No 2nd wife contract clause for marriage
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As a woman I think that this is very important and practical advice. The marriage should be fair for both the man and the woman. There is a hadeeth that talks about a time that will come when there will be many more women than man. Men will need to marry more than one woman. I wonder what people will make of the no second wife contract clasue for marriage at that time.
NO THE CLAUSE IS USUALLY DONT DO IT WITHOUT MY CONSENT
There are actually more men than women rn ☠️
If a woman puts ANY clause or condition in the marriage contract I would walk away instantly.
“If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one1 or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession.2 This way you are less likely to commit injustice.” Quran 4:3
Far as injustice is concerned, the women and their families will almost never think your just even if you are favoring them over other so don’t let the women and people be the judge, just fear Allah ﷻ and try your best and Allah ﷻ knows your intentions and ability.
May Allah ﷻ guide us.
Ameen
4:3 is only for if you marry an orphan woman. For general woman is 4:129, if you not entirely fair as long as you not overdo or do it on purpose and not correct it you are forgiven already
'Josh this, Tyron that' 🤣🤣😂
Masha'Allah. I agree with you brother. May Allah reward you.
Youre making some sort of war out of these stipulations subhan allah thats really sad. A woman who really fears polygyny is not the same as a man stipulating that for example she is divorces only because she did not cook one day or because she gained weight after birthing his children. I m not saying at all women should dismiss their partners need, but you are comparing peas with oranges.
The way he bends backwards for his audience man
Also in Islam a woman is allowed to divorce a man if she fears that she will be disobedient and trust me
Getting a second wife is gonna cause some problems in that area
So the clause is just to drive away the men who plan on marrying again
Cause we can divorce even without the clause
Great video, Jazak Allah Khairun
My brother why haven't you spoken about Palestine, Gaza in ruins and your talking about marriages, stop talking from your desires, we need more awareness on Freeing our Muslim sisters
Salam alaykum - His expertise is that of relationships/counseling/psychology
Secondly - we should be thankful for the brother’s valuable content which benefits the ummah rather than criticizing him
@@MK-zf6or the ummah needs rejaal.unfortunately we dont have enough, this is why the ummah is in this situation.
no offence, but are you crazy, look at his recent videos, he's clearly made multiple videos about the situation of Gaza
@@Saf-vq5wt akhi whats the point of critcizing your brother in islam? Does it help the ummah?
secondly akhi - i said salam alaykum, you want to talk about rejaal, please start by replying to someone who says salam to you.
@@MK-zf6or walaikum salam wrahmatullah wabarakatu akhee, its not being critical I'm just stating the facts that social media influencers should do more to speak out about the issues of the ummah.May Allah make us amongst the rejal of this ummah.Ameen
Good points. Equity for both sides in the marriage contract. Fair is fair.
Great advices as Always dear brother!!👍🌝🤲🧕
Jazakallahu Khairan very good advice.
The brother is saving lives out here, he covered the most important matters Alhamdulillah
And from the other comments I can see that many are failing to understand the overall message which is definitely Khayr In sha Allah ✅
Nice haircut! You looking good! Allahu Bareek Feek.
A muslim brother had amuslim first wife he got married to a christian woman who put in the clause he can't take another wife. Now if his first wife every leaves or dies he will be with a christian woman and not able to marry any other muslim sister.
Subhanallah. Marriage is supposed to be so beautiful and it should bring tranquility. I cannot imagine how that marriage will go in the future if each party is putting all these stipulations *right from the start*!!!! First day woman says let’s put in the contract you can’t get a 2nd wife, man says put in contract your clause is invalid if you don’t cook for me every day 🙄. Just imagine the tension?!!! People need to fear Allah SWT
Thank you brother Gabriel. Men putting their own stipulations on a marriage contract actually slipped my mind. It actually surprises me though that some brothers will actually allow their future wife to block their God given right to a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th wife within what they can do properly in kindness and justice
I think men should not close the doors for more wives in the future. Getting married to one is difficult enough. Why make the road to marriage more difficult than it already is?
There’s so much fitna and it’s easy to fall in haram. This clause goes against mens nature.
And not just that: What about all the umarried sisters who are divorced, old, widowed etc?
If a woman does not care that you fornicate as long as she is the only wife, then she does not care about Islam.
There must be a reason why Allah gave certain rights to men and certain rights to women. Please ponder before restricting.
"They dont teach you your rights...it would solve the crisis we have today" this needed to be said! SubhanAllah! As a divorcee, devoted to Allah swt and living for impact, finding a husband in this day and age is almost impossible.
In surah 66-Tahrim Allah warns the prophet (saw) and men in general against making things haram on themselves that Allah has made halal seeking to please their wives....
( 1 ) O Prophet, why do you prohibit [yourself from] what Allah has made lawful for you, seeking the approval of your wives? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
( 2 ) Allah has already ordained for you [Muslims] the dissolution of your oaths. And Allah is your protector, and He is the Knowing, the Wise.
So brother Gabriel is 100% correct. Women who make this request are a waking talking RED flag.
Another way to counter her contractual request is to tell her that you want the contract to state that if she divorces you for any reason then you get the children no matter what and she forgoes any financial maintenance. Her response to this will show her true character and her delusional/misguided double standards
there is difference between making things haraam and stipulating things in marriage and stipulating something shouldn't be done doesn't mean it is haraam
The Prophet SAW literally forbade Ali from taking another wife with Fatima. Technically, it wasn't haraam now, was it?
womp womp. Many sheikhs agree that it is okay even ibn uthaymeen agreed
@@Ibrahim-zf8qh Prophet doesnt forbade other sahabah from taking other wives though. Uthman bin Affan have lotta of wives and prophet daughter is part of them (2!).
@@redemissarium totally missing the point and replying to a point that was never made
The point is, women can stipulate this in their contracts. If you don't want to get married to such a woman, don't. There are many women who won't put the condition. And as much as people might like to make it out, very very few men marry more than one wife. And women, are just emotional beings as it is often made out to be. They are rational beings as much as men are emotional beings. You can talk to your wife if need be. There are women who aren't okay with polygamy and others who are. If you want polygamy, marry those who are okay with it and stop forcing women who aren't to. Why are we always complicating things that don't deserve to be complicated 🤷
I had 2 wives once... Then I woke up next to my 1 and only wife, and realised that I needed to get ready for work
Marrying a second wife which impacts all lives totally in every way is not the same as clause as washing the dishes! He trying to make this ridiculous, women can put a clause in as that allows her to divorce without a sin ( as per some scholars )
To be honest many women have the fantasy of having a better husband than the current one… it goes both ways ❤
That’s for bad women.
4:3) If you fear that you might not treat the orphans justly, then marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four.4 If you fear that you will not be able to treat them justly, then marry (only) one,5 or marry from among those whom your right hands possess.6 This will make it more likely that you will avoid injustice. ;
Clearly they Ayah starts to marry them by 2, 3 or 4 - and again Islamically is best to have more wives to increase the Faith ( more Kids/ Muslims) - so How exactly can we change the Law of Allah ny these Conditions?! It Doesn't even make sense;
And Look at Western Europe, Australia and North America - they are have fertility rates at 1.4 to 1.6 less than 2 Kids - they need Immigration cause they are killing themselves with Contraception or whatever;
I'm a Revert sister - and I'm saying to people Have Fear of Allah azza wa Jal and Don't change the Laws;
And again what's the Point of Starting a Marriage with a Divorce clause?! It's all a Sickness to begin with;
divorce is increasing because of this wydm if you dont cook for one day, i will divorce you?
ok I don't care if men divorce me simple if he accepted My condition
Will you be my second wife?
I will put it as contract
Do it
Brothers be patient
I disagree. Big Shuyukh from Egypt, Saudi Arabia, and Ibn Uthaymeen even said it is okay. If future husbands of the women that stipulate this agree, so be it; it doesn't lessen his manhood. Its very demeaning to say that it diminishes their manhood. Some sheikhs did not even marry at all. Are you trying to say this diminished their manhood? It makes no sense, really. Also if i stipulate something like this I am not unreasonable enough to say no to what he wants also
The fact that we need conditions to cohabitate with another human speaks a lot about how people are... and it's a sad reality!
I really wish I could see back in time if people were no different, or what...
While our Palestinian brothers and sisters facing genocide, Congo, Sudan are also facing silent genocide, you guys are still arguing about polygyny!!!!!! While ummah is suffering from unity, you people should try to teach them about unity, tell them how sahabiyas ruled the world with unity, you are still preaching about polygyny!!!!! Wow!!! SUBHANALLAH!!!! I don't blame the ummah, nope, they are doing exactly what they are learning from you guys and you call yourselves a sheikh!!!!! May ALLAH give us good sense, AMEEN.
So if we don't talk about it who are going to marry those widows from Gaza?
Do u even know what happened to widows of Iraq and Syria whose husband were killed?
There are more qualified people to talk about this stuff, don’t push people to talk about things they are not comfortable talking about or are not knowledgeable about.
I did hear brother talk about Palestine so please knock it off! He is a Psychologist and a counselor. It’s only obvious he will create content that he specializes in. But why do you assume he doesn’t talk about Palestine? Do you know how big is his circle? How involved he is in his masjid etc? Yes, someone needs to talk about these topics because men now days are marrying wives and they don’t know how to navigate certain situations. If you have hard time digesting this kind of information than I suggest you look for things on CZcams that are of your interest. ✌🏻
May Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive me if I am wrong. But I believe, as a sister, there is nothing wrong with a woman having a contract before marrying a man to not take a second wife or else she divorces him. Obviously, according to Shari'ah, a woman cannot force her husband to not take a second wife. But if he does, Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala gives her the right to decide to stay in the marriage or not. On the other hand, men do not have to agree to the marriage if he does not want his woman to make a contract like that. Simple. I do not like the cooking comparison. Because obviously having a second wife is greater than that. I hope you understand brother. Assalamualaikum.
My sister, the notion that Allah S.W.T. gives the woman the right whether to remain in the marriage or not after another wife is taken is completely invalid and incorrect. This is a falsehood that's gained popularity and circulated the Ummah.
@@timesnewbabylonian8088 exactly
It is allowed for any person to give up their rights in the Nikkah contract. A wife can give up her rights for separate accommodation by living with inlaws and sharing a kitchen/bathroom with his family, she can give up her right of her nights to another wife and similarly a man can give up his rights to a 2nd wife. If two people agree upon something in this contract, it is binding. Don't make promises and contracts you can't abide by. Simple as that.
So if any of the agreements of the contract is broken, the other person has a right to end the marriage.
Read Ibn Taymiyyah, imam Ahmad and Ibn Qayyim, Sheikh Uthaymeen, Sheikh Fawzaan views on this to understand it more. I mentioned these blessed scholars because it seems like everyone respects and takes knowledge from them.
@@timesnewbabylonian8088stop giving opinions out of your pocket. Even shaykh Fawzaan the best shaykh alive today on Sunnah, says that it is a valid condition. Who are you, anonymous nobody on CZcams, to give opinions on the matter of marriage?
@@alghurraba you are only supposed to follow a single scholar and not ask two scholars of a fatwa to compare and take easiest......
do you believe niqab is obligatory??
Brothers, it’s completely in your right to put in a clause if you wish too. Never ever agree to not taking a second wife or more. Make it the norm that a second wife is standard.
Why the heck should you make a norm that a second wife is 'standard'
Facts
@@zeeshawnali4078cuz the quran does read surah nisa verse 3 1 wife is only if the man cant be just which is abnoraml situation
Man, one should keep in mind what actually Allah swt says in quran i.e
Quran 4:3 And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]
So, don't push it, if someone actually needs it, then he should man-up first, so that he treat fairly amomg his wives.
There are some cases where husband is only inclined to one wife/family.
So, one should make his decision wisely on taking multiple wives. Or else he will be punished on the day resurrection for ill treatmeants.
jazak allah khair
Waiyaak
I bet the women are going to love this vid
You are so funny 😹 I like it
Thank you brother Gabriel for exposing some scholars for dollars
Allah humma Barik
Plus that opinion is only a hanbali opinion of a sister stipulating for her husband to not get a 2nd wife and he's divorced if he does so. Why are non hanbali sisters adopting this? Even if we say, there is no harm in choosing opinions from other madahib bcoz in the end your supposed to choose the truth, even if it opposed your madhab, how come this is the only thing many non hanabila sisters choose from the hanbali madhab?
Followers of desires. Nothing else.
They pick n choose
Thats your opinion . Ulamah have diffrent opinion regarding this topic so u cant say ” not allowed ” its called diffrent opinions so be clear about that
I agree with this 💯, i will be everything my man wants, whenever, wherever aslong as it means ge doesn't do polygyny 😆
Then they say it’s in their nature so u can be perfect but they will still want to. They either blame the first wife for not giving men their rights or when they can’t say that they say it’s in our nature
Dont agree to a contract which makes you give up something which has been made halal you
Gabriel spitting 😂
and women put More also they go ahead
Allah has permitted up to four wives for men; under strict conditions, and one husband for women, therefore that is how it is. No and’s, if’s, or but’s about it. So if a man or woman add clauses that would oppose this, they’re are going against Allah. Plain, and simple. This is not up for debate, just like any other rule Allah has set, unless Allah has also said otherwise.
It is halal for any person to give up their rights in the Nikkah contract.
1. A wife can give up her rights for separate accommodation by living with inlaws and sharing a kitchen/bathroom with his family,(this is common in Asian cultures )
2.she can give up her right of her nights to another wife. So she can have 1 night, the other wife can get 6 nights. If she gives these nights up. The prophet (SAW) wife gave up her nights to Aisha(RA). This is allowed.
3. A wife who wants to live in the city of her parents, at the time of the Nikkah, she can stipulate that she will never move out the city and wants to stay close to look after them If the man agrees, the contract is binding.
4. A man can give up his right to a 2nd wife.
If two people agree upon something in this contract, it is binding. Don't make promises and contracts you can't abide by. Simple as that.
There are already many couples who live by giving up their rights. As long as the other person willingly does this, it is halal. That's why scholars have spoken about it. No one is forcing you to accept conditions.
So if any of the agreements of the contract is broken, the other person has a right to end the marriage.
Read Ibn Taymiyyah, imam Ahmad and Ibn Qayyim, Sheikh Uthaymeen, Sheikh Fawzaan views on this to understand it more. I mentioned these blessed scholars because it seems like everyone respects and takes knowledge from them.
@@FreeToThink0 Thank you for this information!
However. A man promising that he will not have another wife, voluntarily, is different from a woman telling him he can’t have another wife.
The latter is not Halal.
@@victoramaro4857by accepting to rhe clause, he has accepted to relinquish his rights. How is the woman telling him what yo do when he has the choice to not get married to sich a womam in the first place
@@Ibrahim-zf8qh He indeed has the right to say no, however, the difference is that she is essentially saying "give up this right or else". Now, If HE tells her, "hey if you get married with me, I will give up this right", its different.
@@victoramaro4857 potahto potayto. By accepting, he has accepted to relinquish his rights. Why is it so difficult to accept that marriage is a compromise 🙄 And he can just walk out. It's not fardh ain to get married to a particular woman. I mean, if there are the many women people do much like to quote, why the hell would you get married to a woman who doesn't want to get married to you and you her because of some personal preferences. The Prophet didn't get married to Ansari women because they didn't like polygamy and he had wives already. Just stop with the whining and gender wars. There are far greater things to talk about than women who do not want to get involved in polygamy because guess what, there are women who do and are involved in polygamy.
“First wife syndrome “
All the hanafi women go hanbali on this issue.Pure hypocrisy.
When it's niqab they go hanafi and when it's this clause time they go hanbali.
You are ONLY supposed to follow either a madhab in ALL its rulings or a scholar who can choose between opinions and follow him in all rulings.....
You can choose anything that is backed up by proofs from Quran and Sunnah, we are followers of the revelation, not madhabs
@@alghurraba Taqleed is obligatory for laymen,all scholars are agreed on this.
watch: can the layman do tarjeeh saleh al fawzan zayn al abideen
taqleed by zayn al abideen
@@alghurraba you can not choose "anything" because that is following your desires. if you prahy the hanafi way you must do taqleed in all rulings. not just taqleed on rulings easy. Teh truth is singular and if you dont know you do taqleed
You can act according according to the Hanbali madhab, but with all its injuctions regarding marriage.
Can you name these imams who aren't saying that the man can also put things in the contract, too, so I can shame them, please.
This just proves these imams aren't leaders or masculine themselves, so we don't need to take from them when it comes to these issues.
#simpimams
I feel the brother's criticism is unjust here. Any1 who I have seen saying women can stipulate things in the contract is when they've been asked about it. They just don't start talking about it randomly. Therefore why would they bring up randomly about men stipulating in the contract
This is a stupid argument as the man can just divorce her with a single word anyway! Where is the benefit of putting in spiteful conditions tht as u say r already stipulated by the religion.
DONT YOU CARE ABOUT FEMALE FEELINGS?!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!
You clearly didnt listen to the whole video..
I feel he is actually saying something really fair. This is coming from a woman.
@@Amina-db2hc What is fair about this? Comparing such a serious life altering thing like a 2nd wife to COOKING! Sister respect yourself and learn the deen from the source, rather than a man who is constantly spewing his fragile viewpoint.
Sisters, you have the right to stipulate ‘no second wife' so do it. And don't pay attention to what this narcissist grifter (who happens to justify male infidelity in some of his videos with logical fallacies despite knowing it's a major sin) has to say. Because it's him who puts his best endeavours to keep muslim sisters unaware about their rights. Farsical and it's a shame that a man like this is a marriage councillor. Baffling irony.
STOP SLANDERING OUR BROTHER! FEAR ALLAH WHOEVER YOU ARE!
Wow. The brother spoke the truth and you call him a narcissist. No surprise when the truth is spoken responses like yours occurs
@@Mohalshabz agree 👍
Fear Allah SWT! Typical emotional feminist response as predicted!
Sisters if you start putting conditions in Nikaah contract like no second wife, this will lead to it backfiring on you and ending up in this you vs him war which will lead to a disastrous marriage. Just don't do it sisters.
The image quality is insane