Same girl. The newer generations have our problems, but it seems like we have picked up on so many toxic behaviors to break the cycle of when we create our own families.
Good for you, but if it works for you doesnt mean that the world should be the same. Its all about culture, so do what you think is the best for your kids. There is really no formula or standard in doing it🙂
Nope alot of people think darker skin is not pretty not knowing is about bone structure. How funny back them. It's not now that tanning has popularized darker gold brown tone. Previously fair skin was a privilege
Balderdash.... I'm Indian . I totallly get Eva. I was the darkest in my family. Ammong people around here.. Fair was good.. But i was called "Kali putuli" "black Doll" .. I did feel it as term of endearment, and I did feel very Loved and cherished .. and that gave me lots confidence. I am glad I'm Not such a Snow flake , that anyone one noticing me dark , do Not make me feel victim.. So I'm dark , fact.. that does not make me any less..and I am never offended. Whyb should did be. Dark is alright...
@@aditiban002glad you were still cherished enough to not have complexes later on in life. Altough i wouldnt say a person is a snowflake If they were raised to feel ugly. It’s obviously normalized degrading of children.
My first cousin's first born was very dark skinned and she and her husband decided to disown it and gave the baby to her mother to raise because they were too disgusted and ashamed with the color of her skin. The other three children who were born later they kept because they were born fair.☹
Same. Grew up in a community where fair skin is the beauty standard and my sister and cousins are fair with light eyes so everyone adored them people called me ugly , jeered at me , asked me why I’m not pretty like them . When I left the community I would get so many compliments , at 30 people still ask if I’m a model and they are always perplexed that I don’t see myself as beautiful. Anyway sometimes growing up ugly is better so you don’t become full of it but it was very traumatic the way people treated me. And also I was a bit ugly not just dark then I blossomed and the same people who wouldn’t validate me, did eventually and I was like ew , I don’t actually need it. My parents did it to me too in a sense not ok and not endearing .
I was the ugly one in my family- the only redhead, the palest and grew up heavy with my mom and sister ridiculing me for. Your language “ the ugly dark one” sound beautiful to me. I know now that I was a child and my mom was the parent. She preferred to be my sister’s friend rather than my mom. You are beautiful. I am sorry you experienced this growing & proud of you for overcoming it!
They were just jealous. I have deep copper red hair am ultra pale + green eyes (& most ppl love my colouring) but some girls are so jealous it's a joke. Don't worry🤭💜🙏🏻💜🇬🇧💜
I love to hear the story even the ugly ones because it really does exist across all races, nationalities and groups of people, all of them, you just don't hear all the stories
As a Black person, they don't need to talk about it. We already know these things about them. Colorism transcends cultures. Hispanic, asian, and Black culture.
They even do this when you are overweight 😢 they won't stop saying it to you, to your face, even when you are eating with them. I really don't understand how they can do that to KIDS. I'm angry even thinking about it lmao
My Mexican husband talks about this all the time. His family is the same way. However, he's the "white" one who takes his skin after his mom, who is really light, and his brothers and sisters all look like his father, who has Indian blood. The funny thing is that he looks the most like his darker dad outside of his skin color. The whole family is beautiful.
It happens alot 😅 I don’t know where Eva is from, but in Mexico have fair/pale skin is synonymous of being beautiful were as being dark skinned is the opposite Very common to hear from grandmamas and mothers “es bonita, es güerita” which means “she’s pretty, she’s fair” to describe another woman or child in the circle In the family circles if you have a pale skinned baby it’s considered a bless and everyone would describe it as beautiful Also there’s a believe “mejorar la raza” which literally means “betterment of the race” it’s referred to marry a person with Caucasian/European features and have a child with those characteristics
It was probably from endearment not to be to stuck up! Language has ho be understood and read through cultural background. Americans take things literally, English don’t - and it’s the same language!!!
Being able to relate to this is so sad. Being on a back foot eve since you're born just because you aren't a few shades lighter. So much racism within families, which is such bs! Even today back home you get bombarded with ads for fair and lovely whitening creams and whitening soaps. Some of the most beautiful women in the world are tanned and dark skinned, yet people go through life believing they're the "ugly dark one". Really sad.
TOTALLY get how growing up not being the pretty one develops your character!! I am who I am today BECAUSE I wasn’t a typical beauty. Everyone is my friend, i am outgoing, and am not afraid to laugh at myself. I was an ugly duckling, but now I’m thankful I wasn’t just another pretty face 😊❤
I know exactly what you’re saying. Trying to “stay pretty” is futile and exhausting but being intelligent lasts forever and takes you so much further and people love sincere people who don’t take themselves too seriously for thugs that fade with time. I always knew my mind was my ticket upward, I also grew up believing I was ugly. My true beauty is I am real and genuine. I get the pain in others and work as an empath to help them see what is truly beautiful/strong/the assets about them that can never be taken away. Being “just pretty” when that is all you are is NEVER ENOUGH. Grab the other end of the sofa and lift when you’re pretty and you now have a skill.
@@largavidaalyoonmin8050 that is a matter of opinion. I and many others acknowledge that the lady is absolutely stunning. Her backstory sounds like the classic cinderella/sleeping beauty tale. Well she has triumphed over her haters. I love when the underdog is triumphant!
These comments make me so sad. My daughter’s dad would always make demeaning “jokes” about his siblings’ or cousins’ darker complexions just because he happened to be a white complected Latino. As a brown woman with a brown daughter, lemme tell you all: Don’t let the Eurocentric media we’ve ALL been shown growing up fool you or make you feel like your skin or features are less beautiful or less impressive. Let’s unlearn all of that. Your brown is beyond BEAUTIFUL.
As a black woman I would hear this all the time within our community also. However, my friends of other ethnicities have shared their stories of colorism also. It's real and it's hurtful. Eva thanks for sharing.
Weirdly enough as a white Irish woman, those of us who are very pale hated our skin colour. My mother was Irish too but had black hair and olive skin and we all wanted to tan like her and have her colouring. I'd hate my freckles and she'd say she wished she had freckles. It's pretty much still the same attitude today. If you come home from a sun holiday with a tan it's like a badge of honour, you're complimented and told you look so healthy and pretty. So many are ashamed of their skin colour around the world, it's sad.
Yeah you're right. She's the prettiest however it's true she has darker skin tone.. must be hard for her growing up feeling very unsecured. In Asian families we did the same thing as well...truly heartbreaking...honestly I learned a lot from it so I always complement both my children sincerely... I want my children to know that they are loved and God's greatest gift in my life 😊❤
I hate families like that. They see it as a joke and “healthy bullying” because that “prepares” the child for the real world, but they don’t understand the damage some kids get along the way. I was always the tonta distraída, the one that “estaba en la luna”, la boba. Well, now I am Insecure af, and it’s so hard for me to believe that I can actually achieve something. I have to try so hard to overcome my fears.
That’s just an excuse they use. It’s there dysfunction and insecurity bleeding all over you. They know it hurts it hurt them. But they have no accountability and self awareness to stop passing on bs. But don’t fall for that complete absolute lie. It clearly prepared nothing and is in no way a defense against this world. Just a glimpse of everything wrong with it.
I'm sorry you went through that. You are not, nor where you ever, what they said you were. You are not meant to live in their negativity. Now, YOU run the show. Keep trying to overcome your fears because there is beauty and talent that is tired of being suppressed. I have faith in you and who you want to be and the story of peace and happiness that you want to include in your life's story. ❤
My exact story. I'm a nigerian. My sisters are fair amd I'm chocolate skinned. I got demeaning comments from people growing up but my mum always stood up to say to them all "my daughter is beautiful"
@@nefas3254the comment went over your head. Smdh. She clearly said my mom called me "the ugly DARK one". Now we all have eyes to see she is not darkskinned, so evrybody understands that her mom is using the darker skin complexion in combination with ugly comment as an insult. So everybody understand the mom sees darkskinned as a negative ugly thing now the lady Who wrote her own experience, is describing the same problem. Which is a general problem amongst many black, latino, indian etc. Where till this day people look down on darker skinnend complexion and it is problematic. Now if you cant comprehend that Just move it along cause im absolutely baffled at how incredibly ignorant your are and obvlious to societal issues. Read a book, that should be your new years resolution. Cause im concerned with your lack of intelligence ❤
@@sabcam2000exactly im not agreeing to use the term "fair" . made up to say white is right/good/pure and the rest of us is what...😒😒😒😒 so hell no to fair skinned. If im black you white, keep the colour palette in motion
This is crazy! She's so beautiful, I googled her sisters and she's definitely winning in the end trust me. I understand what she means, I'm considered the ugly one too because I'm darker than my sister. I remember outside family members always making comments but luckily my immediate family always told me I was beautiful too.
Same. Never been told I'm pretty growing up, decided not to value this in self. When I grew when someone calls me pretty it still surprises me. Had to learn to value it again.
This puts beauty into a different perspective. She’s Undeniable gorgeous….. it’s just wild how our childhoods and how we were treated can impact our view on how we see ourselves and life
I know. It’s crazy to look at someone as beautiful as Eva and realize she never thought she was pretty. Her family told her she was ugly?! Ugh, it’s nuts. That makes my heart break a little.
That’s why there are some messed up people because they grew up in that kind of environment. Hoping everyone will use that as an inspiration to strive & become the best. And don’t let resentment stay in your heart. Stay beautiful inside & out❤
As a dark skinned Mexican middle child with 2 light skinned sisters this is spot on. People in school would ask me if I was adopted. And the people in my family were the worst about it. I still struggle with how I see myself today. I thank God for psalm 139 ❤ helps me so much when that comes up for me.
You're chosen. God has His hand on your life ❤ So, don't care about what people say. They are jealous of you. I know because my family treated me the same way....and now that they see how the Lord has blessed me... they turn on each other. Just focus on Jesus ❤
I’m an olive tone Latina with dark hair and eyes and I can def relate. My grandmother on my dad’s side told me my sister is prettier bc she has light skin (she can pass for Caucasian). She always praises my sister and never called me pretty but I personally have always believed God finds me beautiful, I love my skin tone, and that’s good enough for me. ❤❤❤
I'm Bi Racial and my brother came out with blonde hair or light brown hair and green eyes. I came out with black hair and brown eyes. And my mother would tell me she was shocked I came out with hair so dark and brown eyes because she is blonde with green eyes. My father also said he thought and wished I would have lighter hair and light eyes. And the black side of my family my father had told me would talk about that I'm going to have light eyes and light hair. My black side does a Lot of mixing btw. All his brothers with White women. I know they were disappointed I have black hair and brown eyes. But happy I didn't have 4c hair and light skin compared to full B person
Well, I am russian, we are used to see a lots of blonds with light eyes. Do you know who we find really incredibly beautiful? Yep, Latinas with their olive skin, amazing forms and dark and thick hair! Same for Bollywood queens or Mediterranean beauties.
@@dilyara1985 Well blonde hair and light eyes are more rare around the world and getting less and less and more rare. I think that's why people think this
It's so sad that people have such a hate for darker skin toned people that they would even verbally/emotionally abuse their own children with these types of microaggressions. It's literally just a color. It doesn't take away from who the person is.
This explains soooo much!! In desperate housewives she was cast as the stunning spoilt ex-model housewife but her comedic timing and dialogue was perfection!! She’s the whole package ❤ Personality and beauty to die for but it’s nice to know which she values more 😍
Damn, who would have thought?! Such a beautiful woman with such a story behind. It's true, you never know what someone might be going through... or went through
I love how down to earth she is. I love that she is sporting chanclas with the "old english" font like a true latina 😍 You don't need to radiate beauty (although you absolutely do) to be a beautiful person, let your personality outshine your outer appearance.
Most of my family members vary from a very fair complexion to a light brown skin tone. That being said, it was a shock to many individuals when I gave birth to a very melanated daughter. People immediately assumed it would be ok to give her nicknames that brought attention to her skin color. I nipped that in the bud right away. I do not allow anyone to treat her differently from her cousins. I advocate for her and do not let anyone call her anything other than her name and a child of God. People need to stop normalizing ignorance.
@@bamboobabby4572 do you need it explained that black people also vary in complexion? Her daughter came out much darker in complexion than the rest of her present family. Colorism of course happens among us, too.
@bamboobabby4572 bc id say she is a medium complexion herself, and if she has a white/light skinned husband and/or another light-skinned child already, it can be surprising bc its fairly unlikely that a baby w 2 lighter parents will be darker than both. Same w the opposite(2 blue eyed-blondes having a baby w dark hair and skin- its not impossible, just unlikely). My brother and 1 sister look like they're from completely different families bc he is tall and has curly black hair, extremely dark skin and light blue eyes where my sister is so light she can't even tan(shes honestly "pink" and got zero olive), has blonde, straight hair, dark brown eyes and is short. Despite her speaking spanish, nobody believes that she is anything other than white and nobody ever knows what my brother is, other than "definitely not white" lol people are so confused when they meet the opposite sibling and just immediately assume they're not even half siblings(must be step) but they actually have the same 2 parents as the rest of us more "medium" kids lol our mom is still obsessed w avoiding the sun at all costs and one time she put on full arm gloves to walk to the car(75 ft) and I had to sit her down and show her studies about the consequences of light deprivation/d deficiencies...from asthma to diabetes to osteoporosis to hormone imbalance, she already has every condition that's associated w vit d deficiency🤦♀️ I finally convinced her to not wear the gloves but you can still see the fear in her eyes if you even talk about going outside on a sunny day lol🥴🫠
I’m American Caribbean, and this is why a lot of us used to or still struggle with self hate, a lot of it doesn’t come from the outside it starts in your own home. It’s learned behavior that you have to unlearn
Thank you for being courageous enough to share an honest acknowledgment with us. It does stem from the white community abroad that has poisonously tainted the minds of many nations.
I put a stop to that when I was about 20. No one calls me “la prieta” anymore; I was also called ugly because of my skin color. It’s pathetic really, because Latinos come in all shades 🙄
Not a Latina but in our culture used to be considered a huge disadvantage to be dark. But if you were blond, no matter if you were missing body parts or were a 90 yo hunchback, you were automatically considered very beautiful.
Good for you hitting a stop to it 👏🏾 Colorism is a huge problem in many communities & it must end. Your worth is not determined because of your color, & no one deserves to be treated worse because their skin is darker.
My mom did this to me too. My sister and her are blonde and fair skinned. I look like my Indian dad. Until I stopped talking to her in my 40s I've always see myself as the ugly one. It's mentally cruel.
Its hard when your competition is your sister.... On my wedding day one of my relative told me my sister would be a pretty bride.... And on my sisters wedding day everyone was telling how pretty she is looking and how make up cant make you pretty while using me as an example.... A girl is supposed to be prettiest when she is a bride and i was robbed of that
Anybody that had to go through that I'm sorry that happened because FAMILIES can be the absolute worst in our upbringing an cause so many insecurities that are NOT real. I love yall an KNOW YOU ARE BEYOND BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT! Don't let anyone make you think different because that mean they are unhappy within! Oh an jealous cuz you the shit!!!!! ❤
This is so real for me because I too have 3 sisters and I also decided to be the funny one and also ended up being the doctor, but I'm still the ugly and fat one. Hope to change that this year
I very much doubt you’re ugly. I hope this year you get to feel amazing, and even though it’s a feeling that definitely comes and goes, I hope you always get back to it 🫶🏼💖
Wow is insane how you own family can destroy you.. I read most of the comments is really sad I have the same experience my parents brought all kind the stuff to my brother and for me nothing like invisible kid.. plus my brother abuse me emotional and physical.. I trying to heal step by step and don’t looking in the back. For all the people people have the similar situation or past the same situation I send you My best wishes and don’t let no one destroy us.. be kind with others don’t threaten you kids and the same way or any one around you. God bless everyone 💜
Hispanic families do this a lot. My mother was considered the ugly daughter because she was “trigueña” (dark skinned) and her sister was very white. It’s cruel but so so common.
We like to say that there is no racism in Latino culture but we know better. Mejorando la raza o Adelentar la raza is a thing. My family called me Nubia which they tried to tell me wasn't a bad name but it was because of my dark skin. Mind you "dark" is relative. I was considered light skinned by Black people.
I remember as a kid always being called fat by family (especially my dad) and it implanted in my mind that I was fat. It wasn't until I looked back at my childhood photos and realized that I wasn't fat at all! Sure, I wasn't super skinny like the other kids but I was not even overweight. I was at a healthy weight and it didn't help that I was taller than kids my age. All my life I thought I was fat and accepted it as that. It fucked with my self-esteem and I always stayed quiet and kept to myself at school because I was afraid to get bullied for being fat, which I totally was not. I even got a few of boys liking me and I flat out rejected and unfriended them because I thought they were just joking because how can anyone like a fat girl like me. If you're a parent, do not call your kids by their "flaws"! I don't care if it's in your culture, you don't know how it will affect them in the long run.
It was like this for me too. I struggled with weight my whole life, but as a younger person I was very active and never fat. But I always believed I was huge. It wasn’t until an SA by a family member at 14 that I truly got fat and then came to discover that I also have lipedema an inflammatory illness that causes fat storage and can be brought on by abuse and injury 😢
my dad slapped my tummy one time and said “suck it in” I was 9 and waiting with him in line at the movies or something I don’t even remember Because it messed w me so bad, bro I feel you and I looked back at old pics too recently and I was so healthy and tall for being a girl too, it’s okay but who are these “grown ups” telling their offspring to conform to their mold. Just a bunch of morons and nothing more. I’m thankful you shared your story and I’m happy to be able to know that I’m not alone and you’re not alone. We are healing all together Because now we have love and true support from real grown ups now☯️🧿💕I hope you heal:)ily❤️🩹
Oh i hear you! Same here. I was not thin either especially on my teens, i was just a bit rounder but never fat, well i always had people mention my weight. I grew up so insecure and my low self esteem. People words can destroy you. I wish i was stronger and i could turn back time to tell myself to ignore them and to f*** off. I would never do that to my child or to another person. Ever.
Very common in Latino families. My hair was a constant reminder I wasn’t enough by my moms side of the family. I was bullied and made fun of because I had this big Afro of hair growing up. Part genes, part because I wasn’t taught how to care for it- my mom had no idea how to do hair. It effected me for a long time until I realized my hair was never ugly, they were. ❤ 😊
It’s so true. My friend who is Dominican is the darkest of her family and her mom refers to her as “negra” meanwhile her skin color is probably one or two shades below Ms. Longoria. It is definitely not a term of endearment. It makes people feel like an outcast and displaced like the don’t belong
Its amazing that in a region where fair skin and blonde hair is not common it is prized. My granddaughter is blonde and blue eyed like my son and they live in the Middle East where dark hair and eyes are prevalent. This child draws so much positive attention wherever she goes with her parents from local women who fawn over her. Because she is different (not to mention cute as a button).
It reminds me of the Bible verse - "In place of your former shame, I will give you a double portion of honor" (Isaiah 61:7). I pray she recognizes that God has done this for her, and that He made her carefully to be so beautiful.
I remember when I was about 16 yo. My sister was about 14. My dad used to say to her “ oh my God you are so beautiful “ and one day he turned to me after saying that and told me “ you make a great cup of coffee mija”. I still cannot believe such simple phrase could hurt so much
Is sad when you own family doesn’t give you the respect and kindness every single human’s deserves, every single kid deserves love a be threatening With love.. I’m sorry for hear about it, don’t let any one destroy you, destroy you essential. I send you a hug and my best wish for you, from the bottom of my heart. Take care beautiful 💜
I have a similar experience. When I was 12 years old, my dad commented that my best friend was pretty. Meanwhile, he never told me I was beautiful, pretty, or anything like that. I was 30 years old when my father finally told me I was beautiful. I was shocked and surprised.❤
I am Peruvian and I can relate heavily to this. I have a younger sister (3-years apart). I always looked like my father he has dark hair, brown eyes, and darker skin than my mom who is “guera” my mother is white with hazel green eyes and chestnut brown hair. I remember when my sister was born, my father’s behavior towards me changed drastically. He always favored and babied her while always scolded and made comments about my appearance. I remember back at church someone said to my mom “Your daughter is so beautiful” my mom being the angel that she is though that the comment was about me her eldest. The person immediately said “ew no I meant the little gringita” meaning my younger sister. My mother left in a rage that day and my eyes never left the floor that day. Funny how in this day and age everyone tans their skin and colors their hair to look like me 😂
i can relate to this so much. it's such a cruel thing to do to a child, especially a little girl. i'm the only girl out of three kids and my oldest brother (blond hair, blue eyes) has a different dad. i have olive skin, dark brown, almost black, eyes and hair, just like my dad. my mom used to tell me that she wished i had blonde hair and blue eyes like my brother. she would also put sun-in lightener in my hair, starting when i was only like 3-4 years old. it definitely made me feel self conscious from a really young age.
I don’t value it either and I feel free and actually more beautiful Because I can see my own beauty through the complete removal of worshiping it…does that make sense?
Family will destroy your self-esteem. They feel that they can say and talk about you any kind of way and it won’t affect you. That is the saddest thing I’ve heard her own mom Wow 😳😢
True that's how my grandma and mom is towards everyone in our family especially me getting picked on for having brown skin like Eva. They would call me the black one in the wrong family which left me confused as a little girl
@@Clean-N-ShineInDfw Ohh my goodness!!!! That’s horrible and so confusing as a child!! Some old school values need to be buried and never be brought up again!
Relatable. I’m a good lovely brown color, my brother is white. I have brown eyes he has hazel eyes. He was always seen as such a handsome cute boy. My nick name was also prieta but never fea. But the attention my brother got from adults was nuts. It took me a long time to embrace and now I took to my family about I have no idea why people assume lighter is better looking. I’m a mother of two girls. My husband is black and their skin is perfect. And would be perfect no matter what. I tell them everyday they are beautiful. But I also am teaching them that beauty isn’t everything and the most important thing.
I’ve always been big, my mum even took me to dietitians when I was four because she was so slender and the only time in her life she ever gained weight was when she was pregnant and she would promptly lose it all after having me and my brothers. It was always a “fun” time whenever it came to eating because my brothers all inherited her fast metabolism whereas I didn’t so she always restricted everything I ate and even when we went out to eat she would say that I’d eaten enough and never say it to anyone else who would pile their plates high at the buffet or if it was ordering food she would order for me. I love her but I would have to say that it’s made me have a very warped relationship with food. Can completely relate to what Eva is saying when a parent says something backhanded or whatever and then when you defend yourself you’re labelled over sensitive
Finally a celebrity with a VOICE voicing colorism and preference in the Hispanic community. EDIT: After carefully reviewing my catalog of all celebrity interviews it's been brought to my attention...🙄
I have the same dark features like Eva and i felt so ugly growing up. Seemed like everyone had blonde hair and blue eyes except for me! But now as an adult, dark features are really considered beautiful and im complimented all the time for having them.
It is terrible when people outside think you are ugly because of the color of your skin but, it tears away pieces of your heart when you family say the same terrible things to you. Especially your mother.
My father used to humiliate me the same way. In his opinion, I wasn't intelligent like my cousin and neither beautiful. He called me "idiot" and other pejorative terms, but actually, I never cared. I had no mother as she died in my birth. I spent more than 10 years with him, dealing with his bad behaviour and his mental and physical abuse towards me. He used to spank me for any reason or because my grades in school weren't what he expected. I lived under constant fear of him. He got involved with a very evil woman when I was 9 and was always with her. She had a daughter to whom he did everything but that girl wasn't his but from another man,who impegrenated that woman and abandoned her. Well... when I was 21 I left that house and I never came back. I was in college and now I could find a job, be free and live away from that family. He died in 2017. Leaving behind many bastard kids he never cared for. For that bi* he left the house and everything. I live in Germany now, married and I have no kids. I think God spared me the burden of having kids who could one day be left behind and suffer in thus planet like I did. Imagine if I die and leave my kids in the hands of my husband? What guarantee he wouldn't treat them badly or marry again a bad woman who would torture my children?! One day, one of my aunts told me this: "your father is envious. He can't accept you have nothing of him, he is stupid, not intelligent and he knows you are like my uncle who was bright and smart like you. You are what your father could never be! You are like the uncle he admired but couldn't be a copy of... yes! It is true. He is envious of you!". But I also noticed he liked more that woman's child because the girl had lighter skin and was beautiful. I wasn't beautiful enough. I was the ugly duckling. He was ashamed to introduce me to others as his daughter unless I become a great lawyer or judge or a very important and wealthy person. I was never like that so he despised me for that. When he died, I felt nothing. I didn't miss him, I didn't suffer. It was like a total stranger died. It was a weird situation. On the other hand, when my best friend died I suffered as if I had lost a father because all my life he was a true father to me in so many ways. He was 64 when he died of leukemia, and right now, I cry remembering him. He was the father Il never had at home. 😢
That’s a pretty weird take because she was not ugly in the first place. Colorism doesn’t actually care about what you look like over-all. It’s about you being light enough. There are people who still think they’re better than her because they are lighter.
@@thezu9250 I wasn't referring to her colour at all actually. I just think she's incredibly and strikingly beautiful and the most glamorous and attractive amongst her sisters.
@@thezu9250hmm true it’s not really about beauty overall but really about the believe of racial white supremacy. So the closer to it the better you are. It’s kind of like Hitlers obsession with Blue eyes. Even today people have a fetish for blue eyes or light eyes. It’s all part of white supremacy.
IDK who needs to hear this, but, I love you so much, and sending you all the hugs and acception❤ You are so beautiful and special, let noone to make you feel different, even if it's your own family 😢❤🫂 My boyfriend is medium complexion (he is mixt, Norwegian mom and Nigerian+Caribean dad) and he could get tanned to a pretty dark brown, and I'm a really pale-skinned with a lot of freckles all over the body (I'm Ukrainian), its also hard for me to get any tanned, I'm just getting a sun burns. Can't wait for our kids to be born, it's so wonderful to se, what skin tone and hair+eyes colour are they gonna get. We'll love each of them unconditionally and equally, and each will be so special for us❤ So sorry to see, that some kids are/was suffering from being different from their family/siblings and was threatened worse 😭😞
My niece’s half-sister is so pretty. She has a heart-shaped face, very soft features, flawless skin, and big dark doe eyes. She’s also thin, tall, and naturally tan. She’s always had such a shy personality and has always hidden herself. On social media, she always uses silly filters because she won’t show her face very much and rarely posts photos of herself. She thinks she’s ugly and the times that we’ve told her how pretty she is or that she has big beautiful eyes, she gets emotional and cries. She probably thinks we’re all lying to her because she doesn’t have the Kylie Jenner “Instagram face” and that’s all a lot of girls her age want. She has a doll-like face that a lot of runway models have and she could be a model herself but she doesn’t believe it. I feel bad for her. She truly doesn’t know how pretty she is.
@Andy-xx3tt That's really heartbreaking. Makes me wonder if she suffers from some degree of body dysmorphia or self-esteem/confident issues and requires a bit of therapy. I hope people around her will shower her with love and compliments and one days she'll get used to receiving compliments and accepts herself as she is🥹💝. I always thought the same, people were just being nice, possibly trying to get something out of me. I had a big trust issues growing up because I didn't grow up in an emotionally safe environment. I hope she finds peace within and embrace her natural beauty. Also know that the appearance doesn't define person's value, and that intelligence, sense of humor, charms, kindness, creativity, uniqueness, thoughtfulness, generosity, and all the other different factors are also how you attract people💝✨️.
I can totally relate to what she’s expressing here. Growing up in Thailand where light to white skin is the beauty standard, obviously my sister got the light skin genetic lottery. My mom family would always compliment my sister light skin with her loose curls hair, while calling me ET (Alien) or some other word they think it’s funny. At the very young age I knew I have to choose to be the smart one to out shine my sister in some area. 😂
I’m also Mexican-American my extended family is mix from really light skin, blond/red hair, and green/hazel/blue eyes to really dark skin. I’m on the light spectrum compared to my extended family but I have dark brown hair and brown eyes whereas my sister had blond hair and is just one shade of make up lighter than me, our undertones are different she is a little more pink and I’m a little more yellow, and I was always told when I was growing up that I was “prieta” the dark one and even if I don’t want I and I know it’s not important as an adult I’m self conscious about my color and exposing my self to the sun with out any kind of protection because I’m afraid to get darker.
People of a certain race goes through this everyday. If we’re super dark it’s almost impossible in their mind for one of us to be so beautiful. Which i why you’ll hear from so many darker skin black women that they’re pretty to be dark.
I’m blown away because I’ve always thought she was incredibly beautiful..I first saw her on a soap opera and remember thinking how beautiful her hair a skin tone were
I’m so glad I grew up just seeing beauty in everyone no matter what colour or nationality! Only when we moved to the city I saw the light skin dark skin jokes! To me as a black woman I never saw skin tone and put it together with beauty … never have never will
“I just don’t value beauty in my own self very much” THIS! Doesn’t mean we don’t consider ourselves beautiful, it’s just that we are more than a face or skin tone or eye colour 💜
@@nefas3254 she has a nice complexion! All complexions are nice, me as a Snow White, who doesn’t tan very easily, I’ve always found the suntanned skin more attractive !
@@truthgreatheart2514 that’s true! Although I have dark hair & eyes but pale skin, I’m attracted to men who have dark eyes, hair! I just find darker complexions a little more attractive! I like the Mediterranean type of beauty in a few words!
Families do this all the time. It is not endearment. It’s demeaning.
Prior to the 2000s families called this having a sense of humor
Family nicknames change through the years. Some can be sweet, and some can be sour. If Eva isn't the pretty sister, her sisters must be gorgeous.
Yup. Colorism and the desire to be in close proximity to whiteness 😢
I experience this my entire childhood. 😢
For real, it’s just normalized abuse
Our first form of abuse comes from our family, and it leaves deeper scars. This is why I'm so conscious of how I speak to my son all the time.
same ❤
Same girl. The newer generations have our problems, but it seems like we have picked up on so many toxic behaviors to break the cycle of when we create our own families.
Same
Good for you, but if it works for you doesnt mean that the world should be the same. Its all about culture, so do what you think is the best for your kids. There is really no formula or standard in doing it🙂
Facts !
And now in google they have their identity as Eva Longoria’s Sister, Eva Longoria’s mother.
I love how time changes things.
Preach !!
Exactly……. How the tables turn 🤔
Thank you for this remark. I was actually been hanging around the comment section for this very one 😂
@@antoinettewood6429how the turn tables
😂😂
She’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen 😍💕
She's beautiful, the most beautiful celebrity
Crazy because she’s one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen, especially during her time in desperate housewives
I'm with you on that
Agreed 😍
Check out her sisters. She's not telling the story correctly
@caddieohm7059 I wonder why she's lying I. This interview. From her family pictures, she lying , or her mom was delusional
Nope alot of people think darker skin is not pretty not knowing is about bone structure. How funny back them. It's not now that tanning has popularized darker gold brown tone. Previously fair skin was a privilege
That's so sad when your own mother makes you feel less than your siblings.
And it made her stronger. It's not a hateful thing.
@tjpm It IS a hateful thing. Bullying your children is not "endearing".
@@tjpmwhy should she have to be stronger is she not from her mothers body
Why is being chocolate brown ugly
Give Me bAck my chocolate bar
Balderdash.... I'm Indian . I totallly get Eva. I was the darkest in my family. Ammong people around here.. Fair was good.. But i was called "Kali putuli" "black Doll" .. I did feel it as term of endearment, and I did feel very Loved and cherished .. and that gave me lots confidence. I am glad I'm Not such a Snow flake , that anyone one noticing me dark , do Not make me feel victim.. So I'm dark , fact.. that does not make me any less..and I am never offended. Whyb should did be. Dark is alright...
@@aditiban002glad you were still cherished enough to not have complexes later on in life.
Altough i wouldnt say a person is a snowflake If they were raised to feel ugly. It’s obviously normalized degrading of children.
Hahaha “who called you that ?!!!”
Eva: “MY MOM!” 😂😂😂😂
"MY mOm!"
Are you kidding me. She is extremely Beautiful. People honestly need to broaden their Beauty Standards. Beautiful is not just one Color or Stereotype.
Eva is a classic Latina beauty. You were never ugly. ❤🎉
She’s really not though
@@SimplyCappedshe’s legit beautiful but ok
@@vinsambrano2190my boy Tony told me that waking up next to her seemed like it was a entire different person
No she isn’t. Being pretty you have to have to be blond blue eyes.
@@jeilynvasquez2476you're ridiculous
Her skin tone is literally the most gorgeous one...like seriously who the hell calls that ugly.
Usually light skinned latinos which are so mean to us darker skin latinos
My first cousin's first born was very dark skinned and she and her husband decided to disown it and gave the baby to her mother to raise because they were too disgusted and ashamed with the color of her skin. The other three children who were born later they kept because they were born fair.☹
How is it 'litterally' the most gorgeous one?
Indeed she's gorgeous
@@bahaar2825wait. What???
Same. Grew up in a community where fair skin is the beauty standard and my sister and cousins are fair with light eyes so everyone adored them people called me ugly , jeered at me , asked me why I’m not pretty like them .
When I left the community I would get so many compliments , at 30 people still ask if I’m a model and they are always perplexed that I don’t see myself as beautiful.
Anyway sometimes growing up ugly is better so you don’t become full of it but it was very traumatic the way people treated me. And also I was a bit ugly not just dark then I blossomed and the same people who wouldn’t validate me, did eventually and I was like ew , I don’t actually need it.
My parents did it to me too in a sense not ok and not endearing .
I was the ugly one in my family- the only redhead, the palest and grew up
heavy with my mom and sister ridiculing me for. Your language “ the ugly dark one” sound beautiful to me. I know now that I was a child and my mom was the parent. She preferred to be my sister’s friend rather than my mom. You are beautiful. I am sorry you experienced this growing & proud of you for overcoming it!
They were just jealous. I have deep copper red hair am ultra pale + green eyes (& most ppl love my colouring) but some girls are so jealous it's a joke. Don't worry🤭💜🙏🏻💜🇬🇧💜
The Hispanic community rarely speaks about this and if they do it’s not spoken about enough. I feel her so much. I can relate.
I call it the Encanto Effect 😂
I love to hear the story even the ugly ones because it really does exist across all races, nationalities and groups of people, all of them, you just don't hear all the stories
As a Black person, they don't need to talk about it. We already know these things about them. Colorism transcends cultures. Hispanic, asian, and Black culture.
They even do this when you are overweight 😢 they won't stop saying it to you, to your face, even when you are eating with them. I really don't understand how they can do that to KIDS. I'm angry even thinking about it lmao
My Mexican husband talks about this all the time. His family is the same way. However, he's the "white" one who takes his skin after his mom, who is really light, and his brothers and sisters all look like his father, who has Indian blood. The funny thing is that he looks the most like his darker dad outside of his skin color. The whole family is beautiful.
she’s a very beautiful woman. i can’t believe she was called ugly by her own mother
It is crazy
It happens
It happens. My mom don't see me as pretty as my sister too.
It happens alot 😅 I don’t know where Eva is from, but in Mexico have fair/pale skin is synonymous of being beautiful were as being dark skinned is the opposite
Very common to hear from grandmamas and mothers “es bonita, es güerita” which means “she’s pretty, she’s fair” to describe another woman or child in the circle
In the family circles if you have a pale skinned baby it’s considered a bless and everyone would describe it as beautiful
Also there’s a believe “mejorar la raza” which literally means “betterment of the race” it’s referred to marry a person with Caucasian/European features and have a child with those characteristics
It was probably from endearment not to be to stuck up! Language has ho be understood and read through cultural background. Americans take things literally, English don’t - and it’s the same language!!!
Being able to relate to this is so sad. Being on a back foot eve since you're born just because you aren't a few shades lighter. So much racism within families, which is such bs! Even today back home you get bombarded with ads for fair and lovely whitening creams and whitening soaps. Some of the most beautiful women in the world are tanned and dark skinned, yet people go through life believing they're the "ugly dark one". Really sad.
TOTALLY get how growing up not being the pretty one develops your character!! I am who I am today BECAUSE I wasn’t a typical beauty. Everyone is my friend, i am outgoing, and am not afraid to laugh at myself. I was an ugly duckling, but now I’m thankful I wasn’t just another pretty face 😊❤
I know exactly what you’re saying. Trying to “stay pretty” is futile and exhausting but being intelligent lasts forever and takes you so much further and people love sincere people who don’t take themselves too seriously for thugs that fade with time. I always knew my mind was my ticket upward, I also grew up believing I was ugly. My true beauty is I am real and genuine. I get the pain in others and work as an empath to help them see what is truly beautiful/strong/the assets about them that can never be taken away. Being “just pretty” when that is all you are is NEVER ENOUGH. Grab the other end of the sofa and lift when you’re pretty and you now have a skill.
Crazy to think she is one of the most beautiful women in Hollywood and has been for around 2 decades!
Exactly I’m sure her sisters are stewing in their own 💩 like the step-sisters from Cinderella..
Bet they’re *BIG MAD* 🤣🤣✋🏻
💯 what is wrong with people - her family, wow😮
That just means her sister are better good looking.
No bruh
@@largavidaalyoonmin8050 that is a matter of opinion. I and many others acknowledge that the lady is absolutely stunning. Her backstory sounds like the classic cinderella/sleeping beauty tale. Well she has triumphed over her haters. I love when the underdog is triumphant!
Went to google her sisters...trust me: she was always the pretty one 😂😂😂😂
Hmm , that’s what I’m thinking too 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂 I ran so fast to Google and I concur
😂😂😂
Lol I waa headed their now cause Eva baby 🥵🥰 so I gotta see this for myself!
There's no way they are related. I see no similarities. It's crazy.
These comments make me so sad. My daughter’s dad would always make demeaning “jokes” about his siblings’ or cousins’ darker complexions just because he happened to be a white complected Latino. As a brown woman with a brown daughter, lemme tell you all: Don’t let the Eurocentric media we’ve ALL been shown growing up fool you or make you feel like your skin or features are less beautiful or less impressive. Let’s unlearn all of that. Your brown is beyond BEAUTIFUL.
she was always the prettiest to me when i saw her on tv and she’s still got it 😍😍❤️🔥
As a black woman I would hear this all the time within our community also. However, my friends of other ethnicities have shared their stories of colorism also. It's real and it's hurtful. Eva thanks for sharing.
Why you gotta bring black into it?
@@SimplyCappedTruth hurts
Weirdly enough as a white Irish woman, those of us who are very pale hated our skin colour. My mother was Irish too but had black hair and olive skin and we all wanted to tan like her and have her colouring. I'd hate my freckles and she'd say she wished she had freckles. It's pretty much still the same attitude today. If you come home from a sun holiday with a tan it's like a badge of honour, you're complimented and told you look so healthy and pretty. So many are ashamed of their skin colour around the world, it's sad.
thank you for Including other races. I'm asian and I was never skinny nor pale.
It Hurts ?? Because my skin is different than yours? My gender ? My age ? Etc. Jajaja I can’t believe you said that !!
Okay i just went to google Eva' sisters😭 guys. Eva being humble here. She's the prettiest. 😭😭😭
Respectfully Yall are missing it.. in a lot of Communities, you are beautiful bc you look close to white. She just couldn’t say that
@@janetlewis3840this
@@janetlewis3840ya we know hispanics are racist af
Yeah you're right. She's the prettiest however it's true she has darker skin tone.. must be hard for her growing up feeling very unsecured. In Asian families we did the same thing as well...truly heartbreaking...honestly I learned a lot from it so I always complement both my children sincerely... I want my children to know that they are loved and God's greatest gift in my life 😊❤
Look how the tables have turnt
I’m flabbergasted. She is beyond gorgeous!
She is So beautiful.. i watched here on desperate housewives growing up and she was definitely my favorite 🖤
I hate families like that. They see it as a joke and “healthy bullying” because that “prepares” the child for the real world, but they don’t understand the damage some kids get along the way. I was always the tonta distraída, the one that “estaba en la luna”, la boba. Well, now I am Insecure af, and it’s so hard for me to believe that I can actually achieve something. I have to try so hard to overcome my fears.
That’s just an excuse they use. It’s there dysfunction and insecurity bleeding all over you. They know it hurts it hurt them. But they have no accountability and self awareness to stop passing on bs. But don’t fall for that complete absolute lie. It clearly prepared nothing and is in no way a defense against this world. Just a glimpse of everything wrong with it.
I'm sorry you went through that. You are not, nor where you ever, what they said you were. You are not meant to live in their negativity. Now, YOU run the show. Keep trying to overcome your fears because there is beauty and talent that is tired of being suppressed. I have faith in you and who you want to be and the story of peace and happiness that you want to include in your life's story. ❤
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I expérience the same thing 😕
I understand this so much
Понимаю. У меня так же. Сил нам на этом пути )
My exact story. I'm a nigerian. My sisters are fair amd I'm chocolate skinned. I got demeaning comments from people growing up but my mum always stood up to say to them all "my daughter is beautiful"
Fair means right and it seems like you're the one with the right skin tone or righter skin tone, so you're the fair one
I grew up like you .But my mum used to day I belonged to her sister
Y'all do realize Eva doesn't have dark skin??? Why are you trying to draw parallels with her story??? Y'all have nothing in common she is delusional
@@nefas3254the comment went over your head. Smdh. She clearly said my mom called me "the ugly DARK one". Now we all have eyes to see she is not darkskinned, so evrybody understands that her mom is using the darker skin complexion in combination with ugly comment as an insult. So everybody understand the mom sees darkskinned as a negative ugly thing now the lady Who wrote her own experience, is describing the same problem. Which is a general problem amongst many black, latino, indian etc. Where till this day people look down on darker skinnend complexion and it is problematic. Now if you cant comprehend that Just move it along cause im absolutely baffled at how incredibly ignorant your are and obvlious to societal issues. Read a book, that should be your new years resolution. Cause im concerned with your lack of intelligence ❤
@@sabcam2000exactly im not agreeing to use the term "fair" . made up to say white is right/good/pure and the rest of us is what...😒😒😒😒 so hell no to fair skinned. If im black you white, keep the colour palette in motion
This is crazy! She's so beautiful, I googled her sisters and she's definitely winning in the end trust me. I understand what she means, I'm considered the ugly one too because I'm darker than my sister. I remember outside family members always making comments but luckily my immediate family always told me I was beautiful too.
Same. Never been told I'm pretty growing up, decided not to value this in self. When I grew when someone calls me pretty it still surprises me. Had to learn to value it again.
She’s naturally beautiful.❤❤❤
shes had surgery ya know😂
@@nishottara777so what if she did, I wouldn’t blame her. Shit like that leave scars! And I’m sure she was beautiful before surgery.
@@nishottara777
Found pictures of her when she was young she’s pretty surgery or not 😅
This puts beauty into a different perspective. She’s Undeniable gorgeous….. it’s just wild how our childhoods and how we were treated can impact our view on how we see ourselves and life
I need a line up to judge for myself
I know. It’s crazy to look at someone as beautiful as Eva and realize she never thought she was pretty. Her family told her she was ugly?! Ugh, it’s nuts. That makes my heart break a little.
And look at her now. The wealthy one who gets casted as the bombshell in high profile acting roles. Love 💕
That’s why there are some messed up people because they grew up in that kind of environment. Hoping everyone will use that as an inspiration to strive & become the best.
And don’t let resentment stay in your heart.
Stay beautiful inside & out❤
As a dark skinned Mexican middle child with 2 light skinned sisters this is spot on. People in school would ask me if I was adopted. And the people in my family were the worst about it. I still struggle with how I see myself today. I thank God for psalm 139 ❤ helps me so much when that comes up for me.
Sorry that happened to you!!!
This breaks my heart.. That’s why healing from the mother wound is so important.
You are not darkskinned. I promise. You maybe darker than then but you are not DARK.
Sorry you went through that.
You're chosen. God has His hand on your life ❤ So, don't care about what people say. They are jealous of you. I know because my family treated me the same way....and now that they see how the Lord has blessed me... they turn on each other. Just focus on Jesus ❤
I’m an olive tone Latina with dark hair and eyes and I can def relate. My grandmother on my dad’s side told me my sister is prettier bc she has light skin (she can pass for Caucasian). She always praises my sister and never called me pretty but I personally have always believed God finds me beautiful, I love my skin tone, and that’s good enough for me. ❤❤❤
👊🏽.
Well it's not just Latinos. From I'm Bi Racial and all communities celebrate light eyes and light hair it seems.
I'm Bi Racial and my brother came out with blonde hair or light brown hair and green eyes. I came out with black hair and brown eyes. And my mother would tell me she was shocked I came out with hair so dark and brown eyes because she is blonde with green eyes. My father also said he thought and wished I would have lighter hair and light eyes. And the black side of my family my father had told me would talk about that I'm going to have light eyes and light hair. My black side does a Lot of mixing btw. All his brothers with White women. I know they were disappointed I have black hair and brown eyes. But happy I didn't have 4c hair and light skin compared to full B person
Well, I am russian, we are used to see a lots of blonds with light eyes. Do you know who we find really incredibly beautiful? Yep, Latinas with their olive skin, amazing forms and dark and thick hair! Same for Bollywood queens or Mediterranean beauties.
@@dilyara1985 Well blonde hair and light eyes are more rare around the world and getting less and less and more rare. I think that's why people think this
Families do this, mine too they shouldn't you should love and protect each other
It's so sad that people have such a hate for darker skin toned people that they would even verbally/emotionally abuse their own children with these types of microaggressions. It's literally just a color. It doesn't take away from who the person is.
The pain and grief of colorism in society and families. Beauty and resilience manifested. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Colorism within the Latino community***
This explains soooo much!! In desperate housewives she was cast as the stunning spoilt ex-model housewife but her comedic timing and dialogue was perfection!! She’s the whole package ❤ Personality and beauty to die for but it’s nice to know which she values more 😍
She definitely is the whole package.
I think she was an executive producer of the show. She's a Boss!
Damn, who would have thought?! Such a beautiful woman with such a story behind. It's true, you never know what someone might be going through... or went through
I love how down to earth she is. I love that she is sporting chanclas with the "old english" font like a true latina 😍 You don't need to radiate beauty (although you absolutely do) to be a beautiful person, let your personality outshine your outer appearance.
Most of my family members vary from a very fair complexion to a light brown skin tone. That being said, it was a shock to many individuals when I gave birth to a very melanated daughter. People immediately assumed it would be ok to give her nicknames that brought attention to her skin color. I nipped that in the bud right away. I do not allow anyone to treat her differently from her cousins. I advocate for her and do not let anyone call her anything other than her name and a child of God. People need to stop normalizing ignorance.
You’re black yourself! Why would it be a suprise to your family? 😅
@@bamboobabby4572 do you need it explained that black people also vary in complexion? Her daughter came out much darker in complexion than the rest of her present family. Colorism of course happens among us, too.
@bamboobabby4572 bc id say she is a medium complexion herself, and if she has a white/light skinned husband and/or another light-skinned child already, it can be surprising bc its fairly unlikely that a baby w 2 lighter parents will be darker than both. Same w the opposite(2 blue eyed-blondes having a baby w dark hair and skin- its not impossible, just unlikely). My brother and 1 sister look like they're from completely different families bc he is tall and has curly black hair, extremely dark skin and light blue eyes where my sister is so light she can't even tan(shes honestly "pink" and got zero olive), has blonde, straight hair, dark brown eyes and is short. Despite her speaking spanish, nobody believes that she is anything other than white and nobody ever knows what my brother is, other than "definitely not white" lol people are so confused when they meet the opposite sibling and just immediately assume they're not even half siblings(must be step) but they actually have the same 2 parents as the rest of us more "medium" kids lol our mom is still obsessed w avoiding the sun at all costs and one time she put on full arm gloves to walk to the car(75 ft) and I had to sit her down and show her studies about the consequences of light deprivation/d deficiencies...from asthma to diabetes to osteoporosis to hormone imbalance, she already has every condition that's associated w vit d deficiency🤦♀️ I finally convinced her to not wear the gloves but you can still see the fear in her eyes if you even talk about going outside on a sunny day lol🥴🫠
Good mother
Yes very true.
I’m American Caribbean, and this is why a lot of us used to or still struggle with self hate, a lot of it doesn’t come from the outside it starts in your own home. It’s learned behavior that you have to unlearn
Thank you for being courageous enough to share an honest acknowledgment with us. It does stem from the white community abroad that has poisonously tainted the minds of many nations.
Yup, caught hell from my mother and I'm the only one who looks just like her😂😂😂😂
Start with. I'm an American.... Because that's what you are.
Literally, my same life experience and coping mechanism. 🤦🏽♀️
Wow. I always thought Gabrielle was the most gorgeous housewife. Stunning woman‼️
I put a stop to that when I was about 20. No one calls me “la prieta” anymore; I was also called ugly because of my skin color. It’s pathetic really, because Latinos come in all shades 🙄
Not a Latina but in our culture used to be considered a huge disadvantage to be dark. But if you were blond, no matter if you were missing body parts or were a 90 yo hunchback, you were automatically considered very beautiful.
Good for you hitting a stop to it 👏🏾 Colorism is a huge problem in many communities & it must end. Your worth is not determined because of your color, & no one deserves to be treated worse because their skin is darker.
@@ambriaashley3383then why dont we stop it?
It’s also kinda racist
Colorism is a Global issue
My mom did this to me too. My sister and her are blonde and fair skinned. I look like my Indian dad. Until I stopped talking to her in my 40s I've always see myself as the ugly one. It's mentally cruel.
Its hard when your competition is your sister.... On my wedding day one of my relative told me my sister would be a pretty bride.... And on my sisters wedding day everyone was telling how pretty she is looking and how make up cant make you pretty while using me as an example.... A girl is supposed to be prettiest when she is a bride and i was robbed of that
And most likely you are the most beautiful one. I actually pulled up Eva Longoriasisters. They look like trash, seriously.
You must be so beautiful ❤❤!
@@sashdashdash6138o my goodness! That is so cruel. You don’t need people like that in your life.
It is cruelty at its peak when our own mother decided to demean us!
I’ve always loved her - I hope she’s living a great life
Well I always felt she was beautiful. And still is after all these years.She’s gorgeous. And appears to be so humble which is endearing🙏🏼🙏🏼
Eva Longoria is one of the most beautiful women in the world!❤❤❤
Pure ignorance
She is average looking, she does. not compare to Monica Bellucci.
@@bunjijumper5345who the fuck cares
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@@bunjijumper5345why are you comparing women? They’re both beautiful, as beauty isn’t a rigid category.
Dude, my family called me, "ugly." I still can't believe it to this day. This is the first time i have ever told anyone. I was ashamed for so long.
I'm sorry that happened to you. You did not - DO not - deserve that.
You probably are the most beautiful too. Families can be very jealous.
My family called me Porky when I hit puberty...I remember contemplating suicide those years.
Wow! So sorry you had to go through that
Anybody that had to go through that I'm sorry that happened because FAMILIES can be the absolute worst in our upbringing an cause so many insecurities that are NOT real. I love yall an KNOW YOU ARE BEYOND BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT! Don't let anyone make you think different because that mean they are unhappy within! Oh an jealous cuz you the shit!!!!! ❤
This is so real for me because I too have 3 sisters and I also decided to be the funny one and also ended up being the doctor, but I'm still the ugly and fat one. Hope to change that this year
I very much doubt you’re ugly. I hope this year you get to feel amazing, and even though it’s a feeling that definitely comes and goes, I hope you always get back to it 🫶🏼💖
@@fatimaj7508 thank you💙
Wow is insane how you own family can destroy you.. I read most of the comments is really sad I have the same experience my parents brought all kind the stuff to my brother and for me nothing like invisible kid.. plus my brother abuse me emotional and physical.. I trying to heal step by step and don’t looking in the back.
For all the people people have the similar situation or past the same situation I send you
My best wishes and don’t let no one destroy us.. be kind with others don’t threaten you kids and the same way or any one around you.
God bless everyone 💜
Hispanic families do this a lot. My mother was considered the ugly daughter because she was “trigueña” (dark skinned) and her sister was very white. It’s cruel but so so common.
And she probably was the prettiest like Eva is
That’s insane. So cruel. Even these days??
We like to say that there is no racism in Latino culture but we know better. Mejorando la raza o Adelentar la raza is a thing. My family called me Nubia which they tried to tell me wasn't a bad name but it was because of my dark skin. Mind you "dark" is relative. I was considered light skinned by Black people.
It's teue or what's the skinny or fat one. Always comparate at .
I can relate! I’m the “trigueña” of the sisters.
I remember as a kid always being called fat by family (especially my dad) and it implanted in my mind that I was fat. It wasn't until I looked back at my childhood photos and realized that I wasn't fat at all! Sure, I wasn't super skinny like the other kids but I was not even overweight. I was at a healthy weight and it didn't help that I was taller than kids my age. All my life I thought I was fat and accepted it as that. It fucked with my self-esteem and I always stayed quiet and kept to myself at school because I was afraid to get bullied for being fat, which I totally was not. I even got a few of boys liking me and I flat out rejected and unfriended them because I thought they were just joking because how can anyone like a fat girl like me. If you're a parent, do not call your kids by their "flaws"! I don't care if it's in your culture, you don't know how it will affect them in the long run.
My heart 🥺💔
It was like this for me too. I struggled with weight my whole life, but as a younger person I was very active and never fat. But I always believed I was huge.
It wasn’t until an SA by a family member at 14 that I truly got fat and then came to discover that I also have lipedema an inflammatory illness that causes fat storage and can be brought on by abuse and injury 😢
my dad slapped my tummy one time and said “suck it in” I was 9 and waiting with him in line at the movies or something I don’t even remember Because it messed w me so bad, bro I feel you and I looked back at old pics too recently and I was so healthy and tall for being a girl too, it’s okay but who are these “grown ups” telling their offspring to conform to their mold. Just a bunch of morons and nothing more. I’m thankful you shared your story and I’m happy to be able to know that I’m not alone and you’re not alone. We are healing all together Because now we have love and true support from real grown ups now☯️🧿💕I hope you heal:)ily❤️🩹
I had very similar experience 🥺🫂
Oh i hear you! Same here. I was not thin either especially on my teens, i was just a bit rounder but never fat, well i always had people mention my weight. I grew up so insecure and my low self esteem. People words can destroy you. I wish i was stronger and i could turn back time to tell myself to ignore them and to f*** off. I would never do that to my child or to another person. Ever.
My family did the same to me.. I love Eva Longoria for bringing this up. Sometimes you gotta find your own beauty.
Wow, so incredibly sad for her 😢🥺💔.
She were the beauty standard in mid 2000’s and people were obsessed with her
The worst part is that people who suffer this kind of ignorance turnaround, and pass this on to their own children.
It seems Eva is still brainwashed. Hazel eyes aren't any better than brown eyes.
She is literally the most beautiful woman in the world. How could she think this way ? I hate people who made her feel this way.
Very common in Latino families. My hair was a constant reminder I wasn’t enough by my moms side of the family. I was bullied and made fun of because I had this big Afro of hair growing up. Part genes, part because I wasn’t taught how to care for it- my mom had no idea how to do hair. It effected me for a long time until I realized my hair was never ugly, they were. ❤ 😊
Yup I was the darkest and skinniest growing up and my family called me blackie. Then they wonder you supersede them and don’t visit.
It's an objective truth. Ignoring your family for something like that is superficial.
Lol right
@@iberlo85are u feeling ok? 😂it's derogatory end of story.
@@iberlo85 How?
First comment is an idiot!!!
It’s so true. My friend who is Dominican is the darkest of her family and her mom refers to her as “negra” meanwhile her skin color is probably one or two shades below Ms. Longoria. It is definitely not a term of endearment. It makes people feel like an outcast and displaced like the don’t belong
Its amazing that in a region where fair skin and blonde hair is not common it is prized. My granddaughter is blonde and blue eyed like my son and they live in the Middle East where dark hair and eyes are prevalent. This child draws so much positive attention wherever she goes with her parents from local women who fawn over her. Because she is different (not to mention cute as a button).
It reminds me of the Bible verse - "In place of your former shame, I will give you a double portion of honor" (Isaiah 61:7). I pray she recognizes that God has done this for her, and that He made her carefully to be so beautiful.
I remember when I was about 16 yo. My sister was about 14. My dad used to say to her “ oh my God you are so beautiful “ and one day he turned to me after saying that and told me “ you make a great cup of coffee mija”. I still cannot believe such simple phrase could hurt so much
Im sorry, tell him thats hurtful and not to say those thingss
Is sad when you own family doesn’t give you the respect and kindness every single human’s deserves, every single kid deserves love a be threatening With love.. I’m sorry for hear about it, don’t let any one destroy you, destroy you essential. I send you a hug and my best wish for you, from the bottom of my heart. Take care beautiful 💜
@@ariella6510 thank you for your kind words
I have a similar experience. When I was 12 years old, my dad commented that my best friend was pretty. Meanwhile, he never told me I was beautiful, pretty, or anything like that. I was 30 years old when my father finally told me I was beautiful. I was shocked and surprised.❤
@@caressaclark1042 I am happy you got to hear that from him.
I am Peruvian and I can relate heavily to this. I have a younger sister (3-years apart). I always looked like my father he has dark hair, brown eyes, and darker skin than my mom who is “guera” my mother is white with hazel green eyes and chestnut brown hair. I remember when my sister was born, my father’s behavior towards me changed drastically. He always favored and babied her while always scolded and made comments about my appearance. I remember back at church someone said to my mom “Your daughter is so beautiful” my mom being the angel that she is though that the comment was about me her eldest. The person immediately said “ew no I meant the little gringita” meaning my younger sister. My mother left in a rage that day and my eyes never left the floor that day. Funny how in this day and age everyone tans their skin and colors their hair to look like me 😂
stay strong and remember there's only ONE opinion that matters in ALL of life and that's how GOD sees AND thinks of you....
In church doesn’t surprise me 😭
i can relate to this so much. it's such a cruel thing to do to a child, especially a little girl. i'm the only girl out of three kids and my oldest brother (blond hair, blue eyes) has a different dad. i have olive skin, dark brown, almost black, eyes and hair, just like my dad.
my mom used to tell me that she wished i had blonde hair and blue eyes like my brother. she would also put sun-in lightener in my hair, starting when i was only like 3-4 years old. it definitely made me feel self conscious from a really young age.
dangg.. that's nuts. that family shade really hits you. D:
I seen her drivers license photo, she has no makeup on, & she's literally stunning! Her facial features are beautiful
As is often the case with dark women. It's like Cinderella the most beautiful is made to feel less than until she's made to know the truth.
@@ladyofspa
Bullseye!!!! 🎯🎯🎯🎯
That's the one!!!
I'm so happy I never felt this. Although my siblings had lots hang-ups omg. I just lived MY >life just 🌹 nice. ❤️most important.
I am part Hispanic and that phrase is not a term of endearment. It's a put down. Imo light skinned or dark skinned we are all beautiful.
Exactly
You were born different for a reason. Now they are in your shadow. The world sees you as absolutely beautiful..
Eva, same here with family comments. I’m the achiever, kindhearted and admired for my soul. ❤❤
"I don't value beauty in my own self very much" i felt that 💙💙💙
I don’t value it either and I feel free and actually more beautiful
Because I can see my own beauty through the complete removal of worshiping it…does that make sense?
Same, i always knew im the ugly daughter, not the pretty one
@@TRU3-LOV3 absolutely 💯
@@TRU3-LOV3 yup! Perfect sense. ❤
Family will destroy your self-esteem. They feel that they can say and talk about you any kind of way and it won’t affect you. That is the saddest thing I’ve heard her own mom Wow 😳😢
THIS!!
I knoooooow :(
True that's how my grandma and mom is towards everyone in our family especially me getting picked on for having brown skin like Eva. They would call me the black one in the wrong family which left me confused as a little girl
@@Clean-N-ShineInDfw Ohh my goodness!!!! That’s horrible and so confusing as a child!! Some old school values need to be buried and never be brought up again!
@@lesaforbes6241 That's just plain yt worship...Not "old school values"
“As like a joke” bless her heart
Thank goodness you made it & in the eyes of the world you are the prettiest❤
What's wild is she's one of the most gorgeous women to ever exist.
Before or after the plastic surgeries? I agree she’s beautiful, but we also can’t ignore the fact that she isn’t completely natural.
I completely agree, I've always thought she was gorgeous. Now, I have to see what the sisters look like smh
@@Lex-rc1gr It's not big a difference, she was just as beautiful before as she is now.
Stop lying😂
FR
And years later she became a magnificent and talented actress known all over the world. It's a nice revenge 😊
Relatable. I’m a good lovely brown color, my brother is white. I have brown eyes he has hazel eyes. He was always seen as such a handsome cute boy. My nick name was also prieta but never fea. But the attention my brother got from adults was nuts. It took me a long time to embrace and now I took to my family about I have no idea why people assume lighter is better looking.
I’m a mother of two girls. My husband is black and their skin is perfect. And would be perfect no matter what. I tell them everyday they are beautiful. But I also am teaching them that beauty isn’t everything and the most important thing.
I’ve always been big, my mum even took me to dietitians when I was four because she was so slender and the only time in her life she ever gained weight was when she was pregnant and she would promptly lose it all after having me and my brothers. It was always a “fun” time whenever it came to eating because my brothers all inherited her fast metabolism whereas I didn’t so she always restricted everything I ate and even when we went out to eat she would say that I’d eaten enough and never say it to anyone else who would pile their plates high at the buffet or if it was ordering food she would order for me. I love her but I would have to say that it’s made me have a very warped relationship with food. Can completely relate to what Eva is saying when a parent says something backhanded or whatever and then when you defend yourself you’re labelled over sensitive
I ALWAYS found her to be stunning. They always wanna strip the light away before you realize you possess it. Shine on baby!
Finally a celebrity with a VOICE voicing colorism and preference in the Hispanic community.
EDIT: After carefully reviewing my catalog of all celebrity interviews it's been brought to my attention...🙄
didn t mariah carey do that already
Finally? There's been so many saying this for decades.
Didn’t Salma Hayek do that already?
And in my case was the opposite . I’m white , red head and my family would bully me because of it and nobody believes me .
@@AngieLolaPagan I do. That's another thing, colorism goes for ALL shades. I hate you went through that.
And to think of it, she blew up the screen so much. To be humble has value in itself.
I have the same dark features like Eva and i felt so ugly growing up. Seemed like everyone had blonde hair and blue eyes except for me! But now as an adult, dark features are really considered beautiful and im complimented all the time for having them.
It is terrible when people outside think you are ugly because of the color of your skin but, it tears away pieces of your heart when you family say the same terrible things to you. Especially your mother.
My father used to humiliate me the same way. In his opinion, I wasn't intelligent like my cousin and neither beautiful. He called me "idiot" and other pejorative terms, but actually, I never cared. I had no mother as she died in my birth. I spent more than 10 years with him, dealing with his bad behaviour and his mental and physical abuse towards me. He used to spank me for any reason or because my grades in school weren't what he expected. I lived under constant fear of him. He got involved with a very evil woman when I was 9 and was always with her. She had a daughter to whom he did everything but that girl wasn't his but from another man,who impegrenated that woman and abandoned her. Well... when I was 21 I left that house and I never came back. I was in college and now I could find a job, be free and live away from that family. He died in 2017. Leaving behind many bastard kids he never cared for. For that bi* he left the house and everything. I live in Germany now, married and I have no kids. I think God spared me the burden of having kids who could one day be left behind and suffer in thus planet like I did. Imagine if I die and leave my kids in the hands of my husband? What guarantee he wouldn't treat them badly or marry again a bad woman who would torture my children?! One day, one of my aunts told me this: "your father is envious. He can't accept you have nothing of him, he is stupid, not intelligent and he knows you are like my uncle who was bright and smart like you. You are what your father could never be! You are like the uncle he admired but couldn't be a copy of... yes! It is true. He is envious of you!". But I also noticed he liked more that woman's child because the girl had lighter skin and was beautiful. I wasn't beautiful enough. I was the ugly duckling. He was ashamed to introduce me to others as his daughter unless I become a great lawyer or judge or a very important and wealthy person. I was never like that so he despised me for that. When he died, I felt nothing. I didn't miss him, I didn't suffer. It was like a total stranger died. It was a weird situation. On the other hand, when my best friend died I suffered as if I had lost a father because all my life he was a true father to me in so many ways. He was 64 when he died of leukemia, and right now, I cry remembering him. He was the father Il never had at home. 😢
And now she is the beautiful swan amongst her sisters...🦢🦆
I got curious and looked up what her sisters look like and omg you weren’t kidding 😂😱.
That’s a pretty weird take because she was not ugly in the first place. Colorism doesn’t actually care about what you look like over-all. It’s about you being light enough. There are people who still think they’re better than her because they are lighter.
Had to look up her "beautiful sisters "
@@thezu9250 I wasn't referring to her colour at all actually. I just think she's incredibly and strikingly beautiful and the most glamorous and attractive amongst her sisters.
@@thezu9250hmm true it’s not really about beauty overall but really about the believe of racial white supremacy. So the closer to it the better you are. It’s kind of like Hitlers obsession with Blue eyes. Even today people have a fetish for blue eyes or light eyes.
It’s all part of white supremacy.
Eva Longoria is one of the prettiest women I’ve ever seen. Shes so gorgeous.
IDK who needs to hear this, but, I love you so much, and sending you all the hugs and acception❤ You are so beautiful and special, let noone to make you feel different, even if it's your own family 😢❤🫂
My boyfriend is medium complexion (he is mixt, Norwegian mom and Nigerian+Caribean dad) and he could get tanned to a pretty dark brown, and I'm a really pale-skinned with a lot of freckles all over the body (I'm Ukrainian), its also hard for me to get any tanned, I'm just getting a sun burns. Can't wait for our kids to be born, it's so wonderful to se, what skin tone and hair+eyes colour are they gonna get. We'll love each of them unconditionally and equally, and each will be so special for us❤ So sorry to see, that some kids are/was suffering from being different from their family/siblings and was threatened worse 😭😞
I personally think the most beautiful people are the ones who don't think they're beautiful (when they are).
My niece’s half-sister is so pretty. She has a heart-shaped face, very soft features, flawless skin, and big dark doe eyes. She’s also thin, tall, and naturally tan. She’s always had such a shy personality and has always hidden herself. On social media, she always uses silly filters because she won’t show her face very much and rarely posts photos of herself. She thinks she’s ugly and the times that we’ve told her how pretty she is or that she has big beautiful eyes, she gets emotional and cries. She probably thinks we’re all lying to her because she doesn’t have the Kylie Jenner “Instagram face” and that’s all a lot of girls her age want. She has a doll-like face that a lot of runway models have and she could be a model herself but she doesn’t believe it. I feel bad for her. She truly doesn’t know how pretty she is.
@Andy-xx3tt That's really heartbreaking. Makes me wonder if she suffers from some degree of body dysmorphia or self-esteem/confident issues and requires a bit of therapy. I hope people around her will shower her with love and compliments and one days she'll get used to receiving compliments and accepts herself as she is🥹💝. I always thought the same, people were just being nice, possibly trying to get something out of me. I had a big trust issues growing up because I didn't grow up in an emotionally safe environment. I hope she finds peace within and embrace her natural beauty. Also know that the appearance doesn't define person's value, and that intelligence, sense of humor, charms, kindness, creativity, uniqueness, thoughtfulness, generosity, and all the other different factors are also how you attract people💝✨️.
I can totally relate to what she’s expressing here. Growing up in Thailand where light to white skin is the beauty standard, obviously my sister got the light skin genetic lottery.
My mom family would always compliment my sister light skin with her loose curls hair, while calling me ET (Alien) or some other word they think it’s funny. At the very young age I knew I have to choose to be the smart one to out shine my sister in some area. 😂
I’m so sorry love :( I’m also from the south east asia and the beauty standards are just so weird here. I hope you know that you’re very beautiful ❤
I’m also Mexican-American my extended family is mix from really light skin, blond/red hair, and green/hazel/blue eyes to really dark skin. I’m on the light spectrum compared to my extended family but I have dark brown hair and brown eyes whereas my sister had blond hair and is just one shade of make up lighter than me, our undertones are different she is a little more pink and I’m a little more yellow, and I was always told when I was growing up that I was “prieta” the dark one and even if I don’t want I and I know it’s not important as an adult I’m self conscious about my color and exposing my self to the sun with out any kind of protection because I’m afraid to get darker.
Omg😢
And here in New Zealand we're all getting fake tan to have the desired olive brown skin.
@patty9197 yeah but they called her the ugly prieta, my grandma would call me her morenita, that's endearment...
And now they're all known as Eva's sisters and mom! ❤
Every time I hear her talk about this, I literally feel the pain for her
What a shame ! To think people would consider such a stunning lady ugly because of her skin and hair colour is an embarrassment to humanity.
People of a certain race goes through this everyday. If we’re super dark it’s almost impossible in their mind for one of us to be so beautiful. Which i why you’ll hear from so many darker skin black women that they’re pretty to be dark.
Naw her mother did it
I’m blown away because I’ve always thought she was incredibly beautiful..I first saw her on a soap opera and remember thinking how beautiful her hair a skin tone were
I’m so glad I grew up just seeing beauty in everyone no matter what colour or nationality! Only when we moved to the city I saw the light skin dark skin jokes! To me as a black woman I never saw skin tone and put it together with beauty … never have never will
“I just don’t value beauty in my own self very much” THIS! Doesn’t mean we don’t consider ourselves beautiful, it’s just that we are more than a face or skin tone or eye colour 💜
This breaks my heart. Every child should be valued for their uniqueness! Acceptance for every person.
I’ve always found dark hair and dark eyes the most attractive characteristics someone can have!
Me too!
But Eva doesn't have dark skin????
@@nefas3254 she has a nice complexion! All complexions are nice, me as a Snow White, who doesn’t tan very easily, I’ve always found the suntanned skin more attractive !
@@olgaath1511 people always want what they don't have. ( The grass is greener syndrome )😮😊
@@truthgreatheart2514 that’s true! Although I have dark hair & eyes but pale skin, I’m attracted to men who have dark eyes, hair! I just find darker complexions a little more attractive! I like the Mediterranean type of beauty in a few words!
Keep up the great work Owen and take care of yourself
Can't believe this. Her beauty was stunning when i first knew her through the desperate housewives 😮