Why do good girls, like bad guys? The Psychology behind the Bad Boy and the confusion of females.
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- Have you ever wandered as a woman why do you like bad boys? What attracts you to them and why you always get hurt by them but you still tend to choose a bad boy?
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Brother, your TV is on fire!
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And His on fire too off the scale, May Allah reward you immensely Ameen
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Ladies who falls and got married to bad guys , shouldn't complain afterwards , her momma warned her and mothers instincts were mostly accurate ,
You spoke the truth 🥰
precisely, men should have standards. We should not just forgive and assume that people change for the better. People do not fundamentally change, they just become better actors over time. This is especially true for damaged women who claim that they have become more "aware" and are going to make smarter choices. Well, no use paying attention to the road in front after the crash/accident.
Bad people need consequences from men. That's the only way we're going to change this. Expecting anything from w is a futile exercise.
I feel like lot people are missing out on this brothers channel. Especially the guys
Yes definitely me too
this guys amazing mashallah love his stuff
I found cuz of mufti menk and it’s Amazon. I relate to him more cuz I’m in a West and a new convert
@@jackhampton7657 ever thought of sharing your story bro ? 😀
the guys are watching and always have been
I don't care what women like. Just be yourself and follow quran and Sunnah. Life is not long enough to chase girls
If they need to be chased then they aren't worth chasing.
Alhamdullilah, I grew up in a household where my dad is the muslim alpha male, who is always striving in the cause of Allah to fulfill his duties and I have always felt that protection, I respect and love him a lot for that. My mum also serves my dad and took well care of me and my siblings and the dynamic between both of them had a huge impact on how I view relationships. Ofc, I will not say I have a perfect family dynamic because I don’t but seeing my parents as an example kept my fitrah intact.
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@JahannamHellfire "women are surpressed" " man dominated world" where you hear this from? Are you even muslim? Do you know that Islam protected women from slavery ? Do you know Islam was the religion of adam abraham jesus and Muhammad peace be upon them
@@LearnTawhid just because a Muslim woman doesn't agree with you doesn't make me a non-muslim do you understand?!
@@JahannamHellfire in order for you to be muslim you have to believe in god and hes revelation. The Quran and the messengers and the last Muhammad peace be upon him.
Speaking as a bad boy myself, this brother spoke facts
I thought Batman killed you?
Allahs door is never closed when it comes to repenting
I was a ex bad boy I got all the girls because of my careless nature 😂 now I’m more mature and wiser and closer to Allah
Hard times create good men , good men create good times , good times create weak men , weak men create hard times.
Agree with the sentiment.
I would say it’s a bit more involved than that; feminism has undermined the role of men in society. We are providers. So when women go toe-to-toe with us, and deprive us of our role - which is being driven cynically by global propaganda machines -
I believe that’s one of the reasons that males nowadays are weak, mainly our responsibilities are no longer what they once were. So they are less driven.
@Black Roses sorry I was paraphrasing .
@@ahmedshakib3883 its better to not say create
@Assad khan im no feminist but just understand feminism us not a solution but instead its a reaction.
Today the role of men has been degraded by society becuase the role of women as mothers was never appreciated
I grew up in sauid arabia and housewives were treated like filth trampled upon..treated barely like third class citizens..sons dont respect mothers as the fathers dont respect their wife's..yes islam has said that jannah is beneath the mothers feet but these are but words.islam isnt being practised properly
@@chabbouhamine3695 - he is quoting from a non muslim (Michael Hopf originally made that comment). He is just plagiarising. The original statement (by Michael Hopf) is -
“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.”
Women like AC voltage and men like DC voltage. Women like the adventure, the extremes, the extreme positives and extreme negatives because they are emotional creatures and the extreme things make them feel alive. This is why they love the bad boys because bad boys give them an adventure and the women always think that they can fix the bad boy. Men like stability, we like consistency and constancy and a feminine woman is usually stable and a monochromatic pink if you will. Men's careers are full of turmoil, pleasing bosses, performance reviews, making profits, making money, making tough financial and design decisions etc and so they really value something simple and constant. They can find that in a feminine woman and that is why men like mild mannered, good natured women who did not have an adventurous past.
Well said but most don't understand ac and dc
As an electrical engineering student, the comparison between AC and DC voltage is very clear.
@@mohamedismail6273 Alternating Current Voltage or AC voltage is voltage that constantly changes direction. It's most often, in its most simple form, represented by a sinusoidal wave, a frequency.
Direct Current Voltage or DC voltage however always goes in one direction in an electrical circuit. It can vary in speed, but it will always go one direction.
In this analogy DC voltage is meant to represent stable and predictable, and AC voltage is meant to represent varying and adventurous.
Very interesting topic!
Thats why no one gets married. The women are confused and scared. The men are weak and dont want to
take responsibility.
Jazakumullahu khayran.
Im glad I found this channel
You are the best explanation in all the videos!
This is so thorough, empowering, straight to the point and educational. Jazakallah khair brother. 🤲 الحمد لله
Great show brother, jazakhAllahu khairan
Assallamualaikum I have had you tube for years and your the first video I have commented on, just want to say spot on!! I believe we need to be more than men than ever before with the gender confusion war we are facing right now, all men and boys need to know this, rounded up perfectly Alhamdullillah! Keep going
Peak topic and well explained
MashaAllah such a nice message i wish we can work on more bigger responsibilities guiding our boys may Allah Help ameen
Maybe pornography is to blame for it too these days. With both men and women having access to free porn these days, and most porn glorifies the bad boy who's ready to "satisfy" and do all the "dirty things" to the ladies, it's not surprising how the appeal of the bad boy has exploded in the modern era of the internet and free porn.
very useful channel
Nice lecture brother! May Allah reward you and give you success in both Worlds.
How accurate 💯 💯 Allahumma baarik
Subhan Allah...
It's like I know this.. But at the same time.. I didn't knew this..
May Allah bless you immensely sir.. It is really helpful for both men and women. Indeed, Islam is the only way of life. May Allah guide the youth to the righteous path.
Insightful
jazakallahu khairan Ustadz
Gracias for this video
I think, it depends on the girl. My wife and l have been together for almost 20 years. She never got involved with a so-called bad guy. She grew in fairly strong environment with a father at home. Mind you, that's not to say that all females who grow up in a strong paternal environment won't select bad guys. However, the chances is much less.
@Dhi Mancini thank you sharing that information. Naturally, I never meet you and girl. Thus, I don't know her background or personality. It could be, she's interested in you for just being you. I know it may be hard to believe, but sometimes, it's that simple. What kind of work does she do? What does she do in her free time?
Mashallah one of the best videos on utube. So glad i found you. Ive been trying to relearn how to attract a masculine man after being a survivor of abuse. Because i have yet to meet a guy that is confident and makes me feel protected but am confused what type of woman i need to be in order to attract such a guy coming from a background of never experiencing protection from a male
@@berlin-benz Brother what is this? and Who is this person? Why should she email him? Who are you anyways?
thank you so much
Asalamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh.
Thank you so much for your informative video, enjoyed and learned a lot al-hamdu li Allah.
May I ask where do I find your page? Jazak Allah kheir wa 3afiyah.
جزاك الله كل خير أخي, اخوك من مصر
As soon as you mentioned feminism my heart further broke. Some women aren't feminists. As a psychologist you know there are things such as poor attachment disorders from either past trauma or childhood situations. In addition is a lack of viable suitors. Some women tried. Then they tried to settle and they were destroyed. Some were waiting for the Muslim hero that never came and they gave in to simple human urges. Loneliness is the culprit. Bad men know how to play the game especially and if they are cluster b predators then, they are experienced experts who will surely burrow into the unknowing victim using their thirsts against them. Some of those men are confident but come across shy and unbothered those are the snakes that do the most damage.
Subhana'Allah so well said
They will give bias opinions so dw sister.
nice.
She blames 'bad men', yet according to her, there is no such thing as bad women.
@@beachboy_boobybuilder according to whom?
Jist found your videos
Alhamdulillah
Great work
It's young girls and immature women.
so true!!!! can you pleease talk more about this?
especially for men?
I think the attraction is, women likes to be that one special person for that alpha male where this tough guy to the world , have soft corner for this women.
Assalamu alaykum, please do a video about education. I don’t like any school curriculum either..
Mashaallah thanks for sharing the great knowledge dear brother,
Remadan Kareem "BE A MAN"..! 💪✌
Perhaps they aren’t such “good girls” after all 🤷🏾♂️
yahya
@@TAZ_X1 habibi 💕💕
جزاك الله خير اخي الكريم
Mashaallah. Very helpful Tips Alhamdulillah
Very very valid point I always thought that sport is essential in the life of every muslim and I just needed more scholars to talk about it jazakaum allahu khyran
@Abdul Haqq look my dear brother i think and Allah knows better you are not right because there is a lot of hadith talking about health and exercise نَّ لِرَبِّكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقًّا، ولِنَفْسِكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقًّا، ولأَهْلِكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقًّا، فَأَعْطِ كُلَّ ذِي حَقٍّ حَقَّهُ". وقد أقره النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم على ذلك بقوله: [صدق سلمان]
for example when you translate the hadith that one of the rights of you body is taking care of it and we all know the huge health and cognitive benefits of sport just literally type exercising health benefits
2 - prophet peaces be upon him also said "A strong believer is better and dearer to Allah than a weak one, and both are good. Adhere to that which is beneficial for you." and ibn al Qiym said the stronger both physically and morally and spiritually
3- فقد أورد هذا الأثر صاحب كتاب كنز العمال عن مكحول أن عمر رضي الله عنه كتب إلى أهل الشام: أن علموا أولادكم السباحة والرمي والفروسية. ونسبه إلى كتاب "القراب في فضائل الرمي"
couldn't find the translation but basically Umar ibn al khatab sent a message to ahl al sham encouraging them to teach their children riding horses swimming and shooting
there are more but I think those are enough hope you we learn something from it
at the end you have to deeply understand that Islam includes everything and wants you to exceed in all beneficial aspects of life with
sincerity
@Abdul Haqq Yes you are right but what is Islam Islam is faith and practices that includes life as a whole so we as muslims believe that our relegion as allah said includes everything ١٦٢ قُلْ إِنَّ صَلَاتِي وَنُسُكِي وَمَحْيَايَ وَمَمَاتِي لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ162 Say, “My prayer and my worship, and my life and my death, are devoted to God, the Lord of the Worlds. ~ surat Al anaam
@Abdul Haqq my dear friend of you read the tafseer of the mentioned ayah that anything can make you take deeds with the right intention even sleeping if you say sleep zikr studying working anything with the right intention and sencerity in sha allah will make you take deeds take for example going to gym early so you benefits from sport in increasing your energy in ibadah such as reading quran and praying and so on hope it is clear by now
@Abdul Haqq ameen you to my dear brother ramadan mubarak ♥️♥️
I DON'T HAVE TO AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAY PAL BECAUSE NO HUMAN CAN BE 100 % PERFECT IN ANYTHING !!!!
That’s correct it’s just someone’s else’s opinion
Wa alaykumu s-salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh ustadh
Do you have a email, I want to ask a few questions and get some guidance
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!
Jewish women like Betty Friedan, Bella Abzug, Gloria Steinem and Letty Cottin started the feminist movement, that should tell you PLENTY about their agenda.
Well due to the programming. Not me though, Life is already difficult and I would prefer a good man any day.
Same. we sisters get good men who practice the deen. In sha Allah
Yes even I don't know why we love bad boys we need to know from where girls learned that from ? Our parents need to teach us how to choose the right spouse. what is true genuine love and how to stay away from useless men.
HAAA. Parents cannot do anything if the woman herself is stupid.
@ Muhammd Fathers abuse their daughters and daughters seek men like him
"Men lead women follow and submit"cant be applied only when it suits you.
It was the fathers responsibilty as a quwwam to lead his daughter.yes mother is responsible too.
But men were given the role of quwwam if they fail its their fault
Tru said...
if anyone else wants to learn more about this read the beta male revolution by alan roger currie
Brothers, the best book on masculinity is way of men by jack donovan.
Difference of opinion on the creation of eve. Some say she was made from a bent rib, others say she was created as a pair with adam from a single soul. Just putting it out there
Well she was created from adam as. Because Allah said in the Quran that He created for us spouses from ourselves.
One opinion is weak because we can’t find that in the Quran or in sunnah
Nah that actually is a christian thought, lillith. lol
@@unplugy0urself The hadith says women were made from a bent rib, not eve specifically but alluding to that. Also the Quran says that humans were created as a pair from a single soul. So Maybe both are true?? Maybe our souls are created from a single soul in pairs? And the female bodies are created from the male rib?? I guess thats why men have one less rib than women??
Eve was not never mentioned in the Quran. Just note that.
Alukum Salam
A redpill Muslim man here taking more notes
Red pills on what?
@precizion halal pill trumps all
@Counter Balance my brother that's true it's just a movement that was created to go against the unfortunate feminist empowerment movement that sadly alot of Muslim families follow
All you fellas in the comments know nothing about what being redpill means. 🤦🏻♂️ . Mgtow and redpill are not the same thing
@@abu-bakr9604 dw brother I know what you mean the guy talking about bida going too extreme
wait until end of video when it comes to like/ share. Subliminally youre saying u dont care about the quality of your content.
May ALLAH guide u brother
My own cousin married a bad boy and now she gets abused by him lol
I dont know why this made me laugh 😂😂😂
@@amarsiljevic236 nah thats okay
Essentially, nisaa don't know what they want.
Women know when a man beats his child but is too scared to kill a giant rat.
@@aliay2743 are you talking from personal experience? Such a man is a coward and an abuser and not a real man. But the default is that women are more emotionally volatile, making them not preferred as leaders and final decision-makers. Allah made and equipped the average man as the leader, not the woman. Sound decision-making is part of masculinity. A man who is failing in his duties is not masculine.
@precizion love , mercy and compassion are great tools to start with
It is the fault of men who failed their roles as quwwam..fathers have abuswd their daughters a used their wifes aand failed to guide them
Many muslim marriages are arranhed marriages where the father picks a husband for his daughter and she just agress to it.
Yes the woman is in the end responsible for what happened to her.but it was her father and her husband who failed.if her husband was a bad boy it was his fault for being a jerk and her fathers fault for not fulfilling his duty as quwwam.
Waaleikum salam warahmatullahy wabarakatuh
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Good girls liking bad boys. It reminds me of a song lyric from my jahilliya 'girls don't like boys, girls like cats and money '.
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MashaAllah, can you please make just a similar video on the the desirable characteristics of women?
He said four core characteristics are: deen, lineage, wealth and beauty. Choose deen because all the rest three are time dependent, that is they may not last for lifetime. Check out the channel for this video. Salams
@@EngineeringUnlockedAu umm, actually it's a hadith. I know deen is to be prioritized but I'm asking what other qualities are admired by alpha Male in a female like must she be athletic etc?
@@sanahdayo why? Do you want her to compete in Olympic? Athleticism is a masculine activity. However with that being said I am sure there no harm but only benefits for husband and wife when they work on their fitness and wellbeing. Jazakallah kheir
@@EngineeringUnlockedAu XD so no complex irrational demands? Pretty basic! BarakAllah feek.
@@sanahdayo alhamdulillah lets aim to keep it simple. Deen is the best route to a successful life.
Dont be a cat guys be a lion ..
NO MATTER WHATEVER THE SITUATION IS I WILL NEVER COMPARE ANY HUMANS TO THE OTHER ANIMALS BECAUSE ALLAH HAS GIVEN HUMANS THE RESPECT OF THE GREATEST OF ALL CREATURES , YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE , ALLAH'S THRONE IS THE GREATEST OF ALL CREATED THINGS BUT THE HUMANS ARE THE GREATEST OF ALL CREATURES !!!!
how can u blame or expect them to turn to islam when it has been weaponized and used out of place against them?
I stopped watching when he said that God placed Adam on earth to be "responsible" for women and others. What a huge slander against Allah. Every man and woman will be responsible for their own actions. Adam was placed in authority over his woman just as every man has been given authority over his wife. She has to obey him. This is what happens when you try to gain likes from women and say whatever they want to hear.. you end up having no shame and twisting Allahs words just to suit them. Authubillah.
Bro u got the wrong meaning of his words. He didnt mean responsible as in responsible for women's deeds. Rather responsible for taking care of them
I think you deliberately misunderstood the brother. You first stated a wrong understanding of what he said, then went on to say the correct interpretation of what he said. Your explanation of what is more correct, was exactly what I understood from "responsible for women". Not responsible for all women, he means responsible for your woman.
Inshallah
Imagine the ramifications of saying men are all dogs...I mean. What gender were the prophets and messengers...
Can we talk about Allah for once?
Daddy issues
I don’t think you fully understand why girls like such guys. Just like why in the last 10 years men like thick girls. It’s all the media and whatever you see- you get attracted to it. The media is something new and I don’t think you or anyone understands the media’s role. I will make a video Inshallah soon about it.
We do know, the so called bad guys are more like men than the other guys
@@onlyallahisworthyofworship5599 no they are not. U don’t understand as well. It’s a big picture that no one understands or understands a piece but can’t connect the dots. Peace
@@ImmiSuccess how do you know
@Shinjitsu how do you know? Stop making stuff up. The media is something the West created -mainly America. We don’t understand the impact of these gadgets at all because the government created them hiring the best scientists plus social engineers. So I am not joking when I say that. Also men does not like women who are dressed sexually. So it goes both ways. This guy is making an attempt and I respect that and he should be a wake up call for us who have the resources to do more research. Peace
@Aaliyah Powell well explained!
Promoting chad-chasing.
With ALL due respect Al Romaani, you totally missed the concept of WHAT "Bad Boyz" vs "Nice Boyz" means; If your point is that Men have lost their Sunnah to be leaders, then how do you explain Women preferring the "loser" "Bum" also known as Bad boyz over the responsible "Nice guy" ? Mr. Nice guy who is sensitive, pays the bills, and is responsible in the Islamic way. A leader is every way except maybe manly confidence. Your theory is illogical, if not well thought-through. I think there is an aspect of Sexuality that you are NOT touching upon. The idea that we- like men who are wild, sexually charged, and without any "Niceness" about them. In fact, we cannot stand Niceness in a man, That alone irradiates your theory about women missing the Sunnah of MAN- the leader & Provider. You could argue that the Bad Boyz factor is a Shaitaan allure for us, then at least your argument would have some merit.
Agreed. The bad boy tastes her first and the good guy has to "protect" her later
@@agxec2932 What? lol I reject your bad boy argument. lol
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Religion is a crutch. a BROKEN crutch. Stop embracing ignorance