The truth about self defence - Protect yourself from predators
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- čas přidán 10. 09. 2024
- Self defence is a subject hat attracts dangerous lies and myths. Everyone claims to be an expert yet most have never been in any real world situations. I spent 30 years immersed in a violent world professionally and in that time had hundreds of violent encounters. I witnessed the behavior's of predators and their victims. I do not make money from this and it will likely be demonetized by the platform due to its graphic nature. I wanted to put it out there so people can understand what is really involved in protecting yourself and those you love from violence. It involves taking responsibility and putting some effort in just like anything in life. But, if you can be bothered to do that you will be a more confident and competent person in all aspects because of it.
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I worked with a guy that was physically an absolute monster. He worked as a doorman/bouncer for years. He didn't have the option to run, but he did say that he always preferred to talk his way out of a fight if he could. He also said to NEVER underestimate ANYONE.
As a young Marine way back in the early 90s i was on liberty down in Tijuana. We weren't allowed to leave the country but we did it anyway. I'm walking around drunk as can about 3am when these skateboard punks (no offense to skateboarders broadly speaking though) start walking straight toward me. I try to walk through them and they sort of try and bump me real hard as i go by i turned around and they are coming right at me, three of them. Instincts kick in and i throw my hands up to a high guard boxing position. Im walking backwards saying "watch out, watch out" lile I'm ready to punch the first guy that gets in range. That worked for just long enough for me turn and RUN away!!! Yeah, i was a young Marine and thought i was tough. But i knew i couldn't win a 3v1 scenario, even sober. But i also knew, being a Marine i had endurance and i could run for a long time! Plus, if i got caught fighting by the Tijuana police i was most certainly going to a Mexican jail, which would have most certainly got me office hours (think military court hearing but with no one to represent you) with the CO. Anyway, i survived to drink and frolic another day because i knew i couldn't win. In other words, i had enough understanding of reality to know what my best chances of making through the encounter were. Thats what this video is about, reality. Sadly, action movies have all but blinded most people to what the reality of violent physical confontations are really like.
Thank you for your service. Your actions are exactly what people should aim toward. You bought yourself a little space and made a run for it. You had stategically summarised your fitness would be your best asset. Great job. It takes a mature mind to overcome our egos and use the best strategy.
@@thatgearguy thank you!! And thank you for sharing your wealth of knowledge. As a kid growing up in the 70s I was fascinated with bruce Lee and martial arts movies in general. But like a lot of kids I didn't realize that wasn't reality. Eventually I did realize that was not reality. As a result I became fascinated with the psychological aspects of fighting, for example, the importance of remaining calm as much as possible. I think more than anything the problem with people who go to modern martial arts schools is that they aren't always psychologically prepared for the violence especially against someone who has had many altercations on the street. The knowledge that you bring having had so many experiences is invaluable. People should really pay attention to what you are saying because experience is the best teacher. And if I had to advise someone on how to prepare themselves psychologically and physically I would encourage them to join a boxing gym. You'll get in great shape, you'll get hit and learn to hit people more powerfully.
No disrespect intended, sir, but i gotta ask , how did you outrun guys on skateboards?
This is the best advice ! It aint worth it trying to be the tough guy !
@@edwhite7475 Skateboards are not faster than someone sprinting at full pelt. Unless it's downhill of course 😅
I once talked to a woman who teaches self-defense classes to other woman. As a side note she is very proficient in at least two martial arts, has trained in a couple of others and has done some MMA fighting. I asked her what her self-defense training involved and she said the first thing she teaches and constantly pushes is situational awareness. She said, “That ounce of prevention thing is so true. Avoiding being attacked is the best defense.” She said the rest of her training emphasized not stand up fighting, but escaping and evading.
She told me that if a woman who is being attacked manages to take down an attacker, that’s great but it’s a million to one shot for a smaller person with less reach, less muscle mass and who wasn’t expecting to fight to land that kind of blow. Tripping an attacker, knocking them back a step or two or throwing something in their eyes is more realistic and might give a woman a chance to get away.
Of course, situational awareness to avoid being attacked goes for men as well.
Most people's experience of fighting is either watching or being in a fight down the lane after school..
the reality on the street is way different
Men tend to overestimate their capabilities while underestimating the capabilities of others.
I work with mostly women and their attitude always is that they won’t allow a man to tell them how to dress or act, period. I tell them that it’s not men who will assault them, it’s predators. They always get mad AT ME when I say this. Crazy…
Yep. I had the same debates. They talk about girl power and patriarchy. I talk about pschopaths who dont give a shit about equality or politics..
The problem with a lot of martial arts is that it gives people a false sense of security in terms of their capabilities. Trusting your gut instincts and losing the ego are probably a lot better than a black belt..,
I trained martial arts from age 4 until I was unable to walk due to horrible training strategies over time - the best it’s done for me is to help me recognize aggression earlier than most people and react accordingly. Only once or twice has actual technique ever been used.
I think Martial arts is great. It keeps people fit, trains discipline, builds confidence. My issue is when people decide "I need to learn self defence". Then they go to some classes and believe they can now successfully protect themselves. The reality is they would have been better joining a long distance running club. That would be a more successful strategy for avoiding damage for the majority of people. Learning the nuances for confrontation and having the stomach to administer brutal violence is not something that is easily learnt and you dont want to find that out in the middle of a confrontation.
@@thatgearguy also, most people never been hit hard and learned to keep going. It’s not a natural thing. I remember crying my eyes out because my trainers pushed me to keep fighting, or even worse, to fight hard even when I pitied my opponent! These things take lots of time to learn, and they aren’t for everyone. I hate violence and I worry that my kids may have to face it one day. It’s a shitty fact of life!
@@thatgearguy "long distance running club" sounds funny, but is soo true !!!!
I have a fused right ankle and pins and a rod in my left shin from a Parachute accident I suffered during my time in the parachute regiment and that happened to me at the tender age of 22 in 1995.
So me running isn’t really much of an option for me to be honest but that was nearly 30 years ago and I haven’t had the need to run away from anyone yet!!. I’m now 51.
I did done Thai boxing from the age of 15 to 19 and did a little boxing 🥊 training and Sparring over the years . I have faced some real violence but not a great deal and the last time I got into any physical altercation was was bk home in uk 🇬🇧 in 2008. I’ve been living in Canada 🇨🇦 since 2000 and up to date have not had any physical altercations yet!! .
I’ve read a lot of Geoft Thompson and Rory Millar books and they taught me slot about watching your ego , knowing your triggers and putting your ego in your pocket and walk away / get away .
I’m not a big drinker but I still live my life and travel . Your ego trigger warnings and gut feelings are key. So is your situational awareness should be your first line of attack before and physical fighting.
It’s a life skill and a life’s practice.
70% of your attackers are buy some one you know , friends , work friends , neighbour etc etc over stranger danger that is around 30%.
Top information always learning. Self defense is a life skill and having good social skills is also very important.🥊
Would you elaborate on the training methods that damaged you, and what martial art?
I've been in many violent confrontations my greatest weapon was my ability to talk people down. But some people are psychopaths and no words can soothe a violent heart . Then it comes down to run or strike first. Sometimes you win Sometimes you lose and out go your front teeth ive been in all these scenarios and now being old id rather have a cuppa and read a book. Peace and love to you all ❤. Great films love em.
Being in a life or death fight, things are never going to be the way one will predict.
What amazed me as a teenager was how many adults won’t engage to prevent another person from being attacked. I couldn’t stand a watch and I picked up a big 12” knife and yelled profanities to get the attacker’s attention.
It worked, my step dad stopped choking my mother and came towards me, I waited a few steps and ran my azz off & he couldn’t catch me.
This was just one event of several I’ve experienced and I was shocked by the lack of effort by any grown man to step in.
Preach man, I've been there. You can learn so much about human beings in just a bunch of seconds. It's such a peculiar, disconcerting feeling and if you grew up in certain contexts it ends up staying with you. So it's up to you what to make of it. Most people in polite society won't ever experience that feeling, and probably think you're cynical. It's not that you're cynical, it's that they're lucky. And good for them, God bless, hope they stay that way. As for the rest of us, all we can do is put past experiences to good use, stir away from trouble and keep an eye over less situationally-aware friends. Wish you all the best.
I would rather pay 15 quid for a taxi than …. Get beaten to death. You are a poet sir!
That’s some of the best advice I have heard. I trained for years in Karate and Aikido but in fairness to the instructors they always said the best thing was to be aware of your surroundings and if you can, run like hell!
Thanks marticon. I have had a couple of great instructors. I trained in Bujinkan for several years and my instructor was excellent and very honest and transparent. The Bujinkan system teaches many of the ideas I talked about in the video (threat awareness, psychology, deception, dirty tricks, rapid escalation of brutality if no other option available). My issue with any of these arts on their own is that people will attend the classes even for many years but nothing can prepare them for what really happens. It can lead to a false confidence which is dangerous.
Myamoto Musashi sums this up nicely in the following quote - "Do not sleep under a roof. Carry no money or food. Go alone to places frightening to the common brand of men. Become a criminal of purpose. Be put in jail, and extricate yourself by your own wisdom"
In short, the way to learn how to deal with violence is to become desensitized to it through immersion. Repeated exposure to it makes you better at dealing with it. The problem with that is it also might kill you. So that isnt something most people should or would want to do. So I advocate joining long distance running clubs over self defence lessons!
Lot of good self defence for your self is putting your ego in your pocket. And observing your surroundings but not being paranoid about it.
This isn’t very helpful for women.
In martial arts, my teacher stressed that the fight not fought can't be lost. A fight avoided means someone was in control of their emotions.
A proverb that stuck with me from the classic show "mind body and kick ads moves"
"Master how do i become invincible?"
"The squirrel does not fall where the tiger roams"
MAGNIFICENT!!!
100% AGREE
This one time my father was attacked by Steven Segal and Chuck Norris at the same time. He was smart to use their styles against each other. Sometimes you must use the force. True story.
Steven can blind you with his garish knitted jackets so your father was lucky.
@@thatgearguy lol
Was Steven sitting in a wheely spinny chair ?
Huge difference in mma and a martial art. Also a huge difference in bare knuckle and mma
I did years of karate but knew that if I tried any of that in the street for self-defence, I'd probably end up as a death statistic. Life and TV/movies bear little relation to one another. Should I feel uncomfortable in my surroundings, I will fake looking at my non-existent watch and then suddenly change direction as if I'd remembered that I was late for an appointment. Putting distance between me and possible danger is my go-to strategy. 'He who quickly runs away gets to live another day (hopefully).'
It is so nice to finally see someone give the exact advice I gave my own sons instead of the typical "tough guy" keyboard bad-assery. You'll learn more about fighting from the first time you are punched in the face than any McDojo is ever going to teach you. Training only kicks in with real world experience, and even then 9 times our of 10 the more viscous guy wins the fight (think of that fat hillbilly in MMA that knocks out perfectly fit guys left and right). And the "honorable" guy loses the fight 99 times out of 100, usually before it even starts. I also repeatedly warned them about the "head hitting the concrete" thing. And that you don't have to die to wish you did after having your brains scrambled. Too many people get their educations from movies and TV, too few have seen the brutality of real life (or I guess that's actually a good thing? idk). But most of all to trust your instincts and don't let yourself fall into bad situations in the first place. The best defense is to just not be there when the shit goes down. So great to have all my advice validated.
Glad to hear you share my opinion!
I kinda think we should all fight more. Fighting is an experience which gives us a more accurate insight into our own and others' capabilities. Also, when you see a someone being a bully, and you stand up for yourself, and even if you lose, you're still doing society a favor. Because chances are, I would imagine, most people, even evil ones, lose the enthusiasm to pick fights after being in fights. I think if we all were willing to fight, there would be less people picking fights. This reminds me of a kid who was bullied in my class. Whenever he reacted physically, the bullies kinda stopped for a while, because the victim was no longer an easy target
And ego is important to keep. Back like 15 years ago when I was 18 or so I was walking with a gf and we saw a grown man like 20 years old just kick a lying kid 10 years old or so on the ground. The kid's mom was screaming and watching. Many adults were watching and yelling, but the man didnt care. And nobody stopped him. I too just looked the other way because I figured if an old man doesnt care about jumping a kid in public, he certainly wouldnt care about beating me up. But my point here is that my cowardness still haunts me to this day, because I definitely could have done something
It would be good but we would all end up in hospital or jail :(
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I grew up in a rough neighborhood, and i was not a big guy at all, so i got tried regularly. I have almost been robbed 3 times. Almost. Best advice is to pay attention to your surroundings and look people in the face. Dont be scared to call out someone and tell them to stop if they walk up on you. Distance is your friend.
Great topic again and you totally nailed it. Agreed every word.
I have been in a situation where my boyfriend at the time was drunk and furious and as I tried to leave the scene he threw me around like a ragdoll. I'm 180cm but boy I felt small and there was absolutely nothing I could do to defend myself but try to cover my head as I hit the walls. It was so quick.
What I learned was I never turn my back to anything my gut tells is a threath. I never sit anywhere where I can't see a doorway and be able to run away. Trauma based survival skills, deep rooted😅
But I feel lucky I learned my lesson at once and one beating was enough to leave that c**t.
Thanks Minttul and thank you for sharing. I am very sad to hear you experienced that. I am glad to hear you had the emotional strength to leave him immediately. Many do not. I always recall an incident on this subject. I saw a girl lying prone on the floor and a man took a running kick at her head. It was brutal. I ran over from behind him and sucker punched him, which knocked him out. I then bent down to help the girl. She got up, removed her show and began hitting me with it and screaming that I had hurt her BF. That was a swift lesson in psychology for me aged 17yrs! From your previous posts you sound pretty handy with an axe now so at least you have a backup option!
@@thatgearguy That's just pure crazy😶... She could have been killed by that bloke and still defending him... Blows my mind.
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Actually I have a small axe and a knife arm lenght away as I lay in my bed(for making kindlings, but as a protection too). If someone would break into my house, it would take police 30-60min to arrive, so I'd be on my own in that situation.
@@minttul.8237 That is good to hear. Always have a force equalizer..
One of the major dangers of live hostile encounters is, fighting a group - even if they are individually weak and unskilled, all they need to do is each attacker grabs onto all at once - the sheer amount of simultaneous leverage points and weight on your body will take you to the ground - imagine how cops will group takedown a target - the cops do that in a specific sequence of timing and angling to minimize harm to the target, harm to themselves and eachother - now imagine a group of individuals who only care about taking you down to the ground. All they need to do is swarm and grab on - you're done.
Gear's advice about completely avoiding risks is your single best strategy. Don't go anywhere at night alone. Travel in groups of at least 5 - no joke - I had 3 friends mugged at gun point - by a group of guys at a place we were at 3-4 nights a week. Had never had trouble. But on that night, there was no defense that would keep you safe from a group of guys with guns threatening you from just 15-20 feet away from around a corner. Its too late as soon as you're in the situation. Don't put yourself in the risky environment.
I was taught by my peers to leave the pub when certain characters would arrive, always make judgements like you say .
Brilliant advice. Applies everywhere, from the grocery store to the prison yard. Appreciate your insight.
Ive worked for years in Corporate Risk, everything you have said can be translated to the corporate world, situational awareness is key to survival, this cannot be stressed enough, better to overthink, and be safe then to overlook and be dead.
The key to ALL of this is BALANCE, you need to weigh the pro's and con's of your decisions AND indecisions because that will inevitably determine the outcome.
If anyone doubts this, know that whether you believe my word or not is irrelevant, the advice above and the advice in this video will increase your chances and may even save your life. Its your choice.
Fantastic work mate! 👏
Thanks and good to know there is a crossover into the corporate risk world!!
This video could save some lives
I would love to think so. The book I reccomended certainly has.
When I was very young I had a neighbour that was a WW1 vet that also boxed as a young man. His words have stuck with me for 35+yrs now.
"It's easy to be competent in a Ring with Rules and a Referee."
100%
Great advice, thank you, sir. In Florida (US) we have the "stand your ground" law, which allows you to use deadly force once a bad guy crosses your threshold. Being an older woman, I don't open the door for anyone and have weapons at the ready should someone break in. When I go out, I carry bear repellent spray with me. Can't be too careful, right?
In a public place, a good option is to try to avoid confrontations and just walk away. Physical confrontations have too many Legal implications.
As I state many times in the video. But that is not always an option.
@@thatgearguy I know, but UK Laws have complicated the issue of self defense. The courts do not know the difference between a provocation, pre-emptive strike, self defense and excessive force. The lines always get blurred in between.
@@cunnyfred9562 The courts understand it very well. The Police sometimes not so much. I have been in court and Police cells many times. The law works very well as long as you understand it and where the lines are. I have always engaged a solicitor (not the free duty ones). It hasnt been an issue. But all this is semantics as the bottom line is clear - if you can get away without violence then do so. If you cannot then the law is probably the least of your worries at that precise moment.
@@thatgearguy I'm gonna need to disagree with you on that. I'm from New England, not Old England, so I don't have all the information on the ground, but it seems to me that the U.K. legal system is ruled by precisely the kind of upper-middle-class people who are detached from the gritty nature of reality. Wasn't there that homeowner who got sent to prison for beating an armed home invader with a cricket bat? That kind of thing would be so legally unambiguous that even in the most self-defense hostile places (LA, NYC, Chicago, etc.) in the U.S. the homeowner would never even be arrested, let alone charged or convicted.
Speaking about deceptive tactics, reminds me of one.. Out of rage after being sucker punched, there was a pause where I maintained composure and extended my hand for a hand shake, beimg momenttarly distracted, he never saw it coming. I'd love to know if you've ever seen that take place.
I cannot express the value of your experience and advice. Real world here people. Listen, learn, and live.
Many thanks and all respect to you!
I appreciate that!
I did karate for a long time high grade lady’s do not have the power to hurt medium sized men same with smaller guys best self defense is not be there also when you look confident you don’t get bully’s so much stay away from loud aggressive people
Great info, thanks for sharing!
Tricks, strategies, deceptions??? But... but... that's unsportsmanlike conduct!
25:50 deception in fights
29:36 for females how to fight
Loved it! Brutal Honesty
A mate of mine had a horrible experience with that "head on concrete" situation, he was security on a match day, and the bloke who was sneaking up behind him was HIMSELF, judased by another geezer with either a duster or a weighted glove(stories differ), he turned just in time to miss cradling the back of the guy going down's head(his, and my own usual reaction to someone who has taken a head blow on the street), and with the cameras at the time only taking one pic every 10 seconds, my huge, tough looking mate was fit up like a glove for the serious assault/attempted murder that had occurred, the attacker fled, the bloke who got hit survived, but is in bad shape since. the cops applied pressure to my mate to try get him to talk, shit was handled differently, grim times.
Speaking of books, Geoff Thompson's books are all amazing, but his first "watch my back"(and the movie "Clubbed", which came from it) are amazing.
Thank you for lots of good information.
Thank god I’m too old to go out clubbing anymore! Brilliant video (as all of yours are). Thanks for posting 👌
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank god for your advice I've been in some situations myself im now over 70 and disabled I was once a strong man but I never took risks.
Extremely sober advice.
If people actually listen and apply... you probably saved a few lives with this one.
Bless you.
Very kind of you. Appreciated.
This is seriously great advice!
Most people can come away from this video having learned something.
Even people who have a few years of training like myself.
Thanks Sean I appreciate that. If you havent read it, the De Becker book is fantastic. If you are interested in the avoidance strategy or understanding predatory behaviour it is a must read.
I’m so glad to live in the US.
Castle law?
Whereas most movies depict unrealistic pictures of James Bond, Bruce Lee characters who can handle any situation with seeming ease - the one movie that I think gets it right is Goodfellas and specifically the Joe Pesci character in that movie. A complete psychopath that can go from 0 to a 110 in a blink of an eye. I think it's individuals like this, complete psychopaths with hair triggers that you had better be ready to deal with or avoid. In this case I think the movie does show life pretty accurately in that particular environment.
@@rddavies That demonstrates the reality of how to apply violence to "win" a confrontation. 99% of people will never be able to apply violence like that. So they lose.
Awesome video Paul! Such unique, REAL content you won't find anywhere else. Your experience is evident and you tell it how it is. Cheers mate.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Excellent advice, mate. Subscribed
Thanks for the sub!
During my SIA course, we got told all these techniques and none confrontational hand gestures and straight away the SIA teacher said "by the ways, before i show you all this stuff, remmeber its all absoutle bollocks. If some big fucker is about to fight you youre not going put your hands up and start shouting back away."
Yeah my dad is from a bad area. He always told me to try and ID suspicious people around. You dont gotta confront them but make sure you know where they are.
That alone has always kept me safe. I used to work the overnight at a place and then walk home. Id always cross the street if i saw another traveler coming up or down the same street. Some would call me a coward but I never got jumped or robbed despite living in a bad area. 😂
A lot of people out there that pertain to know what's required in a real life truly violent altercation, and loudly claim to be able to deal with such things, often with ease, would do well to remember that folk that are intent on doing you harm can't see your shiny black belt.
And more often than not nor would they care if they could.
Sorry about that. ;)
From my personal experience, the doormen are always the biggest bullies. All roid raged up looking for an excuse to sucker punch someone too drunk to walk. Running away just makes the attacker run after you and you get tripped. You end up with the fight starting with you tired, injured and in a bad position on the floor.
Situational awareness to avoid trouble, not being drunk and making the bully (ringleader if it's a group) think that you are that psycho who will bite their nose off even if they beat you up is the way.
But from what I have seen observing fights, (a taxi rank near a nightclub I used to frequent had a bad problem with this) most people are really bad at fighting and overestimate their abilities. Trained fighters included. Nobody fights fair in the real world. Only a trained fighter would think that people do. Bridget Jones fight scene is embarrassingly realistic except you get more blood when someone gets thrown through a window.
The advice given to women near the end makes sense. A friend of a friend saved themselves from being raped doing that.
Great video thanks 👍
Gift of fear is excellent, I first heard of it through John Lovell.
Solid advice. Being a doorman is a tough way to make a living. Be well.
I have to respectfully disagree with what you said, as I learnt a wing chun technique that works in virtually every situation. Basically when you're confronted you drop to the floor screaming, followed by begging for mercy as you kiss their boots. Works in most situations.
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100%! Awareness & avoidance is the key. Always assume that your opponent is capable, armed, and has mates. I think that most self-defense courses range from being 'okay' to downright dangerous for the attendee. As you pointed out, pre-emption is the key to wining (or at least, getting away from a dangerous situation). Deception (or artifice as we call it) should be trained within any self-protection system. Great vid!
Thanks for watching! 100% agree!
@@thatgearguy No worries! Great vid.
Great video and I think all rational thinkers come to the same conclusions.
RIP P.A. Luty.
Man talks sense
Great advice. Listen to your senses! Your senses know more than you do.
Truth!
In my case i carry a handgun, but i also live in the USA and i was law enforcement for 17 years and i keep in practice. If you dont practice and train leave your gun home!
Agreed. Im disabled now after heart surgery and subsequent health events.
I carry everwhere now.
Luckily, i live in the middle of nowhere, and i can "train" whenever i like.
I was taught to shoot by military and LEO family members (dad amd grandfather were both), but most of the time i just plink.
I do really train sometimes, and i always focus on draw and sight acquisition when plinking.
The thought of an untrained person dishcharging a firearm in public terrifies me.
@@letsdothis9063 yepbim disabled now too. Fusions rods and screws in my back. I live in the middle of nowhere too. I have a rifle and handgun range right out the front door. Makes it easy to work up reloading loads not having to drive to a range.
Exactly what I just commented. Glad to be American for this reason.
Gem of a channel this. Just come across you today. Realy level-headed and honest approach.
The amount of 'tough guys' who think they can take on the world after a year in the gym.. they get humbled pretty quickly. Ive seen it many times!
Keep up the great work, bud 👍 👏
Much appreciated!
Needed wisdom, you shared because you care.
Thanks Walker very kind of you! I appealed the demonetization and it was accepted. Not for the pennies but because it stands more chance to get viewed if YT judges it advertiser friendly.
A hobo guy trips over my wife's foot which was sticking out into the isle on a bus. She then stared directly at him. He started yelling at her. But as he was behind me I didn't realize this at the time. He spit on her after yelling and approaching then left. In her view I should have fought for her "honour" or something to that effect. But had I done so both of us could have been killed had he been armed with a knife. At that time I didn't realize what was going on, or that he was directing his comments to my wife, I also had no martial arts training. Some might say pepper spray might be an idea.
One of the best tactics I seen was used by a woman, a man confronted her late at night by a man "looking for directions" she started laughing and talking loudly without triggering him.. he drove off.
Incredibly useful information. I watch all your content because it's real and without ego. I wish you all the best 🙂
Thanks Malcolm, glad you liked it!
Thanks so much for your insight and advice.
Great info -- needed to be said.
best thing to do is live in a state that gives out CCW permits like popcorn, everyone assumes you are carrying in Idaho and everyone acts accordingly, unless of course you go looking for trouble
Spot on mate .it comes from the heart .its in the dna
Forewarned is forearmed and forearmed is Popeye.
To be quite honest with ya, me as a stoner I have chilled in a lot of car parks, it’s kind of our first go to when it rains or the weather is just all around shitty when we wanna smoke. I have also seen the other side of the aisle with crackheads and junkies messing about so it’s definitely more likely to be bad people than good people in such places but not all the time it’s like that.
@@falcon5751 If your a dude sitting around smoking blunts I would imagine your pretty safe. Unless you have great cookies and other stoners get hungry..
@@thatgearguy😂
Great video, you can not beat experience and honesty 👏
Great topic to cover.lee Morrisons urban combativesis is my go to guy with the pavment arena. Its OK having a referee or soft matts to land on.its always an ambush in my experiences unfortunately.
Thanks Jeremy I will take a look.
Thank you
what nearly everyone 'thinks' is training is nothing more than dancing. If you're not bruised and in pain halfway thru each session, what you're doing is dancing.
Funny but true.
A suspicious person was jumping on the street, seemed suspicious. I’m not taking a different way. So he jumped in-front of me. I was thinking, I’m not stepping down… I’ve been to the gym. He looked at me I looked back … rotten teeth, baggy clothes. I was thinking … I don’t even want to touch him, maybe he has a k ife. So I immediately disengaged. And walked down the street. Heard a bike braking hard … got a bit scared but didn’t looked back. Just continued walking. Still here to tell the story. No worth it.
This is brilliant, I was seriously thinking at 40 I should do BJJ (as the internet tells me) so that I always feel safe in any situation. Much better and more likely to work are the things in this video. I’m absolutely not certain that any grappling technique on concrete is going to be very useful if you like having functional knees anyway.
Hi Pip glad you liked it. Im not knocking BJJ or and martial arts. They are great for discipline, fitness, focus ect. They are also great additions to people with good experience in fighting. But if your sole intention is self preservation on the street I think there are better options - a psychology degree and long distance running for example!
71 still compete in powerlifting competitions, think a bench press 400lb + is a decent self defence, particularly if you are oldish.
I just rewatched this video did forget about this one. Lot answers from my email I sent. Thanks
Great advice, keeping it real as usual 👍💪 Thanks
Thanks JM! Always!!
True Facts 💯💯💯
No one actually wins in street or bar fights. You survive them. It's a mugs game.
Brilliant! 💯 agree!
Fortunately, here in the US, (most states, anyway) we haven't had our human right to defend ourselves with guns taken away from us. Unfortunately, criminals and thugs keep getting very minimal punishments and victims defending themselves oftentimes get charged by Leftist district attorneys. The self defender may win their court case but the process is the punishment and the criminal may get less punishment than the victim defending themselves against the attacking criminal.
Brilliant clear advice
This guy I agree with his points, but you don’t become wise from not going through some shit that’s how you learn. So not having this ‘victim blaming stuff’ yes we need to be aware but inevitably we need ‘go through shit’ sometimes also there’s a fine line. You are speaking from what you’ve seen and viewed and experienced. So saying ‘someone shouldn’t do this or that they are naive and silly if they do’ isn’t the great way to convey a message. But having been through abit myself I do agree with a lot of parts of the video just yeh delivery in certain areas. But keep up the informative work. Can relate to parts of it.
I've turned 47 today, and had a few beer.
Sorry for my bad english or comment.
I think this one of your best video's yet.
I have never been in a real heavy fight.
Made me feel like pussy for decades.
But as i get older, you remind me of a buddy that was into krav maga.
He said, if you can... the best you can do is RUN.
I never had to, but i believe if your mind is not in a fight set you are behind.
To be honest, at this moment i have a lot of stress that makes me frustrated.
That can be a good thing.
But i'm not that kind of person.
I hate agression.
I'm gonna put my 7 year old daughter to bed now.
If something can get me in a fight, it's her wellbeing.
Happyb Birthday Djek! We are the same age! You made the right life choices. Even when I won fights I lost teeth and probably sustained long term damage. So that wasnt winning in the long term. The best thing about avoiding fights is that you are there to share the wonderful experience of your children growing up. Have a great evening!
@@thatgearguy Thanks!
great info thanks
W. E. Fairbairn's material makes for an interesting read. Do you have any experience with that?
30:30 I don't know if it's a good idea. She would have to be completely dedicated and decided. Because of you do it only causing minor damage, especially to the area downstairs, that may mean a much worse situation for her...
Prevention is the most important thing.
Great video and advice. If someone were to get fit, learn to run and practice situational awareness etc. but also wanted to train in a martial art or combat sport, which might be a good start? Boxing or some kind of combative system? Or something else? Asking for a friend 😉
Muay Thai is always a good call.
Hi mate
I’m really finding your channel helpful and just a breath of fresh air compared to the bombarding bullsh*t from other channels .
If you get a moment to perhaps advise a self defence style or discipline I could look into or if you ever get chance to make a video on it .
I’m 42 just getting my health back on track following an injury and don’t really fancy going down the karate kid route if there’s something a little more practical .
Keep up the good work !!
Dan
Hi Dan, glad you enjoy the content! I would strongly suggest becoming competant in strength training and cardio if you are not already. They are the most important factors. Then personally I would look for a hard striking discipline to get some decent technique. Muay Thai is decent and they will make sure your cardio is on point if they are a decent gym. Strike hard, run in the opposite direction. Even better just run.
@@thatgearguy thanks appreciate the advice 👌🏼
judo❤
So great
Another great video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
That wrangler cowboy guy didn’t say anything remotely as good as what this guy said on this video. Guys like Jordan Peterson who have a security are telling guys to just crash out.
I was bullied lots as a kid and still had issues I guess until I was no longer a teen. Now days I normally to busy to know what other people are doing. If someone did get in my face. I would like what, can't you see I am busy, this better be good. OK, how can I help you. If they were shaping up, I would say, so you are consenting to fight. Good posture and purpose seems to keep me out of problems. I do look people in the eye though to see if they want to say g'day. Also open to listen to people about their issues, unless I really are too busy
Lets hope you never run into anyone predatory!
@@thatgearguy true, but I am not going to spend my time worrying about it. Face that hurdle if I ever come up to it.
@@brucejensen3081 unfortunately that will be to late..
@@thatgearguy I am more worried about not being at peace when I get old and lose my mind. Trying to look for the good in people
@@brucejensen3081 There is good and bad in everyone I think. But sometimes its just wrong place, wrong time. Most of the people I saw commit horrendously violent acts were not "evil" they were just swept up in a situation. Frankly I do not care if they are good or bad. If they represent threat we must have the tools to deal with it. Its one of those situations that might never happen but when it does you end up wishing you had a strategy for it.
Your opinion on this please? Years ago I worked as EMT-Paramedic in a violent area of Chicago (the now demolished Cabrini Green projects) besides the guns it was pretty common just for two adult grown men...to just fight-engage in street fights....usually with horrible results. My question: just recently (I'm Iowa now) I was leaving a store at night walking thru parking lot to my car....dark out . Ahead of me are two adult grown men up in each others faces yelling threatening each other etc....some bystanders gathered around watching ...anyway looking back now I wonder if what I did was just foolish or if you had an opinion on a better option in that type situation, etc. I walked up to about 8 or 10 feet of the guys and just started talking..."Hey, Guys please don't do this...etc ." just trying to de-escalate by way of a distraction type of thing, if that makes sense.....this time it had a happy ending ...sorry I'm rambling. My point is: You don't need me to tell you this but two kids in a scuffle on the playground is one thing but grown men fighting-street fighting.. is no joke...especially on concrete. .seen so many horrible life-altering permanent injuries😢 just heartbreaking....eyeballs being poked out..etc etc..just sad beyound belief..so in my opinion just about anything that can be done prevent it from happening....well it's a conversation worth having I'd say. What is likely to be effective or might be worth a try..what NOT to do to not put yourself in undue danger..etc... Not always so easy especially when there's egos and alcohol involved and there's people gathered around egging them both on to fight..
Your thoughts, Sir?
Good job. Sometimes a distraction is all that is needed! Sometimes they both need to be a bit intimidated. Sometimes nothing works and they both turn on you! Very hard to give a clear answer. I would assess the situation, the body language, the area and then act based on those variables..
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You punch bad one and you get to prison!..
... criminals usually have some weapons and they do not give # about your health.
what to do, when Im not a criminal?..
😳tnx👌
“Dogs don’t know kung-fu”
Lol well there was that cartoon Hong Kong Phooey. Im pretty sure he was a dog.
Hahaha Touchè 😂
Awesome dude