TEDxTelAviv - Hedy Schleifer - The Power of Connection
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- Clinical psychologist and a couple and relationship therapy expert, Hedy Schleifer "crosses the bridge" with TEDxTelAviv audience and brings laughter and passion to the adventure of learning the art of listening.
okaayy.. so you can sum up this entire presentation with:
Having problems in a relationship? here's what you need to do:
1) Relax
2) Forget for a moment your anger and options
3) Empathize with the other by trying to think what he/she are going through.
4) spiritual mumbo jumbo. Brain adapts to relationships. Problem solved.
That's it. That's the entire presentation in 4 sentences.
That's 19 minutes in my life I'll never get back.
Thanks a lot.
Now without cynicism, I have no problem with the message or the messenger but I have very little patience for such presentations, I'm here because my wife made me.
SkepTorr...Thanks for a great summary, Skep...your wife seemed to know that you'd be a " bridge " - pun intended - between her and us...good luck...you have a wonderful wife. 😃
Hedy Schleifer has gifted us with the profound and timeless wisdom of her life experiences. May her teachings traverse across the polluted divides we have unconsciously created and empower us to relate to one another, essence to essence. Let the encounter that manifests be the force for healing that we sorely need right now to reverse the existential crisis we have wrought upon ourselves.
"beyond right thinking and wrong thinking there is a field...i will meet you there" Rumi
I was deeply moved, sitting in my chair watching...in California, eager to share this wonderful work and talk with my husband and daughter. Thank you deeply for speaking from SOUL Consciousness, as indeed you are!
Blessed Be, kanta
Hedy, you are a blessing to this world. I've had the privilege of meeting this beautiful and amazing woman (and her wonderful husband Yumi) and still have so much to learn from her!
Watching this video, a few million of my neural-pathways were just re-wired to love life with new eyes again. Thank you Hedy for creating that love and appreciation for life and each other all over the world. I agree with camixxx about 2012, but I think the way you are talking you does not need to wait for then - you are already creating peace all over the world. You do it for me and many people around me in South Africa. Kobus
Thank you so much for that, Hedy. In 2021, your words still keep building bridges between people. They did it to me.
I've heard about you Hedy from a workshop on Imago Relationship some years back. But i've just listened fully to this podcast today and so grateful for all that it brings to my heart.
Thank you hope that you are doing well and that your beautiful years with your love fill your days.
I'm writing from Mauritius Island.
ENCOUNTER ... within the sacred space... of human essence to human essence.
Beyond right thinking & beyond wrong thinking
there is a field.I will meet you there. - Rumi -
YES, Hedi, this is exactly what I strive to live, too. It is so good to have us remind of what the essence of life is like. Thank you for having made it possible through this talk to meet you.
With love and gratitude and in awe.
Yours, Claudia
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HENZLERWORKS
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It's awesome to see Hedy at Ted. I recently met Hedy and Yumi at one of their couples workshops and they truly are special people. I can only hope more people experience, and learn, how to truly connect with one another. I also hope that they reach their November 11th 2012 goal. If they succeed I definitely plan on being there.
Hedy, you are a miracle. I feel so privileged to have had you as my therapist for many years. I thank you because without you I would not be who I am today and for living in the present. You are my miracle and I think of you and use the tools you left me daily. I love you always.
Dear Hedy, Having taken your workshop was the single most profound step we have taken towards a marriage made in heaven, (since then!).
Your miraculous words will transform lives, even in this 19 minute Ted Talk . But like you, I wish that at least one million people will experience these magical workshops with you & Yumi in the sacred space.
Thank you Elahe Mehrel
I agree with the other commenters. It has points which deepen our desire to listen and enjoy ourselves. As a couples therapist and a lover of women, I recognize the value of this talk.
We cross over the bridge to be with another without polluting the space by being aware of the feelings or parts of us that are getting in the way of connecting with that other person. Acknowledge these parts or feelings with kindness and tell them you will be back later when the time is right. Then you can be more present without your feelings getting in the way.
I really loved to see her talk about personal stuff without hiding her emotions and getting downright to the point of meeting like about her grandson which is such a fantastic and true example to show the difference of thinking to be connected and being connected. It also reminded me on "The Work" of Byron Katie (who would you be without your story) and I am looking forward to know more about Hedies insights into this context.
Thank you Hedy :-)
Thank you Hedy. I am just discovering you and this TedTalk. There could not have been a more appropriate time for me to have heard your beautiful vision and wisdom. Thank you for sharing.
I think most of this we already instinctively know as she points out and the most striking line of her talk was regarding that it takes courage to let go. I guess we build walls and become ingrained in norms of behaviour through culture for some reason. So breaking down these is really difficult after decades of building them.
Very profound...Those neurons Hedy talks about - the capacity to forgive, feel compassion, etc. actually come from the heart. Science finally is proving what the eastern philosophies knew all along - the heart controls the brain, not the other way around:)
Emocionante! Um gesto tão sublime e ao mesmo tempo tão profundo!
Que lindo ouvi-la! Grata pelo carinho da tradução em português.
Incredibly inspiring and impactful. Hedy is amazing and wise and a powerful force for transforming the world through relationship.
Thank you Hedy for these powerful metafors. I'm deepley moved
WOW indeed! I hope you will touch the hearts and souls of many more than 90 million couples!
wauw!! tears of happines, goosbumps for feeling a live
Verder dan het juiste denken, verder dan het verkeerd denken, daar is een veld✨ ik zal je daar Ontmoeten
Great explanation to the deepest emotions and the human essence;
Daniella Glassberg
I especially enjoyed the first half which is much more personal.
My dear friend Marushka Glissen just sent this video to me and I can't thank her enough. The message that Hedy Schliefer sends resonated with me because of my work with a very special woman and I will change my approach and "cross the bridge" when I see her on my next visit. Thank you for a talk that I will never forget. Roberta Chadis
The space of aware presence inclusive of all but the fear-based mind loves to cut things up and put them in little boxes.
Emotion is past, memories replaying and occupying the space. Psychic clouds getting in the way of present moment reality
This video is incredibly, INCREDIBLY, beautiful❤
This is a wonderful contribution. Thank you.
Incredibly moving and insightful!
Maravillosa la biodanza
oh beautifull, thank You Hedy Schleifer ❤🙏
Thank you Hedy. I was moved
hello from the United States of America!!!
Peace!
AMAZING and loving... Essence to essence.
Double extraordinary!
beautiful
WOW........
Beautiful~~
Thank you!
Wow. So so wonderful.
Love you dear sister.......can resonate deeply
Outstanding!
PROFOUND!!
November 11 2012 "International Crossing the Bridge Day" I so there! :o)
Wonderful
I think she just broke the record for the number of New Age junk psychology cliches crammed into one paragraph. Yawn...
extraordinary!
הדי שלייפר, אשה מרשימה שמדברת על המרחב שבין שניים ועל הדרך לגשר.
This woman is so beautiful.
Great speech :)
❤❤❤
Que mulher maravilhosa
we need each other
multumesc*
good context
Impressive
la nostra relazione vive nello spazio e questo spazio è sacro se vissuto nel quì e ora nella nostra essenza di esseri umani , è lo spazio che l'oriente indica come spazio meditativo. E' uno spazio che appartiene all'individuo in quanto tale , la trasposizione a entità non individuali come stati o nazioni non è possibile , l'uno e il tutto , dalla altra parte del ponte c'è l' umanità , altro non ci può essere.
Wow.
Sara Ramirez bring me here
I was forced to watch this and that really pisses me off.
danzig159 ii
Me too, She seems like she is on drugs:). I know she means well, but it feels weird listening to her. My schooling made me listen to this and I do it so I don't hurt my grade:).
@@EaterofWorlds-DN- this is by far the saddest comment I've read lately.
We seldom see people who are obviously elated and that aware WITHOUT being on drugs. I have found her talk so inspiring, that I find it pitiful, no less, that the only way you can imagine anyone being so alive, is being on drugs.
I hope this changes for you. good luck.
@@EaterofWorlds-DN so you only know enthusiasm and passion in people through the use of drugs?
@@ellazamero9951 Damn, I just now saw your comment and I don't even remember what this Ted talk was about. I need to rewatch it before I can accurately respond to you.
hah. check this out. Quite a coincedence This lady definitely plagiarized.
Do a google search for The Biological Basis of Relational Presence
By Lee Glickstein
The Lee Glickstein article is actually from 2011, so it was he, not her, who plagiarised x
boring