He Raised His Baby Boomer Children Badly & Reveals What He Should Have Done
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2019
- The speaker is Steve Allen, actor, comic, writer, musician, creator of The Tonight Show and so much more. The dialogue with him was recorded in 1989. He was a prolific talent on radio, TV, composed thousands of songs, acted in movies, wrote books, was a well-known science skeptic, and the all-around good guy. He is a cofounder of the Tonight Show where he had as guests many of the most famous folks of his time including Elvis Presley and Jerry Lewis. His second marriage was to Jayne Meadows. He died in 2000 after being bumped by another car which broke three of his ribs and caused internal bleeding at 78 years old. I was fortunate to have interviewed him for my TV series on the 1960s. He knew the depression era and the 1950s and was uniquely articulate in presenting his point of view. Search his name on my CZcams channel to find other clips from his interview.
The American economy during the Baby Boomer upbringing in the 1950s and early 60s was characterized by a period of post-World War II economic expansion and prosperity. This era often referred to as the Golden Age of Capitalism was marked by high rates of economic growth, low unemployment, and a rising standard of living for many Americans.
One of the key factors driving this economic boom was the widespread investment in infrastructure and technology following World War II. The US government funded a range of large-scale projects, including the construction of highways and airports, the expansion of telecommunications and electricity networks, and the development of new industries such as aerospace and electronics.
This period was also marked by a significant expansion of the middle class, with many Baby Boomers growing up in households that enjoyed a comfortable standard of living. Increased access to education, along with rising wages and job security in many sectors, allowed more Americans to achieve financial stability and upward mobility.
But remember that Baby Boomers were not a monolithic group and there was a good deal of diversity within the generation in terms of race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, class, and other factors that influence their life experiences.
While some Baby Boomers enjoyed certain advantages and opportunities that were not available to previous generations, it is important to recognize that many boomers faced significant challenges and struggles including economic downturns, social unrest and political turmoil.
As my subscribers and others know, I have gotten a huge amount of comments on the issue of the baby boomers. Some commentators see the baby boomers as the generation that destroyed the planet, wrecked the economy, destroyed America, was the last generation and everything after it, caused by it, got worse. Baby boomers commenting often feel that they are incorrectly judged by millennials and were in fact just like any other generation although if you admit to having more money than most teens did before or have today. Others feel that the parental generation that raised the baby boomers spoiled them, babied them, made them think that life was easy. Others commented that in fact for them, growing up at this time, life wasn't easy at all with violent parents who were violent in the home and girls/women being constantly positioned to be submissive and all of the other parental behaviors that restricted children growing up at that time. Others feel that those restrictions are needed again in order to control young people/teenagers and even people in their early 20s.
Steve Allen had four children with his wife Jayne Meadows. His reputation at the time when his children were being raised was that he was a devoted father who was actively involved in his children's upbringing. In his book "Dumbth: The Lost Art of Thinking," Allen discussed his parenting philosophy emphasizing the importance of nurturing curiosity and creativity in his children. He believed that children should be encouraged to explore their interests and pursue their passions, rather than being forced to conform to strict rules and expectations. His approach to parenting was shaped by his own experiences growing up, as well as his personal values and beliefs about the importance of intellectual curiosity and creativity.
Steve Allen is considered brave by many commentators on my CZcams channel because he took responsibility for how badly he felt he had raised his children doing part to the time in which they lived and impart to his own time commitment to his career which often took precedence over his time spent with his family. That was true for a lot of working men at all income levels at that time.
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One thing I've noticed is that parents get so focused on providing their kids with the things that they lacked as children, that they often forget all the other things that matter.
I see that alot
Because in a way they’re doing it only to fill the emptiness and sadness in themselves for what they lacked, not doing it for the child at all.
Yes.
My parents taught us work, chores, discipline and structure. The teens - late 30's today know Jack diddly, nor do they care to. They don't know what a tool box is, or...what's in it. These are the same people that cry about the environment but fix nothing and just buy...
"a new one" smh
Hypocrisy and ignorance.
We're doomed and the lefty Democrats cheer for it.
@@coldroses5337 Agree except put REPUBLICANS IN
@@lovesallanimals9948 under 35 I see
Cheers 🍷
When a baby boomer tells you that you are lazy and entitled and were given everything you wanted despite doing nothing to earn it, they are projecting.
Yes. The greediest, most capitalistic man I have ever known in my life pretends that he came up hard and was self-made, when in reality he had a private school education from the age of five and inherited his father's business. He was born the year after the war ended. He never saw any real struggle. Oh, and he benefitted from free university education that existed here until the 1970s. He hates socialism, but he grew up on other people's money. He calls my generation lazy and entitled, but he grew up in a time of gebuine prosperity whereas we grew up during a financial crisis. Go figure.
Or you really are lazy and entitled And even worse than a typical boomer. Contrary to popular belief not all boomers were born with a silver spoon.
@@topherh5093And contrary to popular belief, not all millennials were born with a silver smartphone.
@@topherh5093 thanks for proving him right!
@@roastingpotato Wrong. He proved himself wrong.
This man is one of the only people I've ever heard speak frankly on the effects of desperation. Most people deny they ever begged.
@CZcams Purchases how are things these days, friend?
@CZcams Purchases I'm wishing you the best of luck with your re-education! I'm sure you'll do great. You've done a lot of work to get where you are, and you deserve success!
@CZcams Purchases How old are you? And do you realize programming is a very hard field to learn and break into?
@@skyhappy This comment could be deleted
@CZcams Purchases I'm glad you're doing well man, that kinda life takes its toll and equally takes as much effort to counter. Respect to you
My Mexican American grandmother once told me how during the depression sometimes white men would come into the farm camps looking for work or money. Her family was poor af but they always offered a tortilla and sometimes beans if they had any and those men were so grateful. It's nice to know it wasn't just my family but a wider cultural thing.
I'm so happy for her generosity!❤️
Grandma told me the same. Used to give tortillas, beans, and water to families who had just crossed the border.
Kindness begets kindness. This bloke hasn't forgotten about that happenihg and probably never will
who knows, maybe it was your family who gave him the bean tortilla.
I wish European Americans will nationally acknowledge this fact, instead of their continuous degradation of Mexican Americans.
Strange to hear an adult take responsibility for the role they play in the development on a child, or lack thereof.
Truly!!! Like, wtf?! Why can't they? I raised a kid. Every now and again, my son and i have these conversations. I open up the conversation for him to express any criticisms or let me know if there's anything that has negatively impacted him from his childhood. I will often recognize something that I feel dissatisfied with in my parenting and bring it up to him to let him know that I recognize it and that I hope he will have the ability to do it differently when he decides to have children. We often talked about how one should function in relationships and raise kids. But oftentimes my perspective is fraught with my own mistakes in the hopes that he can learn from them. And so that I can take responsibility for areas where I may have failed him and together we can work through those if need be, releasing any guilt and resentment.
Erin Edney Just plain Wow!
@@barefooterin2817 i feel you a 100! I do the same thing with my sons that are 22 and 19. Open communication, love, trust and empathy are key and i applaud you!! Well done!
@@flamingsword777 back atcha!!! I always think back to what my sister said which was that all she ever wanted was for my mom to acknowledge how she fucked up and they could have had a much better relationship down the line. So if my son ever comes to me with a criticism or complained about his childhood, I want to be able to acknowledge it and try not to be defensive.
@@barefooterin2817 giiiirl, AMEN!! That's crazy what you said about your older sister cause mine did too! For me, i was usually the main kid on the receiving end and I SWORE i would NOT allow my kids to go through what i went through. My sister, God bless her, was able to cut ties easily with my mom... I haven't been as lucky. But, yes ma'am, i get you completely because the LAST thing i want to do is hurt the very ones i love.... And i have, amd that's why my sons and i talk openly about it. They are VERY aware of what i went through because my siblings confirm it all the time, lol. Sweet Erin, God BLESS you and your precious babies too! I think you are doing a FANTASTIC job with them and that's what EXCELLENT mothers do..... 👏👏👏👏👏💯✔👌
I LOVE how he acknowledged his own shortcomings as a parent. That’s called true self awareness that many mothers and fathers should have, instead creating a sense of entitlement or shut down their children’s feelings because it reminds them how imperfect they are.
Thank you, Alice M, for articulating what I have noticed often and continue to see.
This so much
Mainly he acknowledged the differences growing up in different times. His kids still love him, probably because it won't pay to piss off the rich dad. And that is a burden itself. You can't afford not to think about it, but you aren't in an honest relationship. He screwed his kids up because they could never behave honestly with him. See, no mater what there is always a possible problem if you go looking for it. Don't look for problems if they are just in the normal range.
@@LarryLonson Thanks for assuming since you do not know me or my life story. I am a parent and did not know only childless people share their grievances about the way they were parented. Just because I'm a mother does not mean I only see one side of things. It's call being fair.
@@LarryLonson Well, lets break down your comment about having no kids. Your comment implies I am childless, right? What do you mean people like you need to self reflect? I answered back the way you worded your initial reply. It seems to me you thought I have no kids and your comment reflected that. You don’t don’t see it? 😄
LOVE this guy
He gave himself empathy while giving his sons empathy and remaining fully accountable for his mistakes with no excuses. This, is a good human being. The reason his first three sons love him is because regardless of his shortcomings as a parent, he clearly sees his sons as human, and cares enough to change once he knows better ❤ they know their father is a good person
i loved this Steve Allen vid and respected him greatly for it. I also loved your comment. Very Clear and accurate I believe. I am a big believer in empathy and compassion while also fully owning up to all you did or didn't do. Empathy, responsibility, compassion and forgiveness taken together are a very effective toolset for being a human!
He was brilliant! I read his life story and he was just an exceptional human. ❤
This reminds me of my Grandmother and a story about the depression. Her brother said he was approached by a man looking for work or anything as he was desperate and hungry. Her brother told him he had nothing to spare or pay him. The man said he would work for food and somewhere to sleep. So he came home with him and did some outdoor repairs and paint jobs over a week or so. When he left, her brother gave him a few dollars and he went on his way.
Fifteen years later a big car pulled up outside the house and a well dressed man got out and shook his hand and handed him some money saying that since he got that few dollars he never went without money again and wished to thank him for his humanity.
"We were so poor... when the stock market crashed, we never noticed."
We were so poor my mom sent us out trick or treating and we ate candy for 3 days.
I remember seeing Art Linkletter ( for those who remember who he was ) at a church in the 70s and remember him saying about the depression “ suddenly everyone was just like us ( poor ) “
We were so poor that a neighbor kid once complained that there were four kids sleeping in each bed at his house, I replied, “you have beds?!?“
@@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers best comment yet!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When I was a kid, we lived in the country (1960's-1970's) I remember one summer a 30ish aged black man stopped and knocked on the front door. He said he was on foot, unemployed and hungry. Dad was at work & mom with us kids alone. She said, wait on the front porch and I'll get you something. She closed and locked the door & instructed me (an 8 year old) to keep an eye on him. She made a fried egg sandwich, with some potato salad, and a big glass of milk, and took this out to him. She returned inside and I watched him as instructed. He ate his food. I felt so sad for him as you could see the sadness of his situation. He left the empty plate and glass on the porch and moved on. Mom was kind, and prudent. She said during the depression her mother always did this for folks who stopped at the house needing food. Egg sandwich, a big glass of milk and the side available was always offered with kindness & compassion. I hope that man found his way in life. We each help in whatever way was possible. Mom was prudent in having me watch, but I was curious too, along with a lesson in compassion.
... dang, I want an egg sandwich now.
Your mom was awesome, and so was her mom. Honestly, I could stand to give more to others. I'm glad I read your story, and I'm glad I've started thinking about this more.
What a beautiful gesture. She very well could have saved that man’s life. I
@Joe Blow lol who the hell own a Smith and Wesson anymore? How about an H&K?
@@WhistleAndSnap seed planted. Keep it watered.
Fun fact: in the Colonial Period - if you were traveling and couldn’t get to town by nightfall it was perfectly acceptable and normal to drop by a random house and ask to be put up for the night. This was especially common in the frontier areas like Ohio and Western PA.
I have no clue why but hearing this dude having to eat garbage in order to survive got me emotional. This dude is calling out all the things that we're having problems with right now. God bless this man.
Telling your children you love them and giving them "occasional hugs" is much more than I got from my father growing up ... I think this dad did just fine.
Yeah that's how I was raised.
That just means your dad was worse, not that this guy here was good
Congrats on missing the entire point of the video.
@@l-_olvlo_-l Congrats on being unnecessarily scathing and sarcastic.
@@l-_olvlo_-l the point of the video isn't that you shouldn't say "I love you" to and hug your kids, the point was that you need to do MORE then just that
Silent Generation: "I wanted my kids to have what I never had - food and shelter."
Baby Boomers: "I wanted my kids to have what I never had - toys and trophies!"
Gen X and beyond: "I wanted my kids to have what I never had: a father."
Millenials: "I want my kids to have what my parents and grandparents had: job security and retirement "
@cubomania3 left them out because we cant even give our children anything, because we are too poor.
So true!
@cubomania3 you must have missed the, "beyond" part.
Or one that was actually a man.
Fathers take notice..."It will never matter how big your house is or what kind of car you drive, how much money you make or how popular you are. What matters is the difference you make in a childs life"
Also a simplified way of looking at child rearing...part of living in American culture is aspiration, and dealing with the force of "what I could be/who I could be"...a father who doesn't have some level of transcendence of their original socio-economic status built into their identity, will raise kids who take for granted their socio-economic position, and don't have the desire to also transcend either fiscally or personally...
Boom
And I don’t think he was suggesting to be a “stay-at-home” dad.
Life is never that simple, and it's not a matter of either or. How much money you have does matter. It's more about balance.
What's even sadder is when your father has neither money nor value over making a difference in a child's life. Why have kids if you're not even going to leave them with an inheritance after giving them a crappy childhood :/
Man is well spoken, intelligent and holds himself to solid morals and character for the betterment of those around him. Reminds me of my grandfather
He’s a tv personality. Famous but not to our current generation.
@@slipjones2He was famous to me. Loved him and his wife-- Steve was real as was his actress wife.
I think the reason he continued to have a good relationship with his kids and that they said so many complimentary things about him despite all he says about his failings as a parent is precisely _because_ he was able and _willing_ to be self-aware about his performance as a father, acknowledge his faults, articulate regrets and demonstrate a level of growth and open-mindedness that a lot of other parents of his generation would simply have kept to themselves, misguidedly thinking that they need to project a degree of strength and unwaveringness in order to succeed in "raising their children right."
Are you sure this guy is a celebrity, he has sane and rational views.
He's an old school celebrity - aka a real human Haha! Sure there were some dbag celebrities back then (men and women), but it wasn't the norm.
Let me guess. Anything u don't agree with isn't "sane"
It’s Steve Allen, a great comic in the 50’s 60’s
@HearthCricket Steve Allen WAS a celebrity in his time. He was a presence on television including the TONIGHT SHOW before Johnny Carson. He was a Game Show host and panel participant on shows such as I'VE GOT A SECRET. He was a composer, his most famous song being "This Could Be the Start of Something Big," made famous by Steve Lawrence and Eddie Gormet. It was also his theme song.
Ray Pointer I always thought of him as a satirist as well. Like an urban Will Rogers.
I met a really down-to-earth Boomer recently who was talking to me about how he feels like he's surrounded by a generation that secretly hates themselves and can't accept what they are, that most of them didn't actually earn things for themselves they just tell themselves they did. They feel really jaded towards younger Generations despite the fact that they were the ones who raised the younger Generations.
@@thatamerican3187 lol that's an insult of yourself. That's pretty much saying your generation failed to raise their own children.
@@thatamerican3187 So in other words the boomers do in fact suck.
You guys are acting as if either generation were but products. But we aren’t. We’re all unique individuals with different personalities and morals. It doesn’t matter if some people of a certain generation are bad, just live your fricking life, respect elders and may the elders respect us.
@@thatamerican3187 Yeah, you fought tooth and nail in a society and economy that gave out out of highschool jobs like candy. Where a house costed as much as a modern day car and shit costed cents. Your parents suffered real struggles, and your kids where spoiled to believe they would enjoy the same things as you. You elected the worse politicians and voted for the worst laws. Every politic, social turmoil and reactions are a product of your descicions and upbringings.
@@thatamerican3187 all you did was suck up the worlds resources and put bigots in charge (because you are in fact also a bigot) then whine about the fact that gen z calls out your bad behavior and the shit world we live in.
Let’s face it, it’s a mixed bag. My sister and brother-in-law were very rebellious hippie-era teens and when they finally started a family in the mid-80s were two of the best parents I’ve ever met. Frugal, non-materialistic yet very well read and super-fun and adventurous to spend time with. Very supportive of their kids but never “hovering” or “helicoptering”. It helped that they truly loved each other.
Interestingly, my father who was born in NYC in 1918 and grew up in the Bronx actually had a very happy and rich childhood. I’ve read some family diaries and they had quite a decent middle-class life in the 1920s. He and his brother were fairly “free range” yet their manager-mother did a great job making sure all 4 brothers to knew how keep house and cook so she actually had a fairly rich life as a volunteer outside the home. She was a professional secretary before marrying in her late 20s and actually had to take cooking lessons before marriage…in 1908…LOL!
By the 1930s Great Depression things really tightened up. Many middle-class people got into the stock market in the 1920s…just as many got into “real estate investing” in the early 2000s. I believe my grandparents DID lose some but not all assets in 1928 but still managed to get by. All 4 brothers attended FREE college at CCNY.
Love Steve Allen BTW.
the rebellious hippie era teens are the reason society is totally fucked. Thank them for being such cunts from the rest of us.
It's so scary how what he says applies still to today's youth. Exceptionally trained kids on pretty much anything except parenthood and being a great partner. Literally people find the smallest issue in their marriage / relationship and use it as excuse to behave poorly or unfaithfully.
The great Steve Allen. A phenomenal talent and exceptional human being.
Seeing as I'm about to face a second divorce and have always reflected that my ability to approach women is pathetic at best. That part of what he said hit home hard.
I can work on my.car, I can fix equipment and my mind can analyze mechanical things to see how they should work to find why they aren't. Being prior military I can tear down an m4 rifle, reassemble it and hit my mark.
But for all that, I struggle with women. And slowly I fear I'm not doing so hot as a dad to my only kid. Unfortunately all I got from watching my.dad was work work work work.
People have gotten weaker mentally. For all the issues the old generations had it was clear that if something needed to be done they'd step up and do it, seems from the 70s on People became extremely passive and apathetic to everything.
@@wakcedout it sounds like you're someone who doesn't like change and isn't willing to compromise. A successful relationship takes sacrifice and if you're not that willing to change for someone you're gonna get divorced over and over again.
I see many couples and parents in their 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s around me working hard to make their marriages and families happy. They work with therapists or other counselors and set up date nights and family activities. If divorce is necessary - which it can be better for everyone - they focus on their children and work to make the children’s lives as little disrupted as possible.
I myself have read so many books on parenting and communicate well with my spouse and our children - none of which hates me because if I make a mistake I humbly acknowledge and try to correct it.
I am a Gen-Xer. My Boomer parents are narcissistic and childish, and I did largely raise myself emotionally and, to a lesser but significant extent, materially. I am very frustrated with them, but they refuse to deal with anything even remotely difficult.
The real eye-opener was when their own parents aged and died. They couldn’t handle seeing their parents decline and largely stayed away throughout the last decade or so of my grandparents’ lives. I was flabbergasted. My Boomer parents are pathologically immature, and they fight hard to stay that way.
My mom remarried when I was 15, and I always thought of her and her husband as 'unusually happy.' Truth is, the people I grew up around were so dysfunctional that it distorted my view of marriage. It wasn't until I got married myself to a one-in-a-million woman and saw her family that I realized that marriage was supposed to be: warm, content. I got lucky. Dodged the bullet.
Wasn't wilde gay/bi?
@outsideliesmagic "sexuality spectrum" "conventions" "social rules"
Lolol
You think you're enlightened but you're a brainwashed fool. You've slurped up that poison like a good little piggy.
Oscar was a slave to his impulses and his pleasure seeking.
outsideliesmagic God forbid someone actually makes their own decisions and decides to go into a happy marriage instead of following every move an idol makes. Seriously what was your logic here? The dude can lead his own life and still like someone despite having different values and opinions.
outsideliesmagic ok elitist weirdo
outsideliesmagic I didn’t know Oscar Wilde was god now and there is no way we could experience something different than what he can perceive. Oh wait he was a human, just like us. Humans are the most free species of all and yet we don’t know it. We love getting strapped down by rules, rules and more rules instead of freely pursuing whatever we want, even if it goes against some idol’s opinions.
He did the best he could. The ironic thing is that some of the worst men I have ever known, the worst husbands and fathers, were men who actually had excellent fathers. They had no excuse.
George Wickham vibes
My father 100%. The laziest, most abusive, deadbeat, alcoholic, sociopathic and narcisstic arsehole who received everything he ever go from his own parents to later spit on their name by proclaiming no one ever gave him or helped him in anyway and everything he had was from his own hard work. I've gone 6 years with no contact and will actively celebrate his passing from his excess of smoking, drinking and sleeping all day. Fuck his abusive arse, my vitriol his abuse and neglect is sky high.
they get spoiled. it sounds “I’m 14 and this is deep”-ish, but every empathetic person hated their parents strict policies to some degree
I'm afraid if the seed is rotten, its fruit will be too, even if the soil is fertile.
some people are just bad apples. it is what it is.
I was blessed with a stable two-parent household where my Dad modeled how to be a man and a husband. Not everyone has that and I am grateful for it. I have been married to the same woman for decades and it's not to my credit but to the credit of both my parents for showing me how.
Steve Allen and Jane Meadows were amazing people. Talented, kind and accountable.
I like that part with the Mexican Americans, when you come from a culture of poverty you become more sympathetic to those going through similar struggles
Yes! 👏
@JONES 80% of the homeless are mentally ill. The mexican americans he spoke of were simply poor.
I grew up in San Antonio and I 100% admire Mexicans on the whole. Absolutely the kindest and most welcoming people. I live in WA now and there are a lot less Hispanic people here of course but when I worked for Dish Network I knew I was in for a good day when my jobs were in Hispanic neighborhoods. Being able to speak Spanish helps of course. I've also dated mostly Mexicans too.
So why weren't the anglos who at the time also came from a culture of poverty as kind and willing to help out a fellow human being? A fellow white man?
I love this post, it really shows the ignorance of the average and privileged *american*.
"Culture of poverty" btw
@@TimSlee1 Not necessarily. I actually read in studs terkel book that in those days it was really looked down upon to be poor, especially as a white person because they were obviously more racist then and believed that they should always be in a position above the negro or mexican-american of that time. For example in good times for the white man his wife expected him to bring home steak, then the depression came and suddenly the whites were as poor as the minorities, and many divorces occured because white women simply weren't having it, they straight up expected for from themselves regardless of the situation. Where as the black man was indifferent to the depression almost because he had always brought home the beans and greens and his black wife accepted that as usual. But honestly your right if 2 white families knew they were both struggling badly they'd sympathize, but thats the thing they'd never people know that they were struggling tho, it was just looked at as failure on the part of the man. White's probably would avoid speaking of the subject amongst themselves because it was humiliating but the minorities kind of just held a hand out like hey, welcome to the club! we'll try to help if we can!
Edit: Holy shit, i just got to the part where he pointed this out, see? his fellow white men looked down upon him for being a failure of a man. just how society was then man.
Only good fathers when they look back feel they could have done better
Steve H , some crappy ones do too.
The same can be said for good mothers.
Word.
YOURE MISSING THE POINT IF YOU STILL PRAISE HIM
Well not all....
My dad was born in 1957. He was the kindest, most helpful, most loving human being I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. Before I was born, my mom had divorced an abusive man and moved out on her own with 2 kids. Their father was not involved. My father met my mom, fell in love, raised my brother and sister and eventually me. We were all devastated when he passed 6 months ago at the age of 64 from lung/bone cancer. From the stories I heard, it wasn’t 3 months after he met my mom that he was taking care of my siblings for entire days on end and with pleasure. Some people are just born to be amazing parents. My dad was one of them
Mine too. My condolences over your daddy but I hope you are as him!
@@IMeMineWho thanks so much I hope so
I’m in my early 20’s and a lot of my peers are starting families. It seems to me that a lot of the people who would make great parents are choosing not to have kids (often because they think they would be bad parents) and the people who absolutely should NOT be having kids, are.
I’ve noticed this too. I’m 23 and very concerned about this trend. I’ve realized that if I want to succeed in what is truly important in life I have to prioritize being a great husband and an even better father, above all else. I focus today on being as healthy and educated as I possibly can and I’ll inform anyone I enter into a relationship with that those are my highest priorities In life and nothing will come in my way.
I mean look at the state of the world. The best move a parent could make is to not bring a child into this world where they will most certainly struggle and suffer more than we ever will.
@@RetroRadianceLight I understand why It feels that way and I felt that way too, when I was 13-17. But, If you really feel that way you might as well just put a bullet in your brain right now. because nothing ever gets better, right?.. I thought that way too. That's what you're saying when you say "they will most certainly struggle and suffer more than we ever will", that things wont get better.
But the REALITY is that things CAN get better. As long as you are trying whatever it takes to make things better. In reality, despite all the inequality and injustice in this world, you can succeed IF you do what it takes, and you can be happy with much less than success, IF you know how. And some of us know that either one of those outcomes depend on how you were raised to see the world, they depend on excellent parenting, basic needs, discipline, exposure, networking, you name it.
This is the best time in history, despite all its flaws, we have more opportunity then ever before and you don't have to me the strongest, smartest, or bravest guy in the tribe to be one of the few who succeed. You have 1000's of potential paths but you have to be willing to suffer and scrap, maybe even kill for it. Not much different than our ancestors. You only get one life, use it how you want to.
And things can only get better if you try to make them better, the best way to do that is raise a better generations than ourselves.
Man they should make a movie about that concept…oh wait
I suspect it always has been like this, and always will be. I think this is why there are so many societies (including and especially in the US) that pressure kids into marrying and having kids at such a young age. They are taught a narrative that the perfect life requires kids and a marriage, with little explanation about how to have a good relationship, nor time allowed to gain experience. This narrative seems to perpetuate itself. It's very cult-like.
"your children are not yours , you may house their bodies but not their souls" ~ Kahlil Gibran
Biblical.
Amazing quote
@Eden Dalls It's not, nor would you expect it to be. Like you wouldn't expect everything Dickensian to be written by Charles Dickens
@Eden Dalls Psalm 127:3-5 “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!”
THANK YOU!!!!! I agree 💯
Dude is spitting wisdom like there's no tomorrow.
Steve Allen was great at that.
@Kevin Prima you're a complete idiot. Americans who support Trump and Conservative values sound just like Mr. Allen. We're not out there advocating handouts for sleeping till noon or seeking the nearest "safe space" either. We believe in America as it was founded and Constitution as it was written.
That all probably sounds very strange to someone like you, who can't decide if they are a boy or a girl.
Us older people do that from time to time.
@@painkillerjones6232 us do?
@@jamesmcinnis208 Most of us.
I went to high school with Steve Jr, and he turned out pretty good. My dad had a very similar history,and turned out well. I don’t fault anyone for bad luck in their life!!!
This man was ahead of his time. Mad respect.
The best gift you can ever give to your children is to love and respect your spouse.
Or you house!
It works when she loves you and respect you back.
Absolutely. As parents we are the blue print for what our children will become.
@@gort4166 *and
Yes, I’m so thankful I was able to have that growing up. Best kind of parents.
This is so accurate of my boomer parents who were children of the "Greatest Generation". My maternal grandfather was such a great man and fought in WW2 but he was EXTREMELY serious and stern. My mother said that was hard as a child because he wasn't very affectionate with any of the children. My Grandmother really dealt bad in the Depression and was even sent away from her family to unknown extended family far away in our country because her parents couldn't afford to take care of her anymore. This resulted in my grandmother skimping and saving her whole life even when she didn't have to anymore. Being poor at a young age had serious life long effects for her. Fighting in WW2 had long term psychological effects on my Grandpa.
Everyone who lived through the Great Depression was traumatized by scarcity and saved things for the rest of their lives.
@CZcams Purchases I worry and obsess about money even though I’m now financially independent. Today’s generation would have been well-served spending time with our grandparents. They’re very soft and think showing off status items on social media is a worthwhile pastime.
This guy is bright as hell. Love hearing him speak.
Steve Allen was a class act. Never knew his backstory. Grateful that he shared it with us.
That fact that this man is owning his past mistakes is great. Most people live their whole lives and don't know how to do that. Much respect
Most people??? Are you sure?
@@charlethemagne5466 oh no :( My theory may be correct after all. An overwhelming percentage of the new generations have high-functioning autism without even knowing it.
@@burningmagyk4986 explain yourself.
@@someonegaming7710 One of the main symptoms of autism is having difficulty perceiving oneself in 3rd-person. This makes autists more susceptible to being ignorant of their own faults even if they are able to recognize those same faults in other people.
@@burningmagyk4986 but why the new generations?
I live on the Navajo reservation and am Navajo. I remember asking some of my grandparents what living through the Great Depression was like. I was told that they did not even know a Great Depression was happening because a lot of Navajo families at that time were already living in third world conditions. It was something that was just normal to them. Heck even now there are still many Navajo families that still live without any running water or electricity. It’s very saddening.
Edit: Holy cow I did not expect this comment to get this many likes! It really warms my heart to see how many people are interested in the Rez. Ahehee’ (Thank you!)
With the name, either Native American or Indigenous people is what I know to be good.
Also for those who are curious about the current events on the Navajo Reservation. The Navajo Times and The Gallup Independent are both great news articles to read.
@grungeandsleepy According to whom? There are many tribes that do not like being called "natives" and prefer the American Indian title. If possible it's better to use the specific tribe name if referring to one specifically, but there is no universal label that is the clear superior choice when referring to the collective group of people living in the Americas before Europeans moved over. Especially considering that everyone who was already here is now dead, and everyone born in America is a native American regardless of ethnicity or tribal association.
May still? Most reservations are terribly poor and often without basic necessities like electricity and running water. Or part of the reservation will have it but part won't.
so fucking sad. I want to become a teacher and go to reservations and impoverished communities
Yes this story is true for many black and poor ppl at that time too. Understand, privilege is a privilege. Be thankful if you have it and do good with it towards others.
grungeandsleepy I'm sorry but I have seen many ppl like to call themselves American Indians. Even on Google the official term referred to them has become American Indian, as it has been advocated for more. Where did you get the idea that it's offensive? O.o
This sounds nostalgic. I am 60 years old. Yet, It was horrific growing up in Brooklyn, NY, as the 5th child of 5 children. Women stayed married to abusive husbands, because they were told to do so by most family members and thd church. As crazy as the world is now, it is still better for women. More education for women, and being able to divorce without guilt.
Oh, people put a good front up long ago; but family life was usually not as good as it looked on the outside.
Yes, kids might be spoiled in some ways...but the past had other issues.
The worse things now is the pollution, corporate greed, more dishonest politicians, houses skyrocketing. No wonder the young feel lost, straddled with student debt and working hard, but not getting ahead as we did so more easily and with less.
I really like and appreciate what you said! Thank you for the perspective 🙏🏻
“Every generation imagines itself to be more intelligent than the one that went before it, and wiser than the one that comes after it.” - George Orwell
As a millennial child all I wanted was for my parents to take me to the park, they never had time. what I got was a shit load of presents at Christmas, I remember asking my mum if we could go for a walk on Christmas day and make it a tradition. She said she didn't have time, the meal was more important and I was ungrateful because she'd given me every present and I still wasn't happy. She just couldn't see that time with her was more precious to me than toys.
Yeah. I never had the lavish Christmas presents or anything, but my family, mom especially, never had time to spend with me. Now we don't talk but once a year or so
Your mom sounds very superficial. She had the time to buy you presents but "no time" to, god forbid, spend time with you.
It sucks man
Bad parents give thier children presents to buy thier love.
(speaking from my experience)
It's really weird when from 0-18 you're like a pet, just hoping to have a good time, expecting dome appreciation for your presence and nobody paying you the attention you need and when you're 18+ is like suddenly you're a human and now your parents want some time together... It honestly feels artificial, forced, like why wait so long to express any sort of appreciation??
But whatever, it makes me feel more empathy towards my pets, they just want to be loved...
Real Talk.
You'd think this was recorded in 2019 it's so relevant.
It's going to be like this for a long while unless we can educate people and show people and kids self sacrifice and compassion
Educating people on any of the virtues would surely help. It seems people these days have forgotten them the way people have been acting.
@@th3graveofwrath354 Yeah! It's you and me against the world if you think about it
@Vaping Fury Yeah/ Sad but true.
@@th3graveofwrath354 No, you Mor-on! There's plenty of people who think the same way as you
What I find interesting is that this man is questioning his parenting, yet he did give security and love to his children. I find that people who gave nothing are often the ones who will then pat themselves on the back for how well the children have turned out
God this was so refreshing👍 Most of my life I was put down by my boomer Aunt and my dad never showed up, good to see a man with integrity who owns his mistakes, thank you for your humbleness sir.
Even as a child I found Steve Allen's intelligence, wisdom and warmth appealing
Same! Very much so.
Same here. My friends hated him because he was anti-rock and roll and satirized it on his various shows over the decades.
@@Bigbadwhitecracker I guess we know who the intelligent one was among you and your friends.
@@Bigbadwhitecracker Steve Allen was the original host of the Tonight show until 1957
He did a great interview with Frank Zappa, I know it's on CZcams and it should be easy to find
@@richiejohnson Frank played a bicycle!
How many celebrities now have this kind of depth and wisdom? He had excellent character.
hard sometimes to be honest with yourself-
alot of em. alot of celebs get where they are thru amazing feats of self discipline etc
None
A lot of them do. The media loves to write them off, but they're people with feelings, especially the young ones
His guest appearance on The Firing Line shows the depth of his Intelligence.
He tackles the subject of Capital Punishment. Steve was a genius
So honest and articulate, Steve Allen was immensely talented and prolific. I remember his great TV series, Meeting of Minds. I would love to see some of those shows again!
I always had high regard for Steve Allen,Evan when I was a child. A great example of a man. God bless his soul.
One day my husband and I realized we had no change to take the bus ride back to our house. We literally had to stand outside and beg people for a change! It was the most humiliating moment of my life… And what’s worse is… Not a single person helped us. I just got nasty looks from people. Like dude… I’m just asking you for a quarter… I am just a young woman… I don’t look like I’m on drugs or anything. Little did these people know that I was just an average person who worked a full-time job… I just happened to be very unlucky that day. It was a very disgusting and shocking look at society.
One of the problems I see is that there are a lot of con artists out there who panhandle and dupe a lot of people. I was duped three times by three different people. One was a lady who said she was desperate and just needed a couple small things from the grocery store. She saw me for the sucker I was and ended up walking out of there with more than $50 worth of groceries. The next week I saw her out there doing the same thing to other people.The next guy pulled on my heart strings telling me that him and his family were living in an extended stay hotel because they were down on their luck and he just needed so much money for one more week at the place. He said he had young kids and they would be out on the street. He just needed $80 more dollars and asked if I could give anything at all. I gave that man $80. Sure enough I watch him leave and a few minutes later he’s talking to someone else giving them the same story. Lastly, there was a woman downtown. I worked at the bank at the time and was sitting out in my car waiting for the time to go in to start work. This lady walks up to my car and asks me if I can spare any change because she was trying to make enough money to pay her electric bill. I told her I didn’t have any cash on me and she begged me for even the smallest amount of change. I told her that when the bank opens, I’ll withdraw some money and give it her. I told her to come back in about 15 mins. When she came back, she had a to go box filled with chicken and she was eating it as she walked in the bank. She looked different. She didn’t look as desperate. I’m fact she’s looked like she had just gotten away with something. I don’t like conflict so I just gave her $10. She seemed mostly satisfied and left. Since then I honestly don’t trust anyone enough to give them money even if it just a quarter. I’m not denying that there are people who truly need it, it’s just hard to differentiate between who really does and who is trying to dupe you.
I hope you learn from this and give a nickel to everyone you ever see asking for it.
The Bible says you never know when you're in the presence of an angel. I would have given you the money.
I would have given you some money.
I was filling my car once when I saw a guy talking to different customers and he finally came to me. Said he had a job waiting in Dallas ( about 300 miles away) and hadn't enough money to buy gas could I help him. I told him to pull his car up and I'd fill his car on my card. He left without saying a word and drove off. He just wanted cash for whatever, not gas to get to a job. This is why if you claim to be hungry I'll buy you some food, but never give you cash money.
This is refreshing to see a parent take responsibility for his children and his choices. I agree with everything he said
Yes if the children is a kid. And no if is an adult
Sometimes divorce is the healthiest thing though - such as cases of domestic violence, child molestation, spousal rape, untreated substance abuse, etc. “Staying married” isn’t always the best option.
@@calisongbird why do people like you always go to the worst events on earth. A majority of divorces is simply bc the two people no longer want to be married, divorce is to simple
@@stenbak88 getting a divorced because you dont want to be in a relationship anymore is more than enough of a reason. Nothing good will come from an forced marriage
Steve Allen, what a genius. Smart, creative, funny, self-deprecating. I remember watching him as a kid on TV. He was unique.
Damn. I was expecting a more judgemental, or acerbic point of view towards younger generations, and how "easy" they have it.
Instead, this was very self-reflective, and he had a worldly sense of the circumstances that molded his generation. Plus, his want for his own children to have better than what he did, was heart-warming.
Setting a healthy precedent for understanding seems so rare for most people nowadays, but it's good to know such level-headed baby boomers may still be around. Then too, must there also be among my own generation.
I'm poor myself, but I can't help but give if I see someone genuinely hungry and not well. It breaks my heart. Mexicans are some of the most hospitable and kind people I've ever met.
I work at a hospital calling patients. The most courteous people I speak with are Hispanic
@Triple Crown I wish it were that simple. It doesn't matter how much you save up if you don't get much from the start, and one unfortunate thing could cost me $500 to repair a car, or a vet, or whatever.
When I was taking an American Sign Language class my deaf professor expressed the same thing. He said after being largely ignored and treated poorly by hearing people, the best experiences he had would be with Hispanics. And he gestured his love for them by aggressively kissing the back of his hand haha.
@Triple Crown there are people who envoy the same free healthcare and are disrespectful and ungrateful. And most of those ungrateful people aren't Latinos.
@@rhondablack8079 I'm very happy you had a good experience with Hispanic. Greetings from Bolivia.
My grandmother and grandfather lived in AZ and were the one that gave him the bean burritos. When Steve Allen came out on tv commercials. She remembered him and told us about him. My grandmother would say never deprive the hunger of food. My Nana was the best, she passed away 1964 when I was 9. She would comb my hair and tell me the best stories, true stories. I wished I would of had more time with her. Cherish the time you have with grandparents.
Awe 😢 Wonderful Nana 💜
Thanks for sharing the memory. That’s a great post. We have 5 kids and 13 grands and they all love us-and we are Boomers. I had no idea there was such hate for us out there. Gosh! Our kids and grands seem to think we are great. I hope they don’t find out we are horrible Boomers.
@@bethelshiloh I'm a boomer and can't believe the pure hatred coming at me. We grew up poor and made our own way in life.
@@KathRyan it's like the young'uns hold your whole generation responsible for something the boomer elites did.
This generational divide is really stupid.
We can try to understand each other trough videos like this.
But I think some of millenials have parents that doesn't understand what they struggle with today on the job market in the US.
I'm just assuming from what I understand of the working conditions in the US.
@@loadingmikke7451 the millennial bunch are possibly the next lot to face a massive depression....circles of life
This man is so eloquent and reflective. He may have had his flaws, as anyone does, but at least he is aware of it.
I've always loved Steve Allen. I remember watching him as a kid.
What was most interesting to me was how he identified 1955 as the year when the family began to fall apart. In 2021, it seems that some people now look at that same year as some sort of "golden age of the family".
That said, I appreciated the candor and humility of Mr. Allen's comments, along with how he so vividly recalled his stark hunger during the Great Depression. It was a most engaging interview.
Both groups are right. 1955 was the beginning of the collapse of the family, but also, the last time when the family was universally seen as important.
Most people see that as the golden age because it was the most important time, and yet our greatest mistake as a society.
Born in 1952 I believe the 50s and early 60s were wonderful times. Today is crap by comparison mainly because the gov has grown so large that we really aren't free any more. From 1950 until now taxes have increased 19 times the 1950 level. We work until July every year just to pay our taxes to fed, state , county & city. Then they give it away to foreign nations that hate us and the people here that produce nothing but more gov dependants.
@@johnchandler1687 Gotta be white
@@johnchandler1687 unless you were black, gay or an (unmarried) female I'm sure it was great
You guys are talking "social justice" crap. The subject was economics. Everyone that wanted a job back then had one. Now they just whine about how the system's against them and want a gov check. That's my money, taken by force, by the unconstitutional gov we now have.
Being poor teaches you so much. Honestly, if everyone was poor for 1 year I think the world would be a much better place.
I hope you are right but I fear you are wrong. Poverty seldom improves one.
I don’t think a year would be enough time to really appreciate what you have. We grew up poor,hardly ever had any meat. Couldn’t afford it. Had chicken on Sunday from grandma’s farm. No new clothes( hand me downs). I didn’t and don’t waste money.I didn’t grow up in the depression,I’m a boomer.
You're probably right. I don't think there's any probably to it. You're just right.
Nahhhh crime would just increase rapidly
@@kyleparton4610 straight up
There's often a reason why poor people are poor (with the exception of the last year or so where those with power and influence are trying to round up everybody's assets and income, leaving the average schmuck with nothing)
What a thoughtful, well--spoken man. He recognizes and admits his shortcomings. That's not easy for someone to do.
Steve and his wife were good people . Very moral and kind people.
I’ve been in law enforcement for over 20 years. I’ve been married to my high school sweetheart for 20 years. I have three of the most wonderful boys that God has ever blessed a father with. My life should be perfect. However, I woke up one day about a year ago and realized that I’ve missed most of my boy’s lives. I put my career ambitions ahead of watching my boys grow up. I wasn’t out partying or doing anything that I shouldn’t have been doing. I was simply focused on my career and working enough overtime to provide them with the best life possible. As a result, I’ve missed out on so much, especially with my oldest, and now I’m playing catch-up. I love my wife and kids more than life itself, but I mistakenly thought that making money was the way that I should show them how much I loved them. Being able to buy them things that they wanted and not necessarily needed was how I showed them love. I was WRONG!!! I now see that I’ve been a terrible father. The best way to show someone that you love them is to be with them.
Saint Michael thank you for your service, and for cherishing your family.
Michael,
Please don't be too hard on yourself. You understand what to do now. Just go from there. Talk your kids about your change of mind and about the changes you are making. May God bless you!
Happiness is not a Commodity than can be Bought,Do not Build a shining Palace in Neglect of your soul when you touch people minds this will live beyond anything physical you provide Cars Rust,Clothes wear out ,Building crumble but ideas can be eternal
The best comment I ever heard about raising a family was from an old mounted policeman: child rearing is 75 percent a mixture of love and discipline, and 25 percent luck.
Nobody is dead go be the father you think you aren't starting right now. Your kids still need you in adulthood. i think you are probably a great father, you needed money to live and the fact that you have regrets shows you care. A bad father would not wonder if he were good or not.
Steve Allen, creator of Tonight Show, died 2000 aged 78, great talent
He was awesome on the original “What’s my Line”
I was lucky to have worked for him for a year in his Van Nuys California office, i was his private librarian and errand girl, I got to meet many comedic legends and it was a fantastic experience!
@@grodeca WOW!! Lucky YOU! I ADORED HIM. I understand that he was in a "mild" car accident and was unknowingly acquired a puncture injury that led to a slow bleed. He went to his son's house, took a nap and never woke up.
I know what that feels like because it happened to me, I was so tired, if the phone hadn't rung, I would have died. I got up and fainted and boyfriend found me and called ambulance. You just don't realize what is going on. Knowing this I felt SO bad that we lost him way earlier than we would have if only he would have gone to the hospital for a check after the accident.
He was great on What's My Line!
@@leewhite-graham753 after I heard he had passed away on the news I had to go to his office and dropped off some flowers. Most people did not know he had his office in Van Nuys in the San Fernando valley, I had a wonderful experience working for him even though it was only for one year, 1987-1988, I was only 19 years old.
@@grodeca Hi. Thank you for the response. A year is a year and you were extremely fortunate to have worked for him. I am so happy that you shared your experience.
Steve Allen. What a talent and wonderful sense of humor. So good to hear him again.
Steve Allen was a member of the Greatest Generation who was known for his work in the early days of television.
He was very active in the 1950’s, was a regular on several shows and would travel from Los Angeles to New York City and back again.
He had children that he loved, married a beautiful wife (Jayne Meadows) and had a long fulfilling career in show business. He had it made.
And despite all this, Steve Allen was humble and could admit to his faults, as this video indicates.
This is what’s missing today. If more people today were like Steve Allen, some of us would probably be in much better places.
"Your point of view changes depending on where you sit"
Or, what you're willing to see and hear.
I’m a father of 3 young kids right now, I struggle with this so hard everyday. I’m constantly second guessing everything from what I teach them, what I’m not teaching them and even how I should treat and the way I talk to each one. They’re pretty good kids but one wrong thing could change that in an instant. I don’t wanna be too hard on them but I can’t be too soft either, it’s a difficult balance and each child is a different scale. I didn’t have a father so I’ve only got what I learned from tv dads to guide me.
I know what you mean. Andy Griffith was the parent I watched closely, and of course I fell way short, because I'm human and he's not real. But my children are in their 20s and 30s and exceptional people. If I could go back to younger me, I'd tell her to relax, it's all okay. They'll make mistakes and you'll be there to guide them through it. Love them regardless. Realize that no matter what you do, in the end they will choose their own life and that's a good thing. I would hug younger me and tell her she's doing fine. Just breathe. They're gonna be okay.
As a young dad myself, I second this. But having this type of self reflection is key to being a good father though so that’s half the battle
I'm a soon to be new parent and even I have those doubts but I also know that over thinking things too much just makes the situation worse. Sometimes it's ok to go with the flow and leave the kids to be kids.
Look on CZcams for Jordan Peterson... You might not have the same views as him but the majority of his followers are young men and I often see in the comments how they wish Dr. Peterson was their father. Young men that either have or don't have a father in the lives.
You got this. The point is that you care, you are trying, and most importantly you recognize the fragility of each of your individual children. In other words you are taking this seriously. Your children are going to be just fine.
This guy is a total legend! Sums up living in such a witty but simultaneously serious way!
I love listening to my mother tell me about how she grew up in the great depression.
Very wise words, I'm very grateful with what we have now.
"You'll thank the universe for the garbage." Boy, I felt that.
We regret it too.
Signed,
A millennial that gets blamed for literally everything by baby boomers
Sarah Literally?
@@MisterTwister88 just look at the news "x fails because of millenials". How many industries are failing "because" who in truth don't have money so it's a flaw beyond them.
TheCinderfang Woooossssshhhhh
It's so true
And WHOOOOSH - the point goes right over your head
Signed,
A Boomer who, like the rest of her generation, got handed an irreparably shitty world and then blamed for it by the following generations, who generally have no fucking concept of history or even what they're talking about
Steve Allen was an amazingly rare talent & gave Jerry Lee Lewis his first big break in show biz. Men like this live several lives, when most people are lucky to cobble together just one.
It's hard to understand the dynamic of the 1930s to the 1950s. I always known the Greatest Generation as those who fought to survive for a decade, but even in school it was hard for me to understand the extent of the Great Depression. Hearing such a common story like this helps though. Unfortunately the fatherlessness was prevalent on both sides of my family too, basically up to my grandfathers who were actually around but never learned how to raise a kid. In some way it's nice to see that slowly change throughout the last couple generations, and I hope that's the case for most people.
My parents were children during ww2 in Europe. They experienced things no child should ever have to experience. The anger, cruelty and depression of the adults at the time made them grow up fast and learn how to be tough and survive. This is all they knew, so it's hard to judge them for all their 'mistakes'. They got a lot of their parenting wrong and passed on that ww2 sense of 'imminent danger is just around the corner'. There were a lot of sharks and hustlers after the war so they had to become less friendly to avoid being robbed/duped. We could criticise them or admire them for getting through it and teaching us what they learned.
My parents were children in the Pacific Theater; same.
Yes! My dad used to say when I went out “ don’t forget your gas mask “ I didn’t understand what the hell he was talking about till I got older. They almost starved to death during and then after the war food rations until 1957.
I'm the next generation after that.
As an adult I can see how that hardship has rippled down to the family. I can see where it comes from, and that every body had reasons as to why they did what they did.
But we have all paid a prize. A least I have become somewhat aware, and try to "catch" myself before I react. But damn it's difficult to change, and a l probably still do some inherited things, I don't even notice.
Imminent danger is just around the corner though. Kids should grow up understanding that. And raised believing in God and an afterlife. Death and evil actions are real. It's cruel to not teach kids how to handle that and prepare them for the realities of adulthood.
@@karaa7595 Well, faith was one of the casualties of WW2 in my family.
Apparently there's something about watching children being burnt alive in bombings and loosing almost everyone you love in the holocaust, that makes you think that a good and almighty God doesn't exist.
And while there can be danger around the corner, and you have to be able to handle it, it is equally important to show your children that most things in their lives are usually pretty harmless (Unless you really live in a sh'thole.) and that there is also good in the world. Also that you can always be trusted to help when trouble finds them. - And then live up to it, of cause.
Because you may think you're toughing kids up. But depending on their personalities, you push them into being emotionally stunted ,bullies or into angst, depression and low self esteem. - Maybe even a chaotic mix of it all.
Steve Allen was and still is a legend for his talent, intelligence and humanity.
His generosity as well. I was a DJ before I retired and, on one occasion after a long tiring day for him, he was willing to sit with me for a lengthy interview, one he could have understandably brushed off. A personal hero to me.
Are you kidding...he slept with his step- daughter....Divorced his wife and married her adopted young daughter!!! Freaking weirdo to say the least!
@@shab3134 You're describing Woody Allen, not Steve Allen - two different people. If you're going to be outraged, at least get the principals right.
@@RTSOB1 Bravo!
@@shab3134 this is Steve Allen, a brilliant man. Look up his extraordinary 'Meeting Of Minds' shows
I literally can’t remember a time when my father told me he loved me. He’s still alive. Still married to my mother. Still lives in the same house I grew up in with her. But I can’t ever remember him saying that to me, not even once.
*A wonderfully articulate, beautifully humble man.*
I wish Boomers were this self-aware. We’d all be much better off
I wish millennials had a brain - and some actual education.
@@neiljohnson6815 too bad no one gave them any. And any proper education is too expensive. I wonder who made it that way?
@@jakobtrangsrud8264 HMMMMMMMMMM
@@neiljohnson6815 Millennials on average have a higher number of college graduates than Boomers and that's in addition to the fact that percentage-wise college is now much more expensive than it was.
Huey Long what do you mean by Vietnam was nothing?
The fact that daddy was on the road doing a concert in Nashville from the time Junior was the ages of 2 to 14, is that the reason that Junior is on drugs? You bet it does. Greatest quote I've heard in a LONG TIME.
People like to think that the schools and institutions that our children attend are their to "care " for them.. and modern parents farm out their parenting time to karate lessons, art classes, competitive organized soorts.. but no one will ever care for a child like the actual parent. And if the parent is absent physically or emotionally. The kid is a sitting duck... I love how he doesn't take the depression era 'Hard line" view of kids needing to toughen up and not blame their parents.. he's saying the opposite.. the parents have a responsibility to spend time with their children.. well said Steve Allen
I'm a "boomer", and I couldn't have been raised, by two finer parents. They raised me with integrity, and decency, and respect for my elders. I had a drug problem when I was a kid, my Mama and Daddy drug me to the church house everytime the doors were open, and I'm so blessed that they did. And, the old "woodshed" was still around, whenever needed. I'm glad my Daddy loved me enough to take me to that woodshed, on occasion. In doing so, he taught me there are consequences for doing wrong, and rewards for doing what is right. The lessons I learned from Mama and Daddy are with me to this day, and I can never thank them both enough. I love you, my dear Mama and Daddy. See ya when I get Home.
I am 73 years young. I was raised by my grandparents who when thur two depression. We didn't have much. But we were thankful enough to appreciate what we had. I like alot of parents tried to give my children a better life than I had. I also made them work for the extra they wanted.
I love how you say you’re 73 years young!!
"Having one wife, staying married to her, that's what we're supposed to do."
rationsofladyfingers says who?
@Danny Phantom It is true that studies have shown that married couples are more happy and healthy compared to people who are single or "promiscuous." However, there is more nuance to this than you think. Education, personal income and your parents income are far more prominent factors in what makes someone happier. The better your socioeconomic status, the better off mentally and physically you will be. And guess what: when people are more wealthy and are more stable in their income, the more likely they are to get married. So when you point at poor people and say, "oh they're poor, they just need to get married and they'd be happier," it doesn't predict happiness as much as level of education and income does.
@belinda hawkins Then why are some people not sexually attracted to others and go throughout their lives not caring about sexual activity? Why are some people not heterosexual?
I think I get what he meant, but that statement is too absolute. People should try to make a marriage work, sure, but a lot of the time dissolving a relationship is a better option. There's abuse of any kind, infidelity, or just plain old drifting apart that can lead to divorce. Not everyone wants or needs marriage to feel happy, and forcing yourself into that box won't help anyone.
@Danny Phantom yeah cool n all but please let the book of trash outta here
Damn this guy is SELF AWARE. Respect man, freal, respect.
Loved Steve Allen. Grew up watching him on tv. Knowledgeable, sensitive, intelligent, creative, funny man! Loved his man on the street interviews.😂
Watching this as the father of a 5 year old little girl, this sent shivers down my spine. The third part missing from a lot of parenting is teaching financial responsibility. My parents (God bless them) never taught me much about finances, and all the math classes in school didn't come close to teaching how to balance a check book.
Like my sister-in-law told me: "They can't teach what they don't know."
I know! We kids were baffled why we weren’t learning things that would help us navigate life. Why would we have to learn algebra for instance? We could benefit from learning conflict resolution and basic parenting skills. And how to balance a checkbook and turn a passion into a business.
@@sidilicious11 okay I want to be really sarcastic at you for implying that algebra isn't a useful skill but I'll try not to.
Algebra is about logic and dealing with unknowns. Algebra helps you learn to structure problems, work backwards, work around missing information, and do math. You might not realize that you've used those skills in connection to other areas of your life, but you have. Additionally, algebra is absolutely going to be used in finances, are you kidding me. Sorry, had to let a little sarcasm get in there.
@@KingRidley go for it 😉, it’s been 54 years since my last algebra class. I don’t have a clue what it even is anymore. I like what you said about how it builds problem solving skills and is used in finance. I’m glad. I was being cavalier about tossing out learning algebra. I’m an artist and luckily haven’t needed to relearn it.
This is Steve Allen, an entertainment legend baring his soul. In a few short minutes he touches on perils, pitfalls, joys, and lessons of life. Very telling and poignant.
It is so interesting to hear someone who lives through the depression talk about his experience during this time and the after effects of that mind set.
We have it so good today!
He didn't eat no beans out a trash can
Growing up I had neighbors across the street who were an elderly brother and sister. This was say 1992ish. They were in their mid 80s I'd guess. Well they were children of the depression and they kept everything, clothes, shoes, you name it, if there was a use for it they kept it. Their house was just jam packed with stuff, people today might call them hoarders but they kept everything very well organized and stacked neatly. I was maybe about 12 years old and would visit them often because I was fascinated by all the stories about their past and what they endured throughout history. They since passed away in the 90s and in the short time I knew them I had gained a whole new appreciation for what we have today and how fortunate we are.
His voice is very familiar.
He sounds like the narrator of those air disaster documentaries.
Of course his voice sounds familiar.
He's Steve Allen.
His voice has been ubiquitous for generations.
Steve Allen was on of the greatest TV host in Los Angeles for years and years , he was an incredibly talented individual admired by millions,,,a real good guy.
DISCO-INFERNO-70 you act like you've never seen The Benny Goodman Story
Probably not a person living that never heard Steve Allen somewhere. Actor, musician, composer, and first host of The Tonight Show. He also had another T.V. program, a variety show. Starring role in the Benny Goodman Story. Steve played the piano.
He sounds like Evil Dave
Steve Allen was a comic genius, the first host of the Tonight Show, composer of hundreds of songs, and discoverer of talent like Don Knotts, Tom Poston and Jim Nabors. On top of that, he played Benny Goodman in The Benny Goodman Story. A true man for all seasons!
And he was such a fabulous panelist on ’What’s my Line?’!!!!! True class, that all-too-rare quality missing these days _____
Thank you for posting an appreciation of Steve Allen’s work!!!!!___________________
He was also a jazz musician.
His series "Meeting of Minds" was terrific and original. Might seem a little dated now, but check it out on CZcams.
David Letterman has said that he was heavily influenced by Steve Allen’s talk show style.
And where was he in his children's lives. Obviously he was an absent parent because he was too busy to spend time with them. Look at all he accomplished in his life. But what does that say about how he raised his kids he didnt. His wife did.
It’s always nice listening to well spoken people. It’s really a talent.
This video is refreshing and has wisdom. I hope the man had a good adult life
I remember being hungry as a child in elementary school. After lunchtime in school I would always ask to go to the bathroom. I would go to the trash cans and pick out the apples and oranges (before the janitor pulled the trash) that the more fortunate kids would discard.
Because I did it every day, my teacher started saying No to my daily bathroom breaks. You learn a lot about human nature when you're a hungry child.
I was walking and still had like 20 more miles to go, I was dead tired, thirsty hungry, I couldn't go no more, passed all day long, not so much as 1 car stopped, even when I was soaked from the rain, then an old ford Broncos pulled over, it was 5 Mexican seasonal workers, they drove me to about 5 miles of where I was going and even gave me like 12 bucks, GOD used these precious men to help me.
Or they used their own good in their hearts to help you. I wonder if they think back to that moment still.
So, what you're saying is, you were saved by Jesus. And Jose, Juan, Carlos, and Pablo.
So, what, "God" was just busy the rest of the day? It's twisted how easily theists can take Human Kindness and throw out the fucking "Human" part of it and somehow think that's a GOOD fucking thing. God didn't send them. THEY made a decision. The LEAST you could do is allow them credit for their OWN actions.
Kiha Akui he just said God used the people to help him. That still applies that the men helped him as well and not just God.
@@jalenakeem5059 That isn't what the term "used" means, sorry. We "use" a fork to eat. We "use" a car to travel. "Using" a Human Being is Universally considered an unkind act.
This man is amazingly articulate. His brain and his mouth are right in sync with each other.
My husband and I met Steve Allen when he gave a performance in Chicago. He was so respectful, yet serious thoughtful demeanor. He certainly received my respect. --Audrey in Chicago
Yo, I was homeless for a fat minute, and what he said about Chicano people being more generous and receptive to beggars is 100%. Some of the nicest people who blessed me with change and sympathy...and coincidentally, old white females were the most contemptful.
I'm sad to have to say that I'm not at all surprised by that.
My mum is an “old white female” and regularly will give £10 to homeless people she walks past despite living off a small pension. I understand that’s not your own experience but their is definatly lots of good people not matter what race or age
yea idk what your talking about. old and young white women have offered me the most help, even times when I wasn't homeless lol
This isn't the Great Depression. Most people these days become "homeless" because they're on drugs. Normal people don't lose their job one day and the next end up digging through trash cans and holding a cardboard sign on the street corner. So spare the sob stories. All the bums I see on the corner just want money for beer and weed. There is help available, this isn't the 1930's...but they don't want to go to a shelter because they don't want to follow rules.
@@walshwalsh6828 yeah, druggies and sexual deviants...so you basically just proved my point that "homeless" people aren't poor souls just "down on their luck." They brought it on themselves. Bums wander around, harassing people for money, smoking weed and doing meth, and defecating on the streets. No more sob stories.
Steve Allen is the only famous person I have ever met. I am glad it was him , he was a good man .
The first "famous" person I met was Karl Malden at 8 years old. I had watched reruns of Streets of San Francisco growing up.
He was friendly, kind, funny and generous with his time. Ive met quite a few celebrities because of where I live. The only other celebrities that ive met that were as friendly was Steve Young and Paul Walker.
He owned a slew of developments in and around Ocala, Florida in the 80's and 90's and his face was all over billboards up and down I 75 from Orlando to Gainesville.
I met O J Simpson twice. He was down to earth and very accommodating . Go figure!
@@paultarlowski5428 if the glove doesn't fit...
I also had the pleasure of meeting Steve Allen in the early 80's by the Manager of the Sherton Motor Inn , the show place of Flint Michigan ( Cass Opyt ) .
They were good friends.
David, I read up on Steve Allen's life story. He is really interesting character, very intelligent and a head of his time. Thank you David. ❤
This story is so important on so many levels. I hope many people see this video.
Steve Allen is/was one of the few "celebrities" that I would love to sit down to a dinner and drinks and talk with. Very intelligent man and he was skilled in many disciplines, a true Renaissance man.