I'm 53 & I don't understand why people see nothing wrong with ALWAYS being on the receiving end. True givers are the ones that are really blessed. I always tell people it's not about the amount. Put $5 or $10 dollars in a card & say "hey, I Appreciate what you did for Me".
Thank you Tony Gaskins! There are a lot of adults nowadays who are from an era where their parents were overworked, and stood out only committed to being providers. The amount of knowledge out there has helped to reinvent parenting skills by choice however. I find that many parents and people overestimate the advantage of getting financial gain over family.
This is so true!! I always consider the source when dealing with others, as we are all products of our upbringing and conditioning. Also, expectation brings forth disappointment in this imperfect world. No one is exempt. 💯
Ain't it 😂...I would love that shirt logo tho 😁 I got a shirt that I wear that says it all to everybody when I need it to and it says "Not today!" Bahahaha 😂
This is an amazing conversation. Tony, you really spoke to me today. Yes, I’ve noticed that I have built a wall around myself when I receive compliments. I don’t let them hit and sink in. Thank you so much for this really great lesson 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
I found out my ex got married yesterday out of the country. It amazes me how he wouldn't commit to me but to someone else. I truly wish him the best. In my next relationship I now know to communicate more and not assume that a person loves me just because they are there.
Kwana B truly believe in expressing & communication when the root begins… must be in alignment with like minded… a lot of things can be Rectified early on… for it will fester & fester over time…. 💯
Best way to do this is let them speak with their heart don’t try to change them if we all grown .. give them chances without telling them and if they don’t understand the thought that counts they heart not right
My boyfriend gonna hurt cuz I’m leaving him, he does not Reciprocate. I don’t feel loved at all, but doesn’t want me to leave so ima just go without saying a word and he will never hear from me again. Neglecting a partner is done on purpose. Especially if they have been telling what they need in the relationship.
That’s good 😊 information everyone love language is so different. It took me years to understand this. Look at history and biography and they personally. Yes there upbringing is so different from other people. You right we got realized who there are that’s good!!
Wow!!! Tony, you are speaking to my EXACT situation (at the 29-minute mark) right now! I'm married 6 months in, and my husband is only thinking about finding work and is totally neglecting my need for affection.
This happened to me as well. When I was married and my ex said that I was not supportive . Just try being more supportive to him. Also I recommend you read the book “ The Power of Prayer wife” by Stormie Omartian it’s a great book. God blessings 🙏🏽
Current situation, expressed and expressed, no change, person is very unappreciative and selfish, person character is not the best,disrespectful ( not verbally or physically) Emotionally Once we have a conversation and it’s repetitive toxic behavior ( that’s a big problem). “ Literally had to text everything in messages, seems to catch the eye quicker” Definitely learning to not to overreact through the tongue, not a confrontational person, just love and care about people, sometimes they are undeserving.
What if the wall is so tall, they won’t open up to tell you why they behave that way? Won’t talk about their upbringing? You go to counseling and they won’t even open up there either?
Yes I express them then block the person I spoke them to… God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle if I’m repeating to express the same thing over and over.. 🧘🏾♀️
Tony I would love to hear what to do with a narcissistic controlling manipulative mother in law! We haven’t spoken in 2 years and my husband wants the relationship mended. When I tell you I could write a book! It’s a shame. The problem with is I said something. Trying to come to here and she just acted like what I was saying was nonsense. She doesn’t respect me and she’s belittling bc she told me I was overly sensitive. Anyway, she’s full of drama but I’m trying to have my husband happy. But not at the expense of my family.
Facts - that’s me I love to host and the person that’s going to bring some when invited and you always gone leave with a sack from my house. It is nice when you are thought of and a person brings something. I thought it was just me - yep that triggered 😂 you are so right. Folks will get mad and say well you I invited me and literally don’t think they should bring anything.
Written messages are also dangerous, I don’t recommend that at all- people read what they want to see - and without our tones and facial expressions they seem to take it worse than ever . Let alone narcs who twist your words and if you say something borderline and take you to court with it . Put nothing in writing
It’s a great separation happening right now. The closer we get to Spirit the further we move from people that are out of alignment.
Yes yes yes
Absolutely 💯
💯 truth!! So many are blind to the bigger picture.
You better preach it
Great topic!!
After trail & error I finally found a man that's not afraid to communicate & express himself.
I'm 53 & I don't understand why people see nothing wrong with ALWAYS being on the receiving end. True givers are the ones that are really blessed. I always tell people it's not about the amount. Put $5 or $10 dollars in a card & say "hey, I Appreciate what you did for Me".
✔️TRAUMA through ABUSE, ABANDONMENT, & NEGLECT
✔️AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
Thank you Tony Gaskins! There are a lot of adults nowadays who are from an era where their parents were overworked, and stood out only committed to being providers. The amount of knowledge out there has helped to reinvent parenting skills by choice however. I find that many parents and people overestimate the advantage of getting financial gain over family.
This is so true!! I always consider the source when dealing with others, as we are all products of our upbringing and conditioning. Also, expectation brings forth disappointment in this imperfect world. No one is exempt. 💯
I've pulled back even after expressing my feelings. No change and unappreciative.
Y’all got to forgive me need to be on a shirt by now lol that’s the intro to every video 😂😂😂
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Ain't it 😂...I would love that shirt logo tho 😁 I got a shirt that I wear that says it all to everybody when I need it to and it says "Not today!" Bahahaha 😂
Woooweeee!!! This one was right on time. I'm not helping by helping. I need to fall back. They don't reciprocate. Period. Unable to love how I do.
I learning this right now to tame my tongue and slow down express it.
This is an amazing conversation. Tony, you really spoke to me today. Yes, I’ve noticed that I have built a wall around myself when I receive compliments. I don’t let them hit and sink in. Thank you so much for this really great lesson 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
I found out my ex got married yesterday out of the country. It amazes me how he wouldn't commit to me but to someone else. I truly wish him the best. In my next relationship I now know to communicate more and not assume that a person loves me just because they are there.
Kwana B truly believe in expressing & communication when the root begins… must be in alignment with like minded… a lot of things can be Rectified early on… for it will fester & fester over time…. 💯
Honey Baked Ham….. 📢 SEND HIM A CHECK ❗️🤣
🤣🤣🤣
Ty for the video I never knew how to express my feelings emotions nothing it's really been challenging I'm 38 never been in a relationship
I have always loved hand written letters 📜 ✍🏾 RARELY do people do this specifically men
Best way to do this is let them speak with their heart don’t try to change them if we all grown .. give them chances without telling them and if they don’t understand the thought that counts they heart not right
My boyfriend gonna hurt cuz I’m leaving him, he does not Reciprocate. I don’t feel loved at all, but doesn’t want me to leave so ima just go without saying a word and he will never hear from me again. Neglecting a partner is done on purpose. Especially if they have been telling what they need in the relationship.
😮😮😮The exact lesson I need Tony GOD Bless you & yours!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️🕊️❤️❤️❤️
That’s good 😊 information everyone love language is so different. It took me years to understand this. Look at history and biography and they personally. Yes there upbringing is so different from other people. You right we got realized who there are that’s good!!
Wow!!! Tony, you are speaking to my EXACT situation (at the 29-minute mark) right now! I'm married 6 months in, and my husband is only thinking about finding work and is totally neglecting my need for affection.
This happened to me as well. When I was married and my ex said that I was not supportive . Just try being more supportive to him. Also I recommend you read the book “ The Power of Prayer wife” by Stormie Omartian it’s a great book. God blessings 🙏🏽
@@cynthiareynolds1941 Thank you. I will look into that 😊 God bless 🙏
Good advice as usual
Beautiful message Brother Gaskins ❤❤ Mellow vide The presence of God around you.
Commitment
Desire
Emotional intelligence
Current situation, expressed and expressed, no change, person is very unappreciative and selfish, person character is not the best,disrespectful ( not verbally or physically)
Emotionally
Once we have a conversation and it’s repetitive toxic behavior ( that’s a big problem).
“ Literally had to text everything in messages, seems to catch the eye quicker”
Definitely learning to not to overreact through the tongue, not a confrontational person, just love and care about people, sometimes they are undeserving.
This is such an important conversation. Tysm for sharing this
Thank you Tony for blessing us with this wonderful message.. You just gave us a true session here.. God bless you and your family 🙏🏾
Great video and I see your losing weight. Good job Tony
Thank you so much, really appreciate. I am in the best version of myself 61yrs 🇬🇧
What if the wall is so tall, they won’t open up to tell you why they behave that way? Won’t talk about their upbringing? You go to counseling and they won’t even open up there either?
When people don't know real love they have a real void in how they receive it. They lack understanding and trust in actions of love from others.
WOW!!!!!!!! So true
Thank you @Tony I was just searching for an approach before giving up on communication. 😊
Thanks Tony!
Great message! Thank TG.
Thank you! The tip to write things out in a text first is super helpful
Thank you so much for this lesson it meant more to me than you know
God bless you Tony
Yes I express them then block the person I spoke them to… God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle if I’m repeating to express the same thing over and over.. 🧘🏾♀️
I needed to hear this . Thank you
Yes, appreciation, & reciprocation, validation matters… 💯… I just said I needed a therapist… 💯
Great Advice Tony!!!
Whew this is so powerful…
I say dont bother saying anything, if theres no gratitude shown thats all u need to see and don’t assist them
I use to do my ex boyfriend manicure and pedicure; nail cut, cuticle cleaning, lotion and massage . That’s my love language
Tony I would love to hear what to do with a narcissistic controlling manipulative mother in law! We haven’t spoken in 2 years and my husband wants the relationship mended. When I tell you I could write a book! It’s a shame.
The problem with is I said something. Trying to come to here and she just acted like what I was saying was nonsense. She doesn’t respect me and she’s belittling bc she told me I was overly sensitive. Anyway, she’s full of drama but I’m trying to have my husband happy. But not at the expense of my family.
This is good
This was so good and helpful
For Sure!
Thankyou
I have definitely sowed on stony ground.
😂😂😂 the eyes the window to they soul
Facts - that’s me I love to host and the person that’s going to bring some when invited and you always gone leave with a sack from my house. It is nice when you are thought of and a person brings something. I thought it was just me - yep that triggered 😂 you are so right. Folks will get mad and say well you I invited me and literally don’t think they should bring anything.
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I had to share on my family page
True
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Written messages are also dangerous, I don’t recommend that at all- people read what they want to see - and without our tones and facial expressions they seem to take it worse than ever . Let alone narcs who twist your words and if you say something borderline and take you to court with it . Put nothing in writing
Come on with the Langston Hughes!
I can't look at you right now because I am driving😂😂😂
Human give to receive
As per the email 😂
Hi Tony, can you mae a video about how to be positive please? how to develop positivity especially when it is not natural and you ar enegative?
Very enlighten information. Appreciate words of wisdom and advice ❤
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