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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2016
- www.mormonchannel.org/watch/s... When she fell in love with Brandon, Lluvia thought she was living a fairy tale. Then, after ten years of marriage and in the midst of life challenges, they drifted apart.
“After a while, we were two complete strangers trying to make a family work,” Lluvia says.
Their painful divorce eventually led to a sweet reconciliation and Lluvia learned that turning to God every day could make her marriage and family strong again.
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Before I got married I asked a 90 year old man married 65 years why his marriage was a success. He said, "when your wrong promptly admit it, The courting doesn't really start until after the vows are said and refuse to give up on your marriage no matter what. 38 years of courting my wife so far. we've had our ups and downs but we comfort and court each other. it's wonderful.
I dreamt about my wife one year before meeting her. The second I saw her I knew that she was my wife. I met her at 18 yo and married her a month before my 19th birthday on March 26 2000. Everything just clicked. We were sealed in the temple July 22, 2015 married for time and all eternity. It took quite a few years during our sixteen years of marriage to get it right. The main constant that kept us together was the guidance of the bible on marriage. Our first conversation on love came with a promise. I will never withhold my true self from you. With all your flaw and mine at the forefront. We will learn to fix them one by one to improve our marriage. Love can be forever, but you must have selfless openness to discuss all things.
trevylove this is beautiful
Not all stories end so happily, but I am so full of joy that yours did. And I'm grateful for the truth of the principle that love and staying in love is a choice that you have to actively make and work on every day. Beautiful message. It reminds me to be grateful for my own husband even more.
Christine Lavallee i love your words, they are so calm to the spirit. I have actually been in a situation where the love started to wax so cold, after 3 years of struggle in my marriage things later started to get more stable, but i never knew that was gonna be the moment the ripper came took her for me. Now for 7 years of my life i have been widowed. Sometimes i feel so lonely and sad. I wish everyday i can finally find someone and regain my happiness. Can you please say something back. I wish i can talk more in details with you. Thank you
A lot of people think you fall in love and it stays that way forever no matter what. The reality is, daily effort everyday has to be made by both individuals to continually maintain and strengthen the bond of love. Great video!
Me and my wife has married about 7 months, we are on the edge of getting divorce, I am on pain and wonder if it is worth. I love my wife but I was "stupid" enough to not see that she is my everything. This video speaks to me a lot
I hope you work it out. My husband and I will have been married for 17 years on the 18th. If you put their happiness first in your life you find ways to keep the relationship respectful and moving forward.
You got to put it in the hands of God and make God your everything. Without God in your marriage it’s impossible to work. Trust whenever you make God your everything everything will work out and you’ll learn to love your spouse unconditionally and in a Godly way. Wish you luck
One important thing that I would take from this video, is that "love" is a choice. We´ve got to decide we will love our partner, and start doing it, by serving, caring, helping, forgiving. If both decide to do it, love will only grow. However, if one keeps waiting for the other´s attitude, he or she will wait forever until someone else does it. We need to care and show love to our wife every day and every time, make them feel loved and special, and they shoudl do the same.
What a sad and yet wonderful story. Most marriages do not need to end in divorce.
This is one of the most touching videos I have ever seen. It speaks to the reality of divorce, the fact that many do not realize how difficult a divorce is. Many of us give up far too soon in a marriage; not realizing at the moment of those vows the amount of change that a person can experience over the lifetime that we just promised to spend with them. Thank you for a beautiful video. Congratulations to Brandon and Lluvia! What an inspiring story!
woooow. I'm no married yet but this message will stick with me FOREVER!
Me too
I'm not a Mormon but I love God and these videos are so helpful.
I truly hope that Jesus would help me and guide me so I may show my love for Him and not just talk about it...
i also hope that He would one day show me how I could show how much I love the Mormon girl I felt in love with...
I need prayers and people who love God to truly teach me and show me His many lessons...
Thank you...
Thanks for having the courage to share such a personal experience with so much candor. Your story will influence many for good.
What a beautiful story!!! I love that they both decided to make their relationship work!! NO the grass is NOT greener on the other side!!!!!
The grass is greener where you water it.
Abuse is never green on any side.
not a Mormon but love this videos..
They are SUCH good videos. Inspiring, but still real and relatable.
Aida Rivera Maybe try attending a sacrament meeting one Sunday at a close church.
You should go to church just try it for one day, it will change your whole entire life
These videos are here for ALL God's children. So glad you enjoy them!
Is God happy with Mormons?
im going thru separation right now. im not a mormon im christian, but this a good video. it gave me some hope today.
my wife and i have been together 13 years & married for 10. we have argued & fought alot, but i never stopped loving her. my pride and ptsd caused alot of problems in our marriage. we have 3 kids together & we had a daughter that passed away this year from a bad heart, she was only 1 month old. we didnt know how to deal with it so we argued and she said she wanted a divorce. it devasted me after a hard couple of months after our daughter. i do group therapy and i started going to church. i found God & i realized he was always there, i was just being ignorant. i dont argue anymore with her, even though she barely speaks to me, & when she does tells me alot of bad stuff. but after all this time i still havent stopped loving her. i just pray to God to be better than i was & to take care of my family and also to heal her of her pain & anger. i hope to be with her again one day, just better spiritually & emotionally. God bless you all for reading this.
is there any chance at repairing your marriage? so sorry to hear about your daughter who passed away. any marriage that touches the hem of Jesus' garment can be made whole.
God bless you that you can get back together.
So nice to hear a story of redemption and reconciliation in a marriage. Thank you for sharing!
She said I didn't need him anymore, she was being selfish. Love GOD first to learn how to love the rest!
Juan Gallardo amen
I've never been married before, but I was engaged before. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to grow through in my life. I loved and cared about this girl so much that I would of did anything for her. I even moved across the country to Utah to be closer to her. Things happened and she ended it in January. Relationships, engagements, and marriages are work. They are not easy. I personally believe that if 2 people really love and care about each other so much, they will do anything to last and make it work. I was in a relationship with the wrong person. I'm better now. I know I will one day meet that worthy daughter of God and be so happy. I've learned to accept God's will because He knows best.
Going through divorce right now. This is hard for everyone, especially for children. We wanted to keep the family , mom and dad for children.. I got papers served. We had 16 years of the therapy, hardly dates! My spouse was deep into therapy even before we got married. I felt lonely for 16 years, for us, the divorce is probably a good thing. No more control, no more manipulation, no more feeling emotionally abandoned and being married- single.
I think you did the right thing. You can't be expected to be the only one in the relationship doing all the work.
I'm so sorry
This is exactly what is happening in my own life, thanks for posting this video, I will do what they did
Pray everything has gone well...God Bless.
I’m envious of you. The 2 of you put aside your pain, then did the work to make things great, again. Well done!
While I was on my mission, an area 70 mmbr visited my mission. A part of his talk to us missionaries at the time was this, “I don’t believe in love @ 1st sight…that’s Hollywood love….love is something you either work to be in OR out of.” It impressed me then, & has stayed with me since.
This video is extremely well made and has a very beautiful message. My wife and I haven't had problems yet in the three years of our marriage but I still find inspiration in this video that I can always be a better friend to her.
being"in love" is a Feeling which runs hot and cold loving someone is a choice you must make
I love this comment!
bordem and routine...killed the cat
What a great video. I unfortunately went through a divorce recently. Though I am separated from her here on earth, I have hope that maybe just someway somehow we come back together and make it work. We are still sealed and it makes me motivated to be the better man I set myself to months ago.
Trust in God and he will guide you to where he wants you to be. :)
Ask her on a date! Try what the couple tried in this video!!!
Communication and understanding are keys to a lasting marriage
I fell for a member and as the feelings grow I then decided to go to church every sunday, read the book of mormon, and meet missionaries. Eventually, we separated ways because of his personal problems he wanna fix. I was broken, sad and I felt so weak until now. It hurts me because I've been praying to God that he will be the one I will spend eternity with and I love the church. I truly do. I don't wanna stop going to church and reading the book of mormon just because we separated but I'm hoping and praying that we will find our way back because I somehow owe him that I was able to get to know the church. I am still broken now.
Thank you brother! I have a peaceful mind and heart now. And I will be baptize a week from now. And I am so excited and happy!
Such a powerful and positive story/message. The entire world needs to hear this.
True Love takes work. I hope when I find someone to spend eternity with, no matter what we'll always do something small but special in order to stay together. Basically like she said go on small dates and talks but I love most is prayer and scripture study because they knew that they need the spirit of the Lord in their lives to keep their marriage and family together.
this video give me hope on my marriage. is what exactly is happening on my marriage of 2 years, since 4 months ago but unfortunately in my case ,my husband is that one who think that our marriage of wont work out and he think that he doesnt love me how he is suppost to be and that i deserve a better man than him. we are expecting our second baby girl on December. And he still thinking that he is doing the best for both of us :( . he keep saying to me that is better now than later ... he is moving on with his life now...
Cool story. sometimes you don't know what you've got till it's gone...
So emotional and inspiring video. Can't help my tears to fall. I guess every couple would face or experience this thing called "falling out of love". And it's very important that before making a big decision like getting a divorce, they should talk about and do everything to make things work again. Don't just give up easily.
I pray God will bless my husband so we can make our marriage work. I pray God will bless our marriage. Thank you for sharing your story and all the positive comments below.
hang in there. change takes time.
For many years I had agonized over how can one believe without evidence. One day I asked for something. I asked for a girl who loved me. I promised that I would take this as proof and would never doubt again.
The very next week guess what turned up. That was nearly 50 years ago now. So, perhaps more than anyone else, I know that my wife was God's gift to me. Of course that means I must always love and respect what I have been given.
Glad to see this. I hope more experiences are shared showing life after divorce with different outcomes, equally positive.
I always love the feeling of the spirit when I watch these clips
What a beautiful story thank you for sharing it’s always about the other person not you I have been married to my man for 54 years and it’s a lot of give and take and most of all being selfless and not letting the little things matter. Pray together always our Heavenly Father loves us he wants us to be happy .
such a beautiful story ♥️♥️♥️ Thank you for sharing your personal story.
I feel. This message is for me.
Marriage requires work. You must be willing to compromise, listen and act. And most important is to forgive. Marriage is constantly about the other person, not yourself.
5zazen. Indeed it take man and woman build marriage live forever
Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with us ♥️
l don't know what to say but this has touched me, first, l felt the pain she had when she was divorced because l felt the same pain too however my marriage wasn't regularly but when l felt that am going to raise my kids alone the flashbacks of how l grew up to keep on coming in my minds. l started feeling this pain when l was still in marriage, l kept on telling myself to not follow what my parents did but, to be honest, that's the more l felt sad. loneliness started taking all over me until l left the marriage, to me there was nothing to bring back between us because l had heard enough between us. l believed to meet someone else who will make me happy. but right now am happy to hear some stories that others are able to fix their marriage and start over agin. and to my understand it seems that it sounds good. thanks for share.
It goes to show that there is absolutely no affliction which cannot be healed. Even the affliction of loss of love can be healed through two individuals exercising faith in Jesus Christ. When His love is invited into our lives, it is extended from our hearts to the hearts of those we love or have once loved.
There is no such thing as "Fall" in or out of love. This sort of thinking, fall in/out of love, denotes that there is no choice in love and defines it improperly. Love is a characteristic that we develop by choosing to become like Christ.
Aaron Abbott - I agree. The character of defined love can also change throughout a marriage.
Eros Love - romantic
Agape Love - altruistic, selfless
Storge Love - friendship based
Pragma Love - practical
All legitimate values of love.
Beautiful 💛 Thank you for sharing!
After a few years of much happiness drowned out by even more battling and stress, my person and I saw a counselor at a court house, a mandated pre-requisite where we live. We gave our long complaints, including even some regrettable mutual violence (which was hard enough for us, but which I am sorry to hear is so much harder for many couples to get over). At some point came the question of whether we loved each other. That, and the listening, turned an important page for us; it's a question we keep coming back to, knowing better now that our love was never an emotion to fall into and out of, but a dual commitment that, whether together or separated, cannot be unmade. Like every great tree takes a long time to grow, love is not love that springs up at once.
Beautiful story!!! Glad all worked out, both must want and fix the problems! God bless ❤️😇
This is so, so good. Thank you!
beautiful video- makes me think what have I done to stay in love with my husband- I can certainly do more than what I have-sometimes it take the one partner to initiate the change- thank you Lluvia for sharing your story
Thank you for sharing!
I am crying really hard. I love the videos
So inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story.
totally relate! going thru the same thing..and is so painful to watch my life and family literally fall apart. I still love my wife to death, but apparently she does have no feelings for me anymore... hopefully I have the belief that what ever the outcome it will be best for all of us.
AMEN AND AMEN, GOOD LESSON TOO . WE HAVE TO PUT GOD BEFORE EVERYTHING IN LIFE.
The thing is there is no "end". The hardest part about life is that
after the storm passes and the heroes of the story defeat the bad guys
and get the girl there is no walking off into the sunset and the end
credits pop up. After you get the girl/guy you have to deal with their
imperfections and you have to fight to stay married. Her story didn't
end even if its happy. Its still a struggle and it will still be until
she dies.
Great point. People seem to think every milestone is IT, they now have it made in the shade, and they will live happy-ever-after from that point.
Collector2006 - The movie also fails to portray the realities of divorce. Content functioning characters in the movies just waltz away. Divorces are more destructive than television and film reveal.
Collector2006 I think she knows that, it may not be showed very well, but I'm sure she was telling her story in hopes that people would learn from her and her husband's mistakes
What an amazing story & video!!!
I am so grateful for you has send this video to me..... Thanks a lot from the button of my heart. Family Can Be Together Forever. I know that... I love that and We are working for (me and my wife)
Thank you for sharing your experience! It gives many of us the hope we need to keep our marriages together!
I share these emotions as I go through a similar situation. My heart continues to break everyday. I believe in Heavenly Father and His miracles. I pray for a miracle and the opportunity to do the work to restore my marriage.
I love this video. It can help people who are thinking there is no way to fix their relationship. The reality is that there is always a new chance to do so.
Wilson Moreno This gives me hope 😢
Absolutely beautiful.
What a great story
This is SO VERY NEEDED in today's world. This is absolutely outstanding.
I loved this!! Date nights are special!!
Very good!
thanks for this
This is beautiful!
i've wondered how do you know when you found the right person to marry. is it because you are both have something to offer education, career, house, or the same religion? or are you compatible culturally? or you fell in love with the person for who they are? i'm from the pacific islands but my wife is from north America. we are both opposites but i would do anything for her. we are like any other couple not perfect. it is a challenge however to stay married and not lose the love for each other. being away from each other is hard due to the templations from the adversary. do everything together and use the priesthood against the adversary's temptings.
That was wery sweet, i wish u well, evrything is working out for me is an positiv vibration, i wish my own family to, i got to tears, i feelt your struggle, i now that God is good 😁 😋 ☀️😇✝️
These videos are so wonderful. Love at home will make you and your family so happy.
wonderful!!
Wonderful video and a great message!
I really like this! Beautiful, hope-inspiring message. Exactly what we need :)
I needed this
So beautiful and touching and so true :)
Beautiful
“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person,
but I do know that Many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful.
I’ll be the first to admit that it’s possible that you did marry the wrong person.
However, if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all.
On the other hand, if you marry the right person and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person.
I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person.
In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.”
- Zig Zigla
great video!
am from Algerian. and i really apreciate what you are doing guys. keep it up
Not what I expected the video to be about, but I am still happy that SOMEBODY was able to salvage their marriage, even after the debt of divorce was created. It takes a special kind of love for 2 people to put aside their differences and selfishness to work out their problems. I wish my wife and I would have been able to work ours out. 2 years later and she is still happy with the man that replaced me. Now, if divorce would ever get affordable.
Absolutely amazing
Glad ye worked this out.
Lucky ye worked at it and figured it out.
God will always bless a marriage.. and no one can separate yous, unless you two agree to allow it to happen. Thats you and your partners choice.
Excellent Video...
Sometimes people laugh at the saying, the family who prays together, stays together, but its the truth! 😇🙏👍✨✨✨✨✨
thank you
This is big. This is what we call... Making it up.
Love this piece of story
That's cool!
I don't recall where or when I heard it, (And I don't want to google it right now). But I've heard it said that love is a choice. The people in this heart wrenching video struggled and eventually made a choice and worked in support of the choice. Life's not easy, it takes effort and hard work.
What am I doing to stay in LOVE with my Best FRIEND? Awesome video!
beautiful
amazing
It's because is true love GOD BLESS YOU
It didnt go this way for my family; how happy I am that it did for you! I miss my husband every day, but he decided to water the grass on the other side...
sorry to hear about this. have you expressed your desires to him to become a family again?
How beautiful!
The thought of him finding happiness with another woman drove her nuts. How dare he. Sorry but it had to be said.
It’s social conditioning to not want to keep commitments in relation to others. So the solution is don’t condition yourself. Skip the TV, skip most forms of public education, and don’t think that you’re immune. Turn your back on anything that does not resonate with love for others.And there’s a lot of that.
Everyone needs to be on board and doing their part to help make things work, it's okay to ask for help when we need to. Small and simple things bring great things to pass. I wish them the best, good story.
what song or soundtrack is used in the beginning do u guys know?
Scripture reading with the family is a KEY ingredient in any successful marriage...and the foundations of a Family
I am so inspired by this..... God is so Good !!!!