Bearing The Unbearable: Grieving The Loss of a Child with guest speaker Dr Joanne Cacciatore
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- čas přidán 2. 07. 2024
- Join Dr Jo Cacciatore, sharing her reflections on love, loss and the heart-breaking path of grief for a child. Hosted by The Compassionate Friends, UK on 4 May 2021.
Dr Joanne Cacciatore is a bereaved mother - her newborn daughter died on July 27, 1994 - and that single tragic moment catapulted her unwillingly onto the reluctant path of traumatic grief. For more than two decades, she’s devoted herself to direct practice with grief, helping traumatically bereaved people on six continents. She’s also been researching and writing about grief for more than a decade in her role as associate professor at Arizona State University and director of the Graduate Certificate in Trauma and Bereavement program there. And, in addition, she’s the founder of an international nongovernmental organization, the MISS Foundation, dedicated to providing multiple forms of support to families experiencing the death of a child at any age and from any cause, and since 1996 has directed the foundation’s family services and clinical education programmes. Dr Jo's Facebook page is followed by thousands across the world, including many in the UK.
This online event was part of our series of talks and other events to offer unique reflections and perspectives on the death of a child or young person and support parents, siblings and grandparents to feel less alone with their loss and grief.
Stillborn is still born. 💖
I lost my only child my sweet precious daughter. Getting out of bed is a miracle. I'm trying to survive this. I'm still in shock when I it really happened pain is unbearable
I'm so sorry ❤ please, never give up on a happy life, you can't change the past, but you can build a better future and learn for this experience and even help others with this kind of problems❤
Thank you. I thought Dr. Cacciatore to be an inspiration. I lost my son almost 2 years ago. The grief weighs so heavily on my husband and myself. He was our whole world and a bright light. It helps to know there are people out there who understand
I don’t know whether I will ever be able to go over grieving my teenage daughter. It’s hitting me more every day now..
The pain i feel with the loss of my son is simply paralyzing. My son took his own life by fentanyl when he was 30. I am 😞 lost in grief.
I'm so sorry ❤the grief never disappears, but you can control it, keep going, forgive you live a happy ❤good luck
Thank you so much
I lost my only child; he was 21 January 2nd 2021. It feels like yesterday he was my entire world!
I share your pain dear and sorry for your loss and pain. I lost my only daughter at 16yrs, 10yrs ago and it feels new every day. They say time heals but with me it hasn’t
I'm so sorry for you two ❤ don't worry the grief doesn't disappears, but you can keep going and never give up on a happy life, control the grief and forgive you, that's the only way when the pain it's going to really hela something ❤
Thank you. Lots to take away. Just want to say we are alone in loosing our specific and unique child. But we are not alone in the grief journey. Hugs to all. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I lost my son two months ago and his death was horrific. I feel like I have ptsd alone mg with my grief. I feel now like all I have to look forward to is death.
I hope you are doing better, my Mom died 5/1/22 and yesterday was her 89th birthday, I miss her so much
@@carolmusselman8859 Losing a beloved parent is hard. But it's a very different type of grief from losing a child.
My heart breaks for you,there is no greater pain of losing a child! Hugs to you! ❤️
Worst pain ever to lose a child.
So sorry for the loss of your son😢 how are you doing today
Thanks Joanne I was so impressed when you asked each person for their loved ones name. My son David passed just a year ago but when someone speaks his name to me it is such a balm, a gift to my heart. Sometimes it’s the simplest thing that can have a big effect. It was also a relief to hear you speak about grief as a sacred ground. Your insight and work is such a blessing. Thank you with all my heart🌈💗🙏
David 💕
I lost my beloved son mark 22 yrs old never got over hid death my life's never the same that book sounds helpful l must get it all keep me going is my remaining son God bless him and keep him safe he's suffered with pts after my eldest son passed l.only had the two of them my heart breaks for my remaking son he's never been the same l.can resonate so much
I have been watching this every day since my son suddenly died. Thank you.💔
I'm so sorry ❤ you're a great eoman fir surpass and share this, thnaksnfor help so much people ❤
I just finished Dr. Cacciatore's book, Bearing the unbearable. It's a great read, very insightful. I'm planning on gifting the book to a couple of my relative. Thank you for bringing your compassion and knowledge to the public. I think it will help a lot of people struggling with grief. Many blessings..
How do I go on? What to do? Personally, I was reborn when my son disappeared after the substraction by his father. First, I was lost, doing what Joanne recommends: dwelling in pain, paralyzed, histerical and full of guilt. But this is like watching the finger while you are missing the whole heavenly glory. Dear grieving mom/dad: you got to choose!!!! Give your situation a new sense: you are free now. Your child is not with you anymore. My son León is not with me anymore. That's reality. We got to get in contact with reality, brothers and sisters!! Not dwell in the past, spend time in the garden with this imaginary son, feeling guilty for laughing. Would your child like that about you? Of course not!!!! He/she would want to see us happy!!!! (And you know that) So, choose to be happy. Yes, it is a choice. Joanne Cacciatore sais it is not. Buda sais it is. I know it is. Science and religion have proven it.... It doesn't matter who is right or wrong. The reality is that now you and me, we are free from our child, so that is a second opportunity by itself, an opportunity to do it better now, to go higher, to become better, to build a life that would make our child proud, to pursue that dream we had before all that (like traveling to Japan, travel the world, start a business, make folk music, make love everyday, masturbate, go vegan, invest in real estate...). Science proofed we can heal ourselves from terminal diseases. . DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR CHOOSING HAPPINESS. HAPPINESS IS OUR CORE BEING. DO NOT KEEP WATCHING THE FINGER OR YOU WILL MISS ALL THAT HEAVENLY GLORY. On Mother's Day, I make a cake and make a party at a local orphanage. They are happy and I get a chance to be mom for a day. That fills our heart, theirs and mine. Dear grieving mom/dad: love yourself so much that your heart loves everyone around you so everybody can feel and wanna be next to your high gravitational vibration, so you are a blessing to this world, because YOU ARE ALIVE!!!! LIFE KEEPS YOU ALIVE BECAUSE LIFE WANTS YOU TO LIVE: SO LIVE FULLY!!!!
Thanks for the beautiful comment ❤
Incredible!!! THANK YOU ❤
I lost my youngest son on the 22nd August 2023 in a car accident on his way from school he was 15 years old,it really hurts too deep how do i move on from this trauma?
I also lost my son in a car accident in January 2024 he was just 3 y.o😢 sending you love and support❤❤❤
thank you this has been very helpful !!
I had a baby I was at 24 weeks along. I had hormonal infection story short I had the baby boy lived a hour and a half and passed away after on December 21, 2018. Later on when I came home and was with my family and my family members said that we are not parents, even if we lost a child, that’s one thing I had to deal with when I was going through loss and grief.
Of course you are parents. I lost my 25 year old. I’m still her mum. You are still your baby boys mummy and daddy.
Dell 😆😽She’s a comfort. Pretty kitty.
Are these online meetings still taking place? I would love to attend. I lost my 14 year old son, 15 months ago.
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Hi. Iam. Nancy. Becker. I. Am. Look. Forward. To. Meet. You.
Sounds new age.