Sorry to hear about your mom. There are a lot of emotionally detached moms out there and it sucks! 34 and still haven’t been in a serious relationship myself. Don’t give up hope!! 🖤
All good now, my brother...I’ve come a long way since parting ways with her. Nothing wrong with being single at that age...at least you’re not miserably married with kids. Same for you, man! Let’s just embrace this time we have for ourselves.
The story of your mom really hit home for me. I avoid relationships because my parents fought constantly and I was never exposed to a healthy relationship growing up, and now I have a fear that I will end up in the same situation
Thank you for sharing that..I feel for you on your choice to do so. We shouldn’t have to go through those times but it has taught me on what’s out there. I hope you can overcome that someday - we aren’t slaves to our past.
i'm 24, been alone my whole life. never dated or been in a relationship. at this point, i'm very much convinced i will be alone for the rest of my life. i've desired being alone more than having someone in my life. i hate online dating, it doesn't work for me at all. in real life, it's not any better. I'm never successful with girls. i don't ever plan to be. i've come to loath romance. i love your video, it's a really good one. glad to hear another person and man struggling with this. but i will always remain broken and saddened in this frame of life
Don’t give up! You’re still sooo young. Just work on yourself to be the way version of yourself career, gym, building friends and family relations.. and it will one day come
Thank you for uploading this video, opening up, sharing your thoughts. I'm in my late late twenties, also never had a long term relationship. Being single can effect you in many ways, wether it's feeling lonely, low self-esteem, feeling left out, do I have fear of commitment? Is there something wrong with me? But sometimes it's just nice to know: hey, I'm not alone in this. It's not me! It's just life! It's just didn't happen for me yet. Still a every day struggle, but I think it's important to not let it effect your confidence, self-esteem, self love. That's it :) greetings, Charlotte
Absolutely! I agree. It’s important to use this time we have to ourselves to build up and grow...without all the negative distractions that come with a relationship. A lot of time can be wasted for nothing. I appreciate you! 💙
Hearing you talk about how you didn’t get love from your mom making me realize I’m taking what my mom do for granted. I used to find her annoying but I realize that I’m loved and I should cherish it
You're exactly right bro. Focus on yourself. I've been in a couple of relationships, and have gotten over them. And Relationships carry weight to them, like you said. I made it a choice not to have kids, due to seeing failed marriages, observing from others. And not all people are like that, there are people who stick with it. Through thick and thin. You want to be with someone, who wants you, for the person you are. And you're right, it is hard. Good video man.
Whether you find love in your 30s, 40s 50s 60s etc, a relationship is still a relationship. It may feel different, but it can still be good. Finding love is a journey, not a competition.
"Finding love is a journey, not a competition". THIS. Awesome quote, and thank you for coming up with it. So many people rush into one without considering the downsides.
1:Be yourself 2:be fun to be around 3:be funny, keep her laughing is key 4:never simp Once you see that she is attracted to you just be yourself she will like you for who you are make her want to be your girlfriend not the other way around.
bro you talking about not getting any love from your mother made me tear up cuz i wouldnt be alive without mine my mom always stuck with me even through my worst days
I can understand your situation one hundred percent. I'm sorry about your situation, I have had similar experiences to yours. When you started crying, I cried too. Because I know what it means to live without friends. I was two years from 21 to 23 years only. I saw a friend from time to time, but only 4 times a year. And the bewilderment I felt in those years was horrible. No girl. Stomach health problems, which I still have when I am almost 31 years old, I had enrolled in university but had not passed. I went into depression and anxiety for nearly two years. The year before I had a serious stomach problem, but I still had friends, but they turned out to be bad people, so I decided to drop them. After doing therapy, I went back to college to get a degree and in the meantime I had found a friend and it held up for a couple of years, after that things went downhill. I wish him all the best in the world, but a toxic climate had been created, because people had gotten in the way to cause discord and I hated that. From 28 to 29 I was left alone again. During the lockdown I had the thought of killing myself, luckily I live with my parents, otherwise I don't know if I would be alive. Now I'm thinking of radically changing my very precarious job (I live in Italy) And over time I have made 2 3 friends who I don't see much, because we don't live nearby. Friend, there is always the possibility, rest assured that things will be fine :) A person who had lost hope in life tells you that. I still have a hard time believing in life, for everything that has happened to me, but now maybe I have finally found a girl even if at a distance, but I don't care because I like her a lot. But until I was 28, I had only kissed girls and something more. Then things changed, but you still feel that strong sense of inadequacy, because I'm not the classic macho alpha super extrovert that follows that crazy Jordan Peterson, I'm more introverted and less inclined to have big social groups, I love Soundgarden, Radiohead, Nirvana and Pearl jam, books, nature, writing, reading, playing the guitar, jogging and singing and composing graphics. But I hate this social stigma on men who are more introverted, have mental health difficulties or don't have many friends or aren't rich enough or have health problems. I've never been a leader.
Being honest with ourselves is a step towards really connecting to who we really are. I never want any young man/woman to self destruct themselves the way I did for years. I appreciate your time. 💙
Same 40 never had a girlfriend. Just one sexual encounter with prostitute at 23. At least now I have business 1 house paid off working on second one. Gonna retire at 47. Marrying early never good idea anyway. My cousin looks like his 60 years old and his younger than me by 1 year. Married for 19 years the guy so yeah hahaha. Single and everyday slowly becoming happier with myself. One life lesson I learned don't lend people money. Never put yourself down in front of other people too.
Damn...you may feel like you missed out but it’s nerve wrecking thinking you caught a deadly disease..not knowing if you have anything, plus wasting time with girls that you have no connection with, too many for me to count. I totally believe you about your cousin...a lot of people tend to settle cause they “Found the one..” congrats on your success and retiring in 7 years! You did all that by yourself with no girl around - I’m proud of you for that. I appreciate the advice...wise tips, especially trust not being a trait found in people these days.
@@Mylastavatar 1 advice brother never lend anyone money. Please don't do what I did and lend $62000. Some guy friend who tried getting his boxing career. He got no where and yea. His paying me back 500 a month. Yea trust friendship gone though. Lend 50 bux maximum if you lose that it's will never affect you in negative way. That's all I wanted to say life advice wisdom. Great channel hope you get millions of subscribes.
by listening to your story (I can relate in certain ways but I'm a woman) I can tell you're subconciosly choosing to not be in a relationship by putting relationships on a pedestal. There is a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving love because you never received it from your primary caregiver. I came to similar realizations and currently going to the process of healing my wounds to release the negative beliefs that keep creating the same outcomes. But there's hope, once you become aware of what's blocking your desires then you can work to remove those blocks and receive the love you truly want.
I'm almost 30 as well. Never been in a relationship or stuff like that. I enjoy my life either way! I wouldn't even try to find anybody just live your life
For me love is just love,i'm 22 years old and never have had a boyfriend before but i still enjoy my life and never worry abt it! Sometimes even my family members amazed at my attitude,they don't understand why at this age while many other women worrying and rushing to find a man and get married i can be so carefree like that! They also think i'm gay😂
I know EXACTLY what you mean in this video. I wanted a bf, but the way I was raised hindered that for me. I did briefly have a bf in hs, but that was a dumpster fire and I did some dating, but never had another bf. I don't care anymore though, I think we're the same age and there are more important things. I don't think those "fine" girls are the worst ones to go for, but its what you consider "fine" I guess and you have to have the confidence to approach them and face rejection. The truth is, you have to be attracted to the person that you're going to be with so you're not wrong for not wanting the girls that you didn't want.
22:11 I get it, I’m experiencing the same thing… that’s cause when you grow up having never experienced a relationship, having a girlfriend feels like something unordinary, like something out of your lifestyle.
Hello, i have to comment, i am in the same situation, your mother is very similar to my father. The sad thing here is that to the world, we look like we are the crazy, frustrated people with issues when in fact we are very simple, just longing for love. But I hate when people say, love yourself only , I am sorry but it feels like people think I am stupid or something, like I can't take care of myself, like I don't enjoy being alone. I just want to share things with someone and for that I need someone else, it doesn't help if I love myself only, it is not about enjoying alone time.
Yeah the love yourself concept is overused these days. Maybe it's true in certain aspects and to an extent. But that cannot always be the primary reason. We are not spending our lives constantly looking for validation. We're looking for something that's real and valuable.
Hey man, I've been dealing with the same feelings especially since I was 26, 4 years down the line and nothing changed, things have become worse, never had a girlfriend and never was in anykind of relationship long or short, had to hire a hooker to loose my viginity as the whole thing had started weighing heavily upon me, the experience was horrible and I wish I hadn't done it.
Yeah I learned that female nature nowadays, most of them don’t even love themselves. They try to find someone that make them happy. Statistically the divorce rates these days are just sad. Since I’m on retention nowadays girls slide all the time. I don’t distant myself from them though. I do enjoy the connection like conversation, hugging and affection from a girl. But I don’t really take it serious like that anymore unless she is carrying a good energy within her. I channel my energy to working out more now, eating right and spending time alone. Bro I can be going out with the boys or long boarding to places by myself and be happy asf. A girl is only out my league if I give her that tile from my experienced. Glad to see u back, keep it up!
Wow! I’m so proud of you, man. That’s real good news - in less than a year you’re going to be even better than what you are today. Have you considered stating your own channel and sharing your journey? I appreciate your time so much - thank you. 💙
TheBachelorExperience thanks man, I always have that thought in the back of my mind. Im into auto photography & videography now, still waiting for my setup to come in because I just moved state. I might create a channel for my journey. As of right now, still grinding✊🏼
That's not necessarily why, man. My mother is plenty kind and supportive, so I don't have any issues there. But I have always suffered from wanting to get women, wanting to BE WANTED by attractive women, etc. It's built into a lot of genetically as men. Not everyone experiences this to the same degree simply for genetic reasons, but those of who experience it strongly will struggle with this regardless of our upbringing.
Yeap us men need to blame ourselves too for too high standards. Physical attraction is important but so are ither qualities in women. Guess we are our own wirst enemies
I turned 30 in May and haven't had a real boyfriend. Like a legitimate committed boyfriend who cares for me, etc. It sucks but I'm a peace knowing the terrible guys I've come across never lasted. It was all ment to be. Or not ment to be lol.
It’s better to be at peace this way...could you imagine a life with multiple children & an abusive spouse? It’s everywhere. Consider this mercy for both of us. However, I totally get that you always wanted that love. Whether it’s meant to be or not - our heart’s still beating.
18:37 that’s the point that all of the people who say “just wait, someday you will be with a girl. You still have time” don’t get. Thinking that way will lead you to become an elder who never acted to change his situation; you can’t have back the time you’ve lost.
You seem very nice....maybe you're meant for something important in life, maybe to do big things for people and it will take up all your energy. Be truthful....say look I don't have the energy to meet your needs but can we be friends? Then see how rewarding it is to be a friend.
so what is the psychological name for the condition you have where you "feel weird" just thinking you could be someone's boyfriend etc. there must be a term for that. i think saying unworthy or low self esteem or the like don't fit. there seems to be a real condition that this would be referred to as....and I would like to do research once I know how to describe this. would like to know. good luck.
Im 25 and ive never even been on a date let alone a relationship. I feel it has to do with looks and im trying to change, im hitting the gym and changing my diet, im trying to get completely shredded. I have tried taking girls out on dates, ive tried dating apps and no luck.
I can promise you it’s not looks. Not saying they aren’t important but I’ve seen guys who aren’t your stereotypical good looking guys with girlfriends/wives. If you really think it’s your looks, maybe ask some close friends (male or female) for their blunt honest opinion to rate your appearance. It’s good that your going to the gym though! I just feel like dating in general is more favoured towards people who are more extroverted and outgoing, hence the whole “put yourself out there” advice that gets thrown around a lot but can be hard or not as natural for someone who is more introverted.
@@jc9876 it’s energy, and the variables are many including environment, a tad bit of right timing, upbringing, development stage, hormonal state, societal programming at any given era, self confidence or lack of. Now the confidence around women when you have no experience can be tricky, but a lot fake it until they make it. Everyman has a tribe of women who will view you as there type. Priorities also, men prioritize or desire for women hits different levels at different phases enough to motivate them to chase. Also a womens imprint affects who she gravitate to especially after the first man imprints her.
I've never experienced one too. Not even in school (I went to an all boys school during my teen years) I'm 22, I'm someone who doesent want to go through that PUA route it isnt my cup of tea.
its been awhile since I had a gf. Last time was in my early 20s and then spent most of my time focusing on school after the breakup. I was close to meeting someone at school my last year but she had a bf but I was crushing on her hard. She'd ask me if I had a gf, we'd flirt, and one point she's walking with her arms around my arm like we were a couple at school but fuck man, why did she have to have a bf. I wanted to make a move bad cause she was showing me she wanted me but I couldnt pull the trigger knowing Im taking somebody's girl. I just couldn't do it. Still single to this day.
I always regret not having a relationship in school. I'm 28 feel empty or sad sometimes but i always think not having fun in school or relationship in school. I cant even relate to love songs since no one ever wanted me
I am 21 so I am 7 years younger than you and never had a girlfriend too so I can relate to whatever you said. I had crush on a girl from my college who is 19 and she too rejected me recently. I use 4 dating apps and only got 2 matches so far and none of them worked out. And I am not getting any matches since then. I never even had my first kiss yet. Makes me sad that I could never experience young love. I do chat with some girls on the app meetme but they are in different countries. I did find another girl who is 18 almost 19 and I managed to flatter her with my sweet words and got a little crush on her and she is from my country but she lives in the neighboring state to my city so it's still a long distance.
The guy you talked at beginning didnt do much, and thats the point, your way is to win the girl, other guys think is that girl good enough for them. They dont over-pursue, they dont text much. Also you must have self-confidence, never show weakness, and dont comply to girls demands if you dont like them just to please her.
The fact that you’re saying all women are black and white and will never love any man just shows your level of insecurity. Fix your own internal issues and stop blaming women for YOU not being able to make real connections.
I’m 33 and also never been in a relationship… my mom was very loving/affectionate but very overprotective to the point of not allowing me to talk to boys or even have a guy over as a friend in the home all throughout my 20s…
Damn. Would you date a guy my age tho who too never had a gf? I am a guy who turned 23 just 6 days ago and I never had a girlfriend before. I did have my first ever date 3 months ago at the age of 22. She is 19(turning 20 next month) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds and then we hugged and took pics and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was really cute. But 2 weeks after the date, she became toxic to me and blocked me on all social media apps. She basically just used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her. I also have crush on this another girl who is also 22 (turning 23 next month) in a class where I go for preparation of several exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college like 5 months ago and planning to study MBA next. I am generally shy near her and she is the one who starts conversations with me. She also has called me cute a several times and I pulled her cheeks twice too and gave her chocolate once but I see her being with her male friends a lot and now due to exams we aren't able to meet. 2 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23. We are just friends tho and we roamed around the city that day and had lunch in a big restaurant. We also took several selfie and I pulled her cheeks as well but was shy to ask for a hug. She even called me an amazing person on my birthday 6 days ago. I also am following several girls from the institute I go to who are within 21-25 age range on Instagram but I am yet to send them a message. I also have been chatting with this another girl for several months on Instagram and she is 19(turning 20 in April) and we used to be in the same school but she was my junior so we didn't know each other during school days. She is very sweet and caring and chatting with her makes my mood much better. We send each other virtual hugs daily too and we are both foodies and like talking about food a lot. We plan to meet one day too and eat somewhere nice. But in the end, I am still single.
@@manosijroy8282 why would you want to date an inexperienced 33 year old woman? Please try to date someone more in your close age range even if it means having bad luck b/c sometimes every mistake/setback you might be experiencing right now may try to be teaching us something about ourselves/lesson and it’s just life, it doesn’t always go our way but while youare still here, you keep trying for what we want/desire and move on… if you contemplate and think too hard on the past or what ifs it’s only going to make you feel more depressed/not enough…
I am 43 and me either. I was homeschooled though and worked all the time. I screwed up but to be honest all women are divorcing their husbands. My parents ripped me from my friends all the time. My father was military
Hey man did you have a girlfriend before? Still try not to lose hope man. I am 21 now in last year of college so I am over 2 decades younger than you and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.
@@manosijthehero3686 So when I was a teen I knew a girl that wanted to marry me and she was actually attractive and very much wife material. Her family moved away and she would write me letters. I one day just said forget it. This won't work. I gave up because I assumed I would meet another woman. I was so wrong. Women these days want sex and that's it. If this girl is into premarital sex then don't bother. I have had some issues with abuse so to be honest I only went on a few dates. I have problems with connecting with people because of past issues. If she's trustworthy than yeah do stuff with her and just get to know her. Dating doesn't work. Dating apps are useless. Marriage is dangerous in America. I don't know where you live.
In 5 years time I will be 30 and I have never been in a relationship, never been hugged by a women, never been kissed, never had sex and I'm still a virgin. People say that I am a nice guy and I've heard that women want nice guys but they never came to me.
I'm almost 22 single my whole life had a few crushes but they all rejected me so I'm focused on me lol and I don't feel like I ever need a relationship as long as I have my family and friends that's all I need and my hobbies
@@Mylastavatar yeah I also wonder if I'm aromantic cause I see how I'm fine being single doing my own thing while others look for relationships plus the idea of having to answer to someone for everything you do they don't like is a turn off a huge one too for me personally
let's look at this do you have male friends ? you made a connection with them. you made yourself open to spending time with them. I want you to look at girls like meeting a male you want to be friends with. because if you start with a friendship it can grow into a deeper love
My level of thinking has grown tremendously…even my 1st friend I ever made 20+ years ago wouldn’t comprehend my journey. It’s so liberating to just chill and talk to a girl without even expecting a connection or feelings lol.
@@Mylastavatar I am glad to see you are relaxing and not being so intense remember that you cannot look for your happiness from someone else you bring your happiness into a relationship and it gets mirrored back to you, I think you should do an update video to let others whom may be in your same situation and state of mind Let them explore your journey with you. tell them how you are changing and learning to find someone to meet to date to love etc keep smiling "you have a wonderfully inviting smile" and go carefully
How old are you now? Did you have a gf before? Same dude. I am 21 now in last year of college and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.
@@manosijthehero3686 I’m 19 right now, never had a gf before, I’m also going into college. I’ve used bumble and tinder I got a like 3 matches on tinder and 1 bumble none of them worked out. I even tried with a girl at my work place but that went bad too. I could go more into detail but I don’t want to make this comment longer than it already is. I would say to go for it, if she likes you though you will know based on how much interest she has shown in you. If she does show interest then that’s where you can invite her over to some coffee or something. I would also say it’s always better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all and not know for sure if she has any feelings for you.
It’s time to try dating a man. It’s a different world. I’ve been with my guy for 18 years now and we have 2 kids. We live in suburbs, nice house. 2 incomes is sweet. Guys always want sex. Just find a top or bottom, your preference. I cook, clean and my guy does everything outside. We rarely, if ever fight. Your very handsome and the guys would adore you.
Mine a strange situation, I'm 32 age and no relationships ,do you know why,, lots of people think I look gay which I'm not, my body looks a little feminine slim build and I don't talk about girls or sex with them because I never desperate for 1 tbh,and I like to wear top brand clothing, I look after myself afterall, this gives off the wrong impression,, I be focused on myself so much to the point that people are disturbed by it, idk
The thing I've found is I know of some really ugly guys with bad attitudes and for some reason they're never short of women. There's one guy who's about 50 and he's short, balding and he looks like a hobo, but he recently got another girlfriend after talking to her in a food store. She's 24 and attractive. I just don't get it. A lot of these guys who've never had a girlfriend are attractive, nice guys. I guess they don't have what other guys have. I don't know what the hell that is, but I'd like to know.
Some percentage of females are just attracted to men significantly older than them. And it's not always because of money or physical. There are girls who are genuinely attracted to much older guys who are not rich or physically attractive, but because they're just experienced, mature, and girls find these qualities alone incredibly attractive and irresistible.
@@nested9006 Its kinda strange because I am 22 who never had a gf before and was chatting on Instagram with a girl who is 18 closer to turning 19. We were in the same school but didn't know each other those days. We had been chatting for 3-4 days and then I just asked for a virtual hug and she replied "its really creepy of you to be texting this to an 18 year old as a 22 year old." She is literally in 2nd year of college now with a late birthday and I just completed college 2 weeks ago and will be studying MBA next so will still be a student for 2 more years and we are only 3-4 years apart in age which is nothing. I explained her how our ages aren't too far apart but then she replied that it really isn't about the age actually but due to the fact that we are strangers and never met and I am asking her for internet hugs. So how come these 40 and 50 year old men able to date much younger women whereas even 18 and 22 is frowned upon often?
I believe some Guys have “IT” what ever “IT” is some type of vibe conversation skills and the others like me don’t ..I’ve never been on a date either I’ve asked em out in person I’ve been direct with my approach got rejected maybe 7 times last year
Don't know if I'll watch the whole video. But he looks like an actor or something and not have had a relationship. But chances do others have. Whatever, I'll go call and get me a "date">
For the past couple of years now or more, it has annoyed and irritated me that cases like this are male-dominated, as in, people who end up single this long or more, oh well, it should be obvious as to why it's like that.
Believe me, I understand your frustration...it gets so much built up that eventually all that energy transmutes into something else. I’m just over it, really, you know? Hell, I consider a blessing if guys like us are still this far in life with no kids/divorce. It’s like, maybe it’s not so bad after all lol*
@@Mylastavatar yup, there are pros to it, but ya, I feel this is a good example as to why it's expected for cases like that to be male-dominated. When Hollywood made the movie the 40 year old virgin, that's why the main character was a guy, male, I highly doubt they will ever make a movie like that in which the main character is a woman.
Less worry on our plates. It sucks being in bed at night & “Worrying” if your romantic interest could be talking to somebody else, or even screwing around at that very moment.
@@Mylastavatar I mean bring love was one of the greatest feelings in the world I’ve experienced but losing it is the greatest pain you can imagine. But I think would have rather experienced it once than never cause it was a beautiful thing
I have no doubt this is another male in this situation, for the past couple years now it has been a depressing and irritating reminder how normally men who go far or deep into adult and never had a relationship before or still a virgin.
Enjoy being single.once u fall in love and do stupid things like paying for a family and home for the next 30 years and that is assuming it all goes well.
Natasha it’s not all bad. Look how far you’ve made it and how much bullshit you’ve avoided by never being in a relationship. It comes with its comes and downs - it’s whether or not you choose to believe it’s worth it all. Until if we actually meet our soulmate, it’s a perfect time to find ourselves & discover our purpose.
Sounds like your mom is a narcissist. I know people throw that term around a lot, but if she was.........then that probably has a lot to do with your comfort level around women and you may not be aware if it, but women can sense that awkwardness and it makes them uncomfortable. I would suggest some counseling, geared towards getting off your chest your toxic childhood with the understanding you want to move towards having an emotionally healthy and loving relationship. Try and uncover how your toxic childhood is keeping you from enjoying that reality. You are a very handsome man and articulate.........don't give up, but in my opinion, you need some professional help to sort all of that out. Your mom has done more damage than just the face value verbal abuse.
There are no magic words or sequence of actions that you can memorize and execute to win a girlfriend. The rules are too general and abstract to be reduced to a formula.
I'm 32 and still a virgin. Some of the people who I went to Jr. high/high school with... they're married now. Some even have kids, which does make me feel old, lol.... It's still nice to know that I still have some freedom left...no kids, and don't have to worry about if things go wrong in a divorce. Happy for my friends who are truly in a loving marriage though😊
Staying alone should never feel like the end of the world. But to know you made it to this age without possibly ending up with an abusive man or something...it should offer some relief. There’s pros & cons to both sides. Take this time for yourself! Lots to discover. I appreciate you watching.
@@Mylastavatar Thank you.. that’s very true. I don’t mind being on my own- mostly, I like it. It feels like for a reason and meant to be. Not sure how it looks when I’m an old woman 🤔 but deal with that later. 😅
@@xxsfiaxx you learn to love it actually...no one there to judge you or make unnecessary comments. Let's not worry about the future..just enjoy now. (:
@@Mylastavatar That’s good to hear.. hope so! Those are some pros, it is nice to be able to reflect (like you said, pros/ cons). Thanks again. And true, :) to be more present. I hope old self won’t resent today’s self 😊. If stay life long, will be a 0.3% statistic, which is interesting. (according to world stats).
Almost sixty, and here is just one guy's opinion, based on personal experience and a lifetime of involontary observations. People are baffled by novels, songs, movies and all sorts of cultural creations. Love does NOT exist, it's an abundantly romanticized or civilized down version of the caveman's prey. There are two, and only two reasons for a man to seek a female companion ( which initially was considered property ) : 1- The search for a S-X toy and 2- The approval of a Mother figure. That's it, sorry. Women are only in love with themselves, what they need is some kind of worship, that really makes them happy ( for a while anyway ). We talk about love so much. About its many problematics, drama bursts, betrayals of all sorts and bitter disapointments. We just never learn, do we ? Love is a fairytale for toddlers ( who are the reflection of our pathetic egos, and who are soon going to tell us to F-CK OFF. ). It's OK to search for love. Just get it in your thick skull that whatever you think you're experiencing is NOT love, just the comforting ILLUSION of love. Nature wants us to reproduce, and Nature has ALL the best tricks. We can't get along, simply because we crave for freedom, and one's freedom ends where another one begins. Conflicts are so unavoidable. It's just a matter of time 'till we reach the last straw event, and then we break up, and then we hate each other, and then we miss each other, and then we go insane, and then some move on. So don't take it personal. There is nothing wrong with you. You are worth love, but human love isn't real love. So love who you are, especially if you have a bad health condition. It' NOT your fault. Now enjoy the big rollercoster.
I bet you at least had girlfriends and not a forever single guy like me. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and not even a kiss or hug. I feel FOMO all the time and feel terrible when I see couples. Got rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago. Honestly I am an introvert too so I am relying on online dating to meet girls but having no matches on dating apps. Even if I rarely get one, they ghost me all the time. I also chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in school days and they are mostly 19-22 age range but many of them ghosted and blocked me too because I was too shy near girls in my school days so never interacted with them in school so I am almost a stranger to them. Only 4 or 5 of them chats daily with me and 2 of them both 20 year olds are sweet to me and we send virtual hugs to each other and I also chat with a 19 year old girl regularly. I wanna try my luck with this girl who was my childhood friend when we were in elementary school. She is 21 now turning 22 after 3-4 months and I really wanna ask her out for a date but I don't know whether she would want to or not.
@@manosijroy8282 My dear comrade. I strongly empathize with your situation. I know that longing but too well. First, understand that you are far from alone in this case. Our societies values turn mostly around wealth, beauty, and sadly, competition. Those superficial values may have made you lost track with your own beauty and high value. Dating apps attrack 65% male and 35% female. Most female are there for validation, so you're waisting your time, like most guys on those apps. Never EVER forget that you are alive because you are loved by your creator. We all have to learn our own lessons in love, and everybody ends up dissapointed with what this dimension has to offer. Maybe THAT'S the lesson. That what you crave for, while legitimate, is unrealistic for many many reasons. Without knowing you, I'm sure that something good will eventually come your way. Hold on and ask for God's LOVE, even if you think it futile. Connect with the God of your heart, trust him, and watch what happens. Peace be with you my brother.
@@rsviews2167 You believe in God but think love doesn't exist? We have the ability to love because we're made in His image. I'm sorry you feel this way, I personally have witnessed true undying love between people that is definitely not an illusion. Also, calling women men's "sex toys" ...i'm not even gonna go into how disgusting and sexist that is cause if you can't see that yourself then I don't even know what to tell you. You might definitely want to change that attitude if you're looking for somebody though. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences but that definitely does not mean that women in general are only in love with themselves. I will pray for your healing.
@@martina-dd6vb Don't pray. It's a waste of your time. You have the right to disagree, even to be rude if you like. It's not going to change anything, and it doesn't offend me at all. I did not come on this plane to please anybody. The truth is the truth, even when it's ugly. I wish you well. I know you are well intended.
you want women because its normal, any man want women especially if they are 30yo and they see everyone else with dating or making families and what not and they can get it. Nothing to do with mommy trauma
These girls probably felt the desperation. I mean, just going to several malls just to meet girls, that sounds a bit creepy tbh. I mean, scouting… For real though? I’m glad you changed your attitude. Maybe you will meet a nice plus size lady someday who actually has your best interest in heart/in mind… Instead of just going after a woman for how she looks…
"A nice plus size lady"..... You know that they have options too, right? They don't just throw themselves at ANY guy(or girl). Your comment didn't help and you're offering advice that he didn't ask for. Whenever he goes back into dating he'll go after women he's truly attracted to. You don't want to lead someone on, thinking that you'll break up with them later on. You never loved them to begin with if that's the case.
You just have to remember guys that it is these very pathetic low life loser narcissists feminists gold digging women that are very much too blame for this mess today in the first place, since we have nothing to be ashamed about and we have no reason at all too blame ourselves either why so many of us single guys can't find love today. A very big change in the women today compared to the old days unfortunately.
Because it‘s only about looks, lel. They found men more attractive thn you and traded up. As simple as that. If you‘re not the best option at this moment, this will tend to occur.
Same and I am 11 years younger. I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend either and got rejected by 2 of my crushes in my college recently. Btw yesterday I heard a song which was released in 2009 and I felt nostalgic hearing it and it reminds me of a girl whom I knew since my school days. She was in the same grade as me but we weren't in the same class and she changed school after 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe 22 now so the same age as me and I followed her on Instagram but she hasn't accepted my follow request yet. I wish she could be my girlfriend now but she is too pretty and I was considered a loser by most guys in my grade in high school so maybe she would still find me lame even though she probably didn't know me properly. She also probably has a boyfriend. I really wish she follow me back so I can chat with her and get to know her.
Sorry to hear about your mom. There are a lot of emotionally detached moms out there and it sucks! 34 and still haven’t been in a serious relationship myself. Don’t give up hope!! 🖤
All good now, my brother...I’ve come a long way since parting ways with her.
Nothing wrong with being single at that age...at least you’re not miserably married with kids. Same for you, man! Let’s just embrace this time we have for ourselves.
The story of your mom really hit home for me. I avoid relationships because my parents fought constantly and I was never exposed to a healthy relationship growing up, and now I have a fear that I will end up in the same situation
Thank you for sharing that..I feel for you on your choice to do so. We shouldn’t have to go through those times but it has taught me on what’s out there. I hope you can overcome that someday - we aren’t slaves to our past.
i'm 24, been alone my whole life. never dated or been in a relationship. at this point, i'm very much convinced i will be alone for the rest of my life. i've desired being alone more than having someone in my life. i hate online dating, it doesn't work for me at all. in real life, it's not any better. I'm never successful with girls. i don't ever plan to be. i've come to loath romance. i love your video, it's a really good one. glad to hear another person and man struggling with this. but i will always remain broken and saddened in this frame of life
Thank you for watching! And we can’t get girls for a reason, bro... we never needed one!
I'm going to the same path as you bro, in my case, im 27y and i never kissed a girl.
Don’t give up! You’re still sooo young. Just work on yourself to be the way version of yourself career, gym, building friends and family relations.. and it will one day come
27. Pushing through med school right now. Same situation.
@@mpro9446 24 is not young lol he's running out of time
I Have Never Had A Girlfriend and Still A Virgin At 38 and Never Had Any Friends. I Don't Care. It Ain't My Fault I Can't Make People Be My Friend
Good point
I’m 28 and in the same boat. Never been in a real deal relationship.
Thank you for uploading this video, opening up, sharing your thoughts. I'm in my late late twenties, also never had a long term relationship. Being single can effect you in many ways, wether it's feeling lonely, low self-esteem, feeling left out, do I have fear of commitment? Is there something wrong with me? But sometimes it's just nice to know: hey, I'm not alone in this. It's not me! It's just life! It's just didn't happen for me yet. Still a every day struggle, but I think it's important to not let it effect your confidence, self-esteem, self love. That's it :) greetings, Charlotte
Absolutely! I agree. It’s important to use this time we have to ourselves to build up and grow...without all the negative distractions that come with a relationship. A lot of time can be wasted for nothing. I appreciate you! 💙
Hearing you talk about how you didn’t get love from your mom making me realize I’m taking what my mom do for granted. I used to find her annoying but I realize that I’m loved and I should cherish it
It’s not your fault. And definitely not too late.
You're exactly right bro. Focus on yourself. I've been in a couple of relationships, and have gotten over them. And Relationships carry weight to them, like you said. I made it a choice not to have kids, due to seeing failed marriages, observing from others. And not all people are like that, there are people who stick with it. Through thick and thin. You want to be with someone, who wants you, for the person you are. And you're right, it is hard. Good video man.
Thank you for that.
Whether you find love in your 30s, 40s 50s 60s etc, a relationship is still a relationship. It may feel different, but it can still be good. Finding love is a journey, not a competition.
Quincy Rodgers thank you, sir. 💙
The longer you wait the harder it is
"Finding love is a journey, not a competition".
THIS. Awesome quote, and thank you for coming up with it. So many people rush into one without considering the downsides.
What if you want kids?
@@BennieWilll Adopt, or get a pet.
Some people like having pets more than taking care of kids.
Same I’ve never been in a real adult relationship & I’m 27. I mainly go for personality & morals. It’s hard to find that nowadays
Enough finding. At least external…time for internal.
1:Be yourself
2:be fun to be around
3:be funny, keep her laughing is key
4:never simp
Once you see that she is attracted to you just be yourself she will like you for who you are make her want to be your girlfriend not the other way around.
@@vincentreyes7534 "just be yourself but don't be yourself too much bro"
Such a cope.
bro you talking about not getting any love from your mother made me tear up cuz i wouldnt be alive without mine my mom always stuck with me even through my worst days
I can understand your situation one hundred percent. I'm sorry about your situation, I have had similar experiences to yours. When you started crying, I cried too. Because I know what it means to live without friends. I was two years from 21 to 23 years only. I saw a friend from time to time, but only 4 times a year. And the bewilderment I felt in those years was horrible. No girl. Stomach health problems, which I still have when I am almost 31 years old, I had enrolled in university but had not passed. I went into depression and anxiety for nearly two years. The year before I had a serious stomach problem, but I still had friends, but they turned out to be bad people, so I decided to drop them. After doing therapy, I went back to college to get a degree and in the meantime I had found a friend and it held up for a couple of years, after that things went downhill. I wish him all the best in the world, but a toxic climate had been created, because people had gotten in the way to cause discord and I hated that. From 28 to 29 I was left alone again. During the lockdown I had the thought of killing myself, luckily I live with my parents, otherwise I don't know if I would be alive. Now I'm thinking of radically changing my very precarious job (I live in Italy) And over time I have made 2 3 friends who I don't see much, because we don't live nearby. Friend, there is always the possibility, rest assured that things will be fine :) A person who had lost hope in life tells you that. I still have a hard time believing in life, for everything that has happened to me, but now maybe I have finally found a girl even if at a distance, but I don't care because I like her a lot. But until I was 28, I had only kissed girls and something more. Then things changed, but you still feel that strong sense of inadequacy, because I'm not the classic macho alpha super extrovert that follows that crazy Jordan Peterson, I'm more introverted and less inclined to have big social groups, I love Soundgarden, Radiohead, Nirvana and Pearl jam, books, nature, writing, reading, playing the guitar, jogging and singing and composing graphics. But I hate this social stigma on men who are more introverted, have mental health difficulties or don't have many friends or aren't rich enough or have health problems. I've never been a leader.
Dude you seem so interesting. What a story….I know a lot of it was bad but all in all I am glad you’re still with us, man. You deserve to live.
@@Mylastavatar thx you man! Is a pleasure. I always find interesting stories like yours. Are you born in 92? I'm 91
When you said you wanted it too much, that really hit my core 😂😅
Being honest with ourselves is a step towards really connecting to who we really are. I never want any young man/woman to self destruct themselves the way I did for years. I appreciate your time. 💙
Same 40 never had a girlfriend. Just one sexual encounter with prostitute at 23. At least now I have business 1 house paid off working on second one. Gonna retire at 47.
Marrying early never good idea anyway. My cousin looks like his 60 years old and his younger than me by 1 year. Married for 19 years the guy so yeah hahaha.
Single and everyday slowly becoming happier with myself.
One life lesson I learned don't lend people money. Never put yourself down in front of other people too.
Damn...you may feel like you missed out but it’s nerve wrecking thinking you caught a deadly disease..not knowing if you have anything, plus wasting time with girls that you have no connection with, too many for me to count.
I totally believe you about your cousin...a lot of people tend to settle cause they “Found the one..” congrats on your success and retiring in 7 years! You did all that by yourself with no girl around - I’m proud of you for that.
I appreciate the advice...wise tips, especially trust not being a trait found in people these days.
@@Mylastavatar 1 advice brother never lend anyone money. Please don't do what I did and lend $62000. Some guy friend who tried getting his boxing career. He got no where and yea. His paying me back 500 a month. Yea trust friendship gone though.
Lend 50 bux maximum if you lose that it's will never affect you in negative way. That's all I wanted to say life advice wisdom.
Great channel hope you get millions of subscribes.
Great message. Thank you for sharing.
Thank You.
by listening to your story (I can relate in certain ways but I'm a woman) I can tell you're subconciosly choosing to not be in a relationship by putting relationships on a pedestal. There is a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving love because you never received it from your primary caregiver. I came to similar realizations and currently going to the process of healing my wounds to release the negative beliefs that keep creating the same outcomes. But there's hope, once you become aware of what's blocking your desires then you can work to remove those blocks and receive the love you truly want.
sending you alot of hugs and affection from the single community ♥️🤗🥰
I appreciate the love. Right back at ya. 💙🙏🏼
Subscribed too and thanks for honesty man.
Absolutely. I appreciate you taking the time. 💙
I'm almost 30 as well. Never been in a relationship or stuff like that. I enjoy my life either way! I wouldn't even try to find anybody just live your life
I’m 26 and only had 1 real boyfriend my whole life but he was a narcissist. I’m still a virgin though.
Keep your divinity.
24 virgin here, keep it for the right man girl!
For me love is just love,i'm 22 years old and never have had a boyfriend before but i still enjoy my life and never worry abt it! Sometimes even my family members amazed at my attitude,they don't understand why at this age while many other women worrying and rushing to find a man and get married i can be so carefree like that! They also think i'm gay😂
Yeah it’s pretty common. These days many girls want to look young with their babies in the pictures they take to post on social media.
Lemme get that snap yeah?
I know EXACTLY what you mean in this video. I wanted a bf, but the way I was raised hindered that for me. I did briefly have a bf in hs, but that was a dumpster fire and I did some dating, but never had another bf. I don't care anymore though, I think we're the same age and there are more important things. I don't think those "fine" girls are the worst ones to go for, but its what you consider "fine" I guess and you have to have the confidence to approach them and face rejection. The truth is, you have to be attracted to the person that you're going to be with so you're not wrong for not wanting the girls that you didn't want.
Thank you for sharing! Yes I agree with what you said.
22:11 I get it, I’m experiencing the same thing… that’s cause when you grow up having never experienced a relationship, having a girlfriend feels like something unordinary, like something out of your lifestyle.
Exactly! Thanks for getting me.
this video is weird i kinda feel happy but also sad hearing your story… definitely made me think… but i also love this ambiguous uncertain nature
Yeah I was all over the place. I feel different about it in todays time.
Hello, i have to comment, i am in the same situation, your mother is very similar to my father. The sad thing here is that to the world, we look like we are the crazy, frustrated people with issues when in fact we are very simple, just longing for love. But I hate when people say, love yourself only , I am sorry but it feels like people think I am stupid or something, like I can't take care of myself, like I don't enjoy being alone. I just want to share things with someone and for that I need someone else, it doesn't help if I love myself only, it is not about enjoying alone time.
Yeah the love yourself concept is overused these days. Maybe it's true in certain aspects and to an extent. But that cannot always be the primary reason. We are not spending our lives constantly looking for validation. We're looking for something that's real and valuable.
Hey man, I've been dealing with the same feelings especially since I was 26, 4 years down the line and nothing changed, things have become worse, never had a girlfriend and never was in anykind of relationship long or short, had to hire a hooker to loose my viginity as the whole thing had started weighing heavily upon me, the experience was horrible and I wish I hadn't done it.
I’m 27 I never had a girlfriend as well. I’m actually looking :(
Looking externally for happiness will rob you from it internally.
Are you still looking?
You must be looking for super models because you are clearly attractive enough to have a average to normal pretty girlfriend❤
Yeah I learned that female nature nowadays, most of them don’t even love themselves. They try to find someone that make them happy. Statistically the divorce rates these days are just sad. Since I’m on retention nowadays girls slide all the time. I don’t distant myself from them though. I do enjoy the connection like conversation, hugging and affection from a girl. But I don’t really take it serious like that anymore unless she is carrying a good energy within her. I channel my energy to working out more now, eating right and spending time alone. Bro I can be going out with the boys or long boarding to places by myself and be happy asf. A girl is only out my league if I give her that tile from my experienced. Glad to see u back, keep it up!
Wow! I’m so proud of you, man. That’s real good news - in less than a year you’re going to be even better than what you are today. Have you considered stating your own channel and sharing your journey? I appreciate your time so much - thank you. 💙
TheBachelorExperience thanks man, I always have that thought in the back of my mind. Im into auto photography & videography now, still waiting for my setup to come in because I just moved state. I might create a channel for my journey. As of right now, still grinding✊🏼
Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do. It’s pretty fun, man. Feels nice to upload content and have people who can relate. I wish you the best, dude.
That's not necessarily why, man. My mother is plenty kind and supportive, so I don't have any issues there. But I have always suffered from wanting to get women, wanting to BE WANTED by attractive women, etc. It's built into a lot of genetically as men. Not everyone experiences this to the same degree simply for genetic reasons, but those of who experience it strongly will struggle with this regardless of our upbringing.
Word, i can relate b
the mom part sadly resonated so much. and yea never had a relatinship.
I’m sorry to hear that from you.
@@Mylastavatar means a lot 🙂
Yeap us men need to blame ourselves too for too high standards. Physical attraction is important but so are ither qualities in women. Guess we are our own wirst enemies
She emotionally neglected me, never hug me, never talked with me about girls, never validated my emotions
I’m sorry to hear that. Exactly what happened with me.
@@Mylastavatar my father also never talked with me about girls but with my cousins yes,lol, can you believe that shit
I turned 30 in May and haven't had a real boyfriend. Like a legitimate committed boyfriend who cares for me, etc.
It sucks but I'm a peace knowing the terrible guys I've come across never lasted. It was all ment to be. Or not ment to be lol.
It’s better to be at peace this way...could you imagine a life with multiple children & an abusive spouse? It’s everywhere. Consider this mercy for both of us. However, I totally get that you always wanted that love. Whether it’s meant to be or not - our heart’s still beating.
18:37 that’s the point that all of the people who say “just wait, someday you will be with a girl. You still have time” don’t get.
Thinking that way will lead you to become an elder who never acted to change his situation; you can’t have back the time you’ve lost.
You make a great point. I retired from the game 2 years ago and still have yet to be approached by a girl lol. It’s all good though.
nice vid bro
You seem very nice....maybe you're meant for something important in life, maybe to do big things for people and it will take up all your energy. Be truthful....say look I don't have the energy to meet your needs but can we be friends? Then see how rewarding it is to be a friend.
so what is the psychological name for the condition you have where you "feel weird" just thinking you could be someone's boyfriend etc. there must be a term for that. i think saying unworthy or low self esteem or the like don't fit. there seems to be a real condition that this would be referred to as....and I would like to do research once I know how to describe this. would like to know. good luck.
I would like to know also. Thank you!
Im 25 and ive never even been on a date let alone a relationship. I feel it has to do with looks and im trying to change, im hitting the gym and changing my diet, im trying to get completely shredded.
I have tried taking girls out on dates, ive tried dating apps and no luck.
Watch some of my videos if you need, man...I can relate big time.
I can promise you it’s not looks. Not saying they aren’t important but I’ve seen guys who aren’t your stereotypical good looking guys with girlfriends/wives. If you really think it’s your looks, maybe ask some close friends (male or female) for their blunt honest opinion to rate your appearance. It’s good that your going to the gym though! I just feel like dating in general is more favoured towards people who are more extroverted and outgoing, hence the whole “put yourself out there” advice that gets thrown around a lot but can be hard or not as natural for someone who is more introverted.
You feel wrong, it’s deeper than that son
@@originalman3843 so what do you think it is?
@@jc9876 it’s energy, and the variables are many including environment, a tad bit of right timing, upbringing, development stage, hormonal state, societal programming at any given era, self confidence or lack of. Now the confidence around women when you have no experience can be tricky, but a lot fake it until they make it. Everyman has a tribe of women who will view you as there type. Priorities also, men prioritize or desire for women hits different levels at different phases enough to motivate them to chase. Also a womens imprint affects who she gravitate to especially after the first man imprints her.
I've never experienced one too. Not even in school (I went to an all boys school during my teen years) I'm 22, I'm someone who doesent want to go through that PUA route it isnt my cup of tea.
You’re so young! When I was 22, girls were different than they are today even though it hasn’t been that long. Consider yourself lucky, lol.
@@Mylastavatar interesting, what were they like as opposed to now?
its been awhile since I had a gf. Last time was in my early 20s and then spent most of my time focusing on school after the breakup. I was close to meeting someone at school my last year but she had a bf but I was crushing on her hard. She'd ask me if I had a gf, we'd flirt, and one point she's walking with her arms around my arm like we were a couple at school but fuck man, why did she have to have a bf. I wanted to make a move bad cause she was showing me she wanted me but I couldnt pull the trigger knowing Im taking somebody's girl. I just couldn't do it. Still single to this day.
One of the greatest things that can happen for you, are the things that didn’t happen.
I feel ugly since I never been in one too
I always regret not having a relationship in school. I'm 28 feel empty or sad sometimes but i always think not having fun in school or relationship in school. I cant even relate to love songs since no one ever wanted me
I am 21 so I am 7 years younger than you and never had a girlfriend too so I can relate to whatever you said. I had crush on a girl from my college who is 19 and she too rejected me recently. I use 4 dating apps and only got 2 matches so far and none of them worked out. And I am not getting any matches since then. I never even had my first kiss yet. Makes me sad that I could never experience young love. I do chat with some girls on the app meetme but they are in different countries. I did find another girl who is 18 almost 19 and I managed to flatter her with my sweet words and got a little crush on her and she is from my country but she lives in the neighboring state to my city so it's still a long distance.
The guy you talked at beginning didnt do much, and thats the point, your way is to win the girl, other guys think is that girl good enough for them. They dont over-pursue, they dont text much. Also you must have self-confidence, never show weakness, and dont comply to girls demands if you dont like them just to please her.
The fact that you’re saying all women are black and white and will never love any man just shows your level of insecurity. Fix your own internal issues and stop blaming women for YOU not being able to make real connections.
Stop being a victim!!!! Grow up.
A women truly never loves you BUT she can love and be in love with the way you make her FEEEL. Dont mistake the 2.
I’m 33 and also never been in a relationship… my mom was very loving/affectionate but very overprotective to the point of not allowing me to talk to boys or even have a guy over as a friend in the home all throughout my 20s…
Damn. Would you date a guy my age tho who too never had a gf? I am a guy who turned 23 just 6 days ago and I never had a girlfriend before. I did have my first ever date 3 months ago at the age of 22. She is 19(turning 20 next month) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds and then we hugged and took pics and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was really cute. But 2 weeks after the date, she became toxic to me and blocked me on all social media apps. She basically just used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her. I also have crush on this another girl who is also 22 (turning 23 next month) in a class where I go for preparation of several exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college like 5 months ago and planning to study MBA next. I am generally shy near her and she is the one who starts conversations with me. She also has called me cute a several times and I pulled her cheeks twice too and gave her chocolate once but I see her being with her male friends a lot and now due to exams we aren't able to meet.
2 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23. We are just friends tho and we roamed around the city that day and had lunch in a big restaurant. We also took several selfie and I pulled her cheeks as well but was shy to ask for a hug. She even called me an amazing person on my birthday 6 days ago. I also am following several girls from the institute I go to who are within 21-25 age range on Instagram but I am yet to send them a message. I also have been chatting with this another girl for several months on Instagram and she is 19(turning 20 in April) and we used to be in the same school but she was my junior so we didn't know each other during school days. She is very sweet and caring and chatting with her makes my mood much better. We send each other virtual hugs daily too and we are both foodies and like talking about food a lot. We plan to meet one day too and eat somewhere nice. But in the end, I am still single.
@@manosijroy8282 why would you want to date an inexperienced 33 year old woman? Please try to date someone more in your close age range even if it means having bad luck b/c sometimes every mistake/setback you might be experiencing right now may try to be teaching us something about ourselves/lesson and it’s just life, it doesn’t always go our way but while youare still here, you keep trying for what we want/desire and move on… if you contemplate and think too hard on the past or what ifs it’s only going to make you feel more depressed/not enough…
I am 43 and me either. I was homeschooled though and worked all the time. I screwed up but to be honest all women are divorcing their husbands. My parents ripped me from my friends all the time. My father was military
Hey man did you have a girlfriend before? Still try not to lose hope man. I am 21 now in last year of college so I am over 2 decades younger than you and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.
@@manosijthehero3686 So when I was a teen I knew a girl that wanted to marry me and she was actually attractive and very much wife material. Her family moved away and she would write me letters. I one day just said forget it. This won't work. I gave up because I assumed I would meet another woman. I was so wrong. Women these days want sex and that's it. If this girl is into premarital sex then don't bother. I have had some issues with abuse so to be honest I only went on a few dates. I have problems with connecting with people because of past issues. If she's trustworthy than yeah do stuff with her and just get to know her. Dating doesn't work. Dating apps are useless. Marriage is dangerous in America. I don't know where you live.
I would have thought you would be the type who could score easily perhaps am wrong all the best
In 5 years time I will be 30 and I have never been in a relationship, never been hugged by a women, never been kissed, never had sex and I'm still a virgin. People say that I am a nice guy and I've heard that women want nice guys but they never came to me.
45 year old checking in. Never had a proper relationship.
I'm almost 22 single my whole life had a few crushes but they all rejected me so I'm focused on me lol and I don't feel like I ever need a relationship as long as I have my family and friends that's all I need and my hobbies
There it is, brother! You got a head start.
@@Mylastavatar yeah I also wonder if I'm aromantic cause I see how I'm fine being single doing my own thing while others look for relationships plus the idea of having to answer to someone for everything you do they don't like is a turn off a huge one too for me personally
I love been been by myself too. Looking at clear night sky. Walking in nature peace.
let's look at this do you have male friends ? you made a connection with them. you made yourself open to spending time with them. I want you to look at girls like meeting a male you want to be friends with. because if you start with a friendship it can grow into a deeper love
My level of thinking has grown tremendously…even my 1st friend I ever made 20+ years ago wouldn’t comprehend my journey. It’s so liberating to just chill and talk to a girl without even expecting a connection or feelings lol.
@@Mylastavatar I am glad to see you are relaxing and not being so intense remember that you cannot look for your happiness from someone else you bring your happiness into a relationship and it gets mirrored back to you, I think you should do an update video to let others whom may be in your same situation and state of mind Let them explore your journey with you. tell them how you are changing and learning to find someone to meet to date to love etc keep smiling "you have a wonderfully inviting smile" and go carefully
It’s so frustrating, this biological urge to get a gf. Every time I try I fail, whether online or in person it’s a fools errand for me unfortunately.
How old are you now? Did you have a gf before? Same dude. I am 21 now in last year of college and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.
@@manosijthehero3686 I’m 19 right now, never had a gf before, I’m also going into college. I’ve used bumble and tinder I got a like 3 matches on tinder and 1 bumble none of them worked out. I even tried with a girl at my work place but that went bad too. I could go more into detail but I don’t want to make this comment longer than it already is. I would say to go for it, if she likes you though you will know based on how much interest she has shown in you. If she does show interest then that’s where you can invite her over to some coffee or something. I would also say it’s always better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all and not know for sure if she has any feelings for you.
BROOOOOOOTAL
@@iiCounted-op5jx that’s life
It’s time to try dating a man. It’s a different world. I’ve been with my guy for 18 years now and we have 2 kids. We live in suburbs, nice house. 2 incomes is sweet. Guys always want sex. Just find a top or bottom, your preference. I cook, clean and my guy does everything outside. We rarely, if ever fight. Your very handsome and the guys would adore you.
Mine a strange situation, I'm 32 age and no relationships ,do you know why,, lots of people think I look gay which I'm not, my body looks a little feminine slim build and I don't talk about girls or sex with them because I never desperate for 1 tbh,and I like to wear top brand clothing, I look after myself afterall, this gives off the wrong impression,, I be focused on myself so much to the point that people are disturbed by it, idk
Dude I agree! And when you share your life with someone cause you’re proud they won’t show any support or encouragement. Best to grow in silence.
I'm silent to the people I don't know, but once they get to know me I can chat all day long and I like a bit of humor thrown it too
Sometimes relationships are a headache
I agree 100%.
I'm a 30 year old virgin with no friends, never even held hands with a girl.
The thing I've found is I know of some really ugly guys with bad attitudes and for some reason they're never short of women. There's one guy who's about 50 and he's short, balding and he looks like a hobo, but he recently got another girlfriend after talking to her in a food store. She's 24 and attractive. I just don't get it. A lot of these guys who've never had a girlfriend are attractive, nice guys. I guess they don't have what other guys have. I don't know what the hell that is, but I'd like to know.
Some percentage of females are just attracted to men significantly older than them. And it's not always because of money or physical. There are girls who are genuinely attracted to much older guys who are not rich or physically attractive, but because they're just experienced, mature, and girls find these qualities alone incredibly attractive and irresistible.
@@nested9006 Its kinda strange because I am 22 who never had a gf before and was chatting on Instagram with a girl who is 18 closer to turning 19. We were in the same school but didn't know each other those days. We had been chatting for 3-4 days and then I just asked for a virtual hug and she replied "its really creepy of you to be texting this to an 18 year old as a 22 year old." She is literally in 2nd year of college now with a late birthday and I just completed college 2 weeks ago and will be studying MBA next so will still be a student for 2 more years and we are only 3-4 years apart in age which is nothing. I explained her how our ages aren't too far apart but then she replied that it really isn't about the age actually but due to the fact that we are strangers and never met and I am asking her for internet hugs. So how come these 40 and 50 year old men able to date much younger women whereas even 18 and 22 is frowned upon often?
I believe some Guys have “IT” what ever “IT” is some type of vibe conversation skills and the others like me don’t ..I’ve never been on a date either I’ve asked em out in person I’ve been direct with my approach got rejected maybe 7 times last year
The “IT” is genetics: looks and height.
Don't know if I'll watch the whole video. But he looks like an actor or something and not have had a relationship.
But chances do others have. Whatever, I'll go call and get me a "date">
This flick is 2 yrs old! What's your status man?! Have you found love?
wondering that myself
@@DanielZ1337TM Homeboy MIA!
For the past couple of years now or more, it has annoyed and irritated me that cases like this are male-dominated, as in, people who end up single this long or more, oh well, it should be obvious as to why it's like that.
Believe me, I understand your frustration...it gets so much built up that eventually all that energy transmutes into something else. I’m just over it, really, you know? Hell, I consider a blessing if guys like us are still this far in life with no kids/divorce. It’s like, maybe it’s not so bad after all lol*
@@Mylastavatar yup, there are pros to it, but ya, I feel this is a good example as to why it's expected for cases like that to be male-dominated.
When Hollywood made the movie the 40 year old virgin, that's why the main character was a guy, male, I highly doubt they will ever make a movie like that in which the main character is a woman.
Me too.. 38 :/
Less worry on our plates. It sucks being in bed at night & “Worrying” if your romantic interest could be talking to somebody else, or even screwing around at that very moment.
Guy you’re good looking I think you’re putting to much pressure on on yourself if a woman could see how truthful you are they would fall in love
Same here.
Same
Estestic in The Previous Month's Shows That 63% Of Young Men Between 19 To 29 Year's Ar Single And Have No Girlfriends
Shit is hard man,
I’m glad I never found a girlfriend. Even 2 years after this video.
@@Mylastavatar I mean bring love was one of the greatest feelings in the world I’ve experienced but losing it is the greatest pain you can imagine. But I think would have rather experienced it once than never cause it was a beautiful thing
I love foods
Almost 30 and I never had anyone either.
We have ourselves. That’s all we have.
I have no doubt this is another male in this situation, for the past couple years now it has been a depressing and irritating reminder how normally men who go far or deep into adult and never had a relationship before or still a virgin.
Me too, i was born in 1991 and i never had a girlfriend 😐
@@rogertaleson1268 me too, 1990
I dont even have close friends 😔
Are still very large percentage of girls by age 25 never had a boyfriend in the world in 2022?
It's over buddy boyo
Enjoy being single.once u fall in love and do stupid things like paying for a family and home for the next 30 years and that is assuming it all goes well.
I’m 28 and in the same boat
Natasha it’s not all bad. Look how far you’ve made it and how much bullshit you’ve avoided by never being in a relationship. It comes with its comes and downs - it’s whether or not you choose to believe it’s worth it all. Until if we actually meet our soulmate, it’s a perfect time to find ourselves & discover our purpose.
I had 9 girlfriends..but spent of it having fun.
Sounds like your mom is a narcissist. I know people throw that term around a lot, but if she was.........then that probably has a lot to do with your comfort level around women and you may not be aware if it, but women can sense that awkwardness and it makes them uncomfortable. I would suggest some counseling, geared towards getting off your chest your toxic childhood with the understanding you want to move towards having an emotionally healthy and loving relationship. Try and uncover how your toxic childhood is keeping you from enjoying that reality. You are a very handsome man and articulate.........don't give up, but in my opinion, you need some professional help to sort all of that out. Your mom has done more damage than just the face value verbal abuse.
relationships are overrated, at the end you end up heart broken
There are no magic words or sequence of actions that you can memorize and execute to win a girlfriend. The rules are too general and abstract to be reduced to a formula.
What percentage of people by age 25 never had a boyfriend or girlfriend in the world
That’s a good question.
28 and never had a girlfriend
I also always went for the finest girls
I'm 32 and still a virgin.
Some of the people who I went to Jr. high/high school with... they're married now. Some even have kids, which does make me feel old, lol....
It's still nice to know that I still have some freedom left...no kids, and don't have to worry about if things go wrong in a divorce. Happy for my friends who are truly in a loving marriage though😊
Did you ever end up getting a gf?
Mgtow or Sigma male moment right here. Respect brother
Hey thank you for watching, my brother. 🙏🏼
I’m almost 29 and not yet either
I might stay alone but it’s not the end of the world 😀
Staying alone should never feel like the end of the world. But to know you made it to this age without possibly ending up with an abusive man or something...it should offer some relief. There’s pros & cons to both sides. Take this time for yourself! Lots to discover. I appreciate you watching.
@@Mylastavatar
Thank you.. that’s very true. I don’t mind being on my own- mostly, I like it. It feels like for a reason and meant to be. Not sure how it looks when I’m an old woman 🤔 but deal with that later. 😅
@@xxsfiaxx you learn to love it actually...no one there to judge you or make unnecessary comments. Let's not worry about the future..just enjoy now. (:
@@Mylastavatar
That’s good to hear.. hope so! Those are some pros, it is nice to be able to reflect (like you said, pros/ cons). Thanks again. And true, :) to be more present. I hope old self won’t resent today’s self 😊. If stay life long, will be a 0.3% statistic, which is interesting. (according to world stats).
You have to go out and interact with females on a regular basis, doing regular things. Then finally you will find one that is interested in you
any updates ?
I’ll make a video
My adopted mom is mean too
I,m single to
Almost sixty, and here is just one guy's opinion, based on personal experience and a lifetime of involontary observations. People are baffled by novels, songs, movies and all sorts of cultural creations. Love does NOT exist, it's an abundantly romanticized or civilized down version of the caveman's prey. There are two, and only two reasons for a man to seek a female companion ( which initially was considered property ) : 1- The search for a S-X toy and 2- The approval of a Mother figure. That's it, sorry. Women are only in love with themselves, what they need is some kind of worship, that really makes them happy ( for a while anyway ). We talk about love so much. About its many problematics, drama bursts, betrayals of all sorts and bitter disapointments. We just never learn, do we ? Love is a fairytale for toddlers ( who are the reflection of our pathetic egos, and who are soon going to tell us to F-CK OFF. ). It's OK to search for love. Just get it in your thick skull that whatever you think you're experiencing is NOT love, just the comforting ILLUSION of love. Nature wants us to reproduce, and Nature has ALL the best tricks. We can't get along, simply because we crave for freedom, and one's freedom ends where another one begins. Conflicts are so unavoidable. It's just a matter of time 'till we reach the last straw event, and then we break up, and then we hate each other, and then we miss each other, and then we go insane, and then some move on. So don't take it personal. There is nothing wrong with you. You are worth love, but human love isn't real love. So love who you are, especially if you have a bad health condition. It' NOT your fault. Now enjoy the big rollercoster.
I bet you at least had girlfriends and not a forever single guy like me. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and not even a kiss or hug. I feel FOMO all the time and feel terrible when I see couples. Got rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago. Honestly I am an introvert too so I am relying on online dating to meet girls but having no matches on dating apps. Even if I rarely get one, they ghost me all the time. I also chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in school days and they are mostly 19-22 age range but many of them ghosted and blocked me too because I was too shy near girls in my school days so never interacted with them in school so I am almost a stranger to them. Only 4 or 5 of them chats daily with me and 2 of them both 20 year olds are sweet to me and we send virtual hugs to each other and I also chat with a 19 year old girl regularly. I wanna try my luck with this girl who was my childhood friend when we were in elementary school. She is 21 now turning 22 after 3-4 months and I really wanna ask her out for a date but I don't know whether she would want to or not.
@@manosijroy8282 My dear comrade. I strongly empathize with your situation. I know that longing but too well. First, understand that you are far from alone in this case. Our societies values turn mostly around wealth, beauty, and sadly, competition. Those superficial values may have made you lost track with your own beauty and high value. Dating apps attrack 65% male and 35% female. Most female are there for validation, so you're waisting your time, like most guys on those apps. Never EVER forget that you are alive because you are loved by your creator. We all have to learn our own lessons in love, and everybody ends up dissapointed with what this dimension has to offer. Maybe THAT'S the lesson. That what you crave for, while legitimate, is unrealistic for many many reasons. Without knowing you, I'm sure that something good will eventually come your way. Hold on and ask for God's LOVE, even if you think it futile. Connect with the God of your heart, trust him, and watch what happens. Peace be with you my brother.
@@rsviews2167 You believe in God but think love doesn't exist? We have the ability to love because we're made in His image. I'm sorry you feel this way, I personally have witnessed true undying love between people that is definitely not an illusion. Also, calling women men's "sex toys" ...i'm not even gonna go into how disgusting and sexist that is cause if you can't see that yourself then I don't even know what to tell you. You might definitely want to change that attitude if you're looking for somebody though. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences but that definitely does not mean that women in general are only in love with themselves. I will pray for your healing.
@@martina-dd6vb Don't pray. It's a waste of your time. You have the right to disagree, even to be rude if you like. It's not going to change anything, and it doesn't offend me at all. I did not come on this plane to please anybody. The truth is the truth, even when it's ugly. I wish you well. I know you are well intended.
never had my 1st kiss or a girlfriend im nearly 21
samee TT
Over rated anyway.
Nr1. You must be a man of substance.
Nr2. Only select women who looking for substance.
you want women because its normal, any man want women especially if they are 30yo and they see everyone else with dating or making families and what not and they can get it. Nothing to do with mommy trauma
ugly ones will stay with you forever
if you believe in predestination and everything being set in stone before you were even born... than you're marked and cursed. sorry.
dude treats relationships like a science experiment like how everything has to be a certain way like buddy grow up
These girls probably felt the desperation.
I mean, just going to several malls just to meet girls, that sounds a bit creepy tbh.
I mean, scouting…
For real though?
I’m glad you changed your attitude.
Maybe you will meet a nice plus size lady someday who actually has your best interest in heart/in mind…
Instead of just going after a woman for how she looks…
"A nice plus size lady".....
You know that they have options too, right?
They don't just throw themselves at ANY guy(or girl).
Your comment didn't help and you're offering advice that he didn't ask for. Whenever he goes back into dating he'll go after women he's truly attracted to.
You don't want to lead someone on, thinking that you'll break up with them later on. You never loved them to begin with if that's the case.
from that point its useless my friend !!! your only hope its to be kinda rich to have a woman
You just have to remember guys that it is these very pathetic low life loser narcissists feminists gold digging women that are very much too blame for this mess today in the first place, since we have nothing to be ashamed about and we have no reason at all too blame ourselves either why so many of us single guys can't find love today. A very big change in the women today compared to the old days unfortunately.
Because it‘s only about looks, lel. They found men more attractive thn you and traded up. As simple as that. If you‘re not the best option at this moment, this will tend to occur.
im 32 same dude same
Same and I am 11 years younger. I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend either and got rejected by 2 of my crushes in my college recently. Btw yesterday I heard a song which was released in 2009 and I felt nostalgic hearing it and it reminds me of a girl whom I knew since my school days. She was in the same grade as me but we weren't in the same class and she changed school after 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe 22 now so the same age as me and I followed her on Instagram but she hasn't accepted my follow request yet. I wish she could be my girlfriend now but she is too pretty and I was considered a loser by most guys in my grade in high school so maybe she would still find me lame even though she probably didn't know me properly. She also probably has a boyfriend. I really wish she follow me back so I can chat with her and get to know her.
30no woman