Get John Gray's complimentary relationship course here: www.marsvenus.com/ &* FREE 10 Secrets About Men (Every Woman Needs To Know) Here: whatrealmenwant.com/
I have my chatmate im.older than me He said to my that i sealed my heart to him.only because He sincere on my we are not meet yet? Im Christian He IsIslam?12 years our age gap! I thinking if week ends in his house he didnot talkibg to me something He keeping secrets if He us at his office he open cam to cam but he can't talk also? If Hetravel every week end He can only talk ti me while he is driving?And one time I am not sleeping but i was vission him that he holding hands with a lady younger? What can I do i like to stop and look another man but I love Him and i feel he loves me too?
I met a gentleman who is 10 years older than me and he treats me like a queen. I have never let anyone in emotionally but he has taught me it's okay to "need" him but I think that's because he was vulnerable with me from the get go and because I wasn't "attracted to him at first" getting to know him helped me to open up as I have always been "miss independent"
@@lindawright5133 Hi Linda, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward by name, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Ladies Don't Take his advice on having sex with a man while dating. Bad bad advice. If you really want a relationship, commitment, respect and love, Don't sleep with him until you are engaged or married to him. Many reasons for this. Men understand this totally.
I'm not doing anything for men...anymore. Thank God I'm not needy, I'm not gonna force any dude to stay around me/with me, if he wants to leave, that's fine.
watch out so that youre not avoidant though.. I think that a man that you are in arelationship with and theres a mutal love and connection, you would want to do things for him that he would enjoy, thats love.
Very good! It's nice to know how we interact as women and men. Very informative. I am 71 and dating a man now for 6 weeks. We are in stage 3. But I'm glad I knew about stage 2 or I probably would have been upset when he pulled away. I haven't talked to him for a week and he called me today and we discussed it. I was actually feeling fear to because I have been in a couple of abusive relationships in the past. But now that I am whole and healed I can see he is a good man. We are able to discuss things and communicate very well. I didn't meet him until a month after we had talked to each other. We talked for hours everyday and I felt so connected to him. Now I know that that was a good thing. Looking forward to steps four and five😍 thanks again!
I’ve read a lot and listened to tons of self help on these issues. John gray blows all of them away. A wealth of knowledge!! I’ve learned so much! Actually my mind is blown. 🤯🤯🤯Thankyou for this video. It helped me so much!
Thank you, John for helping me understand how a man can think, and why it's important for us woman to know how we can better make our relationship work..
@@imeldapasco8211 yes, this is bad advise. We can fall for a man that is not good for us. And as he says in the video, it can be for reasons we are not even aware of. Women are beaten but will beg a man to stay. Do not follow your heart. Follow his heart. His goodness toward you. A man will will make you feel so safe and loved when he wants to be good to you
John, Speaking from the female estrogen side..you are so kind to take all this time making this video for what we always tried to understand about men!! Thank you so much!!
Thank you both, I never thought I'd meet 2 men that both like me at the same time. Mostly because I'm in my late 60's and was not looking for a relationship. So it's very interesting to listen to your Video's.
6 min mark If you are sexually turned on usually that is your body's subconscious Response to Win his attention. So Ignore this and go back to practicing just being present and not wanting
I was interesting in a man and John told that someone who had a bad relationship with her father would probably be connected to the wrong guy. So I changed my mindset and I saw that it was just a illusion.
Normally I get a lot out of these interviews, I have several of John's books and benefit from the advice. It saddens me, though, to hear narcissistic behavior diminished. It is beyond selfishness, and has nothing to with getting needs met--it is feeding a bottomless pit of ego that results in emotional and psychological abuse of the worst kind. Narcissism can be perpetrated by men or women, and is a campaign of undermining the victim's trust in their own perception of reality. They are experts at appearing rational and kind in public, so it doesn't surprise me they came across as 'wonderful'. But to be fair, a truly narcissistic person does not have the humility required to go to counseling, so the men's wives may have been hasty in putting that label on them. Still, what troubled me more than the take on narcissism was the revision of men's historical treatment of women. If the majority of men were the loving, selfless providers described in this video, why would women look for ways to provide for themselves? For thousands of years, women had no legal rights over their own bodies, much less their children. They couldn't own property, and anything they owned was handed to the man upon marriage. They had to hope the man they married was decent, because there was no legal recourse if he chose brutality. And any woman who earned her own income was considered 'less than'. Please do not discount the unspeakably brutal treatment women suffered (and continue to suffer) at the hands of men, which led to women seeking financial independence from them. If a man had other women, beat his wife and abused his children, there was nothing that wife could do about it if she wanted to eat, sleep indoors and be considered a member of society. Even now a lot of women are in mortal danger from their fathers and husbands because of the laws of the land in which they live. I feel Dr. Gray's response was dismissive of these experiences.
While I respectivly see your pov, its important to keep his response in context to the discussion at hand. While I did feel slighted at his dismissive response to narcissism, I gave him the benefit of the doubt that is was unintentional miscommunication, sometimes we say things erroneously in the moment without realizing how it comes across. I would however be interested in a follow up video with his perspective.
Thaaaank you Joye!!! I totally agree. Do not compare the imbalanced masculine men with narcissists. Narcissists breaks other people down, puts them down, makes other people wrong - and is unable to see one self, take responsibility for ones own mistakes and has absolutely no regret when it comes to praising one self while making other people feel bad. A narcissists has no contact to any feelings of trust, empathy or being caring. John has the ego at the size of a Elephant and brags throughout many of these videos, with this type of behaviour as mentioned in the video, where he puts women down at the expense of men. Men like him self. That is not okay. Thank you Joye for this comment.
While I appreciate some of the wisdom in this video… Narcissist personality disorder is a very real thing and very very dangerous and very very abusive. I feel like Dr. Gray kind of pooh-poohed it because he doesn’t have any expertise on the subject. I don’t mean to send it unkind way but before talking about something like this please educate yourself
I agree I lived with a Narcissist and they can be Charming at first and then become Very Verbally Abuse. They are usually Very Smart People with high Egos. They are Dangerous! They only care about there needs.
The video is about what men do when they are in love. I've been with a psychopath and a narcissist and being with these type of men causes a woman to filter from her masculine side. So, I agree with Dr. Gray that dealing with a feminine man (narcissist) is to lean on your femininity anyway. If that man can't deal with your femininity, then move on.
Firstly the video is about men falling in love, not about narcissists. She asked him the question because so many women have thrown around the calling out men as narcissists, which has actually diminished the seriousness of dealing with a true narc. The ridiculousness of labelling people and putting them in a box or diagnosis (from non qualified medical persons) rather than calling out the actual undesirable and or abusive behaviour is the problem.
16 min mark When She Feels she needs help...the more he will respond...She needs to Open up so his attentiveness will reassure her Emotions are unstable.
Hey John, A very interesting topic. The part about the wife and husband separated or divorced and how the wife commented that her husband never looked after his appearance while married to her (hair, weight, clothes, reading your books for relationship guidance ect.) and her stating “why didn’t he do those things while married to me?” You didn’t answer that. I’m wandering also why men do this? Why a reaction and not a preventative approach when it’s (relationship troubles are in their face) something so important. Appreciate your feedback around this.
7 min mark Curiosity Interest Admiration Respect Enjoying the heart starting to Open Sharing Your Feelings Be Naked Mentally Later you become naked physically Might be boring Give it a Chance to Grow Do NOT Try to Win Him OVER Allow him to Win You . An ember give it Air Allow it to GRow. if it doesnt you had good practice with Relationship Skills.
John Gray: He is a remarkable and impressive writer who teaches us not only about relationships, but also why humans differ so much because of their chemistry... He spends his life educating the public about how to relate to each other and it was as if something seemed to make so much sense to me. I think what he's writing and talking about is quite informative and I've looked at a lot of relationship scenarios and just had to see how he ties it all together. I am a Libra lady and we are all about peace, love, balance and romanticism in our lives. I wanted to learn all I could about relationships and I think it's partly because of a relationship that I was in and the situation that I continue to cling to. I met somebody who ended up leaving The Bay Area, where I live, and that was the most difficult, heartbreaking, and frustrating part of my life. In part, I was inspired to learn more about people and the differences/similarities that exist between us. If there's one thing I care about, it's what you teach. Thank you, Jennifer Incaviglia Mill Valley
It all seems like hard work, very strategic, like a gane of chess. I have just met a guy after having been on my own for 5 years. Im military and hes a cowboy. Everything you have said is exactly how he behaves lol. He rang me while I was watching a few of these videos 😆 he told me that he had helped his ex at work as she needed a hand. I replied with wow your such a great person to help her...good on you 😀 well now I have raised his testosterone and hes now buying me a new hat haha 😄
I was with a covert narcissist. I learned about it for a year and a half. I do think it is more prevalent problem because of our culture and I do think there should be education on the topic so one can differentiate the difference between gaslighting behaviors that are from a narcissist and gaslighting behaviors that are not intended. There are different categories of narcissism as well. But I do not think there is enough education on the topic so one can know what is just bad behavior and what is actually legit real life narcissistic behaviors that are dangerous for my experience it was. I'm happy to be alive but it is a real thing and I guess maybe it might seem like some mythical unicorn to someone else until your face to face with a monster. So yes it's something that should be learned about so you can tell the difference. Just saying as an infj personality type I also understand that my personality type is more prone to encountering such a personality.
I am an infj and tend to attract self centred people as well. When I'm grounded and less sensitive, then people generally stay away from me, which is fine.
Mr. Gray I do respect your point of view I've watched quite a few of your videos but when life happens and a couple must speak on feelings such as losing a child and he goes into the cave and shut down and we already have our bond Of 37 years I need deeper answers of how to help him you say just let him be. That is creating a bigger divide at this point. His testosterone is medically monitored. You say 50 years I have almost 40 years of a relationship and believe me l have opened up with my feelings. Please deeper answers. He has shut down LIFE happens to many to simply allow one to experience " the rubber band " effect
Generally speaking Mr Gray's advice is informative and wise. Unfortunately there are many grey areas in life and many circumstances and sometimes deeper issues that apply within a relationship.
I'm very sorry for your loss. The loss of a child is by far the most devastating of all! Praying you both find the love and healing and peace you both deserve in this life!!😪🙏🙏❤❤❤
@@aprililes8355 this was the crutch of my comment ,meaning there is so much more that affects relationships. Mr Gray is very informative and Intelligent. But very surface in my opinion DNA has changed, intake of foods with hormones. There's just so much outside things thrown at relationships.
I love making my man happy. But it's hard when he don't give me attention or more lovemaking. We been together 4 yrs. This is an on going thing. When he complains I need to give more, when I do I tell him your roll changing taking away my feminity . I been saying that for 3yrs. Ty Dr for validation on what I been going through. Plz plz talk more on THIS Topic I'm helping him raise his only kid. She has problems. I need his back on many things . I have no family here.
True BUT sounds like alot of work I believe things should flow naturally. Widow of my husband 7 yrs n mother passed 4 months ago, died in my arms, things hav been wicked. But now i want a lovin friend someone who cares, kind, attentive, loyal live 2gether hav life insurance incase something happens 2 take care if each OTHER n a luvy ring, great communication, it be like a marriage but not, one looses their discounts n less complicated. Like ur channel T U UR A RIOT🌞
Can anyone says how long a man can remain puller away! I am into this phase and just wondering this question. Its been a month of no contact (or say no interest)
But what if the man was abandoned by a spouse and moved on with someone else and he was in the process of divorcing? However, he did begin to pursue once he realized his situation was over.
Hi Teresa, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward by name, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
I felt more attracted to him (more than he for me). I felt I was giving more and eventually felt like he acted like girlfriend. We split bill for dinner etc
Hi, I’m really enjoying listening tonight. And I want to ask, what if you’re talking to a man and you do not enjoy or believe in what he’s saying? Then what?
If you don’t enjoy him, if you don’t feel good when with him… if he has some beliefs that you feel are immoral…. RUN! That’s not your man! Run and just be respectful about it and also be careful to not bump his ego if he’s in that space. I don’t believe in ego (hierarchy) but it can be dangerous for women (men’s anger)…. So speak to their self esteem … always protect or enhance another’s self-esteem even when expressing a valid criticism or breaking up. Loving communication is a gift to the world and also, healthy anger and boundaries are found within love as well. Love is soft AND strong too…. Involves ourselves and others both. 💜
Is it possible that when you feel the sexual attraction or other things… that possibly it’s your own body warning you that that person is only interested in you for sex too?
I enjoy John's advice but it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable watching him talk as Our most Precious Lady of the heavens statue is behind him. It's all about the flesh and this world.. 🤔
Exactly, I have the bond 37 years we have all the top layer and deeper layer. When he shuts down and 2 are in the same space. Mr Gray in all the videos speak about " the cave" so I'm suppose not talk about feelings, leave him to be in our home like a bachelor watching sports etc.in his chair?
Get John Gray's complimentary relationship course here: www.marsvenus.com/ &* FREE 10 Secrets About Men (Every Woman Needs To Know) Here: whatrealmenwant.com/
I have my chatmate im.older than me He said to my that i sealed my heart to him.only because He sincere on my we are not meet yet? Im Christian He IsIslam?12 years our age gap! I thinking if week ends in his house he didnot talkibg to me something He keeping secrets if He us at his office he open cam to cam but he can't talk also? If Hetravel every week end He can only talk ti me while he is driving?And one time I am not sleeping but i was vission him that he holding hands with a lady younger? What can I do i like to stop and look another man but I love Him and i feel he loves me too?
@@merlydestreza36 Run away from him and don't look back!
Men fall in love deeper,men love is very genuine....If a man loves a woman he can go any length just to see her happy.
Wow! For real?!
@@wshelby83 Nope. They will cry bitter tears and be lying.👀🤦🏿♀️
@@wshelby83No. Sorry.
Interesting
@@BBFLYRISENThat's if you ended up with a narcissist and didn't know
I met a gentleman who is 10 years older than me and he treats me like a queen. I have never let anyone in emotionally but he has taught me it's okay to "need" him but I think that's because he was vulnerable with me from the get go and because I wasn't "attracted to him at first" getting to know him helped me to open up as I have always been "miss independent"
Wonderful, great to hear
Wow
@@lindawright5133 Hi Linda, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward by name, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Hi Jane, I’m in the same situation 8 years older than me and he’s a perfect gentleman. I hope things are still going great for you two!! Best wishes 💖
@@CloudyXDragons Hi Marcy, thank you, I'm so happy for you and pray we have both found our forever partners ❤.
Ladies Don't Take his advice on having sex with a man while dating. Bad bad advice. If you really want a relationship, commitment, respect and love, Don't sleep with him until you are engaged or married to him. Many reasons for this.
Men understand this totally.
I'm not doing anything for men...anymore.
Thank God I'm not needy, I'm not gonna force any dude to stay around me/with me, if he wants to leave, that's fine.
Yep
Awesome comment🌟 I totally agree😁
Absolutely correct
watch out so that youre not avoidant though.. I think that a man that you are in arelationship with and theres a mutal love and connection, you would want to do things for him that he would enjoy, thats love.
@@misslawlesss mutual love it's different, IF he isn't a narcisist, I would do the cutest things for him.
I just met a man that seems so nice. I’m a people pleaser so I need to watch myself very carefully
Hi,how are you doing?
Very good! It's nice to know how we interact as women and men. Very informative. I am 71 and dating a man now for 6 weeks. We are in stage 3. But I'm glad I knew about stage 2 or I probably would have been upset when he pulled away. I haven't talked to him for a week and he called me today and we discussed it. I was actually feeling fear to because I have been in a couple of abusive relationships in the past. But now that I am whole and healed I can see he is a good man. We are able to discuss things and communicate very well. I didn't meet him until a month after we had talked to each other. We talked for hours everyday and I felt so connected to him. Now I know that that was a good thing. Looking forward to steps four and five😍 thanks again!
I’ve read a lot and listened to tons of self help on these issues. John gray blows all of them away. A wealth of knowledge!! I’ve learned so much! Actually my mind is blown. 🤯🤯🤯Thankyou for this video. It helped me so much!
Best advice ever!! Such a intuitive, knowledgeable man. Thank you for your life-enriching, life-changing wisdom. I am so thankful for you!
Thank you, John for helping me understand how a man can think, and why it's important for us woman to know how we can better make our relationship work..
Follow your heart and it will lead you to the right person.
No I love him so much but he only need my cash
@@imeldapasco8211 yes, this is bad advise. We can fall for a man that is not good for us. And as he says in the video, it can be for reasons we are not even aware of. Women are beaten but will beg a man to stay. Do not follow your heart. Follow his heart. His goodness toward you. A man will will make you feel so safe and loved when he wants to be good to you
John is still as enthusiastic and excited about what he does after all these years!
John, Speaking from the female estrogen side..you are so kind to take all this time making this video for what we always tried to understand about men!! Thank you so much!!
Thank you both, I never thought I'd meet 2 men that both like me at the same time. Mostly because I'm in my late 60's and was not looking for a relationship. So it's very interesting to listen to your Video's.
thank you Dr Gray this makes it so much easier to date
All of this is fine and dandy assuming two healthy and well balanced people are coming together.
Exactly 🙌🏻
6 min mark If you are sexually turned on usually that is your body's subconscious Response to Win his attention. So Ignore this and go back to practicing just being present and not wanting
I was interesting in a man and John told that someone who had a bad relationship with her father would probably be connected to the wrong guy. So I changed my mindset and I saw that it was just a illusion.
This is exactly what I needed to hear! 🥰You continue to impress me.
24 you cant change him all u can do is change yourself Get in Touch with What your feeling that you usually avoid telling someonelse or others
Normally I get a lot out of these interviews, I have several of John's books and benefit from the advice. It saddens me, though, to hear narcissistic behavior diminished. It is beyond selfishness, and has nothing to with getting needs met--it is feeding a bottomless pit of ego that results in emotional and psychological abuse of the worst kind. Narcissism can be perpetrated by men or women, and is a campaign of undermining the victim's trust in their own perception of reality. They are experts at appearing rational and kind in public, so it doesn't surprise me they came across as 'wonderful'. But to be fair, a truly narcissistic person does not have the humility required to go to counseling, so the men's wives may have been hasty in putting that label on them.
Still, what troubled me more than the take on narcissism was the revision of men's historical treatment of women. If the majority of men were the loving, selfless providers described in this video, why would women look for ways to provide for themselves? For thousands of years, women had no legal rights over their own bodies, much less their children. They couldn't own property, and anything they owned was handed to the man upon marriage. They had to hope the man they married was decent, because there was no legal recourse if he chose brutality. And any woman who earned her own income was considered 'less than'. Please do not discount the unspeakably brutal treatment women suffered (and continue to suffer) at the hands of men, which led to women seeking financial independence from them.
If a man had other women, beat his wife and abused his children, there was nothing that wife could do about it if she wanted to eat, sleep indoors and be considered a member of society. Even now a lot of women are in mortal danger from their fathers and husbands because of the laws of the land in which they live. I feel Dr. Gray's response was dismissive of these experiences.
Perhaps he is a covert narcissist! Seems highly possible.
While I respectivly see your pov, its important to keep his response in context to the discussion at hand. While I did feel slighted at his dismissive response to narcissism, I gave him the benefit of the doubt that is was unintentional miscommunication, sometimes we say things erroneously in the moment without realizing how it comes across. I would however be interested in a follow up video with his perspective.
@Joye Johnson Your words are insightful and well received. Thanks for posting. Very much!
I felt the same while listening to that section. You explained it very well
Thaaaank you Joye!!! I totally agree. Do not compare the imbalanced masculine men with narcissists. Narcissists breaks other people down, puts them down, makes other people wrong - and is unable to see one self, take responsibility for ones own mistakes and has absolutely no regret when it comes to praising one self while making other people feel bad. A narcissists has no contact to any feelings of trust, empathy or being caring.
John has the ego at the size of a Elephant and brags throughout many of these videos, with this type of behaviour as mentioned in the video, where he puts women down at the expense of men. Men like him self.
That is not okay.
Thank you Joye for this comment.
Great dialect Dr. Gray! You give the BEST dating advise for me!
I'm frm Jamaica, very valuable talk, thank u, ur much loved, God bless u and dat sweet very lovely lady, lov yah both always . Doc Gray
That's not always the case with the daddy issues that you are talking about. I had a wonderful father. I have a friend that I am very attracted to.
While I appreciate some of the wisdom in this video… Narcissist personality disorder is a very real thing and very very dangerous and very very abusive. I feel like Dr. Gray kind of pooh-poohed it because he doesn’t have any expertise on the subject. I don’t mean to send it unkind way but before talking about something like this please educate yourself
I totally agree !!!!
I agree I lived with a Narcissist and they can be Charming at first and then become Very Verbally Abuse. They are usually Very Smart People with high Egos. They are Dangerous! They only care about there needs.
The video is about what men do when they are in love. I've been with a psychopath and a narcissist and being with these type of men causes a woman to filter from her masculine side. So, I agree with Dr. Gray that dealing with a feminine man (narcissist) is to lean on your femininity anyway. If that man can't deal with your femininity, then move on.
Firstly the video is about men falling in love, not about narcissists. She asked him the question because so many women have thrown around the calling out men as narcissists, which has actually diminished the seriousness of dealing with a true narc. The ridiculousness of labelling people and putting them in a box or diagnosis (from non qualified medical persons) rather than calling out the actual undesirable and or abusive behaviour is the problem.
True he doesn’t have enough information about narcissistic men
These interviews are giving me life. And hope to believe in heterosexual love again!
Thank you...look at the good in someone you are attracted to by looks. Yes dating is a drudgery. Well said.
Thank you!☀️🙏🌸💖
47 feels good to give when you have been given so much or u have so much to give
16 min mark When She Feels she needs help...the more he will respond...She needs to Open up so his attentiveness will reassure her Emotions are unstable.
Hey John,
A very interesting topic.
The part about the wife and husband separated or divorced and how the wife commented that her husband never looked after his appearance while married to her (hair, weight, clothes, reading your books for relationship guidance ect.) and her stating “why didn’t he do those things while married to me?” You didn’t answer that. I’m wandering also why men do this? Why a reaction and not a preventative approach when it’s (relationship troubles are in their face) something so important. Appreciate your feedback around this.
Really enjoyed this Q&A!
7 min mark Curiosity Interest Admiration Respect Enjoying the heart starting to Open Sharing Your Feelings Be Naked Mentally Later you become naked physically Might be boring Give it a Chance to Grow Do NOT Try to Win Him OVER Allow him to Win You . An ember give it Air Allow it to GRow. if it doesnt you had good practice with Relationship Skills.
Thanks John & Michelle ❤
John Gray:
He is a remarkable and impressive writer who teaches us not only about relationships, but also why humans differ so much because of their chemistry...
He spends his life educating the public about how to relate to each other and it was as if something seemed to make so much sense to me. I think what he's writing and talking about is quite informative and I've looked at a lot of relationship scenarios and just had to see how he ties it all together.
I am a Libra lady and we are all about peace, love, balance and romanticism in our lives. I wanted to learn all I could about relationships and I think it's partly because of a relationship that I was in and the situation that I continue to cling to. I met somebody who ended up leaving The Bay Area, where I live, and that was the most difficult, heartbreaking, and frustrating part of my life.
In part, I was inspired to learn more about people and the differences/similarities that exist between us. If there's one thing I care about, it's what you teach.
Thank you,
Jennifer Incaviglia
Mill Valley
It all seems like hard work, very strategic, like a gane of chess. I have just met a guy after having been on my own for 5 years. Im military and hes a cowboy. Everything you have said is exactly how he behaves lol. He rang me while I was watching a few of these videos 😆 he told me that he had helped his ex at work as she needed a hand. I replied with wow your such a great person to help her...good on you 😀 well now I have raised his testosterone and hes now buying me a new hat haha 😄
Diane Mason Love this this!
Ha...awesome
Is he still involved with his ex?
I see him almost everyday at the gym.
I had his book twice, loaned it twice never got them back. I want another,
-but I won't loan it, don't ASK.
I was with a covert narcissist. I learned about it for a year and a half. I do think it is more prevalent problem because of our culture and I do think there should be education on the topic so one can differentiate the difference between gaslighting behaviors that are from a narcissist and gaslighting behaviors that are not intended. There are different categories of narcissism as well. But I do not think there is enough education on the topic so one can know what is just bad behavior and what is actually legit real life narcissistic behaviors that are dangerous for my experience it was. I'm happy to be alive but it is a real thing and I guess maybe it might seem like some mythical unicorn to someone else until your face to face with a monster. So yes it's something that should be learned about so you can tell the difference. Just saying as an infj personality type I also understand that my personality type is more prone to encountering such a personality.
I am an infj and tend to attract self centred people as well. When I'm grounded and less sensitive, then people generally stay away from me, which is fine.
Mr. Gray I do respect your point of view I've watched quite a few of your videos but when life happens and a couple must speak on feelings such as losing a child and he goes into the cave and shut down and we already have our bond Of 37 years I need deeper answers of how to help him you say just let him be. That is creating a bigger divide at this point. His testosterone is medically monitored. You say 50 years I have almost 40 years of a relationship and believe me l have opened up with my feelings. Please deeper answers. He has shut down LIFE happens to many to simply allow one to experience " the rubber band " effect
Counseling is best.
Generally speaking Mr Gray's advice is informative and wise. Unfortunately there are many grey areas in life and many circumstances and sometimes deeper issues that apply within a relationship.
I'm very sorry for your loss. The loss of a child is by far the most devastating of all! Praying you both find the love and healing and peace you both deserve in this life!!😪🙏🙏❤❤❤
@@aprililes8355 this was the crutch of my comment ,meaning there is so much more that affects relationships. Mr Gray is very informative and Intelligent. But very surface in my opinion DNA has changed, intake of foods with hormones. There's just so much outside things thrown at relationships.
"well I'm a relationship expert"!
Very interesting!
I love making my man happy. But it's hard when he don't give me attention or more lovemaking. We been together 4 yrs. This is an on going thing. When he complains I need to give more, when I do I tell him your roll changing taking away my feminity . I been saying that for 3yrs. Ty Dr for validation on what I been going through. Plz plz talk more on THIS Topic
I'm helping him raise his only kid. She has problems. I need his back on many things . I have no family here.
True BUT sounds like alot of work
I believe things should flow naturally.
Widow of my husband 7 yrs
n mother passed 4 months ago, died in my arms, things hav been wicked.
But now i want a lovin friend someone who cares, kind, attentive, loyal live 2gether hav life insurance incase something happens 2 take care if each OTHER n a luvy ring, great communication, it be like a marriage but not, one looses their discounts n less complicated.
Like ur channel T U
UR A RIOT🌞
One of the greatest relationships expert is a passport bro😃😃
Can anyone says how long a man can remain puller away! I am into this phase and just wondering this question. Its been a month of no contact (or say no interest)
Maria in the background...
What's the difference between him going into the cave and ghosting you?
He comes out of his cave (eventually), but will never see you again if he's ghosted you.
OMG so true. How do you know so much
But what if the man was abandoned by a spouse and moved on with someone else and he was in the process of divorcing? However, he did begin to pursue once he realized his situation was over.
What about women that have had hysterectomies and don't produce estrogen
Estrogen produced by ovaries not uterus. You still produce even the hysterectomy! )
9 min mark Dont ask him about his feelings. He needs to hear you more than you need to hear him. You should be talking alot more than him.
Hi Teresa, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward by name, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
I felt more attracted to him (more than he for me). I felt I was giving more and eventually felt like he acted like girlfriend. We split bill for dinner etc
Red flags abounded.
48 min mark 12 days before period feel very needy at a time when her body wants to receive and give more why we hit the ice cream and chocolate?
Hi, I’m really enjoying listening tonight. And I want to ask, what if you’re talking to a man and you do not enjoy or believe in what he’s saying? Then what?
If you don’t enjoy him, if you don’t feel good when with him… if he has some beliefs that you feel are immoral…. RUN! That’s not your man! Run and just be respectful about it and also be careful to not bump his ego if he’s in that space. I don’t believe in ego (hierarchy) but it can be dangerous for women (men’s anger)…. So speak to their self esteem … always protect or enhance another’s self-esteem even when expressing a valid criticism or breaking up. Loving communication is a gift to the world and also, healthy anger and boundaries are found within love as well. Love is soft AND strong too…. Involves ourselves and others both. 💜
Find another man. ❤
You sure have to measure whether his words are congruent to his actions
Wish I could get samples or role playing….I’d like to see this in action
Many Women open up. But he is still emotional unavailable John. So not all women can deal with that kind of men.unemotionally available men do exist..
Is it possible that when you feel the sexual attraction or other things… that possibly it’s your own body warning you that that person is only interested in you for sex too?
Thx Mr John
2021 🙂🙃
Does projects like sewing painting knitting create estrogen? Or testostrin?
John doesn't understand Narcissism.
It's clearly not in his wheelhouse of expertise. Both women and men can be
Giving in Response to Receiving 46 min mark
I enjoy John's advice but it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable watching him talk as Our most Precious Lady of the heavens statue is behind him.
It's all about the flesh and this world.. 🤔
I think it fits beautifully, God knows all we go thru and we cannot hide from Him haha
Tempted to send him this link to this video....is that wrong ..is that chasing?
Lol yes. This is for women.
Yes
He needs to acknowledge that there are MANY narcissist men right now
What about women that don't have any ovaries
Hi Donna,how are you doing?
53 min mark Honey i did that for you
Love bombing
Holy mackerel 🙄
21 min Have to Learn how to Bring men out of his cave Can u Say More ?
Exactly, I have the bond 37 years we have all the top layer and deeper layer. When he shuts down and 2 are in the same space. Mr Gray in all the videos speak about " the cave" so I'm suppose not talk about feelings, leave him to be in our home like a bachelor watching sports etc.in his chair?
👍
Chokma'shki ❤🧸🪶