All Empaths Have These 3 Personality Traits
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- čas přidán 9. 05. 2019
- Empaths will theoretically score high in these three personality traits of the Big 5 Scale.
The Big 5 is the only personality test that is considered scientific at this time.
The five traits are:
Openness to Experience
Conscientiousness
Extroversion
Agreeableness
Neuroticism
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Oh Boy Franky! Well I didn't pay, but I took free test. Lol I don't think I'm very happy with results..lmao O= 81%, C= 50%, E= 37.5%, A= 73%, N= 50%...
I've been trying to push myself to be more logical, instead my empath abilities are skyrocketing. The caretaking I can understand, I am a mother most times, and not always to my own children; bad habit of mothering others who need help. With empath I feel others emotions like my own which is kinda right on, I can usually tell what a person needs, an I try to provide that support in most cases; using my judging to determine if it's true or not. Kinda okay with C & N being right on the 50% mark, cause ahh it could be worse...lol The extraversion I have been working on, but I can see with mbti having me at Infj why that wouldn't be high. Plus I spend most of my time alone inside my own mind. My skills in articulation have been improving, but I'm usually using it to relate to others, an seeking how they feel about a situation. Agreeableness is whatever, it is said in most science based studies women tend to dominate this personality anyways.
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"people who are high-" "yes" "-in agreeableness" "...also yes"
lol everyone's ragging on me for my long pauses 😂
Same.
I am both high and agreeable. Empath confirmed.
@@FrankJames That pesky Ti
"Very high" also also yes
not to be dramatic but you look so good with this haircut
the truth isnt dramatic lol
Absolutely goregous.
I agree...he is handsome
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Oh yeah definitely easy on the eyes . Total infj which is my kryptonite.
I've always said empathy is the greatest blessing and curse. We can see the beauty and good in everything, but are cut so deeply by the vile emptiness that also fills the Earth.
That’s a beautiful way to describe it. It does feel like a blessing and a curse. Especially when most of your family are not empaths at all. Setting boundaries has always been a problem until I started to resent myself for not standing up for myself enough. But I still struggle with it, because when I’m not agreeable, I tend to take it to the other extreme. I get angry when I sense someone is taking advantage of my kindness.
Learning boundaries and standing up for myself has been one of the hardest life lessons for me to learn as an Empath but it's gotten better since I've worked on it.
Im not an empath but i still struggle with this.
Same.
I am making baby steps. It's hard.
Yes it’s difficult but so worth the hard work
I am a very disagreeable infj. I score high in neuroticism and openness. I used to be the most agreeable person and now I have gone the opposite side after encountering so many narcisists and being bullied.
Chalk up another infj with lower agreeableness as I've gotten older. For most of my life, I was a pushover. It took being utterly decimated by a cheating partner for me to find my footing and learn how to stick up for myself. I'm probably still a pushover in a lot of ways, but I think you can be a disagreeable infj if you've developed your Ti enough to know that it doesn't make good logical sense to be so agreeable all the time.
@@DanielDavidAllenChannel Oh yeah true that. I believe it's when you have made peace with your darkness. If someone meets me they are probably going to assume I'm intp or intj, but nope got ni-ti.
Same. You can learn to be one of the least aggreeable people if taken advantage of enough. It's to the point now when I see someone who has controlling tendencies, I already know I'm gunna be their biggest pet peeve because I know how to lay boundaries and they see me as "extremely stubborn". They hate it
@@heatherleethomas4886 Haha yeah they do want someone to walk all over. I try not to be that person. But I also think it's about putting yourself in an environment where it's ok to be agreeable and people won't take advantage of you because of your agreeableness. I actually want to become more agreeable now. I felt for a while that I was turning into a mini Hitler (the most disagreeable infj) so now I'm trying reach a point where I can choose to be agreeable or disagreeable depending on the situation.
I score fairly high on agreeableness and really high on openness which makes sense...I hate confrontation and love discussing ideas and philosophies. However, I would not describe myself as a pushover, generally speaking. I have my limits, and my fault lies in maybe not making those boundaries clear enough to people.
I've been working on that recently though. So much so that one of my new life mottos is: "if you don't show people where your boundaries lie, they will cross them." As a non-confrontational person, my way of showing them a subject is not to be discussed with me can be perceived as passive-agressive (my main strategy is to just leave the room whenever I feel uncomfortable, letting the person/people know why I am doing so), but it's proven to be surprisingly effective.
3 traits:
1. Yup.
2. Yup.
3. YUUUUUP
Nodding along to everything lol
Meee
People who are high..............in agreeableness. I see what you did there.
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I thought I was the only one who noticed it. Pretty narcissistic for an empath...oh lord am I a dark empath? :O
"now being high............................in openness to experience"
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Same 😆 I almost didn't recognize him. I couldn't even look at him without blushing 😂 I'm okay now 👌🏼
Same 😆 I almost didn't recognize him. I couldn't even look at him without blushing 😂 I'm okay now 👌🏼
Oh. I’d date him... Iv always crushed on him..... but that look now..... yum.
Seems spot on. (INFP)
We be vidin
Yeah im infp-t and we are empaths but we also are confused with laziness
The thing is we are not lazy
We just do whatever our gut wants since we use more feeling instead of thinking
The fact we are introverts gives me this unseen vibe about us..... Idk
Like a silent rebel
Being an ENFP empath is so hard 😔 I always want to help everyone, but I can never help myself, but when I try to talk to my friends, I feel like I'm being a burden to them, and that makes me feel even worse about myself 😔💔
Damn son, this is me. I just left a 2 year relationship with a Narc, which is apparently common for unhealthy INFJ/Empaths. It however has given me a spiritual awakening. I was swallowed whole but I'm coming back with a very different view on life 🌈🕉️
That's crazy bro... Me too same story it was a ride until I started seeking the truth cuz I could put my finger on it and It explains why I felt cursed all my life
@@zerobutim1009 what a good way to describe it, "cursed all your life". I never understood why I attracted or gravitated towards so many unhealthy and dangerous people until the pain separated me from myself so I could be objective.
Interestingly enough my letters have changed as I've changed :). I am now INFP
I'm going through this now. It's a very valuable but very costly lesson. Takes a lot of strength to continue and learn to trust again ❤️
This is exactly happened with me. 🥺🥺🥺 I went through so much pain because he dump me like this, that happened so sudden that i even couldn't figure out in the starting & i was thinking i am wrong so he left me, i was clinging to him to save the relationship but he said you're nothing to me and blocked me. And he called me narcissistic because i was calling him, I was very unaware and i become so sad by thinking this that i am narcissist 🙁.... but then i started reading about Human Pyschology and Sprituality then i understood that i wasn't bad but i was Manipulated* emotionally. But in this process i got my Spritual Awakening and Self awareness.. 🥲
so awesome ♥️ @@the_free_Soul
This totally explains those moments I have when I think "This isn't my feelings, I just want to cry because my mum is feeling sad."
These feel pretty spot on. As a young kid, I was always told I was “too sensitive” and it seemed like such a bad thing, but I didn’t understand what being an empath is. For a while as an adult I viewed it as a curse more than a gift, but I was talking to my younger brother one day and he was telling me about what he described as his “super power” to be able to connect with people because he could feel what they’re feeling- happy or sad. I hadn’t ever thought of it like that, but it made me appreciate having empathy for people.
The whole compassion to a fault thing is a magnet to narcissists. I'm dealing with that fallout right now and it hurts like hell. Makes me want to shut down, become a hermit.
Icatz. The fault lies in ourselves. We need to know where our emotions stop, and others begin. We need to recognize other personality traits, and intent. Without protection, this is dangerous to us. It is a gift, not a fault. Gifts need to be tempered with wisdom. If its any help, most have been here. Work with your own abilities, and within them. Best wishes.
Frank I'm 52 and even though my discovery was 6 years ago I'm learning so much from you and this was point on. Thanks for all you do !
Thank you for this video Frank💜
As an INFJ Empath and therapist who facilitates an Empath Group, this is all relevant. I really believe that connecting to and expanding your sense of self as an Empath is so helpful in setting healthy boundaries. You need to know where you begin and end to distinguish Self from Other. Thanks for the video!
If only I knew that
I have been told I'm an empath and I'm a injf
As an INFP who got into a relationship with someone I didn’t like so I didn’t hurt his feelings, this hits home hard.
Edit: I was also in the 8th grade and broke up w him 3 days later. Yes, I regret it. Yes, I did tell him I wasn’t really sure w the relationship and wanted to just “try it out” and he took that as me flat out saying yes.
Feather i am literally going through this rn. I am doing the exact same thing, but I actually receive something from him in order to stick around. I wish to help him in his place, but I can’t.
Thank you 😌
Before we make such a choice it is great to ask ourselves: would I recommend this choice to my beloved friend? If not - welll ;)
Mom taught me to stand up for myself when I was in third grade.
Same 😂 had a lovely conversation with my friend and a stranger who also suggested ' we' man up. As she could relate to being far too agreeable. To the point of not voicing her concerns on something she paid a service for.
I was upset cuz 3 friends told me that if I continued playing with another friend, they wouldn't be my friend anymore. I cried all the way home due to how unfair it was. Mom said... TELL THEM THAT YOU WILL BE FRIENDS WITH WHOMEVER YOU LIKE AND IF THEY DON'T LIKE THAT THEY WERE NEVER REALLY YOUR FRIENDS! The next day I boldly did just that! And only 1 out of 3 disagreed! It was the first time I chose to stand up for myself and for fairness! I love my mom!😉😊♥
a good lesson
Your mom sounds awesome!
My parents tried to teach me that but it didn't stick for some reason and I always sucked at it 😅
The most compelling part of being is the ability to direct my own life and not absorb all around me. I do not label myself and I am not critical of others or their uniqueness. I find you are a supportive person and feel for others. That is nice. As for myself , I have fought the empathy battle as an aware adult. I must look for the simplicity in life and find and accept the grace that flows from that simplicity. It is easy to become bogged down in layers of thoughts and perspectives....avalanches of intensities. The joy of life is sharing love and kindness with the ones who love you. It will come. It is simple. Embrace simplicity. Love to you and love to all who are here.
I'm so glad you mentioned that it's the negative emotions we feel the most. That's the roughest part because it's not my emotions so I have to remove myself from a lot of situations for my own emotional wellbeing.
Also, I do believe there is a balance. I have become more disagreeable, confrontational and clear about boundaries as I get older - this for me was thanks to my faith. Now I feel more ME.
i only discovered this channel in a serious way about a week ago. i love Frank's more vulnerable videos, which give a much needed dose of unengineered humanity on youtube. but no matter what the video, i always get a smile at seeing what new cool way Frank has styled his hair..
Frank, you're looking really good with the hair and the beard thing you got going on! I'm glad your vibe has been elevated, it's coming through in your videos lately.. nice job!
Nobody:
Not a single soul:
Literally not anyone:
FJ: *INTO*
You have basically described me in this video. I'm a sensitive person that was working in a very toxic place and it almost destroyed me. So I saw a therapist and was put on meds for anxiety and depression and have realized that I was so in tune with what others were feeling and trying to solve others problems throughout my life that I didn't really develop a separate identity. It's a blessing and a curse to be an empath. So I have pushed toxic people out of my life and it's definitely helping. Thank you for your videos
Yeah, I consider myself highly empathic. It's often frustrating being the only empath around many people. But I learned to hug loneliness instead of pushing it away. I found out that I'm in fact not really lonely, I have myself. And I have to further establish the feeling that I'm enough for myself. Filling my hole with myself and not with others. And also I'm in the process of learning getting unlimited energy from myself. This also protects me from energy vampires. I'm on a good way, I know how I get to these goals.
I found this video so encouraging because you described so clearly the way I experience the world. I have long suspected I could be an empath, but the only thing I'm still curious about is whether being a pushover is always inherent. I can be a pushover, but I also developed a rebellious skin around that and became fiercely independent. Also, I was diagnosed with OCD , and that feeds into the neurotic nature you so eloquently described. All in all, I like your down to earth, articulate style. I'm glad I subscribed, even though I'm an enfp instead of an infp, lol. I wish I could speak with you more to flesh out some of my questions. This is fascinating stuff
Highly neurotic INFJ here. You did it again. 😳 you explained neuroticism perfectly. I've just recently discovered your page and I've never felt so connected or understood.
I'm so agreeable that I'm going along with people before they even know where they're going.
5:55 Wow! It's amazing how you got it right about the issue of us feeling responsible!
You have such a huge insight into Empaths that I feel good watching your videos. I now know there are people out there who completely understand my empath traits and it feels great. Everything you’ve said in the past 2 videos is me to a T and I’m glad my traits can be defined so I have a better understanding of myself and can now manage my life accordingly. Thank you ❤️
Love this explanation so much! I resonated with it pretty much completely. I often have a hard time understanding that most people don’t function like this, which made it easy to give too much to the wrong people before I learned some tough lessons. I also feel much better about enjoying-feeling out “negative” emotions/neuroticism after listening to your thoughts on this. Avoiding danger is exactly how I see part of the benefit of neuroticism. It’s important especially for empaths to be aware because we tend to be more vulnerable due to our natures. It’s important to find that things that need to be made better, too. It’s so satisfying helping others make discoveries and find solutions.
It’d be interesting to see if there’s any correlation between children who were abused as kids who became empaths from that. Because I was abused, and I’ve always assumed my ability to pick up on negative emotions or danger stemmed mostly from me having to do that constantly as a kid. Also the agreeableness, grew up trying to keep people happy for safety reasons. And high openness, I’m an artist and I’ve always read to escape into other stories to avoid my own.
But I also have terrible social anxiety which i don’t think is related to being an empath lol
You might have social anxiety because you’re picking up on everyone’s feelings all at once and it’s overwhelming?
Great Question.👍😎☝️I would say Yes.You are correct.& I think it's both.You also naturally pick up vibes .
I think you're exactly right. I think perhaps there is a natural tendancy towards sensitivity that becomes empathic when you have constantly had to take the temperature of the environment that you're in. I felt that it was as if my personality desires and integrity had to diminish away to make space for the explosions I was subjected to.
It is very similar to my life what you went through.. now having a narc ex and a abusive controlling husband married for 5yrs working on my way out it never gets better
I’m an empath and I had a fantastic childhood.
Thanks for this video :) I've noticed in my life that it's really hard to be completely free from toxic people and say NO to them.
Hey there. Been an empath my whole life. The past few years I’ve been trying to learn as much as I can about this gift I have. I have a million questions but that’s another cocktail hour. I really enjoyed your videos. Thank you.
it was great to find this video! I started reading into what an empath was, enneagram, Meyers Briggs, etc. about 6 months ago. I studied Psychology at Cal Poly, Slo (graduated last June) and took many science classes focusing on personality, but I was never once told what an empath or HSP was. I had never taken this test but paused the video, went online and answered everything very honestly, and came back to see what was most common traits were. I got those exact results. I am also an INFJ, but sometimes I can get confused and think I am potentially an INFP.
What you said about not really being able to say no because you put other's feelings before your own and not being able to stand up for your own feelings is so so true. I've definitely struggled with that a lot and am working on it right now.
Also what you said about catastrophizing felt like a callout haha. I always got so mad when my mom said I did this but i've come to realize it's true.
For two INFP-T Emphatic Idealists this is all very recognizable... For me, especially the neuroticism. Sometimes it drives me crazy...
Thank you for understanding me better than anyone else.
I'm happy to see your channel growing so fast!!
hey thanks!
Thank you for your video @ Frank James. It cemented my thoughts. I've met several people who have this kind of personality. I understood them because I think I'm an empath to a certain degree. I never fully understood about an empath until it happened to me(with a real empath). I've realized how dangerous it could bring. Empaths solicit and even beg you to express your problems with them even if you are hesitant. The moment they'll know your situation, they are already on the streets looking for solutions. They would love to think that they are responsible for everything and that you have to listen to every word they say even if it hurts' you. They often end up being exhausted and worried. I have learned to avoid the situation by not dealing my problems with them because they will suffer more.
You just helped me out so much the answer to my prayers. I am an empath and a medium and its awesome. I just needed to somehow IDENTIFY where intuitively the negative emotions, thoughts, energies, and feelings are coming from.
This is so accurate! I’m an empath and could really sense your care in your describing this and your understanding it exactly you must be an empath
FJ, I think you're oversimplifying. Empaths walk into a room and sence everyone's feelings through energy that they are putting off. I don't know why empaths can feel other people's energy. So, without even knowing one thing about that person an empath will walk away from or come closer to someone depending on how they feel that day and how open to dealing with someone's energy they feel they are in the mood for experiencing. I can be in bed alone for 5 hours and then I need to feel another person"s energy so I call my husband and he lays down and all I do is reach out and touch his hand. He never says a word and I don't need him to because I'm picking up the vibration of his energy. If there are any other empaths out there maybe you can attest that when you grow up you avoid negative energy coming from people because you don't have the time or the energy for it. Instead you start to look for and feel the positive energies that are coming off of people. And their positive emotion is absorbed into the empath and shared as if it's their own. It's almost always a wonderful thing at least to me. I guess I don't want to see any more ugliness or negativity in the world or in individuals. I pushed Mark in a wheelchair into a tiny room for a nurse to take his blood last week. She had her back to us in silence for the first three or four minutes and I never saw her face. As an empath, I immediately started feeling for her energy. She turned around and said show me your arm. A non empath might have thought she was a cold person at this point, but I hadn't felt her energy yet. Then it came at me like a wave and I knew exactly what to do to bring out that beauty in her. I watched her hand movements. I felt a sense of peace and sweetness where none was showing. She slipped a needle into Mark's arm and without looking into each other's eyes I said to her you had a calling to do this didn't you? And she looked up at me with a shocked look on her face and said yes I did. I simply said thank you for following your heart because it's important to have people that are doing what they need to do in their lives to feel fulfilled. She smiled big and said thank you for noticing. I said thank you for listening to your inner calling you just made the situation into something so much easier than it could have been. She immediately said why? Do other people hurt him? She was sitting perfectly still now and looking into my eyes. I said yes he is always full of bruises and it always takes at least two different people to try to get blood from him. Her lips got tight and she said there's no reason for that and within five more minutes we had become energetically bound with our shared sense of the importance of treating each person as if they are the best person that ever lived. We started out as a seemingly cold situation and ended up with her rubbing Mark's back and her leaning into me to say it was so good to meet you. So no, I rarely seem to move toward negative or hurting people. I have chosen to seek out that pearl that's in most people and join energies in order to have a moment that I will never forget. As for going along with others oh, I think it depends on how much maturity the empath has collected in life. I don't like drama. But there's something that I do love and that is witnessing and experiencing through feeling the joy of another person. Of course, people can choose to put up a wall and that's their choice. I just think that you're not looking deep enough into what a true empath is and what they do and how they do it. Maybe look up true empaths and see how much deeper the well goes. And by the way, our girl Frank :-) you are lacking in sleep. Not something you can catch up on so don't go to bed past your mom's given bedtime!! :-) And if you ever want to put down your wall, I would be pleased to meet you. Sincerely, Carly 💜
I loved this story.
Thank you for saying that about my story. Every word is true and today I needed someone to say something nice to me. Love, Carly :-)
@@simplyme7821 wow your story is so so beautiful. I am an empath but i attract negative energy more than positive. But it's opposite for you I guess. Can you teach me how to do this? Because being an empath feels more like a curse to me. Please talk to me if you can help me understand my own self and my emotions because everything is confusing for me.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. It was heart felt and motivating! Thank you!
Oh how wonderful the world could be with more people like you in it you're a lovely soul. Blessings!
I’ve so enjoyed watching your channel. Your evolution is quite nice.
I appreciate you being able to see a path... but being able to be more and not limited to a label. Thanks
I know this video is a year old.
I just have to say your explanation of neurotisism is the best I have come across.
It explains so much in my life.
I always thought neurotisism was a mostly negative term.
I'm 56 and finally understand why I've felt so different and sensitive all my life.
You have beautiful eyes, Frank.
You are so great at explaining this stuff!. Wow, it makes me understand myself so much better. Thank you, thank you..
thanks for watching! 👊🙏
I think being high in agreeableness is a sign of weakness and desperation, I used to be this way, but I got out of it. I refuse to be used anymore
Frank, yep, you are RIGHT ON with this one. Pretty much everything you said was dead on accurate. Uh, thanks for staring into my soul, I guess! I have always had decent self-esteem, but since I figured out I am fairly high on the empath scale, I like myself even more. I care about other people, which in my opinion is sorely lacking in society these days. Guess I'm just saying I like myself for not succumbing to the pressures of society and becoming a complete money motivated/self absorbed jerk. I enjoy your channel, nice to be understood by at least one other human being!! Keep up the good work.
Wow thank you so much for this. I’m an infp and you described the feels so perfectly that now there’s no question I’m also an empath 🙈😅 Well spoken, riveting content! New sub, looking forward to binging your channel 💗
Thank you. I needed this today 🖤
Very good video as usual, you are very good at debunking and explaining things. btw loove your hair and hairstyle, it´s rocking.
Thank you again for a comprehensive yet accessible video on this interesting topic.
i am always so amazed with learning about traits from u! 🥺
Simple yet brilliant explanation. 💫
Thank you for covering this subject.
OMG! I have been suspecting that I am en empath for some time now, but seeing you putting into words, exactly what I feel... it's so enlightening. Also it makes me realize that even if not a lot of people I know can understand it, it's normal to be this way. Your video is the confirmation I was kinda searching for. Great channel by the way :) (Also I did the big five test, and I can confirm, I'm high, so high on those three traits)
Almost 2 years later for me to comment... not surprising given the vastness of CZcams, and I cut across this video when I woke up early this morning (and had to watch it when I was more conscious). And while I've admitted to being an empath for more than 30 years now; I find myself at odds with the whole neuroticism part of it.
Looking at how I would've answered the questions 20 years ago versus how I answered the questions today from the big five personality test; I get the impression that with the extended time of seclusion -- both thanks to COVID as well as my personal love of me (read: alone) time this has helped me establish my personality without being a constant pushover to external forces and allow me to being more extroverted than I was when I was a teenager.
Thanks for the link and the information, and keep up the good work at the videos.
Thank you for this video, I did some research and I’m like 75% sure I am. So now I’m digging into what one is. This video definitely helped! And you got a new subscriber! 🙌💯
Being to agreeable is a trait I've been workin on lately. But i find tryin to change certain traits about myself is very difficult. Anyways, another great video bro
#relatable for empaths .😄 🎯This was spot on !
hey, thanks!
Love your posts.
You forgot one tiny point regarding open, giving, sacrificing empaths... no good deed goes unpunished.
As an ENFJ and a highly sensitive person, I am not even surprised that my scores indicate I am an Empath. 😅 Thank you for the awesome videos, Frank!
It's nice to see you in a better mood than last year. Idk it's just my impression but you are lookin cooler. Nice vid
Very good points, Frank. I struggle with getting into other people's problems. I am a problem solver, so the part about neuroticism. Anxiety comes with that. I do head off certain things that could happen. Thanks again!!😚
I stood up for myself today (kinda) and I was like so proud of myself because we all came to an agreement and virtually hugged it out :D
Wow. I like how you broke this down. Thanks.
You're really coming along way in your videos, and dialog, an growing your videos Franky. Must of been a tuff choice on what you're choosing now to talk about, and share what you've found, then wondering if other people are just as interested for views. I think you've built up a good flow, an cool picks for topics. Definitely agree on the empath thoughts. When I was young it was allot worse trying to "find" where emotions where was at a lost as to what was wrong with me. I didn't understand emotions, or what they where to be able to articulate it, or understand it wasn't me feeling. Something as simple as being a child in a store, an my mom would start talking to someone, an I'd look at there face an see big smiles as they both were in conversation. An see smiles, but no one was really happy, an I just knew how they were feeling, an I didn't understand the smiles. Smiling laughing sad people inside wearing smiles is a weird childhood to experience...lmao An internet wasn't a big thing for me growing up, I kinda just had to figure it out on my own, once I became old enough to understand it literally wasn't me. Now internet an the more I read, searched online, an ability to interact with people, an learn that much quicker, compared to back then.
thanks so much!
Interesting. Can’t believe I haven’t stumbled upon you discussing this before.
I don’t know why, but as an INFJ, I can easily tell who are the good people, but I still attract the worst kinds-narcissists, sociopaths, frauds, obsessive friends, etc. and they corrupt my life. I’m turning 14 soon, but I’ve already encountered so many bad people who’ve ruined my life and who are putting me down a negative path. It’s wearing me down and I don’t know how to stop it.
Great stuff Frank! Can't agree any less - 100% true. These 3 traits are sooo me, innate. And I was a bit taken aback when you started to explain these traits. I mean, so damn accurate! Openness - gets excruciating, Agreeableness - too tiring and Neuroticism - gets unnerving. I'm still learning, you know..:) I started to look forward to your videos off late. My new hobby. Best!
These are so great I love it! Thank you
Spot On. Brilliant!
Great video as always
I feel like the only thing I’m good at and actually enjoy as a HSP/INFJ is to spend my whole day daydreaming. I don’t want to work a 9-5 anymore, it’s literally killing me. Why can’t I be a professional daydreamer? I also like to cuddle with my cats and photograph birds. It’s like I was born to be retired.
INFP empath here and I feel the same 😂 I can't do 9-5 type of work, I do freelance joba now.
Wow! You are spot on! Plus you really look great with short hair!
Spoken truth with honesty! Thank you so much for an awesome video & helpful as well! A lot more to empathy's.
Dude. How do you get your hair so fking pretty? This video is perfect. I do all of this. Neuroticism. Catastrophic thinking. Agreeableness and openness. I have leaned to say no. I have curbed the worst of it. But I love the way you explain it. It sounds so factual.
late to this video but love the hair/. The agreeableness, but just bc we agree to follow a path and go along with someone doesn't mean we think there right. For me most of the time I just follow along with others but I think " lets just see what happens ." My curiousness gets the better of me. Plus if shit hits the fan , I know ill be there to help my friends or anyone who needs help. Which if you think about I just stated all 3 facts. agreeableness, openness, neuroticism. They all go hand in hand, you cant have one with out the other. Love the vid, glad I know someones out there who gets it all. Keep up the great work.
Good explanation. Thank you
Thank you for making me feel a little bit better about being neurotic LOL! Great video :-)
Your new look is a winner!
There's a book called the Disease to Please that addresses the boundaries issues. It has a test with it. Great video! Thank you for sharing!
Insightful! Thanks
1:22 I really have a serious problem saying no, once a person asked me if i wanted to date them, they tried so hard and was so nervous that i just couldn't say no so we dated for like 6 months
Been there. It's crazy what we will go through for other man
that was a wrong move though, don't you think? You have been with him for 6 months just cuz you couldnt say no? it seems you didnt empathize what he would go through later on
I am a believer in reincarnation, I feel like us Empaths have “been here before”
I can’t help but think the neurotic behavior could be because we have seen things go wrong before. So now our souls are overly cautious.
Frank, I love your new haircut. It makes you look very handsome and in-charge!
Hi! ENFP here. Figured that since I scored the Empath, I would comment what my percentages are!
Openness: 92%
Conscientiousness: 50%
Extraversion: 62.5%
Agreeableness: 79%
Neuroticism: 58%
Another ENFP and an Empath
Openness: 100% (Don't ask me how I got 100%, I am not THAT open to know how that happened)
Conscientiousness: 48%
Extraversion: 79%
Agreeableness: 83%
Neuroticism: 15%
Disclaimer though: I might not really be an empath but just seem like I am because I am a "Natural" which means I can see microexpressions at VERY high rate. If you don't know what that is, watch the TV Show "Lie to Me". Before that show existed, I took Dr Paul Ekman's pretest and passed it with flying colors. I trained for about twenty mintues and realized that I sometimes confused the expression of Fear for Anger. I thought the test was full of crap because it had a disclaimer telling everyone that they would fail miserably the pretest when I got like two wrong. So I had my INTJ partner actually take the test but turned out he couldnt even see it and I spent the entire test training him to even be able to see SOMETHING was happening. So yeah I might not really be empathic, just can see things at a super high speed.
Maybe also why I am so Open and not that Neurotic.... Everything is highly predictable. Any other "Naturals" out there?
5:50 was so spot on. He explained it so well
I am an intj can't tell if you were a ENFJ and infj I can't tell cuz you have amazing acting skills brother it means a lot when I watch this videos so keep up the great work thank you so much
Very helpful ❤️ thank you. Just realizing I am an empath... it makes so much sense.
Totally! So amazingly explained :)
Great video! Thank you for speaking about a topic that is backed by science. I think you’ll attract more sensors to your video with that title 😉😉. And, loving the edits! 🎞
I think I have become numb to negative emotions from other people. It doesn’t phase me anymore (unless it is someone I’m close to and they’re going through something difficult). I think that the military had something to do with that, as well as upbringing. You’re around angry people most of the time and you understand why they feel that way. Maybe you could do a video on how to master your emotions? It seems like the majority of people in this audience could benefit from that. Or, the importance of controlling your thoughts/feelings. Codependency is another topic that people might benefit from learning about, too. 🤷🏼♀️ Seeing as to how empaths/codependents always seem to end up with narcissistic people. A lot of people have mentioned that type of thing in your previous videos (...being the victims of toxic people).
thanks, Sam! Yeah a video about mastering emotions would be good. Just have to get a handle on it myself xD
Frank James 😂 I know, I know... I’m trying to help! 😇 Or, maybe I’m trying to force with my ISFJ ways 🤔😈... if that really is a thing 🙄. Speaking of mastering your emotions... why am I so volatile?!
I think I found my answer for now... www.sowhatireallymeant.com/2013/01/25/emotionally-volatile-people-he-can-be-so-charming-and-then-so-defiant/
This reminds me of my former psychology courses at uni, makes me nostalgic (I couldn't go on with those studies unfortunately).
Good to take out a scientific subject sometimes :)
I scored high in neurotisim and agreeableness, moderate in Openness and low in the other dimensions. I like this video and how you compared being empath to the big five traits.
Yessss! I agreee! You’re so smart!
I wonder how all these personality types relate to one another.
Like, I'm pretty sure God made us all different.
And there are so many of us that we can group together certain similar traits.
But I feel like we are interpreting the same things. Almost like in different currencies or languages, we have different systems to organize the same thing, which is human personality.
It's absolutely fascinating and wonderful that we want to study and improve ourselves.
But I cannot help but to feel something missing, like, reasonings and the whole process of human nature?
I've been listening to Dr. Leaf's channel and her studies in neuroscience. (She makes me feel smart.)
Completely nerdy, but so relatable. I think you'll like it.
Which god?
Yeah, I don't know about The Big Five being more scientific than MBTI. Didn't Dario Nardi almost prove cognitive relations exist on the MBTI spectrum with his brain scans? The Big Five is probably more provable because it aligns with behavior but to say it's more scientific sort of ignores our underlying dimensions. I like how the Big Five says personality is both inherent and environmental but it makes me uncomfortable when it says we can't improve on those traits and they are consistent throughout our lives. I will check out Dr. Leaf''s channel because neuroscience is interesting, but needs to be more reachable.
Oh...I might've even read Caroline Leaf's book and wrote a small blog about it. She is the first self-help person to help me overcome my anxiety.
I feel like all those personality types are like a small puzzle that is a part of a bigger puzzle which is a part of puzzle even bigger and etc.
our personality is made up of tiny bits,just like little puzzle pieces that make a puzzle,our personality is a part of who we are as a person,who we are as people,each tiny puzzles, us people,make up humanity ,the big puzzle
What I learned from my experience is to think there is always a way to solve problems and to don't be afraid, sad, pessimistic because it gives us negativity and you'll finish to spread this energy to people we love too and this is something we don't want. Think positive and the good energy will reach the ones close to us too. Nothing is permanent, sadness too
Thanks FJ for your videos, much love from Anna, an INFJ too