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If you can’t tell when someone is lying, it opens you up to being manipulated, cheated on, or stolen from, and having no idea until it’s too late.
So in today’s video, we’ll go through 9 tricks for spotting a liar.
We’ll do this by breaking down some clips of actors lying about the movie Spiderman: No Way Home. Fair warning, there will be minor spoilers.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro
0:47 - #1: They avoid answering questions
1:08 - #2: Watch for duper's delight
2:05 - #3: Establish a baseline of their normal behavior
3:17 - #4: They give a soft response
3:21 - #5: Watch for deception testing
4:47 - #6: They give indirect responses
6:15 - #7: The "Bill Clinton" method
6:46 - #8: A bigger laugh than normal
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andrew just wanted us to have the best cinema experience possible and now he's in these liar videos lol
Lol, true, but I feel like that kind of cornering could easily be avoided by explaining that if he was or wasn't he won't say so as to keep the hype & mystery alive for the cinema release, the way he approached it is he'll either spoil it or become a liar
Tom Holland was let out easy with that official teaser trailer about him getting fake spoilers lol
I think it was a good idea to take these situations as an example, since spoilers are a lighthearted topic and other examples of lying are often less lighthearted. It is because he had good intentions with it, that he was taken as an example. It avoids offending the person taken as an example 😁
Its all in good fun though, which is cool. I'm glad people aren't being mean to andrew anymore.
@@TheMistOfThePast My apologies, could you please elaborate on that? I wasn't aware of that 🙏🏻
I believe it's called an NDA
Thx for the info! Next time I'll avoid these mistakes when I lie :)
🤣🤣🤣
FR that's what i was thinking 😭 they just gonna enhance their techniques
I love your honesty! :)
@@brandonbeard4019 plot twist, he's lying, he will not avoid the mistakes
Facts
Poor Andrew being the primary feature of a video about lying alongside multiple convicted murderers like Chris Watts 😭
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@@AxxLAfriku You is CAVEMAN
@@jacobstevens7046 LMAO. Destruction 100.
@@AxxLAfriku U ok bro?
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This is just 10 minutes of dissecting Andrew lying for No Way Home
And?
Haha right? The poor dude, forced to lie about it for months ... well it makes for a great case study
It’s a genius way to engage the viewer rather than “a coworker walks up blah blah”
Lol
The Andrew Garfield case is so interesting. As an actor, he's probably able to lie better, but while most liers hope the truth will never be found, he KNEW the movie would come out soon. What if he denied assertively, in a convincing manner, could people think badly of him when the movie comes out? Plus he wouldn't be able to reach everyone with a "Surprise!! I had to lie, it was on the contract, but hope you enjoyed the movie". Idk what I would do. And another particularity on this case is that there's nothing serious at stake.
He could have just said "no comment", lying just damages your reputation.
@@JarodM yeah. It that would let us know that he was in the movie.
@@octoberboiy At this point Andrew is likely more concerned with honoring non-disclosure agreements and not lying in front of millions of people as most people seem to suspect that he's in the movie already due to the photo and/or video. Conveying "no comment" protects him from lying as well as not breaking any potential NDAs. "No comment" might not be the ideal reply, but rather "I can neither confirm or deny that" as it provides both a confirming and denying sentiment. Zendaya went with this and it worked out fine at Jimmy Kimmel. Andrew, by trying to dodge the question, committed himself to the likely photoshop lie which is detrimental to both his reputation and character. Any "no comment" response would yield better results than that.
@Igor Freitas Non-disclosure agreements usually don't force anyone to lie, it's mainly about not sharing confidential information. If Andrew were to use NDAs as an excuse for lying post-release it would most likely not have been justified.
If he wanted to be thought well of and not given away information he would answer with "I'm not going to answer that question" and left it at that.
Do what politicians do. "I don't remember."
Yeah, if someone says "they took [my children] from me, but, children are so easy to conceive", I don't need to watch for microexpressions to know they're lying about not having killed their kids.
😂 exactly
Psychotherapist here. Smiling when talking about sad/terrible events is a coping mechanism of the psyche. It shows traumatisation. It does not automatically mean someone is lying, on the contrary. What they are saying is usually true and they can't handle the feeling that goes with this experience. In this case she said she was crying, so I would assume she has experienced deep grief that traumatized her immensly. Not necesseraly in this situation, possible before, as a child as that's when most traumata happen because we are so vulnerable and helpless.
I laugh and smile when I'm very stressed socially. There needs to be an understanding of someone's baseline body language and speech in order to detect inconsistencies.
Yes, that's very true. I often smile talking about sad and hard topics. That mostly gets people mad because they think that I am either not serious about the topic or that I am some psychopath who takes delight in misery.
Yep but not in the way it was depicted here. That’s duper’s delight.
Oh thank god, a psychotherapist. They're so trustworthy LMAO
Thank you for saying this. I was 13 when my parents died in a car crash (I was in the car). For years, because I moved to a new country soon after, I had to face the question anyone meeting an adolescent would say “So where are your parents?” I would answer with awkward smiles because I didn’t want to bring down the mood. I didn’t know I did this until this one time when I told someone whose reaction was very expressively sad, so my response was more happy, my brother who witnessed my odd reaction called me out later. That’s when I began to pay more attention to my awkward responses.
Its hard to tell who is lying because people might feel discomfort by many different factors.
True....
Humans in 50/50 scenarios detect lies 53% of the time. Humans WAY over estimate how well they can detect lies.
Yep. Hell some people naturally smile and laugh when nervous.
It is not hard to do it.
People can tell when someone they know is lying. What they tend to do is excuse the behavior.
Imagine you are asking me if i stole your cigarettes and im in a t-shirt but it cold out, naturally i would have closed body language and look like im lying.
Dude is an oscar nominated actor. His "lies" are marketing gimmicks to rack up more pr to the movie. If marvel/sony/disney really want to keep ppl totally in the dark, no point in these interviews would the questions pops up. The "rumors" are to keep people hyped. Pay offs and met anticipations are more satisfactory than surprises.
Hmm interesting
Solid Video. The book "What Every Body is Saying" by Ex-FBI Agent Joe Navarro covers this topic very well.
Is the book part of the title
I hear good things about that book
Get the truth is another good one.
Its a great book
Added. Thank you
Tom and Andrew should have been given some sort of briefing on what to say in these interviews, it's not fair for them to be stuck not knowing what to say.
They all NEED to reply with, "i am not allowed to answer that question."
@@dalordjuvinilej7770 If Andrew Garfield responded that way he would have immediately given it away that he had signed an NDA which would only be the case if he *was* in the film.
I see all the smiling and totally agree but "Children are so easy to conceive" gets me.
It is never what they say but why they say it, no parent could ever say that especially if she had any feelings over a lost child, more likely the exact opposite.
"Emma gives a very straightforward 'no I'm not'. Compare that to Andrew who uses an analogy to avoid directly saying no."
If you've ever seen interviews with Andrew and Emma, this just describes their difference in personality 😂
Have you seen the video of him where he is asked if he believes in love at first sight lool
@@Superhero-Motivation Can you give us the name of the video? i haven't seen it
Besides he did actually directly say "I'm not in that film." in 2 different interviews.
I don't know. There is something odd in Emma's answer!
“My children are dead and I cry every night 😃 😊 😆”
Detective: “Idk, she seems innocent to me”
Hahahahahaha
"There is even a darker, more sinister smile"
Shows Bill Gates.
No one complains 🤣
Bill Gates is literally an evil dude, stealing the windows idea, making viruses to sell his anti virus etc
@@benben071 where did you find out that he stole the 'windows idea'?
Bill gates pure evil
@@benben071 what
@@amoththatthinks literally you can Google this so easily, he stole it from Steve Jobs nonetheless
Also, Willem Dafoe and Andrew Garfield were in serious danger of completely stealing the movie when they were on screen. They were so convincing in their roles, which is honestly what I expect of Dafoe, but it's a testament to the poor direction of the Amazing movies that Garfield was not allowed to shine in them due to a poor script and mediocre direction.
Garfield's scenes are allowed room to breath and the script is tight, which allows his excellent performance to shine through. They even more-or-less poke fun at how poor the Amazing movies were, and none of that was due to their lead actor. I mean, the vapid dialogue he had to work with was utter dreck, as if it was daring me to be in danger of remotely caring for events as they unfolded.
All redeemed in No Way Home. :)
I disagree I don´t think they poked fun at TASM films, they even complemented them. TASM1 is very good imo I love TASM2 but i can admit it has a bad script. Dafoe and Andrew def stole the show though
the main problem with TAS were the villains, like even in no way home Andrews villain cast is by far the weakest point
@@chritulkas5646 Only the Lizard 'cause he's rather underwhelming and underutilised (although I liked him in TASM1), Electro is way better in NWH.
@@chritulkas5646
A good movie can be made out of anything, though. It's not just the villain, but how his scene's integrate into the plot, which they fail.
A bad movie is always the responsibility of the director. He agreed to work with that bad script, so it's his fault. Also, he didn't contribute anything with the mediocre direction, either.
Andrew shined alot in Amazing spiderman movies too, he acted brilliantly in both of them and his films are now being appreciated. People overly criticize those films
I tend to smile when I tell about bad stuff that has happened to me. It's because I have went trough multiple stages of coping with the fact and I know the way i tell it won't change anything, I can only smile about the absurd, surreal situation I've been in.
Or maybe I'm a sociopath.
To be fair, it was a very tough year of interviews for Andrew Garfield
"They took them from me, but children are so easy to conceive."
My children died, but I can always make more so it's fine.
"Can always start again, make another kid."
- Omniman.
What's 17 More Years?
Silver lining
Meh whatever
Yeah, that was a dead give away
I have a disorder which causes me to fidget a lot, mostly in the form of leg shaking, but also rocking, tapping, fidgeting with my hands, things of that nature. And it's mistaken as anxiety so often. I DO have an anxiety disorder, and this, psychomotor agitation as it's called, does get worse when I'm anxious, it's present pretty much constantly while I'm awake. The nice thing is, because of the leg shaking being the main thing I do, usually doing it 12-15 hours a day, every day for the last oh I dunno... 15-20 years, my leg muscles are super toned from it. And I'm an excellent sprinter, despite not being in particularly good shape. But yeah, the whole social stigma of it and people thinking I'm constantly nervous or hiding something can make things difficult.
Just take this as a reminder that these are general signs to look for. Just because somebody is displaying these signs doesn't mean they ARE lying. It just means they COULD be lying. And there's a higher likelihood that they are lying if they show these signs than if they don't.
That point about liars guilting you for asking a question is a huge red flag when you suspect a partner of infidelity.
"Where was you last night?"
"Why don't you trust me?!"
Never let a cheater make you feel like you're the bad guy for having a reasonable suspicion.
Then again, how the f do you answer that question? Some people just breed insane amounts of jealousy due to complexes and subsequently suspicion. And when you're at that point of insanity and delusion, there is no salvaging the relationship.
@@anotheryoutubeaccount5259 honestly, thats how you answer that question
@@dalordjuvinilej7770 Since there's no trust to begin with, you can't answer honestly.
@@anotheryoutubeaccount5259 thats when you leave the relationship. But then again ppl are being taught to be victims instead of how to not be a victim.
@@dalordjuvinilej7770 Well, they've put in the effort. They're trying to make the relationship work. You can't just up and quit, that's not how it works.
Love how all these 'Signs of lying' are all anxious autistic ticks that my Adoptive sister and my adoptive mother exhibit. Every one thinks my adoptive sister is a liar when she smiles out of a feeling of nervousness, doesn't make eye contact, bounces her leg, etc. I don't know if I believe any of this.
These tells have more weight coming from someone who is normally confident and direct- hence why the video talks about establishing a baseline for that person. Of couse even normally-confident people can begin to display signs of nervousness if they feel like they are being interrogated. Looking for inconsistencies in people's stories is more reliable for lie detection imo, but seeing what makes people uncomfortable can give you clues as to where those inconsistencies might be found.
You have to compare body language and speech to someone's baseline in order to be accurate. I have numerous social disabilities and I hope people haven't taken my nervous smile/laugh as deception. I'm not even capable of lying without looking like a damn obvious fool. I don't attempt it.
Loved that Andrew is the main example in this video! I knew it since the werewolf video haha. Also one other thing I caught when the Fallon video released- Andrew explicitly reveals his palms when he says he´s not in it. The way he does it feels forced and manipulative to show he is telling the truth, since showing your palms is usually a gesture that you have nothing to hide
Love the video! Would love you to do one dissecting Gemma Chan. She’s elegant and everyone’s wants to be her - and yet she’s clearly reserved, quiet & an introvert
The easiest answer he could give would be: "I know about the rumors, if I deny them it'as a kind of spoiler, if I confirm it's also a spoiler. Short answer: I won't answer it. But ask Tom Holland, he is good at giving up spoilers!
By the way: would that make you happy to be spoiled on that part?"
All of them except maybe the first one seem to give away hints that he is in the movie imo
It's normal for me to stop/avoid answering someone's questions when I feel like they're tricking me or trying to extort some info/response out of me instead of having a normal conversation/query, but sometimes I think to myself maybe I only do this so that it becomes my baseline for when I really need to avoid spilling the beans lol.
Overall though it feels terrible to have people whom you think should trust you to treat you like you're guilty until proven innocent, * *I think the first tip should be to have a strong reason to suspect someone of lying (a clear motivation), and not to suspect everyone whose behaviour is a little sus in your opinion*
2: Watch for Duper’s Delight, reminds me of the Jonbenét case and particularly, the interview with the brother…he kept smiling throughout it…Although, he may have been just nervous and uncomfortable, it was still a bit unusual behavior in my opinion.
You watch "8 signs someone is lying to you" to detect who is lying and who isn't
I watch "8 signs someone is lying to you" to improve my ability to lie without anyone finding out
We are not the same
To be fair
Andrew wanted to get caught 🤣
He couldn't admit himself due to the confidentiality agreements bs but could still feel happy when someone was correct
PS : He's the f***g werewolf
Be careful about spreading misinformation about lying "tells." A much bigger problem with detecting lies isn't missing certain cues and techniques, it is the false belief
that there are reliable ways to detect lies. The much bigger problem is overconfidence in lie detection. People's behaviors are complex and inconsistent, and people who think they are good at detecting lies, on average, are no better than average.
The one way that can be a good indicator of lying is recognizing when a person's explanation for something doesn't make sense given the situation, especially if you know them well to interpret this. But apparent nervousness, eye movements, body language, etc., have not been shown to be effective in distinguishing lies from not.
The best way to catch liars is to keep records - but to be honest even in this case the people may not know they are lying because people's brains deceive themselves about what is and isn't the truth to protect themselves from something bad they may have done
If this signs they talk about were so accurate, they would have made the video before the movie premiere...
@@chicozeb Of course if you want to spot tells of a liar, you have to first pick out someone you know is lying. Then you can try to see if other people you _think_ are maybe lying also follow those tells.
You guys help me so much with your content god bless!
Me who can't keep a straight face even when I'm not lying 💀
I can't keepna straight face telling the truth or lying lol
Even the truth seems a lie 😂
Oh boy...that part where they get annoyed and try to make you feel like the bad guy to get you to stop asking questions.
That happens EVERY time you confront a cheater and before you show the evidence.
love your vids, bro
appriciate your work
These are just nervous actions identified after the fact. Call these out before you even know if they’re lying or not and see how you do.
I think it was so unfair how Andrew was badgered on this question. One of the best things about seeing the movie in theatre was hearing everyone gasp audibly at the big reveal, because none of us were aware of it beforehand.
Could you make videos on how to deal with or put limits/set boundaries on narcissistic, self-centered, egotistical and toxic people, please?
Great channel! All the best!
Good thing to learn and bring in the new year
Can you do a video about how to stop overthinking things before and after they happen?
Also look out for people that try changing the subject or try to make you rethink a situation like for example you tell someone your story and they try making you doubt yourself so you believe them more easily
Very good video!
Not sure how accurate the details were, but there was tv series, Lie to Me, which every episode discussed micro expressions and this stuff. Thanks for posting.
Do you have any videos on being assertive? Most guidance along these lines focus on saying no to things you don't want to do. My particular issue is that I'm more than 10 years into my career and still often get spoken to as if I'm Junior. It could be related to the fact I'm female in a male dominated workspace (software engineering) or because my character is naturally helpful/friendly and accomodating. I'd love pointers on how to better assert myself and communicate so I'm not treated this way and can progress in my career. Taking into account differences in how genders are perceived would be really useful too. Is there content like this in the charisma university? Love your videos! They're so helpful!
P.S. I watched all the videos on commanding respect and they're great. A lot of things apply to in person communication. I wonder if talking about handling things when working remotely would help as well. Communication is so different when on video calls. A lot of hand gestures and taking up space or what to do when you're cut off are quite different in that environment. Anyway thanks so much for your content, it's all so useful.
You should make a video about the science of positive motivation, what works best to motivate people do actively be a better person, and some examples of positive and negative reinforcement that support this claim of successful motivation techniques
Thanks COC,
Now I can avoid these signs and lie better
Wow! Such oenetrating insight about Spider Man interrogation.
Duper's delight can be deceiving so it's important to remember to establish that baseline. A lot of people will smile when they think you might think they are lying even though they are telling the truth.
One of these days I'll join charisma university. Good stuff
Yeah is pretty hard to tell if someone is lying. I think they key factor is to identify weather someone has a purpose or not for the lie, is easier to identify someone is lying when they have a purpose, when they lie doesn't have an specific purpose or they are just making stuff up is harder to tell.
Others : watching to catch liars
Me : learning things to hide while lying
Love the thumbnail. Garfield is one if the greatest liars of history.
Politicians and businessman are 🤣 not him
Learning how to lie better.
4:05
I use this method to determine when my sisters are lying to me. For instance, I saw a cat crossing the street next to the house my younger sisters were hanging out at.
the number one rule that my mom gave them was to not go into that house and I questioned them as we were leaving, specifically about the cat. They both gave different answers and then slowly and vaguely continued until they both agreed on an answer. Then I explained that their answer was wrong and that the cat was a completely different color than the fake cat they were making up.
It was also kind of obvious when I heard them scheming how best to lie to me and mom on the way home.
I also noticed how Andrew touched his face a lot when he lied. He was either covering his face with his hand or rubbing a part of his face, etc.
Great, you’ve now taught the interview trainers how to baseline better to lie before re Marvel spoilers.
You should do a charisma breakdown on Zlatan, a few appearances here and there , would be interesting to hear ur view!
Absolutely spot on and unequivocally an epic critique on how to spot deception!
I Tip My Hat To Charisma 0n Command. 🎩
Can we get one video on the legendary 'Cristiano Ronaldo'. One of the best examples for amazing mentality and leadership
“Establish a baseline of normal behavior first”
Super important. I’m an incredibly awkward dude who talks to much and constantly fidgets and I typically have 3 or 4 things on my mind at any given second.
Another fun fact about my personality. I’ve never done stimulants due to me having an obnoxious personality BEFORE I would take Colombian bam-bam.
poor andrew. lying for a genuine reason and now he is being used to teach how to spot a liar.
I guess I just live my way through life then. Because I do almost all of that stuff when I’m not lying. Especially getting annoyed at peoples questions
It would have been great if you have posted this video before the movie got released. If you can really spot a liar with these signs they show, and if you are sure of it, why not upload it before the movie got released. Anyways this video was great!
It was the Werewolf analogy for me that got me suspicious, because I love that game and when you are the werewolf, your whole goal is to go around saying “I’m not the werewolf!”
Poor Andrew. I feel for him. I can imagine how hard it must've been for him to continue to deny being involved with the movie, especially since he's a super fan of spiderman. He's definitely a lovable guy. If I was Andrew, I would've avoided interviews altogether.
Lol as some one who is a good liar, these are all signs to look for in horrible liars. GREAT liars LOVE when you ask more questions.
Thanks for spoiler warning. almost went full speed.
can you do a video on the art of subduction suducer archetypes
During 2017-18 there has been in increase in "How to figure out if someones lying videos" Thanks to all those, i got a shortcut to my career and relationships. Its so easy for me to lie, thanks to those videos. I knew how to lie better and it made my life so much better.
karma is a beach
People think they can hide their intentions well, but humans are not that great at lying.
But they are great at being lazy and because of that those that get tricked are because they just don't bother.
As if
Was waiting for this..lets expose them 😂
Andrew in the thumbnail got me rolling 🤣🤣
Good at playing others. Horrible being andrew lol.
Yes finally a video on how to be a good liar
But sometimes I smile when I talk about sad things to hold back crying
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
Next one you should make how to confront a liar about their lie
Video on Neal Caffrey from White Collar
Yes
Pls do something about Wilson Fisk from Netflix Dardevil
This video made me a much better liar, thanks!
Idk if this falls under the other categories but my method of "lying" so I don't spoil something for someone that's like asking me "OH MY GOD ARE THEY GONNA DIE?!" I would say as if I was watching it with them as new as they are like "dude they can't die, I can't handle that idea" so it's vague enough to not outright say what happens but that that would be my reaction if that happens.
This is more about avoiding telling the truth rather than outright lying
I did 2 of these in an important interview and I was telling the truth. I guess sometimes people show some body language just because they’re uncomfortable or nervous.
*"Dupers delight"* smiles be like: 😈
Your videos content are superb. Why don't u write a book?
2:25 what if you always answer not definitively for everything and hesitate all the time
An actor being a bad liar is a strange oxymoron
One funny thing is that I have severe ADHD and pretty bad Tourette's syndrome, so I will fidget uncontrollably in every conversation and argument regardless of whether or not I'm lying.
1:17 that got dark quick lol
Thanks, now I know what to do when I say truth and want it to appear to be a lie.
Eye contact is a major key
True, but even people who are telling the truth, may have hard time maintaining the eye contact.
Haha, this is the first video where I knew all of the signs before they were said. I follow the Behavior Panel on CZcams. Those guys are no joke and they dive in deeply on all this stuff. For anyone who’s interested
Thanks Angie
Could you guys do a video on Bo Burnham?
No. 10: incongruency between content and delivery. ( I'm so happy to see you)
PS: the title said 8 and the video had 9...
What's with the blur mask starting at 8:17?
That women's smile freaked me out!!!!!
"I'm not the fuckin werewolf "is not just a line it's an emotion 😅
You didn’t have to do Andrew like this bro. Lol
If the "Over The Top Laugh" is an indicator of of lying...then JImmy Fallon is the the WORLD'S BIGGEEEEEEEST LIAR!😂
The bill clinton method 🤣
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What's the movie at 0:01?
Thank you for your time.
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