franklin winnie WHAT responsibility?!?! Hmmmm idk maybe the weight of millions of people watching her every move judging how she looked, how she sang, everything about her. One wrong move and your career and dreams are before you’re even an adult. Maybe that kind of responsibility?! Let’s see you be famous as fuck as a child and be perfect in the mental health department then if those problems are so insignificant!?
franklin winnie that’s really rude? In this day and age society as a certain view of what everyone is supposed to be! We talk about being unique and special then when you try to be you get shamed for it! Depression comes at all ages! You could be 76 and depressed! You could be 13 and depressed! It’s an emotional state not a privilege. You can’t say that responsibility is the only reason for depression when it isn’t. Depression at times is genetic so it could be a chemical imbalance or private life changing situations that aren’t brought to the surface. You can’t judge her for her choice in coping. Me as someone who is depressed I use music as a way to get out of it! I’ve been through shit that only I can comprehend. She’s been through things that only she can comprehend. We as people who aren’t her have absolutely NO right to comment on her mental state at that time! So for you to stoop this low to comment such disrespectful comments is horrendous. Your no help to anyone who might be going through something and is seeking refuge in people in the comments. I’m down right disgusted
I love how the mother is actually having a conversation with her daughter about this and not putting her to blame or shaming her for doing that to her body. Loved it
George George not most mothers but a lot of them. self harm is a topic a lot of people are ignorant of and unfortunately that goes for a lot of mothers too, they have flaws and are ignorant at times just like anyone else. my mum is a great mother but didn’t handle finding out i self harmed well at all and jumped to shame me, that doesn’t necessarily make her a bad parent but she’s not perfect either.
When I was 11, my dad saw cuts on my legs and knew they were self harm and he drug me around the house by my clothes, screamed at me, kicked me, and ripped my clothing and my hair. Im thankful our society is progressing
This made me grateful that all my dad did was distance himself and say “I raised you better than that”. I’m so sorry you went through that and I hope you are okay today💕💗
Chelsealynnism ever since my parents found out when I was self harming in 8th grade, my dad thinks every single fucking cat scratch is self harm. He thought I was crazy and fucked up. He’s one of those people that thinks mental issues are made up and that you can solve everything by hiding away for a while. This is why I don’t tell him shit lmao
When my mother found out I had relapsed in eighth grade she made me strip all my clothes and when she saw cuts she said she’s taking me to the “nut house” and that I’m crazy and not normal ever since then she’s not the same person to me. I’m so glad things are evolving
Why not give Ms. Willow respect that she was brave enough to come forward and admit that she was feeling pain like that. You don't know how many people she might have just helped. Stop brushing aside the pain our youth feel. Jada acted how she was supposed to. When someone is opening up like that we are supposed to listen first. So many kids think that they would get into even more trouble telling someone, that is why some never come forward. We don't know what happened once the cameras shut down and her family was able to talk. I believe an even deeper discussion happened then.
Well said. This is how teachers in the UK are trained to respond when a student discloses something this personal. No judgement. No interruptions. No negative reaction. Respect to Jada for creating that safe space for her daughter to speak freely.
My son cut himself and I didn't know. He hid it with long sleeve shirts. I didn't learn about it until he tried to get in the military, his life long dream. They wouldn't let him in due to psychological issues, even though, he had moved way past that and dealt with his issues. We've had many open talks since then, he broke down one day and said mom I have to tell you some things. I listened, didn't judge and thanked him for being so honest. It all related to his absent father, he thanked me for doing everything I did, but at the end of the day a boy needs their father. Not an abusive one like he had, which I have learned many things he went through, made me want to go the hell off on his dad, but at the end of the day all I can do is love him and show support in ways he didn't have with his father. I have learned more about "male" things I never considered before, but to support him, I will put on that tool belt (physically and emotionally) and learn new things. He is on solid ground now, thank God. As a male, he thought he had to shelter me and protect me, because I was such a different person than his dad, then he opened up to me, literally in a fetal position crying his eyes out. Very eye opening and all I cared about was making him whole. He knows he has my support no matter and I will always be here for him to cry, learn, laugh, talk about sex, or learn to love. I have been shocked a few times, but it is part of it and I am so thankful he is so comfortable talking about things he never thought he could talk about, but when he opened that door there was a flood.
@@iLexy3 Damn. No disrespect to your mom, but that seems like something a sociopath would do. Maybe she was just angry and lashed out. Did she ever apologize to you? I'm really sorry you had to go though that.
I told my mom once because I was forced to. That was the first time. Then I told her again because she had seen them on my wrist. Now I have to tell her more abt cutting myself because we are going to the beach. She's gonna hate me for it. April do you have any tips on telling ppl that you self harmed?
Ms. April, I totally felt every word you said in this and I appreciate you sharing this! You very much remind me of my own mom, who’s always been there for me emotionally and all else. My Father always did the practical things, but I never felt that sense of emotional connection that fathers and their sons need to have and I’d like to think as an adult we’re making up for lost time. I think my Father’s emotional disconnect was largely in part, due to his service in the Navy which back then was a bit brutal (so I used to be scared of him). I’m happy to know you and your son have that openness with each other; there’s truly nothing like a mother’s love and I think that’s why God gave us guys a deep sensitivity when it comes to the motherly figures in our lives. Thank you once again, Ms. April and many blessings to you and your family! 🙏🙏🙏
try to understand, this is a young girl who was suddenly world wide famous, who had to keep doing shows and promotion. She lost a part of her childhood. Back then, after whip my hair, she shaved her head. She really wanted to disassociate with that idea of her. She's obviously in a better place since its been almost 10 years so she is comfortable talking about it to her mother and grandmother.
Wow. As a mother, u wanna hold ur baby to let them know it's ok, mommy's got u and for Jada and her mother to give Willow space to breathe & speak on it takes VOLUMES of restraint. I'm crying now but I do applaud them for this bloodline of strength. It's amazing how all 3 of these ladies are so close yet surprising eachother with their personal truths. Amen.
I don’t know how real this is, but if it brings awareness and understanding to self harm then all the better. I self harmed from 13-16 consistently (those were tough years) then I relapsed once at 23 and relapsed again at 25. I’m 28 now, my arms are covered in scars that will be with me until the day I die, but I’m not ashamed because I had to experience that to get to where I am today. What they said about the physical pain being tangible is true. For me, when I’m in that kind of state of mind and I’m feeling so bad, I’m cutting to try and distract myself from that emotional pain. No physical pain even comes close to how it feels when you are so overwhelmed by sadness that you lose all hope. Imagine having no hope... it’s not a pleasant place to be. Most people that know me have no idea I used to self harm (or a bunch of other things about me). When I was doing that I wasn’t telling people, I was hiding it. Yet, I know so many people who say it is an attention seeking behavior. It’s so frustrating and one of the myths that I’d love to be dispelled. Hopefully more conversations like this get us to that place quicker.
I started self-harming when I was 11, and even though my mother didn't understand it at first, eventually she supported me through my recovery journey and I'm really glad I can open emotionally to her now.
Wow I had no clue why someone would cut themselves but hearing hear explain how she was feeling is really eye opening and I commend her for being courageous enough to share something so private ! This was so deep and I appreciate this very much on behalf of the public , helps us mothers learn from one another and may help someone out there !!! 🙏🏽
I love this family!!! Please keep being transparent and strong. The wisdom and principles of being open, honest and loving is transcendent!!! YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE 💜 this is what true LOVE DOES....
Tbh respect for that, people saying why you putting that out there like no, why say that!!!! it should be talked about not hidden away, many people struggle and this is a message to show that you can get through anything and that you should talk to someone if your going through a situation like this, and that’s reality people I’m afraid.
I believe her it happened to my child. At age 16. It's such a hard time for them. U don't know who u are yet at that age. What is perceived is try to fit in and if u don't u are not what people except. Among other things. They hurt themselves because they are hurting it's a messed up way of thinking but that's what they think. So rich or poor has nothing to do with that. U have to become mentally strong to come out of it.
I agree..kids nowadays have to deal with so much more than we did when we were growing up...So they find a release which is sad that it has to be cutting. My youngest daughter did it as well. On the inside of her arm where noone can see it.. Started around the same time 14-16. Shes 18 now and is doing so much better.. Sometimes we have to let them find a way out of darkness. We just have to be there when they do and dont judge them for their mistakes
@@derrickagarcia1028 I agree and it's such a dark time for them. And it hurts u that they are going thru it. Everyone has to learn to deal with the down sides of this life. That people are not all cracked up to what they are supposed to be. Thanks for your reply. Helps to know I'm not the only parent.
No ur not..as a parent wr want to protect protect protect...and its hard seeing our kids hurting. When i found out i felt like i fail as a parent and i fail her as a mother. We r so much better closer than ever...good luck hun..nd God bless u nd ur family
And the worst part is that she says nothing. Not a single word of support like "I'm sorry you felt that way and had to go through that but I love you and I'm here for you"
I’m sooo glad Jada didn’t have a go at her for it. But instead she spoke to her about it and done it in a way Willow knew she could open up to her! If she had had a go at her I bed Jada would have shut down that talk instead.
I went through this situation with my daughter and I literally cry like a baby when I found out she was cutting and hurting herself but we did get through it together
Mal it says the material in this may be “harmful or offensive” IM SORRY HOW IS THIS HARMFUL OR OFFENSIVE?! If anything not talking about this type of thing is just that. That message if fucking offensive
Jada is an amazing mother and I think she dealt with the situation great, you can’t push or shame you’re children when they tell you something like this it can make it worse
As a single parent u work and try to maintain your home and many other issues when u think all is well but you just dont know what you child is really going thru even if u have a open door policy it was was surrounded by school bully low self esteem depression since earlier on in school
I hate how people shame Jada and Will for having bad parenting skills just because their children are confessing all this stuff on camera but I bet the majority of parents out there judging don't even know their kids drink, do drugs or even have sex, don't judge if you don't even know what your kids do and probably will never confess
As a 17 yr old I know for a fact plenty of those “perfect parents” with “perfect kids” who judge people like Jada and Will for what you mentioned don’t know that their kids are suffering just as much if not worse and self harming, doing drugs or drinking, or other dangerous things like stick n pokes
But that's exactly why girls self harm. There's a notion that girls are emotional beings, so it's in their nature to feel the rollercoaster of emotional pain. However, it's not custom for girls to endure physical pain (society views girls as fragile beings), so when a girl self harms, it becomes shocking! It captures the attention of someone who believes girls aren't supposed to endure pain without a rescuer.
When I was cutting . I told about 4 of my closest friends. Sometimes I did it way to close to my hand so whenever I reached to get something you would be able to see it (I have school uniform). So all in all about 7 people knew. They didn’t tell anyone. But my 2 best friends told my 2 older brothers at school. So I came out of lesson and both of them walked over to me (which they never ever do because you know you don’t really interact in school aha) and basically dragged me away to their locker blocks (they’re 16). And straight up just said ‘show me your wrist’. Honestly if my friends hadn’t told I’d probably still be cutting. But now I go to weekly therapy. And I’m so thankful for the support. So please get help. Or if you know someone self harming tell someone. They might not want you to but it’ll help them
I understand why she didn't say anything because she thought it would burden her parents. Parents tend to vocally express a lot of the issues in theirs lives, especially around their kids. So in return kids might avoid telling them certain things. My parents were constantly complaining about struggling with money, work, health, family and life in general. So when I was going through anything I dealt with it alone, and when you're a child it can feel like a lot more. Sometimes you have to watch what you say around your children. It's crazy how some parents really mess their kids up, without even trying to. This is why not everyone should be parents or at least be more careful in making the decision to become one. It's not enough to just provide for them financially (as you can clearly see from this video). Just another reason why I do not want children.
People in this world suck everyone in this comment section you’re jealous of what she has. If you were in the public eye from birth I would think we’d all have a hard time as well. So don’t be quick to jump if you don’t know the situations she was going through
Fr! What about millions of people judging your appearance, clothes, and every move at age 9 is NOT hard?? Besides it is a fact that depression does not need a cause. Besides these people being jealous they are super uneducated
Alice Alza in the episode willow said, the problem was too much attention and expectation on her at such a young age also she didn’t know if that was the career she wanted and will n Jada we’re pushing that for her so that she could be set in life.
Can you imagine your appearance, clothing choice, and every move you make being judged by the watchful eye of millions? The pressure? If she made one wrong move her dreams and career could be crushed all before she is even an adult!!
Wait she's the girl behind that song from whip my hair 😱 this whole time I had always thought that it was a chic in her 20's not a kid. Anyway I don't mind her talking about this but damn talk to your mom first.
LadyE100 Yup. Was dating this girl who has parents just like that, some kids complain about strict parents and wish they could do the shit other kids can.. but the girl I dated was just hurt by the fact that she was allowed to go anywhere and her parents didn’t care because she felt like they didn’t give a single shit whether she came up dead in a ditch.
Sad but this happens often and has been a thing for years now. I remember the first time my daughter told me her friend was doing it. It's another way for kids to release stress. I'm glad she shared that since this is an old red talk episode, so parents can ask their kids about it.
When she revealed that n the way jada reacted n went with follow up questions.. it feels like the connection between a parent and daughter were off.. like they need to spend more quality time together.. emotionally. Idk I get the vibe that Jada wasn't 💯 there while willow grew up... I can imagine her being out working same for Will and the kids were too much in public eye and didn't had both parents when they were needed the most considering both being busy in hollywood
Did you see grandma's face.If I was Jada I would be so upset!I couldn't be so cool with that at all.That is so not cool I would have to find out how why what when omg noooo nooo!!My heart would be so broken.
Powergirl 76 You can’t protect your children from everything. Being human is hard in itself and people deal with life phases differently. Cutting was one life phase that Willow went through. Some kids get addicted to pills/meth/heroin during their difficult life phase and never make it out the other side. The fact that Willow trusted her mother enough to tell her something so intimate speaks volumes though. A bad parent would never have known about something like this unless it was obvious.
Willow is the daughter of a narcissist mother. Such stories do not belong in the public! She oviously has a bonding trauma that causes her self harm and the insecurity about her sexuality. Call it "boderline". Good luck, girl!
willow as always been an emotional needy child right from age 5 when the father and the brother shot ' pursuit of happiness" she expressed it indirectly on Oprah.... parents should be more attentive to their children
@LadyE100 no mother can notice everything! Do your mom notice everything. I bet you done something's that she didn't know about. We are human and not perfect!
the way neither of them apologized for not being there when she needed them is exactly why kids don’t talk to their parents. she’s using the way she was raised as a coverup for being a bad mother and it showes :/
I'm a teacher and kids publicly self harm for attention. There's a number of girls with them visibly displayed on their thighs and wrists and they are taken to a specialist team who talk to them about it. Surprisingly most are going through what they believe to be a trend
Yeah but what about the people who self harm as a way of release. My teacher once told a boy to 'cover up' his self harm scars and he wasnt doing it for attention
It is bad but it is NOT all bad. That is the misconception! My therapist taught me that while you should work hard no to; if that is what is keeping you sane or keeping you from ending your life then it is actually what she called a “safety-factor”. I know for a fact that without cutting I may have freaked out and done terrible things, maybe fought back with my father and been killed. So while yes you should stop if you can, know that doing it safely (not vertical, not deeper than a few millimeters, with sterile blades, and making sure to always clean the wound after) can save your life. So don’t feel like an awful person if that is what you have to do to survive. There is a reason it’s called a coping method.
Also please no one come at me and say I’m promoting cutting. All I’m saying is if it is saving your sanity and your life, then that is ok. Work hard to stop it, but don’t hate yourself if you NEED to cut.
I mean can you blame her? She had such a hard life and difficult life growing up! No dad in her life, had to help her mom take care of her 7 siblings ...sometimes going days without enough food in the house for everyone. Molested and no one to talk to cause she didn’t even understand it herself. Oooh wait hmmmm🤔
Amen sister...Thank you for speaking the truth..yes she was probably pressured with all the attention and stress at that age(interview, videos,concert..)but there are and were kids her age who gone through worse and are from working class families,broken homes or worse both and this kids have no time for depression although they should be..These kids have to keep going and have no privilege to seek help..they were probably told to rough it out,pull urself together
This family think they’re superior beings spewing their “wise philosophy” to the world. I eye roll every time I hear Jada and the kids talk. I can only stand Will
Humans do a lot of strange things to cope. Believe me if I wouldn’t have cut myself I may have died. It was the way I took out my anger for being abused by my father. Had I not I may have tried to fight back and died. Please do not judge.
That's the point of the show... Being open about problems that might be affecting people in general. It might encourage people to talk to eachother. I know a family who didn't and it almost destroyed them. So personally I think this is a good idea. Especially for African families
I know kids can be VERY sneaky, but how did Will and Jada not see their daughter had cuts on her WRIST? I know a lot of people do it on their thighs so it’s hidden away, I could understand them not seeing it there. But right on her wrist?
Poor baby....... Must be so hard being a stars kid with all that money. All the kids around the world getting abused physically, mentally and sexually doesnt hold a candle to willows problems.
I’m sorry did she say my problems are worse? No. Fuck off and stop minimizing mental health issues. If you know anything about mental health you’d know depression doesn’t need and most of the time doesn’t have a cause. It’s science, you can disagree but you are wrong.
As someone abused in all the ways mentioned I disagree with you very much and it isn’t about who’s problems are worse. It’s about mental health awareness. You know what’s hard? Millions of people judging everything about your appearance, your actions, your words no matter what you do. The weight of doing one thing wrong and ruining your dreams and career before you’re even adult would be crushing. Let’s see you deal with that.
She said they are barely visible. You’d have to be really looking at her arms for some reason. I know bc I have minimal scarring too and no one notices
Depression affects everyone regardless of class. Especially during teenage years. Poor kids cut, rich kids cut.
I never cut myself intentionally, but I understand now what that she was probably depressed.
franklin winnie WHAT responsibility?!?! Hmmmm idk maybe the weight of millions of people watching her every move judging how she looked, how she sang, everything about her. One wrong move and your career and dreams are before you’re even an adult. Maybe that kind of responsibility?! Let’s see you be famous as fuck as a child and be perfect in the mental health department then if those problems are so insignificant!?
franklin winnie that’s really rude? In this day and age society as a certain view of what everyone is supposed to be! We talk about being unique and special then when you try to be you get shamed for it! Depression comes at all ages! You could be 76 and depressed! You could be 13 and depressed! It’s an emotional state not a privilege. You can’t say that responsibility is the only reason for depression when it isn’t. Depression at times is genetic so it could be a chemical imbalance or private life changing situations that aren’t brought to the surface. You can’t judge her for her choice in coping. Me as someone who is depressed I use music as a way to get out of it! I’ve been through shit that only I can comprehend. She’s been through things that only she can comprehend. We as people who aren’t her have absolutely NO right to comment on her mental state at that time! So for you to stoop this low to comment such disrespectful comments is horrendous. Your no help to anyone who might be going through something and is seeking refuge in people in the comments. I’m down right disgusted
@@isaidwhatisaid4933 ......i feel offended😓
@@mikkibabesss SO true, beautiful😊👏
I love how the mother is actually having a conversation with her daughter about this and not putting her to blame or shaming her for doing that to her body. Loved it
You mean like any other
half decent mother would?? 🤔😑....
Ballistic Badger lies.
Ballistic Badger lmao yeah no
@@ballisticbadger9955 my mom would blame & shame me for it if i cut myself. Some moms aren't like Jada
George George not most mothers but a lot of them. self harm is a topic a lot of people are ignorant of and unfortunately that goes for a lot of mothers too, they have flaws and are ignorant at times just like anyone else. my mum is a great mother but didn’t handle finding out i self harmed well at all and jumped to shame me, that doesn’t necessarily make her a bad parent but she’s not perfect either.
When I was 11, my dad saw cuts on my legs and knew they were self harm and he drug me around the house by my clothes, screamed at me, kicked me, and ripped my clothing and my hair.
Im thankful our society is progressing
I am so sorry you had to go thru that at the hands of someone who is supposed to help and support you. I hope you are better now
This made me grateful that all my dad did was distance himself and say “I raised you better than that”. I’m so sorry you went through that and I hope you are okay today💕💗
My dad beat me with a belt :/ so yeah, I agree. Like what good did that do?
Chelsealynnism ever since my parents found out when I was self harming in 8th grade, my dad thinks every single fucking cat scratch is self harm. He thought I was crazy and fucked up. He’s one of those people that thinks mental issues are made up and that you can solve everything by hiding away for a while. This is why I don’t tell him shit lmao
When my mother found out I had relapsed in eighth grade she made me strip all my clothes and when she saw cuts she said she’s taking me to the “nut house” and that I’m crazy and not normal ever since then she’s not the same person to me. I’m so glad things are evolving
Willow is growing into a gorgeous young lady
It’s crazy right? Her mind is so beautiful just like her momma. I love it.
opK邪悪な Nah, just a natural girl without a heck ton of makeup. She’s exceptionally gorgeous, actually.
opK邪悪な you probably are a little boy
Calm down ppl. They could have edited it out but I think it's very brave that they were bold enough to be this transparent
Why not give Ms. Willow respect that she was brave enough to come forward and admit that she was feeling pain like that. You don't know how many people she might have just helped. Stop brushing aside the pain our youth feel. Jada acted how she was supposed to. When someone is opening up like that we are supposed to listen first. So many kids think that they would get into even more trouble telling someone, that is why some never come forward. We don't know what happened once the cameras shut down and her family was able to talk. I believe an even deeper discussion happened then.
Well said. This is how teachers in the UK are trained to respond when a student discloses something this personal. No judgement. No interruptions. No negative reaction. Respect to Jada for creating that safe space for her daughter to speak freely.
I agree.
My son cut himself and I didn't know. He hid it with long sleeve shirts. I didn't learn about it until he tried to get in the military, his life long dream. They wouldn't let him in due to psychological issues, even though, he had moved way past that and dealt with his issues. We've had many open talks since then, he broke down one day and said mom I have to tell you some things. I listened, didn't judge and thanked him for being so honest. It all related to his absent father, he thanked me for doing everything I did, but at the end of the day a boy needs their father. Not an abusive one like he had, which I have learned many things he went through, made me want to go the hell off on his dad, but at the end of the day all I can do is love him and show support in ways he didn't have with his father. I have learned more about "male" things I never considered before, but to support him, I will put on that tool belt (physically and emotionally) and learn new things. He is on solid ground now, thank God. As a male, he thought he had to shelter me and protect me, because I was such a different person than his dad, then he opened up to me, literally in a fetal position crying his eyes out. Very eye opening and all I cared about was making him whole. He knows he has my support no matter and I will always be here for him to cry, learn, laugh, talk about sex, or learn to love. I have been shocked a few times, but it is part of it and I am so thankful he is so comfortable talking about things he never thought he could talk about, but when he opened that door there was a flood.
Before I even got to the part of where he has an absent father, I already knew you were a single parent from your first paragraph.
@@iLexy3 Damn. No disrespect to your mom, but that seems like something a sociopath would do. Maybe she was just angry and lashed out. Did she ever apologize to you? I'm really sorry you had to go though that.
I told my mom once because I was forced to. That was the first time. Then I told her again because she had seen them on my wrist. Now I have to tell her more abt cutting myself because we are going to the beach. She's gonna hate me for it. April do you have any tips on telling ppl that you self harmed?
@@iLexy3 wtf.. my mom laughed at me too.. but talking about your baby's ashes is way too far. I pray that you're out of that house
Ms. April, I totally felt every word you said in this and I appreciate you sharing this! You very much remind me of my own mom, who’s always been there for me emotionally and all else. My Father always did the practical things, but I never felt that sense of emotional connection that fathers and their sons need to have and I’d like to think as an adult we’re making up for lost time. I think my Father’s emotional disconnect was largely in part, due to his service in the Navy which back then was a bit brutal (so I used to be scared of him). I’m happy to know you and your son have that openness with each other; there’s truly nothing like a mother’s love and I think that’s why God gave us guys a deep sensitivity when it comes to the motherly figures in our lives. Thank you once again, Ms. April and many blessings to you and your family! 🙏🙏🙏
The Smith family is so amazing. They are like no other, so supportive of each other and they work everything out. Truly role models.
try to understand, this is a young girl who was suddenly world wide famous, who had to keep doing shows and promotion. She lost a part of her childhood. Back then, after whip my hair, she shaved her head. She really wanted to disassociate with that idea of her. She's obviously in a better place since its been almost 10 years so she is comfortable talking about it to her mother and grandmother.
Wow. As a mother, u wanna hold ur baby to let them know it's ok, mommy's got u and for Jada and her mother to give Willow space to breathe & speak on it takes VOLUMES of restraint. I'm crying now but I do applaud them for this bloodline of strength. It's amazing how all 3 of these ladies are so close yet surprising eachother with their personal truths. Amen.
I don’t know how real this is, but if it brings awareness and understanding to self harm then all the better. I self harmed from 13-16 consistently (those were tough years) then I relapsed once at 23 and relapsed again at 25. I’m 28 now, my arms are covered in scars that will be with me until the day I die, but I’m not ashamed because I had to experience that to get to where I am today.
What they said about the physical pain being tangible is true. For me, when I’m in that kind of state of mind and I’m feeling so bad, I’m cutting to try and distract myself from that emotional pain. No physical pain even comes close to how it feels when you are so overwhelmed by sadness that you lose all hope. Imagine having no hope... it’s not a pleasant place to be.
Most people that know me have no idea I used to self harm (or a bunch of other things about me). When I was doing that I wasn’t telling people, I was hiding it. Yet, I know so many people who say it is an attention seeking behavior. It’s so frustrating and one of the myths that I’d love to be dispelled. Hopefully more conversations like this get us to that place quicker.
Are you in to men or woman?
I started self-harming when I was 11, and even though my mother didn't understand it at first, eventually she supported me through my recovery journey and I'm really glad I can open emotionally to her now.
damn willow is will smith in a dress....the resemblance is crazy
ayaanle idris ikr
Wtf!?....
Uhm nooo??....
She looks eerily
similar to her mother....
Not her father though xD....
@@ballisticbadger9955 the parents even said that . Also has meaning with their names .
Expect she has blue (light) eyes.
Wow I had no clue why someone would cut themselves but hearing hear explain how she was feeling is really eye opening and I commend her for being courageous enough to share something so private ! This was so deep and I appreciate this very much on behalf of the public , helps us mothers learn from one another and may help someone out there !!! 🙏🏽
That was eye opening for me when I saw this episode.
I love this family!!! Please keep being transparent and strong. The wisdom and principles of being open, honest and loving is transcendent!!! YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE 💜 this is what true LOVE DOES....
Thank you for sharing Willow. I think it’s important for people to see depression is something you can overcome.
Bless her heart. She is such a good person.
Tbh respect for that, people saying why you putting that out there like no, why say that!!!! it should be talked about not hidden away, many people struggle and this is a message to show that you can get through anything and that you should talk to someone if your going through a situation like this, and that’s reality people I’m afraid.
I love Willow she is so smart and has an amazing view of everything.
Dude i pray i can be as amazing and intelligent a mother as jada
I believe her it happened to my child. At age 16. It's such a hard time for them. U don't know who u are yet at that age. What is perceived is try to fit in and if u don't u are not what people except. Among other things. They hurt themselves because they are hurting it's a messed up way of thinking but that's what they think. So rich or poor has nothing to do with that. U have to become mentally strong to come out of it.
I agree..kids nowadays have to deal with so much more than we did when we were growing up...So they find a release which is sad that it has to be cutting. My youngest daughter did it as well. On the inside of her arm where noone can see it.. Started around the same time 14-16. Shes 18 now and is doing so much better.. Sometimes we have to let them find a way out of darkness. We just have to be there when they do and dont judge them for their mistakes
@@derrickagarcia1028 I agree and it's such a dark time for them. And it hurts u that they are going thru it. Everyone has to learn to deal with the down sides of this life. That people are not all cracked up to what they are supposed to be. Thanks for your reply. Helps to know I'm not the only parent.
No ur not..as a parent wr want to protect protect protect...and its hard seeing our kids hurting. When i found out i felt like i fail as a parent and i fail her as a mother. We r so much better closer than ever...good luck hun..nd God bless u nd ur family
Charlie Brown Do you still check up on her to make sure she’s okay? People on the outside can look better but hide so much pain inside .
I love and respect jada❤️she’s a good mother !
Jada's mother role in this show is to stare and look shocked all the time
Mido khaled She’s There for moral support for her daughter...
And the worst part is that she says nothing. Not a single word of support like "I'm sorry you felt that way and had to go through that but I love you and I'm here for you"
Lizzie O Probably did after the Cameras were off...
Compared to other rich n famous kids .. she did well
I’m sooo glad Jada didn’t have a go at her for it. But instead she spoke to her about it and done it in a way Willow knew she could open up to her! If she had had a go at her I bed Jada would have shut down that talk instead.
I went through this situation with my daughter and I literally cry like a baby when I found out she was cutting and hurting herself but we did get through it together
Why does CZcams keep warning me every time I try to watch this video???? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
jazzyluvswaka because it’s suicide related
Mal it says the material in this may be “harmful or offensive” IM SORRY HOW IS THIS HARMFUL OR OFFENSIVE?! If anything not talking about this type of thing is just that. That message if fucking offensive
@@skyyyybb dude, seriously, actually just think about it.
@@skyyyybb 🤦🏾♀️ it can be harmful to people who self harm since it could trigger a relapse
A brave young woman.
Jada is an amazing mother and I think she dealt with the situation great, you can’t push or shame you’re children when they tell you something like this it can make it worse
As a single parent u work and try to maintain your home and many other issues when u think all is well but you just dont know what you child is really going thru even if u have a open door policy it was was surrounded by school bully low self esteem depression since earlier on in school
Mr & Mrs smith are amazing parents regardless i’m glad willow felt like she could talk to her mother about it.
Family to seat down right on the table in a neighborhood just talk and figure out what was the damage
I hate how people shame Jada and Will for having bad parenting skills just because their children are confessing all this stuff on camera but I bet the majority of parents out there judging don't even know their kids drink, do drugs or even have sex, don't judge if you don't even know what your kids do and probably will never confess
As a 17 yr old I know for a fact plenty of those “perfect parents” with “perfect kids” who judge people like Jada and Will for what you mentioned don’t know that their kids are suffering just as much if not worse and self harming, doing drugs or drinking, or other dangerous things like stick n pokes
Damn willow be looking just like her dad
His twin!
But that's exactly why girls self harm. There's a notion that girls are emotional beings, so it's in their nature to feel the rollercoaster of emotional pain. However, it's not custom for girls to endure physical pain (society views girls as fragile beings), so when a girl self harms, it becomes shocking! It captures the attention of someone who believes girls aren't supposed to endure pain without a rescuer.
When I was cutting . I told about 4 of my closest friends. Sometimes I did it way to close to my hand so whenever I reached to get something you would be able to see it (I have school uniform). So all in all about 7 people knew. They didn’t tell anyone. But my 2 best friends told my 2 older brothers at school. So I came out of lesson and both of them walked over to me (which they never ever do because you know you don’t really interact in school aha) and basically dragged me away to their locker blocks (they’re 16). And straight up just said ‘show me your wrist’. Honestly if my friends hadn’t told I’d probably still be cutting. But now I go to weekly therapy. And I’m so thankful for the support. So please get help. Or if you know someone self harming tell someone. They might not want you to but it’ll help them
Thid is off topic but the beat in the background sounds like Formation
😱 What The Actual FK! 😱
I would love to meet you you are a strong young black lady said that in front of your parents your mother I love you for that
Scorpios and scorpio Risings are prone to self destruction 😥
Glad she is in a space to share. Dealing and healing 💚
Well done Willow. You owned it 👏🏼. It’s out there now so it can’t come back and get you again. Fair play to her 💪🏼
she was plunged into a black hole why...... we're missing so many pieces
Willow Smith is very beautiful.
jada is just...the best mom
I understand why she didn't say anything because she thought it would burden her parents. Parents tend to vocally express a lot of the issues in theirs lives, especially around their kids. So in return kids might avoid telling them certain things.
My parents were constantly complaining about struggling with money, work, health, family and life in general. So when I was going through anything I dealt with it alone, and when you're a child it can feel like a lot more.
Sometimes you have to watch what you say around your children.
It's crazy how some parents really mess their kids up, without even trying to.
This is why not everyone should be parents or at least be more careful in making the decision to become one. It's not enough to just provide for them financially (as you can clearly see from this video).
Just another reason why I do not want children.
My heart goes out to her
Hey I've been there too and I guess the worst part was when my family found out. Just know has nothing to do with parenting or not being a good mom.
People in this world suck everyone in this comment section you’re jealous of what she has. If you were in the public eye from birth I would think we’d all have a hard time as well. So don’t be quick to jump if you don’t know the situations she was going through
Fr! What about millions of people judging your appearance, clothes, and every move at age 9 is NOT hard?? Besides it is a fact that depression does not need a cause. Besides these people being jealous they are super uneducated
My child as well but i was there to talk her out of it
I'm not saying she's lying but why did she tell her live on air and not off air?!? 🤔
Jay Kay it’s her mom, watched it sounded like she had thought about how to share it for a long time
I mean that is What the show is for lol. They’re telling stories and Expressing emotions in order to help other people.
Ann Smith I agree that’s how I am. It makes you feel like there’s no turning back. I have to own it now. Everyone knows.
Sit down civil talks like this are not natural, at least in my experience. But then again my mothers bipolar.
its been almost 10 years, she'll healed on her own. i dont think she planned to come on here and say it, it organically came out
How did you not notice cuts on wrists? There would’ve been bandages. Sorry, you weren’t paying attention.
Lori Gravelin yeah for real, if she was a cutter there would have been noticeable bruises.
She only did it a couple times and stopped pretty quick she says in the episode
sleeves
long sleeve shirts, jumpers, you'd be surprised
Realladi 228 Exactly! People don't think before they talk
Why did she not like the wip my hair thing? Was she getting bad reviews on it or something like that?
Alice Alza in the episode willow said, the problem was too much attention and expectation on her at such a young age also she didn’t know if that was the career she wanted and will n Jada we’re pushing that for her so that she could be set in life.
Can you imagine your appearance, clothing choice, and every move you make being judged by the watchful eye of millions? The pressure? If she made one wrong move her dreams and career could be crushed all before she is even an adult!!
I totally understand
Wait she's the girl behind that song from whip my hair 😱 this whole time I had always thought that it was a chic in her 20's not a kid. Anyway I don't mind her talking about this but damn talk to your mom first.
She was probably depressed and scared, and didn't want to burden her.
I’m so surprised that she wasn’t happy during the whip my hair era
LadyE100 Yup. Was dating this girl who has parents just like that, some kids complain about strict parents and wish they could do the shit other kids can.. but the girl I dated was just hurt by the fact that she was allowed to go anywhere and her parents didn’t care because she felt like they didn’t give a single shit whether she came up dead in a ditch.
Sad but this happens often and has been a thing for years now. I remember the first time my daughter told me her friend was doing it. It's another way for kids to release stress. I'm glad she shared that since this is an old red talk episode, so parents can ask their kids about it.
When she revealed that n the way jada reacted n went with follow up questions.. it feels like the connection between a parent and daughter were off.. like they need to spend more quality time together.. emotionally. Idk I get the vibe that Jada wasn't 💯 there while willow grew up... I can imagine her being out working same for Will and the kids were too much in public eye and didn't had both parents when they were needed the most considering both being busy in hollywood
that's a form of self hate...I did it at 10 years old
wow hope she gets the help she needs!!
Did you see grandma's face.If I was Jada I would be so upset!I couldn't be so cool with that at all.That is so not cool I would have to find out how why what when omg noooo nooo!!My heart would be so broken.
Yeah her grandmother got this look like how the heck did this happen and you didnt know!
@@Honeycomblife Yes!!!❤
It's called a script
@@demigodlike Never thought of that!
Powergirl 76 You can’t protect your children from everything. Being human is hard in itself and people deal with life phases differently. Cutting was one life phase that Willow went through. Some kids get addicted to pills/meth/heroin during their difficult life phase and never make it out the other side. The fact that Willow trusted her mother enough to tell her something so intimate speaks volumes though. A bad parent would never have known about something like this unless it was obvious.
Jada didn’t seem that concerned
goldpenguin00 I don't believe she was cutting herself!
The grandma looked concerned, I wish she would have spoken up
Her grandmother looked like she could pull out her belt...lol
I think in the full episode she teared up and initially got upset but then tried to talk through what happened
Well it happened years ago. Not much to do about it now
I'm geeking
At least her cuts healed without scarring..
That is what you took away from this?!
Willow is the daughter of a narcissist mother. Such stories do not belong in the public!
She oviously has a bonding trauma that causes her self harm and the insecurity about her sexuality. Call it "boderline". Good luck, girl!
My son cut himself also.. We dealt with it.. Honesty I was crushed
willow as always been an emotional needy child right from age 5 when the father and the brother shot ' pursuit of happiness" she expressed it indirectly on Oprah.... parents should be more attentive to their children
Willow is the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen 👀✨
Jada didn’t even seem to care that Willow was cutting herself! What’s wrong with her? 🤦🙄
Smh ...
It happens.. i know somebody who’s mom doesn’t know about the cutting till this day.. When she’s ready I’m sure she will tell her mom.
god she looks just like her dad will smith (:
Jada is a great mom!
@LadyE100 Unfortunately the rest of us are imperfect. We're not as lucky as u.
@LadyE100 no mother can notice everything! Do your mom notice everything. I bet you done something's that she didn't know about. We are human and not perfect!
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e Wtf are you talking about
@@onlylove6483 What didn't you comprehend ? N why are you using toxic language if I may ask
Oh please.
oH pLeAsE my name is eLlE KiNg
the way neither of them apologized for not being there when she needed them is exactly why kids don’t talk to their parents. she’s using the way she was raised as a coverup for being a bad mother and it showes :/
Like that didn't know! 🙄
I'm a teacher and kids publicly self harm for attention. There's a number of girls with them visibly displayed on their thighs and wrists and they are taken to a specialist team who talk to them about it. Surprisingly most are going through what they believe to be a trend
Yeah but what about the people who self harm as a way of release. My teacher once told a boy to 'cover up' his self harm scars and he wasnt doing it for attention
Jada and her mom look like sisters lmao
She looks like Will cmon...
Maybe you should be more concerned about your children, than trying to be a superstar...
I used to self harm. I kinda still do. I don't see anything wrong with it. It's not like you're harming anyone else. You're harming yourself.
It is bad but it is NOT all bad. That is the misconception! My therapist taught me that while you should work hard no to; if that is what is keeping you sane or keeping you from ending your life then it is actually what she called a “safety-factor”. I know for a fact that without cutting I may have freaked out and done terrible things, maybe fought back with my father and been killed. So while yes you should stop if you can, know that doing it safely (not vertical, not deeper than a few millimeters, with sterile blades, and making sure to always clean the wound after) can save your life. So don’t feel like an awful person if that is what you have to do to survive. There is a reason it’s called a coping method.
Also please no one come at me and say I’m promoting cutting. All I’m saying is if it is saving your sanity and your life, then that is ok. Work hard to stop it, but don’t hate yourself if you NEED to cut.
That being said I hope you are able to find other coping skills and I hope whatever is going on with you gets better💞💕 you CAN do this!!!!
Awww life must be so rough growing up with celebrity parents and being able to do anything and everything you want! Poor Willow!
That's why she was cutting. She was hurting but had everything. We're you not listening?
🙄 no matter how much money and fame you have you can still be depressed, educate yourself pls
The only thing this comment does is make you look extremely uneducated
I mean can you blame her? She had such a hard life and difficult life growing up!
No dad in her life, had to help her mom take care of her 7 siblings ...sometimes going days without enough food in the house for everyone. Molested and no one to talk to cause she didn’t even understand it herself.
Oooh wait hmmmm🤔
What?
Wtf are you talking about? Sounds like you have your own problems you need to deal with
Amen sister...Thank you for speaking the truth..yes she was probably pressured with all the attention and stress at that age(interview, videos,concert..)but there are and were kids her age who gone through worse and are from working class families,broken homes or worse both and this kids have no time for depression although they should be..These kids have to keep going and have no privilege to seek help..they were probably told to rough it out,pull urself together
This family think they’re superior beings spewing their “wise philosophy” to the world. I eye roll every time I hear Jada and the kids talk. I can only stand Will
Loving Life lmao clearly someone has problem and takes them out on the internet
Rich people whenever you feel so sad GO TO AFRICA BUY SHOES AND FOOD FOR THOSE KIDS AND WATCH HOW THEM SMILES MAKE YOUR HEART HAPPY AGAIN
I'm sure there are kids in America living in poverty, how about helping those ones out
How about you help them tf
What is this cutting stuff? I don't understand it.
As in you dont understand why people do it or you dont understand what the whole self harm by cutting means?
that's strange to me that someone will cut there self .
Humans do a lot of strange things to cope. Believe me if I wouldn’t have cut myself I may have died. It was the way I took out my anger for being abused by my father. Had I not I may have tried to fight back and died. Please do not judge.
wtf
This family weird !!!
😆
yes they are!
Yup lol
Everyone is weird so what is ur point
Weird.....you mean people who live with attention everyday, that attention can be hate, racial slurs, homophobic slurs. So stop being so jugde mental
Wow
Damn that guts coming out about that on tv
Why put your family business out there 🤷🏿♂️
To help others heal. If no one ever said how would we relate to anyone. Simple
*Hiram Abiff.*
*Awakening Soul.*
Same Goal
different path.
✌😁
That's the point of the show... Being open about problems that might be affecting people in general. It might encourage people to talk to eachother. I know a family who didn't and it almost destroyed them. So personally I think this is a good idea. Especially for African families
To bring awareness to other parents that need to check on their kids...
Bae Goals You’re a weak ass parent if you need a show to tell you to pay attention to your kids and communicate with them. FOH
I know kids can be VERY sneaky, but how did Will and Jada not see their daughter had cuts on her WRIST? I know a lot of people do it on their thighs so it’s hidden away, I could understand them not seeing it there. But right on her wrist?
Poor baby....... Must be so hard being a stars kid with all that money. All the kids around the world getting abused physically, mentally and sexually doesnt hold a candle to willows problems.
I’m sorry did she say my problems are worse? No. Fuck off and stop minimizing mental health issues. If you know anything about mental health you’d know depression doesn’t need and most of the time doesn’t have a cause. It’s science, you can disagree but you are wrong.
As someone abused in all the ways mentioned I disagree with you very much and it isn’t about who’s problems are worse. It’s about mental health awareness. You know what’s hard? Millions of people judging everything about your appearance, your actions, your words no matter what you do. The weight of doing one thing wrong and ruining your dreams and career before you’re even adult would be crushing. Let’s see you deal with that.
Sky Jacobs THANK YOU!!
Yes depression is terrible but this video is just done for more publicity I mean get real.
All I can say after watching this is... W....T....F
Well you may as well just get a real talk show Jada if you are getting this much press!
Dammmn
Didn't Jada see the scars?
Teresa Basinger very easy to hide it
She said they are barely visible. You’d have to be really looking at her arms for some reason. I know bc I have minimal scarring too and no one notices
Watch the episode before saying shit
Wow ...when Kardashians do some wild shit.. y'all feel sorry for them
When the Smith's have a talk bout something... y'all chastised. Smfh ..
I'm not sorry for the Kardashians, I can't stand them.