OUR FIRST FAMILY MEETING IN OUR NEW HOME WAS A FAIL
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- čas přidán 11. 06. 2019
- We tried to set all the rules for Our #NewHouse at our first #FamilyMeeting here! And that came with the usual challenges in trying to communicate with toddlers and that one rule is... Well just watch the video! #NOSHOESINTHEHOUSE
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Tatum house rules
1. Clean up what you mess up
2. Honor and Respect eachother
3. Use Kind Words
4. Always tell the Truth
5. 😃 God is watching you!
I love these! These are awesome rules
Even with an almost 18 year old our family has similar rules, just in a slightly different order.
😊👍
And it seem like the impossible at that time. I live by them all now. Time will change things.
Anaya is like a Super Chocolate Baby Rule Enforcer and I’m here for it😂😂
Jada Head 😂😂😂
Lol she is just so precious and so cute
My eyes water everytime I see her, she is just sooooo cute.
I caught myself smiling through the video. I love seeing black families thriving frfr. Where I'm from and the situation I grew up in I never seen this....i'm all emotional now
It's a beautiful thing to see. :-)
that super real. #m3too
Same here. I love watching black families and black love thrive!
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I lovve seeing it! Wish there was more of it
Riah was like I’m just gonna nod my head like I remember the shoe rack 😂😂😂
And Let em know Anaya 🗣 NO SHOES IN THE HOUSE!! 🗣
Glen you lost them like a friday afternoon work meeting
Dude 🤔 we didn’t grow up with this Bougie stuff like LOVE, family meetings where kids have input, and kind let downs while letting them know that their input and suggestions are actually heard and valued! 🙄🤦🏾♀️😢🤷🏾♀️
EVERYTHING WAS A RULE, but you didn’t know it until you violated it and got checked (usually verbally in front of everyone OR physically with a pop to the head, mouth or bottom) 😤
So I think EVERYTHING that you guys are doing is FABULOUS!!! 🙌🏾💯😂😂😂😂😂💝💖💛🧡💘💞💙💚♥️🖤✊🏿
MZWATSON804 Exactly!💯😂
Right!
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Too funny.. I just said something similar to this earlier... gotta love the 70s.and 80s.
👋🏾 fam. My rules while growing up in a Jamaican household:
1. No shoes in the house
2. Change clothes when you arrive from school
3. Do not allow friends to sit on your bed
4. Do not drink from beverage cartons
5. Keep room Tidy
I know that a standard when I was growing up in Guyana 🇬🇾
Thanks for the transparency. I've found it best to keep it short, sweet, and to the point with toddlers. Also affirmatives are great as opposed to negatives ("do this" instead of "don't do this"). May you and your family be blessed in your new home!
For sure, too many words are unnecessary. Also some pictures would help.
Violet Gutierrez Visuals for sure!
I agree, my kids would of lost me half way through 😂😂 🗣 no shoes in the house! It’s dirty! Point blank period lol
Anaya is my favorite person to watch
aspiretolove facts
Uriah is my fav ❤
Me too lol
A lot of Americans wear Shoes Indoors...
I've Always found that to be Strange 🤔🤔🤔
Thee Fashion Freak I’m American and I never liked that. I remember being little and taking off my shoes as soon as I got in the house but my parents would keep them on all day and I’m like ❓❓
Cosign. 100%. If people don't voluntarily take their shoes off when they come to my place, I politely ask them to. Only my parents refuse. I'm not a psycho about it:
it's not like I ask the HVAC guys.
Thee Fashion Freak i didnt know this! Thats where slippers come into play
Thee Fashion Freak I feel like it is more like movies that do that.
I’m black and we never wore shoes in the house, but we did wear houseshoes
Anaya copies everything her brothers do and that is adorable😭❤️
Beleaf, you're long winded Sir. Even I started to space out😂
I know you want them to understand, but they're kids. Simplification is your best option. LoL
Was coming to say same!!!! I started fast forwarding and I'm 35 hahahaha
Yes, short & sweet 🍠 although w kids (as well as older teens) you'll find repetition becomes necessary.
Keeping the right tone of voice is the real challenge! 😊👍🌹
@@rashidabrooks1947 lol I'm 42 and I just stopped the video.
@@rashidabrooks1947 Very true. With kids they have short attention spans. Repetition is the best. Show by doing.
I thought y'all were gassing it until I got to that part 😂😂😂😅
With lots of natural light, we only flip switches after 5! Saves a ton in electricity from lights alone. We open blinds and doors and let God show us the way, literally.
Deona Flowers love this idea ... thanks sis
Some of my aunt's rules was no eating in your room. Another rule was I had to be outside for at least an hour. Kitchen was closed after 7 and didn't open back up til 7 the next morning, except for food that was yours. There were alot more but I especially remember those because those were the ones I would sometimes break 😂😂 😂
lol @ the kitchen being closed. I definitely remember that!!
I remember that too. Also I’ve not eaten in my bedroom still and I’m 44.
Alright I’m losing em 😂😂😂 and Yvette just chuckles #housemeetingadjourned
The Chocolate Babies give me so much life. When they started laughing at Glen, I laughed so hard lol. And look at Anaya. She's the cutest rule enforcer!
I haven’t felt so connected to an internet family like this since I used to watch the shaytards when I was like 12. But with you guys it’s different, with the shaytards I was filling a void in my life because of family problems. Now I’m entering my 20’s and learning things about parenting and just life in general for my future, you guys are more real, less focused on being super funny and entertaining, just really authentic which is something that I think the shaytards lacked and why I ultimately lost interest. You guys are truly something special! I’m so excited for the new baby, no matter if it’s a boy or a girl I’m genuinely so excited for a new member of the family! Bless your family 💕
Hey Anaya💕😁 She’s the boss
***Idea fam: Make a lil family film with the house rules that you all came up with. Then you can use is it as a reference and watch it over and over again!
Blessings! 😊
I love this type of family conversations/communication. 😩😭🙏🏽🙌🏽
Loved the prayer 🙏🏾 before the rules. It’s so important to set standards spiritually. Well done Mom and Dad 💖
whew chileeee these babies gave it their best shot but the way their attention spans are set up....😂😂
Alexis Armstead 😂😂😂😂😂
Glen I love y'all BUT that loooong spill at the table lost me and I'm an adult. Just a friendly tip from someone who has 2 adult kids, keep it short and sweet. Ex: "No shoes in the house" would've been sufficient right off the bat. Short and sweet😊
Im sure they get it everyone parents different
Omg, this whole staff meeting is hilarious, reminds me of when my mom used to do this...but I remember the rule...NO SHOES IN THE HOUSE! hahaha
I just wanna say that I love and admire your parenting. My husband and I are expecting and I've been soaking in all your knowledge on everything and I thank you so much for sharing your life with all of us! Much love ❤️
God bless you.
me and my 4 siblings had one rule: to share! 😂😊
i don’t have kids but our rules growing up were:
1) no shoes in the house. we didn’t do the house shoes thing
2) sunday’s = family days!! eat breakfast as a family, do chores together and then relax afterwards to prepare for the week ahead
3) no eating in the room - dishes n silverware lead to unwanted bugs/pests
4) everyone must participate in chores
Uriah like.... "Naw homey, keep on talkin' but I'm finna lick my whole forearm LOL."
This is a great video I nearly fell off my chair when after agreeing to no shoes Anaya comes in with her shoes. Wonderful.
Your vids are actually enjoyable compared to every other channel. Nice intro btw
Thank you
Beleaf In Fatherhood yep, np
I LOVE that you're saying "Welcome Black." 🙏🏾
You should make the house rules into a song :)
I was halfway through talking about the rule that I have the hardest time getting the kids to follow before I realized that when I started typing I was answering your question, and at that point I was in the middle of my ten page essay discussing my children's seeming inability to follow it. Nobody needs that (except maybe the part of me that lives in whatever dimension of frustration it was that had unleashed several minutes of frenzied typing), so I deleted it. But I am here to say that the struggle is real, my friends. The struggle is real. Godspeed.
💛💛💛In my household we don’t say “rules” we say principles.
1. No shoes in the house
2. Change out of street clothes before laying in bed
3. Clean up messes made
4. Dinner together; if u cook I wash dishes
5. Weekly chores complete before fun outings
i love this channel soooooooooooooooooooooo much. yall are a breathe of fresh air :)
I just found this channel today, and I can't get enough😁😁😁😁, wonderful parenting!!!!!!
Riah Beau said reward me tho! Stars, play time, whatever man. 😂
Real talk you get Riah on board, you get everybody else 💯
In our house it is pretty simple 1. If you mess it up, you clean it up. 2. No eating anywhere in the house, but the kitchen or the dining room. 3. If you see something that needs to be done, do it (a full trash can, etc.). 4. No shoes past the mud area. Good luck with the rules, and again so happy for you guys.
Too much information at one time lol. Kids looking like whaaaat?!
Am I the only one who bowed my head and prayed with them. !? Lol 💕💕
I am one of 6 siblings. These were some of our basic rules:
-No food in the bedroom
-Everyone eats dinner together.
-No shoes in the house.
-No slamming doors
-Knock on closed doors
-Show respect to others.
-Ask permission to touch other ppls. property.
-Clean up after yourself
-Respect your space by keeping it clean and tidy.
-In keeping the house clean we were allowed to decide on a cleaning schedule amongst ourselves.
It’s Anaya little head peaking above the table for me. Love this family. 💜
I love the animations in the intro. The more I see of your new place, the more I LOVE IT! Watching you guys is better than watching blackish LOL I cannot wait to see all of you growing and thriving in your new place. :-)
Seriously just the fact that you thought to pray and make a family plan just blows me away! Praying my husband (who is titled in the church) can step up like this. 🙏🏽
I loved this! My kids are basically grown now (21 and 19), but we had family meetings too and this brought back memories. Kids can get you off task so quickly! Our daughter was the great distractor LOL. Our biggest rule was we never fussed in the morning. We never yelled before they left for school because the world is hard enough to navigate and your last thoughts and feelings should be good ones while you were out there. Seems lofty now, but it worked. Because we knew there was a no morning fussing rule clothes were picked out the night before, bedtimes were carried out because sleepy children, who are moving slowly make adults cranky. Things were signed at night and lunches were made the night before. It helped keep the kids in good spirits and us too. Few people believed we pulled it off, but most of the time we succeeded.
Lovely ideals! Home ife should be a refuge, it's a tough cold world out there.
Thank you for sharing that! 😊
Omg who else loves the New intro ❤
I sent this video to my baby who is 38yo. He sent me back 😂😂😂. He knew what the finger pop hand wave meant. Pay attention and sit back. I love y'all
Anaya is a lit boss😂😂
Adorable! The kitchen looks amazing and you guys are doing a great job with the kids.
Those rules need a commercial break haha! Great vlog!
You can tell Anaya is and has been held to standards way above baby talk. 👏🏽
The little beginning intro was so cute
Thank you! More later in the video
Good watch, growing up we had a rotating schedule for washing the dishes, keeping the common areas clean, vacuuming, and taking out the trash. 4 girls all 3 years apart.
Why is Anaya sitting there like the vp of the company in that chair 😂😂😂😂
This was good. Rules at our hours were too many rules. Clean it, wash it, fix it, help the younger ones, obey your elders, keep an eye out and tell before you get told on. Main one, share everything. Life was hard with six children in the house, but, we SURVIVED. Thanks Mom and Dad... You were really the coolest . Glenn this will all work itself out. They're listening I promise you.
Families seem to flourish when all family members follow God's Rules🙏..... This is a beautiful family ❤️ God bless them in big ways🤗
House chores ideas: tidying up their rooms under supervision to avoid messing about 😆, clearing play area, setting and clearing dinner table, loading and /or emptying dishwasher. Cleaning the bathtub and the basins around 7/ 8 is a good age to start for that one. Vacuuming their bedrooms...
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!!!! We had to make our beds every morning. Anaya is too funny she really keeps up with the boys, I love her spirit. Love the chocolate babies giving life!!!!
I love how your family is progressing - I am grateful 💚🙏🏾🙌🏾
This was adorable. In our house:
1. No phone calls during dinner (the phone was on the wall and my Dad would answer- Embarrasin! Lol). Family discussion/meeting happened at the dinner table.
2. No TV until after homework was done.
3. Clean up your toys after playing with them or they will disappear (this includes when friends come over)
4. Every Saturday clean your room and remove the sheets from your bed for washing.
There were more but those were the early rules.
May I suggest you come up with the best three rules that will help the Chocolate Babies help/contribute to the household. Add more as they mature, and give privileges to the older ones as they get it right. They are largely behavioral now so explanations don't have the impact you are probably expecting. This is where "because I said so" came from all those years ago. When they ask why, then they are ready for the explanation.
Pride Family Rules
1. no shoes in the house ESPECIALLY not upstairs
2. no eating in our rooms, that's what the kitchen is for
3. no slamming or locking of doors until u start paying bills
4. all chores must be completed either on or by Sunday morning
Large white paper some markers and pictures of shoes or table or running with 🚫over it helps. Keep it short like shoes off sit on chair, walking feet, etc and repeat often👍😉 oh yea write it with them, helps them remember
I had to wash dishes and that I had to keep my room clean
U guys are an adorable family!!! #Blacklove!! The best!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I kept hearing..."Stop Going In And Out The House! Decide To Either Stay Outside Or Inside! If You Need Something To Drink, Keep A Gallon Of Water Out There With You!"
There were 8 of us, and everyone had a chore that we switched up every week. We helped with the cooking; everyone did something. We always prepared for the coming week, so we had to prepare our school clothes, bags, etc. We were at home, but in my mother's army....lol...
We had a BOMB chore calendar. My dad didn’t leave much up to chance so he made sure we knew what our responsibilities were as the children of the kingdom.
Naya stays winning with her cuteness. Uriah- is real negotiator and the Theo is totally keen. Rules are important and protect the kids and human beings from all sorts of bad. Happy Fathers' day and enjoy your new home. :-)
That was a great gift and you will love that cooler
I'm enjoying seeing Anaya's personality blossom!!!💕💕💕
Rules from my home (that come to mind) growing up:
1. Put a handle to adults' names when addressing them, or responding to a call (you definitely didn't say "what" when responding to a call)
2. Say good morning before saying anything else./Speak when you enter a home, or see people.
3. Make your bed immediately after rising (otherwise, you'll get back in it and won't get your day started).
I love Yvette she's a true teacher at heart💓
I’m not even gonna lie, I got distracted in this family meeting😂😂🥰And the main reason I gave up in school when young was because I felt like there was no positive outcome,all I wanted was praise or a “gold star”it’s like being paid for going to work, being told that’s what I’m supposed to do was the most infuriating,frustrating thing as a child
This is by far my favorite CZcams family!
“The dirt outside is dirty”. Beleaf that’s when you lost them
@12:59 Oldest son accurately corrects father. And fathers reaction, his "Kevin Hart" moment, was just priceless. You could even hear Moma chuckle in background. Lmao
Its alright dad. I've been told i can be long too. We are just trying to be crystal clear. "Is everyone on board?"...so-to-speak...leaving little room for unauthentic excuses.
Though, I appreciate the reminder that i too can have refinable patterns and thus opportunity.
Continued guidance & protection!
Pause...that's good Papa and Mama, to think about the ideas Uriah has. Mama good expressing your thoughts, Papa good saying we will discuss later and get back to the kids with an answer. That was a good moment of acknowledging and validating. I'll give that a gold star...that doesn't always happen. Okay back to the clip.
@ 12:12 see i'm naturally like that too (no rewards for things you should be doing) but that's the same thing god does for us...he rewards us for things we already should do. Idk I feel like it can be spread to kids too bc positive reinforcement can be encouraging in the future for anything but ultimately i'm not a parent. I just know how god treats us tho
Aye, Baltimore! The Orioles spatula is pretty dope.
One of the house rules I grew up with was to finish the food on your plate...the bad part was that my dad piled on a ton of food on the plate...an adult portion...uggh!
Hopefully y'all never went to a buffet 😄😄😄 I grew up with a similar rule and hated when we went to buffets 😂
@@kandijones1421 Thank God he didn't. You know the funny part, my dad was a chef...you think he would have known about portions...go figure...
"The dirt outside is dirty"...yes sir.
Garfield...hahaha God i love those kids too funny!!! Happy Father's Day!!!
Three rules I remember from my childhood: 1. Change out of school uniform when you get home 2. Do your homework and shower before parents get home 3. No phonecalls after 9pm
“Garfield “🤣🤦♀️
Hey....insomnia pays off tonight.
Haha
Growing up was.
1. No one is allowed in the bedrooms. All doors are shut when we have visitors except the bathroom.
2. No t.v in the bedroom. No eating.
3. Lots of chores! LOTS. We would rotate between. We get a free chore pass (meaning no chores) on our birthdays.
So proud of you all new home 🏠 congratulations 🍾
Yvette, I agree, you shouldn't be rewarded for things you should be doing like cleaning up after yourself. However, a gold star is more like acknowledgement that you're doing what you should be doing. When you're doing what you should be, you can enjoy privileges like the cell phone (this is my case, maybe watch tv for your case). A reward is more like ice cream. Yes? No?
Hi Daddy Beleaf, you and Mrs are doing a great job of the hardest job on earth, parenting. It’s great you’re teaching your children of the rule 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾. As a child i had difficulty understanding because no one explain rules or anything, my siblings and I were expected to know. Life was a guessing game😠. Keep teaching and being a great role model to your beautiful babies 👌🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
The first rule that I thought of was "No eating in the rooms". 🤣 I guess all of the other ones were not as important since we needed to be reminded of this one so much.
Aww, I like how everything looks so family-like ♥️
I grew up in a house of 7 brothers. we all had chores and rules. setting, and clearing the tables, cooking dinners. cleaning the house, plus going to school, No allowance, so we had to find part time jobs after school if we wanted some spending money. I had paper route with 2 of my other brothers.
Pure love. Awesome
"This is a marital discussion that we need to discuss..." This is awesome. I am always in awe of couples who are married with children and keep the children aware that you all are on each other's team first.
"... but I understand that you want a golden star. I'm listening to you. You a heard." Wow! I love how clearly and intentionally you communicated that you value Uriah's input. That kind of affirmation, especially from a dad helps kids want to keep participating in family life. It's not always going to go Uriah's way, but he's going to see that his Dad consistently takes time to understand and value his thoughts. That was beautiful.
I'm praying for your family and your on-going rule discussion. May God bless your marriage, your parenting, and continue to be center of it all-- making the way you merge the two holy and seamless.
Yvette is low key the enforcer and also cool as hell. I feel like she is always kind of on kids sides Lololol.
No eating in the living room, no shoes in the house, you better make that bed (I used to have junk in my closet) but my bed was made fun sho! Congrats again on the new house.
Everytime you post I get so happy! Hey family
“I will get back to you on the golden stars....you were heard.” I cannot.😂
Uriah is just soo chill. Love it!
Anaya’s smile 😍😍😍
Our number one rule in our house is Andersens never quit! We also remind our kids to use kind hands, kind words, kind actions. We don’t use shut up or hate. We pray often. We love God and love people. ❤️