I'm A Stay At Home Dad - My Experience

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  • čas přidán 25. 08. 2024

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  • @Scott-by9ks
    @Scott-by9ks Před 5 lety +7

    Dude, he is too cute! I am a stay at home dad and I love it. My daughter just turned 4 when I became a full time stay at home dad. My last year in the army was mostly medical appointments so I had a lot of time on my hands. I loved taking her to the park and the pool. We still go to the library and the pool quite often. One of my proudest moments was when I taught her to ride a bike. My wife has 5 years left in the army before she can retire. Our daughter will be 8 next week and will be 13 when my wife retires. We hope after that we will be able to maximize our time with our little girl.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 5 lety

      That's so awesome! It was a major adjustment for me at first but our son just turned two and I can honestly say it's been the best experience of my life. I appreciate you and your wife's service and I hope you two get to have the best time possible with your girl.

  • @jeremyupshaw401
    @jeremyupshaw401 Před 4 lety +4

    Dude I been a stay at home dad since my first born too. Now 4 kids at home form 6 year-old to 6 months old. My wife and I talked about me to stay home with the kids too before we had our first. It’s hard at times but fun to be there all the time with them. Nap time is the best time lol.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 4 lety

      We’re up to two kids now. I can’t even imagine doing it with 4 kids! Hahaha and I agree, nap time is the best time!

  • @NickBarrows
    @NickBarrows Před 6 lety +7

    respect! I did this 3 days a week when Lydia was first born. It also helped me REALLY appreciate my wife now that she stays home.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      It was definitely a lot more thank expected!

  • @lindasharp9144
    @lindasharp9144 Před 6 lety +9

    Great video! You are doing a great job. I’m very proud of you, Jacob. My grandson is in good hands.

    • @empeyeight
      @empeyeight Před 6 lety +1

      You should be very proud!! PS Your grandson is adorable!! What a little bundle of JOY!!

  • @christospencoglu5160
    @christospencoglu5160 Před 5 lety +2

    Your getting paid what you would pay for a most trustful responsible and safest baby sitter. Buddy keeping your baby safe is priceless

  • @michaelmartinez6333
    @michaelmartinez6333 Před 6 lety +4

    I agreed with you all the way. I’ve being a stay home dad since my daughter was born and working full time from home too. It has being the hardest thing that i’ve ever done in my life. it gets really hard once they start walking, i love it every day but sometimes i do go crazy and I feel like asking my wife for help. I am going to miss it I will start a new job soon and I won’t be able to be with her like before. enjoy it everyday even if you going crazy. Good Luck

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Thanks for watching and for your comment. There are definitely days when I think I want to just go back to work but then he does something that reminds me why I love staying home with him. It’s definitely a blessing.

  • @SlowCookerMealsBlog
    @SlowCookerMealsBlog Před 6 lety +6

    It would be hard to make the adjustment from going from a full time job to not having one. But in the end family is the best job ever.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      It was definitely a challenge. Strangely, I felt like I was forgetting something or doing something wrong for like the first week. I felt like i was playing hookie from work or something.

  • @TheNerdyKiddoz
    @TheNerdyKiddoz Před 6 lety +2

    I struggled with the same thoughts..... a little over two years in, I see being a stay at home parent as an opportunity to something bigger.... hopefully being blessed for putting our family first 😊. Gabriel is blessed! You both are doing a fantastic job!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety +1

      Yes! Everyone that I’ve spoken to has said something similar. And when we’re old, no one is going to say they wished they had worked more. I get this unique opportunity to watch him grow every day and so far I’ve been around for all of the “firsts.” None of them happened while I was at work.

  • @lHELLB0Y
    @lHELLB0Y Před 6 lety +2

    Awesome job! We are in the exact same boat. Keep it up!

  • @marvinaviles2593
    @marvinaviles2593 Před 3 lety +2

    #852. Hey bud, I’ve been a stay at home dad on and off, in Houston, then in Alaska, now back in Houston (Richmond). There has been some comments, like a delivery person saying, “hey they have you doing dishes today”, or “hey can I have your wife’s number so we can organize play dates”, and the “what do you do all day?” Anyways, I have three kids 9, 6, and 2. It’s hard. I do dishes, cooking, home repairs, and are on top of the kids school. Like you, I always thought I too had to be the bread winner, but things change and there was no point on working just to pay for daycare. Though I miss a little spending money for hobbies. Thanks for the video and glad to meet fellow stay at home dads.

  • @Our80sLife
    @Our80sLife Před 6 lety +2

    Awesome mug! Bet that was a big transition to being a stay at home dad. That's crazy that you tried to work full time at first. That was so cute when Gabriel saw himself on camera. He was cracking himself up. lol. Big props for raising him at home. We did the same thing (expect Abby stayed home). No regrets and so glad we did it. Based on the landscape. I was thinking that you lived in Dallas. We have lived in Allen, Richardson and Rowlett.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety +1

      That mug was my first Father’s Day gift. We spent all of our money at the hospital with the birth and Sarah and I both were off of work with the new Baby. We had a bunch of random? free Shutterfly promos things and Sarah ordered that for me. Now it’s my favorite mug.
      I’ve had so many people say they’re glad they stayed home with the kids. It has already been incredibly rewarding.
      We love the DFW area! There’s so much to do and see. I believe we’ve been to all three of those areas for some reason or another.

  • @adventuresofcooperandemers229

    Being a stay at home parent is the hardest job in the world! It took me almost 2 years to adjust to not working outside of the home after Cooper was born. You are such an amazing support for Sarah and a great daddy to Gabriel! Great video!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Thank you for watching! I have so much respect for stay at home parents now. It’s so much more work than I ever thought.

  • @WhitakerFamilyVlogs
    @WhitakerFamilyVlogs Před 6 lety +2

    Well done! So encouraging!!!!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety +1

      Thanks, you did a great job with yours also!

  • @hawaiian-cerveza
    @hawaiian-cerveza Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for your encouragement. I'm a stay at home dad and I'm getting attacked verbally by my family. Now he and my siblings come at me verbally to the point we've decided to keep our distance and conversations very limited with them.
    My father didn't earn as much as my mom did, and he would argue so much with her because of it. He also didn't spend any time with us at all other than scare the crap out of us with his anger problems. (He had a rough up bringing and doesn't know how to break out of these habits.)
    I feel at least I and other stay at home dads are doing what we've been criticized so often. Being dead beats for not taking care of their children in any form, emotionally, financially and being there for them. When we aren't doing one of those we're automatically labeled a dead beat. In reality I think many of these people are just projecting their insecurities onto others.
    I've gotten some encouragement from men and women and I believe it boils down to the child/children being taken cared of.
    Society really has a way of messing up peoples outlook on things.
    Oh one last thing about the day care or someone else watching our baby, I don't want to let someone else do that because I was sexually abused as a 3 yr old and things similarly happened as I got older. So I don't want anyone watching our baby unless we fully trust them.

    • @misshoneynevercame4832
      @misshoneynevercame4832 Před 4 lety +3

      I'm so sorry that you are getting backlash for being a stay at home dad. I'm a woman but i think that often, dads have more energy to be active with the kids by nature. I'm not saying moms can't be active but men who like kids are often very playfull and kids need that.
      Try not to let the pressure get to you. You do what is best for your family regardless of what that needs to be (work/stay at home).
      I have also dealt with the dad with anger issues. It's like you have to walk on egg shells all day and there is a constant tension in the air, which is very scary for a kid to go through. It messes you up even later in life. Most important thing is to not make it into a generational curse and try to make sure that your kids are comfortable around you.
      I agree with you on childcare. I would net let anyone watch my kids until they are at least old enough to talk properly. In case something would happen, they could tell me. There have been many cases of childcare workers and babysitters sexually abusing kids in my country. Very scary.

    • @hawaiian-cerveza
      @hawaiian-cerveza Před 4 lety +1

      @@misshoneynevercame4832 Thank you for your kind words. My wife tells me the same, that I keep up with our daughter well.
      I'll get back into school to get my degree and we both plan on qorking part time so one of us can be with our baby while the other is at work.
      I think I lucked out as my wife works in the mental health field so we never raise our voices and actually talk things out.
      At first I was always reading myself for backlash as I've experienced and was conditioned from my father and mother but now my wife has helped me to change that.
      Yeah, we both like to work on things that we've learned that aren't healthy while grewing up so we can have a non toxic family setting.
      It is nerve-racking to have to "walk on egg shells" constantly. It isn't healthy.
      Its gotten better as we've gone no contact with those family members.

    • @-Liska
      @-Liska Před 3 lety +1

      @@hawaiian-cerveza You're doing the most natural thing in the world - taking care of your family in the way that works best for you.
      I'm sorry the world is so messed up that you have to worry about backlash. It's all so uneccessary...
      I hope you get to build a life and community around your family, where you are supported and happy. Take care, stranger

    • @hawaiian-cerveza
      @hawaiian-cerveza Před 3 lety

      @@-Liska Thank you for your kind words.

    • @-Liska
      @-Liska Před 3 lety +1

      @@hawaiian-cerveza No need for thanks. I know no/restricted contact situations are hard, and there's not really much you can do to make it better. Family should be who supports you and helps you grow. It's tough to remember that sometimes, and I probably wrote this as a reminder to myself, as much as to you. Props to you for starting to break out of the cycle.

  • @joeynapoli7123
    @joeynapoli7123 Před 3 lety +1

    I am joining the stay at home dad club in May! Great video thank you very much for sharing. I’m a military husband at Travis AFB in the Bay Area. I look forward to checking out your other videos!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 3 lety

      That’s awesome! It’s definitely a struggle but it’s very rewarding.

  • @IradaKitchen
    @IradaKitchen Před 6 lety +2

    It's one of the hardest jobs! Our youngest is 19 months old:) Keep up the great job! Enjoyed watching your video:) Subscribed!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      It’s so hard but so rewarding. Thank you so much for watching and subbing!

  • @TechbyParker
    @TechbyParker Před 4 lety +1

    Inspiring! Thanks for sharing!

  • @DannyHauger
    @DannyHauger Před 6 lety +1

    You're awesome, respecting your work and care, great parents are priceless! Liked and subscribed!!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Thank you so much for the encouraging words and the support for our channel!

  • @henrygunn7056
    @henrygunn7056 Před 4 lety +1

    Thanks for making this video. After many sleepless night discussions. I have decided to take the plunge. Later today I am going to work to hand in my knotice. Your video really halped me in realising it was the right decision. Thanks.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 4 lety

      Congratulations! My wife had our second child about 5 months ago and I’m still loving being a stay at home dad. It’s physically exhausting and still after three years there’s a mental struggle but man it’s worth it. You really are going to enjoy it. And don’t let anyone tell you that you’re less of a man for not going to work everyday because believe me, this is definitely a real job! And it’s a more significant and rewarding job than you’ll ever find in an office building.

  • @ReboundWithMyCoonhound
    @ReboundWithMyCoonhound Před 6 lety +2

    Some great information man for stsy at home dads. At times I wish I could be one too but I know it has its challenges too obviously how you said so I commend you for doing it. There are still rewards yes. Great video again!

  • @LifeAsRose2
    @LifeAsRose2 Před 6 lety +1

    Great job. Liked this kind of video where you explain what your thoughts are. Being a stay at home parent is a struggle but it pays off in the end. Loved the video.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Thanks for watching and be such a great supporter!

  • @DakotaandFamily
    @DakotaandFamily Před 6 lety +2

    Your a great daddy and honoring your wife's wish of no day care

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Thank you, it really has been a blessing.

  • @MyPBandJ
    @MyPBandJ Před 6 lety +2

    I think it's so great that you're a stay at home dad. Breaking those stereotypical gender rolls is awesome & I think it helps society. It is exhausting staying at home. You're doing a great job! We also really didn't want our kiddos in daycare and feel incredibly lucky that we can live off of one income. I know not a lot of families have the choice. Also, Gabriel has some pretty awesome dance moves! So cute!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      We’re fortunate that we can make it work. I feel like we’ve seen a benefit from not putting Gabriel in day care and I’m really glad that I can stay home with him.
      Gabriel has been dancing for a long time now. I don’t have to turn on tv for this kid, I just start Pandora and he dances all over the house.

  • @nealfeldpausch715
    @nealfeldpausch715 Před 5 lety +3

    Cool. Im a stay at home dad. I make lame videos. But this was fun. Enjoying finding other dads on CZcams.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 5 lety +1

      Nice! I just subbed!

    • @nealfeldpausch715
      @nealfeldpausch715 Před 5 lety

      @@TheUpshaws Awesome. Thanks. Look forward to sharing experiences together!

  • @Smith5
    @Smith5 Před 6 lety +2

    Great video! Love your pep talk to yourself! As a sahm I can relate however I think it’s more acceptable for moms to stay at home than it is for dad’s! I to tried to find a job that I could do from home with the kids and it didn’t work out! So question are you all planning more kids? I battle with the pulling my weight in the household also....I love being a sahm but man always on call, no sick days, and orders all day long from the 4 and under crowd is exhausting! Loved this video! Great collab and thanks for letting us get a glimpse in your sahd-ism! Being paid by love is way better than any money.....now only if you could buy stuff with love 🤣love how you all “are a team” that’s very important! Totally agree being with my kiddos everyday is amazing and I dread the day they go to school.....or will I homeschool 😜

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      'm fortunate that my side jobs are really flexible. I can do one of them almost completely at night so I'm able to put in several hours a night each week. But I tried to do a full time job from home and it was impossible. Because I have Cystic Fibrosis, we had to do IVF in order to have Gabriel and we have 4 more embryos in storage and we don't want to dispose of them or donate them so we're going to try and have them, that would be 4 more kids if they're all successful. I get tired just thinking about it.

    • @Smith5
      @Smith5 Před 6 lety +1

      The Upshaws wow so fun! Hope everything works out for you all! We have three kids (as you know) and I will say going 1 to 2 was a lot harder than going from 2-3! Spacing them out might have been smarter though on our part 🤣

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Haha that’s what I’m hoping to do. Put a little space between them. I’m putting Gabriel in charge of the next one!

  • @debrasanders17
    @debrasanders17 Před 6 lety +1

    Great video! Thank you for sharing. You and Sarah are doing doing a great job. And of course, you have an awesome child with whom to stay at home. Oh, I noticed out still have your beard. 😉

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety +1

      Be sure to check out tomorrow’s video. The beard is coming off.

  • @MyKELLY999
    @MyKELLY999 Před 6 lety +1

    babies grow so fast! enjoy!

  • @empeyeight
    @empeyeight Před 6 lety +1

    Great idea for a collab! I love that your experience has been positive! Great mug!! :)
    That is a lot to "swing" isn't it!! Yup. You and Sarah do a great job of balancing everything so well! Look at how amazing Gabriel is!! That is because of you both!! I know Cliff would have loved to have stayed home with the kids.
    What are you backsquatting?? Good for you for staying in shape!! It helps me stay sane lol. I have been home over 18 years now!! I wouldn't change it for anything!! We always said if we had kids (haha) I would stay home! Time flies!
    I love how your family has broken traditions!! Way to go! I am sure now that you have done this video, you will find other stay at home Dads!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety +1

      Working out is the one thing I do in order to keep some sort of “normal” in my day. I used to run a lot but I haven’t quite figured out how to work that back into my routine.
      I do hope to find other stay at home dad but I’ve met a ton of wonderful and very supportive stay at home moms. And I’m very grateful for that.

    • @empeyeight
      @empeyeight Před 6 lety

      That is awesome Jacob!! Do you like running on a treadmill? That was what I did when the kids were babies. Or, I would go out super early in the morning...sleep deprived lol. I miss running so much!!

  • @DJAnthonyAlvarez
    @DJAnthonyAlvarez Před 5 lety +1

    This is great! I can relate to a lot of this! I look forward to seeing more stuff! You got yourself a new sub friend! Haha keep rocking the dad life!

  • @TheBenefieldBunch
    @TheBenefieldBunch Před 6 lety +1

    You are a great stay at home dad!! I think all of my kids as babies have rolled off the couch at some point! lol
    You both are awesome parents!!

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Thank you so much, it’s good to hear that from other parents. It’s very reassuring and helps me know I’m doing a good job.

  • @5corneralebrigade
    @5corneralebrigade Před 5 lety +4

    We’re about to make the “change” I’ve been in construction ( high rise in nyc ) for 13 yrs the biggest thing I’ll probably have to deal with is the money thing. I don’t mind straightening up. But no offense. My wife can set up her own day and make her own food. Been that why since we met. The baby can’t make her own food so I’ll hook her up.
    Thanks for the video!

  • @sphinxette0473
    @sphinxette0473 Před 6 lety +1

    New sub from the Whitaker family. Great video 😊👍

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Oh we love the Whitakers. They are such and awesome family and a real joy to watch. Thank you for supporting us as well!

  • @BeasonEffect
    @BeasonEffect Před 6 lety +1

    Great vid, it was interesting to hear more about your journey. I work from home but I only work when my hubby is home so it’s like I’m still working it would be super hard to juggle a baby and a job for sure! He’s too cute 😀

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      I’m in the same situation, I work while Gabriel naps or when Sarah is home. All the rest of the time is spent chasing after him.

  • @Clarke__Family
    @Clarke__Family Před 6 lety +1

    Brilliant vlog your doing a brilliant job I (jody) am a stay at home mom and think its the best job in the world 😊

  • @Durrenbergerfam
    @Durrenbergerfam Před 6 lety +1

    I've been a stay at home parent for almost 6 yrs. It's rewarding but very exhausting. But I plan on putting Weston in Daycare in August to work at the kids school and go to school.

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Sarah might change her mind down the road but so far she's (and I) really enjoy not having to worry about Gabriel getting sick or bringing home some virus from the day care. I know that'll start when Gabriel goes to school but thankfully we've made it a year without any illness. That's so exciting about you going to school!

  • @stevrgrs
    @stevrgrs Před 5 lety +1

    This is awesome. I need to make a video series too to show others what we go through :)

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 5 lety +1

      Let me know if you do, I’ll definitely watch it!

  • @GoodnightWalkers
    @GoodnightWalkers Před 6 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing

  • @JoshuaLatu
    @JoshuaLatu Před 4 lety +1

    I am slowly entering the world of stay at home and would very much like to be a party of the community 😊 I am a new up and coming youtuber and a collab would be awesome. Fantastic video by the way. Thank you

  • @NikaRio
    @NikaRio Před 6 lety +1

    Lol your funny! But i love your attitude! Am a stay at home mom and I struggle with being home alot. Simply because i dislike indoors

    • @NikaRio
      @NikaRio Před 6 lety +1

      Now you know how most stay at home moms feel. Yes its a full time job minus the check lol

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 6 lety

      Oh yea, I have a whole new respect for stay at home parents now.

  • @AndyOutdoorsChannel
    @AndyOutdoorsChannel Před měsícem

    How do you deal with the negativity and the stigmatization of the idea of a stay at home dad and dealing with all the negative reactions and the societal backlash? And how do you cope with the idea of not having a job as a stay at home dad? Just asking because soon to be married and plans for having a child are in the works so we are planning on the idea of me being a stay at home dad. So how do you do it? And deal with the guilty feeling and becoming a successful stay at home dad and in the society with said title. You got me as a subscriber.

  • @HieuHuynh
    @HieuHuynh Před 6 lety +1

    Nice too meet you #340

  • @CassandraBarthelemy
    @CassandraBarthelemy Před 2 lety +1

    Can you do an update video now that you have 2 kids??

    • @TheUpshaws
      @TheUpshaws  Před 2 lety

      Yea I need to do something like that. It’s been a wild ride for sure!

  • @WhitakerFamilyVlogs
    @WhitakerFamilyVlogs Před 6 lety +1

    Looks like we had the same kind of filming style

  • @BeasonEffect
    @BeasonEffect Před 6 lety +1

    My hubby and I didn’t want to put our son in day care either

  • @alkaskitchen3339
    @alkaskitchen3339 Před 6 lety +1

    😊👍👍