Bobby's gotta let go entirely. Living together, _sleeping_ together and not really dating is even more toxic than being in an actual relationship. He's torturing himself.
He doesn’t care pretty sure he’s getting some action too he just doesn’t wanna pretend he likes things for someone else but he’s just going to sport fuck till he find w.e girl stands out to following the standards he has
@@judbaker5752 ima addicted to pssy and being 5ft5 keeps me away from my addiction 💯🙏 edit: idk why this comment got so many likes but yeah being short is not a good thing if you want to get into the dating market
The dude literally said he was addicted to porn and not touching his partner, an addict, just played video games, and doesn’t care to support their endeavors lol I’m glad he realizes he’s not fit for a relationship. He’s pretty selfish, which is okay he just shouldn’t be with someone, so good for him.
@@nahhhbruhhh yeah youre still projecting your own insecurities, even if he has admitted to those things. Khayla is a obvious cheater of the worst sort (the one that doesnt care if you know about it and flirts with other people in front of her partner) and i dont get this whole monologue pittying her.
Breaking up and still living with her is perhaps ones of the most painful emotional things I’ve ever done to myself. When you break up, break up. Don’t hang around, holding on. 1 shot to the head is better than 5 to chest and bleeding out. But maybe that’s just me.
khlayla is a manipulator narcissist look up her being exposed. she cucked a ex boyfriend because she wanted to manipulate she knew it was slimy and wrong. she did the same thing to bobby. she brought another man in the relationship on bobbys money he flew her to hawaii because he wanted to do anything to keep her while he was in rehab in a dark place. bobby never wanted an open relationship if you watch the clues she was grooming bobby to be in an open relationship like her ex. once you see how slimy she is it all makes sense. it makes me think that brendan schwab was right now
You don’t fix depression overnight. Can you not hear him say he sees a psychologist and psychiatrist regularly. Why subject someone else and yourself to your depressed self.
@@fi-train8961 You misunderstand, my comment is about how his oversharing is unhelpful to him during this time. He needs close friends and that psychologist not a bunch of podcast listeners analyzing everything he says. I know it’s his job but some privacy and aside from the safe people in his life will help his healing.
@@ab-gail He's probably horrifically depressed but I don't think anything about sharing personal details is inherently bad for him. I've not followed him for years and only checked up on the news now but this is how I've known him since. I don't think he wants help right now other than the therapy sessions he's already getting.
GOD I loved how honest Bobby seems to be (SEEMS to be) about his life. The fact that he so often will admit his own failures, and deeply displeasing parts of his life makes me more likely to believe him when he speaks about a good aspect of his life.
One thing I have to say. Bobby expressed that “girls” want/need the cuddles and attention and then later spoke about his inability to go and do things for the sake of the other person bc he simply just doesn’t want to. That is not a women thing. In any relationship wether it’s familial or romantic of friendly requires each person to do things for the others happiness even if it’s not something you want to do. If you don’t do that, it’ll begin to feel transactional rather than loving. If Bobby continues to refuse to do things for the other persons sake and only does things when HE wants to, he will never find a person. It’s hard to swallow but true.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You don't want to spend time with your SO. You want to do your own thing don't be surprised if they hear you & leave you to be by yourself.
They’re truly genuine and honest people I love them too. Unfortunately they are heavily targeted by narcissistic psychopaths, which surprise surprise was his gf.
Damn some women’s standards are in fucking hell 😂 he thinks money makes it all fine but complains about paying for dinners and shit? Pick a struggle? Women please don’t lower your standards to something like this. There are so many proper gentlemen out there with good paying jobs, that will put in effort, inspire you and strive to make your life more enjoyable and comfortable. Sigh
I met Bobby Lee when he wasn't famous at The Comedy Store in LA and he was so cool and nice to me. I told him I knew 100% he was going to make it. I ran into him 15 years later and he remembered me! He was still just as nice and we had a great talk. Great guy and I have so much respect for how honest he is. Zero bullshit. He doesn't lie. You're the best Bobby and thank you for adding so much laughter to my life.
Bobby lies all the time, what are you talking about? He admits on every podcast that he lies constantly. He takes other people's stories and pretends it happened to him, he always embellishes or heavily exaggerates for comedic effect. He's always bullshitting and he would have no problem admitting that. He tells the truth too, but that's usually off camera.
Bobby is identical to so many of the 50 year old "forever bachelor" industry dudes here in LA. They are never satisfied because they're always looking to see what the next younger, "more exciting" thing around the corner may be. They're all self sabotagers. At this rate, Bobby will still be chasing his "dream girl" at age 60, but just banging whatever 20 year old actress he can bring home from the Comedy Store for that night.
Him saying he doesn’t have the energy to put time/effort into a relationship is exactly where I am at. It’s no fault to the woman I’m seeing or talking too; I just personally don’t have any drive to create something new in my life. I’ve been open and honest to every woman I meet, and I find like Bobby said, not something woman are attracted too. But that’s okay; because I want to be alone. Maybe one day I’ll be ready for the time and dedication it takes to create something new. But for right now I’m just doing me Thank you Bobby for being so honest !!
And thats all fine and well, but if that's the case, rather than a relationship, maybe just look for a "friends with benefits" kind of situation? That way you get the sex/hanging out when you feel like it, but no commitment.
@@45johngalt Oh I dont disagree with you, but generally its the girl that catches feelings, and bobby made a point of being lazy in his relationships. So regardless who he goes with, more than likely its the girl that would suffer, So having friends with benefits would work for him, because he gets the sex but doesnt really give extra, and if they catch feelings somehow thats on them.
@@BattleBladeWarriorhe's addicted to p--- and has no need to have sex. He's the one who only had sex a few times in a few years with his partner, not the other way around. So a friend's with benefits would be useless too. He's better off alone as much as I love Bobby he's selfish af and not any good for a relationship in his current state and he's always been like that. Same happened to all his ex's just total neglect 16 hrs video games no emotional support no intimacy sex hugging kissing etc and he has no interest in other women except himself. He's better off just having friends Like Bad Friends 😏
@@Shannon-vv6rr Oh wow, now I think I get it. Damn, that is pretty bad on his part then. I enjoy porn and long gaming sessions as much as the next person, but even then, I still always make time for my fiance. If Bobbys not even interested in sex wit ha partner, let alone any sort of intimacy or whatever, than yea, he's definitely better off by himself.
I don’t even like talking about breakups with my friends lol. Imagine having to do a rundown on 17 podcasts my opinion has evolved lol I’m now jealous of what an easy bag Bobby’s getting just by talking about his breakup and I totally would do the same
Seriously. I’d be cringing after telling the story 3 times. I don’t feel like anyone really needs to know all the details anyway. People have a good idea already.
He’s probably more developed than you if you managed to convice yourself that you enjoy going to the park or any of your gf hobbies , Bobby knows what he likes and doesn’t have to pretend that he likes what she likes that’s maturity
I just started listening to Bobbi (on and off) for about a year…I find that I really enjoy listening him just talk and tell stories. He has a gift in that
Dude I totally agree with bobby! But it is possible to have a healthy relationship and do your own thing. My husband and I are happily married and I am a complete shut in so if he wants to do something he does and I don't mind. We live our own lives together and get each other completely. I am very thankful that we have each other.
It's not really a break up when you still live together and even share the same bed. Bobby needs to decide where he wants to live and separate physically and financially or things will get worse.
He is a oddly different guy, things might hit different for him .. but he was crying before tiger belly and she wasn’t even on that episode, I don’t think I’ve ever seen that !!
Figure out? Bitch fuck out my house. Fuck out my bed. You are fired. Boom that’s it. His views will go up without her. I stopped listening to Tb after like 80 episodes. She’s too self indulged and mighty.
If I was listening to Bobby alone here, I’d honestly be kind of sad for him. But every time he says something heartbreaking, there’s Ryan laughing like a wolf whistle.
I like Ryan, he’s funny but also down to earth and doesn’t make fun when people are being real but also asks the hard questions in light hearted way. Like it when people don’t judge others and just engage in a funny way
It seems like Bobby is at that point of self-discovery where he is truly being honest with himself about himself. Take it or leave it. He will not judge/hate you either way. At some point, if he continues with therapy, he will move from this point. It may not be a far move, but he will give something to have that connection. Now, his lady on the other hand, may need to draw some boundaries. This man clearly loves you but is not willing to pour into developing the relationship. But, if she is okay with that, more power to you sister.
Disclaimer. Just because Bobby lee does this doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to. This shit ain’t healthy, I fell into a bad mental spot just satisfying myself and ignoring everything and everyone around me. This doesn’t give you an excuse to live like that.
@@RazluzTV Usually it yields mental illness to live like that, it's not because it's immoral it's because it's not good for you. Bobby Lee has resources, the rest of us don't. We'll stagnate and end up broke if we live like that.
@T N. Sometimes you gotta listen to that soft voice you slowly turn the volume down on and actually do something for yourself regardless of if people say you’re being selfish or not. Might have been 5-10-15 years of turning the volume down friend but when you finally get that solemn time and exit a relationship it ain’t time to listen to everyone about how selfish you are or how sad you are that you are alone. It’s time for you to delve inside and start listening to that voice you turned down for so many years. You guys have to make and my friend. You gotta figure out some stuff, you gotta find yourself, you gotta find your happy, you gotta find your worth. Nothing selfish about any of that don’t forget that.
@@exitscreaming4637 unlike you I have experience in life and experience in this exact position. Fulfilling your own needs doesn’t bring happiness. Just like cars and clothes and jewelry doesn’t make you truly happy either. Keep feeding your own ego and don’t look to benefit anyone but yourself and you will never find happiness ever in your life. It is truly a fact, not an opinion. The sooner you figure it out the easier your life will be. Good luck 👍
It’s a shame because I can’t help but feel that he self sabotaged his relationship. He sounds insecure with himself and that might have led to isolating. I hope he makes it out on top in the end.
Absolutely when he allowed to switch into a open realationship it was his way of hoping his ex would find someone else in hopes that she would break up with him bc he knows he isn’t mentally present enough to be a true partner in a romantic realationship. He needs to confront his trauma and quit finding new addictions to numb and dissociate from the past / present
@@TheFenixDown206 if he wants to be happy, he does. He isnt happy, he's numb... Which is what most addicts aim for. He may technically be "sober," but I guarantee he isn't "emotionally sober." I know he is an AA guy, but probably is not actually "working the program." If he starts working on himself, he may have a chance to be happy. Either alone or in a relationship. 🤷🏻♀️ as the child of an alcoholic/ addict, who has quite a bit of childhood trauma of my own, I spent my first 30ish years numbing myself. I actually worked on acceptance and forgiveness (of myself and others,) and at 34, I am actually happy now! 🥰
Interesting interview. A lot of resonance here. Bobby seems genuine here and very honest. He’s really good at expressing/verbalizing complicated thoughts and raw emotions. Thanks so much for this content. Great podcast.
@@SuperRadChad of course theirs outliers, but most of thr tine open relationships fail, eventually someone is likely to find another person they enjoy spending their time with
@@BahdVibeZ it's almost impossible to change someone who doesn't wanna change, i'm not saying that it's good or healthy but that's is life. what i'm really trying to explain is: He's the one who is gonna face the repercutions of is actions. at the end of the day. what we really can do is stay away from people like him. he said himself.
I like how we are all sitting here acting like the porn addiction wasn’t the problem the whole fucking time everyone knows porn is massively destructive to the male brain no matter how hot girlfriend is
P0rn addiction topped off with video game addiction... but the p0rn addiction is what kills his drive for her... and if she can't make him happy in that way... nobody will.
@@carter_1 exactly he was satisfying himself. Sex is supposed to be another incentive. Pornography (modern) is classed under super stimulus so you're getting far more stimulation then is normal in nature.
By the sounds of it 100% his porn addiction killed the relationship. If he's jerking it to oldje while he has a gorgeous partner waiting desperately for him then he's a sad case. Love Bobby and mean no disrespect but that's a huge red flag. I hope he can find the strength to see the light
@@DriftmanXDefinitely happy alone with my cat and my apartment, as apose to an insane man, no thank you. Modern men are lunatic incels like you nowadays ❤
Im glad he was honest in admitting he is the problem and doesn't want to change. That takes a lot of balls to decide to just suffer the consequences of a bad choice you don't want to change
Been there and done that, but would never talk about it to friends or family, let alone the whole world. Gotta respect this man! Only a real man can admit his own wrongdoings. Love you Bobby Lee!❤❤❤
Used to date a girl we'd go to a beautiful park, were on the bench eating lunch together like movie-esc and she'd go "So what are we doing today?" and I'm like "Babe this is it, right now." like this is living to me, this is nice. She was a party girl, unless at a bar/concert/party/vacationing every 2 weeks then we weren't 'doing' something. We broke up.
And she used to date a guy that was too low energy for her and enjoyed a different pace of living and leisure. They broke up. Some people are just not compatible and there's nothing wrong with that.
I resonate with your girlfriend, because my girlfriend and I are the same right now. My girlfriend is a lovely, lovely person. But her go-with-the-flow personality is just too much for me to handle. She’s European, and constantly flip-flops on whether she’s going to stay in the states or leave depending on her mood. We stay in bed for hours on the weekend, until I eventually have to kick ourselves out and make sure we’re doing something, otherwise it feels like a waste. Throughout our entire relationship, I’ve always been the one to initiate texting/calling/planning because she’s just so aloof, loves nothing more than just spontaneously spending a day staring out at a skyline or up at the sky for hours while disregarding any real-life duties or experiences. And this will be the end of our relationship - mark my words. Don’t get me wrong, I love those slow, stop the world and melt with you moments. But I also love the stimulating parts of life. We recently went on vacation together - the whole week she wanted to stay on the beach. I wanted to see stuff and work in time for the beach as we went along. It’s hard being with someone who has their head in the clouds 24/7, because eventually you end up getting pulled away from the ground.
@mero40k serious question here. I don't have any overt, easily identifiable addictions, but find isolation alluring. Can isolation itself be the addiction?
He’s just successful and he wants what he wants he met shawty on tinder pretty sure he just went wit the flow and noticed he doesn’t wanna be with her off of pretending to be interested in shit he don’t care about ya need to go tf out and stop thinking ya woke because you think of situations deep for no reason this why nobody can get out of a victim mindset just fucking make some kind of excuse to not see it for what it is he wants to live how he wants to I’ve no interruptions just peace and the fact that so many men can’t even see that is the reason so many of ya can’t get no females and so many men not saying how this correlates to the red pill movement but so many saying they feel the same still talking about the first man to speak on this are dumb and aren’t paying attention just trynna get some clout I’m so upset I can’t even stay on topic because why are ya like this stop lowering standards for a female because this is the outcome only difference is we broke compared to him and females wouldn’t even think to put up with shit they don’t like besides cheating due to the biological attraction of a top tier guy that fucks many women and does what he wants
@@homefrontforge Im not a clinical Psych, Dr. or LCSW so I cant really answer that question. And the last thing Im looking for is a debate on YT. I just know what addiction and isoaltion look like from decades of personal and external experience. I honestly wish him the best though. Hes a brilliant comedian.
It is so crazy that this has been out for so long and there are still people that are so hateful to khalyla. Relationships are so fucking hard idk why people don't understand that.
I understand that but khalyla’s proven herself to not be a good person and it’s obvious she’s manipulated the guy. But it’s on him to be a man and cut her off completely
@@PimpNamedSlickBack1_ Idk if she has tho. I listen to what Bobby says and what she says and they’re both kinda going through shit. I’m not saying she’s innocent at all but this hate I read about her is a bit overkill in my opinion.
@@cassandragorz I agree lol people do talk about her like she’s the reincarnation of satan. But she seemingly manipulated Bobby into an open relationship and when he talks about it you can tell he’s not ok with it. She also has said some wild things that make you really question her character. But you’re right about relationships being hard and at the end of the day only those two know what’s going on. And I’ve heard both talk about their childhood trauma so they’re definitely dealing with stuff
@@PimpNamedSlickBack1_ this is the healthiest conversation I’ve ever had on CZcams love this! But more on that with the open relationship. Me personally, there’s no way I could be in a sexless relationship. 2 years with practically nothing is crazy. He was watching porn instead of being with her. I don’t think porn is bad but when it’s replacing the physical intimacy in your relationship.. idk there’s obviously addiction issues there. I would be dying to have sex. I’ve personally experienced this on a smaller scale and it feels like you’re stuck. You want to fuck but can’t and you don’t want to cheat because you love them. I think that’s why I understand where she’s coming from. Either way both did not do good things but it’s also not my relationship and to judge them feels ick. I just don’t think she’s a bad person and it makes me feel sad for her that people talk so much shit when they’re not in the relationship.
@@cassandragorz damn I didn’t know about the porn thing and him not being with her for 2 years. That’s actually insane but now I understand where she’s coming from. In my opinion though I just can’t really get behind open relationships. I think if problems arise you should try to fix them but if you can’t fix them then leave. If open relationships are what a couple wants to do than that’s great but I personally wouldn’t do it. But with ppl like Bobby and khalyla who have so much trauma I think things were bound to turn ugly at some point. Unfortunately the internet turned it into a men vs women thing instead of just recognizing that they’re both toxic individuals lol
Respect to Bobby Lee in many ways. He never disrespects Khayla, he owns up to his issues, and is a work in progress. I’m glad the current culture is for people to step outside themselves and look at what’s broken. No shame in owning your character flaws. That said, it has to go beyond this. Admitting your damage doesn’t mean you’re not also doing damage to other people. Let’s collectively examine how we’re fecking up and have some empathy for the people who love us, let us in, and have to deal with our garbage. Then watch us change. Admittance without serious ownership of the harm we’ve caused becomes a new platitude of narcissism.
I’ve found this to be true.. and the loneliest moments of my life. Being with someone but not with them. Makes you wanna cheat, go find someone else, break it off and be alone than alone in a relationship. But you love them and the moments you’ve shared. They don’t want to be FWB,don’t want you to leave, but don’t want you to seek that attention they can’t give. Gets upset that you befriend other men for a male perspective when he doesn’t like to talk. He doesn’t make the money to give… it’s just a awkward position. Almost feels pointless.
I’ve been married to my husband for 15 years. We have a great relationship on all fronts. We work together, we have a great love life, we enjoy our extended families, we have good kids, and we share our faith. It takes a lot of effort from both sides. In fact the first year we were married, we almost divorced. We went to counseling and the therapist told us he didn’t see us making it. My husband stood up, grabbed my hand and the then said to the therapist as he pulled me to the door, “ We are not listening to this shit!” In that moment we realized this was death do us part. Then last year my husband got sick and almost died from Covid. During that time I contemplated on the fact that I have the best, and how would I ever be lucky enough to have someone or something so good again. I don’t have any desire to ever date or get remarried again. I would be fine alone. So, I understand and believe Bobby when says that he is alright not dating again.
Sometimes therapy really is overrated. Therapists will often confidently say that you should leave a relationship because there are "plenty of fish in the sea" but this is a very flippant and American way of looking at things. Commitment is important and sometimes weathering the storm does more for both of you and the world than just giving up.
Bobby wants unreality. The chemistry, the magic, the special connection. These things all fade and then each party in relationship is left with…..another real person who has flaws, issues, and challenges in life. Surrendering to that is love and leads to a fulfilling life.
Corn / Video games is an addiction has Simler to alcohol/drugs/ gambling results are self destruction unless you admit you have a problem then rehab recover and change resulting in joyful life. Love everything about Bobby especially his honesty and kind heart
The thing is, there’s no such thing as a road that doesn’t end alone. There are many ways to live, and whether you’re with a partner or not, you’re dying alone my friend, and who is to say you won’t die before your partner or the other way around.
@@darrenbrown7037 What if you're a loving couple in a violent accident, like a plane crash, or an explosion? Then you can die together with the ones you love. That's why I have an explosive device linked to my smartwatch so that if I flatline, I go out surrounded by those I love.
I was with my high school sweet heart for 9 years and had 2 daughters together. She went off the deep end and ran off to do some pretty shocking stuff. It's hard to leave someone you love even when you know you have to. Keep your head up Bobby and keep doing what's best for you
@@bigfrankentertainment damn same here this was 4 years ago we were together for 2years she hit me up she wants to catch up but I'm gd now sober and healthy and working out keeping my self busy the right one would come in time .keep your head up
5 for me and she left me bc I had a habit and her mom basically told her you can’t fix him unless he wants it and it took me a long time to realize reality
“ When you make your business your number one thing.” That’s 💵 money. Comedy, levity, and perspective are your gifts; and you should bring that into all your affairs. 💜
Everyone’s pissed at Khalyla, but Bobby is being very transparent that it was a 2 way thing. He wasn’t giving her what she needed for a very long time, she needed more. There should be no hatred towards either of them. I hope they figure things out and can eventually actually separate and get their own places. They have no resentment, so fans shouldn’t either.
Dude it is CLEARLY obvious that he only says that because she manipulated him into thinking it's his fault. That's what women do. That is the whole game.
Bobby is basically admitting that he’s selfish, not many men want to do things they don’t enjoy with their partners but we do it to make the person we love happy,
yes because women just LOVE scrubbing their man's piss off the toilet bowl rim. yall act like you're the only ones having to do things you don't wanna do, but never consider that women also have to do things for men that the women don't wanna do 🤷♀️
I think you are oversimplifying why it’s happening. I don’t think it’s about growing up at all, at least in my case it isn’t. I have a good, successful career which I do sacrifice for. However, when I’m not working, I want to do what I want to do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If I don’t have to, I shouldn’t have to force myself to be unhappy for a majority of my life. And right now, at 25, unless it was the right type of person, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t want to have to worry about a significant others feelings, wants, needs, both emotionally and physically. I am at least self aware enough to realize that right now I’m not interested in that. However, saying that’s because people don’t want to grow up is asinine.
@@princeofgreece9054 well it also depends on how attractive you are or how much you've already been there and done that. If you're an incel saying that it's like a pacifist who can't fight. they are a coward and can't harm anyone anyway and act like it's a belief that they are a pacifist. No it's those who have swords but keep them sheathed who shall inherit the earth. One of the most egregious misquotes of the Bible is the meek shall inherit the earth when it's more like those who could kill but choose not to and turn the other cheek will. Those with great strength who don't abuse people or give into their rage. Those who dont clip their toenails shall inherit long toenails
His addictive personality is at play. New love is addicting because "feel good" chemicals are bombarding you. That always drops off because that's not love, it's just infatuation. So many people have the issue where they think they no longer love their partner because they don't have the antsy, butterfly feeling anymore.
Major props to Bobby for his honesty and self reflection. Porn is a major intimacy blocker and can destroy relationships - if you feel stuck and it's hurting you or your loved ones, get help! You have the power to change 🙌
Problem for Bobby is he most likley does not get attention from the ladies(according to him and I can see why honestly) at least not until he's worth more money.
I'm an addict, alcoholic and a gamer. It's all about dopamine and throwing your time away for that escape and dopamine rush. The way bobby talks about gaming reminded me my past self. Coincidently it was Skyrim... around 2-3000 hours of playing, modding and reading ingame books for lore. I loved it. And I will come back after years but.... no more 2 weeks without shower barely eating not taking calls from anyone. As an addict I will forever be very careful how much I love something. Be careful out there.
I’m not a drugg addict, per se, but I too have those tendencies …. Very dangerous for me too. I will spend hours on my phone and just keep scrolling even if I’m tired or there’s nothing of interest … Im addicted to food and sugar - that’s my dopamine hit. It’s hard to avoid food because it’s necessary for survival.
I’m an addict and a gamer. Drugs&games every day for 2 years straight. This is the realest and easily the most relatable comment I’ve ever read in my life
Genuine self-reflection is something very few people have the ability to do. Think about all the times in your life when you told someone something, only for them to get mad at you because you accurately describe reality. People turn embarrassment into anger. That's what keeps them from improving. Those are the people criticizing him here.
He went deep into thought, even while joking around and was able to understand himself, what he went through, where it went wrong, why it went wrong and that he doesn't want it to happen again so he'll wait and work on himself until it's time and all those things align.
Everyone keeps commenting about how they feel for Bobby, when I just keep thinking about how lonely and and how damaged kalyla’s self esteem must be. To have a partner constantly pick things iver you is awful. Hopefully both of them are happier now
It’s obvious that the target demo is males here for Bobby. The only people worried about Khalyla are pretty obviously women. We all know what it’s like to deal with such a major disappointment... What gets me the most is how matter of factly he states that “she helped make him who he is” and yet he has no interest in sacrificing or changing anything about himself to even reassure her she’s worth the effort. He’s admitting she’s not worth the effort. We’ve all been with a man child like this! Once she’s gone for good & happy alone/with someone else, he’s going to regret all of this. 🥲👺🤌
@@Keepgoing42 He spends all day watching porn and playing video games, that's a college kid, not a 50 year old man. And wanting to have sex with your boyfriend and hang out with him is not "high maintenance."
@@Keepgoing42 🤣 too high maintenance to you is wanting to have sex with your partner rather than them constantly watching porn, and spending time together once in a while. Rotfl what must you think of actual high maintenance people?
Dude this talk literally changed my life. I feel bobby 100% man. This conversation really made me think about my own life and my own previous relationships. I just came out of a two year relationship and before that I was in a 12 year relationship with my baby momma. It's tough man.
I think ppl. Are getting tired of each other too quik in this high dopamine era we live in. Were in a tap of a button i can see pretty girls or guys and something im attracted too.
People think I’m too picky or introverted but until I was 43 I had been in three long term relationships and each one we rushed into them and resentful of not liking the same things . 6 years living alone and I get it. Young people are codependent they would rather be in a horrible relationship than have no relationship
I have a great marriage with my wife and we're with each other almost everyday as I work from home. I often think what we would be like if we didn't have kids as our family takes up a lot of our time and effort. I think Bobby would have maybe a different tune had he had kids with her. Life gets a lot busier and in the beginning when the kids are young, one has a lot less time. For me now, both my kids are heavy gamers while also doing a lot of sports. I'm able to play hours of co-op games with my kids and then we go for a long family bike ride in the trails etc. I think Bobby would see life differently as a dad, for better or for worse.
yeah. I wondered something similar myself, if he's feeling purposeless without a family going into this stage of his life. However it would be even worse if he had kids but still was stuck in this rut of only wanting to do things that he wanted to do, never sharing in other people's interests. Just playing video games all day and letting life go by (I love certain video games too btw, but after 2 weeks non stop of Skyrim I was desperate to get outside, so that's the difference between me and him)
He’s laser focus when talking about playing Starfield for 16 hours a day. He’s definitely not joking around. Most people just take a sick day on release. Ending your relationship… next level commitment 💪
One of the most honest men around. Everyone's judging him and his situation but everyone has demons and nobody is this honest with themselves and others about it. The fact he puts it out on podcasts to the public is even more crazy. Got lots of love for Bobby and I hope he gets the help he needs and finds some self confidence. We can't lose another great comedian
@@Max-zu8xj That sounds like a pretty bias video for starters, and I'm pretty certain you don't know more about his personal life and his long term girlfriend than he does. I ain't into gossip.
@@jakeuren8688 I agree that it sounds bias. I recommend to take a look, youll see evidence. Nothing bias about that. Khalila is manipulative and Bobby is suverily damaged staying in that relationship for years. She still live in the same house and still sucks money from him.
You mean women do not like him???' He described emotional neglect and cruelty. He causes therapy because that is not a human that is a low cock with pockets who complains about everything to do and being around women. He hates beingaround women. What kind of guy who likes women hates to spend time with them?
@@nikkoa.3639 yeah I don't think so. i never see many men agree on men handling shit properly. They usually agree on "boys are boys" that is negatively affecting the world around them. But hey- who notices patterns.
I've always thought in a relationship, there is one full of love and the other one who has more logic into it. I really believe a relationship is not only about love. IT is love for the beginning but then you need to maintain the relationship and to make decisions. At the end of the day I believe it's all about choices. It's not choices where you dont have a solution, it is choices that you take in how you'd maintain and feed the relationship. This is why parents are here to teach us how to be independant not only for money, but to keep an healthy and clean home and assuming responsabilities. Just with this value, I believe it changes everything in a positive way.
Say what you want about Bobby, but I gotta say I really respect how honest he’s being about his part in things while at the same time knowing who he is and being straight up about it.
I love how so many comments have bashed K for being selfish, evil, etc for wanting the relationship to be open but if the roles were reversed and K refused to give sex and affection for years at a time, all hell would break loose. She deserves to have her needs met. Period. And for Bobby to allow so much to be said without speaking up against it, is sad as hell. Him saying it isn’t her fault one time isn’t enough. He needs to speak up for her on THEIR platform. More than he has.
So if a man doesn't hold up his part in the relationship he should be made to feel like he needs to accept his significant other sleeping with other men? Here's a crazy thought....... how about she just leaves him and get her needs met? If I'm a man who's dealing with a woman with emotional trauma and I emotionally manipulate her into accepting me sleeping with other women you'd never act like that was ok, so why does she get a pass? Men AND women need to accept moving on when it doesn't feel right and stop trying to force a change in other people
Also let's not forget Bobby has massive emotional and sexual trauma from men when he was younger, even if he jokes about it that doesn't mean it doesn't have an impact. Before you try to downplay or discredit his trauma
@@lowbornfool1713 She wasn't getting emotional or physical needs met. The two most important things to keeping a relationship alive. He checked out and this is the result. I wouldn't think it's fair to blame either side.
@@rutygut5000 Thats why the relationship should've ended preemptively, you don't convince him to accept you getting your physical needs met by someone else. Mind you he isn't the 1st boyfriend she's convinced to accept her sleeping with another man, by her own account she did that with one of her ex's and their roommate, convinced him to accepting an open relationship with the man who was rooming with them. Once is understandable but multiple times seems like a pattern, also as I've said physical trauma can mess with all future relationships. Would you accept me saying these same things if I was with a girl who had been sexually violated as a child, and just because she wasn't meeting my physical needs i convice her to let me sleep around even though it makes her unhappy? So because I'm unfulfilled i make her go through unhappiness to satisfy myself? That doesn't rectify or equalize anything, it's just shifting the misery towards the other partner and at that point there's no reason to continue the relationship
@@lowbornfool1713 I don't know too much of their drama but didn't he cheat first? She got sick, he had to take on a caretaker role, lost his desire towards her and all downhill from there. Still I can understand have a once in a decade connection with someone but they're not the full package. People go out and try to get their needs met elsewhere often without communicating it or being honest to themselves.
So I been watching for a minute and 45 seconds and this is the first time i’ver ever seen Bobby be serious.. #loveyoubobby EDIT-2:04 I should of known bobby won’t ever be serious 😭🤣
I once had a friend who had the biggest crush on a mutual friend. He chose the friend zone and eventually stopped talking to her once she had a boyfriend. I asked him why he never made a move, he was good looking and funny. He said "she deserved better than me".
I appreciate Bobby for always being one of the few that will open up about his life struggles. I think he helps to open these convos and break down these barriers we have as men. Appreciate you Bobby the world needs more of you brother.
Who put up those barriers?? Cause women have been calling this out for a while but i don't think people could get past the jargon enough to actually understand these "barriers" and what constructed them.
@@lifetops6569 men have barriers because they need to shield women from the pain of reality. This "calling out" bullshit is just an effort to feminize men and it has been wholly destructive to society.
Brutally honest interview. Respect to Bobby for being so open and honest about it! It’s a shame when two people genuinely love each other but are no longer in love with a sexual attraction.
i personally think they should have stayed together....majority of relationships stop fucking after years of being together....the bond that they had and the love they shared was unmatched in my opinion....it wasn’t one of those love stories where the people grew apart and hated eachother....i’m sure they had their moments and their resentments, but all relationships do...to me it’s a crime that they aren’t still together
@@lavs8696 he's honest about what he thinks happened. whether that is actually what happened, or is influenced by his low self esteem / misguided blame issues, only close friends can say.
@@govegan562 nah, that shouldn’t be happening in relationships. Relationships take effort, and if he wasn’t putting in the effort to at least sleep with her even once a month, then the relationship is dead. Sometimes we all don’t feel like it, but you get yourself in the mood and know you’ll feel better after. It’s like motivating yourself to go to the gym - it’s good for you. Constant porn and self flagellation is not attractive nor healthy for either an individual or a relationship. They made the right choice if he’s not willing to actually give her what she needs.
I can relate. I'm a pretty extreme introvert and a lot of my relationships failed because partners wanted / needed way more attention than I could give. I thankfully found someone very much like me and we go off and do our own thing, but then come back and share our adventures with each other. We've been happily married for 13 years and consider ourselves soulmates.
@@sweetembrace6706 Of course it can. Introverts can experience pretty significant exhaustion from human interaction. Even pleasant interaction with a beloved partner can be draining for a very introverted person. They need a lot of time to focus and recharge. So if you are paired with someone who requires A LOT of attention, that can be a recipe for disaster.
You could understand this relationship wasn’t a true relationship of intimacy just by periodically watching then interact on their show. But if that still didn’t do it then listening to the first few min of this podcast made it quite clear. In his effort to say all the great things about her and their relationship, he described his great fullness being 100% about how she resurrected his career. Not one thing about her as a person. That ain’t ever gonna do it brah.
Bro you literally just heard him say she "resurrected his career", just ignored everything he said. Like he literally said "she's love of his life" and bunch of other shit about the relationship
What career? This guy is a nobody. Had one mildly funny bit on Madtv. Then you find about how much of an unfunny, gross pig he is in real life by watching his weak ass podcast. I imagine the only reason this video is in my feed is because I've watched someone actually funny on his dumb show, who he kept interrupting to same something disgusting or racist.
This man ended a long term relationship in preparation for Starfield... a true legend Jesus thanks for all the likes guys I too will be getting Starfield when it comes out. Callisto protocol as well can't wait.
I appreciate Bobby lees honesty, women today are pretty demanding and part of being a man is doing what a man's got to do, I'm 67 now and I would never be that open on a podcast, my advice is not to live with kaylla at all either your together or your not, tell her to move and do what you you want to do, honestly I question her motives, letting Jules play with a hugh knife on the bad friends podcast is irresponsible, I don't know your generation would be lost without the internet, cell phones, video games, etc. We had to make our own fun and be creative to find our own way and mostly we were on our own, but I have to say I love Bobby Lee, free yourself bro and get a new place and trick or out for 16 hours of video games, forget kaylyla and Jules you will be a happier person if your man enough, do it man style then the girls won't know what to do, cheers and good luck
Bobby's gotta let go entirely. Living together, _sleeping_ together and not really dating is even more toxic than being in an actual relationship. He's torturing himself.
He doesn’t care pretty sure he’s getting some action too he just doesn’t wanna pretend he likes things for someone else but he’s just going to sport fuck till he find w.e girl stands out to following the standards he has
@@flakkog1971 is he tho? He says they had sex 2 or 3 times in 2 years
@Mattydubbz not at all, if anyone is being tortured from the situation it's her dude.
@Corndawg Wallace and?
He is a pathetic simp. What a sad man.
Bobby is a good example for someone going through life & not learning a god damn thing 😂
bobby is literally me
That’s why people have to treat their addictions. It’s almost impossible to learn and process if you’re addicted to things.
@@judbaker5752 ima addicted to pssy and being 5ft5 keeps me away from my addiction 💯🙏
edit: idk why this comment got so many likes but yeah being short is not a good thing if you want to get into the dating market
@@beganitdidnt6535 you are hopeless lol
@@beganitdidnt6535 tbh the fact you thought that was funny says a lot, get off the internet for awhile
If you are playing video games 16 hours a day, of course your personal relationships are going to fall apart, they are non existent
The dude literally said he was addicted to porn and not touching his partner, an addict, just played video games, and doesn’t care to support their endeavors lol I’m glad he realizes he’s not fit for a relationship. He’s pretty selfish, which is okay he just shouldn’t be with someone, so good for him.
His "partner" is a total psycho girl and she was flirting with his friends (like theo) in front of him.
Youre projecting on bobby basically
right and everybody still blames Khayla for some weird ass woman hating reason.
@@end.olives he said all of those things lmaoooo
@@nahhhbruhhh yeah youre still projecting your own insecurities, even if he has admitted to those things. Khayla is a obvious cheater of the worst sort (the one that doesnt care if you know about it and flirts with other people in front of her partner) and i dont get this whole monologue pittying her.
Breaking up and still living with her is perhaps ones of the most painful emotional things I’ve ever done to myself. When you break up, break up. Don’t hang around, holding on. 1 shot to the head is better than 5 to chest and bleeding out. But maybe that’s just me.
A heart shot kills you instantly
True
khlayla is a manipulator narcissist look up her being exposed. she cucked a ex boyfriend because she wanted to manipulate she knew it was slimy and wrong. she did the same thing to bobby. she brought another man in the relationship on bobbys money he flew her to hawaii because he wanted to do anything to keep her while he was in rehab in a dark place. bobby never wanted an open relationship if you watch the clues she was grooming bobby to be in an open relationship like her ex. once you see how slimy she is it all makes sense. it makes me think that brendan schwab was right now
It actually makes total sense. Great analogy also
1000% facts
It’s depressing seeing so many people uplift this sort of thing as “authentic” and not “a cry for help. Holy crap this man is horrifically depressed.”
Why is everything a cry for help with you people. Gross.
You don’t fix depression overnight. Can you not hear him say he sees a psychologist and psychiatrist regularly. Why subject someone else and yourself to your depressed self.
@@fi-train8961 You misunderstand, my comment is about how his oversharing is unhelpful to him during this time. He needs close friends and that psychologist not a bunch of podcast listeners analyzing everything he says. I know it’s his job but some privacy and aside from the safe people in his life will help his healing.
Well look at him
@@ab-gail He's probably horrifically depressed but I don't think anything about sharing personal details is inherently bad for him. I've not followed him for years and only checked up on the news now but this is how I've known him since. I don't think he wants help right now other than the therapy sessions he's already getting.
Bobby is the best example for my kids. Using him as an example, I will show them how life looks without discipline.
tbh he had shitty parents
Sheeesh
I'm sure he had plenty of discipline as a Korean-American kid with entrepreneur parents. He got into drugs early and left home at 18.
discipline of what 😂
Discipline has nothing to do
GOD I loved how honest Bobby seems to be (SEEMS to be) about his life. The fact that he so often will admit his own failures, and deeply displeasing parts of his life makes me more likely to believe him when he speaks about a good aspect of his life.
Holy shit I think this is the first time I can fully trust that Bobby isn’t doing a bit and I’m seeing and hearing the real him for the first time.
Naw this is bit for sure lmaoo
Is this Khalylas burner ? Or have you never watched Bobby Lee on a podcast ?
This whole time I'm thinking where is the joke
🫵😂
Listen to Bobby Lee Returns Again on the Inside of You podcast. He opens up like this.
One thing I have to say. Bobby expressed that “girls” want/need the cuddles and attention and then later spoke about his inability to go and do things for the sake of the other person bc he simply just doesn’t want to. That is not a women thing. In any relationship wether it’s familial or romantic of friendly requires each person to do things for the others happiness even if it’s not something you want to do. If you don’t do that, it’ll begin to feel transactional rather than loving. If Bobby continues to refuse to do things for the other persons sake and only does things when HE wants to, he will never find a person. It’s hard to swallow but true.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You don't want to spend time with your SO. You want to do your own thing don't be surprised if they hear you & leave you to be by yourself.
Facts
Easy to be alone until your on your deathbed
He needs some serious help from Jordan Peterson.
you are codependent. slave mentality.
He’s not like most normal people and he doesn’t care that he isn’t. He’s true to himself. I like these type of people.
They’re truly genuine and honest people I love them too. Unfortunately they are heavily targeted by narcissistic psychopaths, which surprise surprise was his gf.
@@kevinmcmillin870You've no idea what a narcissist psychopath is.
@@waterkingdavid
Tell me more about yourself then, narc.
yeesh
@@kevinmcmillin870 absolutely, the most vulnerable are always targeted by the NPDs, BPDs and HPDs
Damn some women’s standards are in fucking hell 😂 he thinks money makes it all fine but complains about paying for dinners and shit? Pick a struggle? Women please don’t lower your standards to something like this. There are so many proper gentlemen out there with good paying jobs, that will put in effort, inspire you and strive to make your life more enjoyable and comfortable. Sigh
I met Bobby Lee when he wasn't famous at The Comedy Store in LA and he was so cool and nice to me. I told him I knew 100% he was going to make it. I ran into him 15 years later and he remembered me! He was still just as nice and we had a great talk. Great guy and I have so much respect for how honest he is. Zero bullshit. He doesn't lie. You're the best Bobby and thank you for adding so much laughter to my life.
true story ^
Cap
Bobby lies all the time, what are you talking about? He admits on every podcast that he lies constantly. He takes other people's stories and pretends it happened to him, he always embellishes or heavily exaggerates for comedic effect. He's always bullshitting and he would have no problem admitting that. He tells the truth too, but that's usually off camera.
cool story bruh
@@Nivomandasrail really? i never heard him admit that. Can you just provide a link? it should be easy for you, since it happens every podcast. Thanks!
They’re right to end it. If you only care about yourself you have no business being in a relationship.
Bobby is identical to so many of the 50 year old "forever bachelor" industry dudes here in LA. They are never satisfied because they're always looking to see what the next younger, "more exciting" thing around the corner may be. They're all self sabotagers. At this rate, Bobby will still be chasing his "dream girl" at age 60, but just banging whatever 20 year old actress he can bring home from the Comedy Store for that night.
@@mc2043 Lol. What are you on about? This guy is not banging anything.
@@aha6500 Don't be naive.
@@aha6500 oh you poor child
They haven't ended it.
Gotta love when a ‘clip’ is half of the episode
Him saying he doesn’t have the energy to put time/effort into a relationship is exactly where I am at. It’s no fault to the woman I’m seeing or talking too; I just personally don’t have any drive to create something new in my life. I’ve been open and honest to every woman I meet, and I find like Bobby said, not something woman are attracted too.
But that’s okay; because I want to be alone. Maybe one day I’ll be ready for the time and dedication it takes to create something new. But for right now I’m just doing me
Thank you Bobby for being so honest !!
And thats all fine and well, but if that's the case, rather than a relationship, maybe just look for a "friends with benefits" kind of situation? That way you get the sex/hanging out when you feel like it, but no commitment.
@@BattleBladeWarriorthat's bad advice. Someone eventually catches feelings or gets hurt once one person starts preferring the company of someone else
@@45johngalt Oh I dont disagree with you, but generally its the girl that catches feelings, and bobby made a point of being lazy in his relationships.
So regardless who he goes with, more than likely its the girl that would suffer, So having friends with benefits would work for him, because he gets the sex but doesnt really give extra, and if they catch feelings somehow thats on them.
@@BattleBladeWarriorhe's addicted to p--- and has no need to have sex. He's the one who only had sex a few times in a few years with his partner, not the other way around. So a friend's with benefits would be useless too. He's better off alone as much as I love Bobby he's selfish af and not any good for a relationship in his current state and he's always been like that. Same happened to all his ex's just total neglect 16 hrs video games no emotional support no intimacy sex hugging kissing etc and he has no interest in other women except himself.
He's better off just having friends
Like Bad Friends 😏
@@Shannon-vv6rr Oh wow, now I think I get it. Damn, that is pretty bad on his part then.
I enjoy porn and long gaming sessions as much as the next person, but even then, I still always make time for my fiance. If Bobbys not even interested in sex wit ha partner, let alone any sort of intimacy or whatever, than yea, he's definitely better off by himself.
I don’t even like talking about breakups with my friends lol. Imagine having to do a rundown on 17 podcasts
my opinion has evolved lol I’m now jealous of what an easy bag Bobby’s getting just by talking about his breakup and I totally would do the same
Seriously. I’d be cringing after telling the story 3 times. I don’t feel like anyone really needs to know all the details anyway. People have a good idea already.
They just want the gory details lol
If you’re whole life is public hard to hide something so big that factors to everything you do
He doesn't "have to." It's a private matter that gets views. He chooses to discuss it.
turning something ugly into money
If Bobby would take his peers advice and shoot a stand-up at this moment it would be a classic. He’s in rare form.
Well his "peers" aren't too concerned about his well-being then, because a stand-up special to salt a man's wounds may not be healthy for him.
@@train_cam shut up, snowflake. He needs to do a stand up
@@train_cam then stand-up might not be the career for the person who can’t do that…
I saw Bobby live and it was one of the best shows I’ve ever seen. The crowd was losing it
YES. He could reach Dave Chappelle levels of killing it
Bobby Lee is a perfect example of arrested development. His maturation process stopped at twelve.
So? He's successful, he's just saying he doesn't want to do the stuff that everyone else does and complains about.
He’s probably more developed than you if you managed to convice yourself that you enjoy going to the park or any of your gf hobbies , Bobby knows what he likes and doesn’t have to pretend that he likes what she likes that’s maturity
@@dwarfu9361 I like going to the park
Why because he doesn't have the same personality as you? Tell us you're a failure needing attention without actually saying it
@@dwarfu9361talk about projection 😂
I just started listening to Bobbi (on and off) for about a year…I find that I really enjoy listening him just talk and tell stories. He has a gift in that
Lee: we broke up
Interviewer: well I would love to meet her
Bahhahah thats where my head went IMMEDIATELY
And that is the problem she was flirting before all this happened to all the guys she was in podcasts. I was like fuck wth
My stoned mind
i think he meant to have her as a guest
The interviewers laugh makes me want to make love to a blender
@@zigotina guest for what kind of situtation..?😮
Bobby needs to start streaming on twitch! I feel like he would kill on there.
He has done it before, but has explained that video games are his escape and he wants to keep it seperate from ‘work’
He'd get banned in a month.
@@KristianH1986 I think the person meant do an irl stream.
@@nicolaspace1182 I don’t think so, considering Bobby has been saying lately that he wants to play video games for 16 hours a day until he dies 😂
Fuck yes
Dude I totally agree with bobby! But it is possible to have a healthy relationship and do your own thing. My husband and I are happily married and I am a complete shut in so if he wants to do something he does and I don't mind. We live our own lives together and get each other completely. I am very thankful that we have each other.
that's actually a really nice thing to hear in such a bitch of a world, wishing you guys the best for years to come!
He is what he is and it’s ok, I respect the honesty can completely relate to bobby
It's not really a break up when you still live together and even share the same bed. Bobby needs to decide where he wants to live and separate physically and financially or things will get worse.
Shits wild
He needs to let her go!
He is a oddly different guy, things might hit different for him .. but he was crying before tiger belly and she wasn’t even on that episode, I don’t think I’ve ever seen that !!
Yeah is really weird. Honestly khayla seems emotionless
Figure out? Bitch fuck out my house. Fuck out my bed. You are fired. Boom that’s it. His views will go up without her. I stopped listening to Tb after like 80 episodes. She’s too self indulged and mighty.
If I was listening to Bobby alone here, I’d honestly be kind of sad for him. But every time he says something heartbreaking, there’s Ryan laughing like a wolf whistle.
It's an addicting and relatable laugh
Such an annoying laugh.
@@SuperPeterok agreed. It's relatable
Fr ion like this guy very much
He's trying to keep the energy light. Even though they're just having a conversation, this is still a show
I like Ryan, he’s funny but also down to earth and doesn’t make fun when people are being real but also asks the hard questions in light hearted way. Like it when people don’t judge others and just engage in a funny way
That fake Bert kriesher laugh has gotta go tho
It seems like Bobby is at that point of self-discovery where he is truly being honest with himself about himself. Take it or leave it. He will not judge/hate you either way. At some point, if he continues with therapy, he will move from this point. It may not be a far move, but he will give something to have that connection. Now, his lady on the other hand, may need to draw some boundaries. This man clearly loves you but is not willing to pour into developing the relationship. But, if she is okay with that, more power to you sister.
Disclaimer. Just because Bobby lee does this doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to. This shit ain’t healthy, I fell into a bad mental spot just satisfying myself and ignoring everything and everyone around me. This doesn’t give you an excuse to live like that.
Disclaimer. Do what you want to do it's not morally abhorrent to live for yourself and your own interest if that's what you desire
@@RazluzTV Usually it yields mental illness to live like that, it's not because it's immoral it's because it's not good for you. Bobby Lee has resources, the rest of us don't. We'll stagnate and end up broke if we live like that.
@T N. Sometimes you gotta listen to that soft voice you slowly turn the volume down on and actually do something for yourself regardless of if people say you’re being selfish or not. Might have been 5-10-15 years of turning the volume down friend but when you finally get that solemn time and exit a relationship it ain’t time to listen to everyone about how selfish you are or how sad you are that you are alone. It’s time for you to delve inside and start listening to that voice you turned down for so many years. You guys have to make and my friend. You gotta figure out some stuff, you gotta find yourself, you gotta find your happy, you gotta find your worth. Nothing selfish about any of that don’t forget that.
Ok , well that's you and you can speak for yourself but why are you trying to lecture everyone else ?
@@exitscreaming4637 unlike you I have experience in life and experience in this exact position. Fulfilling your own needs doesn’t bring happiness. Just like cars and clothes and jewelry doesn’t make you truly happy either. Keep feeding your own ego and don’t look to benefit anyone but yourself and you will never find happiness ever in your life. It is truly a fact, not an opinion. The sooner you figure it out the easier your life will be. Good luck 👍
It’s a shame because I can’t help but feel that he self sabotaged his relationship. He sounds insecure with himself and that might have led to isolating. I hope he makes it out on top in the end.
Nah that bitch used him it was never gonna work
he probably just wanna chilly
Absolutely when he allowed to switch into a open realationship it was his way of hoping his ex would find someone else in hopes that she would break up with him bc he knows he isn’t mentally present enough to be a true partner in a romantic realationship. He needs to confront his trauma and quit finding new addictions to numb and dissociate from the past / present
@@SabrinaHawk he's rich and famous he doesn't need to do any of that.
@@TheFenixDown206 if he wants to be happy, he does. He isnt happy, he's numb... Which is what most addicts aim for. He may technically be "sober," but I guarantee he isn't "emotionally sober." I know he is an AA guy, but probably is not actually "working the program." If he starts working on himself, he may have a chance to be happy. Either alone or in a relationship. 🤷🏻♀️ as the child of an alcoholic/ addict, who has quite a bit of childhood trauma of my own, I spent my first 30ish years numbing myself. I actually worked on acceptance and forgiveness (of myself and others,) and at 34, I am actually happy now! 🥰
He's not gonna pull like that ever again
Interesting interview. A lot of resonance here. Bobby seems genuine here and very honest. He’s really good at expressing/verbalizing complicated thoughts and raw emotions. Thanks so much for this content. Great podcast.
❤
lets be honest, open relationships never last
Not for people who aren't carrying a lot of baggage and trauma. Some "broken" people can convince themselves that's normal
@@SuperRadChad of course theirs outliers, but most of thr tine open relationships fail, eventually someone is likely to find another person they enjoy spending their time with
An open relationship isnt a relationship its just two people living together that fuck sometimes.
@@jigzonyt517 excactly....wtf is a relationship these days ? With its real values
Did they not open it up near the end? I don't think they started as an open relationship.
This guy is the definition of self sabotaging. At his age its hard to say if he could ever change but I hope he can.
If he is ok being like that, leave him alone and learnd from it.
@@jesustorressalgado7254 how can you know if someone is OK with it? It’s self sabotage, you can’t trust them
Personality is usually set by age 25.
@@tmmnago2722 wouldn’t generalise all human beings that intensely mate, it’s pointless and not accurate
@@BahdVibeZ it's almost impossible to change someone who doesn't wanna change, i'm not saying that it's good or healthy but that's is life. what i'm really trying to explain is: He's the one who is gonna face the repercutions of is actions. at the end of the day.
what we really can do is stay away from people like him. he said himself.
Bobby being serious is like me farting in a job interview hoping the interviewer takes me serious.
whats the name of the song at the end??
I like how we are all sitting here acting like the porn addiction wasn’t the problem the whole fucking time everyone knows porn is massively destructive to the male brain no matter how hot girlfriend is
Right. More people should read "Your Brain on Porn by Gary Olson".
P0rn addiction topped off with video game addiction... but the p0rn addiction is what kills his drive for her... and if she can't make him happy in that way... nobody will.
@@carter_1 exactly he was satisfying himself. Sex is supposed to be another incentive. Pornography (modern) is classed under super stimulus so you're getting far more stimulation then is normal in nature.
By the sounds of it 100% his porn addiction killed the relationship. If he's jerking it to oldje while he has a gorgeous partner waiting desperately for him then he's a sad case. Love Bobby and mean no disrespect but that's a huge red flag. I hope he can find the strength to see the light
Sounds like you guys have porn problems you need to resolve.
We accept the love we think we deserve.
Well spoken
Perks of a wallflower!
Speak for yourself
…….. he….. he neglected HER?!!!!!
wahmyn detected
He needs to surround himself with positive people that are going to challenge him to do better
LMAOO I love his laugh soo gold 🤣🤣🔥🔥
"Men Want To Be Alone But Not by Ourselves"
Patrice O'Neal RIP 🙏
I can definitely be alone with my dog. A few beers every now and the with a good buddy sounds great. Modern women are insane
@@DriftmanXDefinitely happy alone with my cat and my apartment, as apose to an insane man, no thank you. Modern men are lunatic incels like you nowadays ❤
At the end of his life, Bobby can look back and think, at least I lived my life like a prepubescent child.
Except he's probably more successful then most the people in these comments BAHAHAHAHA.
@@toddblankenship7164 success won't make you happy if you won't work on yourself, in fact it can kill you
@@toddblankenship7164 you mean monetarily, right?
@@beastsonwax well ya i mean there's only doing what you want and making money so ya.
@@tor4472 It does to ex-broke mf's like me.
Im glad he was honest in admitting he is the problem and doesn't want to change. That takes a lot of balls to decide to just suffer the consequences of a bad choice you don't want to change
Been there and done that, but would never talk about it to friends or family, let alone the whole world. Gotta respect this man! Only a real man can admit his own wrongdoings. Love you Bobby Lee!❤❤❤
Used to date a girl we'd go to a beautiful park, were on the bench eating lunch together like movie-esc and she'd go "So what are we doing today?" and I'm like "Babe this is it, right now." like this is living to me, this is nice. She was a party girl, unless at a bar/concert/party/vacationing every 2 weeks then we weren't 'doing' something. We broke up.
And she used to date a guy that was too low energy for her and enjoyed a different pace of living and leisure. They broke up.
Some people are just not compatible and there's nothing wrong with that.
She was for the streets
@@fleepss2407 straight up, like bch that phase starts quickly and should end quickly lool
AKA hoeing
I resonate with your girlfriend, because my girlfriend and I are the same right now. My girlfriend is a lovely, lovely person. But her go-with-the-flow personality is just too much for me to handle. She’s European, and constantly flip-flops on whether she’s going to stay in the states or leave depending on her mood. We stay in bed for hours on the weekend, until I eventually have to kick ourselves out and make sure we’re doing something, otherwise it feels like a waste. Throughout our entire relationship, I’ve always been the one to initiate texting/calling/planning because she’s just so aloof, loves nothing more than just spontaneously spending a day staring out at a skyline or up at the sky for hours while disregarding any real-life duties or experiences.
And this will be the end of our relationship - mark my words. Don’t get me wrong, I love those slow, stop the world and melt with you moments. But I also love the stimulating parts of life. We recently went on vacation together - the whole week she wanted to stay on the beach. I wanted to see stuff and work in time for the beach as we went along. It’s hard being with someone who has their head in the clouds 24/7, because eventually you end up getting pulled away from the ground.
Bobby has more addictions than he realizes, addiction makes you isolate and want to be alone. I hope he gets it figured out.
So true I’m going through the same porn addiction as him and I’m very isolated and it makes you go insane in your head all the time
He should figure this shit out quickly.
Cuz he's not a foolish, detrimentally ignorant, lame, inexperienced, etc.... young man anymore.
@mero40k serious question here. I don't have any overt, easily identifiable addictions, but find isolation alluring. Can isolation itself be the addiction?
He’s just successful and he wants what he wants he met shawty on tinder pretty sure he just went wit the flow and noticed he doesn’t wanna be with her off of pretending to be interested in shit he don’t care about ya need to go tf out and stop thinking ya woke because you think of situations deep for no reason this why nobody can get out of a victim mindset just fucking make some kind of excuse to not see it for what it is he wants to live how he wants to I’ve no interruptions just peace and the fact that so many men can’t even see that is the reason so many of ya can’t get no females and so many men not saying how this correlates to the red pill movement but so many saying they feel the same still talking about the first man to speak on this are dumb and aren’t paying attention just trynna get some clout I’m so upset I can’t even stay on topic because why are ya like this stop lowering standards for a female because this is the outcome only difference is we broke compared to him and females wouldn’t even think to put up with shit they don’t like besides cheating due to the biological attraction of a top tier guy that fucks many women and does what he wants
@@homefrontforge Im not a clinical Psych, Dr. or LCSW so I cant really answer that question. And the last thing Im looking for is a debate on YT. I just know what addiction and isoaltion look like from decades of personal and external experience. I honestly wish him the best though. Hes a brilliant comedian.
It is so crazy that this has been out for so long and there are still people that are so hateful to khalyla. Relationships are so fucking hard idk why people don't understand that.
I understand that but khalyla’s proven herself to not be a good person and it’s obvious she’s manipulated the guy. But it’s on him to be a man and cut her off completely
@@PimpNamedSlickBack1_ Idk if she has tho. I listen to what Bobby says and what she says and they’re both kinda going through shit. I’m not saying she’s innocent at all but this hate I read about her is a bit overkill in my opinion.
@@cassandragorz I agree lol people do talk about her like she’s the reincarnation of satan. But she seemingly manipulated Bobby into an open relationship and when he talks about it you can tell he’s not ok with it. She also has said some wild things that make you really question her character. But you’re right about relationships being hard and at the end of the day only those two know what’s going on. And I’ve heard both talk about their childhood trauma so they’re definitely dealing with stuff
@@PimpNamedSlickBack1_ this is the healthiest conversation I’ve ever had on CZcams love this!
But more on that with the open relationship. Me personally, there’s no way I could be in a sexless relationship. 2 years with practically nothing is crazy. He was watching porn instead of being with her. I don’t think porn is bad but when it’s replacing the physical intimacy in your relationship.. idk there’s obviously addiction issues there. I would be dying to have sex. I’ve personally experienced this on a smaller scale and it feels like you’re stuck. You want to fuck but can’t and you don’t want to cheat because you love them. I think that’s why I understand where she’s coming from. Either way both did not do good things but it’s also not my relationship and to judge them feels ick. I just don’t think she’s a bad person and it makes me feel sad for her that people talk so much shit when they’re not in the relationship.
@@cassandragorz damn I didn’t know about the porn thing and him not being with her for 2 years. That’s actually insane but now I understand where she’s coming from. In my opinion though I just can’t really get behind open relationships. I think if problems arise you should try to fix them but if you can’t fix them then leave. If open relationships are what a couple wants to do than that’s great but I personally wouldn’t do it. But with ppl like Bobby and khalyla who have so much trauma I think things were bound to turn ugly at some point. Unfortunately the internet turned it into a men vs women thing instead of just recognizing that they’re both toxic individuals lol
Respect to Bobby Lee in many ways. He never disrespects Khayla, he owns up to his issues, and is a work in progress. I’m glad the current culture is for people to step outside themselves and look at what’s broken. No shame in owning your character flaws. That said, it has to go beyond this. Admitting your damage doesn’t mean you’re not also doing damage to other people. Let’s collectively examine how we’re fecking up and have some empathy for the people who love us, let us in, and have to deal with our garbage. Then watch us change. Admittance without serious ownership of the harm we’ve caused becomes a new platitude of narcissism.
He disrespected her a lot. He cheated on her
"Men don't want to be alone, but we want to be by ourself" Patrice O'Neil
That’s so selfish but yet sadly so true lol
So true
I’ve found this to be true.. and the loneliest moments of my life.
Being with someone but not with them.
Makes you wanna cheat, go find someone else, break it off and be alone than alone in a relationship. But you love them and the moments you’ve shared.
They don’t want to be FWB,don’t want you to leave, but don’t want you to seek that attention they can’t give.
Gets upset that you befriend other men for a male perspective when he doesn’t like to talk.
He doesn’t make the money to give… it’s just a awkward position. Almost feels pointless.
@@Onedown5ups that's not selfish that's male biology, its only selfish if you compare men and women which isn't a fair comparison at all
@@richcampbell6808 tell us right then.
Ryan you are a good dude. Holding this episode for him like that, that’s real shit!
Nobody else would ever trust him if he didn’t honor his word. Guys don’t do shit like that, it’s a chick thing.
Ryan is such a real one! Love him and Bobby together.
Extremely honest about his situation.
I’ve been married to my husband for 15 years. We have a great relationship on all fronts. We work together, we have a great love life, we enjoy our extended families, we have good kids, and we share our faith. It takes a lot of effort from both sides. In fact the first year we were married, we almost divorced. We went to counseling and the therapist told us he didn’t see us making it. My husband stood up, grabbed my hand and the then said to the therapist as he pulled me to the door, “ We are not listening to this shit!” In that moment we realized this was death do us part. Then last year my husband got sick and almost died from Covid. During that time I contemplated on the fact that I have the best, and how would I ever be lucky enough to have someone or something so good again. I don’t have any desire to ever date or get remarried again. I would be fine alone. So, I understand and believe Bobby when says that he is alright not dating again.
Sometimes therapy really is overrated. Therapists will often confidently say that you should leave a relationship because there are "plenty of fish in the sea" but this is a very flippant and American way of looking at things. Commitment is important and sometimes weathering the storm does more for both of you and the world than just giving up.
Literally no one gives a shit
He’s cheating on you…
This is beautiful I cried
Bobby is like the panda that doesn't want to reproduce to save his species but in this case it's his relationship
appreciate your honesty man you sound like me lol
Bobby wants unreality. The chemistry, the magic, the special connection. These things all fade and then each party in relationship is left with…..another real person who has flaws, issues, and challenges in life. Surrendering to that is love and leads to a fulfilling life.
beautifully said
sometimes when i see bobby lee laughs hysterically after he tells a sad story... it's funny and sad at the same time.
It’s how some people cope with trama… it’s a normal response
@@gringa978 you're explaining life to a guy named Pupu Chuchu.... So there's that
only sometimes tho
@@loganlee5875 😂
Humor is the best medicine
The way Bobby switches from completely serious then tells a joke, and then they both proceed to scream laugh has me crying
I feel like I’m high on mushrooms 🍄 watching this 😂
@@jaycobmelo1904 lmfao the waves!!!
You’re crying? Seriously? Why? And if you aren’t crying, why would you say you were over something so insignificant?
@@FranchiseSIX5 it’s an expression
@@FranchiseSIX5 Why are you so uptight..
Corn / Video games is an addiction has Simler to alcohol/drugs/ gambling results are self destruction unless you admit you have a problem then rehab recover and change resulting in joyful life. Love everything about Bobby especially his honesty and kind heart
I don't go for relationships which is why I never have to worry about breaking up, it's just not worth the pain..😢
He described a relationship growing up as falling apart and it was sad. Bcz he's 50 and still in his 20s that road does end alone.
The thing is, there’s no such thing as a road that doesn’t end alone. There are many ways to live, and whether you’re with a partner or not, you’re dying alone my friend, and who is to say you won’t die before your partner or the other way around.
@@darrenbrown7037 you're right, I do wish him the best video game filled days possible if that's his version of happy
@@darrenbrown7037 What if you're a loving couple in a violent accident, like a plane crash, or an explosion? Then you can die together with the ones you love. That's why I have an explosive device linked to my smartwatch so that if I flatline, I go out surrounded by those I love.
@@alfredprufrock6567 😹😹😹 how romantic
I cant believe hes 50! Thought he was like 35
I was with my high school sweet heart for 9 years and had 2 daughters together. She went off the deep end and ran off to do some pretty shocking stuff. It's hard to leave someone you love even when you know you have to. Keep your head up Bobby and keep doing what's best for you
Same, 5 years not 9 but she left me for getting high and guys who would support her habit now she’s sober but we are two different ppl now
@@bigfrankentertainment damn same here this was 4 years ago we were together for 2years she hit me up she wants to catch up but I'm gd now sober and healthy and working out keeping my self busy the right one would come in time .keep your head up
Expect it broz, with apps and thirstyness, these females easliy get side tracked.
It's your fault. You got complacent and made yourself unattractive.
5 for me and she left me bc I had a habit and her mom basically told her you can’t fix him unless he wants it and it took me a long time to realize reality
“ When you make your business your number one thing.” That’s 💵 money. Comedy, levity, and perspective are your gifts; and you should bring that into all your affairs. 💜
Nobody:
Bobby: We broke up *laughs like the hyenas from The Lion King
Everyone’s pissed at Khalyla, but Bobby is being very transparent that it was a 2 way thing. He wasn’t giving her what she needed for a very long time, she needed more. There should be no hatred towards either of them. I hope they figure things out and can eventually actually separate and get their own places. They have no resentment, so fans shouldn’t either.
Dude it is CLEARLY obvious that he only says that because she manipulated him into thinking it's his fault. That's what women do. That is the whole game.
100%. She’s getting so much hate for no reason
@@privateuser7 You need to go outside and interact with human beings for a change
@@privateuser7 “that’s what women do” lmao ok bro? If that’s what u wanna believe, no one’s stopping u from dating a dude lol
He made her rich
Bobby is basically admitting that he’s selfish, not many men want to do things they don’t enjoy with their partners but we do it to make the person we love happy,
yes because women just LOVE scrubbing their man's piss off the toilet bowl rim. yall act like you're the only ones having to do things you don't wanna do, but never consider that women also have to do things for men that the women don't wanna do 🤷♀️
That’s dudes laugh is crazy 😂
I hope the best for him and his continued success. He's so funny and awesome.
“That being said, we broke up” followed by sickler losing it, just about kills me everytime 😂😂😂😂 @1:57
He deserves better... saw how that girl was asking d.ck size too Bisping that shit made me so sick🤮 she always seems so sneaky and off
Everytime? How many times have you watched it?
At least he can laugh it off. Breaking up with a hot chick is hard
A whole generation going through the "i don't want to grow up and sacrifice" relationship blues cycle
Dude yes, yiu took my words exactly!
Bruh
I think you are oversimplifying why it’s happening. I don’t think it’s about growing up at all, at least in my case it isn’t. I have a good, successful career which I do sacrifice for. However, when I’m not working, I want to do what I want to do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If I don’t have to, I shouldn’t have to force myself to be unhappy for a majority of my life. And right now, at 25, unless it was the right type of person, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t want to have to worry about a significant others feelings, wants, needs, both emotionally and physically. I am at least self aware enough to realize that right now I’m not interested in that. However, saying that’s because people don’t want to grow up is asinine.
@@princeofgreece9054 well it also depends on how attractive you are or how much you've already been there and done that. If you're an incel saying that it's like a pacifist who can't fight. they are a coward and can't harm anyone anyway and act like it's a belief that they are a pacifist. No it's those who have swords but keep them sheathed who shall inherit the earth. One of the most egregious misquotes of the Bible is the meek shall inherit the earth when it's more like those who could kill but choose not to and turn the other cheek will. Those with great strength who don't abuse people or give into their rage. Those who dont clip their toenails shall inherit long toenails
@@princeofgreece9054 but 25 is very young
His addictive personality is at play.
New love is addicting because "feel good" chemicals are bombarding you. That always drops off because that's not love, it's just infatuation.
So many people have the issue where they think they no longer love their partner because they don't have the antsy, butterfly feeling anymore.
Major props to Bobby for his honesty and self reflection. Porn is a major intimacy blocker and can destroy relationships - if you feel stuck and it's hurting you or your loved ones, get help! You have the power to change 🙌
Who do you go too for that
@@kevinmoran6644 Lots of support groups online for all sorts of my addictions. SPAA I think is for that particular addiction.
Through Jesus Christ alone
@@ohtebowah Jesus has people on earth that are his hands and feet. You can pray and go to therapy at the same time.
Problem for Bobby is he most likley does not get attention from the ladies(according to him and I can see why honestly) at least not until he's worth more money.
I'm an addict, alcoholic and a gamer. It's all about dopamine and throwing your time away for that escape and dopamine rush. The way bobby talks about gaming reminded me my past self. Coincidently it was Skyrim... around 2-3000 hours of playing, modding and reading ingame books for lore. I loved it. And I will come back after years but.... no more 2 weeks without shower barely eating not taking calls from anyone. As an addict I will forever be very careful how much I love something. Be careful out there.
You never stop playing Skyrim... You just take breaks... Praise the Todd
I’m not a drugg addict, per se, but I too have those tendencies …. Very dangerous for me too. I will spend hours on my phone and just keep scrolling even if I’m tired or there’s nothing of interest …
Im addicted to food and sugar - that’s my dopamine hit. It’s hard to avoid food because it’s necessary for survival.
You did this to yourself
And Elder Scrolls at the end of the day is Elder Scrolls not real life
Wow you've found a real dogshit game to be addicted to lmao
I’m an addict and a gamer. Drugs&games every day for 2 years straight. This is the realest and easily the most relatable comment I’ve ever read in my life
Genuine self-reflection is something very few people have the ability to do. Think about all the times in your life when you told someone something, only for them to get mad at you because you accurately describe reality.
People turn embarrassment into anger. That's what keeps them from improving. Those are the people criticizing him here.
I'm not criticizing, but he said he won't change. We have to accept that reality too, which in turn is somewhat ironic.
He went deep into thought, even while joking around and was able to understand himself, what he went through, where it went wrong, why it went wrong and that he doesn't want it to happen again so he'll wait and work on himself until it's time and all those things align.
Everyone keeps commenting about how they feel for Bobby, when I just keep thinking about how lonely and and how damaged kalyla’s self esteem must be. To have a partner constantly pick things iver you is awful. Hopefully both of them are happier now
It’s obvious that the target demo is males here for Bobby. The only people worried about Khalyla are pretty obviously women. We all know what it’s like to deal with such a major disappointment... What gets me the most is how matter of factly he states that “she helped make him who he is” and yet he has no interest in sacrificing or changing anything about himself to even reassure her she’s worth the effort. He’s admitting she’s not worth the effort. We’ve all been with a man child like this! Once she’s gone for good & happy alone/with someone else, he’s going to regret all of this. 🥲👺🤌
@@KM-bn7dg very much doubt it
@@Keepgoing42 He spends all day watching porn and playing video games, that's a college kid, not a 50 year old man. And wanting to have sex with your boyfriend and hang out with him is not "high maintenance."
@@Keepgoing42 🤣 too high maintenance to you is wanting to have sex with your partner rather than them constantly watching porn, and spending time together once in a while. Rotfl what must you think of actual high maintenance people?
@@Keepgoing42 Congrats. You just told everyone youee a man child too
“that being said… we broke up” *laughs like he’s losing his fucking mind*
I kinda understand and feel what Bobby is saying the "2 year thing, the compromise, etc. etc."
First time watching this - and all I can say is RYAN!!! YOUR sweater is on fire!!!! I want an orioles sweater now
Dude this talk literally changed my life. I feel bobby 100% man. This conversation really made me think about my own life and my own previous relationships. I just came out of a two year relationship and before that I was in a 12 year relationship with my baby momma. It's tough man.
I think ppl. Are getting tired of each other too quik in this high dopamine era we live in. Were in a tap of a button i can see pretty girls or guys and something im attracted too.
Watch Fresh and fit podcast
@@asmokingp3005 exactly, "there's always someone better"
Got out of a 5 yr relationship, been a few years haven't gotten back up yet :/
@@i7vSa7vi7y Fuck out of here. They are phonies.
People think I’m too picky or introverted but until I was 43 I had been in three long term relationships and each one we rushed into them and resentful of not liking the same things . 6 years living alone and I get it. Young people are codependent they would rather be in a horrible relationship than have no relationship
hope Bobby is Happy
I have a great marriage with my wife and we're with each other almost everyday as I work from home. I often think what we would be like if we didn't have kids as our family takes up a lot of our time and effort. I think Bobby would have maybe a different tune had he had kids with her. Life gets a lot busier and in the beginning when the kids are young, one has a lot less time. For me now, both my kids are heavy gamers while also doing a lot of sports. I'm able to play hours of co-op games with my kids and then we go for a long family bike ride in the trails etc. I think Bobby would see life differently as a dad, for better or for worse.
yeah. I wondered something similar myself, if he's feeling purposeless without a family going into this stage of his life. However it would be even worse if he had kids but still was stuck in this rut of only wanting to do things that he wanted to do, never sharing in other people's interests. Just playing video games all day and letting life go by (I love certain video games too btw, but after 2 weeks non stop of Skyrim I was desperate to get outside, so that's the difference between me and him)
He’s laser focus when talking about playing Starfield for 16 hours a day. He’s definitely not joking around. Most people just take a sick day on release. Ending your relationship… next level commitment 💪
One of the most honest men around. Everyone's judging him and his situation but everyone has demons and nobody is this honest with themselves and others about it. The fact he puts it out on podcasts to the public is even more crazy. Got lots of love for Bobby and I hope he gets the help he needs and finds some self confidence. We can't lose another great comedian
@@Max-zu8xj That sounds like a pretty bias video for starters, and I'm pretty certain you don't know more about his personal life and his long term girlfriend than he does.
I ain't into gossip.
@@jakeuren8688 I agree that it sounds bias. I recommend to take a look, youll see evidence. Nothing bias about that. Khalila is manipulative and Bobby is suverily damaged staying in that relationship for years. She still live in the same house and still sucks money from him.
You mean women do not like him???' He described emotional neglect and cruelty. He causes therapy because that is not a human that is a low cock with pockets who complains about everything to do and being around women. He hates beingaround women. What kind of guy who likes women hates to spend time with them?
I don't think people are judging his honesty here, moreso judging how he handles his situation.
@@nikkoa.3639 yeah I don't think so. i never see many men agree on men handling shit properly. They usually agree on "boys are boys" that is negatively affecting the world around them. But hey- who notices patterns.
Bobby's such a good dude, that he's still trying to convince himself that he did wrong. Sure, but she took it to level 9000!
I've always thought in a relationship, there is one full of love and the other one who has more logic into it.
I really believe a relationship is not only about love. IT is love for the beginning but then you need to maintain the relationship and to make decisions.
At the end of the day I believe it's all about choices. It's not choices where you dont have a solution, it is choices that you take in how you'd maintain and feed the relationship.
This is why parents are here to teach us how to be independant not only for money, but to keep an healthy and clean home and assuming responsabilities.
Just with this value, I believe it changes everything in a positive way.
Say what you want about Bobby, but I gotta say I really respect how honest he’s being about his part in things while at the same time knowing who he is and being straight up about it.
I love Bobby but he’s an idiot for not having sex with his beautiful ex everyday
*Once Ozempic was back in stock and Andy Dick became single again their relationship was doomed.*
I love how so many comments have bashed K for being selfish, evil, etc for wanting the relationship to be open but if the roles were reversed and K refused to give sex and affection for years at a time, all hell would break loose. She deserves to have her needs met. Period. And for Bobby to allow so much to be said without speaking up against it, is sad as hell. Him saying it isn’t her fault one time isn’t enough. He needs to speak up for her on THEIR platform. More than he has.
So if a man doesn't hold up his part in the relationship he should be made to feel like he needs to accept his significant other sleeping with other men? Here's a crazy thought....... how about she just leaves him and get her needs met? If I'm a man who's dealing with a woman with emotional trauma and I emotionally manipulate her into accepting me sleeping with other women you'd never act like that was ok, so why does she get a pass? Men AND women need to accept moving on when it doesn't feel right and stop trying to force a change in other people
Also let's not forget Bobby has massive emotional and sexual trauma from men when he was younger, even if he jokes about it that doesn't mean it doesn't have an impact. Before you try to downplay or discredit his trauma
@@lowbornfool1713 She wasn't getting emotional or physical needs met. The two most important things to keeping a relationship alive. He checked out and this is the result. I wouldn't think it's fair to blame either side.
@@rutygut5000 Thats why the relationship should've ended preemptively, you don't convince him to accept you getting your physical needs met by someone else. Mind you he isn't the 1st boyfriend she's convinced to accept her sleeping with another man, by her own account she did that with one of her ex's and their roommate, convinced him to accepting an open relationship with the man who was rooming with them. Once is understandable but multiple times seems like a pattern, also as I've said physical trauma can mess with all future relationships. Would you accept me saying these same things if I was with a girl who had been sexually violated as a child, and just because she wasn't meeting my physical needs i convice her to let me sleep around even though it makes her unhappy? So because I'm unfulfilled i make her go through unhappiness to satisfy myself? That doesn't rectify or equalize anything, it's just shifting the misery towards the other partner and at that point there's no reason to continue the relationship
@@lowbornfool1713 I don't know too much of their drama but didn't he cheat first? She got sick, he had to take on a caretaker role, lost his desire towards her and all downhill from there.
Still I can understand have a once in a decade connection with someone but they're not the full package. People go out and try to get their needs met elsewhere often without communicating it or being honest to themselves.
So I been watching for a minute and 45 seconds and this is the first time i’ver ever seen Bobby be serious..
#loveyoubobby
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I should of known bobby won’t ever be serious 😭🤣
I once had a friend who had the biggest crush on a mutual friend. He chose the friend zone and eventually stopped talking to her once she had a boyfriend. I asked him why he never made a move, he was good looking and funny. He said "she deserved better than me".
I appreciate Bobby for always being one of the few that will open up about his life struggles. I think he helps to open these convos and break down these barriers we have as men. Appreciate you Bobby the world needs more of you brother.
Bobby's not a man. He's a fifty year old boy, and even that is a charitable description
100 agree Bobby Lee is awesome and 99.99% of people are on his side in this whole ordeal
@@mitchellmiller781 🤡
Who put up those barriers?? Cause women have been calling this out for a while but i don't think people could get past the jargon enough to actually understand these "barriers" and what constructed them.
@@lifetops6569 men have barriers because they need to shield women from the pain of reality. This "calling out" bullshit is just an effort to feminize men and it has been wholly destructive to society.
Brutally honest interview. Respect to Bobby for being so open and honest about it! It’s a shame when two people genuinely love each other but are no longer in love with a sexual attraction.
Except he’s not being honest, he’s basically taking all the blame here.
@@lavs8696 Khalyla brainwashed him on that. She’s a dirtbag.
i personally think they should have stayed together....majority of relationships stop fucking after years of being together....the bond that they had and the love they shared was unmatched in my opinion....it wasn’t one of those love stories where the people grew apart and hated eachother....i’m sure they had their moments and their resentments, but all relationships do...to me it’s a crime that they aren’t still together
@@lavs8696 he's honest about what he thinks happened. whether that is actually what happened, or is influenced by his low self esteem / misguided blame issues, only close friends can say.
@@govegan562 nah, that shouldn’t be happening in relationships. Relationships take effort, and if he wasn’t putting in the effort to at least sleep with her even once a month, then the relationship is dead.
Sometimes we all don’t feel like it, but you get yourself in the mood and know you’ll feel better after. It’s like motivating yourself to go to the gym - it’s good for you.
Constant porn and self flagellation is not attractive nor healthy for either an individual or a relationship.
They made the right choice if he’s not willing to actually give her what she needs.
If your girl is going on an old timey prospector journey, you do not have to tell them not to sleep with anyone else.
Bobby describing himself is just him giving tons of examples of what the word “selfishness” means
I can relate. I'm a pretty extreme introvert and a lot of my relationships failed because partners wanted / needed way more attention than I could give. I thankfully found someone very much like me and we go off and do our own thing, but then come back and share our adventures with each other. We've been happily married for 13 years and consider ourselves soulmates.
introversion has nothing to do with how much attention you give your partner?
@@sweetembrace6706 yeah I was just thinking how idiotic this sounds 😂
@@sweetembrace6706 Of course it can. Introverts can experience pretty significant exhaustion from human interaction. Even pleasant interaction with a beloved partner can be draining for a very introverted person. They need a lot of time to focus and recharge. So if you are paired with someone who requires A LOT of attention, that can be a recipe for disaster.
That sounds super nice. Y’all met each other fell and love and felt like you didn’t have to completely change your lives in order to stay happy.
The given reason wasn't actually why they broke up. Khalyla is deeply insane.
I love Bobby's honesty and self awareness.
He's honest, but he doesn't strike me as self aware
@YamaVirago he admits he's a slob and difficult for others, stuff like that. So how is he not self aware?
This episode was soo good, thanks!
You could understand this relationship wasn’t a true relationship of intimacy just by periodically watching then interact on their show. But if that still didn’t do it then listening to the first few min of this podcast made it quite clear. In his effort to say all the great things about her and their relationship, he described his great fullness being 100% about how she resurrected his career. Not one thing about her as a person. That ain’t ever gonna do it brah.
Dude he done it himself ,
Bro you literally just heard him say she "resurrected his career", just ignored everything he said. Like he literally said "she's love of his life" and bunch of other shit about the relationship
@@niles1492 no listen again he starts "she's, the love of my life she rebuilt my career,we started tiger belly"
He looked at her like HR. he fu kd up
What career? This guy is a nobody. Had one mildly funny bit on Madtv. Then you find about how much of an unfunny, gross pig he is in real life by watching his weak ass podcast. I imagine the only reason this video is in my feed is because I've watched someone actually funny on his dumb show, who he kept interrupting to same something disgusting or racist.
I’m sure he loved her in the beginning and time drifted them apart
This man ended a long term relationship in preparation for Starfield... a true legend
Jesus thanks for all the likes guys I too will be getting Starfield when it comes out. Callisto protocol as well can't wait.
Lol
He should stream it on twitch
As he should! 😎
Hahahahaha
Lmfao 🤣
I appreciate Bobby lees honesty, women today are pretty demanding and part of being a man is doing what a man's got to do, I'm 67 now and I would never be that open on a podcast, my advice is not to live with kaylla at all either your together or your not, tell her to move and do what you you want to do, honestly I question her motives, letting Jules play with a hugh knife on the bad friends podcast is irresponsible, I don't know your generation would be lost without the internet, cell phones, video games, etc. We had to make our own fun and be creative to find our own way and mostly we were on our own, but I have to say I love Bobby Lee, free yourself bro and get a new place and trick or out for 16 hours of video games, forget kaylyla and Jules you will be a happier person if your man enough, do it man style then the girls won't know what to do, cheers and good luck
I would never ever date this guy!!