Can we just give a shout to your BF- Ryan for being supportive of you and how you are handling your pregnancy. Not a lot of guys would be so supportive especially when you are laying around doing nothing and allowing your body to heal and adjust to being pregnant. You and him are going to make great parents.
Normalize complaining while pregnant lol. For some of us, it's the most miserable time of our lifes. So, you go, girl, complain as much as you wish, you've earned it 😄
When you say you felt like you were watching someone else's ultrasounds, I went through that same thing with my pregnancy. I felt disconnected from the whole experience and the anxiety and depression that came with a totally expected and wanted pregnancy was shocking. I had depression before, but pregnancy gave me intense anxiety, every day I felt like something terrible would happen and I don't think I appreciated my pregnancy because I was so worried about something happening. It's something I never expected so thank you for using your platform for people to know pregnancy isn't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a big mental toll as well as physical ❤
the "fourth trimester" is also, i feel, a hugely underestimated shock to the system. people joke about 'no sleep' etc, but it wasn't that for me - it was just the monumental shift in the nature of your life, in basically every way. it can be incredibly overwhelming, especially if you don't have a big support network nearby. i have such a supportive partner, and i can't even imagine how it's physically possible for single parents in those early days. i had an emergency c section and could barely sit up, yet i was somehow expected to breastfeed and care for my baby around the clock - immediately following 4 days of sleepless labour. depending on the fussiness of the baby, the demands can be relentless 24/7 - it's the most physically and mentally challenging thing i've ever experienced. but it GETS BETTER, and is only very temporary. usually after the first 3 months things settle down a whole lot and you'll feel like you have a semblence of a life again! i feel like it's so important for new mothers to be prepared for that ❤
The moment I had a positive pregnancy test, I was barfing non-stop all day and night. Couldn’t even keep water down. It was hell. I lost about 10 lbs. in a week and a half. My pregnancy ended at 8 weeks so it was short lived but good god it was so hard to be conscious let alone work. So glad you’re enjoying your second trimester!
I’m *finally* in my second trimester after having multiple miscarriages during first trimesters. And right after hitting that milestone I had an emergency appendectomy! Stuck in the hospital for 9 days with complications… Holy crap what a mess 😂 I was so excited for the 1st trimester to end but my body threw me for a loop. I don’t have any real life friends that are pregnant/recently pregnant but watching your pregnancy videos makes me feel a little less alone in the journey! Excited to see more 💜
I really appreciate your honesty around the shock of finding out you're pregnant, I think that and negative talk around pregnancy at all needs to be destigmatized / the mommy shaming needs to stop. I'm not pregnant and I don't intend to be for awhile (neither my partner nor I are in a place where we're ready), but I know I want children, but I also know pregnancy will be a shock for me when the time comes. I'm in recovery from an ED and rhe idea of my body changing like that terrifies me, despite that both my partner and I wanting kids was a big motivation for me to start recovery at all. Its ok to talk about stuff like this, and it shouldn't be shamed because it's normal to feel scared, this is a major life change, even the most positive of changes can be terrifying
Girl, let those people in your life dote upon you during pregnancy! You are growing a human - it's a lot of work! :) Congrats by the way! I've followed you for so many years and it's exciting to see this journey!
I had a very similar first trimester. I threw up constantly which had me in the ER for dehydration 3 times. I had no energy, felt depressed and exhausted, and felt like everyone hated me because I was so sick I couldn't do anything for myself. I'm 30 weeks now and I'm so happy to be at this point. Anyone going through it, remain the strong amazing woman you are because it gets so magical. Feeling him adjust all day is my favorite feeling. I get crazy anxious still though because I just want him healthy and fear any complications.
this is so weird. not pregnant, not planning on it. but what you described was so comforting for me because it sounds so similar to living with chronic illness. Idk- i felt seen😭
Just had my baby in June and funnily enough, you go through a lot of these same things right after the baby is born. Bringing a life into this world is wild because you go through pregnancy and you're like "wow, this is the single hardest thing I've ever done" and then the baby is born and you're like "nevermind, this is the single hardest thing I've ever done!". You just can't appreciate how difficult it is until you go through it and you gain so much respect for other people who go through it. I think taking pregnancy one week at a time is a great mentality and I suggest getting through the newborn phase the same way.
My absolute favorite part of pregnancy was the end of the second trimester/beginning of the third. I felt great, looked “cute” pregnant, and had very minimal symptoms. You’ll love watching this with your daughter in the future! ❤️❤️
This is so interesting to me. So much of your descriptions, especially about the extent of your fatigue and your depression/breakdown about wanting your normal life back mirrors my own experience with fibromyalgia/chronic pain and fatigue. It's so difficult to describe to people what fatigue is beyond just being tired, and you really hit it on the head perfectly.
I'm so happy I have a supportive partner because I couldn't do ANYTHING my 1st trimester. He cooked and did anything he could to make me feel better. It also always smelled terrible to me in the house and he would clean it everyday, so I thank the universe I have that man. 🥰
It’s so refreshing to hear you talk about your depression in the first trimester, I’m 20 weeks now and struggled soo hard in the first tri with nausea/feeling miserable and also denying myself that I was very depressed and you literally put it all into words. It’s so hard. Thank you for speaking up about this! Wishing you a happy and healthy remainder if your pregnancy :)
I'm always impressed in every video by the emotional literacy that I see every time I watch one of your videos. Your little baby will really treasure these videos when she's older! And also as always, your chapter game is on point =)
Extra B vitamins in your body are actually excreted in urine since they are water soluble :) they don't build up! I am not pregnant but I get severe nausea around my period so I might actually try those preggie pops lol. Most anti-nausea candies I've seen are ginger and I do NOT enjoy ginger candies at all
I am 7 weeks right now with my first baby and I feel so incredibly depressed. I have never in my life cried or slept this much. It’s rough and I’m not gonna lie…it makes me regret ever getting pregnant in the first place
Hope you're feeling better, but if you're not, just sending some youtube-stranger support. I'm glad people are talking about this because I didn't know how common it was in the first trimester.
Congratulations! I’ve never been pregnant and am not planning to but this has been a very interesting video and lovely to hear about your experiences! I feel like you explain things in such a beautiful way and give importance to feeling and experiencing what you go through mentally! Lovely and beautiful! Hope it’s all going well for you and wishing you a safe and amazing journey x
I’m so glad that I was able to stay home for a few months of pregnancy with my first before going to work and now with my second I’m able to stay home through it. The first trimester is no joke and it sucks when you’re not able to rest and heal when you have to work. Glad you’re doing well and you can feel baby move :) it’s so exciting and it’s just going to get better. You’re definitely glowing btw :D
I admire you so much for your honesty. I’ve been wanting to be a mom for so long and when i saw your pregnancy announcement video i had no idea i was pregnant. I recently just found out and although i’m SO happy, it’s already been so much to deal with. I have so much more of my first trimester to go but i can relate to so much you said already. Just know you’re not alone and you’re doing amazing. You’re going to be the best mom. 💖
Love seeing you pop up in my feed again! Even if you don't become a mommy vlogger, I'd still love motherhood content and your perspective on it. You'll be a great mom!
I am so relieved to see your content staying very true to who you’ve shown us all these years. I feel like pregnancy can sometimes change people and take over their identity, so I am happy to see your authentic self still shining through! As always, incredibly informative, enlightening, and inspiring video. Much love to you and Ryan and baby girl on this amazing journey 💞
Totally with you in terms of normalising the mourning your pre baby life and on wishing you weren't pregnant! I have two small humans, love them to bits, but to this day I still find myself missing my childless days - and that's okay!! and totally normal, and doesn't mean we don't love our kids. oh and pregnancy is HARD! i hated every second of both. oh and big big BIG yes to motherhood not having to become your entire identity! it can feel all encompassing sometimes but every parent is still their own entityyyyy and deserves that space to express other parts of themselves, always
Congratulations!! I’m currently 21 weeks with a little boy. I found out on April 1st! I was so sick my doctors thought I had suffered from a stroke. The entire first trimester was horrible but as soon as second hit I finally felt better! You’re super lucky you could fight throwing up my first four days I couldn’t keep anything down at all until after my first er visit and my first trimester craving was orange sherbet 100% needed it always
I'm so glad i found this video. My biggest fear of being pregnant is the fear that comes with it. The fact that your life changes and you may not be ready. This fear has actually driven me to have an abortion in the past. I don't regret it because i believe it wasn't meant to be but this video is so comforting that i believe when the time comes eventually i will be ready
I hate naps too. I wake up sweaty and ready to fight God. Edit: TW miscarriage/infertility I was pregnant for 7-8 weeks in 2019 and I was in MISERY. Constant, days-long migraines and body pain. Literally the only thing I could manage to consume was Coke (like the soda lol) and my prenatals. I called out of work the entire time and slept on my couch. My sister had to help me shower. I wish I'd had a full pregnancy and gotten to experience that second trimester boost, but I'm grateful to have had the tiny amount of time that I did. I haven't been able to get pregnant again since.
I'm almost at 14 weeks and the exhaustion kills me more than anything. It feels impossible sometimes to function but on have to still go to work and get through the day. It's like torture sometimes.
I’m 15 weeks and dude… I’m still struggling with the exhaustion! I get why sleep deprivation is a form of torture because exhaustion is insane. Eagerly waiting for the second trimester energy to hit but I’m not getting my hopes up 😩 Fingers crossed for you!
@@1sweetcalamity2did you ever get that burst of energy in the second trimester? I’m 7 weeks now and ughh can’t imagine more of this. I also have a trip to Mexico planned at 18 weeks and hoping I can enjoy it
@@jessicapreston9808 I wouldn’t really say it was a “burst” of energy like some people experience, but I definitely felt like my energy level went back up to a normal amount! I wasn’t sleeping super well in the 2nd trimester though (getting up to pee multiple times overnight) so I would sometimes take a nap in the middle of the day.
I asked on insta but I'll ask again here because I'm super curious, but has pregnancy affected your sensitivity to horror movies surrounding pregnancy or birth? I'm a huge fan of your horror channel because of how much you emphasize not crossing your own boundaries and forcing yourself to watch things that are too disturbing and no longer enjoyable. Also !! just for fun, in a older video like from 2013 or something, you said you were going to name your future daughter Samara, because the Ring is your favorite horror movie? Is Samara still on the list?
im not pregnant or even planning on getting pregnant but i do have some weird remedies (for awhile now ive been taking medication that cause headaches and nausea). for the first one i absolutely am with Sarah lemons do help nausea (and spicy food) in my case i sip on a little bit of tajin with fresh lime, spicy food in general helps tho! and for headaches i recommend eating a pinch of salt, i know it sound crazy but it works!
I totally feel you on the fatigue!!! My little guy is 14 months old now and all I remember from my first trimster was working my 9 hour shift and immediately going to sleep when I got home from work because the headaches from the exhaustion were SO bad. It was brutal 😅 all I could eat was apples for the first couple weeks even before I found out lol I'm glad you're feeling better ❤
I will try the Vaporub trick. I already have a strong sense of smell, pregnant it’s just so intense. All I basically eat is salted crackers, watermelon and yogurt. Can’t wait for the first trimester to be over, will be 11 weeks on Sunday. We need to normalize not being always happy and bubbly during pregnancy, which social media fails at a lot.
Thank you for being so open and honest. I’m 34 and thinking of trying with my partner and feel like I just need to know everything at once and terrified of how I’m going to feel off birth control for the first time in 10 years. I appreciate your openness and willingness to share your journey. So much love to you 🫶🏻
i first found your channel through the 4 non blondes collab channel many moons ago and loved it ever since. it’s been amazing to see you grow as a person and i’m so glad this is happening for the both of you 🤍 your videos brought me a lot of solace through my secondary school years
I have always enjoyed your content, but I especially appreciate these videos because I'm hoping to start a conceiving journey and any and all info is welcome. Thank you for being open!
I’m at the end of my first trimester and I feel so seen by this video! Thank you for sharing your experiences because it makes me feel better knowing I’m not the only one!!!
Thank you for sharing. You describe some of the symptoms in my second pregnancy so well. The first pregnancy was much more pleasant physically and my mood was better, so it was difficult to accept the severe nausea, fatigue, and depression symptoms the second time around.
Those pink candies were a staple in my great grandpa's house! My cousin called them ho-ho's when he was little so my family and I have called them ho-ho's since then.
Some of the things you said is spot on! I am a little over 11 weeks and this week has been rough! Glad the feelings I have is normal and I am not the only one going through it.
I feel you on everything. When you get closer to the end of the third trimester, read Emily Oster’s second book. I read all the pregnancy and birthing books and could not find much about postpartum.
Thank you so much for this video, im just ending my first trimester and my experience has been the exact same thing as yours. My partner and I wanted kids eventually but ours was a major surprise. I also got a cold during week ten and I was SO much more sick and nauseous then normal it was so depressing. I am naturally a very active person and to not be able to do anything has been so hard. Like you said, i want to feel like myself again. So thank you so much for being real about this because i loath how pregnancy is often talked about
Thankyou again for sharing your experience with us! It means so much more coming from someone I've been following for years versus finding pregnancy content on youtube, I hope you continue to enjoy your pregnancy and I truly wish you all the best 💕💕
I am 29 weeks currently and I am going to be a first time mom. Literally everything you said I agreed with and felt 100%. I have struggled mentally and feel as though I was losing my identity as well even though my daughter is very much wanted. I loved getting to hear your perspective.
I'm glad you're posting these recaps, it's really nice to hear these experiences from someone else! I was kind of in denial about being pregnant...one missed period is just stress, right? And then I got to the second missed period...and barfed three times a day for weeks...yeah it was time to admit I'm pregnant. Got the confirmation yesterday and though it's not a "perfect time", I am happy and excited! I don't normally get period cramps so I knew something was up. Luckily I should actually be on the tail end of my first trimester now, and everyone says the second trimester is so much better.
Wanted to add, we got some Little Caesars pizza a few weeks ago I don't know if it was a pregnancy coincidence or if that pizza wrecked me...the first night was fine, but when I tried to have some leftovers I had the worst cramps of my life. Little sitting in the bathroom crying asking "why me?" lmao. It's so miserable!
Definitely don't forget to research/ prepare for "the fourth trimester" aka post partum. It's so common and so easy to get caught up in pregnancy and labor/ delivery learning that we neglect educating ourselves about what comes after. It's a huge life change in so so so many ways. In a similar vein, if you plan on breast/chest feeding, start researching lactation consultants in your area now. That way if you do experience any difficulty, you can get help right away because time is of the essence when it comes to all things lactation.
So as someone who is also older and has experienced some discrimination for not being pregnant or getting pregnant younger. I was curious if you had experienced any of that given you are over 30? For clarification I am not pregnant nor choose to be however when I have gone to the gyno I have gotten some back lash for being 27 and not having been pregnant yet. Hopefully this made sense I apologize if its to personal of a question .I also live in a very red conservative state.
Hi I apologize I’m not the creator of this video but your comment stuck out to me. I’m over 40 and have chosen not to have children. I have felt that discrimination so much in my life. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. We need to normalize a child free lifestyle. Just bc we choose not to have them doesn’t mean we don’t support or respect people that do. This video is super important to everyone.
the nausea coping advice is gonna save me when i'm pregnant some day! I'll be returning to this video in a couple years or so lol or whenever it happens :)
I so much respect how you do and will choose when or if posting content.(!) But I have to say that I'm so happy to see you again. :) Well done and well doing, thank you so much.
I craaaved spicy foods and my one aversion was coffee. It made me so sick after just a sip which sucked bc I lived off it before working nights. Now I'm making up for lost times with sleepless nights with bby😅
Coffee made me SO SICK. The smell was the worst thing in the world during my first trimester. Honestly, being 30 weeks in, it still kind of smells terrible. Lol
Im so excited for you!! Idk if you remember me but i've been watching your vids for years and I mentioned in the comments that I have the same bday as you! I also had my first baby in May, how cool is it that we're both first time moms this year!
I’m so happy for you. I’ve been following you for a long time so I feel like we have grown together. Congratulations! Also, What’s your garlic noodles recipe? 👀
Congratulations! I knew right away too. For me my arms were killing me. I threw up the whole 9 months and got food poisoning at 8 months. That was 16 years ago. 😅😅😅
As a man who may or may not want to become pregnant in the future, I'm very appreciative for your use of neutral terms talking about pregnant people! ❤️ Wishing you luck on the pregnancy/birth/aftermath❤️
My sister in law is expecting a girl in late November. For her first trimester nausea, I made her a little care package of lemon and ginger tea, candied/crystallised ginger cubes and ginger or lemon cookies.
Not me playing your video extra loud whilst laying on the couch feeling miserable so my boyfriend can hear somebody else having the exact same symptoms hahahaha. Trying to find the energy to play with my toddler and work between the nausia and moodiness. Can't wait till this pregnancy is over!
I was pregnant in 2020-2021 and our first trimesters were soo similar ! Especially the garlic aversion and lemons for nausea. I had to put crackers next to my bed and had to eat a handful before I even moved when I woke up and then my breakfast was usually just toast and very cold lemon water. Also the exhaustion, oh the exhaustion….. I laid on the couch for a month and just played sims cause everything else was impossible. Also hate vomiting so I would just lay very still and will it away
I think we need to normalize not loving your baby right from the beginning. Not connecting to my baby from the start is one of my biggest fears for whenever I do decide to have a baby. But I’ve never met them, how am I supposed to be so connected to someone I’ve never met. Obviously I will love them once they’re here because it’ll be MY baby but we need to normalize not feeling that connection right away.
I think every pregnancy is different. I own a cleaning business and back when I was pregnant, (my son just turned 23) I worked from start to past my due date. So it's physical labor. But I was used to it and I think I was sooooo anxious during my pregnancy that I never really felt super tired. The first trimester I was super depressed and freezing cold all the time. It was the beginning of winter. My first symptom was also very sore boobs. In fact, I thought it was a period coming on because that was usually my first symptom of that. So once I found out I was pregnant, I was so surprised. I was the same as you, we weren't yet really trying to have a baby, but it was in the cards for six months later give or take. In the first trimester I had really bad nausea all the time and vomited as needed. lol. But I think my depression was really bad. I wanted to miscarry. Hard to say that but that's how I felt. Like you, I knew my life would never be the same and that scared me to death. I had depression all the way through my pregnancy but it got so much better well into the second and third trimester. Also the weather improved and that definitely helped. I found out I was really anemic so that is why I was cold all the time. Beside the prenatals, you really got to have an iron supplement, It's so important. But unfortunately, it was add to the horrible constipation. Honestly, during my pregnancy, the worst physical discomfort I had in the entire nine months was the constipation. So good luck. in my first trimester, I hated the way everything smelled. I could smell people's cologne or simply their body smell. Not really bo just their personal smell. my olfactory was so acute. Similar to wildlife when I pregnant animal needs to smell so well that they could be aware of animal predators. Evolution is a remarkable thing.... but I digress. My first trimester I lived on fruit and grilled cheese sandwiches. It was the only thing that didn't make me nauseous. Anyways, good luck! And I'd love to hear a birth story a couple weeks after the baby is born. Those are always fun.
With both my pregnancies i could not handle garlic and we also use it in nearly every meal regularly. We buy minced garlic in little glass jars and my husband made fun of me because i had to keep the jar wrapped in a ziplock bag in the bottom of the fridge until i was at least 30 weeks through!
Everything that you’re saying is just 👌 I am almost 24 weeks pregnant and I feel the exact same way..ESPECIALLY the garlic!! Except…my nausea did not go away 🫠 needed actual meds for it bc it was an all day every day event 🙃
We went on a preplanned vacation in Florida when I was 7 weeks. We were there for 5 days and I did not poop the entire time. It was awful. Also, perinatal depression - I was gobsmacked by this. I didn't know it was a thing. But I was so depressed for legit a few months.
It's awesome you'll be keeping baby off the internet. It would be great for you to end your journey with a birth story/experience and postpartem recap maybe?
I don’t think I’ll keep her off the internet completely, I may post photos occasionally on IG and whatnot but yes it will definitely do a birth story and postpartum updates that’s a great idea!
15:28 Omg butter mints!!! I cant that’s so cute lol they’re my favorite. I have them in a little bowl next to my bed lol. (P.S. Sarah you can get them in the bulk candy section at Winco 😉)
I honestly think it's insane that pregnant women are expected to just work through their whole pregnancy while going through all of this. It's cruel
Can we just give a shout to your BF- Ryan for being supportive of you and how you are handling your pregnancy. Not a lot of guys would be so supportive especially when you are laying around doing nothing and allowing your body to heal and adjust to being pregnant. You and him are going to make great parents.
The bar is on the floor
Normalize complaining while pregnant lol. For some of us, it's the most miserable time of our lifes. So, you go, girl, complain as much as you wish, you've earned it 😄
Remember when this came out. Now I’m suffering through my first trimester and am revisiting 🙃
When you say you felt like you were watching someone else's ultrasounds, I went through that same thing with my pregnancy. I felt disconnected from the whole experience and the anxiety and depression that came with a totally expected and wanted pregnancy was shocking. I had depression before, but pregnancy gave me intense anxiety, every day I felt like something terrible would happen and I don't think I appreciated my pregnancy because I was so worried about something happening. It's something I never expected so thank you for using your platform for people to know pregnancy isn't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a big mental toll as well as physical ❤
the "fourth trimester" is also, i feel, a hugely underestimated shock to the system. people joke about 'no sleep' etc, but it wasn't that for me - it was just the monumental shift in the nature of your life, in basically every way. it can be incredibly overwhelming, especially if you don't have a big support network nearby. i have such a supportive partner, and i can't even imagine how it's physically possible for single parents in those early days. i had an emergency c section and could barely sit up, yet i was somehow expected to breastfeed and care for my baby around the clock - immediately following 4 days of sleepless labour. depending on the fussiness of the baby, the demands can be relentless 24/7 - it's the most physically and mentally challenging thing i've ever experienced. but it GETS BETTER, and is only very temporary. usually after the first 3 months things settle down a whole lot and you'll feel like you have a semblence of a life again! i feel like it's so important for new mothers to be prepared for that ❤
The moment I had a positive pregnancy test, I was barfing non-stop all day and night. Couldn’t even keep water down. It was hell. I lost about 10 lbs. in a week and a half. My pregnancy ended at 8 weeks so it was short lived but good god it was so hard to be conscious let alone work. So glad you’re enjoying your second trimester!
I’m *finally* in my second trimester after having multiple miscarriages during first trimesters. And right after hitting that milestone I had an emergency appendectomy! Stuck in the hospital for 9 days with complications… Holy crap what a mess 😂 I was so excited for the 1st trimester to end but my body threw me for a loop. I don’t have any real life friends that are pregnant/recently pregnant but watching your pregnancy videos makes me feel a little less alone in the journey! Excited to see more 💜
I really appreciate your honesty around the shock of finding out you're pregnant, I think that and negative talk around pregnancy at all needs to be destigmatized / the mommy shaming needs to stop. I'm not pregnant and I don't intend to be for awhile (neither my partner nor I are in a place where we're ready), but I know I want children, but I also know pregnancy will be a shock for me when the time comes. I'm in recovery from an ED and rhe idea of my body changing like that terrifies me, despite that both my partner and I wanting kids was a big motivation for me to start recovery at all. Its ok to talk about stuff like this, and it shouldn't be shamed because it's normal to feel scared, this is a major life change, even the most positive of changes can be terrifying
You can always adopt xx
I love you being pregnant and changing so much and at the same time not changing at all. You will be such a cool mum, I always loved your style!
Girl, let those people in your life dote upon you during pregnancy! You are growing a human - it's a lot of work! :) Congrats by the way! I've followed you for so many years and it's exciting to see this journey!
I had a very similar first trimester. I threw up constantly which had me in the ER for dehydration 3 times. I had no energy, felt depressed and exhausted, and felt like everyone hated me because I was so sick I couldn't do anything for myself. I'm 30 weeks now and I'm so happy to be at this point. Anyone going through it, remain the strong amazing woman you are because it gets so magical. Feeling him adjust all day is my favorite feeling. I get crazy anxious still though because I just want him healthy and fear any complications.
this is so weird. not pregnant, not planning on it. but what you described was so comforting for me because it sounds so similar to living with chronic illness. Idk- i felt seen😭
Just had my baby in June and funnily enough, you go through a lot of these same things right after the baby is born. Bringing a life into this world is wild because you go through pregnancy and you're like "wow, this is the single hardest thing I've ever done" and then the baby is born and you're like "nevermind, this is the single hardest thing I've ever done!". You just can't appreciate how difficult it is until you go through it and you gain so much respect for other people who go through it. I think taking pregnancy one week at a time is a great mentality and I suggest getting through the newborn phase the same way.
My absolute favorite part of pregnancy was the end of the second trimester/beginning of the third. I felt great, looked “cute” pregnant, and had very minimal symptoms. You’ll love watching this with your daughter in the future! ❤️❤️
Prenatal depression is definitely not talked about enough
This is so interesting to me. So much of your descriptions, especially about the extent of your fatigue and your depression/breakdown about wanting your normal life back mirrors my own experience with fibromyalgia/chronic pain and fatigue. It's so difficult to describe to people what fatigue is beyond just being tired, and you really hit it on the head perfectly.
Ooo, also I just bought Wintering not too long ago. Maybe this is the sign to pick it up.
Video idea for the horror channel at some point: your favorite pregnancy/mother related horror films
I'm so happy I have a supportive partner because I couldn't do ANYTHING my 1st trimester. He cooked and did anything he could to make me feel better. It also always smelled terrible to me in the house and he would clean it everyday, so I thank the universe I have that man. 🥰
It’s so refreshing to hear you talk about your depression in the first trimester, I’m 20 weeks now and struggled soo hard in the first tri with nausea/feeling miserable and also denying myself that I was very depressed and you literally put it all into words. It’s so hard. Thank you for speaking up about this! Wishing you a happy and healthy remainder if your pregnancy :)
I'm always impressed in every video by the emotional literacy that I see every time I watch one of your videos. Your little baby will really treasure these videos when she's older! And also as always, your chapter game is on point =)
Extra B vitamins in your body are actually excreted in urine since they are water soluble :) they don't build up! I am not pregnant but I get severe nausea around my period so I might actually try those preggie pops lol. Most anti-nausea candies I've seen are ginger and I do NOT enjoy ginger candies at all
I am 7 weeks right now with my first baby and I feel so incredibly depressed. I have never in my life cried or slept this much. It’s rough and I’m not gonna lie…it makes me regret ever getting pregnant in the first place
Hope you're feeling better, but if you're not, just sending some youtube-stranger support. I'm glad people are talking about this because I didn't know how common it was in the first trimester.
Congratulations! I’ve never been pregnant and am not planning to but this has been a very interesting video and lovely to hear about your experiences! I feel like you explain things in such a beautiful way and give importance to feeling and experiencing what you go through mentally! Lovely and beautiful! Hope it’s all going well for you and wishing you a safe and amazing journey x
I’m so glad that I was able to stay home for a few months of pregnancy with my first before going to work and now with my second I’m able to stay home through it. The first trimester is no joke and it sucks when you’re not able to rest and heal when you have to work.
Glad you’re doing well and you can feel baby move :) it’s so exciting and it’s just going to get better. You’re definitely glowing btw :D
I admire you so much for your honesty. I’ve been wanting to be a mom for so long and when i saw your pregnancy announcement video i had no idea i was pregnant. I recently just found out and although i’m SO happy, it’s already been so much to deal with. I have so much more of my first trimester to go but i can relate to so much you said already.
Just know you’re not alone and you’re doing amazing. You’re going to be the best mom. 💖
Love seeing you pop up in my feed again! Even if you don't become a mommy vlogger, I'd still love motherhood content and your perspective on it. You'll be a great mom!
I am so relieved to see your content staying very true to who you’ve shown us all these years. I feel like pregnancy can sometimes change people and take over their identity, so I am happy to see your authentic self still shining through! As always, incredibly informative, enlightening, and inspiring video. Much love to you and Ryan and baby girl on this amazing journey 💞
Totally with you in terms of normalising the mourning your pre baby life and on wishing you weren't pregnant! I have two small humans, love them to bits, but to this day I still find myself missing my childless days - and that's okay!! and totally normal, and doesn't mean we don't love our kids. oh and pregnancy is HARD! i hated every second of both. oh and big big BIG yes to motherhood not having to become your entire identity! it can feel all encompassing sometimes but every parent is still their own entityyyyy and deserves that space to express other parts of themselves, always
Can you please make a video about preparing for baby!? What you’re doing with the apartment, what you’re buying, and how you’re budgeting
Congratulations!! I’m currently 21 weeks with a little boy. I found out on April 1st! I was so sick my doctors thought I had suffered from a stroke. The entire first trimester was horrible but as soon as second hit I finally felt better! You’re super lucky you could fight throwing up my first four days I couldn’t keep anything down at all until after my first er visit and my first trimester craving was orange sherbet 100% needed it always
I'm so glad i found this video. My biggest fear of being pregnant is the fear that comes with it. The fact that your life changes and you may not be ready. This fear has actually driven me to have an abortion in the past. I don't regret it because i believe it wasn't meant to be but this video is so comforting that i believe when the time comes eventually i will be ready
I hate naps too. I wake up sweaty and ready to fight God.
Edit: TW miscarriage/infertility
I was pregnant for 7-8 weeks in 2019 and I was in MISERY. Constant, days-long migraines and body pain. Literally the only thing I could manage to consume was Coke (like the soda lol) and my prenatals. I called out of work the entire time and slept on my couch. My sister had to help me shower.
I wish I'd had a full pregnancy and gotten to experience that second trimester boost, but I'm grateful to have had the tiny amount of time that I did. I haven't been able to get pregnant again since.
is her name going to be samara ???
I'm almost at 14 weeks and the exhaustion kills me more than anything. It feels impossible sometimes to function but on have to still go to work and get through the day. It's like torture sometimes.
I’m 15 weeks and dude… I’m still struggling with the exhaustion! I get why sleep deprivation is a form of torture because exhaustion is insane. Eagerly waiting for the second trimester energy to hit but I’m not getting my hopes up 😩 Fingers crossed for you!
@@1sweetcalamity2did you ever get that burst of energy in the second trimester? I’m 7 weeks now and ughh can’t imagine more of this. I also have a trip to Mexico planned at 18 weeks and hoping I can enjoy it
@@jessicapreston9808 I wouldn’t really say it was a “burst” of energy like some people experience, but I definitely felt like my energy level went back up to a normal amount! I wasn’t sleeping super well in the 2nd trimester though (getting up to pee multiple times overnight) so I would sometimes take a nap in the middle of the day.
really excited for the longer videos, happy to see the notification! ❤️ wishing all the best!
You know its so funny, we are on almost the same weeks of pregnancy! When you announced it, it was like: 'no way'!
I asked on insta but I'll ask again here because I'm super curious, but has pregnancy affected your sensitivity to horror movies surrounding pregnancy or birth? I'm a huge fan of your horror channel because of how much you emphasize not crossing your own boundaries and forcing yourself to watch things that are too disturbing and no longer enjoyable. Also !! just for fun, in a older video like from 2013 or something, you said you were going to name your future daughter Samara, because the Ring is your favorite horror movie? Is Samara still on the list?
That's actually a really cool question, I thank you for asking it. 😊
im not pregnant or even planning on getting pregnant but i do have some weird remedies (for awhile now ive been taking medication that cause headaches and nausea). for the first one i absolutely am with Sarah lemons do help nausea (and spicy food) in my case i sip on a little bit of tajin with fresh lime, spicy food in general helps tho! and for headaches i recommend eating a pinch of salt, i know it sound crazy but it works!
Congrats again Sarah!!! I am so excited to watch your journey with pregnancy!
Thank you for sharing this journey! It's so nice to see this realistic side of pregnancy and the ups and downs of it.
I totally feel you on the fatigue!!! My little guy is 14 months old now and all I remember from my first trimster was working my 9 hour shift and immediately going to sleep when I got home from work because the headaches from the exhaustion were SO bad. It was brutal 😅 all I could eat was apples for the first couple weeks even before I found out lol
I'm glad you're feeling better ❤
I will try the Vaporub trick. I already have a strong sense of smell, pregnant it’s just so intense. All I basically eat is salted crackers, watermelon and yogurt. Can’t wait for the first trimester to be over, will be 11 weeks on Sunday. We need to normalize not being always happy and bubbly during pregnancy, which social media fails at a lot.
Thank you for being so open and honest. I’m 34 and thinking of trying with my partner and feel like I just need to know everything at once and terrified of how I’m going to feel off birth control for the first time in 10 years. I appreciate your openness and willingness to share your journey. So much love to you 🫶🏻
i first found your channel through the 4 non blondes collab channel many moons ago and loved it ever since. it’s been amazing to see you grow as a person and i’m so glad this is happening for the both of you 🤍 your videos brought me a lot of solace through my secondary school years
I have always enjoyed your content, but I especially appreciate these videos because I'm hoping to start a conceiving journey and any and all info is welcome. Thank you for being open!
Literally found myself nodding along and agreeing with everything you’ve said - thank you so much for posting this. Sending you love mama 💕
I’m at the end of my first trimester and I feel so seen by this video! Thank you for sharing your experiences because it makes me feel better knowing I’m not the only one!!!
So glad that you’re making videos on this channel again right now. 🥰 And it’s even more awesome because of your exciting news. 🥰❤️✨
Thank you for sharing. You describe some of the symptoms in my second pregnancy so well. The first pregnancy was much more pleasant physically and my mood was better, so it was difficult to accept the severe nausea, fatigue, and depression symptoms the second time around.
Those pink candies were a staple in my great grandpa's house! My cousin called them ho-ho's when he was little so my family and I have called them ho-ho's since then.
I am just so excited and happy for you!
Thank you acknowledging so many things and feelings. I can relate with you so much. I felt better knowing that I am not alone.
You’re going to be such an amazing mom
Some of the things you said is spot on! I am a little over 11 weeks and this week has been rough! Glad the feelings I have is normal and I am not the only one going through it.
I’m the same as you Sarah. I HATE throwing up. Won’t do it
I thought I was the only person who hated naps! Good to know I am not alone!
I feel you on everything. When you get closer to the end of the third trimester, read Emily Oster’s second book. I read all the pregnancy and birthing books and could not find much about postpartum.
Thank you so much for this video, im just ending my first trimester and my experience has been the exact same thing as yours. My partner and I wanted kids eventually but ours was a major surprise. I also got a cold during week ten and I was SO much more sick and nauseous then normal it was so depressing. I am naturally a very active person and to not be able to do anything has been so hard. Like you said, i want to feel like myself again. So thank you so much for being real about this because i loath how pregnancy is often talked about
Thankyou again for sharing your experience with us! It means so much more coming from someone I've been following for years versus finding pregnancy content on youtube, I hope you continue to enjoy your pregnancy and I truly wish you all the best 💕💕
I am 29 weeks currently and I am going to be a first time mom. Literally everything you said I agreed with and felt 100%. I have struggled mentally and feel as though I was losing my identity as well even though my daughter is very much wanted. I loved getting to hear your perspective.
I'm glad you're posting these recaps, it's really nice to hear these experiences from someone else! I was kind of in denial about being pregnant...one missed period is just stress, right? And then I got to the second missed period...and barfed three times a day for weeks...yeah it was time to admit I'm pregnant. Got the confirmation yesterday and though it's not a "perfect time", I am happy and excited! I don't normally get period cramps so I knew something was up. Luckily I should actually be on the tail end of my first trimester now, and everyone says the second trimester is so much better.
Wanted to add, we got some Little Caesars pizza a few weeks ago I don't know if it was a pregnancy coincidence or if that pizza wrecked me...the first night was fine, but when I tried to have some leftovers I had the worst cramps of my life. Little sitting in the bathroom crying asking "why me?" lmao. It's so miserable!
Definitely don't forget to research/ prepare for "the fourth trimester" aka post partum. It's so common and so easy to get caught up in pregnancy and labor/ delivery learning that we neglect educating ourselves about what comes after. It's a huge life change in so so so many ways. In a similar vein, if you plan on breast/chest feeding, start researching lactation consultants in your area now. That way if you do experience any difficulty, you can get help right away because time is of the essence when it comes to all things lactation.
I’m so happy for you! You’re already an amazing mother.
Loving this videos and hearing your experience!
I’m so happy for you! You’ll be a great mom 💛
So as someone who is also older and has experienced some discrimination for not being pregnant or getting pregnant younger. I was curious if you had experienced any of that given you are over 30? For clarification I am not pregnant nor choose to be however when I have gone to the gyno I have gotten some back lash for being 27 and not having been pregnant yet. Hopefully this made sense I apologize if its to personal of a question .I also live in a very red conservative state.
Hi I apologize I’m not the creator of this video but your comment stuck out to me. I’m over 40 and have chosen not to have children. I have felt that discrimination so much in my life. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. We need to normalize a child free lifestyle. Just bc we choose not to have them doesn’t mean we don’t support or respect people that do. This video is super important to everyone.
Get another doc
the nausea coping advice is gonna save me when i'm pregnant some day! I'll be returning to this video in a couple years or so lol or whenever it happens :)
I’d love to see a what I eat in a day preggo edition :)
I'm almost at 14 weeks, this is my second baby. so this is a fun time for me! love these videos
I so much respect how you do and will choose when or if posting content.(!) But I have to say that I'm so happy to see you again. :) Well done and well doing, thank you so much.
I LOVE sea bands!!! I get nausous a lot from anxiety and they are awesome! I'm wearing them now
I craaaved spicy foods and my one aversion was coffee. It made me so sick after just a sip which sucked bc I lived off it before working nights. Now I'm making up for lost times with sleepless nights with bby😅
Coffee made me SO SICK. The smell was the worst thing in the world during my first trimester. Honestly, being 30 weeks in, it still kind of smells terrible. Lol
Im so excited for you!! Idk if you remember me but i've been watching your vids for years and I mentioned in the comments that I have the same bday as you! I also had my first baby in May, how cool is it that we're both first time moms this year!
I’m so happy for you. I’ve been following you for a long time so I feel like we have grown together. Congratulations! Also, What’s your garlic noodles recipe? 👀
Congratulations! I knew right away too. For me my arms were killing me. I threw up the whole 9 months and got food poisoning at 8 months. That was 16 years ago. 😅😅😅
As a man who may or may not want to become pregnant in the future, I'm very appreciative for your use of neutral terms talking about pregnant people! ❤️ Wishing you luck on the pregnancy/birth/aftermath❤️
Sooooooo exited to watch this video 😊❤️
congratulations!!!
My sister in law is expecting a girl in late November. For her first trimester nausea, I made her a little care package of lemon and ginger tea, candied/crystallised ginger cubes and ginger or lemon cookies.
I'm so excited for this🥰
Congratulations, so happy for you! You videos will be so helpful. I wish I had those videos. U r doing a grear job. I am too
Not me playing your video extra loud whilst laying on the couch feeling miserable so my boyfriend can hear somebody else having the exact same symptoms hahahaha.
Trying to find the energy to play with my toddler and work between the nausia and moodiness.
Can't wait till this pregnancy is over!
Congrats!!
You're glowing!! Im so happy for u
Your happiness is RADIATING Sarah!!🥰❤
So excited for you!!
Awwwwww your bump is so cute
I was pregnant in 2020-2021 and our first trimesters were soo similar ! Especially the garlic aversion and lemons for nausea. I had to put crackers next to my bed and had to eat a handful before I even moved when I woke up and then my breakfast was usually just toast and very cold lemon water. Also the exhaustion, oh the exhaustion….. I laid on the couch for a month and just played sims cause everything else was impossible.
Also hate vomiting so I would just lay very still and will it away
I think we need to normalize not loving your baby right from the beginning. Not connecting to my baby from the start is one of my biggest fears for whenever I do decide to have a baby. But I’ve never met them, how am I supposed to be so connected to someone I’ve never met. Obviously I will love them once they’re here because it’ll be MY baby but we need to normalize not feeling that connection right away.
You're literally one month ahead of me! :D your pregnancy is so similar to mine, it's crazy ... like symptomwise
I think every pregnancy is different. I own a cleaning business and back when I was pregnant, (my son just turned 23) I worked from start to past my due date. So it's physical labor. But I was used to it and I think I was sooooo anxious during my pregnancy that I never really felt super tired. The first trimester I was super depressed and freezing cold all the time. It was the beginning of winter. My first symptom was also very sore boobs. In fact, I thought it was a period coming on because that was usually my first symptom of that. So once I found out I was pregnant, I was so surprised. I was the same as you, we weren't yet really trying to have a baby, but it was in the cards for six months later give or take.
In the first trimester I had really bad nausea all the time and vomited as needed. lol. But I think my depression was really bad. I wanted to miscarry. Hard to say that but that's how I felt. Like you, I knew my life would never be the same and that scared me to death. I had depression all the way through my pregnancy but it got so much better well into the second and third trimester. Also the weather improved and that definitely helped. I found out I was really anemic so that is why I was cold all the time. Beside the prenatals, you really got to have an iron supplement, It's so important. But unfortunately, it was add to the horrible constipation. Honestly, during my pregnancy, the worst physical discomfort I had in the entire nine months was the constipation. So good luck. in my first trimester, I hated the way everything smelled. I could smell people's cologne or simply their body smell. Not really bo just their personal smell. my olfactory was so acute. Similar to wildlife when I pregnant animal needs to smell so well that they could be aware of animal predators. Evolution is a remarkable thing.... but I digress. My first trimester I lived on fruit and grilled cheese sandwiches. It was the only thing that didn't make me nauseous.
Anyways, good luck! And I'd love to hear a birth story a couple weeks after the baby is born. Those are always fun.
With both my pregnancies i could not handle garlic and we also use it in nearly every meal regularly. We buy minced garlic in little glass jars and my husband made fun of me because i had to keep the jar wrapped in a ziplock bag in the bottom of the fridge until i was at least 30 weeks through!
Everything that you’re saying is just 👌
I am almost 24 weeks pregnant and I feel the exact same way..ESPECIALLY the garlic!! Except…my nausea did not go away 🫠 needed actual meds for it bc it was an all day every day event 🙃
We went on a preplanned vacation in Florida when I was 7 weeks. We were there for 5 days and I did not poop the entire time. It was awful.
Also, perinatal depression - I was gobsmacked by this. I didn't know it was a thing. But I was so depressed for legit a few months.
Did you change your diet at all once you were pregnant? (I.e. no longer vegetarian)
It's awesome you'll be keeping baby off the internet. It would be great for you to end your journey with a birth story/experience and postpartem recap maybe?
I don’t think I’ll keep her off the internet completely, I may post photos occasionally on IG and whatnot but yes it will definitely do a birth story and postpartum updates that’s a great idea!
15:28 Omg butter mints!!! I cant that’s so cute lol they’re my favorite. I have them in a little bowl next to my bed lol. (P.S. Sarah you can get them in the bulk candy section at Winco 😉)
thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Congratulations!!!!
Can you do a nursery tour and a baby stuff haul?? 🖤🖤🖤