Why Your Friends Have More Friends than You

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  • čas přidán 29. 09. 2023
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  • @memeabledata
    @memeabledata  Před 7 měsíci +395

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    VIDEO CORRECTIONS:
    03:04 - Berlin is incorrectly labelled as Hamburg

    • @LOL_MANN
      @LOL_MANN Před 7 měsíci +9

      Bro really said Hamburg is Berlin 💀

    • @memeabledata
      @memeabledata  Před 7 měsíci +12

      @@LOL_MANN My bad 😬

    • @LOL_MANN
      @LOL_MANN Před 7 měsíci +6

      @@memeabledata It's all good, we are just people after all

    • @ground_news
      @ground_news Před 7 měsíci +11

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    • @maroo1849
      @maroo1849 Před 7 měsíci +1

      gutted with this correction 😭 i got way too excited seeing Hamburg mentioned

  • @goodboi1725
    @goodboi1725 Před 7 měsíci +12781

    I can't stop laughing at how smooth the introduction of the popular guy was. Man's living his life.

    • @manbagan
      @manbagan Před 7 měsíci +473

      despite his left hand

    • @goodboi1725
      @goodboi1725 Před 7 měsíci +177

      @@manbagan You sure he ain't just throwing gang signs?

    • @jokerpilled2535
      @jokerpilled2535 Před 7 měsíci +115

      Dude is obviously a Chad NPC

    • @goodboi1725
      @goodboi1725 Před 7 měsíci +18

      @@jokerpilled2535 To be feared or reveled by the player? *Both.*

    • @dzdawlatzwamel9795
      @dzdawlatzwamel9795 Před 7 měsíci +5

      @@jokerpilled2535 More like an NPC with the chad mask

  • @27jerry27
    @27jerry27 Před 7 měsíci +1250

    Quality > Quantity

    • @siantopablo9149
      @siantopablo9149 Před 2 měsíci +5

      ​@@Kosin-gf7ioyou can never live like that buddy

    • @Duck-3
      @Duck-3 Před 2 měsíci

      ​​@@siantopablo9149 i got 17 years worth of evidence that proves you otherwise

    • @replitzit
      @replitzit Před 2 měsíci +6

      ​@siantopablo9149 I'm currently doing it, so your wrong

    • @theoddgamer7147
      @theoddgamer7147 Před 2 měsíci

      @@replitzit You a shut in....

    • @Nahoko_Satomi
      @Nahoko_Satomi Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@Kosin-gf7ioI’d rather be alone than getting a terrible friend

  • @Cruzader310
    @Cruzader310 Před 7 měsíci +6354

    So basically, no matter how good you are at something, there's always someone better than you out there.

    • @cloud5464
      @cloud5464 Před 7 měsíci +300

      I mean what about the person that’s better than you? You could say there’s someone better than them but once you go through everyone in the world there will be someone who is the best, and everyone is worse than them. So it does matter how good you are at something

    • @ClayLama
      @ClayLama Před 7 měsíci

      And this someone is usually Chinese

    • @liste302
      @liste302 Před 7 měsíci +330

      yes, because the chances of you being the best at anything are pretty low when we consider there are around eight billion people on earth

    • @grav8455
      @grav8455 Před 7 měsíci +51

      ​@@liste302 for real lmao, these one liners man 😂

    • @amoththatthinks
      @amoththatthinks Před 7 měsíci

      laughing your ASS out@@grav8455

  • @reynoldskynaston9529
    @reynoldskynaston9529 Před 7 měsíci +4325

    Basically it is very unlikely to be the most “popular” friend in your group of friends because you can have many friends but only one can be the most “popular”

    • @hehe8138
      @hehe8138 Před 7 měsíci +265

      Incorrect. People with less friends can be more liked than people who have lots of friends. That was not the point. The point is, unless you are Chad, your friends, on average, have more friends than you do. This is because if you are out making friends with people, who are you more likely to make friends with? The shut in who rarely talks to anyone or someone who is meeting lots of people? You are more likely to run into the second guy.

    • @BladeStar420
      @BladeStar420 Před 7 měsíci +16

      There can only be one?....
      There can only be one.
      HIGHLANDERRRRRRRRR (never seen this movie)

    • @cocob0l0
      @cocob0l0 Před 7 měsíci +33

      @@hehe8138Chad is a country wtf are you talking about

    • @madhououinkyoma
      @madhououinkyoma Před 7 měsíci +30

      @@hehe8138 The people that are the most liked by the most people tend to have the most friends. Obviously there’s exceptions to the rule but his point is valid.

    • @hehe8138
      @hehe8138 Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@madhououinkyoma it could be true in some cases, but that was not the point of the video

  • @Veasirae
    @Veasirae Před 7 měsíci +12125

    i don’t have friends.

    • @datdude3327
      @datdude3327 Před 7 měsíci +954

      even they have more than you

    • @newhonk
      @newhonk Před 7 měsíci +336

      i can be your friend

    • @Tpbraut
      @Tpbraut Před 7 měsíci +597

      ​@@newhonkstranger danger!! ⚠️

    • @Veasirae
      @Veasirae Před 7 měsíci +335

      @@newhonk i like hamsters. you are friend.

    • @newhonk
      @newhonk Před 7 měsíci +91

      @@Tpbraut nono its ok

  • @thisguy8949
    @thisguy8949 Před 5 měsíci +860

    There was a storybook I read.
    A rabbit was having a birthday party and invited his 3 friends
    He assumed his friends had their own friends and told each one to invite 2 friends
    He was expecting a total of 10 people including himself.
    His 3 friends invited each other.
    They still had a great time.

  • @darkmattergamesofficial
    @darkmattergamesofficial Před 7 měsíci +3069

    I feel like we are quick to apply the term “friend” to people who are really just friendly acquaintances. Take out acquaintances and the really “popular” individuals might be left with less real friends than those on the outskirts of the social network.

    • @jd.epictures2323
      @jd.epictures2323 Před 7 měsíci +292

      Yeah right. Also the one guy might call every one of these acquaintances friend, while the other guy with more actual friends might call the acquaintances acquaintances, therefore thinking he has less friends when they compare each other while it's just a matter of definition

    • @bloodmoon5872
      @bloodmoon5872 Před 7 měsíci +107

      Exactly. I talk to over 30 people at school, but only consider one of them a friend.

    • @darkmattergamesofficial
      @darkmattergamesofficial Před 7 měsíci +30

      Seems like most people label what really are acquaintances as "friend" now, the vernacular has changed.

    • @urreek9901
      @urreek9901 Před 7 měsíci +16

      friends? i have lots of friends! do i hang out with any of them? *hardly.*
      acquaintances! i have lots of acquaintances! i have a few friends. like... 4. and i'm not really close to them, unfortunately. i'm working on it

    • @jonathannash8471
      @jonathannash8471 Před 7 měsíci +4

      Exactly. I would say I have 8 friends, 3 good friends (I would trust them to help me bury a body, Rich Hall definition), and probably at least 50 acquaintances I regularly interact with (at least once a fortnight).
      If I expand any more I have hundreds of acquaintances. I could expand the friends to 20+ if I wanted to as well, but I like to keep it at the 8 that I would gladly go to the pub with almost anytime, and the 3 good friends I would drop anything to help them if they needed it.

  • @JBproductions.
    @JBproductions. Před 7 měsíci +679

    6:53 “Sorry, but I can't check if the friendship Paradox applies to you if you don’t have friends in the first place” lol 💀💀

    • @LawrenceTimme
      @LawrenceTimme Před 7 měsíci +11

      F 💀

    • @sor3999
      @sor3999 Před 6 měsíci +4

      Must be fresh accounts because every account slowly accumulates bot followers.

    • @tim..indeed
      @tim..indeed Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@sor3999 You only accumulate bot followers if you interact with posts.

    • @StarJ3M
      @StarJ3M Před 2 měsíci +5

      and the music continues as if he didn't just flame those people with 0 followers
      he says it so stoically to 😭

    • @AloneSitoYTTM
      @AloneSitoYTTM Před 2 měsíci

      Im doomed 😭

  • @notapplicable7292
    @notapplicable7292 Před 7 měsíci +3807

    The dating and gym examples kinda blew my mind. I always understood the narrow case of friends but had never realized how generalizable it obviously is. Given free choice to participate and a normal distribution of investment, it will always be true.

    • @jimmcneal5292
      @jimmcneal5292 Před 7 měsíci +39

      Imagine having relationships with a girl who is more "experienced" than you💀

    • @Alex-mm2vw
      @Alex-mm2vw Před 7 měsíci +215

      ​@@jimmcneal5292So what lol

    • @jimmcneal5292
      @jimmcneal5292 Před 7 měsíci +14

      @@Alex-mm2vw it's ewww

    • @attilathehun9654
      @attilathehun9654 Před 7 měsíci +119

      ​@@jimmcneal5292that's like any girl that ever had somebody?

    • @jimmcneal5292
      @jimmcneal5292 Před 7 měsíci

      @@attilathehun9654 true, having relationships/starting family with nоn-virgins is еwww, but her having higher number than you adds insuIt to an injurу

  • @arI-Yabs
    @arI-Yabs Před 7 měsíci +2348

    Being popular is a bit lonely in itself. I used to be friends with multiple friend groups and hung out with almost the entire course at uni and same in highschool but the depth and intimacy that comes with a smaller social life was always missing and I was constantly somewhat out of touch with very essential parts of myself. It was also quite hard to settle for a relationship due to the vast amount of options that were available so I would often remain a bit emotionally malnourished (wasn't aware of this until the pandemic hit me)

    • @ThePenguin134
      @ThePenguin134 Před 7 měsíci +98

      eh everyones different. Im friends with loads of people but I still have loads of fun. Naturally I still do small group stuff, but I find hanging out with as many people as possible a lot of fun

    • @Adri9570
      @Adri9570 Před 7 měsíci +19

      Ahh, yes...the _dating app effect_ getting more victims every day. Another reason to explore other planets and leave this doomed one.
      - The Joker, probably.

    • @gustavusadolphus4344
      @gustavusadolphus4344 Před 7 měsíci +151

      Having over choice is always better then not having any choices. Someone who has "too many choices" can always just pick one and make it work. If you don't have any choices there's jack shit you can do. Just remember that

    • @arI-Yabs
      @arI-Yabs Před 7 měsíci +6

      @@Adri9570 I never used dating apps.

    • @Chatoyancify
      @Chatoyancify Před 7 měsíci +74

      The lack of deep connections thins out the factors that help in choosing a partner. Therefore, for people with no close friends, there are still no choices. The notion of having "too many choices" is not accurate, unless, of course, you are choosing based on shallow factors. Popular people can feel just as lonely as those with no friends.

  • @agme8045
    @agme8045 Před 7 měsíci +1358

    For most of the year I only talked with like 3 people in uni (this is my first year) and I felt kinda bad in the sense that I wasn’t making many friends and a lot of other people seemed to be socializing way more. But this last week I somehow ended up socializing with a larger group of people who are all friends with each other, and they even invited me to one of their ‘little hangouts’ and tbh I hated it, i don’t feel comfortable with such large groups of people plus I feel like I have nothing in common with them. Sure they are nice but socializing with them literally drains me. I much rather just hang out with the 2/3 people I’ve been hanging out with for the past couple of months lol

    • @BlueBobbin
      @BlueBobbin Před 7 měsíci +129

      Nice to hear you are opening up a bit, enjoy it

    • @kacperrools
      @kacperrools Před 7 měsíci +105

      commenting to just appricate the kindness of @@BlueBobbin, your encouragment of a stranger made me smile. thank you.

    • @fornex5615
      @fornex5615 Před 7 měsíci +42

      U doing great i think for me in 2 years at uni still 0 friends i talk to nobody i know that's a problem but i just can't talk to anyone like a ghost

    • @salli2883
      @salli2883 Před 7 měsíci

      @@fornex5615 Find at least one person in one class who seems like a good person and cares about the things your learning. Go up to them and ask to sit with them (and their group if there with others). If your not racist, sexist or start every sentence by bringing others down, then your gonna be able to get along with them and have people to talk to and do anything with. Just a few people you can message for help and go through life with will make an extreme difference for the better in most aspects. This is coming from someone who was in your situation when I started uni and now I have a few people that I respect a lot and they also respect me.

    • @zeffery101
      @zeffery101 Před 7 měsíci +45

      yea but it gets boring. I was the same for a while. So I started hanging out more with "connectors" that are the popular ones that everyone is friends with and they can invite me to stuff where I can meet 1-2 people that I actually would like to hang out with more often

  • @VeganAFperth
    @VeganAFperth Před 7 měsíci +308

    I grew up at public schools and my friends having more friends than me always challenged my self-esteem. However since I was in high school I already had been thinking “if I need to maintain so many friendships I will be so tired. It’s like working. How can they hang out with so many people every day?” It turned out I’m actually an introvert. Now I’m at my 30s and being able to be alone is actually a super power. I can manifest so many things while being alone. I don’t need to social at all. I just do it for my business or a certain purpose sometimes. I’m enjoying my life so much.

    • @ZuluIndelucht
      @ZuluIndelucht Před 6 měsíci +3

      I want to ask you the question. Do you think If you start actively trying to be an extrovert and overcome your introvert personality. Do you think you’d go back to being an introvert? For myself the answer is no. I was an introvert, but overcame it and I’ll never go back. I could easily entertain myself and was never bored, but being together with others helps you grow as a person and really is more fun (in my opinion) than being alone. I have to say i do feel bored now sometimes. Witch is new for me.

    • @technicalmaster-mind
      @technicalmaster-mind Před 5 měsíci +4

      @@ZuluIndelucht literally same
      (Writing my emotions so didn't think much of grammar pardon if u feel hard to read and yhh extensively long sorry 😅😂)
      I never liked parties family gatherings and till 10th grade my whole life went alone in home with too less or no frnds not going out after schl hrs for months but as i remember now i never felt lone
      But in 12th grade i found some frnds and im from a country where most people get it hard to get 3 times meal let alone the internet so everyone around me was extrovert so i thought i should also transit myself like that (the society turns you into how they are finally after 15yrs of your life) BEST MEMORIES I MADE
      But since i was introvert by start, i hadn't talent to make more frnds but just luckily got memorable frnds for short time now im in uni and my highschool frnds went other cities for their unis and ofc they're extrovert by start they're happy must've made new frnds and ME NOW ALWAYS GET THE FEEL OF LONELINESS HOWEVER THAT'S HOW I HAD BEEN SPENDING MY LIFE BY START BUT NEVER FELT THIS CONSTANT INTERNAL FEELING OF LOWNESS now i realise that the best temporary memories are poison for rest of my life i wish i become like before i.e. no problem in being like what im now as i was before in my life except that 1 yr 12th grade phase
      In our city there aren't much good educational institutes so t
      I get relieved when i meet them after living 1/2 months in other city back to home town we all come to meet our families for some days and pretty much enjoy eachothers company those 4/5 days those now being some of the days in which i don't feel low but the rest of month!

    • @590af
      @590af Před 5 měsíci +2

      Socializing is a human need, it's backed up by psychology and research. I'm pretty sure I read somewhere that being a lone for too long, actually affects your brain's health or something like that... it leads to deterioration of your cognitive abilities or something like that. You can enjoy yourself and enjoy being alone while steel needing social interaction, you just need to balance it.

    • @VeganAFperth
      @VeganAFperth Před 5 měsíci

      @@590afnoted.

    • @stressfreegames3524
      @stressfreegames3524 Před měsícem +2

      @@ZuluIndelucht Idk, you might be an ambivert which is I think is a rare trait when your both introverted and extroverted rather than being one or the other 🤔 (plus you shouldn't say overcome like that cause that's implying being introverted is a bad thing when it's not)

  • @elliotcmoussa
    @elliotcmoussa Před 7 měsíci +53

    Plot twist: The reason the paradox was discovered in the first place was because all of the statisticians who researched it have no friends, so they made a phenomena to make themselves feel better.

  • @ayla8345
    @ayla8345 Před 7 měsíci +401

    I always used to envy popular people until I saw how quickly everything can fall apart and how superficial many of their friendships are. My cousin used to be the most popular person in HS, after we graduated she was even more popular. Everyone liked her, everyone knew her. She had a ton of friends and connections. I was always jealous of her. Once she stopped partying and moved in with her boyfriend her entire social life completely fell apart. The only people she hangs out with now is her boyfriend and me.
    It’s crazy to see her like this now. I never thought she’d just be a regular girl with no friends. Popularity doesn’t last forever.

    • @paulj6805
      @paulj6805 Před 7 měsíci +28

      That's just what happens when you get in a serious relationship.

    • @second7496
      @second7496 Před 7 měsíci +88

      Then basically nothing fell apart . It was basically her choice to hang mostly with her boyfriend and you.I don’t really see in what ways she lost friends , because she can literally just recontacte them . And plus I feel like maybe she just shifted her focus, unless she told you that they just left her or
      Something .

    • @20-NYC
      @20-NYC Před 7 měsíci +17

      This happens even on a smaller scale, I’ve been part of small n large groups of friends both can very easily fall apart, becuz ppl are very unreliable, n their selfish needs n desires as well as pride comes first along with other priorities like causing issues just purely out of jealousy..

    • @pingu6028
      @pingu6028 Před 6 měsíci +4

      The "chearleader" or the "footballer" type...both wanted from the other sex and feared, admired or at least seen as an opportunity to better their own status by the own sex. At the end her beauty fades (and or the other guys realise it will never be their turn) and he doesnt make it to the pros... But both clinging on to the better times where their word was rule and they didnt have to compromise...quite often still unwilling to compromise when they actually have to its not rare that they fall deep and end up alone - or if they finally get to compromise they end up as normalo

    • @macrocosm4442
      @macrocosm4442 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Indeedr❤r

  • @sylphaeri
    @sylphaeri Před 7 měsíci +496

    These are some very nicely made videos, especially with:
    1) cited sources
    2) video corrections and further clarifications on the video
    3) no clickbait
    i hope these data analyses continue

  • @user-uk7lw3zz3y
    @user-uk7lw3zz3y Před 7 měsíci +161

    You already had me at 1:12, absolutely love how the video is made!

  • @kkwsn00
    @kkwsn00 Před 6 měsíci +46

    once, i was crying because my friends never had time for me and always hung out with their other friends, and outside i always see people have many friends. my dad came to me, and said, i don't have many friends, because i'm a person who can get along better with real friends. he told me the many friends of my friends are most likely to be fake, and my case is a good thing, because having less but real friends is better than having many but fake friends. (i'm sorry if my english is bad!)

  • @camilirio7672
    @camilirio7672 Před 7 měsíci +185

    I think a mistake we have made as a society is that we call acquaintances "friends". My parents are very sociable people, I have learned from them that is more about giving back favours or just spending a good time than actual deep connections. You can only have a few of those. But shallow relationships can be very beneficial to you and the people you interact with (even if it may seem superficial and it may take some work). So, to my fellow introverts, just be nice to the people surrounding you, try to initiate conversation, don't worry about a deep connection (unless you want them to be one of the 1-3 actual friends you'll have) and remember that we are social creatures and that networking is CRUCIAL if you want too have an easier time in this world.

    • @pingu6028
      @pingu6028 Před 6 měsíci +12

      exactly, nothing wrong with shallow conections. A smile, a few words can be a lot better than nothing. Knowing someone who can repair a car or knows how to do taxes is fine too. People are addicted to outcomes - but we cant control them anyway. A smile to the cashier doesnt cost you anything and if its not returned so what? But if its returned it can give you a good start in the day - the both of you. Also doesnt mean you have to become best buddies/marry each other now.

    • @irontree3842
      @irontree3842 Před 6 měsíci +9

      This is exactly how I behave ! I only have two or three friends with who I actually talk about my private life (girls, future plans, how I feel about this or that...) but I can have a laugh the exact way with them than with like 15 or 20 dudes I know from highschool. The first important thing to remember is that I totally trust the first three and not the others. The second is that all these dudes with who I hangout everyday (except my close friends, precising it because I don't know if that's always the case) hangout with even more people than me and it feels like they also have more "close" friends than me, but that's not the case. They are mostly faking it. I don't know wich way to socialize is the healthier, so I just act what I feel is the best way, wich leads me to the first option.

    • @oko7002
      @oko7002 Před měsícem +1

      If you ask me about how many friends I have I honestly won't think to include the shallow connections. I just consider them some people I like who are nice but wouldn't call that a friend

    • @rustin2380
      @rustin2380 Před měsícem

      Pin worthy comment

  • @rimanpele
    @rimanpele Před 3 měsíci +13

    jokes on you, i have no friends

  • @mako5708
    @mako5708 Před 7 měsíci +391

    Your channel is becoming gold. Please more like these videos, explaining life around us by well-understandable data story telling :)

  • @ema-idiomas-musica4111
    @ema-idiomas-musica4111 Před 7 měsíci +129

    My mom always told me that some people who seem like friends today can turn into foes tomorrow, so I'm selective when it comes to choosing my friends. For instance, there are those who may be interested in what you have to offer, but not all of them are genuinely your friends. She also says that I should avoid telling personal things because my "friends" could use that information against me later.

    • @isaacdalziel5772
      @isaacdalziel5772 Před 7 měsíci +30

      I would warn you against following her advice too closely, particularly the last part. I've had one or two friends that I ended up falling out with. It was still worth being friends with them, and they never used personal information against me. It's much better than being lonely.

    • @ema-idiomas-musica4111
      @ema-idiomas-musica4111 Před 7 měsíci +17

      @@isaacdalziel5772 Thank you. Yes, you're absolutely right. Sometimes, we learn better from our own mistakes than from other people's advice. I'll try to take her suggestions with a grain of salt; otherwise, it can be difficult to make good friends.

    • @aki-cy4ev
      @aki-cy4ev Před 7 měsíci +3

      my mother told me the exact same but she also grew up in an area where you couldn't trust anybody outside your family. times have changed and my friendships are extremely rewarding because i have found friends with whom i can be extremely open with. some friends did turn out to be awful later and then it becomes a matter of deciding which information you feel comfortable with sharing at which level of intimacy.

    • @pi4795
      @pi4795 Před 5 měsíci +2

      It's really hard to tell the intentions of people. As a rule of thumb, if a person talks bad or in a way that you don't like about other people, expect that they would do the same with you

    • @MOMAZOSPATO
      @MOMAZOSPATO Před 5 měsíci +2

      So true, ive been humilliated and embarassed by “friends” because i told them personal info.

  • @AlphaMC
    @AlphaMC Před 7 měsíci +103

    I'm an introvert, so I'd rather spend time alone than with others. It's always good to hang out with friends, but you shouldn't let them influence your life more than yourself.

  • @gfueladdict5655
    @gfueladdict5655 Před 7 měsíci +33

    really goes back to the old saying, if you're the best in a room, you're probably in the wrong room. Maybe it's not actually a bad thing

    • @korsensei5891
      @korsensei5891 Před 7 měsíci

      Why can you explain please ? 🙏

    • @elpeluca7780
      @elpeluca7780 Před 7 měsíci +4

      ​​@@korsensei5891it means being out of your comfort zone. If you're the best, there's no challenge. Not being the best means you're likely trying to improve

    • @korsensei5891
      @korsensei5891 Před 7 měsíci

      @@elpeluca7780 oh now I get it, thanks for the explanation ❤️🤜🤛

  • @ashe_
    @ashe_ Před 7 měsíci +40

    Another fantastic video, i spat my drink out when the popular kid bursts through the door with that music. Truly memeable data!

  • @gummy5862
    @gummy5862 Před 7 měsíci +44

    I know I’m not a super agreeable person and I refuse to mold myself to make other people comfortable. This is why I’ve never had a friend group, too many characters and personalities to accommodate to. And it’s why I’m selective with who I call a friend.

  • @guilhermemaia3790
    @guilhermemaia3790 Před 7 měsíci +96

    Fascinating topic! It's both comforting and intriguing to realize that this is a common perception among many of us. Great job breaking down this complex topic!

  • @ZTimeGamingYT
    @ZTimeGamingYT Před 7 měsíci +549

    As a person who can be classified as an introvert, or "a typically reserved or quiet person who tends to be introspective and enjoys spending time alone" according to Merriam-Webster, I already know the feeling of not having many friends in the first place lol. This is from my own personal experience with living my life.
    Really insightful video!

    • @tonim.8016
      @tonim.8016 Před 7 měsíci +38

      few friends that you can fully trust >>> many friends of which some or even many or even all are using you to their advantage only but let you down once you need something from them.

    • @cricketshorts332
      @cricketshorts332 Před 7 měsíci

      Introverts Are Actually The Matured Extroverts As Time Goes By They Tend To Understand This @@tonim.8016

    • @manaembepis5750
      @manaembepis5750 Před 7 měsíci +13

      I don't think its because you're an introvert, could be that you're just anti-social

    • @juli_louie
      @juli_louie Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@manaembepis5750asocial* that term Is not correct

    • @HypnosisBear
      @HypnosisBear Před 7 měsíci +18

      What really matters is having good friends and not more friends. We should make friends with like minded people.
      Quality > Quantity

  • @Nicromatic
    @Nicromatic Před 7 měsíci +114

    However, all your calculations (and the friendship paradox) is about taking the average degree (or number of friends).
    It is quite intuitive to see how hubs (or people with many friends) would skew the average.
    What would it look like if you looked at the median number of Twitter followers for those accounts you looked at? This would make sense since I don't care about the average number of friends my friends have, but rather, how many of my friends have more friends than me.

    • @TheFizzingWhizbee
      @TheFizzingWhizbee Před 7 měsíci +8

      Would be curious about this too!

    • @stijn4771
      @stijn4771 Před 7 měsíci +3

      Leaving a comment here in case something is done with this. Interesting idea!

    • @drorbenuliel9280
      @drorbenuliel9280 Před 7 měsíci +6

      This was exactly my thoughts! I am curious as well.

    • @zahraamin164
      @zahraamin164 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Yeah I thought about that too

    • @wassup4532
      @wassup4532 Před 6 měsíci +2

      If you use the median you can really compare yourself to others and the final result would tell you if you really are worse socially than others. This video is just dumb and poor clickbait.

  • @ssjEasterBunny
    @ssjEasterBunny Před 7 měsíci +9

    The fact that the door hits the locker at 1:06 is such perfection.

  • @JuliusBriggs
    @JuliusBriggs Před 7 měsíci +142

    honestly the only thing that really matters is having a few good, close and real friends that have your back and will talk with you about anything
    if you even have one of those you can count your blessings in life
    this video also mistakes acquaintances for friends, which is fine for the sake of demonstrating the phenomenon being discussed
    don't make that same mistake in real life tho

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    @FireBIaze Před 7 měsíci +8

    This has to be the best integration of an ad i've ever seen. Well done!

  • @fuzzy-02
    @fuzzy-02 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Thank you a lot!
    When you generalized and showed the better fifs player, gym guy, dating etc.
    It widened my scoped. I had never fully consciously thought about my sampling by onky looking at my friends

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    @leprechaun3677 Před 7 měsíci +4

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    @PROJECT_FALTERS Před 7 měsíci +7

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    @OP-yw3ws Před 7 měsíci +8

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    @335449286 Před 7 měsíci +6

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  • @bandiddums
    @bandiddums Před 6 měsíci +43

    I've got a lot of people who I would really like to consider as my friends but whenever I see them being a lot more friendly with some other people makes me feel left out. Seeing them joke around, just having a blast makes me feel really insecure and I would end up distancing myself from said "friend". In addition to that, I tend to care more about myself rather than other people because my whole life I've been a secluded and isolated kid so I have a hard time trying to form some deeper bonds with other people, which really sucks because I want to care more for other people and to be able to relate to them but I can't exactly do that by myself. I think I have some kind of a toxic trait as well, something like a overly possessive personality. Watching this video does make me feel a bit better about it but I don't think I'll be able to improve my situation

    • @ENDI8089
      @ENDI8089 Před 6 měsíci +5

      Same i never get invited anywhere by them.

    • @technicalmaster-mind
      @technicalmaster-mind Před 5 měsíci +3

      You're not alone with in the world with these personality traits my frnd

    • @bl3524
      @bl3524 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Go to therapy

    • @alfasusi5415
      @alfasusi5415 Před 4 měsíci +1

      I suggest you talk with a professional, read about personalities, emotional locks, and improve yourself

  • @crzy_editz1814
    @crzy_editz1814 Před 3 měsíci +7

    Step 1: get friends

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    @CarlosMorales-es4xv Před 7 měsíci +3

    Love your videos!! Learning and having some laughs at the same time !

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    @tim..indeed Před 2 měsíci +2

    Incredibly high production value for a channel called "Memeable Data" lol. Thank you

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    @vicocloutier9607 Před 7 měsíci +2

    your videos are great, keep it up !

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    @ricardocm77 Před 7 měsíci +16

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  • @zukushi2533
    @zukushi2533 Před 7 měsíci +21

    I feel like this is very inmportant data in our society right now, especially people that struggle with the feeling of being lonely and maybe even are depressed because of it.
    Gen Z in general has a lonelyness struggle. Great video, i definitly will be able to use this in future discussions!

    • @witchreturns2263
      @witchreturns2263 Před 7 měsíci +1

      People who struggle or feel lonely should go out and also to local events, organisations etc and not to rely on statisticss

    • @zukushi2533
      @zukushi2533 Před 7 měsíci +9

      @@witchreturns2263 that shows you never been in the situation.
      It just simply aint that easy, i dont even know where to start lmao.

    • @witchreturns2263
      @witchreturns2263 Před 7 měsíci

      @@zukushi2533 Than stay like this, it's a choice after all

    • @patw9175
      @patw9175 Před 7 měsíci +4

      @@witchreturns2263 it's impossibly easy to not be a passive aggressive jerk and you still couldn't manage.

    • @GoogleAccount-jn5qb
      @GoogleAccount-jn5qb Před 6 měsíci

      @@witchreturns2263 That was poorly worded.

  • @twtdata
    @twtdata Před 7 měsíci +2

    Very valuable content. Great video. Keep up the good work

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    @o.p.7646 Před 5 měsíci +2

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  • @zack6012
    @zack6012 Před 7 měsíci +47

    I think part of it too is you may be more willing to call a popular person your friend where that popular person may not view you as a close friend.
    You may be more popular than you think, but those people you know that have fewer friends than you, you are not willing to call a friend when they think that you are to them.
    You only end up comparing yourself to people better than you. this already happens we don't follow people on social media who have fewer followers, less intelligent, and/ or less attractive than ourself. You create this illusion that everyone is better than you

    • @riri1718
      @riri1718 Před 6 měsíci +1

      This comment is more profound than the video, and I did find the video eye opening.
      Thank you.

  • @solsy
    @solsy Před 7 měsíci +3

    I'm in the video yay! Amazing video, I really liked the way you explained things!

  • @jbvalle
    @jbvalle Před 7 měsíci +1

    This was incredibly fascinating!

  • @dzhelek
    @dzhelek Před 7 měsíci

    That's very informative and motivating. Thank you!

  • @ethanpetersen810
    @ethanpetersen810 Před 4 měsíci +7

    3:24 Ah, no wonder I’ve never had COVID…

  • @oyuyuy
    @oyuyuy Před 7 měsíci +7

    Twitter isn't really a networking site though, most people only follow large accounts and that aren't expected to follow back

  • @xMigma
    @xMigma Před 7 měsíci

    Really, your channel is amazing! Good job

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    @UltimateFrisbeeIsFun Před 7 měsíci +1

    I love this channel, awesome and interesting work.

  • @maydelisar
    @maydelisar Před 7 měsíci +10

    Congrats for such a video!🎉Full of creativity, and I believe it explains the concept really well. Looking forward for more content!!!!😊

  • @arminxvs3372
    @arminxvs3372 Před 7 měsíci +23

    Interesting video but my question for this phenomenon:
    Why does this seem to apply only in one way?
    Means, if all my friends have more friends than me, and I am a friend of them, shouldn't I have more friends than them as well - thus paradox?

    • @KrasBadan
      @KrasBadan Před 7 měsíci +28

      Not all your friends. Your average friend. Your friends probably have other friends than you, and it's more probable that these friends have more friends than the friend you're checking.
      Also, when you choose the friend to check, it's more probable that he has less friends than your average friend, because just the few of your friends skew the statistics up.
      And in reverse, if your friend wants to check his random friend, for example you, he'll probably choose someone who has less friends than his average friend.

  • @raulyazbeck7425
    @raulyazbeck7425 Před 2 měsíci +1

    After months of having it on the top of my mind, I just subscribed to Ground thanks to you. Apart from that, I so rarely comment, but keep on with CZcams, your content is great

  • @ninjakiwigames5418
    @ninjakiwigames5418 Před 7 měsíci

    Hope you do more videos like this in the future!

  • @alfador321
    @alfador321 Před 7 měsíci +6

    That cool guy reveal was damn funny

  • @kryptoknight992
    @kryptoknight992 Před 7 měsíci +5

    *Enters like He's the most extroverted guy on the planet*
    Narrator: "He's friends with *6* people!"

  • @conqueroroftheinternet
    @conqueroroftheinternet Před 7 měsíci

    Love the editing style of this channel!

  • @artisticcrossbreed
    @artisticcrossbreed Před 7 měsíci +5

    So, I might be considered "The popular one" in many of my friend groups. I have 15+ friends who I communicate and hang out with regularly. It's weird being on the other side of this, because I have had a lot of my friends refer to me as someone who makes friends easily (which is true) but I have some friends with even more friends than I. In particular one of my friend groups where are ALL that person with 15+ friends. We each have our own large friend groups that don't really intersect with each other. For a long time, I considered them "the popular ones" till people started pointing out that I was exactly the same. It's all about perspective.

  • @QuoteBlink
    @QuoteBlink Před 7 měsíci +9

    Last month I was Batman, last week I was Ryan Gosling, but today I am Napoleon (There's nothing we can do)

  • @timjoske5384
    @timjoske5384 Před 7 měsíci +1

    As soon as the cool guy opened the door and the music started playing you got a sub. My kind of content! This is great. I also barely ever comment

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    @user-oi9hl2bn4r Před 5 měsíci

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  • @mattispower8322
    @mattispower8322 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Very cool video! Great job. Did anyone else notice that at 3:12 he titled Berlin as Hamburg? xD

  • @hugegamer8004
    @hugegamer8004 Před 6 měsíci +6

    This is interesting because it refers to a certain culture I haven't come across. In my school so far, me and all of my friends have roughly the same amount of friends. We are an isolated group with a mutual dislike for the other friend groups. Some of us have various connections to specific people in those other friend groups, but there is little overlap.

  • @alvin_row
    @alvin_row Před 6 měsíci

    Great stuff as always!! Really high quality video about an interesting topic.

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    @ivanbashkirov4284 Před 7 měsíci

    Awesome work, great storytelling and loving process sharing.

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    @And_Nunes Před 7 měsíci +45

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  • @jackwalker4887
    @jackwalker4887 Před 7 měsíci +3

    I laughed out loud when the popular guy walked into the room, that was fantastic! btw, at 3:07 that red dot isn't Hamburg but Berlin)

  • @nikhilmajeti1874
    @nikhilmajeti1874 Před 2 měsíci

    Such a wonderful and thought provoking video. Thank you memeable data and youtube🎉

  • @zedzempai123
    @zedzempai123 Před 7 měsíci +1

    bro I swear these videos are the best data visualisation thing that exists on the internet

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    @Butt.lander Před 7 měsíci +4

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  • @SebWilkes
    @SebWilkes Před 7 měsíci +4

    4:07 "Goes to the gym every Janurary 2nd" ... top kek

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    @MM-ts9jy Před 7 měsíci

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  • @luismorais8922
    @luismorais8922 Před 7 měsíci +1

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  • @lao-ce8982
    @lao-ce8982 Před 7 měsíci +6

    Ok, 1 minute in and my guess would be, that this phenomena occurs because of how we go up on the ladder of the amount friends someone has. The higher we go, the less individuals will be on each level. There is a small amount of people that this paradox does not apply to, but the majority of people will experience this, since most of us is in the lower levels.

  • @Joaofigueiredo126
    @Joaofigueiredo126 Před 7 měsíci +14

    I have a good experience with this situation and for me, is quiet easy to explain. I have a childhood friend (25 years) and we studied at the same school, university and worked at the same company once. He made a lot of friends in these places and I don't. Why? He's handsome and rich. I'm a just standard guy. I realised that people are so open to listen and connect to him, while I always struggle to connect with people, despite the fact we have almost the same personality.

    • @teatowel11
      @teatowel11 Před 7 měsíci +16

      This is not a good explanation of the paradox.
      A better insight would be to consider that you are friends with the rich handsome guy who you went to school, university and worked with as opposed to other people who you had similar connections with.
      So yes you're freind may be more rich and handsome which may be why he has more friends, the paradox isn't about that. It's about the fact you are more likely to have less friends than your friends because we all tend to make friends with the same people.

    • @FauxReal.
      @FauxReal. Před 7 měsíci +3

      what you go through is called the beauty premium, which is why more attractive people have more friends and benefits

  • @joaosol8500
    @joaosol8500 Před měsícem

    What an amazing video, keep up this good work !

  • @JuliLukiKon
    @JuliLukiKon Před 6 měsíci

    Awesome Video!
    Thanks man! Highly interesting!

  • @whatisthishelpplz
    @whatisthishelpplz Před 7 měsíci +3

    damn great job youtube recommending this to me when im depressing myself over the fact that a few of my friends are starting to dislike me and that i cant make new friends at all (im the loneliest person to live in finland)

  • @turanbirligi6969
    @turanbirligi6969 Před 4 měsíci +3

    I dont know but my imaginary friends only have me i know that for sure 💀💀

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    @theRealJohnnyG. Před 7 měsíci

    I just discovered this cannel and I love it already!

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    @user-lz3np3ld3p Před 7 měsíci +1

    social science in a simple yet elegance way.
    Magnificent

  • @k1tozen668
    @k1tozen668 Před 7 měsíci +10

    I would argue the friendship paradox isn't as extreme. In the original example with the three groups of friends and one popular guy, the friendship paradox only applies to the outermost people with two friends. This is because their friends all have more friends than themself. However, the people who have three friends both have one friend who also has three friends (equal), one friend who has two friends (less) and one friend who has six friends (more), so on average they see an equal number of people with less friends than them compared to people with more. For personal connections, we shouldn't be using the mean number of friends per person in the friend group, but rather the median number of friends, as you having more or less than the median determines whether or not you feel like you have less or more friends than your friends. Thanks for reading!

  • @abcfx7391
    @abcfx7391 Před 7 měsíci +10

    As you grow, it will be hard to make new friends. For me, a friend is someone that I can trust. I have many "friends," but I can't trust them at all. If something bad happens to me, they won't be there to support.

  • @beaugearing
    @beaugearing Před 7 měsíci +2

    “lets assume every one has two friends” 0:50
    that cuts deep man.

  • @shankyshank689
    @shankyshank689 Před 7 měsíci

    Very informative video, I liked it!

  • @3ncy
    @3ncy Před 7 měsíci +4

    cool vid! But what happened to the left hand of all these people??

    • @memeabledata
      @memeabledata  Před 7 měsíci +4

      Something went wrong when I rigged the characters 😬

  • @linksgrunverkiffterminecra385
    @linksgrunverkiffterminecra385 Před 7 měsíci +4

    Good Video, but at 3:06 you labeled the German capital Berlin as Hamburg, another big city in Germany.

    • @memeabledata
      @memeabledata  Před 7 měsíci +2

      My bad! I had to manually adjust the positioning of the pins and I might have messed up some cities

  • @jecksstar8321
    @jecksstar8321 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Hey, you are kindof like Primer. Love it! You'll be doing great!

  • @49HEALTH
    @49HEALTH Před 6 měsíci

    This is such a well made video. Bravo 👏

  • @Creativboi
    @Creativboi Před 7 měsíci +3

    dont worry bro we are your friends