics
26:20 How to overcome codependency by setting boundaries
35:40 Action Step
Useful Links:
boundaryboss.me/
boundaryboss.me/jayson
relationshipschool.com/connected
relationshipschool.com/training
relationshipschool.com/lytyoga
“Giving from a place of fear” is so true. This is key.
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If everything is "urgent" then nothing is urgent. Lack of planning on your behalf does not constitute an emergency on my behalf. After this happened so often (work, home, friends) I just gave up, ignored everyone and I am doing my own thing. Interesting that all the "needy" folks have stayed away . Thanks again Jayson and Terri.
You're welcome! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
good riddance right?
it was a pleasure to witness two gentle yet powerful souls in their purpose
wishing you much success🤗💚💥
Don't respond immediately but ask for time, let me think about it. 24-hour decision making policy is awesome! If you need to know right now then my answer has to be no. Excellent verbalization.
Oh wow! This is me! The most capable in the room. I felt it was my duty to help others. Yikes!!!!
This is exactly to a T what I have experienced and learned over the last 4 years and 40 years before that to a lesser degree. I wish I had it all in one video like this one. I think every American should watch this Exchange and do a reset. Thank you so much for articulating your stories and lessons for each of you! Job well done.
You're welcome!
Beautiful. Very much resonated! Thank you so much for this interview! I find that the healing from co-dependency seems to happen in layers.....The most profound question it has brought me to so far, is: who am I, if I were to help no one? Like...would I still feel I exist?🤔. In and for myself? The answers that have come so far, are very interesting.......
Glad you liked it! Thanks for watching!
I resonate with what you are saying. I often feel the necessity to solve other people's problems. The problem with that way of living is the other person doesn't really want me to solve their problem. Most of the time the person is content with the way they are. So why am I wasting so much time wondering why they don't want to accept my great advice?
you should take one of our classes. you're leaning in the codependency direction for sure
I thought this brought up some uncomfortable truths in my own life! It was very interesting indeed. Thank you for your channel. It’s a wonderful guide in the journey to self awareness.
You're very welcome
This is sooo good and helped me identify how I was operating. Thank you so much 💜💜🙏🏼
You're so welcome!
Ok how do i get out of bitterland? I am kicking EVERYONE out of my life, pushing nice people away because I feel like it's all going to happen again with new ppl. I'm always pissed off and resentful and now I am resenting every nice thing I've ever done for some people. I was totally taken for granted by family and friends because I took their crap and didn't set boundaries. I thnk I'm mad at myself more than any one person. I want a do over so I can end this anger. Going to watch this 10 times if I have to to figure this out. Thank you for doing these vids they are invaluable. At least I now know why I think/thought so many ppl were rude it's because they didn't auto-accomodate like me. Great lesson.
I hear ya. Breaking free from bitterness is a journey, and recognizing the patterns is a powerful start. Watch the videos, but also consider seeking support, whether from friends, family, or a professional to guide you through this transformative process. You've got this! 🙏🔥
thank you. I was in an aweful place when I wrote that. I am doing much better. I have decided to let the past go, and start over again using the tips I am learning. I really had issues with being too nice to ppl that did not deserve it. Not doing that anymore. I feel like I gave myself permission to stop doing that. I always thought oh just do it, take the high road but that high road was making me pissy. No mas. Thanks so much for the helpful vids.@@JaysonGaddis
Question is...what's the healthy flip side? How do we speak? It's a whole new language and behavior for those who are helpers, healers, and teachers
This! I second this! Help! Recovering codependent with borderline personality disorder and abandonment/betrayal trauma.
I really appreciate you guys
thx
Thanks Jason & Terri💙💛.......that was awesome 🌱......no!🚧🚧
Awesome! Thank you 💙💛
How can you change that of which you are unaware? You can" t. So observe yourself, but not judgmentally. How can you maintain boundaries when you don' t know what you want? You can' t. So be aware
Thanks a lot for sharing! 🙏🏼
great video thank u!!
You're welcome!!
My husband is so codependent. This is so UNHEALTH
Ouch
When someone dominates, judges, labels or tries to offer you advice how do you respond to that?