How to gain respect from your horse and not lose your temper!

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  • čas přidán 30. 03. 2024
  • Gaining knowledge is the first step to being a respected leader and partner for your horse. The relationship got really bad between Rob and his horse and tempers flared up in both . Change and leadership with understanding are needed and needed fast !
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Komentáře • 65

  • @nicschu456
    @nicschu456 Před 2 měsíci +45

    Nothing to be ashamed of.
    Been there, done that and then didn`t know any better. To be honest, often the shouting and violent handling isn`t so much about the horse, but out of anger towards oneself and desperation.
    Well done, Rob, for getting help !

  • @louisegogel7973
    @louisegogel7973 Před 2 měsíci +40

    Bravo Rob!! Thank you for letting us be part of the before, during, and after experiences!

  • @AbbyKadabby18
    @AbbyKadabby18 Před 2 měsíci +49

    That's such a difficult situation! Props to Rob for being vulnerable and asking for help 👏

  • @njcanuck
    @njcanuck Před 2 měsíci +30

    Kids, horses, spouses, pets, bosses, ourselves...yep we've all been there. Good on ya!

  • @kkdoc7864
    @kkdoc7864 Před 2 měsíci +22

    I always say you do better when you know better.

  • @vickyannpaintingwithoils
    @vickyannpaintingwithoils Před 2 měsíci +18

    It was difficult watching the opening scene. Way to swallow your pride Rob and get you and your horse the help you both needed. Great job! So exciting to see you bond with your horse. God Bless.

  • @daniela.1305
    @daniela.1305 Před 2 měsíci +14

    Kudos to Rob for his improvement, and thank him for exposing publicly the problem with the mare, so that thousands of people can learn from it and make their horses' life better.
    Daniela

  • @dd3wc
    @dd3wc Před 2 měsíci +12

    Brilliant demonstration … how so many lose it out of frustration. What I think some may not realize is that even though you’re teaching the horse better communication skills, you’re simultaneously teaching the owner/handler! Always nice when it turns out to be a win/win endgame!
    Such a difference in their lives now! Another job well done!
    Happy Easter Sunday all! God bless!
    🙏🙌❤️✝️🐴🥕🐎

  • @maryg3143
    @maryg3143 Před 2 měsíci +8

    This is the magic that you do. It is heartwarming to see owner and horse get on so well.

  • @katherinewheatcroft3617
    @katherinewheatcroft3617 Před 2 měsíci +4

    An all-time great video. In these times of social media 'criticitis' that took real courage to post. It's SO honest. I take my hat off to Rob. In the real world people do much worse but he opened himself up to possible 'slaughter'. Fantastic job Steve. Lovely to see Rob didn't give up and is strengthening a positive rapport with his beautiful horse. Congratulations.

  • @feelingbetternaturally1099
    @feelingbetternaturally1099 Před 2 měsíci +5

    The same principle is true about getting angry with children.

    • @kazzj62
      @kazzj62 Před 2 měsíci

      .....and dogs and all animals. but so many poor animals are treated much worse.

  • @ToLoveTruth
    @ToLoveTruth Před 2 měsíci +6

    Such a simple ‘fix’…with such a profound outcome. Happier, safer horse…happier, safer owner…wonderful to see. Brilliant work as always Steve. Bravo! Happy Easter and God bless! ❤️🙏🙌🎉

  • @sabbyd1832
    @sabbyd1832 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Horse and owner needed some help. Happy to hear they are doing well.

  • @cindybrygman4350
    @cindybrygman4350 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Unfortunately this happens more often to people because it’s just human nature to try to be the dominant person when in a fearful position but in reality this horse is just mirrored to his emotions so great job Rob on realizing you needed to get help to educate and help build that relaxed relationship. Smart horse and a kind eye.

  • @ingridbond3432
    @ingridbond3432 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Thank you, Rob, for sharing this amazing healing.

  • @elizabethowen3678
    @elizabethowen3678 Před měsícem

    Thanks rob for being brave enough to get help for you and your horse ❤

  • @vickyannpaintingwithoils
    @vickyannpaintingwithoils Před 2 měsíci +4

    P.S. Steve I thought she was going to follow you. I was wrong. haha.

  • @tammyspurdle9208
    @tammyspurdle9208 Před 2 měsíci +2

    What a wonderful difference made for horse and owner, well done Steve.

  • @slomo1716
    @slomo1716 Před 2 měsíci +3

    My guess was the horse was going to follow you Steve. Great video- GREAT RESULTS!! Well done Rob! God Bless y'all!

  • @jennyrosd2003
    @jennyrosd2003 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Oh how I've been there in the fit of desperation. !!! These animals are so forgiving. Its really so much easier to not exude the frustration once you learn how much it doesn't work! Haa. To take nothing personal from the animal is hard for humans but it is a powerful epiphany..
    Thankyou Rob for sparking this much needed topic.
    May we all resort to the peaceful way.

  • @MsDormy
    @MsDormy Před 2 měsíci

    What lovely kind people post on your channel, Steve. That is a testimony in itself! ❤️

  • @khakicampbell6640
    @khakicampbell6640 Před 2 měsíci

    Bravo! That was a great teaching & learning moment. So much demonstrated in just 9 minutes!
    Thanks to the both of you for sharing. Cheers!💫🐎

  • @knittinggranny6899
    @knittinggranny6899 Před 2 měsíci

    Ohhhh I love Rob, he just want to do the right things, and that can be very difficult .... Rob you did so good ❤

  • @zapatafa
    @zapatafa Před 2 měsíci +2

    Though it begins looking not so good, I very much appreciate that intro because you can then see the progress made. Amazing work that you do.

  • @JenniferBreese
    @JenniferBreese Před 2 měsíci

    That’s great! Well done Rob! That’s a hard position to be in.

  • @suzanneyorkville
    @suzanneyorkville Před 2 měsíci +1

    Rob has a lovely seat. This clip really demonstrates that it's often the little things that matter. I think it was in one of your videos where I learned to turn the horse's head toward me and to wait before I remove the halter. so far my horse has never run off on me.

  • @BerylForrest
    @BerylForrest Před 2 měsíci

    We've all lost our rag in frustration at times, but shouting is just a release of it. Rob was in a tough place, she's a big, strong horse! Great job getting Steve, the Master in to show you a better way!
    The phrase, this is my way today, but if you show me a better way, that'll be my way tomorrow, springs to mind 😉 😊

  • @laurajackson6860
    @laurajackson6860 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this! Knowledge is power!

  • @bettyforsythe2513
    @bettyforsythe2513 Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks. Your training is heartwarming.❤😊❤

  • @kyledycio2865
    @kyledycio2865 Před měsícem

    A great new beginning…..👍❣️

  • @Believinabel
    @Believinabel Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you Rob

  • @laurablauch5954
    @laurablauch5954 Před 2 měsíci

    I can totally relate to the frustration when things aren’t going well and it is so lovely to see how the relationship improved. Bravo.

  • @MD-ef7nl
    @MD-ef7nl Před 2 měsíci +1

    Thank you for posting. You have a gift that you shared with this gentleman and his horse.

  • @ealexeenko
    @ealexeenko Před 2 měsíci

    Love your videos! Cheers, Steve and Tanya!

  • @Klugschieterin
    @Klugschieterin Před 2 měsíci

    The beautiful art of inviting a horse to trust ❤
    Thank you

  • @HollyJordan15
    @HollyJordan15 Před 2 měsíci

    This is so wonderful. Great for Rob to ask for help 👏👏 You don’t know what you don’t know. Rob just needed guidance & support.

  • @cdnqgramma3373
    @cdnqgramma3373 Před 2 měsíci

    Steve, You are a true Earth Angel.... I have worked w dogs all my life... but what You do, is truly remarkable, You have such a gift... and BIG kudos to Rob.... its not easy Rob, We know Steve makes it look easy..It takes a real man, to admit any kind of defeat... and to ask for assistance... . Bless You All... here's to many more wonderful years, with the horses ! Cheers!

  • @missdixcee
    @missdixcee Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks for sharing Rob - it takes courage to admit when you are not coping and to ask for help. Steve, as usual, you are amazing beyond words! You are so generous in sharing your deep knowledge and understanding of horses (and kindness to people). These videos are so helpful to so many and are greatly appreciated!! 😊

  • @aponinaapu2973
    @aponinaapu2973 Před 2 měsíci

    Love it

  • @sarahparkes8288
    @sarahparkes8288 Před 2 měsíci

    I was still worried about you and her turning out. Turned out lush for Tanya. xxxxxxxxxx

  • @fion1flatout
    @fion1flatout Před 2 měsíci +1

    Interesting that she still went bombing off at the end .. tbh mine did that when we were at livery, but now they are at home, it's.different, the ponies are more like pets. Hloping to go touring and camping in the summer and really spend some time with them

  • @nala8223
    @nala8223 Před měsícem

    Jesus that yelling at the start gave me abuse flashbacks. Seems like that horse is terrified, like I was. Props to him for not hitting the horse or anything. But damn...

  • @archangel807
    @archangel807 Před 2 měsíci

    Poor beautiful horse....some can never understand horses...

  • @margaretfleming3554
    @margaretfleming3554 Před 2 měsíci

    Rob speaks English with a glorious Welsh accent. Steve, however, speaks equine!

  • @OnceUponaTimeline
    @OnceUponaTimeline Před 2 měsíci +1

    You can see in the first clip, the horse freezes and is trying to be good at times but the man still is angry and yelling, so the horse can't find a right answer and gives up trying to make you happy. From the man's perspective, the man knows the horse is considering unwanted behavior so the man is angry but you have to communicate to the horse what is good behavior so the horse will do that more. Yes the horse may be considering something unwanted but if he chooses the wanted behavior and is doing it right now, that means you reward him for making the right choice out of his pile of options in this moment. In 5 seconds, the horse may choose a less wanted behavior but then again maybe he won't if you praise him right now for doing this more wanted behavior. Also obviously losing your control makes you look unstable to the horse, everyone is going to blow off that dude who is yelling all the time over who knows what, even a horse, LOL! I think often times, people have little idea what to do that is more effective and that contributes greatly to the issue, give people more effective tools and they'll choose those instead, just as the horse will.

  • @equine2020
    @equine2020 Před 2 měsíci

    An experienced horse person doesnt lose thrir temper.
    Discipline it, but no striking, or anger.
    Defeats the purpose.
    The human should be smarter than the horse. Figure a solution. Not take it out on an animal.
    Ive been with horses since 5yrs old. 24/7. Trained by professionals. Have thoroughbreds.

  • @cheryldavis2010
    @cheryldavis2010 Před 2 měsíci

    Members only or repeats. I can’t afford to be a member, so I come every now and then to see if there’s something new I can watch that isn’t an hour and 1/2 long. Soooo 🤷‍♀️

  • @abunoorain882
    @abunoorain882 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I wish i could distill a clear system from all your videos. Too many gems but it all gets too much to absorb and unpick. Have you written a book? Chapters of horse problems and clear systematic solutions. Would be amazing

    • @OnceUponaTimeline
      @OnceUponaTimeline Před 2 měsíci

      Watch the same thing over and over and that helps. Also you can start to predict what he'll do after you watch for a while. For instance often he'll teach the horse to respect his space by not coming into it. Next he'll teach or enforce that the horse will back up for him. Then he'll work on walking with respect of space and stopping when he stops and making sure the horse can still back up. He can now also use more backing up if the horse does unwanted behavior. Then he'll probably work on leading and driving. He's also got specific things he works on for specific probs, if there's trailer loading, then he'll often make sure the horse knows poking in the side with the boinging stick means go forward. AND he'll maybe work on having the horse walk through a narrow gap while still respecting Steve's space (probably so horse won't think about running him over at the trailer). THen at the trailer there will be lining up the horse and strategic timings of pulling, boinging, and bribing. Watch 5 or 6 trailer loading vids and it will start to sink in.

    • @elaineabbott1607
      @elaineabbott1607 Před 2 měsíci

      Totally agree

    • @abunoorain882
      @abunoorain882 Před 2 měsíci

      @@OnceUponaTimeline Good advise, will do. Yes there is repititon and a common methodolgy. I suppose i just like written recipes. If anyone wants to go through all of Steves incredible training vids and write up notes please do share!

    • @lindaandscott6616
      @lindaandscott6616 Před 2 měsíci

      The thing about horsemanship and training is that it can't really be distilled down into a list, or a step-by-step, even though in general... there are progress-oriented goals: gaining acceptance and respect, accepting touch, response to pressure, acceptance of a rope, of a halter, accepting the human influence on movement and weight distribution...
      Horses are very complex, and individualistic. They're highly sensitive to touch, vibration, tone, posture, and they're incredibly intuitive. While many aspects of training may (on the surface) seem repetitive and predictable, the individual horse must be considered first. Then the trainer considers various options in "what to do" first or next.. and how to do it, according to the horse's needs and responces. Then each moment during the process the trainer constantly "reads" the horse and modifies their own behavior and expectations, on-the-spot, to meet the horse's needs.
      To gain in-depth knowledge from horse training (and re-training) videos, study the body position and weight distribution in the horse. Try to predict its next move. Note how the trainer positions himself relative to the horse, and how that influences it. Compare the trainer's precise body positions and timings with those of the owner and compare their precise results. (Not just, "did it work" but exactly how well did -or didnt- the student emulate the trainer, and exactly how was that difference reflected in the horse's performance.) It's not about developing or following a recipe... it's more like learning a new language and becoming fluent, while painting a landscape on a blank canvas.

  • @Mary-yu3sn
    @Mary-yu3sn Před 2 měsíci

    He did the best he knew at the time/so many have done real nasty... Me well i won't be calling anyone i'm not perfect

  • @helenporter7584
    @helenporter7584 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Steve seems to work with a lot of mares?

    • @barbarawillis-bergholm9020
      @barbarawillis-bergholm9020 Před 2 měsíci +2

      He works his magic with every type of horse.

    • @leahnichol6665
      @leahnichol6665 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Most pleasure riders ride geldings. Mares are not fixed so they are firmer in their displeasure. Geldings don’t have their hormones at full strength so are more docile. That is my theory.

  • @kerrydwyer1879
    @kerrydwyer1879 Před dnem

    Hes too rough with his vioce.He should get the knowledge before buying one.
    Its a horse,not an 18 year old brat

  • @sadbuttrueinthe21stcentury36
    @sadbuttrueinthe21stcentury36 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Going to bite my tongue here - hard to watch shouting at a vulnerable captive animal. Very triggering.

    • @sabbyd1832
      @sabbyd1832 Před 2 měsíci +9

      What about the end of this story ?

    • @OnceUponaTimeline
      @OnceUponaTimeline Před 2 měsíci +7

      Maybe consider the whole story, horse gets high end feed, housing, vet care, exercise and running grounds. But man sometimes gets angry and yells and horse responds by saying up your nose with a rubber hose stupid human. That horse could kill him in a second really, the truly vulnerable one is the human. Man realizes he is not doing it right and seeks professional help, horse learns how to be a good boy, and then they live happily ever after. We'd be lucky if most stories went that well.

    • @leonnZawodowiec
      @leonnZawodowiec Před 2 měsíci

      Ohh but shouting here it’s not an abuse as you may associate I totally get you but trust me if she was afraid she wouldn’t behave like she did …
      She is well looked after and loved hence Steve presence to help 😊
      Thanks for not running off the keyboard ;-)