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I am also autistic and share my sensory struggles along with my experiences with mental health disorders.
I show what its like having a disability and the accomodations I have to help my daily life. I am also an ambulatory wheelchair user showing my life using mobility aids and how symptoms change from day to day!
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Day and night. It’s crazy the differences that pop up when having a meeting with someone typical, instead of like me.
@@user-do8xy1pn9kWhat? They just agreed with the video.
What new retardation is this? Is it to be added to lbtg crap-tard list?
One of my brother's best teachers had ADHD like pretty much all of his students.
One time a kid was tapping a pencil, so he just swapped it out with a foam ball he had in his desk and never broke stride from the way he'd pace all around the room while teaching. The kid got to keep tapping but all the other easily distracted people didn’t have to listen to it. The pacing also gave them something else to focus on.
It was the little things that most neurotypical people wouldn't have considered that really meshed well with his students.
Don't care I just won a ranked game
I LOVE YOUR TEACHER
omg 😭😭
do care :) your teacher sounds great
@@Shushfrrn🗿🍷 (no hate tho that sounds like a really cool and kind teacher I wish I had them )
As a neurotypical person, I wouldn't have any problem with someone visibly fidgeting while I was in a formal meeting with them. If someone is neurodivergent, I want to know all I can for me to better understand and accomodate them. Sometimes, realizing that someone is neurodivergent helps me interpret their actions correctly. For example, if someone neurotypical doesn't make eye contact with me, they're probably not paying attention and it's a sign of disrespect. But if they're neurodivergent, it's probably something else going on. But I totally understand why neurodivergent people mask - I would too! That's why I really appreciate what you're doing to inform people about neurodivergence. Increased communication and awareness doesn't just help neurodivergents, it helps neurotypicals who want to work with them!
Youre a rare breed of nuerotypical. Most nuerotypicals tell me they dont think im autistic and then tell me im weird or disrespectful.
@@plutopaey373 hmm yes very logical
So many of our tics, needs, coping mechanisms, etc. are seen as "not work appropriate." I'm autistic and I need to fidget/stim as well, which is seen as childish, and I hate that because stimming allows me to actually be more present.
I also have a lot of sensory issues which means I hide from bright lights, jolt "exaggeratedly" at loud noises, avoid physical contact, etc. While not seen as immature, these things do attract attention, get laughs, and disrupt my work environment due to people thinking I am disrupting THEIR workplace/thinking they can just comment/not realizing I have no control over these reactions. Working with other neurodiverse humans is SO NICE!
I’m just a retail worker, but I get this so much. I’m technically allowed to fidget, stim, and crap but I have to do it with all eyes on me, and then block out everything when counting money or something important because I can’t deal with it anymore, you are making noise and moving again customers.
Or worse, the kids toys/lights that get left on and I have to just leave and remove them from the register display shelves because I lose my ability to human and could seizure in their presence. But it doesn’t look normal, and I don’t have the word ability to explain it either.
Ugh, I don’t even try to be “normal” but I don’t want to deal with the humans either.
And it can be a distraction for others.
@@ProtagonistVonhearing what you had to say I can't really identify with and it brought tears to my eyes😢
Yeah, isn't it just awful when normies treat you as if you're "disrupting THEIR workplace" when in fact they and their workplace are disrupting you.
@@rosiefay7283 You have posted such an odd interpretation of reality.
It took the longest time for me to realize that I needed to occupy myself with some sort of activity in order for me to concentrate during meetings. I became famous for drawing amazing art during a meeting but still being able to recite exactly what everyone said during the meeting, what the topics were and all the take away points. Yup, I’m a neurodivergent
I drew a lot during class in elementary school. My teacher let me, because she knew I was listening. Later I only did it occasionally.
@@Alinor24same except my teachers didn’t let me . Everytime i got caught doodling id get yelled at and it given detention . Even did it in high school and my teachers would be like “Kitty2ism you need to stop doing that and start paying attention (was diagnosed with ADD at the time but my pediatrician refused to medicate me at the time said i just needed to ignore it (later learned that dr was a quack when i had a serious physical issue she told me was just ovulation pain and to just take Tylenol years later i learned that pain was the first signs of endometriosis)
I became the note-taker for every meeting and wrote down every word everyone said...and then had to boil it down for the minutes but no-one could ever deny saying anything and no-one could steal other people's ideas and every word was filed away in my little pad to be referred back to later. So much stuff gets missed in meetings because people aren't listening to each other and everything is so political.
I don't know if anyone who takes the time to read this can relate, but.... I'm a 58 year old lady who has struggled her entire life feeling like I'm from another planet. I can remember as a child, my mother pulling roughly at my fingers which were hanging onto the bathroom towel rail...knuckles white, tears streaming down my face, because she insisted I meet a visitor to our home. I didn't know how to speak to people I didn't know. At a very early age, I completely over analysed every conversation I had. When I was in my 20s, I had a boyfriend whose favourite thing in the world was socialising and I remember going to a party with him and I spoke not one single word to anyone....NOT ONE. I have zero sense of direction, so I don't travel alone. I get lost very easily. Busy places completely overwhelm me....too much noise, light, street signs. I recently confided in someone whom I thought would understand (she has a young granddaughter who is autistic) Oh boy was I wrong. She really rolled her eyes at me and said " Oh God, people always HAVE to HAVE something nowadays. Please don't self diagnose from the internet, that's ridiculous " She has made me reluctant to seek any help or try to get any advice. When I watch videos of people explaining things like inattentive ADD, I could cry, because it's like listening to my entire life. 😭
I'm so sorry for everything you've been through alone.
The Internet makes it so much easier than it used to be, to find people like ourselves who understand our daily struggles. It's not enough to erase what's already happened, but it's enough to give hope for the future.
I wish you all the best. ❤
@@dragonfloof5484 thank you so very much for your kind and thoughtful words. 🩷🙏🏻🩷
i’m sorry that the person you confided in was so dismissive! please don’t pay her any mind, she’s clearly very biased. i’m diagnosed with adhd & have been told by doctors i also have autistic traits, and your experiences sound a lot like my own and the experiences of many other neurodivergent people. if you want to seek help or advice, don’t let what she said discourage you-she doesn’t know what she’s talking about 🙄
@@resveries_ thank you so much for your kind and very much appreciated words.
I can relate and don't let one selfish person put you off
Both of my lawyers are neurodivergent and I can’t tell you how Fantastic it is
I bet they couldn't 1v1 me
EXACTLY. I feel like an 8000 year old and a 6 year old at the same time. Why isn't this talked about more?!
Same here!! Getting a job in a nonprofit for and by disabled people has been LIFE-CHANGING would highly recommend 👌🏻
YES I'm exactly the same! Just met up with the people that are training my assistance dog and it was so much more chill than seeing neurotypicals for the first time! 💛
It's so dumb to generalize people like that. What do you eve. Mean by neurodivergent?
@@ericspagnoli1594sounds so arrogant doesn’t it? I thought the same thing.
I struggle and have always struggled with social interactions, formal meetings, and communication - but I can never consider myself a victim in the way that so many flock to in today’s age.
We’re all unique and no one is “neurotypical” - wth even is that anyway.
Don’t fall into this little box of victimhood.
“A “neurodivergent” person refers to a person on the autism spectrum or, more generally, to someone whose brain processes information in a way that is not typical of most individuals.
These people may have learning disabilities, attention deficit and anxiety disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and Tourette’s syndrome. Through a neurodiversity lens, such conditions reflect different ways of being that are all normal human experiences.
Although “neurodiversity” is usually used to describe a group of neurodivergent individuals, it also refers to all of humankind because everyone has a unique way of processing information.”
@@ericspagnoli1594 I don't want to have an argument or anything but I'll share why I said what I said in the way I did. I was commenting in response to the original video talking about neurodivergent people. Neurodivergent means "differing in mental or neurological function from what is considered typical or normal". I am autistic so I would fall under this category. I said neurotypicals as a generalised term. I do not mean all neurotypicals are not easy to talk to nor am I saying all neurodivergent people are easy to talk to. I simply have a communication difference so typically find it more difficult when the other person doesn't have similar experiences to me or don't understand :)
@@bt8208 Hey! Sorry I don't understand what was arrogant?
I in no way think I'm a "victim" of anything. Yes I may have more barriers but I never complain about it in any way. I'm simply a human trying to live my life :)
@millygd955 who told you that u were autistic? Or did you self diagnose because you seem just antisocial more than anything, people get diagnosed/self diagnose themselves with autism because it's pretty cool now for some reason and some powerful rich ppl supposedly have it aswell.
It's not just that other neurodivergent people get each other on so many levels, it's also that neurodivergent people are wholesome and usually more honest and it doesn't hurt that aside from their social skills, they are really highly intelligent.
I don't like talking to "normal" people, but if they have something like ADHD or Autism or the like I can talk to them for hours.
Just thought i'd say that.
I am gonna dispell a myth: not all autistic people are wholesome. I think what you said is infantilazation in a way. I mean no ill will when I say this, just to educate, but as an autistic person being called "wholesome" feels like being compared to a baby or something tiny. I'm an adult 😅 I have stuff I think that isn't innocent or wholesome.
I've also met autistic people I don't get along with who were super rude. Not all of us are kind; we share a diagnosis, but we still can have opposing morals and views 😅
I also feel like we can be intelligent, I agree there, but we still struggle at times to put our minds to use. Autism has high rates of comorbidity with learning disabilities. It's a positive generalization to assume we're all intelligent, but to say this isnt harmful would be lieing to you. You have to remember something: we have stuff that works for us a certain way, and other methods of learning don't work. Thus, we are all different. There is no monolith for the autism experience 😅
Also, certain subjects we are not that good at. Like, I have discalculia and dyslexia and dysgraphia. I'm smart, but I can't read that quickly or write without pain or do math in my head or very fast 😅
I was stuck in my head thinking I wasn't trying hard enough when teachers assumed I needed less help due to being "smarter" or "gifted".
I hope this helped you out! Again, no ill will. Just sharing what I've noticed.
Going through life with your mindset might have you met with dissapointment 😅
@@thepeculiarmaplenot all neurodivergent folks are autistic :3
@@itsfernn and still not every neurodivergent person is wholesome. I'm audhd and while I generally have more neurodivergent friends and think the world would be a better place if more people accepted us, I also don't think we should aim for neurodivergent superiority. But there's definitely nuance when it comes to like anti neurodivergent eugenics (choosing against potential audhd genes in the womb). It's complex....
Neurodivergents mesh well together because we have a mutual understanding that if our thought processes were lines, neither of ours would be straight. They’d curve off somewhere, and we know how best to encounter curves in the line because we also have curves. Very easy communication based off mutual understanding.
I am a non neurdivergent person. I am an old white military veteran. Who totally loves your story ❤❤
welcome! i appreciate the support! 🙌🏻
I’m so happy for you. That’s what I look for in as many aspects of my life as possible. Amazing that you can have that in your work 💗
Your story is so important! Hopefully, your new project works out for you. ❤
I'm ND & I feel like 'meeting casual' is maybe my default 🙈 I'm not sure if that's how I am unmasked, or whether it's just that the social rules are clearer and simpler. Not that I follow them particularly well, but it's comfortable. It allows me to be my nerdy self. Until I get too POTSy and too antsy to stay in my chair, anyway 😅
Eye contact. It bothers me when people tell me that I need to provide it. (phoo) Don't do that, DON'T, DO, THAT. I need more stim toys. The kind that I can use to signify my stress levels by making them squeal/squawk/scream/whatever more loudly if I am more stressed out. Maybe that will get those neurotypicals to chill with their crap.
For real it like being in a completely different culture language and the shock of that AND IT NEVER GOES AWAY.
But when you find someone like you its instant understanding knowing comfort and rightness absolute relaxed because you dont have to mask without even realising it you can just be and by doing so you actually end up being more "meeting appropriate" and calm and your brains connect that you just click and are so much more efficient and good at it.
Ugh its like night and day honestly.
Can I just say that you’re extremely pretty? Like- that is natural beauty right there, and I absolutely love your clothing style! You do you, girl!
Everyone's different. Understanding and embracing this is what some people lack! 😊❤
I like meetings where we get things done.
This is so true. I'm glad for you !
Yay that’s so good I’m so glad the meeting went well! ❤
You make everyone feel very comfortable Zara. I'm amazed at all of your accomplishments. At only eighteen your way above your years. You are a perfect content creator. You rock!!!😊😊😊😊
Same for me with being in a relationship with another neurodivergent person. We’re both just fully unmasked with each other and it’s great. Love it when neurodivergent peeps find each other
I’m a neurodivergent child and watching you has been absolutely amazing I don’t have Tourette’s but I do have autism and Asperger’s syndrome and you have been an absolute inspiration to me like you don’t care what people say and you fight back on them meanwhile I’m over here struggling to get es staff and funding in Australia it just sucks god I love you your so cool
-Shelby
Yeah for you!
Impressive!
Good job using your supports and educating others!
I agree, it’s like when you try to have your back arched for too long, it doesn’t feel right.
I find it pretty easy to spot atypical people. With the atypical, the conversation almost immediately lights up and laughter almost immediately shows. This doesn't happen with NT's.
I’ve never been diagnosed with anything other than adhd but the “I feel like an 8 year old and a 40 year old in the same body” resonated so much with me. I have a very immature sense of humor and I’m often loud and I love bright colors and I kinda dress like a kid. But I also feel alienated from the people my age because I feel so much more emotionally mature than everyone around me. I no longer care bout the thinngs other girls my age are caring about. I feel so grown up and like a child at the same time
Communication among those you can relate can be key.
You always do such amazing job on what you do and you are very smart at what you doing. Thank you zara for being such an amazing person you are today 🙂 Keep staying strong and keep up the hard work you do 🙂
Omg thank you for voicing this! I'm usually good at masking but when it comes to job and business my abilities to mask abandon me regularly. -.- It's a real struggle that so few people seem to understand.
We should always do meetings that are informal and we don't need to mask. You're videos are amazing btw 😊😊
I'm a store manager of a little supermarket. I'm also autistic/ADHD. The thing I love about my store is how many neurodivergents there are here running the store together. Including my co-manager AND the owner.
I'm close to 50 and work in a big company and I have a lot of 'business' meetings both internally and with customers... As I've got older I've realised that the best meetings are when me and the people I'm meeting are 'who they are' and not 'putting on a business facade'. There's almost a maturity curve where: When you are very young, you are 'yourself', as you go into the world, you put on a 'business/other' facade. Eventually - if you're lucky - you go back to just being 'you'. The best meetings happen when everyone is there without a facade and everyone is 'themselves'.
I used to have to fidget a lot during class and so I would hold my fidgets under the table so I wouldn't distract others, one of my teachers likes to make a big deal out of it during class every day and she would yell at me and take the fidgets away. This was before I got diagnosed with adhd and it made me really upset when she did this because it would make me get stared at a lot (I also have an anxiety disorder). I got diagnosed that summer and she retired earlier this year, I wish I could've showed her how much I actually needed those "toys" to focus during her lessons.
Gotta love the squishy ball! I use it when I have to make phone calls! It's very helpful for me!
Between your cuteness your attitude the ability as far as I'm concerned a person that is not only very pretty but also confident you are just a very amazing girl❤
I'm autistic and I've actually started to become excited when I meet knew people because I'm so great and they get experience me!!! And also, I kind of find it fun to play a character once in a while because it makes it so much easier to know what to say if I just imagine what my character would say. That's just me tho, ur completely valid for not liking meetings.
I love this! My Son was a forerunner forty years ago More and more young people are being born like this which shoes others we can be our authentic selves
I absolutely adore Snow On the Beach. And i didnt know why. Like its my favourite song off Midnights. Now youre explaining it and its literally a sequel to "Untouchable" (another song I'm obsessed with). The dreamy, ethereal energy really speaks to me as a way to explain being in love.
This just highlights how much I masked for the late 64 years. And still do.
I will always speak to neurodivergent people. ❤
It would be really awesome if there was some kind of symbol or sign that people could use to signify that they are a safe place for neurodivergent people, like there is for LGBT friendly spaces. I’d like for people to know that even though I am neurotypical presenting that they don’t have to mask or apologize or feel nervous about being themselves around me.
This is my first time seeing your videos and you get it! Sometimes it feels like I have the wisdom, logic and experience of an elder but then I can pop off and sound giddy, a little bit too loud like a toddler when I talk about a show I really like. It feels very...off place and isolating when you are the only person in the room who gets in. I am hoping to make more friends and surround myself with individuals who also get it 😂
I have ADHD the struggle is real so I appreciate the opportunity to talk to people who are going through similar things so we understand eachother
Oh wow, I just now got off work and am sitting in my car about to drive home. I was working as a security guard standing in the lobby of a world trade center while there was a meeting going on, and I felt like a teenager in a 43-year-old body, pretending to be a security guard. I did not know that was a common neurodivergent thing. I've always felt that way.
First ❤ also love ur channel ❤❤❤❤
I had a virtual meeting with a fellow neurodivergent and it was so good. I really felt understood and cared about which was nice. They helped put me at ease by being ok with who they were I think
All I know is... you have such a great personality and disposition.
thank you!
now I just miss my neurodivergent kindred soul friends:(
when I talked to my mother a few days ago, I told her that I really appreciate conversations with that one friend, probably because of her being neurodivergent and we can relate to each other. And my mum was like: "What's neurodivergent?"
I know she didn't mean anything by it, but my inner voice was like: "Here! Your child."
Anyways, thank you a lot for your content, showing your daily struggles in public and giving everyone here a safe place. I really appreciate your videos and don't take your openness for granted.
(And please execuse my English skills. I am a non native speaker.)
And love and hugs to everyone!
(-> if you feel comfortable with it)
💕🌼🌈🌿🐝
I feel this so much. As a neurospicy person with disabilities it can be exhausting to put on that mask. Much more fun and productive to be able to just discuss things openly without all the formality.
Same, I prefer talking to neurodivergents, I feel less judged and I feel it's a more authentic interaction 🙌🏻
I absolutely love you. Youve really helped me come to the conclusion im in the same boat. ❤❤
Im ND myself, and though I've gotten really good at masking it, to the point that its pretty much second nature, it is still SO refreshing when I can just be me. Like I never even realized how much I masked my "quirks" until I found myself in an environment where being yourself (specifically in reference to being atypical) was not only accepted but encouraged. Its one of the reasons I spend so much time online, because it just so happens that there's a very significant crossover between neurodivergent people and people that participate in online gaming communities and shit.
Hell yeah! I work for a famous companies and we have a private channel for neurodivergent folks. When we’re on the same meetings there’s a lot more unmasking. Or winks when neurotypical are in the same meetings
When I was still on an international server, I got into contact with two autistic people that felt to me like they were the easiest to chat with. Like everything they said and did made perfectly sense and there was never an awkward misunderstanding between us because we were always on the same wavelength. It felt like I finally found someone who could understand and speak my language after being lost in a foreign countries for many years. Words can't describe the happiness I felt that time. It's thanks to these people that I realized that I'm autistic too and that I'm not alone with my struggle
I'm the same as you and hope that we don't ruin "neurotypical" business atmospheres. I can't manage that environment but people who thrive under pressure need it, and I never want that impeded upon.
We have so much cultural influence because of the internet, but I don't want our influence to make other peoples' lives suck.
Companies who are down to vibe in whatever ways makes their employees more productive is my jam, but companies who thrive best under competition, tension, and one-up and hip shouldn't be looked down on. They're people, too.
100% agree. On a side note your outfit is also super cute
my best friend is neurodivergent and i have been told i have an “adhd personality” so we get along so well. the first time i met him was so great because he was super open about being autistic and it allowed me to be more open about my chronic illness’s.
I totally relate. I have ADHD and I'm a private tutor and when I work with other people with ADHD, especially adults, it's so much easier. It's like we just get each other. And I don't have to make eye contact.
girll, the whole “8 year old child and a 40yo woman in an 18yo’s body” is literally me but switch the 18 and 40, even though my body&face (which I guess is body too hah! still looks and feels 18 too 😅 but totally agreed! except that I haven’t got a job atm 😂 but like still, so truee
Having aspergers makes me obsessed with neuroscience so I wanna invent gadgets to assist others and also raise awareness so we get more respect.
Love you channel! You have such a pleasant voice 🫶🏼
I teach ESL online so every day I work is meetings
But I'm grateful that since I work remotely I can hide my hands from the camera and mess with things when I need to
I never heard that term neurodivergent till recently but I'm definitely that and it's very difficult to get along with other people although people think I'm outgoing and friendly and I never know what I'm going to say and sometimes I offend people to the point that it's not good and so I tend to be a recluse and avoid people a lot and I worry about things I've said and done and I agonize over it. People are not forgiving they just don't want to be around you and I understand that but I'm glad to have a name for it.
So true meetings always make me overthink and have anxiety 😩
I love mixing it up. I use words and movements.
6,000 like! also, i completely understand that. it’s just such a difference!
I have ADHD and am currently at my first "big girl job" since graduating college (call center/appointment scheduling/general admin type stuff for a health center org) and somehow the department I'm in is like...half neurodivergent, especially ADHD. And it specifically seems like the people who are the most attracted to the work the department does and are the most successful at it *are* the people with ADHD, which is really refreshing a lot of the time.
Me is the same I love it because it’s harder for a neurotypical person to understand sometimes
Agree totally
Glad for you...
I've got ADHD and I love meetings... with others who have ADHD or the likes. A meeting can be reduced in time and still everything that needs to be discussed is dealed with, combined with side gigs, jokes and funny noises....
Youre doing amazing lass
i work backstage at profesional theatre companies, i was recently on a production where i was an assistaint stage manager, and both the stage manager and tech. director were neurodiverse, as a neurodiverse person myself, it was great to work with other people like me
So proud!
As one who has been accused of being neurodivergent (no official diagnosis yet) I like talking to neurodivergent people too. They always seem to know exactly what they like, in detail, and they always seem to have their priorities straight.
It's very birds of a feather flock together when you find people who's thought process works the same way yours does it just clicks and everything becomes so much easier.
this is the reason we get burnout, level of work place acceptance vs formality because formality precludes passion and A joy, so we cannot use passion for intrinsic motivation but must force ourselves to meet the same obligations without intrinsic motivation just like we did in school. we need to be able to show excitement in our bodied
The 8 year old child mixed with 40 year old woman is bang on me too! 😂😂
I was so lucky to be a part of a youth consultation project where half the group was LGBT and neurodivergent, including our supervisor and the whole experience was incredibly amazing. I wish all meetings were like this, neurdoviergent or not
Aaaah you’ve got the same squashy as me doesn’t it smell lovely !!!!!❤
When I met my ex's best friend for the first time we had about ten different conversations in the space of 5 minutes, at the end of it the friend goes "that was a fantastic ADHD conversation we just had". I was immediately like YES YOU GET ME, it was very refreshing to talk to someone new whose head works the same way mine does.
Literally any ''adult'' task that has to be done in group is so much better when you're a bunch of neurodivergent person. I only realized it when my friendgroup ended up being only neurodivergent people, we are so much more efficient collaborating together, finding odds but cool tricks to keep us focused on the task, have either the deepest conversation about our existence during our breaks, or the most childish ones. It became so normal to me now to work with neurodivergent friends that it's really hard for me when I have to work with neurotypical students for once, I feel super weird and I completely disappear and hope that someone will end up guiding me because I can't understand what's happening, and my stims often bother their ability to focus, so I'm more focused on finding ways to keep my hands and feet busy without bothering them than the actual project '^^
As someone who stutters when their anxiety peaks and has a hard time talking to new people i find it frustrating when people tease or don't believe me when it happens
I've been knitting in meetings for a while and I found it so obvious when conventional corporate wisdom decided that fidget toys help people concentrate and be creative. It seemed so obvious to me.
I bounce my legs A LOT! Lol and I play with my hair and I can’t sit still for for anything!! I click pens and I keep a tennis ball handy to squeeze and or bounce!! I craft as much as possible to keep my hands and mind busy! 🤪😳
Biggest difference for me is
Neurotypical meeting is boring and exhausting and in the end I dont remember a word and feel like it only hinders my progress.
Neurodivergent meeting: so many nice ideas, time flies 3h no problem, shit gets done
Please film a room tour. I would love to see ❤
one day!!
I know right. It's THE BEST
This days I'm thinking a lot about why should we appear all the same way and if someone has a different cognitive organization shoud act to be approved!! I feel like we should change and nobody in a very lovely world shoud hide their own caracteristics!!! It would be perfect but...only someone I think could understand this...
I'm tired sorry for mistakes
This isn't quite the same situation, but this video reminded me of it. During (I can't remember if it was at the beginning or the end, but it was one of the two) a Shrek rehearsal in highschool, the adults were giving announcements or something, and I was laying my head on my neurodivergent friend's lap while they stroked my hair. The stage lights were on so it was really bright, and I have sensory issues. The choir/theatre teacher/music director told me to sit up and listen to the director talking. It really bothered me and I almost blurtes out "you listen with your ears, not your eyes", but I knew that'd get me yelled at and while I can tolerate bright lights most of the time, yelling brings me to a near panic attack. I didn't know I was autistic back then (though I suspected it), so I didn't have an IEP or anything saying what I needed, and I didn't know how to communicate it or even understand most of it. That teacher in particular was terrible to me when it came to mental health or really anything that wasn't completely neurotypical, but those are stories for another day.
I'm neurodivergent with anxiety problems and by talking to people (got my haircut today, for example 😐), and they definitely are different experiences
How can a neurotypical person help make neurodivergent people feel more comfortable in professional situations? I would love to know so I can implement that in my workplace 😊
My autistic mind is thinking: having a meeting agenda prepared in simple bullet points but also allow a timeframe for any open questions...a mix of organized time and less formal time. Also i would advise to not pressure anyone to answer a specific question on the meeting itself. If someone is getting unconfortable just tell them they can come back with feedback when theyre ready (via email, chat, whichever theyre most confortable with). It could be cool for the meeting summary to not only have text but some kind of graphic schematics - something visual. Im thinking about the things that make me lose it. You guessed it: meetings. I hope more people give you suggestions.
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@@Zara_Beth sending you hugs and wish you a lovely day.
Same! I can comfortably be myself with other neurodivergents
You’re amazing sweetie ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Sounds awesome! 😍😍😍😍
Yes definitely. Im neurodivergent and it’s so difficult trying to obey all the social rules and all I want to do is just be me.
you rock and inspiring
Neurodivergent myself, Finally holding down a job now that I have one where people leave me alone and let me do my thing.
that’s amazing for you! ❤