3 meltdowns in over a year is awesome progress!!! We have minor ones daily, and the bigger ones are only happening weekly or so. I consider THAT progress on our end 😁
Having his TV and stuff in his room like that will be a nice birthday gift. Everyone wants a little alone hangout space that is just their own. When I was 14, I never wanted to leave my room lol
Yes! I was thinking this too, sometimes at 13/14 you just get annoyed with being around your parents so it will be good for him, of course they need to set boundaries but they’re doing a great job imo :).
the meltdown fascination is really bizarre, they are so horrible to have (as a 30yr old Autistic woman who still struggles with them) and the toll they take on all involved is massive. I really like the idea of his birthday present, I spent probably 95% of all my non-school time in my room at 14. My mum was so concerned but they were my happiest times.
I think the melt down fascination is because of the culture online, I like watching your videos because you are truth and real. And I love seeing the progress Andy has made, and how much happier you have been as a family. Good luck tomorrow, and I hope you get to see him get his award, he deserves it.
I love to see Andy's happy dancing! And I'm glad you show the bad as well as the good. As an autistic adult, I get a lot of being expected to function normally all the time, because I "seem perfectly normal", and it's simply because when I can't function normally, I stay in to avoid things getting any worse for me.
I had a special needs child. It does help to know other parents have same kind of difficulty. My son wasn't autistic but have similar issues. Thank you very much for your postings. I also love listen to you, you have a really lovely voice and clear in what you talk about. And to your wife, I was a single mom for 11 years. I was telling my friend, just today, how I know how difficult life must have been before you two meet and what a blessing you must be to her.
Your patience, hardwork and dedication to Andy's success is extraordinary. Andy has come so far since I started following your family. There are so many aspects of autism that aren't pretty and smearing is one of them. Its something many autism parents deal with and I applaud you for discussing it.
With regards to what people find distressing or inappropriate, your vlogs are real life, I think its great to include these kind of situations, I think many people watch you because you do show the ups and downs of day to day living, keep doing what you're doing!
A member of the "end of the vlog club" here. Lol! I always enjoy your videos (& your beautiful family), but seeing Andy upset yesterday, broke my heart! I know that it's hard for him to fully comprehend what has happened & to express how he feels about it, but that look on his face...ah, I'm tearing up just thinking about it. He misses his Marmar. 😥 So it was SO wonderful to see that smile on his face today, as he winked & danced. I know that you guys aren't really religious, but b/c I know that it has worked for me (& my loved ones), I will pray for peace & comfort during the healing process for your family. Keeping family close & laughing often, helps wonders as well! Thank you for taking us along on this journey, through the good, the bad & everything in between! ❤️
Is it possible to tell a little bit more about what kind of school Andy’s attend? And how they are teaching the childeren? Im very interested in schools for autism and how its different in different countries
I've never commented on absoulty anything I've watched, seen on CZcams so this is a first for me 🙈 my son (just turned 6) is currently awaiting ados. So a few weeks ago i was at my whitts end with his behaviours, I literally turned to CZcams for explanations of or help or just anything that would back up my own thoughts, and came across yourself. I have been totally dedicated ever since, and personally feel that the fact you have felt the need to justify yourselves for yesterday's meltdown is wrong, if people are only interested in the 'meltdown' video's then they need to seek further help, because for me they are only a small section of what autism really is. It's so much more and I was hugely relieved tonight to hear that smearing/weeing in the bedroom is actually a thing and not just "bad behaviour" I'm now more confident that my boy, has more going on than meets the eye...so thank you!!! I think Andy has held it together amazingly considering recent events and 1 meltdown out of hundreds of days is quite frankly pretty damn good, so hat's off to not only him, but to you all as a family for doing what you have done and continue to do. Don't ever justify your actions 👊😍
I watch your vlogs every evening. You are an amazing family. I have a close friend with a 21yr old girl with autism and your advice about the ups and downs are very informative. Helps me understand her and her everyday struggles. Keep up the good work Kev. Best wishes to you all . Julie
I have to admit that I watched yesterday’s video because ‘meltdown’ was in the title and I’d like to explain my reasoning. I know my reasons are probably different than many but maybe others do for similar reasons. My predominant reason was that I was concerned about what could be upsetting Andy to cause a meltdown. I have been subscribed to your channel for quite a while but my youtube viewing tends to vary in phases for whatever reason (probably partly effected by what is going on in my own life and largely effected by CZcams’s algorithms and what happens to show up in my recommend section) and I had unintentionally gone a while without watching any of your videos. When I see a title along the lines of ‘first meltdown in x amount of time time’ come up in my side bar from a CZcams’s I care about/follow it makes me think ‘wow I haven’t checked in with that persons channel for a while and I hope they are ok. I need to watch and find out’. I was sad to hear what’s going on for your family and wish I had some kind of support to offer. My second reason is more selfish but also probably not at all what you are thinking. I am someone who is still struggling with accepting/coming to terms with the idea of being autistic myself and watching/hearing about other people’s experiences of different aspects of autism help me a lot both with accepting that my own autism and finding ways to better cope. Among many other aspects of autism, I have watched several ‘meltdown’ videos various people have posted because my own meltdowns are something I struggle with very much and I want to gain understanding of myself by seeing where I may or may not have similar meltdown experiences to other autistic people, as well as what may be helpful or unhelpful in the way those around them react during the autistic person’s meltdown. If I feel the autistic person is being exploited or disrespected at all in the posting of such videos I immediately stop watching an refuse to watch more videos on the account that posted them. I also watch many videos documenting or talking about other aspects of how people experience their autism so meltdowns far from the thing I look for the most. When I find videos by people like you in this process then I follow and begin to follow the channels regular videos and want to support the channel in general because I like and grow to feel an attachment with the people but other videos don’t have whatever the positive vibe that makes me feel that. I love how you guys are with Andy and I think you all, including Andy, are pretty awesome and I genuinely care about you and whatever you have to say and show in any video you post...but, yes, the ones that relate to me and my own experiences too will probably be the ones I click on quickest, even though I will probably watch most of them at some point. Maybe other people do that too and maybe they want to see a video about meltdowns because they have a family member or know someone or come into contact somehow with someone who is autistic and want to learn about meltdowns or maybe they are just interested in learning about different conditions or whatever. I just don’t want you to think the numbers of views are nessisarily so high because people just want to gawp at Andy having a hard time coz that must be a horrible thing to feel about someone you love and want to protect. I mean, there are some horrible people and maybe some do watch for that reason but I just wanted to try to make you feel better by saying some other reasons too. I also want to say I think what Andy is doing with getting back in touch with memories connected with someone close to him who died sounds pretty normal and healthy as a way of grieving to me. One thing that may be hard for him though is that autistic people seem to find it harder than others to let go of something or someone and move on though so I really feel for him and hope he is able to do that. I think you guys seem to be doing so much to help him as much as possible though. A lot of people would not be so supportive while dealing with their own grief too. I know it doesn’t make sense for me to say this when I don’t even know Andy and you are the closest people in the world to him but thank you. I guess maybe I want to say it because it makes me so glad for Andy to have support that so many of us get messed up from not having. Anyway. Thank you. Sorry for writing so much. I am often told I struggle to be concise and talk too much when I’m trying to say something.
I’m very happy you’ve shared yesterday bc a lot of families are going through these things and it’s nice to know we are not alone! I have watched all your videos and you always respect Andy’s wishes if he doesn’t want to be filmed! Please keep sharing, love watching everyday 👍🏻😊
Hi Kev, just wanted to say thank you for allowing us to be apart of you and your family’s life everyday, it’s amazing to watch how Andy grows and learns each day through his life. Secondly I wanna thank you for putting amazing work into your vlogs, the quality and editing style is amazing and you can tell you’re really passionate about what you do. Lastly I wanna thank you for being such an amazing dad to Andy, from watching your vlogs life for Andy is not easy, but I and many others can see that you love him so much and are willing to do anything for you, I think Andy is grateful for that because he deserves someone and needs someone like you in his life 😊 keep up the good work Kev. 😊💙
My son had his first meltdown last night after watching a tried not to cry on youtube he was so upset just like you said no one else needs to see it. So glad Andy is feeling better it was a great video
I think most of us understand why he has rules regarding being in his bedroom. I love your patience and azaming parenting you inspire Me to be a better parent xz
I had a hunch that he was doing something like that. Reminiscing in his own way about things he used to do, play, or even things he heard or watched with Anna's mum. Love seeing him smile and dance :)
I watch several family vlogs and I like that yours is real and shows all sides of life. You seem to be respectful when any of your family doesn't want to be filmed. We are not an autism family ( I don't think...my son is only 1) but I know we have our bad days too. It always makes me wonder in some other families' vlogs how they always seem so well adjusted and happy ALL THE TIME... I am guessing they just edit a lot out. It is a bit annoying , honestly. Thanks for doing what you do. You have a beautiful family. On another note, hoping for the best in people, maybe the meltdown videos get more hits because people who are dealing with autism themselves look for them specifically to see how it is handled in other families...I want to believe that is why anyway.
I applaud you and Anna for setting those rules for Andy and his room and over time he learned. Like you said, it's one thing to be naked, it's a big issue when someone starts smearing all over the place, as well as jumping on the bed naked. You handled it so well and I fully understand why you did that. And filming his meltdown is not something that I find offensive, or inappropriate. You've said he does not mind being filmed. And as you stated again in this video, when he says no filming you always remove the camera from him. If someone is uncomfortable, then they should just move on to the next video :) You will never please everybody but the majority of us understand your intentions and fully enjoy you sharing your lives with us. I've only been watching for a few weeks, but I've gone back and watched more from the last year to catch myself up on things. You've quickly become my favorite CZcamsr. Well done Kev. I came back to edit this comment because maybe those who watched the meltdown videos are possibly not subscribed but have been recommended the video because they have searched autism and wanted to watch something that they relate to? I try to see that in a positive way, I don't want to imagine that they want to just watch a child suffering. I understand that not everyone thinks like me though and maybe I am wrong :(
Life isn’t always a bed of roses. A daily family vlog is going to have low like yesterday. He’s a teenage boy=pushing boundaries. A grieving child=irrational behavior. Yesterday was inevitable and your “friends” for support in those times. Glad he’s doing well today.
The outro music gave me so much nostalgia! I believe the original song was used in cars, which I loved as a kid! I guess you could say it was one of my special interests when I was little, but I’m not too sure. I have hazy memories from being a kid
Seeing all sides of Autism is very important thank you very much for sharing It is so clear how much you both love Andy, and do so much to help him. Your videos are amazing and very educational. Im glad Andy feels better today xxx
I really hope there isn't people who just watch the videos where Andy is having a hard day. I do know that when I first started coming across videos of children with autism the main ones I would see in my feed are the meltdown videos from different channels. Let's just hope it's the algorithm and not people just subscribing for meltdowns. I know I appreciate ALL of your videos so we get a perspective of real life ❤
I'm sure your videos help many many families going thru what you Anna & Andy have gone thru over the years to get to the stage where days like yesterday are extremely rare. I'm also sure it will give the great hope and the strength that to get thru the tough days as it is worth it once you put the effort in and also even if there is a setback like yesterday that once you keep doing what worked before that things will get better. Again much respect to you Anna & Andy for the massive progress and for allowing us see the marvelous progression. Will continue to support all your vlogs and fm videos.
Just a heads up kev, That's Nintendogs+cats for the 3ds where the music is coming from, (It's the tune which playes when you walk the dog) and it'll work on his 2ds obviously.
good to see andy seems back to now normal self so used to seeing him happy I had forgotten the other side to him but today has been a good day and cant wait to see what his award from school is in tomorrows vlog keep up the great work hugs as usual to anna feeling a bit down myself as it gets closer to the 10th anniversary of my mums passing
Hi kev, I think these videos of Andy having a hard time.l is for the parents of kids with autism. It's a look into the future for me personally. I have been a follower since before you had 1000 subscribers...I Watch every day. Good and the bad. It has been wonderful to watch the progress of Andy and It gives me hope for my two boys with autism that are younger. One is about to become a teen. Thank you. Thanks to Andy also for allowing you to show it also
I think you're doing an amazing job Kev, both with the parenting and the channel. I think the spike in views for the meltdown video may not necessarily come from subscribers only bothering to watch the 'bad' videos, I think it mostly comes from people actively searching for meltdown videos, for whatever reason that might be. Unless there are analytics that prove me wrong of course. I'd like to think that most people who subscribe do so for the right reasons.
Thank You For Your Honesty And Being Real Also Sharing Something Very Personal. I Love Your Vlogs And Have No Problem With Your Contexts I Think Andy Is Great..
Your channel has helped me a lot BC I'm autistic but not servilely autistic. In the past year I've had so many issues with school but now I'm a lot better with copping with it BC people understand me. I watch the videos with Andy with meltdown purely BC it helps me if/ when I have a little one
I was a teen who loved her room. I come from big family . So I actually made a little fort in my closet . I’d go and hide out. I hope he is feeling better . It was so hard to see him sad.
I hate having my hair brushed so we buzz my head with my dad's clippers i have just discovered your channel its great I am different to ❤ go any go get an award ❤ 👍
The vlog was good to show that its not just a naughty child. In this world theres so many people in this world that don't understand and just take it as theres a naughty teenager which is wrong..
Thanks for explaining Kev now we understand why you wouldn't let him, as it was so hot on Sunday we all wanted to take our clothes off ha ha by the way always watch all of your vlogs all the way to the end love them
And one more thing In my course im doing it dose say rogression is something that happens with mental health conditions when dealing with grief just to propear you incase it happens. And also try to look at it as new perants want to know how to deal with meltdowns it's a lot nicer way to think of it.
It would be cool to see an Andy room tour. One now as his “kids room” and then one in a month or so when it’s been done up for his “teenage room” with his consoles and tv etc!
Appreciate the explanation about the rules with Andy's room, that makes perfect sense. I've been wondering - I know you won't be able to know for sure what caused the meltdown, but I wonder if he is aware of the summer holidays coming? Could that have contributed? I'm on the spectrum and I have anxiety about routine changes, even if I don't like what I'm doing. I cried so much on my last day of elementary school because of the massive change that middle school would bring and my mom didn't understand why I was so upset because I didn't like my elementary school teacher (she was mean). But I'd rather have put up with that than deal with the anxiety about starting a new school. I know Andy isn't starting a new school but maybe since he has now gotten into the routine of going to school the summer holidays are causing him anxiety? Just something I thought I'd throw out there - I've learned now as an adult that sometimes it helps my anxiety to just voice all the irrational fears, to make them a little less scary and help me deal with the anxiety.
Very interesting video! I wanted to say something about your comments about the people who only watch the videos with “meltdown” in the title, maybe it helps and makes you feel better: I came across your channel yesterday because that video was suddenly in my recommendations. CZcams pushed the video so that’s probably part of the reason why it got more views than usual (besides people seem to be wired to react to drama unfortunately). I’ll subscribe and keep watching for sure, you seem to be really good people and I love your calm and positive outlook :) Just thought I’d let you know! All the best to your family!
I would really like to ask a question about wether or not you have ever reprimanded him or shouted at him or just lost your temper with Andy in the past or even Anna, just wondering as my friend has a four year old boy with autism who she frequently ends up shouting at him when he tried to strip off or screams
I think it’s one of them things. Each child with autism is different. My mum used to shout at me ( I have Aspergers adhd and PDA) but my mum doesn’t shout at my 9 year old brother who has autism, I think as time goes on she be able to get through to him without shouting. It’s taken my mum 20 years haha. 4 years isn’t a long time x give my best to your friend x
mycroft holmes I am being diagnosed with autism and I cannot cope with shouting, I just don't understand it like even when people have loud voices it seems like they are shouting at me and it makes me very upset even to the point when I'm in a meltdown because I can't cope, so I'd say to not shout
Hi Kev as a disabled person that goes to Blackpool every year try the Liberty Hotel it has a lift and is designed for disabled people plus it does breakfast and evening meals and as entertainment in the
As for the TV. Maybe to stop the broken screen. You need to invest in a TV that wont break u can get them. Or make a box of wood with speakers and thick perspex over screen so its break proof. As he is getting older and his meltdown even still now in 2021
You should give Andy a keyboard or some sort of instrument , when i see him listening to music and being happy it comes to my mind that he might be a really talented musician!
I think it's awesome how you said you would do it again! To the people who are uncomfortable are you kidding me?! This is what you live... so your life makes people uncomfortable?! Fuck off... sorry I just think you are awesome I never have ever thought you have gone too far... and I'm not subbed for Andy's meltdowns but I will day I am interested in those vlogs because I dont know anyone with autism and I've learned a lot from the videos showing the ugly too... but I cant imagine someone being subbed only for that reason... that's the world we live in... clicks and views and what gets the views and blah blah... anyways I just wanted to say I appreciate what you are doing...
Also, Kev, maybe I'm being too charitable about the human condition here, but maybe the people who primarily watch the meltdown videos are just... interested to see how severe autism manifests itself. Unlikely, I'll admit- some people are just ghouls, basically- but a possibility
In regards to the meltdown videos being popular, I don't think it's because people want to see him have a meltdown or be upset, I believe it's because it's different and not documented that well on CZcams. Whilst I do definitely agree that there are some who just want to see the 'drama' a lot are curious.
Kev, just wondering how Andy reacts to watching himself meltdown on film? Small Barnsey is quite embarrassed watching himself a few days later. P.s I havent watched yesterday's vlog (have enough quota of meltdowns to view in my own household!)
He tends not to really watch them - he’s gone back and watched that video just the once, which is rare for him - he didn’t watch all of it, but I think used it to remind himself what had happened, because he then got up, asked to go upstairs and told us he’d keep his clothes onb
Awesome channel, & totally understand why u showed yesterday's vid, that's true Vlog, & shows Autism as it can be, I thought u were being very respectful & allowing people to see the bad with the good in a respectful way, u only showed when he was in a much calmer mood even though still upset, he was processing it... As for getting nakey maybe he was hot, I mean the UK has been very hot up in the 30's so maybe it was a combo of being too hot .... Is there any chance he can play outside with water, have a little pool where he can put his hands or feet in, or put his toys in to help cool him down..??? I do know a lot of people with Autism do not like water on there face etc so maybe not right for him, Anyway it's good to see he's ok & having a better day today.....
He's not a big fan of water, or being outside. I think there were a combination of a lot of things that led to the meltdown, the heat definitely being one of them.
Wow I’m more interested in his eating journey and other videos I have clicked on a meltdown video but seeing a child so upset outside of his control is sad. I will watch now but it’s so sad that those videos are so popular (btw I know these are old vlogs) I just found you
3 meltdowns in over a year is awesome progress!!! We have minor ones daily, and the bigger ones are only happening weekly or so. I consider THAT progress on our end 😁
Well done!!!
That’s pretty much where we were 2 years ago. I wish we could take some credit for the change, but really it’s all him!
Having his TV and stuff in his room like that will be a nice birthday gift. Everyone wants a little alone hangout space that is just their own. When I was 14, I never wanted to leave my room lol
Yes! I was thinking this too, sometimes at 13/14 you just get annoyed with being around your parents so it will be good for him, of course they need to set boundaries but they’re doing a great job imo :).
The diffrence is ur not severely autistic
Wondering if putting a TV in his from would make Andy to isolate ?
That's on your parents for letting u just spend all ur time in it
@@stillirise9705 I didnt spend all my time alone. I had a fun childhood/teenage years. That was a long time ago though lol
the meltdown fascination is really bizarre, they are so horrible to have (as a 30yr old Autistic woman who still struggles with them) and the toll they take on all involved is massive. I really like the idea of his birthday present, I spent probably 95% of all my non-school time in my room at 14. My mum was so concerned but they were my happiest times.
I think the melt down fascination is because of the culture online, I like watching your videos because you are truth and real. And I love seeing the progress Andy has made, and how much happier you have been as a family. Good luck tomorrow, and I hope you get to see him get his award, he deserves it.
I love to see Andy's happy dancing! And I'm glad you show the bad as well as the good. As an autistic adult, I get a lot of being expected to function normally all the time, because I "seem perfectly normal", and it's simply because when I can't function normally, I stay in to avoid things getting any worse for me.
I had a special needs child. It does help to know other parents have same kind of difficulty. My son wasn't autistic but have similar issues. Thank you very much for your postings. I also love listen to you, you have a really lovely voice and clear in what you talk about. And to your wife, I was a single mom for 11 years. I was telling my friend, just today, how I know how difficult life must have been before you two meet and what a blessing you must be to her.
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Your patience, hardwork and dedication to Andy's success is extraordinary. Andy has come so far since I started following your family. There are so many aspects of autism that aren't pretty and smearing is one of them. Its something many autism parents deal with and I applaud you for discussing it.
With regards to what people find distressing or inappropriate, your vlogs are real life, I think its great to include these kind of situations, I think many people watch you because you do show the ups and downs of day to day living, keep doing what you're doing!
Glad you got the young bucks t-shirt I sent glad it wasn't damaged like the captain marvel box. Good to see Andy is ok today.
A member of the "end of the vlog club" here. Lol! I always enjoy your videos (& your beautiful family), but seeing Andy upset yesterday, broke my heart! I know that it's hard for him to fully comprehend what has happened & to express how he feels about it, but that look on his face...ah, I'm tearing up just thinking about it. He misses his Marmar. 😥 So it was SO wonderful to see that smile on his face today, as he winked & danced. I know that you guys aren't really religious, but b/c I know that it has worked for me (& my loved ones), I will pray for peace & comfort during the healing process for your family. Keeping family close & laughing often, helps wonders as well! Thank you for taking us along on this journey, through the good, the bad & everything in between! ❤️
Is it possible to tell a little bit more about what kind of school Andy’s attend? And how they are teaching the childeren? Im very interested in schools for autism and how its different in different countries
It’s difficult to go in to it in too much detail because they don’t want us to film them.
Kevin Chapman I understand! Thank you for your responds
So glad Andy seems so much better today 👍👍👍
I've never commented on absoulty anything I've watched, seen on CZcams so this is a first for me 🙈 my son (just turned 6) is currently awaiting ados. So a few weeks ago i was at my whitts end with his behaviours, I literally turned to CZcams for explanations of or help or just anything that would back up my own thoughts, and came across yourself. I have been totally dedicated ever since, and personally feel that the fact you have felt the need to justify yourselves for yesterday's meltdown is wrong, if people are only interested in the 'meltdown' video's then they need to seek further help, because for me they are only a small section of what autism really is. It's so much more and I was hugely relieved tonight to hear that smearing/weeing in the bedroom is actually a thing and not just "bad behaviour" I'm now more confident that my boy, has more going on than meets the eye...so thank you!!! I think Andy has held it together amazingly considering recent events and 1 meltdown out of hundreds of days is quite frankly pretty damn good, so hat's off to not only him, but to you all as a family for doing what you have done and continue to do. Don't ever justify your actions 👊😍
Thanks for reaching out - getting these kind of comments is fantastic, and exactly why we make these videos!
I watch your vlogs every evening.
You are an amazing family.
I have a close friend with a 21yr old girl with autism and your advice about the ups and downs are very informative. Helps me understand her and her everyday struggles. Keep up the good work Kev. Best wishes to you all . Julie
I have to admit that I watched yesterday’s video because ‘meltdown’ was in the title and I’d like to explain my reasoning. I know my reasons are probably different than many but maybe others do for similar reasons.
My predominant reason was that I was concerned about what could be upsetting Andy to cause a meltdown. I have been subscribed to your channel for quite a while but my youtube viewing tends to vary in phases for whatever reason (probably partly effected by what is going on in my own life and largely effected by CZcams’s algorithms and what happens to show up in my recommend section) and I had unintentionally gone a while without watching any of your videos. When I see a title along the lines of ‘first meltdown in x amount of time time’ come up in my side bar from a CZcams’s I care about/follow it makes me think ‘wow I haven’t checked in with that persons channel for a while and I hope they are ok. I need to watch and find out’. I was sad to hear what’s going on for your family and wish I had some kind of support to offer.
My second reason is more selfish but also probably not at all what you are thinking. I am someone who is still struggling with accepting/coming to terms with the idea of being autistic myself and watching/hearing about other people’s experiences of different aspects of autism help me a lot both with accepting that my own autism and finding ways to better cope. Among many other aspects of autism, I have watched several ‘meltdown’ videos various people have posted because my own meltdowns are something I struggle with very much and I want to gain understanding of myself by seeing where I may or may not have similar meltdown experiences to other autistic people, as well as what may be helpful or unhelpful in the way those around them react during the autistic person’s meltdown. If I feel the autistic person is being exploited or disrespected at all in the posting of such videos I immediately stop watching an refuse to watch more videos on the account that posted them.
I also watch many videos documenting or talking about other aspects of how people experience their autism so meltdowns far from the thing I look for the most. When I find videos by people like you in this process then I follow and begin to follow the channels regular videos and want to support the channel in general because I like and grow to feel an attachment with the people but other videos don’t have whatever the positive vibe that makes me feel that. I love how you guys are with Andy and I think you all, including Andy, are pretty awesome and I genuinely care about you and whatever you have to say and show in any video you post...but, yes, the ones that relate to me and my own experiences too will probably be the ones I click on quickest, even though I will probably watch most of them at some point. Maybe other people do that too and maybe they want to see a video about meltdowns because they have a family member or know someone or come into contact somehow with someone who is autistic and want to learn about meltdowns or maybe they are just interested in learning about different conditions or whatever. I just don’t want you to think the numbers of views are nessisarily so high because people just want to gawp at Andy having a hard time coz that must be a horrible thing to feel about someone you love and want to protect. I mean, there are some horrible people and maybe some do watch for that reason but I just wanted to try to make you feel better by saying some other reasons too.
I also want to say I think what Andy is doing with getting back in touch with memories connected with someone close to him who died sounds pretty normal and healthy as a way of grieving to me. One thing that may be hard for him though is that autistic people seem to find it harder than others to let go of something or someone and move on though so I really feel for him and hope he is able to do that. I think you guys seem to be doing so much to help him as much as possible though. A lot of people would not be so supportive while dealing with their own grief too. I know it doesn’t make sense for me to say this when I don’t even know Andy and you are the closest people in the world to him but thank you. I guess maybe I want to say it because it makes me so glad for Andy to have support that so many of us get messed up from not having. Anyway. Thank you.
Sorry for writing so much. I am often told I struggle to be concise and talk too much when I’m trying to say something.
That seems like a perfectly reasonable reason to watch - and I’m sure lots of people have very good reasons.
My eyes just broke 😂😂
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Love how honest you are Kev! Love your videos a lot xo
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Lydia Ernest no i didn't get the notification about this upload but sometimes i do get notification but i haven't got the notification today
I didn’t get the notification but I watch the Vlog everyday so I checked the channel. X
I’m very happy you’ve shared yesterday bc a lot of families are going through these things and it’s nice to know we are not alone! I have watched all your videos and you always respect Andy’s wishes if he doesn’t want to be filmed! Please keep sharing, love watching everyday 👍🏻😊
Good to see Andy is doing good after yesterday!
Rewatching the older vlogs really shows how much Andy has progressed over the past few months!
100% best “vlogging” channel on CZcams by far
Are you gonna do a room tour when you set everything up in his room? that would be cool
Maybe - although he has a very small room so it’d be a very short tour!
@@kevinchapmanvlog Andy came along way well done andy
Hi Kev, just wanted to say thank you for allowing us to be apart of you and your family’s life everyday, it’s amazing to watch how Andy grows and learns each day through his life. Secondly I wanna thank you for putting amazing work into your vlogs, the quality and editing style is amazing and you can tell you’re really passionate about what you do. Lastly I wanna thank you for being such an amazing dad to Andy, from watching your vlogs life for Andy is not easy, but I and many others can see that you love him so much and are willing to do anything for you, I think Andy is grateful for that because he deserves someone and needs someone like you in his life 😊 keep up the good work Kev. 😊💙
My son had his first meltdown last night after watching a tried not to cry on youtube he was so upset just like you said no one else needs to see it. So glad Andy is feeling better it was a great video
I think most of us understand why he has rules regarding being in his bedroom. I love your patience and azaming parenting you inspire Me to be a better parent xz
I had a hunch that he was doing something like that. Reminiscing in his own way about things he used to do, play, or even things he heard or watched with Anna's mum. Love seeing him smile and dance :)
I watch several family vlogs and I like that yours is real and shows all sides of life. You seem to be respectful when any of your family doesn't want to be filmed. We are not an autism family ( I don't think...my son is only 1) but I know we have our bad days too. It always makes me wonder in some other families' vlogs how they always seem so well adjusted and happy ALL THE TIME... I am guessing they just edit a lot out. It is a bit annoying , honestly. Thanks for doing what you do. You have a beautiful family.
On another note, hoping for the best in people, maybe the meltdown videos get more hits because people who are dealing with autism themselves look for them specifically to see how it is handled in other families...I want to believe that is why anyway.
I applaud you and Anna for setting those rules for Andy and his room and over time he learned. Like you said, it's one thing to be naked, it's a big issue when someone starts smearing all over the place, as well as jumping on the bed naked. You handled it so well and I fully understand why you did that. And filming his meltdown is not something that I find offensive, or inappropriate. You've said he does not mind being filmed. And as you stated again in this video, when he says no filming you always remove the camera from him. If someone is uncomfortable, then they should just move on to the next video :) You will never please everybody but the majority of us understand your intentions and fully enjoy you sharing your lives with us. I've only been watching for a few weeks, but I've gone back and watched more from the last year to catch myself up on things. You've quickly become my favorite CZcamsr. Well done Kev.
I came back to edit this comment because maybe those who watched the meltdown videos are possibly not subscribed but have been recommended the video because they have searched autism and wanted to watch something that they relate to? I try to see that in a positive way, I don't want to imagine that they want to just watch a child suffering. I understand that not everyone thinks like me though and maybe I am wrong :(
Life isn’t always a bed of roses. A daily family vlog is going to have low like yesterday. He’s a teenage boy=pushing boundaries. A grieving child=irrational behavior. Yesterday was inevitable and your “friends” for support in those times. Glad he’s doing well today.
The outro music gave me so much nostalgia! I believe the original song was used in cars, which I loved as a kid! I guess you could say it was one of my special interests when I was little, but I’m not too sure. I have hazy memories from being a kid
Seeing all sides of Autism is very important
thank you very much for sharing
It is so clear how much you both love Andy, and do so much to help him.
Your videos are amazing and very educational.
Im glad Andy feels better today xxx
I was mid-nutella sandwich when Kev nearly started on smearing... never skipped a clip so fast in my life haha
You came up on my recommend to me... Have now subscribed and spent the last 24hrs watching loads of your vlogs... you guys are awesome... xx
I have ASD level 2, I have sensory processing disorder. I like Andy. He’s why I watch.
I really hope there isn't people who just watch the videos where Andy is having a hard day. I do know that when I first started coming across videos of children with autism the main ones I would see in my feed are the meltdown videos from different channels. Let's just hope it's the algorithm and not people just subscribing for meltdowns. I know I appreciate ALL of your videos so we get a perspective of real life ❤
I'm sure your videos help many many families going thru what you Anna & Andy have gone thru over the years to get to the stage where days like yesterday are extremely rare. I'm also sure it will give the great hope and the strength that to get thru the tough days as it is worth it once you put the effort in and also even if there is a setback like yesterday that once you keep doing what worked before that things will get better. Again much respect to you Anna & Andy for the massive progress and for allowing us see the marvelous progression. Will continue to support all your vlogs and fm videos.
Congratulations on 50k guys I can tell this is just the beginning. 👍👊
I think it's good that you show the meltdowns because it shows people about autism and what it is like
You and Anna do a great job.
Awww! So great to see him dancing and happy!
Just a heads up kev, That's Nintendogs+cats for the 3ds where the music is coming from, (It's the tune which playes when you walk the dog) and it'll work on his 2ds obviously.
good to see andy seems back to now normal self so used to seeing him happy I had forgotten the other side to him but today has been a good day and cant wait to see what his award from school is in tomorrows vlog keep up the great work hugs as usual to anna feeling a bit down myself as it gets closer to the 10th anniversary of my mums passing
Im guessing andy saying end of the vlog is his way of saying leave me alone
Hi kev, I think these videos of Andy having a hard time.l is for the parents of kids with autism. It's a look into the future for me personally. I have been a follower since before you had 1000 subscribers...I Watch every day. Good and the bad. It has been wonderful to watch the progress of Andy and It gives me hope for my two boys with autism that are younger. One is about to become a teen. Thank you. Thanks to Andy also for allowing you to show it also
I think you're doing an amazing job Kev, both with the parenting and the channel. I think the spike in views for the meltdown video may not necessarily come from subscribers only bothering to watch the 'bad' videos, I think it mostly comes from people actively searching for meltdown videos, for whatever reason that might be. Unless there are analytics that prove me wrong of course. I'd like to think that most people who subscribe do so for the right reasons.
Thank You For Your Honesty And Being Real Also Sharing Something Very Personal. I Love Your Vlogs And Have No Problem With Your Contexts I Think Andy Is Great..
Thank you for taking time out to explain ,glad he is back to his norm today and thank you for keeping it real
And don't apologize for being real you are teaching people lessons about austim xx
Your channel has helped me a lot BC I'm autistic but not servilely autistic. In the past year I've had so many issues with school but now I'm a lot better with copping with it BC people understand me. I watch the videos with Andy with meltdown purely BC it helps me if/ when I have a little one
Glad Andy is feeling better ❤️
I see you today in town. Didn't say hello but will make sure to next time!
I was a teen who loved her room. I come from big family . So I actually made a little fort in my closet . I’d go and hide out.
I hope he is feeling better . It was so hard to see him sad.
I hate having my hair brushed so we buzz my head with my dad's clippers i have just discovered your channel its great I am different to ❤ go any go get an award ❤ 👍
The vlog was good to show that its not just a naughty child. In this world theres so many people in this world that don't understand and just take it as theres a naughty teenager which is wrong..
Kevin dancing.... funniest thing I’ve seen all week 😂😂👍🏻👍🏻
Thanks for explaining Kev now we understand why you wouldn't let him, as it was so hot on Sunday we all wanted to take our clothes off ha ha by the way always watch all of your vlogs all the way to the end love them
Your videos are very educational and thank you. Yes, I watch all of them and I think you are doing an amazing job for Autism Awareness.
Love you're channel glad Andy is happier😊😊
And one more thing In my course im doing it dose say rogression is something that happens with mental health conditions when dealing with grief just to propear you incase it happens.
And also try to look at it as new perants want to know how to deal with meltdowns it's a lot nicer way to think of it.
Love you kevo keep up the work glad andy is better
Nice kev ur awsome stay YOU
It would be cool to see an Andy room tour. One now as his “kids room” and then one in a month or so when it’s been done up for his “teenage room” with his consoles and tv etc!
I watch all of the videos even if it isn’t a meltdown video 😀
great content mate keep it up. my little brother has autism and he has recently decided to buy 10 wet floor signs - bless him
I started off sympathising with yo when I started off watching the vlog about a couple months ago. Now all said and done Andy is a net positive
weather good days or bad days...i watch and looking forward to more.
I agree, decide a line and don't let them cross it.
I love it at 5:25 when Andy starts dancing
Appreciate the explanation about the rules with Andy's room, that makes perfect sense. I've been wondering - I know you won't be able to know for sure what caused the meltdown, but I wonder if he is aware of the summer holidays coming? Could that have contributed? I'm on the spectrum and I have anxiety about routine changes, even if I don't like what I'm doing. I cried so much on my last day of elementary school because of the massive change that middle school would bring and my mom didn't understand why I was so upset because I didn't like my elementary school teacher (she was mean). But I'd rather have put up with that than deal with the anxiety about starting a new school. I know Andy isn't starting a new school but maybe since he has now gotten into the routine of going to school the summer holidays are causing him anxiety? Just something I thought I'd throw out there - I've learned now as an adult that sometimes it helps my anxiety to just voice all the irrational fears, to make them a little less scary and help me deal with the anxiety.
Thanks for the amazing vlog, kev!
Very interesting video! I wanted to say something about your comments about the people who only watch the videos with “meltdown” in the title, maybe it helps and makes you feel better: I came across your channel yesterday because that video was suddenly in my recommendations. CZcams pushed the video so that’s probably part of the reason why it got more views than usual (besides people seem to be wired to react to drama unfortunately).
I’ll subscribe and keep watching for sure, you seem to be really good people and I love your calm and positive outlook :)
Just thought I’d let you know! All the best to your family!
Great vlog Kevin!
that young bucks shirt is TOO SWEET
LOVE THE VIDS KEV
I could happily send you nintendogs for Andy kev :)
Hi Kev, thats good for Andy.
it's your family, it's your channel, it's also your choice!
Love your videos!
8:29. The longest dog shake ever. #welovedave. #davethedog
LOVE ALL VLOGS
I would really like to ask a question about wether or not you have ever reprimanded him or shouted at him or just lost your temper with Andy in the past or even Anna, just wondering as my friend has a four year old boy with autism who she frequently ends up shouting at him when he tried to strip off or screams
She feels really bad when she does it but she isn’t sure how else to get him to stop
I think it’s one of them things. Each child with autism is different. My mum used to shout at me ( I have Aspergers adhd and PDA) but my mum doesn’t shout at my 9 year old brother who has autism, I think as time goes on she be able to get through to him without shouting. It’s taken my mum 20 years haha. 4 years isn’t a long time x give my best to your friend x
Bethany Tomlinson I have the same diagnosis’s!
Get Rekt STUDIOS what Aspergers PDA and adhd ??
mycroft holmes I am being diagnosed with autism and I cannot cope with shouting, I just don't understand it like even when people have loud voices it seems like they are shouting at me and it makes me very upset even to the point when I'm in a meltdown because I can't cope, so I'd say to not shout
Me Andy have the same birthday I think
Why does andy's school not have a school uniform?
It does but he refuses to wear it
Love your vids keep going
Hi Kev as a disabled person that goes to Blackpool every year try the Liberty Hotel it has a lift and is designed for disabled people plus it does breakfast and evening meals and as entertainment in the
As for the TV. Maybe to stop the broken screen. You need to invest in a TV that wont break u can get them. Or make a box of wood with speakers and thick perspex over screen so its break proof. As he is getting older and his meltdown even still now in 2021
Loved the Vlog I just got a Nia Jax shirt
Does he want the Nintendogs for the 3ds (also has cats) or the one for the DS? I have some of both and could send a copy, if needed.
You should give Andy a keyboard or some sort of instrument , when i see him listening to music and being happy it comes to my mind that he might be a really talented musician!
Love this video
I think it's awesome how you said you would do it again! To the people who are uncomfortable are you kidding me?! This is what you live... so your life makes people uncomfortable?! Fuck off... sorry I just think you are awesome I never have ever thought you have gone too far... and I'm not subbed for Andy's meltdowns but I will day I am interested in those vlogs because I dont know anyone with autism and I've learned a lot from the videos showing the ugly too... but I cant imagine someone being subbed only for that reason... that's the world we live in... clicks and views and what gets the views and blah blah... anyways I just wanted to say I appreciate what you are doing...
If He Wants Trams - Take him to Manchester they are tram crazy ❤
Also, Kev, maybe I'm being too charitable about the human condition here, but maybe the people who primarily watch the meltdown videos are just... interested to see how severe autism manifests itself. Unlikely, I'll admit- some people are just ghouls, basically- but a possibility
In regards to the meltdown videos being popular, I don't think it's because people want to see him have a meltdown or be upset, I believe it's because it's different and not documented that well on CZcams. Whilst I do definitely agree that there are some who just want to see the 'drama' a lot are curious.
Kev, just wondering how Andy reacts to watching himself meltdown on film? Small Barnsey is quite embarrassed watching himself a few days later. P.s I havent watched yesterday's vlog (have enough quota of meltdowns to view in my own household!)
He tends not to really watch them - he’s gone back and watched that video just the once, which is rare for him - he didn’t watch all of it, but I think used it to remind himself what had happened, because he then got up, asked to go upstairs and told us he’d keep his clothes onb
That shirt is just tooooo sweeet
Awesome channel, & totally understand why u showed yesterday's vid, that's true Vlog, & shows Autism as it can be, I thought u were being very respectful & allowing people to see the bad with the good in a respectful way, u only showed when he was in a much calmer mood even though still upset, he was processing it...
As for getting nakey maybe he was hot, I mean the UK has been very hot up in the 30's so maybe it was a combo of being too hot ....
Is there any chance he can play outside with water, have a little pool where he can put his hands or feet in, or put his toys in to help cool him down..???
I do know a lot of people with Autism do not like water on there face etc so maybe not right for him,
Anyway it's good to see he's ok & having a better day today.....
He's not a big fan of water, or being outside. I think there were a combination of a lot of things that led to the meltdown, the heat definitely being one of them.
Wow I’m more interested in his eating journey and other videos I have clicked on a meltdown video but seeing a child so upset outside of his control is sad. I will watch now but it’s so sad that those videos are so popular (btw I know these are old vlogs) I just found you
The nostalgia from the Nintendogs walk theme...
Omg love your shirt 👔 😂
I have blackout meltdowns