DBT Skills: Reality Acceptance, Allowing and Letting Be

Sdílet
Vložit
  • čas přidán 22. 07. 2024
  • You'll find part one of this video, DBT Skills: Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance, at • DBT Skills: Mindfulnes... . Reality acceptance is an essential aspect of mindfulness, and radical acceptance is one of the DBT distress tolerance skills. By accepting our unpleasant experiences and just allowing them in to our awareness and letting them be, we take away a lot of the power they have over us, and reduce how much they cause us to suffer. We explore the nature of acceptance in more detail in Session 5 of my Online MBCT and MBSR course, available for free at bit.ly/mbctonline.
    ➡️ Free DBT Skills Course: www.selfhelptoons.com/dbt-ski...
    ▶️Related Video: Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance • DBT Skills: Mindfulnes...
    If you'd like to support my channel ⬇️⬇️
    ❤️ Join my channel with the JOIN button next to SUBSCRIBE
    🙏 Become A Patron / selfhelptoons
    ☕ Buy Me A Coffee www.buymeacoffee.com/selfhelp...
    🔗 Self-Help Toons Website www.selfhelptoons.com
    🔷 Twitter / gregdorter
    Free Clip Art by Vector Toons (vectortoons.com/) [CC BY-SA 4.0 (creativecommons.org/licenses/...)], from Wikimedia Commons

Komentáře • 53

  • @melissak.8385
    @melissak.8385 Před 3 lety +37

    I have attended therapy on and off for 35 years. No therapist ever discussed these tools- which seem like common sense, neutrality, and logic. The way it is expressed can lead, guide and not shut down the emotions of the wounded inner child. It teaches compassion and integration in it's approach. The last 5 years of mindfulness has been helpful, now I can add these in my toolbox. Ty!

    • @SelfHelpToons
      @SelfHelpToons  Před 3 lety +3

      That's a great perspective. Thanks for sharing!

    • @melissak.8385
      @melissak.8385 Před 3 lety

      @Deanna Goonasekera
      Deanna☮🧡☮

    • @nanceebirdlover5222
      @nanceebirdlover5222 Před rokem +1

      Some talk therapy is like plucking leaves off a tree. It is slow and the leaves come back.
      Acceptance is like pulling the whole tree out roots and all by letting go.
      Much faster!

    • @kaiq5646
      @kaiq5646 Před 10 měsíci

      I am so sorry to hear this. As a therapist, this is something I discuss with clients DAILY.

    • @shivalamsal4976
      @shivalamsal4976 Před 5 měsíci

      Thanks for sharing ❤

  • @donflo3
    @donflo3 Před rokem +12

    I can partly understand these concepts. I’ve been in pain and created suffering virtually my entire young life.
    I realize I must surrender to heal. I’m struggling to learn and practice acceptance. I desire to change. I gave up 2 addictions, (8 days sober) but I’m still struggling.

  • @thefrenchsaint7311
    @thefrenchsaint7311 Před rokem +6

    After years of therapy, struggles, self hate, avoidance, I can finally understand the concept of acceptance with your videos. You have just opened my eyes, I am forever grateful. Thank you

  • @sophiahoho8918
    @sophiahoho8918 Před rokem +6

    This is extremely helpful. Tears came to my eyes as I watched this. I suffer greatly from anxiety and negative feelings. But I can simply let them be or even welcome them, right? This is life-saving. Thank you so much. Your videos are serving the world.

  • @jaceybenton
    @jaceybenton Před 16 dny

    Im in grad school for clinical mental health counseling and your videos are really awesome learning tools for me. You are an excellent teacher for these concepts. Thank you so much for leaving this here for me. ❤ I hope I can run with this new knowledge you've given me and benefit the people i share it with.

  • @yakinimoseley6792
    @yakinimoseley6792 Před 2 lety +5

    I believe in acceptance as well, and the idea of resignation needed to be stated. While there is acceptance, however, even though you can't control the situation/the person/the bodily pain, it is helpful to seek support or experts as they may have better control of the problem. If not now, then soon. For instance, I need to accept someone for who they are instead of constantly thinking they are going to change. If I accept them for who they are, then I could realize it (accept it) and seek support and help. So goals can be made in acceptance. Having a purpose.

  • @lz8217
    @lz8217 Před rokem +4

    Your channel is so underrated. I hope your videos reach more people because it's so helpful to have this knowledge. I've only started watching your videos today but I have already learned a lot. Thanks for what you do, thank you so much.

  • @barbarav108
    @barbarav108 Před rokem

    I so appreciate your self help. Thank you.

  • @nanceebirdlover5222
    @nanceebirdlover5222 Před rokem +1

    Loving your videos! Thanks.

  • @JN25376
    @JN25376 Před 2 lety +3

    Excellent video - most helpful! Thank you.

  • @IloveTheHolyOne
    @IloveTheHolyOne Před 5 měsíci +1

    This fantastic stuff! Thank you so much!!

  • @thomasperrelli5266
    @thomasperrelli5266 Před rokem

    These videos really do make me feel better 🙂

  • @AndreaRelli69
    @AndreaRelli69 Před 4 lety +2

    Just what I needed right now! Thanks!

  • @TinaSotis
    @TinaSotis Před rokem

    Thank you. ♥️

  • @penniereese9458
    @penniereese9458 Před 3 lety +10

    I have already taken a DBT course with my therapist, but these videos are great review for maintenance. Thank you for making them!

  • @56546694
    @56546694 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for all your video .

  • @enchantedawakenings6498
    @enchantedawakenings6498 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for these videos! I did subscribe and am sharing these with clients in the grief support group that I facilitate! Cheers!

  • @patoc2857
    @patoc2857 Před 3 lety +8

    Your videos are great. Prescriptive and simple tools. Like a workout routine for the mind. Thank you

  • @sunshinecompany1
    @sunshinecompany1 Před rokem

    Thank you 🙂

  • @angiehaddington6462
    @angiehaddington6462 Před 3 lety +3

    Ive recommended your pages to other people. I like them, very much

  • @zainaba3800
    @zainaba3800 Před 3 lety +2

    Thnx so useful

  • @humblewonder3260
    @humblewonder3260 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you :)

  • @Star-dj1kw
    @Star-dj1kw Před 7 měsíci

    ❤ excellent

  • @ShivamGroup
    @ShivamGroup Před 4 lety +1

    Nice video

  • @jeanjeang8914
    @jeanjeang8914 Před rokem

    Your awesome

  • @aprilabutler
    @aprilabutler Před rokem +1

    I am a therapist that uses your videos to help my clients understand these concepts. Could you please do a video specifically on developing a Teflon mindset?

  • @yamicanada
    @yamicanada Před 3 lety

    💖

  • @DNCT
    @DNCT Před 2 lety +1

    It’s so hard to accept emotions. I end up being angry 😤 that the world is unfair. My life has been like a hamster on a wheel. Lots of effort and exhaustion but no results. But I’m supposed to remain stoic. I’m broken instead and hardly able to handle those emotions because my home environment is not good for me but I have nowhere to go…and still I’m supposed to just keep accepting how others treat me because I must live here. Except I cannot accept the treatment at home and I end up standing up for myself and getting really upset because I just can’t handle People letting me down and disrespecting me

  • @glutamateglutamate5728
    @glutamateglutamate5728 Před 3 lety +1

    Is there any scientific evidence supporting the effectiveness of this?

    • @SelfHelpToons
      @SelfHelpToons  Před 3 lety +5

      Sure, there hundreds of peer-reviewed articles about acceptance based therapies in general, and specific acceptance-based approaches such as DBT, MBCT and ACT
      scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=acceptance+based+therapyscholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=dbt+acceptancescholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=Mbct+acceptance
      scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=ACT+acceptance

    • @glutamateglutamate5728
      @glutamateglutamate5728 Před 3 lety +1

      @@SelfHelpToons my BPD has reached its peak with many life triggers. What technic you recommend for me to start with ? Thanks lot.

    • @SelfHelpToons
      @SelfHelpToons  Před 3 lety +4

      @@glutamateglutamate5728 I have all my DBT content organized in the order that makes most sense to me on my website www.selfhelptoons.com/dbt-skills-training-self-help-video-course/

  • @justnoted2995
    @justnoted2995 Před 2 měsíci

    So, are these feelings going to hang around in the air after being expressed, accepted... and then ignored? This is all just hot air if not seen in the context of a HP listening in

    • @SelfHelpToons
      @SelfHelpToons  Před 2 měsíci

      I'm not sure where you're getting the "ignore" part from

    • @justnoted2995
      @justnoted2995 Před 2 měsíci

      @@SelfHelpToons seems like catharsis without anyone showing understanding

  • @tinydancer2024
    @tinydancer2024 Před 2 měsíci

    I really appreciate your videos - the clarity and helpfulness of the messages. But in this video, I was feeling very uncomfortable with the portrayal of negative emotions and arisings as people of color. I understand the intention behind the illustration. But our society is so steeped in racism and images of people of color as violent, bad, inferior, criminal, etc. that I think it sends a hurtful message. I would love to see the negative portrayed differently. Maybe not as people but as other forms, or if people, maybe dressed in dark colors or inside a dark cloud. Just some ideas and honest feedback. Thank you.

  • @masterchiefofhalo4525
    @masterchiefofhalo4525 Před 7 měsíci

    I don’t understand the concept of acceptance and how it’s any different from resigning. Like I can’t do anything about this and people just say to let it go. You’re just saying words and telling me what to feel when I don’t know HOW to feel that emotion

    • @SelfHelpToons
      @SelfHelpToons  Před 7 měsíci

      Acceptance and resignation are distinct psychological states that involve different attitudes toward circumstances. Acceptance reflects a willingness to embrace or acknowledge a situation, often accompanied by a positive mindset and a commitment to adapt. It implies a sense of understanding and a readiness to confront challenges constructively. On the other hand, resignation conveys a more passive stance, suggesting a surrender or giving in to a situation without necessarily finding a resolution. Resignation may involve a sense of defeat or a lack of motivation to actively engage with the circumstances. While acceptance fosters growth and adaptability, resignation tends to imply a certain level of disengagement or acceptance without active participation in shaping our experience.

    • @masterchiefofhalo4525
      @masterchiefofhalo4525 Před 7 měsíci

      @@SelfHelpToons what is there to be done when nothing you do will change reality? How do I just stop?