Why Young Woman Says She Can’t Forgive Her Mother
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2024
- A young woman, who says she needs her mom to apologize for her behavior toward her as a child, gets a tearful apology.
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The lack of emotion on the daughter's face says a thousand words. And i dont blame her
very true
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The saddest thing is that her daughter doesn’t look like she believes her mom
I don’t blame her
The daughter : i know you don’t really apologize
The daughter knew her mother was putting up a front. If you’re telling me that you needed to appear on camera to apologize...that speaks volumes!
I don't blame her
Its hurts because its too true.
She's feeling so much anger, and disappointment, and disbelief and she expects this.
THE Look on the daughter's face when the mother is crying....... u can see she's not buying the act
Yep
Yessir
She must have seen it so many times she's like - "Yeah no.."
Fake crying, no tears.
Edit: Oof, okay it took her some time but she squeezed out a tear.
@@he-mememan359 😄😁😃
People need to understand that when a person’s childhood is destroyed, it’s impossible to be normal as an adult.
I wouldn’t say impossible, it just means further delay into healthy adulthood.
I agree
It's not impossible, you just need some extensive therapy.
100 percent
It’s only impossible if you allow it to be you have control over your own destiny you make your own future you can choose what your life will be ahead of you you could not choose what was behind you but you can choose what’s in front of you choose a better life and when I was growing up they always told me the difference between an adult and a child is someone who takes responsibility you can’t blame your parents for everything after certain point you have to realize your parents can only do and have only done so much the rest of it is up to you
The daughter doesn't really seem to care anymore. She isn't there for her mother's pain, her apology, or remorse. She's there for herself. To look her tormentor in the eye and show her that she's still standing regardless. Even if her mom could somehow make up for it, it wouldn't matter to her anymore.
This 100%
👏👏👏👏👏 so proud of her
And I like tha
I'm at this stage as well.
Same thing with my mom. She constantly yelling at me, she put me through depression, it was a nightmare... And she needs to stop. But she needs to get over it
When you mistreat a child she doesn't stop loving you, she stops loving herself.
That hit me hard
That's exactly true and heartbreaking.
That is so true, you stop loving yourself.
Yep
No I stopped loving my parents when they neglected me and have till this day not forgiven them
Toxic is toxic. Blood doesn't make it any different
Yes
Yes me also
Yes exactly 👍
Blood doesn’t make you a parent. Love does.
You know the phrase “blood is thicker than water?”
Actually the whole phrase is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”…..
Some mothers not fit to be parents.
Mines too
Mine is just horrible
I have a narcissistic parent...I can't stand the trauma....Hope to be away from my toxic parent.
My mother used to grab me by the arms when i was young, and trash me back and fourth, and more. I still hate her to this day, and i will kill her brutally eventually. I promise to Jesus Christ the Lord, that i will kill my mother brutally to deliver karma.
Bruh now these kids are just calling their mums horrible cuz she Took away Fortnite from them Did you ever imagined how much pain your mother felt when she gave you birth.. U wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for her.. Saying things like "I won't care if my mother dies" is horrible these ignorant losers cry in regret and sorrow when their parents pass away.. Reconsider your life and always give ur parent's a chance i myself have been beaten by my parents but i know they did it for my sake and i can take it! This world is cruel and ur parents doesn't want you to fall victim to it..
Abusers are only sorry when they get caught by others. Nobody should feel the need to abuse their own child mentally/physically. Don’t have children if you don’t have the qualities a real parent should have 🤷🏽♀️
Yeah if you don't want children then put them up for an adoption and there problem solved
@@amanekaze If there are adoption centre it is more corrupted than ever more and adoption more like shelter for children nobody adopting them what is the purpose of having that.
@@amanekaze If there are adoption centre it is more corrupted than ever more and adoption more like shelter for children nobody adopting them what is the purpose of having that.
She’s only ‘sorry’ because she got called out on her behavior and put in her place. Disgusting.
DESGUSTANG🤣😂Jk..jk
I'm sorry for anyone else who is struggling with a toxic or a narcissistic parent. I know how this feels because I have a narcissistic mother myself. To whoever is reading this, you do not owe your parents anything. You are your own person. You don't belong to your parents. You are not responsible for them or their feelings. Toxic is toxic and you do have the right to go on no contact with your parents.
They treathed me with their looks always and teachers never listened so now because mom didnt let me exercise i have chronic back pain and im skinny bc she also denied me food for some time
Well said 👏
It’s so unfair that broken parents continue this vicious cycle of breaking their kids and it’s the kids that have to suffer the consequences with mental illnesses such as depression anxiety etc.... so heartbreaking 💔
The worse part is that a lot of kids, they break from their illnesses and end up commiting suicide, then death is the only thing that makes them realize their mistakes. It’s a really sad truth that is upsetting to know
To Quote Kratos from 2018's God of War "The Cycle Ends Here. We must be better"
@@K1ng1995 *Snow.....*
Everyone can tell she is faking these cries, ...its difficult to cry without tears 🙄
Yeah I saw like three tears come outta her eyes
@@joncehna4384 She kept blinking as well to let it stream down. I don't buy it.
How many of us have a mom like this who portray a innocent role for the public yet behind close doors they show they wished they never had you...😷
I hate my mother with all my might. She traumatised me when i was just a kid, she used to grab me by my arms and thrash me back and forth, she would also take my teddy bear away and hide it, i've had that teddy bear since i was born. She would also put all of my toys in a trash bag infront of me when i did not tidy up my bedroom when i was a kid. And to this day, i am a 15yr male, and she locks the room my Xbox console is in, and takes away my laptop, and i've tried many times to explain to her that i am 15 and not a kid. She does not want to listen. And i can't even get a drink from the drinks room in my garage, because my bloody mother thinks that i will drink a whole pack of Coke in a day. And believe it or not, i prefer to m@sterbate at night times when there is no noise outside, but my mother comes up to my door every time telling me "laptop now" in an extremely ugly voice. SHE DOES NOT WANT ME TO HAVE PRIVACY TO MYSELF. And believe it or not, a few years ago when i was younger, she even tried to call a residential or something infront of me, and i would pray to stay home, i would do that enough to convince her that i should stay at home. And sometimes when i'm playing on my Xbox, and it's nighttime, she just walks right in and snatches my xbox contoller and headset off me. I've had enough of all of this, i promise in the name of Jesus Christ, i will kill my mother sooner or later.
I 🤚
My father.. He just want us to fulfill his dreams. Not because he loves us
@@WillyShanker she most likely never wanted u that's why her actions proves it🤷. Is what it is
@@imaz2616 you are not getting the exact reaction from me to satisfy ye human behavioural needs. Good try degenerate. I know how human urges and behaviours work. I am superior here. Give up or give me more entertainment. I don't mind.
The kid is not believing her at all.
The mom quickly changes after the show is over lol
The mom serves daughter with hot slap backstage after this 🤣😂
@@user-pk1bb6nf1q yeah lmao
@@user-pk1bb6nf1q can you send e the link of the video of backstage
@@user-pk1bb6nf1q it cant happen now. But really sad that more worse used to happen
Dude, this was such a piss take! Look at that woman! Look at her daughter! She clearly isn’t buying it, her tears look fake and she knows it’s all gonna come back once they’re behind closed doors
Some parents treat their children like dustbin of emotions...💔
That’s how mine treats me. Can’t even cry without being shamed or basically told that we’ve all done it. Yes we’ve all done it but do we all have to keep doing it. Feeling sad and crying on break at work.
It is ridiculous how Dr. Phil encourages people to have a relationship with these toxic abusive MFs.
You can forgive people at a distance and remain no contact.
Exactly. Unless the abuser is getting continuous counseling and trying to make amends on a daily basis there's no reason to have much contact with them. Abusers Don't change just by magic.
This
She has no regrets she is doing this because she is on a show
Very true
Exactly
Her mum: 😭😭😭😭😭
Her: 😐
SOME of the things my father did to me but it was just “discipline “ to the rest of my family. I’m a mother now and the older I get the more disgusted I get with these people
Me too
YYYEEESSSS! NOW, ya get it and NOW you ensure it stops with you. Do not ever, ever, ever expose your children to a known abuser. Doesn’t matter who they are. There’s never an acceptable “reason” for that, simply excuses. I’m sorry you suffered too. We truly need to get over this “mom” label. The label is NOT the person.
DNA is no excuse for abuse. Best wishes and good for you for recognizing and calling out mommy-dearest’s abuse/neglect.
@@tundrawomansays5067 word mom dont mean anything to me now
That woman doesn't deserve a hug from her daughter.
Being a victim of abuse myself and having the abusive parent deny the were abusive and the reason why you suffer from ptsd today from and having Dr Phil make that abuser stand up and tell that poor girl yes you did hit me and I didn’t deserve it!
My mom hates me so much. And i will never forget her in my live
Life* u douche
@@jasonbourne5142 spelling nazi
Keep your head up ignore the haters
@@jasonbourne5142 stfu
@@rheabanerjee4599 stop selling your body.
My mother never apologised. I'm glad I haven't seen her since I was 12. I gave her the opportunity on the phone 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏love to anyone who is suffering 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Mine hasn't either. It's all about her. I'm 50 now and I hate my mother more the older I get.
Thank you
You can't even imagine what I am going through.
talk to me..whats happening??
Tell us...
Tell us we can help
Can someone help me
I would give that woman a taste of her own medicine.
Why even go through the trouble of making mom change?
The damage is done and you know they are never going to change so just disconnect yourself from her.
Get marries, have kids. Never invite her to anything. Best revenge is to live a good life
The mom: “I’m sorry”
Me: *laughs*
Her first time ever
I understand why she can’t forgive her mother. I’ve had a rocky relationship with my own mother, and as a child I would verbally attack her for the things she did to me. I always blamed her for everything bad that involved me when I was the one who caused it. I finally had the courage to tell my mom about how I feel. I don’t hate my mother, I never did, but i held a grudge on her for a long time. I hated admitting that, and nothing hurts me more than telling her. My mother and I are doing great now, but we both need to work on our impulses. Hurting her over things I've caused was one of the most pathetic actions I've ever done. I know what I've done was wrong, but I'm trying to fix this relationship. My mom is my rock, my world, and I'd do ANYTHING to protect my family
Id severe pain and she didn't believe me I gave up on a diagnosis. She'd keep talking about the subject till I begged her to stop im sure she doesn't mean it but I couldnt bear it anymore.
That's fine for you, but shut your mouth about anything else. It's never ever your place to tell anybody how to navigate through their own experiences. I hate my mother, plus I'll never forgive her. And what?
The same thing here. Specially when it comes to boys, she said i should be proud of boys catcalling me... EXCUSE ME?! JUST BECAUSE UR FLAT AS A DESK DOESN'T MEAN *YOU* HAVE THE RIGHT TO INVALIDATE *MY* FEELINGS
@@ysabellacohen-monfared7219 dude she didn't tell anyone how to feel anywhere in her paragraph. she even VALIDATED the other womans feeling by saying its perfectly understandable why she wouldn't forgive her mother. her saying that she personally made amends with her mom IS NOT her saying that everyone else needs to. she shared her own story because this video made her relate to the situation so she could finally open up about her own. jesus christ actually read the entire thing before you jump to conclusions and put words in other peoples mouths
I have experience parent abuse and violence and it's not easy to forget, especially when we observe parents caring for their children in schools and families everywhere.
I hate my mom, but u literally can’t talk to anyone about it bc they will call u “ungrateful” bc some people can’t acknowledge that not ALL moms r good
The Mother: *sorries* Me: *giggles*
I'm giggled when I saw ur comment
@@taco3328 I see ur comment I giggle
@@Kosovar_Chicken comment yr I giggle
😁😁😁
@@taco3328 gomment ciggle iour yt
This narc mother is not sorry
A terrible mother is an enemy within
Mom: cries
Girl: ಠ_ಠ
Im soo sorry (to the young lady ....yeah I been through similar ) u didn't deserve that ...
I know it girl..... be like that...u dont have to respect, love or ro anything for her....just because she is your mom
exactly, I honestly feel like I could end someone every time they say that.
And also “forgive” when the person hadn’t even apologised (genuinely), and even then it’s fine if you don’t after all you’ve experienced. Saint-wannabes and just pathetic.
The better thing to do is to not have a grudge, grudges are like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die
Some mothers can be so cruel
Dr Phil! It doesn't sound real because you're putting words in their mouth. Let them say what they wanted to say. They're adults. By putting words in their mouth you're contributing to deflecting responsibility.
So many abusers. It’s too much.
She honestly looks looks so done
I hope she doesn't have to go back home with her mother again. When she said "we will see", I really did not like the look in her mother's eyes.
I hate my mother too and she is been dead over 10 years.
That lady I bet y’all, would care more and really cry over a animal that she cared about who got put to sleep. Then to really cry because she hurt her daughter.
I'm 13 and my mother drinks and she blames me for every little thing ,I just don't know what to do anymore
Go chill in your room when she does that
That's pretty good advice thank you for your help
@@hilyaniikela4496 you need to tell someone and get help for the both of you
That sucks alot. You should try to talk to people about it.
call child protective service's..or run away go live with yr aunt or sth
Not sorry, just embarrased
She's fake
Toxic parents makes toxic child and bad behaviour
I see in her eyes! I have so much regret i brought you in the world!
Excuse me, but you're not a mind reader. How can you say such a thing?!
@@launabanauna496 how could a mother do such things to her daughter? How could a mother NOT apologize in person, but does on camera...
🤔
Omg projecting your insecurities on your child by being abusive ,you are an embarrassment to motherhood shame on you
My mother would physically and verbally abuse me as a child. I’m 16 now and things have dialed down but I’m still planning on moving out and I know for a fact she will never acknowledge anything that she has done
Life gets better stay happy. So sorry that happened to you.
Good luck! You can do this. You are valid and worthy. 💖
RUN! ASAP, get OUT!
I’m sorry that you had to experience that. It will get better! Take it from me, please don’t go back if she’s done NOTHING to prove to you that she’s interested in a healthy relationship.
Especially without an apology.
It’s not worth it and I believe that when people don’t apologize they’re only gonna do it again. Stay away!
I told mine to take me out of her will and to make sure her sons don’t mention my name in her eulogy. She was shocked, but I mean what I say by she’s already dead to me and I don’t want anything from her.
i'm sorry that happened
I forgive my mother even though she hadn't admit to her actions towards me, but realizing what my mom had been through herself it's also overwhelming for me to. I have forgiven her even though she doesn't know it, I really do. I am not gonna let my mother behavior towards me causes me to hurt my children no way.
I felt this
@@teamschs6953 the pain is real, one day my story will be out there for the world to learn about forgiving especially my children but want them to know that you are hurting because you haven't forgive and forgiveness is a form of Independence too.
Forgiveness? After so many mental abuse? Pathetic. If she wasn't your mother, you would hate her to death.
Dude don’t forgive someone if they haven’t acknowledged anything they did....... wth
But thankfully you’re not letting her see your children
@@iori7370
Exactly, I don’t understand these saint-wannabes who fOrGiVe when the person hasn’t apologised. Just pathetic and stupid
Forgiveness is for the daughter snd she will forgive when’s she’s ready.
I cannot forgive my mother either! I am now 54 years old and if I would have kept her out of my life at your age I would not have suffered even more abuse as life went on. I was taken away at 15 years old and could have sued her for all of the physical damage and abuse back then and I would not be strapped with the financial burden of it now..My mother's beatings were so bad that I developed scoliosis from it and she refused to treat me with a back brace because the doctors would see all of the whip marks and bruises on my backside from her beatings. I now live with severe scoliosis that cripples me. There is sooo much more she has done and all I got from her was a tiny little apology and she thinks thats enough. I will never heal from the effects of her abuse. She says, I just like living in the past and that I need to just "get over it". So if you let her in your life STAY GUARDED AND NEVER LET HER BABYSIT . I didn't like her appology, she said you didn't deserve it because you were just a little kid! WRONG ANSWER So, I think your mom is always going to be hurtful towards you just like mine is. . If I would have kept her out of my life she would not have been able to mentally manipulate me throughout the rest of my life. JUST STAY AWAY FROM HER!
My mother owes me an apology...but she's dead now..
lol
I am sorry
@@ysabellacohen-monfared7219 what’s funny..
@@suhailahnm *Nasty parents are Nasty to the Bone AND the grave.*
@@suhailahnm they are probably laughing cause the creator of this comment couldn’t be abused/neglected anymore
She would have been "Nodding off" all the time and doesn't really remember everything only bits and pieces. If she can abuse the daughter while being high as a kite imagine what this poor girl had to go through if the mother had ran out of her meds and was coming down. If I was the daughter I would leave and never look back as much as it would truly hurt it would be for the best.
My mom also did this she never apologized or made up for it after .😟
My mother is a narc.
My aunt is a narc.
I suspect my grandmother was also a narc.....
My father may know exactly the behavior of my aunt and my mother but he didn't protect me from them....
The way she forced hugged her at the end
Barf
Desi kids when she said her mom would pull her hair etc : 😂😂
I can relate to a couple of the experiences with my mom too...I'm with you sis🙁
I can't forgive my mother too
Same
Same
Same.
I urge you all to get professional help for moving forward with this. I have been there myself. There is real freedom on the other side of forgiveness...for YOU!
And you deserve it!
❤️
@@lf3541 thank you, I will soon! 😬❤️
Dr phill coached that apology word for word. Those were his words not the mothers or daughters wow. Smh
there are toxic mother we need to accept that fact..just because she gave birth she doesn't deserve to be love
Tbh if I was in that episode I would've said "I don't forgive you". Plain and simple.
Imagine being pregnant while she’s doing this too you . And putting you out at 2-3 in the morning 4-8 months pregnant because she’s addicted to BARS & ALCOHOL.
i m so sorry but i wud run tf away
better 2 live in a homeless shelter than with her
I had no where to run to she would lock the doors after I finshed a full shift walked home 8months pregnant. Cops took me to a shelter because they stayed at my house she signed me out of school. At 17 so I couldn’t graduate was mad because I refused an abortion . But before I got pregnant at 17 I told her and my father I needed condoms and birth control . She refused . So I got pregnant. Looking for LOVE. Not purposely. Jesus Blessed me with a Baby had her at after I turned 18
Words I will never hear from my mom and I am so glad 🙂 she doesn’t need to apologize for not living up to my standards. She birthed me into this world 🌎 I can take over from here 🤣
What are your "StAnDaRdS" Then?
That blank look on the daughter's face gets me the most. Hatred, contempt, disregard or numbness. I'm not sure which.
Our stories are 100% similar. My mom won't do anything but accuse me of lying.
The way the mom was looking at her while the video played... yikes.
Shes not sorry because she is like my mother
Seriously?!!!! What is this clearly the daughter has gone through a very very traumatic childhood they’re aint gonna be no magical fix for this!
The mother was left off the hook so easily. She didn’t even repeat the part dr.Phil said. She didn’t take the responsibility, just seemed like she did…
She had to choke that out. Wow. She could barely say it and had to basically be forced to do it.
I used to watch Dr Phil as a child, but now that I'm older and know about narcissism. I know this was just a soapie opera or whatever it's called just for ratings. Nothing can heal these people with personality disorders.
I always knew my father was a toxic douche, but I've recently accepted the same about my mother.
First she ruined her childhood asking for forgiveness because of this she depression now I think she was removing her old husband or boyfriend angry
The same reason I cannot forgive my mom
My mother is way worse and some people don’t believe that
girl : she chased me outside
my brain : CASH ME OUTSIDE how bout dat
Ouch. Thats so sad. She doesn't deserve this innocent child.😢. Mothers suck
What a crock of bs
My mom was a traumatized person from WW2, having been raised right in the middle of a horrific war in Germany. She never sought out any help, and so my brother and I were raised by a narcissist. In the end, I forgave her, she said she was sorry, even though she admitted that she didn't know what she had done wrong. Life can be complicated, and hard, so I understand, and truly believe that she did her best. She wasn't a "bad" person, and now she's gone, and I miss her. We were apart for many years. That's life.
Yes that's life.. Even the person you hate the most you will Have regret, sorrow, when they dies thats why i forgive.. People
I wouldn’t forgive her either.
Her *“you were just a child”* didn’t sit right with me. She’s distancing herself from fully acknowledging that the adult in front of her is the same person she abused, almost like she did it to someone else. Also, it sounds like she would’ve been using the same phrase to justify or minimise it in her mind. “Just” = insignificant, unimportant, whatever. It’s not like it’s a full fledged human being or something, it’s “just” a child. So many people treat children like a different species, especially when it comes to their own. It’s tragic and really f*ing hard for me to wrap my mind around.
the daughter is looking at her like I ain't playing I am serouis
You know it really happened when the girl touched the man first before standing in front of her mother.
I ain’t buying it sorry
Me neither. The hug almost made me throw up my breakfast
So relatable
The girl is serious and that mother is acting for the show
Keep them tears mom. Smh I don’t like moms like that
I don’t understand these people if you hated your parents so much why would you want to see them again
Dang she look mad
It’s not easy to believe a persons apology when they don’t even apologize or admit the truth behind close doors and right after a situation
Hope they have a nice genuine relationship after this though
I couldn’t forgive my mother for that 👿
Cruel mind games mine used saying nasty stuff and never showing no love glad I escaped her she is still same she never changes she is a cold woman
I’m glad you got away and I am happy that you are done with her.
I’m done with mine 👋🏿
Not ever looking back.
your sorry cuz you were on tv, your sorry because you were caught, your sorry so you can get sympathy
I havent seen my mom since i was 5 im 32. Ive talked to her and shes so high she just yells
Great. Stop talking to her. End of abuse.
i am so soorry...hang in there
After the show she will start beating her again.
All I see are crocodile tears from her mother. I dont buy it.
It’s heart breaking 💔🥲… her 😐 as she should 😭