As a light skinned black woman, I too have noticed this since junior high. I see so many pretty black or mixed raced women with unattractive dark skinned men. Not particularly nice, or moneyed. To me, it shows how low the woman's self-esteem is to engage in this dynamic.
As a mixed woman who isn’t into black guys, I find this very annoying. This assumption that I’m automatically into them by default. Card declined sir lol.
I’m dealing with this at my apartment complex between two maintenance workers…. One blk and one white. As SOON as the white guy started showing interest… the blk man started laying his claim. Neither do they know… I’m engaged and don’t prefer blk men
This is the complete opposite for me this happens to me but with white men… again confused but what’s funnier is when the black guy shows interest first he’ll back down if a WM steps in… my life is so weird y’all hence why it’s time to make films my experiences aren’t everyday clearly
I get weird comments from bm abt how “pretty” my daughter would be if I have one, bc she’d have light skin & probably my fiancés eye color. Like yes she will, and I’m going to make sure she doesn’t even acknowledge the existence of black males unless it’s to tell them she’s not interested
Omg! I’m 17 and I met this guy and he kept asking me what I was mixed and how he liked “Spanish girls” and said that I was Dominican and stuff! 😂 I told him that I’m black and that I come from a mixed background (Louisiana Creole, European, Spanish, and African decent) He asked me the same questions about 15 times regarding my race and even my hair texture. Exoticals are fetishized all the time!!! Okay!! It’s weird! 😂
It's embarrassing how much some black men will have a biracial son and then be resentful and competitive with them. I have noticed that some of the worst abuse situations I have seen has been black men abusing a biracial son.
My dad would comb my hair with a fine tooth comb and give me horrible haircuts. I couldn't even use hair gel and realized I have curly hair until I was past 18 and had moved out.
I have noticed that way too many times … I’ve also seen them pick apart every feature of female exoticals (especially the darker exoticals) … all while creating more exoticals with white partners 🤷🏽♀️
Black women got more mad at me about this than black men. Between the way I look, spoke and what I was into, the black men around me figured quickly I was into nonblack guys. Other than some rah-rah here and there about how corny other dudes were or whatever, didn’t get pushback. Black women in my own family though said that I’d end up with a white man who beat me-and laughed about it. Like a “good for her for thinking she deserves to ‘get a white man’” sort of thing. Weird. I ended up with a white Latino who treats me better than any of them have ever been treated by a man 💅🏼
I am so glad that my biracial nieces don't bother with BM. They didn't really grow up around them (neither did I, as a BW) and many BM are groomed to be very toxic.
i agree and im glad i didnt grow up in that community . its funny because a lot of mono BP used to make fun of me for "talking and acting white" and 20 years later, those same people are calling me bougie and they themselves are trying to get out of their black communities......
@@ExoticalsUnited Never feel uncomfortable about speaking well and using proper grammar. Some of my friends in college used to call my phone number and hang up when I answered because they "thought I was a whyte girl." But now I'm working as a Washington broadcast journalist because I know how to speak.
As a dark skinned bw (non mixed) who only dates white men, they do this to us as well. I get harassed sometimes by black guys and even receive dirty looks when I’m out with my bf. I don’t want my biracial daughter feeling like she’s bound to black men just bc she’s half black. Black men believe they own black women and mixed race women but they’re free to date whoever they want. God forbid if we just don’t find them attractive Edit: idc who calls me whitewashed or a self hater for this comment, I said what I said. Dating white men on 🔝
I agree because I have heard so many black men say that they don't want black women dating white men while they see nothing wrong with black men dating ww and women of other races. One went so far as to say that it is different because black women are theirs while not having the same energy when black men are with whitr mens daughters. It is a game to black men. At the end of the day, this comes down to black men and their competition and retribution with white men. During slavery, most biracials who were born were by way of the white enslaver males and enslaved black women. That is documented facts. Now, Black men want to create as many biracials as they can to stick it to the man and to also produce so called better looking women for their fellow black men. I think the Exotical admin is spot on with her take on how bm want LS ambiguous women as status because they are not confident in monoracial bw when competing with other men. Black men are the main group of men who make a big deal out of LS women because they can still categorize and claim them as black without feeling guilty of being called race traitors. Black men have been doing this for ages. They want the light brown and light skin black women with colored eyes to be with and to show off. And as quiet as it is kept and if we are being honest, they really do not prefer ww they just know they need them to produce the women that they prefer because ww and other non black women have the genetic makeup to create their preferences. I am happy that biracial women are waking up to self hating black men who perpetuate this hierarchy in the black community. Monoracial Black women may not be innocent toward the treatment of mixed race women but that is due to forced categorization of mixed women into black woman spaces and then those same mixed women given preferential treatment.
I can relate to this my husband is indigenous Cuban/ Dominican non black and I am a brown skin black woman and the hate I get when black men see me and my husband together is ridiculous. Especially when they themselves are also with a non black partner. The entitlement of black men towards black women of all shades and the exoticals is frightening and gross. The disgust I have when they look at my 4 year old daughter, I can see their eyes widen with excitement over her light skin and hair texture. Already trying to sexualize her despite her being a baby. I pray as she gets older she adapts my taste in men and avoids black men altogether.
@@paigenotfound2696 not just racially/culturally mixed women,also majority of LS women and non-Black women woke up and call them out on their Black patriarchy or womanizing behavior.Hell,even some overseas women do the same thing when it comes down to passport bros by telling them they will not tolerate their foolery and being fetishized by them just because they don't look like their Black grandmother which I don't blame them at all.
I’m a mixed woman from the continent and black men here are obsesseddddd with mixed women especially when you have natural hair oh they go crazy. Though I do find some black men attractive, many times I’ve rejected them and some of them would go “oh so you don’t date black men?” trying to subtly imply that I have racist dating preferences, basically just projecting their own self hatred onto me. I also had a black “guy friend” who sat in the friend zone for years waiting for me to change my mind who would always make jokes about how I only like white guys. the jokes weren’t funny they annoyed me if anything and I found it to be a display of his own insecurity mixed with attempting to shame me because of my dating preferences. Like I said there are some attractive black men but most of them are so deeply insecure and fucked up like trust me bro your skin colour isn’t the sole reason that mixed women won’t date you
Yes the mono black community has exposed themselves. due to all the traumas faced in the black community and the lack of knowledge about psychology, sociology and mental health, a lot of them are very mentally ill which is why we see them exhibiting behaviors like serial cheating.
@@ExoticalsUnitedWow, I've been scrolling through your channel because I got curious. I'm starting to see that you yourself are harboring some internal trauma, probably had bad experiences feeling "not black enough." You're going out of your way to "prove" the inadequacies of dark skinned individuals, not realizing that in the process you are exhibiting your own inferiority complex and bias. Why not focus on talking about God and some other important things in life. The people gathered here are themselves projecting narcissism, low self-esteem and looking more and more delusional.
I really really believe this is what set Doja Cat down the path she is on now. BM were not upset about anything concerning her but the fact that she DOES NOT PREFER them. BP got up in arms and tried to call for her to be cancelled for something that wasn't their business anyway and they NEVER hold BM accountable for loving or "playing around" with r acist WW. But especially when a mixed or LSBW doesnt prefer BM and are even around other races of men or states those men as their preference, this triggers especially monoracial BM.
omg thats such a good point. BM date straight up r@cist WW or non black women all the time, but as soon as us "preferences" go for a non BM we are traitors and bedwenches.
Agree. She was the thick, MLS and she appealed to them at first. She lost weight and got more edgy after and it was revealed that she doesn't like BM, and they are coming for her. I'm an unambitious bw and I think it's hilarious! I'm not offended, and won't be cancelling her for that. BM artists have been saying disgusting and self destructive things for decades. Why should I not enjoy her music/art? She never said anything about bw 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
@@come_on_barbie_123 Exactly. I surely didn't cancel her, because I seen through that BS from the start. They want her, she doesn't want them. Simple. This is what that whole thing is about. BP in general get real controlling of BW and especially exoticals with black admixture when it comes to BM.
I'm glad you are speaking on this! As a monoracial BW I actually feel sorry for biracial women because yall are literally targeted for pregnancy. Like BM literally try and get yall pregnant on purpose. I have seen it
I’m glad that you’re saying this. I’m mixed (blk mom & Mexican dad) and in the 90s when I was a teenager, these young dsbm would run up to me and the first words out of their mouth was, “you need to have my baby.” And the desperation in their voices was insane. Non-bm never did this to me. Only dsbm. But back then, the monoracial adults around me couldn’t even process what I was telling them. It was frustrating. It was a daily thing in LA.
The last bm l used to talk to told me plainly that if we have kids the kids better look like you ..... l asked him how do l ensure that that happens? I stopped talking to him and left bm alone after that!
That's really gross, right? I mean nothing wrong with it but what man on the face of this planet does that in droves? Self hate on that level is such a turn off
@@come_on_barbie_123 They think they will win white supremacy by having a bunch of non dark children.... that's how far they are taking their disfunction!
The darkskin black guys I’ve dated literally told me verbatim, “I OWN you”… He was Jamaican and had some foreign bleaching bar of soap. Also when I date outside my race, my needs tend to be met for the most part. When I date outside my race the men understand the principle of providing. They don’t convince you to go 50/50. When I date black men they literally use me like a trophy. I would have to stand next to him & he’s doing literally nothing. Or I’ll have to follow them around like a puppy. 😒
I notice by the slim chance I see a BM whilst living overseas they get giddy and get a gleam in their eyes when they see me assuming I'm interested in them. I ignore them and keep it moving. I'll never forget being in a pub in London and a BM approached me asking me on a date (didn't ask if I was single, nothing). I told him no thank you and the look on his face when a WM came back with my drink was priceless. Not all of us LSW prefer them. My mom's generation may have, but I damn sure don't. A lot of DSBW have given us the evil eye by mere assumption when we never wanted their men, anyway.
@@user-ol9bo2ei1r which is really crazy! We can see how they (dsbm) think especially with the internet. Smh no way id be drooling over them. I cringe every time I see it
As a non mixed black (but fair in complexion) woman I agree with this completely. I used to attract( I say used to because I stopped dealing with them a while ago) the colourist dsbm, the ones who truly resent their mother but publicly worship her and call her all kinds of his Queen and number one. A few that I had relationships with, perceived women as beneath them in someway just for being a man especially if they have money, communication…where? That’s only used to argue, be defensive or belittle/dismiss you. You can’t assert a boundary you just have to be accepting of their toxicity but they get insecure and upset about the littlest things. Yes, they use proximity to some women (even female friends) as way to attract other women and spend the majority of the relationship making comparisons to the exes to have you working for their attention or to show you who they have access to. And when you decide to leave their toxic self they think it’s because you are cheating because how can you leave their wonderful self be to alone? Impossible in their minds. Therapy is for weak people, expressing emotion, aside from anger is lame according to them or they simply shut you out because communicating calmly about flaws and weaknesses is just a foreign concept unless it’s used as an insult. Superficial relationships that are based on the outside looks and material things with no real intimacy or spiritual connection. While this is not ALL BM it’s a large % as I’ve seen friends go through the same things. Now, men are men and all races of men will have some toxic Toni’s of their own but my experience with other men hasn’t been as turbulent as with BM.
Omg yes!!! It’s as if women exist to bring them validation. A lot of men define their worth by how many pretty women they can attract or by how pretty their partner is .
It really pisses me off that everyone now assumes that the natural partner of a mixed-race woman is necessarily a monoracial black man. Why a black man and not a non-black man ? Also, if we really want to be honest, the most compatible partner for a mixed-race woman is a mixed-race man, not a monoracial black man so why they keep forcing us to go with monoracial black men ? Now it seems that all the monoracial communities think the partner of a mixed-race woman MUST be a monoracial black man. I also blame the media for purposely portraying mixed-race women with monoracial black men. They never represent us with other mixed-race men or non-black men. Often, monoracial people of all communities assume my tastes for me and start showing me a man I might well go with according to their own racist choices. Of course, they always show me a monoracial black man. It doesn't even seem to occur to them anymore that my compatible, similar partner is in reality a mixed-race man like me. I mean, I would feel less hurt if they actually showed me a mixed-race man. Also, I feel like they don't even really make an effort to show me a man I'm compatible with. They just show me any monoracial black man that happens to be in a place. It's as if as a mixed-race woman, they assume I have a duty to pick up any monoracial black man on the street. Nevertheless, I've noticed they only do this with mixed-race women. Oddly enough, they seem to accept that mixed-race men can date women of various ethnicity and people and the media don't force them to settle down with monoracial black women.
That's partially because BW refuse to date out. To their detriment. So even if they wanted to push that narrative, it wouldn't work because the women refuse to go.elsewhere.
MLS women go best with MLS men. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been cockblocked by monoracial people when trying to talk to a MLS woman. The monoracials really don’t want us dating each other
Bcuz people (black media) assume that LS are "soft" or "feminine" or they said things like you guys looks like brothers and sisters while nobody said that to darkskin people or others community. IDK if they know the définition of "Feminity". But it's seems to change bcuz i see more MLS woman with MLS men than before
Im not mixed or light skinned, but I know EXACTLYYYYYYYYY what you’re talking about. Even my peripheral vision can feel their eyes expecting a gaze. Especially in the gym…..
Yes! I NEVER make eye contact with BM NEVER. Because they always think they can talk to you which will mean for them " oh she really like me." Even if one holds the door for me I don't say thank you because then they'll follow you around the store and also if you tells me oh your beautiful today. I don't reply and if they keep repeating it I'll say " I speak no English" 😂😂😂😂 Then they'll leave me alone. Because I owe you nothing......
I've been harassed my whole life for dating mls men. While I don't think black men are ugly at all I still prefer mls men to date. They have the best of both worlds. I want mls kids like me.
My entire life experience as a LS black woman. Most of my grandparents/great grandparents were mixed race, so a lot of men in my family are just... Ambiguously black. That and I grew up in a relatively stable and sheltered family setting. A lot of unambiguous, monoracial blk men think they're owed ambiguous/mixed/LS/non-blk woman and that it will fix all of their social, emotional, and even economic problems. It's not even that I don't find some darker skinned men attractive, but so many are entitled to the point of predatory behavior (I've been street stalked and cat called so much so even though they view us as a status symbol they absolutely do not respect you as a human being). And that's why I've always veered toward other ambiguously brown/blk men (and why even my mom - who's unambiguous herself - suggested I stay away from unambiguous blk men).
This video needs to go viral because boy is this the truth. Not sure of you're familiar with other content creators who say the same thing, but I hope you guys amplify each other's messages too. This "ownership" fetish these men have needs to be stopped.
It’s that N*GGA energy I hate. My ex-fiancé played pro ball overseas, is bi-racial and has that same energy. For some reason I don’t get approached by dsbm too often, maybe compliments. If they are black then they’re foreign, like Dominican etc. I’ve only dated MLS and other non black men.
Yep that's exactly it. Thats why for BW who finally start dating other races of men, the first thing they have to do is check that mans friends. If he got too many DSBM around him, he got that N%gga energy on him.too. move onto someone else.
True! That why I stay away from black men. I hate how aggressive and disrespectful they get when you reject them. The ones here in Dallas texas are just awful.😢
Here's a Plot twist News Flash for the Light Skin Sisterhood. In 2023 DSBW don't own DSBM, LSBW don't own LSBM, And LSBW don't own DSBM. Besides Men aren't looking for Westernized Women anyway🤷🏿♂️.
“Anything you police you pedestalize” wow rings true. Reminds me of this mixed guy constantly comparing skin tones, talking about who’s light skin who isn’t. Like when will we be free of this nonsense
Dam girl. You’re on a roll. I wish I would’ve had some one like you around ESPECIALLY in college. Growing up,My grandfather who was all black and my grandmother who was a biracial ambiguous light skinned woman is pretty much everything you summed up in this video. He was so abusive to my grandma and their kids that it has completely destroyed my dad and our family. Because of this is has shown me everything I don’t want in myself as far as family ties or in a man and part of that is a black man. I’m not sure if that’s “wrong” but It is absolutely something that goes on and I’m glad you pointed it out.
Wow Im glad you touched on this 👏 Black men always think they have an automatic claim on us. Very weird fetish. I had commented down in one of your previous videos about this topic. I thought I was be over critical
Yes! A lot of men view women as property or a commodity. So if you don’t want to give them your 🐱 you’re worthless to them . If you don’t want to be a mother or wife your worthless because they have no power over you. It’s disgusting behavior tbh. Why can’t people view women as human beings? Also, we don’t owe anyone our bodies or a relationship
Gotta say as a pretty [Dark skinned] woman...I agree with. A lot of what you said and gave been saying the EXACT same . In regards to the healing and trauma we are NOT allowed to heal or have a legit safe space and everybody can go on smiling , living feel fake "good." I truly do hope this video gets into their hands because much healing us needed while the bullshit needs to go into the trash. Divesting for me is healing and instead of heart palpitations happiness calm peace and true love. No longer accepting the idea that it's law to stay with abusive men who refuse to do any self reflection and HEAL. Get to the root of the problem as best as possible. Remember too these men bring their traumas into other communities and create more broken homes in mixed race children. There are sooo many levels to this it's exhausting.
I understand this tactic 100% because I used to use it myself. But, I've got news for you beautiful, they can still see your beauty and the fact that you "play it down" only makes them pursue you harder. They think that your low effort in your appearance is a sign of low self-esteem which is like a jackpot in their minds. These type of m¤les love to get the best women while they themselves put in the least effort. So, if you're wondering why your "ugly girl" efforts haven't been working, that's the reason. So, take off that ugly girl mask, beautiful!😍 You might as well live in your glory while intimidating the dusties at the same time.😉 I've learned this from personal experience.
@@sophiam9886 ohh Chile you’re absolutely right. It doesn’t work. I feel better knowing someone else was going through this. The lengths I go through just to avoid men is getting ridiculous. They’re everywhere (lol). I mean I don’t try make myself ugly, but I don’t try to get to pretty. For the most part I am getting overlooked which is great. It depends on what I’m wearing I guess. Right now my hair is done so they bothering the hell out of me again.
The tide is changing. In twenty years, being exotical will rep the Black majority. Also, can’t get rights without you guys. The president & VP were exoticals, not mono racial. That’s just how it works in the US.
I love this, because when I go somewhere minding my business, a black guy always have the nerves to tell me to smile. I ignore them with the same look on my face, like leave me alone you are a stranger, please don't talk to me. They think they're entitled because most black women are blackmale-centered, they think all black women want them, I don't date them at all.
Mmm this is similar to mixed latino women and black american men, some of them think these girls are gonna begged them to date with them just because they are from the US and no lol, I believe a considerable amount mixed latina women prefere mixed latino men.
Yes I have experienced this and I didn't like it. I remember buying makeup and the sales woman telling how pretty the lip color would on my pretty light skin at first I was offended that she only thought I was pretty bc I was light skinned. Then I thought about it I was pretty and I happened be light skinned and there was nothing wrong with that.
yes. imagine if YOU wouldve been the one to say the lipstick color looked good on a bright skin toned. the reaction mightve been different lol. its funny because we are expected to rely on others to recognize our beauty but if we recognize our own we are concieted.
True its crazy bc the girl who complimented was white and I get the most compliments on my beauty from other cultures. All the haters out here can have several seats we united and we standing tall sisters!
I won’t even like one of the brothas and they immediately act passive when you are not showering them with attention. Especially at work. They always gotta say a joke to me or they are wayyy to concerned about my life outside of work. Also get mad asl when you date outside your race but that’s all they do 😂
Notice how Disney’s Princess & the Frog, a movie that setting is in Louisiana, completely omitted any mention of creole people and made up some fictional kingdom of racially ambiguous people . I would designed the male lead as a Disney version of Bernard Marigny, a wealthy Louisianan creole aristocrat. His persona was said to be that of “swashbuckling gambler, duelist, and playboy.” High living and careless with money, his best-known but apocryphal trait was lighting his cigars with $100 bills. Less remarked upon, but far more significant, were his roles as real estate developer, politician, and slave holder.
Oooooooooooh that’s SUCH a good point. A lot of mono UABP haven’t received the validation they want and they’re so starved for it they’ll do anything to get it which is why we see seggs addiction in most BM (seggs addiction is actually a deep seated need and want for validation) as well as crazy attention seeking behaviors from some BW such as twerking on red carpets in evening gowns etc
@@ExoticalsUnited I have a wild theory: The main reason why ADOS/pan-Africanists/hoteps try to guilt trip me, bi-racial, creoles, fringe subculture B.Americans, and indigenous non-Bantu Africans into into integrating w/ them is an instinctual subconscious attempt to breed out their competition . It’s similar to how the Romans used military expansion, colonization, and the granting of citizenship to conquered tribesmen, Rome annexed all the territory south of the Po in present-day Italy during a hundred period before 268 B.C.. Latin and Italic tribes were absorbed first, followed by Etruscans and the Greek colonies in south.
@@ExoticalsUnited are you talking about UABW? Because most of the female celebrities acting that way are biracial ‘black’ women. I’m not saying anyone is more prone to that behavior but how can you claim that of darker skin black women when the overwhelming majority of “black” female celebrities are mixed and lighter skinned?
@@ExoticalsUnited And do dark-skin women actually act this way more often or is them acting that way, just more likely to catch your eye because people are always so eager to call them out for being disgraceful or “aggressive”. DSBW are always going to get harsher criticism than their lighter skinned counterparts for acting in the same “hyper-sexual” or “crazy” way because people like to scapegoat dark skin black women and yet excuse the same behavior from light skin women. Because they fetishize lighter skin women, so they do their best to stay in good graces with them by being less harsh and critical
I’m a black woman who’s light-skin & has features that make people think I’m mixed… I would say personally I have had DSBM tell me that they liked me because they wanted their children to come out looking like “me” & or because I’m mixed which I tell them I’m not & then their usually with thin the lines of “oh that’s fine cause you look exotic” anyway
I will definitely have to agree that most black men want daughters that resemble the women they’re attracted to. IMO majority black men are attracted to mls bw and were typically out of their league and because they do lump us together that’s where you get the “black women aint sh*t” get you a white or Latina. It’s just pure bitterness on their end. They couldn’t get who they wanted so they attempt to procreate with women they feel will give them what they want. It’s odd too. Idk if you remember the nfl players who said “cheers to having more light skin kids” and it caused a frenzy on social media. That confirmed it for me.
Those same men also assault their MLS daughters too. Like fetishize their daughters mixed features and are jealous of their mixed sons because they don't look like them. It's pathetic.
Poverty, broken home, psychological trauma, similar to generational wealth, can all be inherited. We just have the tendency to ignore the bad and focus more on wealth instead.
All facts! So sad but true. What WE experience is called “show booty for Mo’ booty.”😂 I look at things from a psychological point of view as well. 👏🏼💯Blessings beautiful.🙏🏼😇🌟💛❤️
Did anyone else notice the ownership dynamic of bm over mls/exoticals in Rihanna's career? She was an obvious global icon pop star, but she was being marketed as an urban sensation despite her being a foreigner to black American culture. Also, a lot of black men would make public declarations of love to Rih (I believe) as a way to mark their territory and keep non-black men from showing interest in her. Notice how people were really quick to shut down rumors that she was dating Leonardo DeCaprio? In Hollywood, we already know when a male and female are colleagues on a project it is often assumed that they are in a relationship, but when Rihanna collaborated with Justin Timberlake and Chris Martin they were very silent about implying the possibility of an affair. White media does this all the time to their own regardless of whether it is true or not, but they kept mum when Rihanna was associated to these wm. Again, it goes back to non-black jealousy towards MLS/exoticals as you've sooken about before. Even when Rihanna dated that billionaire. People are quick to talk about the failure of the relationship, but they don't mention Rihanna being provided for to the point that she could take an interim break from her music career. Remember, around that time her money was impacted because of her accountant committing tax fraud by stealing from her. Just by reading into the situation I do believe that Hassan played a pivitol role with his finances/influence in Rihannas fashion line (Fenty) and even Fenty Beauty. For her to have some kind of stake/ownership she may have been required to make an investment with her 'own' resources. People gloss over the fact that Rihanna secured a middle Eastern billionaire because her light skin and green eyes are so obviously palatable and desirable to even light skinned Arabian men. It also goes to show that non-black people don't perceive MLS/exoticals as being black. The fact that this rich man/heir had a public relationship with her is telling. Because if it was a black woman, it would be considered taboo enough to be hidden at all costs. I remember a popular, femininity coaching CZcams channel saying that Hassan wasn't going to marry Rihanna anyway because middle Eastern men stick to their own. I think this is an obvious lie. I think that Rihanna got a massive financial reset to the point where she could have the lifestyle of her dreams without exchanging herself by being in a relationship. She basically secured the bag and decided to decentre men especially as a source of provision. The Badgal is not only beautiful, but she is savy too.
And this is why I like Rihanna better than women like Beyoncé. Rihanna is less of a pick me than Beyoncé and Rihanna didn’t stay in slavery to the music industry
Why? Clearly, it's because exoticals are their dream girl.😁💁 Regardless to the fact that these m¤les often ab^se their wives after they've already gotten her, she was his "dream" that he wished to come true before he married her. The problem is that dreams are not a part of real life and these athletes wind up not liking the fact that we are REAL LIFE WOM€N that have a personality, complaints, and boundaries just like any other wom¤n. That's when the abuse starts, when it finally sets in hid mind that we are real and that fact is not changing. It's the same situation with non-athlete UABM. They are known to be¤t up MLS women, too. We really should just stay away from them. Even my DS unambiguous grandmother told my mother, me and my sister to stay away from DS bl¤ck m¤les. This has been a problem with them for many, many years.
a black woman said that on one of my live streams on this channel... dont make me pull out all my archives 🤓 but since were on the subject, why DO UABP seek after non black mates and fetishize them, calling them terms like "zaddy", saying they have "bubble gum peen" or "once you go asian your credit gets to raisin"? why do a lot of women on divestment channels say those things if they DONT pedestalize non blackness? why not pedestalize their own phenotypes? why travel to entirely new countries with non black women to try to get an improverished woman of another race when there are women who look like you who live right there in your neighborhood? if thats not pedestalization and self loathing idk what is.
I've always wondered why it affects some people so harshly and not so much with others. I'm literally the darkest person in my family and have been called every black so and so growing up but it's never made me hate my skin. I know where it comes from and why. I've never felt jealous of lighter women because I got see up close through my biracial cousins that they have another set of problems. Everybody does. Everybody likes something different so I'm ok with a person who's not attracted to me not wanting me. I'm not attracted to everyone. It's life. I learned early on to stop looking at dark skinned men because they sure didn't want to look at me and that's okay. I wasn't with lighter skinned men because I'm color struck. I was staying in my lane.
This is very interesting. I often hear of black men chasing lighter skinned women but i didnt know all of this. Mixed women, do black men actually treat you all better or do they simply chase you all to sleep with you or have you as a trophy?. I'm a monoracial black woman (87% according to my DNA test)
I have never been in an actual long term relationship with a mono UABM so I’m actually not sure as far as actual relationships because they’ve never made it that far. But maybe some of the girls here will answer . I think that men have probably spent more money on me or things like that but I feel like that has more to do with how I carry myself and what I’m willing to tolerate, not my skin tone or race.
Though things are changing (if you've seen many TV commercials where many interracial couples feature clearly either MLS or biracial women in particular), the preponderance of women who are just short of Teutonic often otherwise cast in many commercials (not to mention videos 📸 or TV shows/movies) are a reflection 🪞 of the casting directors in charge.
I’m a Biracial woman, who experienced life in the back community and the white. I agree with your statements. When I was in black schools, black people treated me worse than anyone else. While in the white school I had no pressures. When I grew up I noticed black men usually only liked me because of my hair/ skin so I only date mixed, and non black people. And this sucks because I don’t want my child to look like me… I want him to be like my mom. Undeniably black.
I am a mono-racial light skinned blaq woman and whenever I dated men that didn't really like me in-depthly they would enjoy the attention that they would get from just being with me and yes the flirting and sneaky behavior of and towards other women would take place, so yes certain types of these men will do that sort of thing if they don't truly love and or respect you.
As a black man myself, a scene from a movie titled The Outlaw Josey Wales comes to mind. In which Clint Eastwood stated, I Don’t Want Anybody Belonging To Me!
ALL of humans problem can come down to one thing and one thing up above everything else - And that is humans inability to sit in a quiet room and enjoy the ambience and beauty of God's creation - - The girls gotta gossip.. AND the News gotta sell everybody the bad sensationalist News - - Girl haven't you heard by " now " Go where your celebrated NOT where you're just tolerated - -🎵 Well there is a road🎵 with a distant love🎶 And the eagle 🎶 flies with the dove 🎵 And and if you can't be with the one you love 🎶 Love the One You're With 🎵🎼 You're going to be the one who's going to truly miss being around people who truly love them You won't even get to know what that's truly like 😂
Im a light skin black woman...but also only 70% African. Other 30% is native American and European. Am i mixed? Anyway im grew up in white neighborhoods so i didnt really have black friends until highschool. Ive always dated outside my race. Is that ok?
I used to be open to the idea of interracial dating when I was a virgin as far as casually talking to them and i never been with a black guy sexually or anything like that it was completely platonic but after I lost my virginity to a white man all I want is my own and when black men approach me since ir dating is very common now, and now I’m just like nope because sex is spiritual to me and when you have sex with your own race you gravitate more towards that. I was a late bloomer at 23 more than my friends and I don’t regret it but I centered myself losing my virginity and found a guy who could give me a good experience and wasn’t a douche but he was 3 times my age 💀 😂 in his 50s but it was still a very good experience but I know my parents wouldn’t approve of it and understandably so. I felt like I made my sexual debut and it was on my terms
As a light skinned black woman, I too have noticed this since junior high.
I see so many pretty black or mixed raced women with unattractive dark skinned men. Not particularly nice, or moneyed. To me, it shows how low the woman's self-esteem is to engage in this dynamic.
💯🎤🎯😤🙌😬😑😒 THIS!
Yes!
It’s giving Jackie Oh (rip)
As a mixed woman who isn’t into black guys, I find this very annoying. This assumption that I’m automatically into them by default. Card declined sir lol.
lmao ☠️☠️☠️
Relatable and I’m not even mixed 🤢
Same lol
No one cares
@@Lodocihel you cared enough to respond 😆
I’m dealing with this at my apartment complex between two maintenance workers…. One blk and one white. As SOON as the white guy started showing interest… the blk man started laying his claim. Neither do they know… I’m engaged and don’t prefer blk men
Right! BM start trolling us when we don’t prefer them. That’s when they start calling us 6s like Eboni k Williams
@@ExoticalsUnited LMAOO! Omg!!! Ha! And I’m plus sized so the biggest insult would be “you fat anyway!”
This is the complete opposite for me this happens to me but with white men… again confused but what’s funnier is when the black guy shows interest first he’ll back down if a WM steps in… my life is so weird y’all hence why it’s time to make films my experiences aren’t everyday clearly
@@user-hh7qu2gy5u whaaat?! I’ve found that white men are EASILY intimidated by blk men. 🤣🤣🤣 wooow your experience is very interesting!
I get weird comments from bm abt how “pretty” my daughter would be if I have one, bc she’d have light skin & probably my fiancés eye color. Like yes she will, and I’m going to make sure she doesn’t even acknowledge the existence of black males unless it’s to tell them she’s not interested
Omg! I’m 17 and I met this guy and he kept asking me what I was mixed and how he liked “Spanish girls” and said that I was Dominican and stuff! 😂
I told him that I’m black and that I come from a mixed background (Louisiana Creole, European, Spanish, and African decent)
He asked me the same questions about 15 times regarding my race and even my hair texture.
Exoticals are fetishized all the time!!! Okay!! It’s weird! 😂
It's embarrassing how much some black men will have a biracial son and then be resentful and competitive with them. I have noticed that some of the worst abuse situations I have seen has been black men abusing a biracial son.
Google Anthony Milan Ross. Tragic
@@keysnlemons7756 Adrian Jones is the worst case I ever heard. and it still triggers me years later...
My dad would comb my hair with a fine tooth comb and give me horrible haircuts. I couldn't even use hair gel and realized I have curly hair until I was past 18 and had moved out.
I have noticed that way too many times … I’ve also seen them pick apart every feature of female exoticals (especially the darker exoticals) … all while creating more exoticals with white partners 🤷🏽♀️
I’m starting to believe you guys are making these things up to bash black men but to make white guys look good
Black women got more mad at me about this than black men. Between the way I look, spoke and what I was into, the black men around me figured quickly I was into nonblack guys. Other than some rah-rah here and there about how corny other dudes were or whatever, didn’t get pushback. Black women in my own family though said that I’d end up with a white man who beat me-and laughed about it. Like a “good for her for thinking she deserves to ‘get a white man’” sort of thing. Weird. I ended up with a white Latino who treats me better than any of them have ever been treated by a man 💅🏼
This Omg ! Why are people so obsessed with who we date?
I felt this. I've even been told "you're too good for blk men" I've never liked them. Never will.
The audacity! They don't even own themselves. Please 🙄
😂😂😂😂
Naaaawwwwwrrrr😂😂😂
I am so glad that my biracial nieces don't bother with BM. They didn't really grow up around them (neither did I, as a BW) and many BM are groomed to be very toxic.
i agree and im glad i didnt grow up in that community . its funny because a lot of mono BP used to make fun of me for "talking and acting white" and 20 years later, those same people are calling me bougie and they themselves are trying to get out of their black communities......
@@ExoticalsUnited Never feel uncomfortable about speaking well and using proper grammar. Some of my friends in college used to call my phone number and hang up when I answered because they "thought I was a whyte girl." But now I'm working as a Washington broadcast journalist because I know how to speak.
@@ExoticalsUnitedThose people always end up eating their karma for their stupidity.
As a dark skinned bw (non mixed) who only dates white men, they do this to us as well. I get harassed sometimes by black guys and even receive dirty looks when I’m out with my bf. I don’t want my biracial daughter feeling like she’s bound to black men just bc she’s half black. Black men believe they own black women and mixed race women but they’re free to date whoever they want. God forbid if we just don’t find them attractive
Edit: idc who calls me whitewashed or a self hater for this comment, I said what I said. Dating white men on 🔝
Girl, I don't blame you. BM got nothing to offer but drama and diseases. Good riddance to them.
Yes omg! What is it with men and feeling like women are their property?
I agree because I have heard so many black men say that they don't want black women dating white men while they see nothing wrong with black men dating ww and women of other races. One went so far as to say that it is different because black women are theirs while not having the same energy when black men are with whitr mens daughters. It is a game to black men. At the end of the day, this comes down to black men and their competition and retribution with white men. During slavery, most biracials who were born were by way of the white enslaver males and enslaved black women. That is documented facts. Now, Black men want to create as many biracials as they can to stick it to the man and to also produce so called better looking women for their fellow black men. I think the Exotical admin is spot on with her take on how bm want LS ambiguous women as status because they are not confident in monoracial bw when competing with other men. Black men are the main group of men who make a big deal out of LS women because they can still categorize and claim them as black without feeling guilty of being called race traitors. Black men have been doing this for ages. They want the light brown and light skin black women with colored eyes to be with and to show off. And as quiet as it is kept and if we are being honest, they really do not prefer ww they just know they need them to produce the women that they prefer because ww and other non black women have the genetic makeup to create their preferences. I am happy that biracial women are waking up to self hating black men who perpetuate this hierarchy in the black community. Monoracial Black women may not be innocent toward the treatment of mixed race women but that is due to forced categorization of mixed women into black woman spaces and then those same mixed women given preferential treatment.
I can relate to this my husband is indigenous Cuban/ Dominican non black and I am a brown skin black woman and the hate I get when black men see me and my husband together is ridiculous. Especially when they themselves are also with a non black partner. The entitlement of black men towards black women of all shades and the exoticals is frightening and gross. The disgust I have when they look at my 4 year old daughter, I can see their eyes widen with excitement over her light skin and hair texture. Already trying to sexualize her despite her being a baby. I pray as she gets older she adapts my taste in men and avoids black men altogether.
@@paigenotfound2696 not just racially/culturally mixed women,also majority of LS women and non-Black women woke up and call them out on their Black patriarchy or womanizing behavior.Hell,even some overseas women do the same thing when it comes down to passport bros by telling them they will not tolerate their foolery and being fetishized by them just because they don't look like their Black grandmother which I don't blame them at all.
I’m a mixed woman from the continent and black men here are obsesseddddd with mixed women especially when you have natural hair oh they go crazy. Though I do find some black men attractive, many times I’ve rejected them and some of them would go “oh so you don’t date black men?” trying to subtly imply that I have racist dating preferences, basically just projecting their own self hatred onto me.
I also had a black “guy friend” who sat in the friend zone for years waiting for me to change my mind who would always make jokes about how I only like white guys. the jokes weren’t funny they annoyed me if anything and I found it to be a display of his own insecurity mixed with attempting to shame me because of my dating preferences. Like I said there are some attractive black men but most of them are so deeply insecure and fucked up like trust me bro your skin colour isn’t the sole reason that mixed women won’t date you
Yes the mono black community has exposed themselves. due to all the traumas faced in the black community and the lack of knowledge about psychology, sociology and mental health, a lot of them are very mentally ill which is why we see them exhibiting behaviors like serial cheating.
@@ExoticalsUnitedWow, I've been scrolling through your channel because I got curious. I'm starting to see that you yourself are harboring some internal trauma, probably had bad experiences feeling "not black enough." You're going out of your way to "prove" the inadequacies of dark skinned individuals, not realizing that in the process you are exhibiting your own inferiority complex and bias.
Why not focus on talking about God and some other important things in life. The people gathered here are themselves projecting narcissism, low self-esteem and looking more and more delusional.
I really really believe this is what set Doja Cat down the path she is on now. BM were not upset about anything concerning her but the fact that she DOES NOT PREFER them. BP got up in arms and tried to call for her to be cancelled for something that wasn't their business anyway and they NEVER hold BM accountable for loving or "playing around" with r acist WW. But especially when a mixed or LSBW doesnt prefer BM and are even around other races of men or states those men as their preference, this triggers especially monoracial BM.
omg thats such a good point. BM date straight up r@cist WW or non black women all the time, but as soon as us "preferences" go for a non BM we are traitors and bedwenches.
Agree. She was the thick, MLS and she appealed to them at first. She lost weight and got more edgy after and it was revealed that she doesn't like BM, and they are coming for her. I'm an unambitious bw and I think it's hilarious! I'm not offended, and won't be cancelling her for that. BM artists have been saying disgusting and self destructive things for decades. Why should I not enjoy her music/art? She never said anything about bw 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Bw who are following bm's lead on hating her is dumb! They'd never forsake their trash rappers for them
@@ExoticalsUnited Yes exactly. It came to mind with this subject of them feeling they own exotical BW, MLS women and mixed race BW.
@@come_on_barbie_123 Exactly. I surely didn't cancel her, because I seen through that BS from the start. They want her, she doesn't want them. Simple. This is what that whole thing is about. BP in general get real controlling of BW and especially exoticals with black admixture when it comes to BM.
I'm glad you are speaking on this! As a monoracial BW I actually feel sorry for biracial women because yall are literally targeted for pregnancy. Like BM literally try and get yall pregnant on purpose. I have seen it
omg yes! people want to make us into their breeding factories 🤢
I’m glad that you’re saying this. I’m mixed (blk mom & Mexican dad) and in the 90s when I was a teenager, these young dsbm would run up to me and the first words out of their mouth was, “you need to have my baby.” And the desperation in their voices was insane. Non-bm never did this to me. Only dsbm. But back then, the monoracial adults around me couldn’t even process what I was telling them. It was frustrating. It was a daily thing in LA.
The last bm l used to talk to told me plainly that if we have kids the kids better look like you ..... l asked him how do l ensure that that happens? I stopped talking to him and left bm alone after that!
That's really gross, right? I mean nothing wrong with it but what man on the face of this planet does that in droves? Self hate on that level is such a turn off
@@come_on_barbie_123 They think they will win white supremacy by having a bunch of non dark children.... that's how far they are taking their disfunction!
They never make any sense. Ever😂
BM have a breeding fetish too, something is really wrong with them.
@@user-ol9bo2ei1r EVER!!! LOL
The darkskin black guys I’ve dated literally told me verbatim, “I OWN you”… He was Jamaican and had some foreign bleaching bar of soap.
Also when I date outside my race, my needs tend to be met for the most part. When I date outside my race the men understand the principle of providing. They don’t convince you to go 50/50. When I date black men they literally use me like a trophy. I would have to stand next to him & he’s doing literally nothing. Or I’ll have to follow them around like a puppy. 😒
LMAO im doing another episode to this one soon 😂
@@ExoticalsUnited I’m gonna be waiting 💯😂
I notice by the slim chance I see a BM whilst living overseas they get giddy and get a gleam in their eyes when they see me assuming I'm interested in them. I ignore them and keep it moving. I'll never forget being in a pub in London and a BM approached me asking me on a date (didn't ask if I was single, nothing). I told him no thank you and the look on his face when a WM came back with my drink was priceless. Not all of us LSW prefer them. My mom's generation may have, but I damn sure don't. A lot of DSBW have given us the evil eye by mere assumption when we never wanted their men, anyway.
right! i feel like its a gen X thing for MLS women to be solely with UABM
Dsbw who are like that are WEIRD! LOL
@come_on_barbie_123 true, because the men their pining over, don't want them either. They need to move on as well.
@@user-ol9bo2ei1r which is really crazy! We can see how they (dsbm) think especially with the internet. Smh no way id be drooling over them. I cringe every time I see it
As a non mixed black (but fair in complexion) woman I agree with this completely. I used to attract( I say used to because I stopped dealing with them a while ago) the colourist dsbm, the ones who truly resent their mother but publicly worship her and call her all kinds of his Queen and number one. A few that I had relationships with, perceived women as beneath them in someway just for being a man especially if they have money, communication…where? That’s only used to argue, be defensive or belittle/dismiss you. You can’t assert a boundary you just have to be accepting of their toxicity but they get insecure and upset about the littlest things. Yes, they use proximity to some women (even female friends) as way to attract other women and spend the majority of the relationship making comparisons to the exes to have you working for their attention or to show you who they have access to. And when you decide to leave their toxic self they think it’s because you are cheating because how can you leave their wonderful self be to alone? Impossible in their minds. Therapy is for weak people, expressing emotion, aside from anger is lame according to them or they simply shut you out because communicating calmly about flaws and weaknesses is just a foreign concept unless it’s used as an insult. Superficial relationships that are based on the outside looks and material things with no real intimacy or spiritual connection. While this is not ALL BM it’s a large % as I’ve seen friends go through the same things. Now, men are men and all races of men will have some toxic Toni’s of their own but my experience with other men hasn’t been as turbulent as with BM.
Omg yes!!! It’s as if women exist to bring them validation. A lot of men define their worth by how many pretty women they can attract or by how pretty their partner is .
It really pisses me off that everyone now assumes that the natural partner of a mixed-race woman is necessarily a monoracial black man. Why a black man and not a non-black man ?
Also, if we really want to be honest, the most compatible partner for a mixed-race woman is a mixed-race man, not a monoracial black man so why they keep forcing us to go with monoracial black men ? Now it seems that all the monoracial communities think the partner of a mixed-race woman MUST be a monoracial black man. I also blame the media for purposely portraying mixed-race women with monoracial black men. They never represent us with other mixed-race men or non-black men.
Often, monoracial people of all communities assume my tastes for me and start showing me a man I might well go with according to their own racist choices. Of course, they always show me a monoracial black man. It doesn't even seem to occur to them anymore that my compatible, similar partner is in reality a mixed-race man like me. I mean, I would feel less hurt if they actually showed me a mixed-race man. Also, I feel like they don't even really make an effort to show me a man I'm compatible with. They just show me any monoracial black man that happens to be in a place. It's as if as a mixed-race woman, they assume I have a duty to pick up any monoracial black man on the street.
Nevertheless, I've noticed they only do this with mixed-race women. Oddly enough, they seem to accept that mixed-race men can date women of various ethnicity and people and the media don't force them to settle down with monoracial black women.
i agree. my BF is biracial and i date mixed race men as my preference.
That's partially because BW refuse to date out. To their detriment. So even if they wanted to push that narrative, it wouldn't work because the women refuse to go.elsewhere.
MLS women go best with MLS men. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been cockblocked by monoracial people when trying to talk to a MLS woman. The monoracials really don’t want us dating each other
Bcuz people (black media) assume that LS are "soft" or "feminine" or they said things like you guys looks like brothers and sisters while nobody said that to darkskin people or others community.
IDK if they know the définition of "Feminity".
But it's seems to change bcuz i see more MLS woman with MLS men than before
Im not mixed or light skinned, but I know EXACTLYYYYYYYYY what you’re talking about. Even my peripheral vision can feel their eyes expecting a gaze. Especially in the gym…..
OMG YES! I need to do a video about creepy gym guys!
@@ExoticalsUnitedplease do a video on the gym! the creepiness levels from men there is so unsettling!
Facts! Thank you for this! We all get the same black man no matter the race
thats why i date Mixed race men
Yes! I NEVER make eye contact with BM NEVER. Because they always think they can talk to you which will mean for them " oh she really like me." Even if one holds the door for me I don't say thank you because then they'll follow you around the store and also if you tells me oh your beautiful today. I don't reply and if they keep repeating it I'll say " I speak no English" 😂😂😂😂
Then they'll leave me alone. Because I owe you nothing......
I've been harassed my whole life for dating mls men. While I don't think black men are ugly at all I still prefer mls men to date. They have the best of both worlds. I want mls kids like me.
Yup I prefer MLS men as well
@@biggieshortyright, as you should
@@PrettyEyesz Devante Swing from Jodeci 😍 and Michael Ealy and Dino from H town
My entire life experience as a LS black woman. Most of my grandparents/great grandparents were mixed race, so a lot of men in my family are just... Ambiguously black. That and I grew up in a relatively stable and sheltered family setting. A lot of unambiguous, monoracial blk men think they're owed ambiguous/mixed/LS/non-blk woman and that it will fix all of their social, emotional, and even economic problems. It's not even that I don't find some darker skinned men attractive, but so many are entitled to the point of predatory behavior (I've been street stalked and cat called so much so even though they view us as a status symbol they absolutely do not respect you as a human being). And that's why I've always veered toward other ambiguously brown/blk men (and why even my mom - who's unambiguous herself - suggested I stay away from unambiguous blk men).
This video needs to go viral because boy is this the truth. Not sure of you're familiar with other content creators who say the same thing, but I hope you guys amplify each other's messages too. This "ownership" fetish these men have needs to be stopped.
Yes I agree
It’s that N*GGA energy I hate. My ex-fiancé played pro ball overseas, is bi-racial and has that same energy. For some reason I don’t get approached by dsbm too often, maybe compliments. If they are black then they’re foreign, like Dominican etc. I’ve only dated MLS and other non black men.
Yep that's exactly it. Thats why for BW who finally start dating other races of men, the first thing they have to do is check that mans friends. If he got too many DSBM around him, he got that N%gga energy on him.too. move onto someone else.
@@user-ol9bo2ei1rExactly. It’s getting worse too! They think that hood mentality is cute and appealing but baby, we don’t want it! Like, at all!!!!
Same, the closest guy I dated to unambiguous was a dark skinned garish creole guy (he was trash)
True! That why I stay away from black men. I hate how aggressive and disrespectful they get when you reject them. The ones here in Dallas texas are just awful.😢
Yes once a guy feels like there’s no chance of him getting your 🐱 your basically worthless to him smh
Here's a Plot twist News Flash for the Light Skin Sisterhood. In 2023 DSBW don't own DSBM, LSBW don't own LSBM, And LSBW don't own DSBM. Besides Men aren't looking for Westernized Women anyway🤷🏿♂️.
All American Biracial Women with White Dad's are socially awkward Women. That Eat they own Boogers and Doodoo.
I'm a light skinned non mixed woman. And I agree with your message 😎
“Anything you police you pedestalize” wow rings true. Reminds me of this mixed guy constantly comparing skin tones, talking about who’s light skin who isn’t. Like when will we be free of this nonsense
Some people contribute to negative stereotypes and complain about it!
This !
No lie detected
Dam girl. You’re on a roll. I wish I would’ve had some one like you around ESPECIALLY in college.
Growing up,My grandfather who was all black and my grandmother who was a biracial ambiguous light skinned woman is pretty much everything you summed up in this video. He was so abusive to my grandma and their kids that it has completely destroyed my dad and our family. Because of this is has shown me everything I don’t want in myself as far as family ties or in a man and part of that is a black man. I’m not sure if that’s “wrong” but It is absolutely something that goes on and I’m glad you pointed it out.
Wow Im glad you touched on this 👏 Black men always think they have an automatic claim on us. Very weird fetish. I had commented down in one of your previous videos about this topic. I thought I was be over critical
Yes! A lot of men view women as property or a commodity. So if you don’t want to give them your 🐱 you’re worthless to them . If you don’t want to be a mother or wife your worthless because they have no power over you. It’s disgusting behavior tbh. Why can’t people view women as human beings? Also, we don’t owe anyone our bodies or a relationship
Gotta say as a pretty [Dark skinned] woman...I agree with. A lot of what you said and gave been saying the EXACT same .
In regards to the healing and trauma we are NOT allowed to heal or have a legit safe space and everybody can go on smiling , living feel fake "good." I truly do hope this video gets into their hands because much healing us needed while the bullshit needs to go into the trash.
Divesting for me is healing and instead of heart palpitations happiness calm peace and true love. No longer accepting the idea that it's law to stay with abusive men who refuse to do any self reflection and HEAL. Get to the root of the problem as best as possible.
Remember too these men bring their traumas into other communities and create more broken homes in mixed race children. There are sooo many levels to this it's exhausting.
Hence the likes of the "passport Bros".
This !
@@ExoticalsUnitedyou should do a video on the passport bros and their ideology
You needed a JUMPSCARE warning with that pic in the beginning 🤢
😂
I try so hard to look ugly so they don't talk to me.
I understand this tactic 100% because I used to use it myself. But, I've got news for you beautiful, they can still see your beauty and the fact that you "play it down" only makes them pursue you harder. They think that your low effort in your appearance is a sign of low self-esteem which is like a jackpot in their minds. These type of m¤les love to get the best women while they themselves put in the least effort. So, if you're wondering why your "ugly girl" efforts haven't been working, that's the reason. So, take off that ugly girl mask, beautiful!😍 You might as well live in your glory while intimidating the dusties at the same time.😉 I've learned this from personal experience.
@@sophiam9886 ohh Chile you’re absolutely right. It doesn’t work. I feel better knowing someone else was going through this. The lengths I go through just to avoid men is getting ridiculous. They’re everywhere (lol).
I mean I don’t try make myself ugly, but I don’t try to get to pretty. For the most part I am getting overlooked which is great. It depends on what I’m wearing I guess. Right now my hair is done so they bothering the hell out of me again.
🤣🤣🤣😂😭😭😭
@@lolitah8560 no joke they still trying.
More men need to embrace and commit to therapy… that would really help men open up about vulnerabilities and repelling misognoir
yes i agree
The tide is changing. In twenty years, being exotical will rep the Black majority.
Also, can’t get rights without you guys. The president & VP were exoticals, not mono racial. That’s just how it works in the US.
Yup! Kamala and Obama are mixed race
It’s not” how it works” it’s blatant lack of valuing of any position that requires accountability/responsibility
I am not mixed but everyone especially black women and men ask me all the time. Both of my parents are black.
I’m not surprised
ALL of my grandfathers and Great grandfathers are dark skin and the grandmothers are mixed or nonblack
lol!
I love this, because when I go somewhere minding my business, a black guy always have the nerves to tell me to smile. I ignore them with the same look on my face, like leave me alone you are a stranger, please don't talk to me. They think they're entitled because most black women are blackmale-centered, they think all black women want them, I don't date them at all.
Exactly lol
Mmm this is similar to mixed latino women and black american men, some of them think these girls are gonna begged them to date with them just because they are from the US and no lol, I believe a considerable amount mixed latina women prefere mixed latino men.
As a racially ambiguous man I stumbled upon this YT channel very interesting commentary. I do find truth in many of topics you speak on.
Thanks !
Yes I have experienced this and I didn't like it. I remember buying makeup and the sales woman telling how pretty the lip color would on my pretty light skin at first I was offended that she only thought I was pretty bc I was light skinned. Then I thought about it I was pretty and I happened be light skinned and there was nothing wrong with that.
yes. imagine if YOU wouldve been the one to say the lipstick color looked good on a bright skin toned. the reaction mightve been different lol. its funny because we are expected to rely on others to recognize our beauty but if we recognize our own we are concieted.
True its crazy bc the girl who complimented was white and I get the most compliments on my beauty from other cultures. All the haters out here can have several seats we united and we standing tall sisters!
I won’t even like one of the brothas and they immediately act passive when you are not showering them with attention. Especially at work. They always gotta say a joke to me or they are wayyy to concerned about my life outside of work. Also get mad asl when you date outside your race but that’s all they do 😂
Notice how Disney’s Princess & the Frog, a movie that setting is in Louisiana, completely omitted any mention of creole people and made up some fictional kingdom of racially ambiguous people .
I would designed the male lead as a Disney version of Bernard Marigny, a wealthy Louisianan creole aristocrat. His persona was said to be that of “swashbuckling gambler, duelist, and playboy.” High living and careless with money, his best-known but apocryphal trait was lighting his cigars with $100 bills. Less remarked upon, but far more significant, were his roles as real estate developer, politician, and slave holder.
Oooooooooooh that’s SUCH a good point. A lot of mono UABP haven’t received the validation they want and they’re so starved for it they’ll do anything to get it which is why we see seggs addiction in most BM (seggs addiction is actually a deep seated need and want for validation) as well as crazy attention seeking behaviors from some BW such as twerking on red carpets in evening gowns etc
@@ExoticalsUnited I have a wild theory: The main reason why ADOS/pan-Africanists/hoteps try to guilt trip me, bi-racial, creoles, fringe subculture B.Americans, and indigenous non-Bantu Africans into into integrating w/ them is an instinctual subconscious attempt to breed out their competition .
It’s similar to how the Romans used military expansion, colonization, and the granting of citizenship to conquered tribesmen, Rome annexed all the territory south of the Po in present-day Italy during a hundred period before 268 B.C.. Latin and Italic tribes were absorbed first, followed by Etruscans and the Greek colonies in south.
@@ExoticalsUnited are you talking about UABW? Because most of the female celebrities acting that way are biracial ‘black’ women. I’m not saying anyone is more prone to that behavior but how can you claim that of darker skin black women when the overwhelming majority of “black” female celebrities are mixed and lighter skinned?
@@ExoticalsUnited And do dark-skin women actually act this way more often or is them acting that way, just more likely to catch your eye because people are always so eager to call them out for being disgraceful or “aggressive”. DSBW are always going to get harsher criticism than their lighter skinned counterparts for acting in the same “hyper-sexual” or “crazy” way because people like to scapegoat dark skin black women and yet excuse the same behavior from light skin women. Because they fetishize lighter skin women, so they do their best to stay in good graces with them by being less harsh and critical
I’m a black woman who’s light-skin & has features that make people think I’m mixed… I would say personally I have had DSBM tell me that they liked me because they wanted their children to come out looking like “me” & or because I’m mixed which I tell them I’m not & then their usually with thin the lines of “oh that’s fine cause you look exotic” anyway
yes omg!!!!!
I will definitely have to agree that most black men want daughters that resemble the women they’re attracted to. IMO majority black men are attracted to mls bw and were typically out of their league and because they do lump us together that’s where you get the “black women aint sh*t” get you a white or Latina. It’s just pure bitterness on their end. They couldn’t get who they wanted so they attempt to procreate with women they feel will give them what they want. It’s odd too.
Idk if you remember the nfl players who said “cheers to having more light skin kids” and it caused a frenzy on social media. That confirmed it for me.
Those same men also assault their MLS daughters too. Like fetishize their daughters mixed features and are jealous of their mixed sons because they don't look like them. It's pathetic.
🙌🏽BRAVO for putting this together
thanks for watching!
Poverty, broken home, psychological trauma, similar to generational wealth, can all be inherited. We just have the tendency to ignore the bad and focus more on wealth instead.
This channel is so helpful and you are always on point with your topics and your opinions. I am so grateful for this channel, girl! Whew! 👏🏼🎉
Thank you so much!
All facts! So sad but true.
What WE experience is called “show booty for Mo’ booty.”😂
I look at things from a psychological point of view as well.
👏🏼💯Blessings beautiful.🙏🏼😇🌟💛❤️
😂😂😂😂so true
I remember an interview with a black man saying he does feel like he owns black women when he already has a white wife or girlfriend
Yes, it was British dude on a channel called I&I. That dude was very confused and crazy.
Thanks for this video, please do more like this. Black culture needs to hear this! I’m subscriber
Yes! I will do more !
Awesome Topic ❤ Thank you for sharing your perspective. 😊
Thanks for watching beautiful! ❤️
Did anyone else notice the ownership dynamic of bm over mls/exoticals in Rihanna's career? She was an obvious global icon pop star, but she was being marketed as an urban sensation despite her being a foreigner to black American culture. Also, a lot of black men would make public declarations of love to Rih (I believe) as a way to mark their territory and keep non-black men from showing interest in her.
Notice how people were really quick to shut down rumors that she was dating Leonardo DeCaprio? In Hollywood, we already know when a male and female are colleagues on a project it is often assumed that they are in a relationship, but when Rihanna collaborated with Justin Timberlake and Chris Martin they were very silent about implying the possibility of an affair. White media does this all the time to their own regardless of whether it is true or not, but they kept mum when Rihanna was associated to these wm. Again, it goes back to non-black jealousy towards MLS/exoticals as you've sooken about before.
Even when Rihanna dated that billionaire. People are quick to talk about the failure of the relationship, but they don't mention Rihanna being provided for to the point that she could take an interim break from her music career. Remember, around that time her money was impacted because of her accountant committing tax fraud by stealing from her. Just by reading into the situation I do believe that Hassan played a pivitol role with his finances/influence in Rihannas fashion line (Fenty) and even Fenty Beauty. For her to have some kind of stake/ownership she may have been required to make an investment with her 'own' resources.
People gloss over the fact that Rihanna secured a middle Eastern billionaire because her light skin and green eyes are so obviously palatable and desirable to even light skinned Arabian men. It also goes to show that non-black people don't perceive MLS/exoticals as being black. The fact that this rich man/heir had a public relationship with her is telling. Because if it was a black woman, it would be considered taboo enough to be hidden at all costs.
I remember a popular, femininity coaching CZcams channel saying that Hassan wasn't going to marry Rihanna anyway because middle Eastern men stick to their own. I think this is an obvious lie. I think that Rihanna got a massive financial reset to the point where she could have the lifestyle of her dreams without exchanging herself by being in a relationship. She basically secured the bag and decided to decentre men especially as a source of provision. The Badgal is not only beautiful, but she is savy too.
And this is why I like Rihanna better than women like Beyoncé. Rihanna is less of a pick me than Beyoncé and Rihanna didn’t stay in slavery to the music industry
Girllll do a video on why athletes marry exoticals
Why? Clearly, it's because exoticals are their dream girl.😁💁 Regardless to the fact that these m¤les often ab^se their wives after they've already gotten her, she was his "dream" that he wished to come true before he married her. The problem is that dreams are not a part of real life and these athletes wind up not liking the fact that we are REAL LIFE WOM€N that have a personality, complaints, and boundaries just like any other wom¤n. That's when the abuse starts, when it finally sets in hid mind that we are real and that fact is not changing. It's the same situation with non-athlete UABM. They are known to be¤t up MLS women, too. We really should just stay away from them. Even my DS unambiguous grandmother told my mother, me and my sister to stay away from DS bl¤ck m¤les. This has been a problem with them for many, many years.
I have NEVER hears a divestor say that they want mixed race children because of what they have been through
a black woman said that on one of my live streams on this channel... dont make me pull out all my archives 🤓 but since were on the subject, why DO UABP seek after non black mates and fetishize them, calling them terms like "zaddy", saying they have "bubble gum peen" or "once you go asian your credit gets to raisin"? why do a lot of women on divestment channels say those things if they DONT pedestalize non blackness? why not pedestalize their own phenotypes? why travel to entirely new countries with non black women to try to get an improverished woman of another race when there are women who look like you who live right there in your neighborhood? if thats not pedestalization and self loathing idk what is.
I've always wondered why it affects some people so harshly and not so much with others. I'm literally the darkest person in my family and have been called every black so and so growing up but it's never made me hate my skin. I know where it comes from and why. I've never felt jealous of lighter women because I got see up close through my biracial cousins that they have another set of problems. Everybody does. Everybody likes something different so I'm ok with a person who's not attracted to me not wanting me. I'm not attracted to everyone. It's life. I learned early on to stop looking at dark skinned men because they sure didn't want to look at me and that's okay. I wasn't with lighter skinned men because I'm color struck. I was staying in my lane.
This is very interesting. I often hear of black men chasing lighter skinned women but i didnt know all of this.
Mixed women, do black men actually treat you all better or do they simply chase you all to sleep with you or have you as a trophy?.
I'm a monoracial black woman (87% according to my DNA test)
I have never been in an actual long term relationship with a mono UABM so I’m actually not sure as far as actual relationships because they’ve never made it that far. But maybe some of the girls here will answer . I think that men have probably spent more money on me or things like that but I feel like that has more to do with how I carry myself and what I’m willing to tolerate, not my skin tone or race.
Whats the remaining 13% if you don't mind me being nosy
Fantastic breakdown❤
Thanks for watching !
Though things are changing (if you've seen many TV commercials where many interracial couples feature clearly either MLS or biracial women in particular), the preponderance of women who are just short of Teutonic often otherwise cast in many commercials (not to mention videos 📸 or TV shows/movies) are a reflection 🪞 of the casting directors in charge.
Yup
Girl the thumbnail!!!! 😅😅😅
lmao 😂😂😂😂
Oommggg,, I have been saying this for years.
This was a very tough video to watch but it had a a lot of good points to it
@@edj2045 I wasn't called out on my self hate. What type of presumptuous comment was that.
I’m a Biracial woman, who experienced life in the back community and the white.
I agree with your statements.
When I was in black schools, black people treated me worse than anyone else. While in the white school I had no pressures.
When I grew up I noticed black men usually only liked me because of my hair/ skin so I only date mixed, and non black people. And this sucks because I don’t want my child to look like me… I want him to be like my mom. Undeniably black.
I am a mono-racial light skinned blaq woman and whenever I dated men that didn't really like me in-depthly they would enjoy the attention that they would get from just being with me and yes the flirting and sneaky behavior of and towards other women would take place, so yes certain types of these men will do that sort of thing if they don't truly love and or respect you.
YEW TOLD NO LIES(.)
As a black man myself, a scene from a movie titled The Outlaw Josey Wales comes to mind. In which Clint Eastwood stated, I Don’t Want Anybody Belonging To Me!
Oooh this is a good one
thank you!
Interesting topic,good view points
Thank you so much!
ALL of humans problem can come down to one thing and one thing up above everything else -
And that is humans inability to sit in a quiet room and enjoy the ambience and beauty of God's creation -
- The girls gotta gossip..
AND the News gotta sell everybody the bad sensationalist News -
- Girl haven't you heard by " now " Go where your celebrated NOT where you're just tolerated -
-🎵 Well there is a road🎵 with a distant love🎶 And the eagle 🎶 flies with the dove 🎵
And and if you can't be with the one you love 🎶 Love the One You're With 🎵🎼 You're going to be the one who's going to truly miss being around people who truly love them You won't even get to know what that's truly like 😂
Im a light skin black woman...but also only 70% African. Other 30% is native American and European. Am i mixed? Anyway im grew up in white neighborhoods so i didnt really have black friends until highschool. Ive always dated outside my race. Is that ok?
Yes you’re mixed
I'm light skin I don't do any of that type of stuff
I guess it weird cuz I'm Cambodian n I like dark skinned black women but they have to be skinny cuz I'm skinny
Has nothing to do with the topic of the video.🙄😏
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9:06 😂
Love it keep it up
I used to be open to the idea of interracial dating when I was a virgin as far as casually talking to them and i never been with a black guy sexually or anything like that it was completely platonic but after I lost my virginity to a white man all I want is my own and when black men approach me since ir dating is very common now, and now I’m just like nope because sex is spiritual to me and when you have sex with your own race you gravitate more towards that. I was a late bloomer at 23 more than my friends and I don’t regret it but I centered myself losing my virginity and found a guy who could give me a good experience and wasn’t a douche but he was 3 times my age 💀 😂 in his 50s but it was still a very good experience but I know my parents wouldn’t approve of it and understandably so. I felt like I made my sexual debut and it was on my terms
Hey is there an email you can be reached at? 🙃
Yes exoticalsunited@gmail.com
My dad is the exception.