They try and humble you by reminding you that you're not thee lightest skinned person they've met, yet they don't treat you like their own. The mean looks at first sight, boycotting Women who look like you in media, using you to meet Men in social settings, and asking you to dumb your looks down is what's to follow.
right, they use phrases like "youre not that light skinned" and they love pointing out people lighter than you. but who IS the most light skinned? you'd have to be white passing and we all know there are plenty of light skins who are not white passing so theyre being disingenuous. theyre just trying to invalidate your identity
Omggoosh I thought I was the only one. I always wondered why black women hate me 😂😂😂 and I said to a guy why do you hate me when I literally represent you in the media and the guy said THAT is the problem. So I was like then why do they always remind me I’m black then also shut me out of the black race at the same time???? He said it’s a sick mind game they all play he is a darkskined man
I also notice that darker skinned unambiguous black women who have ambiguous features (smaller nose and lips, looser hair texture, or even petite frame) are more likely to be called brown skin and not dark skinned like ever
OMG YES! people REFUSE to call someone dark skinned when they have non black facial features, light eyes, straight hair etc. its because people equate dark skin to unambiguous blackness
I have a caramel complexion and I’ve gotten a few insults from darker toned women throwing my skin tone in my face and I never understood why. I would NEVER do that to them. I love the skin I’m in and if certain people can’t accept that then oh well.
Exactly. Imagine if dark skinned black women started talking about colorism and were like “shut up you’re not even dark skinned so you can’t speak”. Or imagine if a DSBW started uplifting her own skin tone and I’m like “shut up you’re not even chocolate anyway” - like, that REEKS of jealousy
right! why is it always non light skinned people arguing back and forth over who is light skinned or who looks black and who doesn't? and why are they always over here spying on this channel calling us names? lol like cant they give watch time to the black unambiguous channels? this is exactly how they popularize us. they spend all their time and energy arguing about us then getting outraged, meanwhile we are laughing all the way to the bank at our newfound popularity like ice spice.
I got bullied a lot by dark skin women. I have a white father and nothing they say will cause me to deny him I am proud of my father and would not trade him for another.
They want to gatekeep the “light skin “ label because these mono racials do not like Chloe and Halles tfeatures. I noticed that when it comes to women being light skin they need to be really light or have mixed features ie not having a wide nose or big lips or sometimes even kinky hair.
Yes. She’s going to grow up and “benefit from colorism” just like her mother. People only call her brown because of her facial features and hair. They won’t admit that if you don’t look mixed enough in terms of facial features and hair texture they’ll call you brown instead of light even if you are still light .
I've been betrayed by so many DS women in my life, its not even funny. The very ppl I thought were friends were actually enemies secretly competing with me. Telling me "You're not light skinned" like I never said I was. I've never mentioned my complexion yet yall do... Some of these women would date men that I was seeing, and the men would leave me for them just to come back soon afterwards once they realize it was just s3x. But for the women it was a badge of honor for them. It's so weird how I thought I had allies and actual sisterhood, but no. I was either a punching bag or made to believe I had to dim my light for them to shine.
Omg yes! It’s hilarious how people Randomly try to say stuff like “you’re not light skinned” or “you don’t look mixed” as if we are Supposed to define ourselves by one random haters opinion …
Experienced then and now! Or they compare me to another light skin woman and will always say “oh, but she’s lighter than you!” Ma’am we’re both light skin women with different undertones!!!
I recently had a light skin girl tell me I wasn’t light skinned. However, I’ve been called this my whole life. I am also extremely attractive in comparison to that girl. So, some light skinned girls especially if that’s all they have to hold on to will gate keep light skin.
I came to comment this. A lot of mixed race women have been the ones to try and humble me. My existence seems to cause them confusion once they find out I'm fully black 😂
lmao if youre not white passing youre automatically "brown skinned unambiguous" ☠️ but then when you get chosen for opportunities suddenly its due to you benefitting from colorism
I'm not American, but because I use social media a lot, I've begun to see the amount of hate towards mixed race Americans, light skin Americans of colour pick up. I'm glad you're creating this space because the hate is becoming a lot. I don't like the way the AA community treats this type of phenotype. It's as if they are trying to erase them and their experiences. It'S shocking to be quite honest, as an outsider.
i have mixed grandparents buuut I think my black dna is around that 75 percent mark. I’m so glad she’s mentioning a lot of the mind games and double standards that exist in the black community.
Thank the stars for this channel 🙏🏼 I'm a LS mono BW and I've never felt like I fit into other BW spaces simply because I have Halle Bailey's complexion (to the point where people actually assume I'm mixed) and I'm a natural 6-7. The hate I received in my childhood from my DS/less facial fortunate classmates, and family members caused me to feel extremely ugly and hide myself. I only just found you today while on my self love journey and you've really encouraged me to embrace my skin color and looks and level myself up for the life I want to live, thank you so much!❤❤❤❤
This was healing ! Thank you !my parents are mixed ! My mom is Navajo /indigenous (her dad)and Irish (her mom) , and my dad is Mexican Korean French (his mom) and mexican indigenous(his dad)!! I’m lighter than both my parents and everything you said was true even women who aren’t black but still mixed go through a lot too
This is the truest thing i have ever heard. I have been voicing this loud & proud. Its terrible living here in Arkansas. Im from originally from Las Vegas & in the south its terrible. I had a friend who was deep chocolate tell me i was her only skin friend because i didnt act light skin & that light skin women all acted like they were better because they were light.😩 i wish i could tell you about my experience of whag it was like growing up with a dark mother and 4 dark plus size sisters.
Omg I’m so glad I discovered this video. I’ve always been attacked by dark skinned women who were supposed to be my friends even though I’ve done nothing to them. It was always so uncomfortable for me… like If it’s not acceptable one way why should it be acceptable the other way around? You have my subscribe 💕 I’m excited to see what else you will post!
This channel has definitely taught me to embrace being mixed. Usually when people would ask me i would immediately say no because in school they would call me "curry" and it made me not wanna be mixed. Now when someone ask i say Yessss i ammm💅
yay! im glad youre embracing every part of yourself! have you ever noticed how every other ethnicity can embrace all parts of themselves EXCEPT us mixed people? we always have to pick one side only (usually the black side)
@@ExoticalsUnited yup! Its like the black community wants mixed people to feel embarrassed of saying they're mixed outloud. Cause right after they start with the typical insults "You're not even THAT lightskin" or You're suddenly ugly🙄
I notice how a lot of things are different depending on skin tone and who gets away with saying things too. Foxy Brown (the rapper) who is dark skinned but mixed, says a lot of "featurist" things about having keen features and her hair grade being "good" and makes fun of women who use edge control/gel to do their baby hair. If a light skinned mixed woman said the same thing, she'd be cancelled. LisaRaye said something about Blu Ivy's hair being 'untamed' (how she views "nappy" hair) and everyone dragged her. Foxy Brown for example constantly brags about her features and hair texture even clowning other dark skinned women who have different hair texture or she thinks she looks better than. JT (who isn't mixed but dark skinned) does this all the time on twitter too. Asian Doll (the rapper) does this as well. They call other dark women "crispy" and other names but don't get cancelled.
@sarahbrown3938 I'm wondering, too, because I grew up on Lil Kim & Foxy Brown and I still come across interviews with them here and there, but I've NEVER heard Foxy say anything like that. I would think that those type of comments would go viral. Or at least they'd come across my timeline.
@@GB_008 In her King Magazine interview and XXL Magazine interview with her brothers on the cover with her, she bragged about having keen features and good hair. lol
Brown skinned girl here... I hate how chicks go in on light skinned or mixed girls... it is so dumb, and REEKS of jealousy. I also happen to have a mixed daughter... I hope she does not get haters in school. I'm a bit afraid of that.
When I was in school, every girl that ever tried to start fights with was dark skinned. I didn’t realize until I was older that it was because I was light skinned. I always stayed to myself and never bothered anyone.
I believe we are so hated because it’s the closest thing unambiguous women can closely identify with the most, if that makes sense. For example, I dated this guy and his mother who was dark skin HATED me for absolutely no reason. I was confused at first because I didn’t know bp hated lsbp over skin tone. I grew up around white ppl. He told me she would refer to me as “I thought I was all that”, and he would splurge on me and she would tell him I wanted him for his money etc. mind you this woman was in her 50s and I was 19. We broke up, and some time later we reconnected. Between that time, he dated a white girl who the stuff his mother forbade me to do, she allowed the white girl to do. By the time we reconnected I was pretty familiar with the colorism subject. I realized the terminology she used against me is typical dark skin to light skin slander. They envy our natural confidence and how they see us as being easily accepted in the world over them. They see us as some form of competition and that if they do this and that, they have a chance to compete with us. These women view the world as who they can compete with. I realized after that, dark skin black women hate light skin black women more than they hate white, latina, and Asian women. That wasn’t the only instance of a non bw being involved in a situation. As weird as this may sound, I’ve realized black men have children with 1. women they’re attracted to or 2. Reproduce with a woman to have daughters that resemble the women they’re attracted to. Most bm want to be with light skin/ mixed black women, but get rejected by us more times than not so they go with the next thing, having babies that look like us. I’ve heard actual fathers of BiR women say to their BiR daughters, “I look good with you(their daughter) next to me (the father).” WEIRD! But when you think about it dsbw fo it too!
Yes and I believe that women who obsess and behave like that are generally women who have centered men’s opinions, even if that man is her own son. A lot of BW treat their sons like surrogate husbands and they enjoy birthing sons because they enjoy the free male validation they will receive from having a boy child.
@@ExoticalsUnitedExactly. She was in so much competition with me too over HER son! She barricaded him in his room as I was waiting for him outside in my car because she wouldn’t let me in their house! She didn’t want him to leave with me to go on our date. I pray to God I don’t marry a mamas boy or a mom who is weird like that regarding her son.
Other than that I agree. I’m more black than anything and at least 3x even white women with mixed daughters or with a black man will say they want their daughters to look like me. Forgetting I’m black
skin tone is subjective. different people will have different opinions. just because someone is darker than me doesnt suddenly make them not light skinned. i dont determine their experiences when they navigate through society. in her makeup video she was wearing fenty shades 300 and 330 (she mixed them). if those shades arent light skinned then you must believe that you must have a non black skin tone in order to be light skinned (fenty shades 200 and above, more like an asian person or tan white girl). again, why is it that when it comes to the lighter skinned black conversation or the mixed conversation, suddenly whiteness is the standard, and if you dont like white or you dont have a completly non black skin tone youre not light skinned or not mixed?
i used to feel the same way because i’ve gotten so many mixed-opinions on if i was but they definitely are lighter-skinned brown girls, a lot like beyoncé, tyrah, megan good & rihanna. and herby revolus made an amazing statement that kind of solidified my opinion on the matter; not sure if he’s the originator of it but it says, “lightskin people have the option to either be considered light or brown, brown skin people don’t.” so if i have to question it because the seasons are giving me different version of you, you’re most likely lighter skinned, just not the most light-skinned if that makes sense 😭
Okay I see what you are saying now. That makes sense. I suppose it comes from how I was raised and taught. But now I completely understand what you mean. @@ExoticalsUnited
I can’t get enough of your videos Ms. Exoticals. You are truly an EXPERT on the topic of colorism and without bias, at the same time defending the voice of exoticals. You really do understand our plight. And like you say, we do exist and we do have our own experiences…tysm ♥️
Theres ALOT of infighting in the black community… and that ish lives in peoples heads rent free. Hair, skin, status, upbringing, beauty, physique, attributes, intelligence, fashion, “blackness”… the fights never end 🤦🏾♂️
im lightskin and both my parents and all 4 grandparents are black, but they take my blackness from me the SECOND they dont agree. like i was such a good ally to them for years and i got nothing in return. Im never gonna be rude but i cannot take it anymore
I'm trying to deconstruct the gaslighting that has erased my identity as an MGM multiracial woman. I've been taught for so long that being interested in or identitying with anything other than blackness means I hate myself and I hate black people. But the sheer cognitive dissonance to pretend that my lived experience is anything close to that of UADS BW is farcical. I'm not trying to distance myself from blackness. No one with eyes could look at me and not immediately see my black ancestry. I'm not ashamed of my black ancestry. But why should I be shamed for relating to and finding more common ground with other MLS people? I look like and get treated like a mixed race person because I am one. I'm tired of pretending otherwise. If you've experienced being asked where you're *really* from or asked if you have a white parent or have been straight up fetishized as an exotical, you're an exotical.
I'm so glad CZcams recommended this channel 😭 It all resonates and I'm sad to hear that women my complexion have dealt with the same racial issues, but it gives me solace that my unsavory occurences were not isolated ones. I am grateful for you educating the masses ❤✨️
I'm not usually into these racial mix videos, but I came across this one today, and I have to say, as a lighter skinned black man with two black parents, I agree 100%.
thats pretty much it.... then they say "we have nothing to be jealous of!" and its like sorry but yes you do because you guys talk about it all the time. you talk about how youre jealous of our dating options, our fluid identities, our beauty, our proximity to non blackness? 🙄 so who's the real colorist texturist and featurist?
We light skin people would be united against blacks and whites, we are hated for being inbetween, I'm a lightskin male and my phenotype facial features is north African mixed different from my families who were jelouse and used me as the scapegoat. I was hated by both dark skin blacks and whites out of pure jelousy. Dark skin blacks are so j3louse of us they are very quick to claim us among non blacks and say we are black also because of there own insecurities of jelousy knowing we are not them. Whites hate us because of our lightskin admixture and will side with the blacks against us in bully tactics to make us feel low and make us believe we are on the same footing as the darkskin blacks . The truth is we lightskin are a seperate race from both, we are inbetween and are not them. Let us lightskin form a separation from them all, we are the lightskin race
I’m glad this was discussed, and I’m so thankful for channels like this. I have a similar complexion, and full features like Chloe and Halle, but with curly hair. I’ve told people in the past of how mean mono racial ds people are to those of us who have their features, but are light skin. DS mono racial people have a tendency to test our blackness, and see how we’ll react to that behavior. They aren’t nicer to us, because they can relate to us as another black person, as some people believe. As mentioned, all the advantages of being black is there as a lsbw, but having more access to getting something “easier” than they can produces a lot of hate. As much as they want to humble us and call us brown, as I look around the room with other black people, I’m usually one of the lightest ones. The difference in our complexions are very noticeable
I'm AA, both my parents are black...grandparents are black....but my phenotype says otherwise to alot of people. All my life I've heard I"m not black enough based on my skin tone, features, and the way that I speak. It's caused me a lot of confusion. And my mom seems to have a complex because any time I would tell her about my experiences about people confusing me as mixed or biracial, she'll get upset and think I like it when people say that. When it's literally just my experience. I feel like as a LS somewhat ambiguous black woman, I feel like people try to force me into the mixed category or other category (often referring me as looking mexican or asian) And I never felt like I fit in anywhere. It's very stressful and people tend to project a lot of weird shit on to you. They create a personality for you, just based on their own preconcieved ideas.
Wow! I’m chocolate and I feel mY skin colored is desired just as much as light skinned. My family is very mixed race so we have a lot of lighter skinned women, but when we go out we aren’t in any competition and protect one another equally! I must lived under a rock because this isn’t an issue with us!
I appreciate all beauty and naively never knew there was a Civil War against skin tones. However, I do notice when I acknowledge the beauty of a light skin Sister, I get a side eye, (like what's wrong with you) and then I'm politely redirected to an attractive dark skinned sister. I think it's insane!
This vid is a hard truth for a lot of BW. I’ve def experienced some of these same perceptions as a lighter-skinned BW by DSBW & you’re spot on with this. I don’t think some BW recognize this sometimes & it wouldn’t be received well if I said it, but I don’t have to bc you’ve done it here. And you’ve done a great job of it. I’m gonna share this 1. I don’t think anyone else has explained this situation better than you have here. Great video 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
With enough sun, I can get very dark but it never lasts, so my skin tone is always up for debate. DSBW used to ask the non blk boys in school to compare our skin tones. When it came to me they would say “yeah she’s dark now because we’ve been outside but she usually isn’t” and the anger that would cause was crazy. Notice they never asked to compare in the winter.
This! I’ve noticed that when deciding a light persons skin tone they always take a picture of you at your darkest and then when they talk about dark skinned people they use pictures of them at their brightest, in professional studio lighting ☠️
Lol! This is so funny because they ALWAYS try to make us believe that non-blacks don't see the difference in our complexions. They love to believe that a Gabrielle Union and a Beyoncé will be viewed EXACTLY THE SAME by non-blacks and they actually try to use this false idea as a way to humble us. The reality is that EVERYONE sees color and they will deal with you accordingly. Sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes it's bad. But non-blacks always notice the difference even if they don't point it out. But if you ask them, they'll definitely say it out loud. For some reason, this triggers DS BW so badly.😩😅
What’s interesting is while growing up I never referred to myself as lightskinned because my family is deep ebony so I just thought I was black. Blackness was the standard Culturally So that means “black” skin (including lighter tones-mono racial) you are what your parents are in my opinion. I was around my ebony mom so I was black. It wasn’t until my ebony best friend pointed out as a child did I realize I was “light skinned”. She would always bring it up. It made me insecure and sad. I don’t walk around thinking I’m “light skinned”. Not because I’m virtuous. I just don’t feel the difference. Obviously there is in society but I never got the treatment people are talking about. I was treated as a black woman always😂. People are obsessed with tone. I have a ebony baby and everyone keeps talking about her skin. I never thought she was “darker”. Obviously I’m not blind but I just love my baby. She’s like me. We’re just black people. Yes I advocate because the world is jacked and colourism is real but in our homes we need to be clear, accepting, and loving across the board.
Right because I remember a darker skin cousin of mine told me to do the "light skin thing" and stay out of a situation. I will never forget that and I knew right away she saw me as lesser than and not an equal family member. @@ExoticalsUnited
@@ExoticalsUnitedyup that’s wat I say darkskin women need to be real with themselves first n address their bitterness and their “choosing who is lightskin” n why they do that THEN we can talk colorism
Everything from my facial features, complexion, eyes, body frame, and hair length made people assume I was mixed my whole life. It seems like mean people are were mad they couple throw certain mean statements they make at mixed people against me They did LOVE the “you’re adopted” and “are you sure your dad is your dad” thing ughhh
Can’t we all just get along? It’s so absurd. None of us had anything to do with the skin color and features we were born with. So much division. It’s sad. It’s cool for people to have a space where they felt seen and heard. But sometimes it’s just so negative and divisive on BOTH sides. How do we find common ground and close the gap?
If you feel this channel is divisive it’s not the channel for you. Feel free to unsubscribe or block me if you do not like the content so that my channel and this community doesn’t show up in your algorithm.
You say that either I am black or not I am not sometimes black. That so fake how come now you want to pull that card could it be because the exotical community could win us over? Could you feel threatened by how much they really understand us better? Do you finally come to realize that the scare tactics y'all have been using are working against you? We're tired of sometimes black not black in this circumstances but black in others we've opened up doors and y'all have used it started calling us colorist, featurist, texturist, the list goes on and on. Remember Hollywoods doors were shut! It was us that paved the way we opened the doors so any black person can finally be let in. You want to humble us for knowing that we are pretty girls then turn around and say no we're not light skinned, get outta here with that
Every darkskin hate on my beautiful lightskin daughters they come and tell me i just tell them they just want to be you because your beautiful and have a nice body 😂😂😂😂
Guys I know we are sitting in the remnants of systematic racism but let’s not forget that a lot of the self hate that our community perpetuates is via Willie Lynch. A lot of this behavior is subconsciously unaccounted for. While there is no excuse for the negativity I hope atleast one side of this debacle can have some empathy, as we move towards innerstanding each side’s struggles.
The Willie Lynch has been debunked way too many times for you to be coming into this comment section trying to use it as a reference.🙄 All adults have a mind of their own and, aside from someone potentially having a clininal mental illness, everyone is perfectly capable of respecting others and accepting others who look different than them. If dark-skinned unambiguous blacks are being disrespectful and dismissive towards light-skinned blacks, they're doing it because THEY CHOOSE TO. You cannot use that false letter as an excuse. Do better!
11:27 LOL!!!! My own father could never bring himself to verbally declare that he realized that I was "light skinned" with light eyes. It was like the unspoken theme in my home.
You should do video on racially ambiguous because people act racially ambiguous has to be light skin that is false because i am brown skin racially ambiguous and get mistake from diffeact race. I think the singer Llyod says people think he is Guyanse and Trindadian becuase lot of them are Blasian, Indian, Arab
People also act like racially ambiguous also means being very lightskinned with "European features" that to me just means they're going to be directly associated with white people,but it doesn't means they're the only ones who are racially ambiguous 😂 Tatiana Ali is very racially ambiguous I would never say "black " for her, I thought she was indian, she's a blasian
I FEEL SO SEEN!!!!!🥰 Where was this group when I was in my twenties being bullied for my skin tone! I spent soooo much time worring about why they didn't like me! Took years to realize it was pointless to try!🤷🏽♀️
❤I love the content. I dont know which celebrity i fall into, but once a guy called me black jet li (i guess the recerence between Aaliyah and Jet Li from romeo must die). Growing up i used to deny being mix, but i now fully embraced my mix. Ive come across a lot of dsbw that would have a attitude, rude, all in your business and highly make you want to quick your job. Now whenever i go to places, i usually avoid dsbw that would be rude. 😍☺️you are speaking the truth.
They call them Multigenerational mixed to invalidate their Blackness yet I know people from West Africa(I point this out cause this is where most slaves were taken from) who are light skinned yet aren't mixed.
Yeah that’s why I just say “light skinned” because I feel like if we call everyone mixed it confuses people, that’s why I put a percentage point on my channel (it’s just so no one gets confused with what groups I’m talking about in the videos, I don’t care what people do in real life)
A lot of women from West Africa bleach and cake-on makeup so there’s a good chance that they ain’t really light skinned. The main exceptions are the Fula and a few other tribes that mixed with North African groups throughout history.
I was told I was more on the brown dark skin tone by a man versus women who see me as light skin. It's so weird. Thank god I haven't faced hatred for my skin complexion but I have heard the stories from others.
DS UABW hate light skinned UABW because we get to say we're black and get accepted as black and get all the benefits of being black,such as you can say you have melanin,you can say you have black girl magic,you fit into black spaces,ride the natural hair trend etc.basically benefit from everything that's black but everything that's negative about being black doesn't affect you such as the negative side of colorism. So you get the positives but none of the negatives. It's a love hate relationship imo.its like your one of us but not one of us.
Monoracial black women hate us because we look better with afro textured hairstyles( I'm on the Ella Mai sector of being multigenerationally mixed) than they do. We celebrate different elements of black culture better than they do look at Bruno Mars.
Honestly in the Caribbean this is so common that we literally just call people black unless they say otherwise interestingly you will also meet mixed people who don't look like it
@iguessitizwhatitiz Its weird you would say that because Jamaica at the time also had a Irish Prime Minister called Michael Manley . Bob Marley was lightskin and straight nosed
@@theultimateartist4153 yes there are a lot of biracial people that get called black all the time, Bob Marley was just trying to get his exotical tax I guess ! 😂
At high school one of my best friends told me that i wasn’t beautiful. That people consider I’m attractive because I am light skin. If I was black I wouldn’t be attractive. This comment shocked me at that time and I really believed for a long time that I wasn’t beautiful
I had to sit in the sun for 3 hours cause of the dirty looks especially in pre school-elementary school.. they accused me of bleaching, low iron, etc.. then they seen my sisters & cousins 💀💀
all my daughters are lightskins and bi racial women they all beatiful im a lightskin black man and i love myself and my daughters they are the best daughters a father can have 😊😊😊😊😂😂😂😎😎😜😊
Great, Vid. I am a new sub. You are hitting on great points!!!!! I hope you will do a video on hair next. Like mixed women getting shamed in the natural hair community, but other women can wear hair that resembles mixed women and not get shamed (ie. Stretching hair to look mixed)
you have the right to use whatever nickname for yourself you want but in my opinion just like dark brown is dark skinned, light brown would be light skinned.
@@ExoticalsUnited I agree. I go based off what makes others comfortable. it is funny because I am called light by black men who are darker and it depends on the woman whether or not I am considered light lol.
@@divinecreation1217 yeah, ive noticed other women will only call you light skinned if they don't see you as a threat . if they dont like your personality or they already think youre a snob suddenly youre "not that light skinned". chloe is fenty shade 300 to 330. if fenty shade 300 isnt light skinned i dont know what is. notice how theres a whole spectrum of dark skinned and then you have to be WHITE SKINNED in order to be light skinned. like no. if we are always being called light skinned in our every day lives, if our foundation shades are named things like "butter pecan", and if we are banned from talking about our side of the colorism story- then were light skinned and thats it! 😂
Yes, both my parents are black. My mom is brown skin and my dad is light skin. I can easily pass for Puerta Rican or Spanish if it wasn’t for my 4b hair 😂 I am more Beyonce’s color even lighter in the winter! I actually LOVE my 4b hair because it’s so unique and beautiful. I wear extensions whenever I want. I’m not going to say all UABW have an issue with my skin tone but I will say MOST do. Just being honest. Every now and then I’ll meet a cool DS UABW that has confidence in herself around me but for the most part it’s “friction” when I’m in the presence of a DS UABW .. I never understood it until I got older and began learning about colorism. Being light skinned and beautiful will get you hated in the black community. And by the way I have family members ranging from looking white to having dark skin as dark as coal.
I’ve been considered light skin after moving cities and being around foreigners. They said I’m light skin not brown, and I denied their comment and said no… I’m brown.. I’ve always been seen as just brown skinned. I’m the same complexion as Tara banks and people have asked if I’m mixed or have a white father in the past while growing up. I never thought much of it til moving.. thank you for making this video. This all makes sense, especially with how people interact with light skin black women !!
I agree on that Little Mermaid thing. Halle Bailey is a Multiracial Woman👩🏽. And I saw alot of these↪👩🏿\👩🏾, talking about she look just like me. They duping themselves. She doesn't look like y'all, neither does HER, who played Belle.
right the average unambiguous african american woman is NOT fenty shade 300 as was described in chloes makeup video, and the average unambiguous black woman does NOT have a phillipino mother! lmao the desperation to tether onto their phenotypes is beyond me. chloe even called herself light and yellow in the actual vogue makeup video. so chloe will be representing for light skins and yellowbones whether the black community likes it or not. H.E.R has gone to awards shows and said things like "shoutout to my philipino mother" so H.E.R is very proud to be mixed race. how come everyone else can be proud of their skin tones or proud of their race but if youre mixed or if youre not darker skinned suddenly you cannot be proud of who you are?
@@ExoticalsUnitedYeah, cause they 👩🏿\👩🏾 see, Whoppi Goldberg, Normani, Keke Palmer and Viola Davis as unattractive. I'm quite sure Chrissie👩🏿 feels that way "secretly". Actually most people do. That's why you don't see them as the face of Pepsi, McDonald's, Flamin Hot, Disney, Celeb Perfumes etc.....
@@Sinadarling You're desperately tryna latch on to a MGM woman... She don't look like you.. That's why Hollywood picked her... Do to her ambiguity... Halle Bailey is Mixed.... You don't see European Women latching on to a Mixed Woman...
@@Sinadarling They're Mixed Lady... Outside of the "Western World & America", their seen as Mixed... You have to understand, the US do to it's history with the One Drop Rule, force's other countries to see Mixed People as Black. The U.S. spread the One Drop Rule all over the western world.
@@Sinadarling Black Women👩🏿👩🏿 are gonna have to learn how to promote their own phenotype.... Not rely on Mixed Women to do that for them... That's not healthy behavior...
You should stop including Tyra In your videos, she did a show on colorism and went off on this light skin woman and told her dark skin women have every right to lash out at light skin women. The video clip of her doing this is all over CZcams, She is a savior.
I know that some of these people are saviors . Exotical is not an actual race . I’m just using their skin tones as examples. I don’t know these celebrities in real life nor do I look up to them in any way.
Just a suggestion: you might get less pushback and accusations of colorism or whatever if, when comparing women of different skin tones you stuck to women of similar levels of attractiveness. I have noticed you will use Rihanna, Meg thee Stallion, Nikki Minaj, Beyonce, Chloe and Halle Bailey, Ella Mai etc. as examples of light skinned women but then mention women like Whoopi Goldberg, Viola Davis, etc. as being dark skinned. Why not mention attractive dark skinned women - Tika Sumpter, Issa Rae, Yvonne Orji,Normani, etc. so people won't think you are being unfair? Just a suggestion!
I already mention tika sumpter on this channel go to my most recent videos . btw I never thought viola Davis wasn’t pretty as I also use older MLS women like Halle berry. Others are the ones who view Halle berry as “prettier” than viola Davis. I do not tend to compare women’s attractiveness and anyone who doesn’t pedestalize one look over another shouldn’t be offended. If they are this channel isn’t for them
I don’t get why people keep separating and making new categories. Like enough. Race is black in white in all parts of the world. If your brown your considered black if your pale/ lighter your considered white. To correct terms of use. Race and Ethnicity two different things. Ethnicity is where your from and your family tree. Only in the United States where people are this confused. And stop assuming and labeling people who they are cause that’s what you see fit. Stop picking and choosing who’s black because that’s how you feel. Two dark brown parents can produce a pale or lighter child… Also Brown people are dominant gene and pale are recessive genes. Recessive are always blue green gray eyes, loser hair or lighter hair due to less melanin production… only thing that makes people in the world different is culture, language and location. That’s the honest truth.
we know this. but since unambiguous people want to kick us mixed race or lighter skinned people out of their conversations, we are starting our own. this is our safe space and this channel is not for everyone . anyone who comes on here trying to control the narrative will be banned and deleted. everyone else gets to talk about whatever they want on youtube- why is it that mls people suddenly need to be quiet and "get over it?"
@@ExoticalsUnited Everyone can say whatever ever you want. You personally can post anything you want, and Freedom of speech and platform. But there’s always open discussion applied to it. I notice the dominant race is the only ones who’s keeps colorism going but always point fingers at the pale people saying they cause racism. Just like your saying Darkest brown people have a problem with lighter brown people. The real conversation with Black/brown shades as a whole has to do with envy and just pure jealousy and being in denial. That the honest conversation people need to have and self reflection. Stop putting anger towards people because you want what you what you wear not born with. And making people feel bad because they were born with. You can’t get made at genetics like seriously 😂 another thing is who cares if you don’t fit at the table, you make your own table if you don’t fit in. Just like you made a Channel for a Particular audience/ viewers. You made a space and that’s ok just like the other people do. Like Humans we are always dividing no matter what it is that’s just how humans are. Earliest lesson of this would be bing in school where everyone had their own clique. And some probably got made They didn’t fit in the group the wanted to be in. So it up to the individual to form their own group or join what exists.
They try and humble you by reminding you that you're not thee lightest skinned person they've met, yet they don't treat you like their own. The mean looks at first sight, boycotting Women who look like you in media, using you to meet Men in social settings, and asking you to dumb your looks down is what's to follow.
right, they use phrases like "youre not that light skinned" and they love pointing out people lighter than you. but who IS the most light skinned? you'd have to be white passing and we all know there are plenty of light skins who are not white passing so theyre being disingenuous. theyre just trying to invalidate your identity
Omggoosh I thought I was the only one. I always wondered why black women hate me 😂😂😂 and I said to a guy why do you hate me when I literally represent you in the media and the guy said THAT is the problem. So I was like then why do they always remind me I’m black then also shut me out of the black race at the same time???? He said it’s a sick mind game they all play he is a darkskined man
It's uncanny how similar things are in the latin community.
I also notice that darker skinned unambiguous black women who have ambiguous features (smaller nose and lips, looser hair texture, or even petite frame) are more likely to be called brown skin and not dark skinned like ever
OMG YES! people REFUSE to call someone dark skinned when they have non black facial features, light eyes, straight hair etc. its because people equate dark skin to unambiguous blackness
Wow that is insane
I have a caramel complexion and I’ve gotten a few insults from darker toned women throwing my skin tone in my face and I never understood why. I would NEVER do that to them. I love the skin I’m in and if certain people can’t accept that then oh well.
Exactly. Imagine if dark skinned black women started talking about colorism and were like “shut up you’re not even dark skinned so you can’t speak”. Or imagine if a DSBW started uplifting her own skin tone and I’m like “shut up you’re not even chocolate anyway” - like, that REEKS of jealousy
That’s very true!!
I AM YELLOW/LIGHT SKINNED, 🙌🙌
and I'm proud of it.
They are all in lightskinned women's business, monitoring our skintones & hair texture, we live in their minds rent free. 😂😂😂
right! why is it always non light skinned people arguing back and forth over who is light skinned or who looks black and who doesn't? and why are they always over here spying on this channel calling us names? lol like cant they give watch time to the black unambiguous channels? this is exactly how they popularize us. they spend all their time and energy arguing about us then getting outraged, meanwhile we are laughing all the way to the bank at our newfound popularity like ice spice.
"Monitoring our skintones & hair texture" omg 🤣🤣🤣 truest written statement I've seen today 🤣
@@ExoticalsUnitedreason is darker skins are mean to beige ppl. No matter how kind beige are! Sad and pathetic people
The men being more quickly considered light skinned is so real. Our color changes and that makes them mad
I got bullied a lot by dark skin women. I have a white father and nothing they say will cause me to deny him I am proud of my father and would not trade him for another.
They want to gatekeep the “light skin “ label because these mono racials do not like Chloe and Halles tfeatures. I noticed that when it comes to women being light skin they need to be really light or have mixed features ie not having a wide nose or big lips or sometimes even kinky hair.
Yup! If Chloe and Halle had wavy hair their skin tone wouldn’t even be an argument .
It never made sense why they called blue Ivy brown skin girl because to me clearly she is light skin like Beyonce.
Yes. She’s going to grow up and “benefit from colorism” just like her mother. People only call her brown because of her facial features and hair. They won’t admit that if you don’t look mixed enough in terms of facial features and hair texture they’ll call you brown instead of light even if you are still light .
This is my situation.I call it " the blue ivy" syndrome
I've been betrayed by so many DS women in my life, its not even funny. The very ppl I thought were friends were actually enemies secretly competing with me. Telling me "You're not light skinned" like I never said I was. I've never mentioned my complexion yet yall do... Some of these women would date men that I was seeing, and the men would leave me for them just to come back soon afterwards once they realize it was just s3x. But for the women it was a badge of honor for them. It's so weird how I thought I had allies and actual sisterhood, but no. I was either a punching bag or made to believe I had to dim my light for them to shine.
Omg yes! It’s hilarious how people
Randomly try to say stuff like “you’re not light skinned” or “you don’t look mixed” as if we are Supposed to define ourselves by one random haters opinion …
Experienced then and now! Or they compare me to another light skin woman and will always say “oh, but she’s lighter than you!” Ma’am we’re both light skin women with different undertones!!!
@@sashaclarke2749that 💅
I recently had a light skin girl tell me I wasn’t light skinned. However, I’ve been called this my whole life. I am also extremely attractive in comparison to that girl. So, some light skinned girls especially if that’s all they have to hold on to will gate keep light skin.
So true , and I don’t tolerate that mindset on this channel (identity policing)
I came to comment this. A lot of mixed race women have been the ones to try and humble me. My existence seems to cause them confusion once they find out I'm fully black 😂
"You really not dat lightskinded" 😂
lmao if youre not white passing youre automatically "brown skinned unambiguous" ☠️ but then when you get chosen for opportunities suddenly its due to you benefitting from colorism
😂😂 they love saying that one
I'm not American, but because I use social media a lot, I've begun to see the amount of hate towards mixed race Americans, light skin Americans of colour pick up. I'm glad you're creating this space because the hate is becoming a lot. I don't like the way the AA community treats this type of phenotype. It's as if they are trying to erase them and their experiences. It'S shocking to be quite honest, as an outsider.
i have mixed grandparents buuut I think my black dna is around that 75 percent mark. I’m so glad she’s mentioning a lot of the mind games and double standards that exist in the black community.
Yes I have more videos coming soon for majority black or monoracial exoticals !
Thank the stars for this channel 🙏🏼 I'm a LS mono BW and I've never felt like I fit into other BW spaces simply because I have Halle Bailey's complexion (to the point where people actually assume I'm mixed) and I'm a natural 6-7. The hate I received in my childhood from my DS/less facial fortunate classmates, and family members caused me to feel extremely ugly and hide myself. I only just found you today while on my self love journey and you've really encouraged me to embrace my skin color and looks and level myself up for the life I want to live, thank you so much!❤❤❤❤
Oh wow thanks for watching ! 😍
Multigenerational mixed here - Dominican 🇩🇴 Love your channel 🤍
Yay ! I’m going to the DR in a few months with my family I’m so excited ! 😍
This was healing ! Thank you !my parents are mixed ! My mom is Navajo /indigenous (her dad)and Irish (her mom) , and my dad is Mexican Korean French (his mom) and mexican indigenous(his dad)!! I’m lighter than both my parents and everything you said was true even women who aren’t black but still mixed go through a lot too
This is the truest thing i have ever heard. I have been voicing this loud & proud. Its terrible living here in Arkansas. Im from originally from Las Vegas & in the south its terrible. I had a friend who was deep chocolate tell me i was her only skin friend because i didnt act light skin & that light skin women all acted like they were better because they were light.😩 i wish i could tell you about my experience of whag it was like growing up with a dark mother and 4 dark plus size sisters.
omg! and yes please give us your storytimes in the comments! because weve been called delusional for far too long. ☕️ 🐸
Right, when in actuality “They’re projecting their own beliefs towards you!”
Omg I’m so glad I discovered this video. I’ve always been attacked by dark skinned women who were supposed to be my friends even though I’ve done nothing to them. It was always so uncomfortable for me… like If it’s not acceptable one way why should it be acceptable the other way around? You have my subscribe 💕 I’m excited to see what else you will post!
I’m in my 40s and I have never felt seen before finding this channel. Ty.
Yay! Welcome !
You don't speak nothing but the truth! Love your channel sis ❤️
Thank you so much beautiful !
This channel has definitely taught me to embrace being mixed. Usually when people would ask me i would immediately say no because in school they would call me "curry" and it made me not wanna be mixed. Now when someone ask i say Yessss i ammm💅
yay! im glad youre embracing every part of yourself! have you ever noticed how every other ethnicity can embrace all parts of themselves EXCEPT us mixed people? we always have to pick one side only (usually the black side)
That's good. I think everyone should embrace who they are. This gender and color war is asinine
@@ExoticalsUnited yup! Its like the black community wants mixed people to feel embarrassed of saying they're mixed outloud. Cause right after they start with the typical insults "You're not even THAT lightskin" or You're suddenly ugly🙄
@@mikhalaa746 do you identify as mixed, black, indian (or whatever your other racial mixing is) or all three
As a light skinned bw, thank you for this video. I agree so much with the points you made!
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How many death threats did you get for telling this TRUTH! 😂 Literally my life experience.
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I notice how a lot of things are different depending on skin tone and who gets away with saying things too. Foxy Brown (the rapper) who is dark skinned but mixed, says a lot of "featurist" things about having keen features and her hair grade being "good" and makes fun of women who use edge control/gel to do their baby hair. If a light skinned mixed woman said the same thing, she'd be cancelled. LisaRaye said something about Blu Ivy's hair being 'untamed' (how she views "nappy" hair) and everyone dragged her. Foxy Brown for example constantly brags about her features and hair texture even clowning other dark skinned women who have different hair texture or she thinks she looks better than. JT (who isn't mixed but dark skinned) does this all the time on twitter too. Asian Doll (the rapper) does this as well. They call other dark women "crispy" and other names but don't get cancelled.
Foxy is colorist?? Or when did she say those things?? I never knew I’m curious to see wat n when she said that
@sarahbrown3938 I'm wondering, too, because I grew up on Lil Kim & Foxy Brown and I still come across interviews with them here and there, but I've NEVER heard Foxy say anything like that. I would think that those type of comments would go viral. Or at least they'd come across my timeline.
@@GB_008 In her King Magazine interview and XXL Magazine interview with her brothers on the cover with her, she bragged about having keen features and good hair. lol
@@yokotoatto4426 Ohhhhhh, okay. I haven't seen that particular article.
Brown skinned girl here... I hate how chicks go in on light skinned or mixed girls... it is so dumb, and REEKS of jealousy.
I also happen to have a mixed daughter... I hope she does not get haters in school. I'm a bit afraid of that.
Yes she will definitely experience haters 😕
When I was in school, every girl that ever tried to start fights with was dark skinned. I didn’t realize until I was older that it was because I was light skinned. I always stayed to myself and never bothered anyone.
I believe we are so hated because it’s the closest thing unambiguous women can closely identify with the most, if that makes sense. For example, I dated this guy and his mother who was dark skin HATED me for absolutely no reason. I was confused at first because I didn’t know bp hated lsbp over skin tone. I grew up around white ppl. He told me she would refer to me as “I thought I was all that”, and he would splurge on me and she would tell him I wanted him for his money etc. mind you this woman was in her 50s and I was 19. We broke up, and some time later we reconnected. Between that time, he dated a white girl who the stuff his mother forbade me to do, she allowed the white girl to do. By the time we reconnected I was pretty familiar with the colorism subject. I realized the terminology she used against me is typical dark skin to light skin slander. They envy our natural confidence and how they see us as being easily accepted in the world over them. They see us as some form of competition and that if they do this and that, they have a chance to compete with us. These women view the world as who they can compete with. I realized after that, dark skin black women hate light skin black women more than they hate white, latina, and Asian women. That wasn’t the only instance of a non bw being involved in a situation. As weird as this may sound, I’ve realized black men have children with 1. women they’re attracted to or 2. Reproduce with a woman to have daughters that resemble the women they’re attracted to. Most bm want to be with light skin/ mixed black women, but get rejected by us more times than not so they go with the next thing, having babies that look like us. I’ve heard actual fathers of BiR women say to their BiR daughters, “I look good with you(their daughter) next to me (the father).” WEIRD! But when you think about it dsbw fo it too!
Yes and I believe that women who obsess and behave like that are generally women who have centered men’s opinions, even if that man is her own son. A lot of BW treat their sons like surrogate husbands and they enjoy birthing sons because they enjoy the free male validation they will receive from having a boy child.
@@ExoticalsUnitedExactly. She was in so much competition with me too over HER son! She barricaded him in his room as I was waiting for him outside in my car because she wouldn’t let me in their house! She didn’t want him to leave with me to go on our date. I pray to God I don’t marry a mamas boy or a mom who is weird like that regarding her son.
Umm last start with the fact that you were 19yo dating someone that old… ANYONE WOULD ASSUME ITS FOR MONEY STOP REACHING
Other than that I agree. I’m more black than anything and at least 3x even white women with mixed daughters or with a black man will say they want their daughters to look like me. Forgetting I’m black
My dad does this too me 🤮🤮🤮 he gets giddy walking around with me because he gets attention and high five from other men
I'm light-skin! 😌
Light skins are the sh!t! 💅
@@ExoticalsUnitedyes we are 🩷🩷🩷💯
@@ExoticalsUnited that just sounds wrong. That’s like a white person being proud to be white. It gets racist /colorist fast 😭
@@Idkjustyetsomething wrong with this bish I’m out for goof
@@IdkjustyetI hate seeing DK blks attacking brown and beige! Christ was better man n he was dark betrayed by his own
Okay so I am light skin and I never thought of Chloe or Hailey being light skin. I dont feel I am trying to be mean about it.
skin tone is subjective. different people will have different opinions. just because someone is darker than me doesnt suddenly make them not light skinned. i dont determine their experiences when they navigate through society. in her makeup video she was wearing fenty shades 300 and 330 (she mixed them). if those shades arent light skinned then you must believe that you must have a non black skin tone in order to be light skinned (fenty shades 200 and above, more like an asian person or tan white girl). again, why is it that when it comes to the lighter skinned black conversation or the mixed conversation, suddenly whiteness is the standard, and if you dont like white or you dont have a completly non black skin tone youre not light skinned or not mixed?
i used to feel the same way because i’ve gotten so many mixed-opinions on if i was but they definitely are lighter-skinned brown girls, a lot like beyoncé, tyrah, megan good & rihanna. and herby revolus made an amazing statement that kind of solidified my opinion on the matter; not sure if he’s the originator of it but it says, “lightskin people have the option to either be considered light or brown, brown skin people don’t.” so if i have to question it because the seasons are giving me different version of you, you’re most likely lighter skinned, just not the most light-skinned if that makes sense 😭
Okay I see what you are saying now. That makes sense. I suppose it comes from how I was raised and taught. But now I completely understand what you mean. @@ExoticalsUnited
They are light skinned.
Sorry I just dont see it and it doesnt really matter anyways. @@velvetrope4181
I can’t get enough of your videos Ms. Exoticals. You are truly an EXPERT on the topic of colorism and without bias, at the same time defending the voice of exoticals. You really do understand our plight. And like you say, we do exist and we do have our own experiences…tysm ♥️
Aw thanks for watching !
This is me. The lighter skinned black woman with less than 25% admixture.
welcome exotical! I hope you feel seen and heard here!
Theres ALOT of infighting in the black community… and that ish lives in peoples heads rent free. Hair, skin, status, upbringing, beauty, physique, attributes, intelligence, fashion, “blackness”… the fights never end 🤦🏾♂️
im lightskin and both my parents and all 4 grandparents are black, but they take my blackness from me the SECOND they dont agree. like i was such a good ally to them for years and i got nothing in return. Im never gonna be rude but i cannot take it anymore
Hating from outside the club
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I'm trying to deconstruct the gaslighting that has erased my identity as an MGM multiracial woman. I've been taught for so long that being interested in or identitying with anything other than blackness means I hate myself and I hate black people. But the sheer cognitive dissonance to pretend that my lived experience is anything close to that of UADS BW is farcical. I'm not trying to distance myself from blackness. No one with eyes could look at me and not immediately see my black ancestry. I'm not ashamed of my black ancestry. But why should I be shamed for relating to and finding more common ground with other MLS people? I look like and get treated like a mixed race person because I am one. I'm tired of pretending otherwise. If you've experienced being asked where you're *really* from or asked if you have a white parent or have been straight up fetishized as an exotical, you're an exotical.
I never thought about the light skinned spectrum. I learned something today.
yes thanks for watching! theres a spectrum of dark skin tones so why cant there be a spectrum of light skin tones? thats how i think of it.
Me too
I'm so glad CZcams recommended this channel 😭 It all resonates and I'm sad to hear that women my complexion have dealt with the same racial issues, but it gives me solace that my unsavory occurences were not isolated ones. I am grateful for you educating the masses ❤✨️
Yes you’re not a delusional light skin 😂 once we finally got together we realized we all had common experiences !
I'm not usually into these racial mix videos, but I came across this one today, and I have to say, as a lighter skinned black man with two black parents, I agree 100%.
BM will call other BM LS as an insult, because LS BM are supposed to be soft, not masculine, can’t fight, etc. 🙄🙄🙄
It’s so stupid, light skin men are so underrated ❤
They hate us cause they ain’t us 😂
thats pretty much it.... then they say "we have nothing to be jealous of!" and its like sorry but yes you do because you guys talk about it all the time. you talk about how youre jealous of our dating options, our fluid identities, our beauty, our proximity to non blackness? 🙄 so who's the real colorist texturist and featurist?
So they try to tear us down to make themselves look or seem better
Sad but true 😂❤
We light skin people would be united against blacks and whites, we are hated for being inbetween, I'm a lightskin male and my phenotype facial features is north African mixed different from my families who were jelouse and used me as the scapegoat. I was hated by both dark skin blacks and whites out of pure jelousy. Dark skin blacks are so j3louse of us they are very quick to claim us among non blacks and say we are black also because of there own insecurities of jelousy knowing we are not them. Whites hate us because of our lightskin admixture and will side with the blacks against us in bully tactics to make us feel low and make us believe we are on the same footing as the darkskin blacks . The truth is we lightskin are a seperate race from both, we are inbetween and are not them. Let us lightskin form a separation from them all, we are the lightskin race
Let's keep focus. The real color that matters is green $
I’m glad this was discussed, and I’m so thankful for channels like this. I have a similar complexion, and full features like Chloe and Halle, but with curly hair. I’ve told people in the past of how mean mono racial ds people are to those of us who have their features, but are light skin. DS mono racial people have a tendency to test our blackness, and see how we’ll react to that behavior. They aren’t nicer to us, because they can relate to us as another black person, as some people believe. As mentioned, all the advantages of being black is there as a lsbw, but having more access to getting something “easier” than they can produces a lot of hate. As much as they want to humble us and call us brown, as I look around the room with other black people, I’m usually one of the lightest ones. The difference in our complexions are very noticeable
Exactly. So you’re “relatively light” aka light skinned according to the dictionary definition.
And so many hate on the Queen Bey and constantly comparing her to RiRi!
Like, “huh?” “What?”
And it’s always the ds women saying that!
I'm AA, both my parents are black...grandparents are black....but my phenotype says otherwise to alot of people. All my life I've heard I"m not black enough based on my skin tone, features, and the way that I speak. It's caused me a lot of confusion. And my mom seems to have a complex because any time I would tell her about my experiences about people confusing me as mixed or biracial, she'll get upset and think I like it when people say that. When it's literally just my experience. I feel like as a LS somewhat ambiguous black woman, I feel like people try to force me into the mixed category or other category (often referring me as looking mexican or asian) And I never felt like I fit in anywhere. It's very stressful and people tend to project a lot of weird shit on to you. They create a personality for you, just based on their own preconcieved ideas.
Yes it’s because to them you look mixed
Wow! I’m chocolate and I feel mY skin colored is desired just as much as light skinned. My family is very mixed race so we have a lot of lighter skinned women, but when we go out we aren’t in any competition and protect one another equally! I must lived under a rock because this isn’t an issue with us!
I agree . Only UABW with victim mindsets think their skin color isn’t desirable
I appreciate all beauty and naively never knew there was a Civil War against skin tones. However, I do notice when I acknowledge the beauty of a light skin Sister, I get a side eye, (like what's wrong with you) and then I'm politely redirected to an attractive dark skinned sister. I think it's insane!
You ate with this ngl ….. standing ovation foreal
This vid is a hard truth for a lot of BW. I’ve def experienced some of these same perceptions as a lighter-skinned BW by DSBW & you’re spot on with this.
I don’t think some BW recognize this sometimes & it wouldn’t be received well if I said it, but I don’t have to bc you’ve done it here. And you’ve done a great job of it. I’m gonna share this 1. I don’t think anyone else has explained this situation better than you have here. Great video 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
With enough sun, I can get very dark but it never lasts, so my skin tone is always up for debate. DSBW used to ask the non blk boys in school to compare our skin tones. When it came to me they would say “yeah she’s dark now because we’ve been outside but she usually isn’t” and the anger that would cause was crazy. Notice they never asked to compare in the winter.
This! I’ve noticed that when deciding a light persons skin tone they always take a picture of you at your darkest and then when they talk about dark skinned people they use pictures of them at their brightest, in professional studio lighting ☠️
Lol! This is so funny because they ALWAYS try to make us believe that non-blacks don't see the difference in our complexions. They love to believe that a Gabrielle Union and a Beyoncé will be viewed EXACTLY THE SAME by non-blacks and they actually try to use this false idea as a way to humble us.
The reality is that EVERYONE sees color and they will deal with you accordingly. Sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes it's bad. But non-blacks always notice the difference even if they don't point it out. But if you ask them, they'll definitely say it out loud. For some reason, this triggers DS BW so badly.😩😅
What’s interesting is while growing up I never referred to myself as lightskinned because my family is deep ebony so I just thought I was black. Blackness was the standard Culturally So that means “black” skin (including lighter tones-mono racial) you are what your parents are in my opinion. I was around my ebony mom so I was black. It wasn’t until my ebony best friend pointed out as a child did I realize I was “light skinned”. She would always bring it up. It made me insecure and sad. I don’t walk around thinking I’m “light skinned”. Not because I’m virtuous. I just don’t feel the difference. Obviously there is in society but I never got the treatment people are talking about. I was treated as a black woman always😂. People are obsessed with tone. I have a ebony baby and everyone keeps talking about her skin. I never thought she was “darker”. Obviously I’m not blind but I just love my baby. She’s like me. We’re just black people. Yes I advocate because the world is jacked and colourism is real but in our homes we need to be clear, accepting, and loving across the board.
right, and if we want to have an honest discussion about colorism , first we need to have an honest discussion about skin tone.
Right because I remember a darker skin cousin of mine told me to do the "light skin thing" and stay out of a situation. I will never forget that and I knew right away she saw me as lesser than and not an equal family member. @@ExoticalsUnited
@@ExoticalsUnitedyup that’s wat I say darkskin women need to be real with themselves first n address their bitterness and their “choosing who is lightskin” n why they do that THEN we can talk colorism
Everything from my facial features, complexion, eyes, body frame, and hair length made people assume I was mixed my whole life. It seems like mean people are were mad they couple throw certain mean statements they make at mixed people against me
They did LOVE the “you’re adopted” and “are you sure your dad is your dad” thing ughhh
Can’t we all just get along? It’s so absurd. None of us had anything to do with the skin color and features we were born with. So much division. It’s sad. It’s cool for people to have a space where they felt seen and heard. But sometimes it’s just so negative and divisive on BOTH sides. How do we find common ground and close the gap?
If you feel this channel is divisive it’s not the channel for you. Feel free to unsubscribe or block me if you do not like the content so that my channel and this community doesn’t show up in your algorithm.
You say that either I am black or not I am not sometimes black. That so fake how come now you want to pull that card could it be because the exotical community could win us over? Could you feel threatened by how much they really understand us better? Do you finally come to realize that the scare tactics y'all have been using are working against you? We're tired of sometimes black not black in this circumstances but black in others we've opened up doors and y'all have used it started calling us colorist, featurist, texturist, the list goes on and on. Remember Hollywoods doors were shut! It was us that paved the way we opened the doors so any black person can finally be let in. You want to humble us for knowing that we are pretty girls then turn around and say no we're not light skinned, get outta here with that
Every darkskin hate on my beautiful lightskin daughters they come and tell me i just tell them they just want to be you because your beautiful and have a nice body 😂😂😂😂
Right! And it’s funny because I don’t see pretty and confident UADSBW complaining about their features holding them back in life
@@ExoticalsUnitedRight it's all jealousy 😊😊😂😂😂😂😎😎
Guys I know we are sitting in the remnants of systematic racism but let’s not forget that a lot of the self hate that our community perpetuates is via Willie Lynch. A lot of this behavior is subconsciously unaccounted for. While there is no excuse for the negativity I hope atleast one side of this debacle can have some empathy, as we move towards innerstanding each side’s struggles.
The Willie Lynch has been debunked way too many times for you to be coming into this comment section trying to use it as a reference.🙄 All adults have a mind of their own and, aside from someone potentially having a clininal mental illness, everyone is perfectly capable of respecting others and accepting others who look different than them. If dark-skinned unambiguous blacks are being disrespectful and dismissive towards light-skinned blacks, they're doing it because THEY CHOOSE TO. You cannot use that false letter as an excuse. Do better!
11:27 LOL!!!! My own father could never bring himself to verbally declare that he realized that I was "light skinned" with light eyes.
It was like the unspoken theme in my home.
You should do video on racially ambiguous because people act racially ambiguous has to be light skin that is false because i am brown skin racially ambiguous and get mistake from diffeact race. I think the singer Llyod says people think he is Guyanse and Trindadian becuase lot of them are Blasian, Indian, Arab
thats a good point and yes i can. in my opinion, chili from tlc looks racially ambiguous as well.
People also act like racially ambiguous also means being very lightskinned with "European features" that to me just means they're going to be directly associated with white people,but it doesn't means they're the only ones who are racially ambiguous 😂 Tatiana Ali is very racially ambiguous I would never say "black " for her, I thought she was indian, she's a blasian
Trust me it's the same with men
I FEEL SO SEEN!!!!!🥰 Where was this group when I was in my twenties being bullied for my skin tone! I spent soooo much time worring about why they didn't like me! Took years to realize it was pointless to try!🤷🏽♀️
❤I love the content. I dont know which celebrity i fall into, but once a guy called me black jet li (i guess the recerence between Aaliyah and Jet Li from romeo must die). Growing up i used to deny being mix, but i now fully embraced my mix. Ive come across a lot of dsbw that would have a attitude, rude, all in your business and highly make you want to quick your job. Now whenever i go to places, i usually avoid dsbw that would be rude. 😍☺️you are speaking the truth.
They call them Multigenerational mixed to invalidate their Blackness yet I know people from West Africa(I point this out cause this is where most slaves were taken from) who are light skinned yet aren't mixed.
Yeah that’s why I just say “light skinned” because I feel like if we call everyone mixed it confuses people, that’s why I put a percentage point on my channel (it’s just so no one gets confused with what groups I’m talking about in the videos, I don’t care what people do in real life)
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A lot of women from West Africa bleach and cake-on makeup so there’s a good chance that they ain’t really light skinned. The main exceptions are the Fula and a few other tribes that mixed with North African groups throughout history.
This is not true mgm means that you have many generations of mulattos who married other mulattos it had nothing to do with skin color.
I was told I was more on the brown dark skin tone by a man versus women who see me as light skin. It's so weird. Thank god I haven't faced hatred for my skin complexion but I have heard the stories from others.
Can you do a video on why light skin black men are hated so much
Exactly
Yes
I love it here ❤ finally a place I feel welcomed anywhere else I get hated on smh
Yay! You’re welcome here !
@@ExoticalsUnited I truly appreciate you 🫶🏼🫶🏼
DS UABW hate light skinned UABW because we get to say we're black and get accepted as black and get all the benefits of being black,such as you can say you have melanin,you can say you have black girl magic,you fit into black spaces,ride the natural hair trend etc.basically benefit from everything that's black but everything that's negative about being black doesn't affect you such as the negative side of colorism.
So you get the positives but none of the negatives.
It's a love hate relationship imo.its like your one of us but not one of us.
Monoracial black women hate us because we look better with afro textured hairstyles( I'm on the Ella Mai sector of being multigenerationally mixed) than they do. We celebrate different elements of black culture better than they do look at Bruno Mars.
I think a lot of monoracial BW wish they looked like LSBW or like DSMW (dark skinned mixed women)
@@ExoticalsUnitedagreed
Yep! I have a short fade-like afro an the looks I get from black women is enough to make me lol.
No actually they hate us because they don’t get the same representation and feel replaced which is fair thing to be pissed about…
I'm late but I'm a LSBW and i LOVE your content.
yay! #exoticalsunited ❤️💅
I can’t wait for this tea
Yay! I’m excited for you guys to see it !
Lightskin Keisha is the perfect example 💔
yup!
They love to throw shade.
Honestly in the Caribbean this is so common that we literally just call people black unless they say otherwise interestingly you will also meet mixed people who don't look like it
I am not surprised
@@ExoticalsUnited fun fact Bob Marley had an Irish Dad yet everyone calls him black
@iguessitizwhatitiz Its weird you would say that because Jamaica at the time also had a Irish Prime Minister called Michael Manley . Bob Marley was lightskin and straight nosed
@@theultimateartist4153 yes there are a lot of biracial people that get called black all the time, Bob Marley was just trying to get his exotical tax I guess ! 😂
@@ExoticalsUnited I forgot to mention Andrew Tate dad's a Black dude also LOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
One of my favorite videos on your channel! 🫶🏽❤️
Yay! Thanks !
At high school one of my best friends told me that i wasn’t beautiful. That people consider I’m attractive because I am light skin. If I was black I wouldn’t be attractive.
This comment shocked me at that time and I really believed for a long time that I wasn’t beautiful
Wow.😧 I hope you're not friends with her anymore. 😕
@@GB_008 not really. We see each other but in my mind we’re not so close anymore
I had to sit in the sun for 3 hours cause of the dirty looks especially in pre school-elementary school.. they accused me of bleaching, low iron, etc.. then they seen my sisters & cousins 💀💀
Yeah I have to admit eventhough I dont engage in colorism, I catch strays and jealousy for just existing.
Im soooooo happy i found this channel. ❤ I AM HOME
ariana spray tanned crazy back then,but heard
You just got yourself a new follower ❤❤
all my daughters are lightskins and bi racial women they all beatiful im a lightskin black man and i love myself and my daughters they are the best daughters a father can have 😊😊😊😊😂😂😂😎😎😜😊
My admixture is 26%. I love this channel.
nice! #prettygirlclub 💅
Great, Vid. I am a new sub. You are hitting on great points!!!!! I hope you will do a video on hair next. Like mixed women getting shamed in the natural hair community, but other women can wear hair that resembles mixed women and not get shamed (ie. Stretching hair to look mixed)
I'm the guy version of this 😂
According to this video I’m light skinned ! Intriguing video. 🌝
Ooooo the dogs about to holler when they find this lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣
4:56 🤣 I have definitely been told I wasn't "light skinned" but instead I was "bright brown". Hahaha. I just laughed.
CZcams needs a Love option
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I get called brown and beige. I’m a caramel tone aka Halle berry and lighter in the winter so. I just say brownskin
you have the right to use whatever nickname for yourself you want but in my opinion just like dark brown is dark skinned, light brown would be light skinned.
@@ExoticalsUnited I agree. I go based off what makes others comfortable. it is funny because I am called light by black men who are darker and it depends on the woman whether or not I am considered light lol.
@@divinecreation1217 yeah, ive noticed other women will only call you light skinned if they don't see you as a threat . if they dont like your personality or they already think youre a snob suddenly youre "not that light skinned". chloe is fenty shade 300 to 330. if fenty shade 300 isnt light skinned i dont know what is. notice how theres a whole spectrum of dark skinned and then you have to be WHITE SKINNED in order to be light skinned. like no. if we are always being called light skinned in our every day lives, if our foundation shades are named things like "butter pecan", and if we are banned from talking about our side of the colorism story- then were light skinned and thats it! 😂
Yes, both my parents are black. My mom is brown skin and my dad is light skin. I can easily pass for Puerta Rican or Spanish if it wasn’t for my 4b hair 😂 I am more Beyonce’s color even lighter in the winter! I actually LOVE my 4b hair because it’s so unique and beautiful. I wear extensions whenever I want. I’m not going to say all UABW have an issue with my skin tone but I will say MOST do. Just being honest. Every now and then I’ll meet a cool DS UABW that has confidence in herself around me but for the most part it’s “friction” when I’m in the presence of a DS UABW .. I never understood it until I got older and began learning about colorism. Being light skinned and beautiful will get you hated in the black community. And by the way I have family members ranging from looking white to having dark skin as dark as coal.
Yes, have you ever noticed the confident pretty privileged UABW are not the ones complaining?
@@ExoticalsUnited exactly!!!!🧐
No such thing as a light skin black people
💯🎤Facts!🎯
Blessings beautiful 🤩 💛❤️⭐️🌟Shared
Thank you beautiful! 🥰
@@ExoticalsUnited 😇🌟❤️🥰You’re welcome my beautiful bold and courageous sister!❤️😁
Glad I found you.😉
Yay! Thanks for watching
I have a question….I’m getting darker tan in the summer but will I get lighter in the winter. BTW I’m Light skin mixed
Ok what’s your question lol
I have Indian(Hindu) and Arab besides African, Spain and indigenous and I’m 100% Dominican
I’ve been considered light skin after moving cities and being around foreigners. They said I’m light skin not brown, and I denied their comment and said no… I’m brown.. I’ve always been seen as just brown skinned.
I’m the same complexion as Tara banks and people have asked if I’m mixed or have a white father in the past while growing up. I never thought much of it til moving.. thank you for making this video. This all makes sense, especially with how people interact with light skin black women !!
love u and ur channel girl!! ❤️❤️
I agree on that Little Mermaid thing.
Halle Bailey is a Multiracial Woman👩🏽.
And I saw alot of these↪👩🏿\👩🏾, talking about she look just like me.
They duping themselves.
She doesn't look like y'all, neither does HER, who played Belle.
right the average unambiguous african american woman is NOT fenty shade 300 as was described in chloes makeup video, and the average unambiguous black woman does NOT have a phillipino mother! lmao the desperation to tether onto their phenotypes is beyond me. chloe even called herself light and yellow in the actual vogue makeup video. so chloe will be representing for light skins and yellowbones whether the black community likes it or not. H.E.R has gone to awards shows and said things like "shoutout to my philipino mother" so H.E.R is very proud to be mixed race. how come everyone else can be proud of their skin tones or proud of their race but if youre mixed or if youre not darker skinned suddenly you cannot be proud of who you are?
@@ExoticalsUnitedYeah, cause they 👩🏿\👩🏾 see, Whoppi Goldberg, Normani, Keke Palmer and Viola Davis as unattractive.
I'm quite sure Chrissie👩🏿 feels that way "secretly".
Actually most people do.
That's why you don't see them as the face of Pepsi, McDonald's, Flamin Hot, Disney, Celeb Perfumes etc.....
@@Sinadarling You're desperately tryna latch on to a MGM woman...
She don't look like you..
That's why Hollywood picked her...
Do to her ambiguity...
Halle Bailey is Mixed....
You don't see European Women latching on to a Mixed Woman...
@@Sinadarling They're Mixed Lady...
Outside of the "Western World & America", their seen as Mixed...
You have to understand, the US do to it's history with the One Drop Rule, force's other countries to see Mixed People as Black.
The U.S. spread the One Drop Rule all over the western world.
@@Sinadarling Black Women👩🏿👩🏿 are gonna have to learn how to promote their own phenotype....
Not rely on Mixed Women to do that for them...
That's not healthy behavior...
Based on my profile pic would you describe me as light skinned monoracial?
Thank you ❤
All fax no printer 😂😂
“You’re not pretty you’re just light” 😂😂
You should stop including Tyra In your videos, she did a show on colorism and went off on this light skin woman and told her dark skin women have every right to lash out at light skin women. The video clip of her doing this is all over CZcams, She is a savior.
I know that some of these people are saviors . Exotical is not an actual race . I’m just using their skin tones as examples. I don’t know these celebrities in real life nor do I look up to them in any way.
FFACCCTTTSSSS!!!!!
Yes !
Just a suggestion: you might get less pushback and accusations of colorism or whatever if, when comparing women of different skin tones you stuck to women of similar levels of attractiveness. I have noticed you will use Rihanna, Meg thee Stallion, Nikki Minaj, Beyonce, Chloe and Halle Bailey, Ella Mai etc. as examples of light skinned women but then mention women like Whoopi Goldberg, Viola Davis, etc. as being dark skinned. Why not mention attractive dark skinned women - Tika Sumpter, Issa Rae, Yvonne Orji,Normani, etc. so people won't think you are being unfair? Just a suggestion!
I already mention tika sumpter on this channel go to my most recent videos . btw I never thought viola Davis wasn’t pretty as I also use older MLS women like Halle berry. Others are the ones who view Halle berry as “prettier” than viola Davis. I do not tend to compare women’s attractiveness and anyone who doesn’t pedestalize one look over another shouldn’t be offended. If they are this channel isn’t for them
Viola Davis is gorgeous!
@@KingofgraceSARAShe is and I have followed her before she became an A list actress.
Beyoncé is High Yellow almost white like her mom.. Black people come in every color even white that’s just facts.
I mean Beyoncé is mixed race but I get what you are saying because blue ivy is basically the same color and blue ivy has less mixture than Beyoncé
Im high yellow as well @@dearwhitenbiracialcommunit7924
Black people don’t come in white.😂 If that was the case they wouldn’t have recieved the name “black”.
Beyonce is MGM. Her mother is a majority white creole.
I don’t get why people keep separating and making new categories. Like enough. Race is black in white in all parts of the world. If your brown your considered black if your pale/ lighter your considered white. To correct terms of use. Race and Ethnicity two different things. Ethnicity is where your from and your family tree. Only in the United States where people are this confused. And stop assuming and labeling people who they are cause that’s what you see fit. Stop picking and choosing who’s black because that’s how you feel. Two dark brown parents can produce a pale or lighter child… Also Brown people are dominant gene and pale are recessive genes. Recessive are always blue green gray eyes, loser hair or lighter hair due to less melanin production… only thing that makes people in the world different is culture, language and location. That’s the honest truth.
we know this. but since unambiguous people want to kick us mixed race or lighter skinned people out of their conversations, we are starting our own. this is our safe space and this channel is not for everyone . anyone who comes on here trying to control the narrative will be banned and deleted. everyone else gets to talk about whatever they want on youtube- why is it that mls people suddenly need to be quiet and "get over it?"
@@ExoticalsUnited Everyone can say whatever ever you want. You personally can post anything you want, and Freedom of speech and platform. But there’s always open discussion applied to it. I notice the dominant race is the only ones who’s keeps colorism going but always point fingers at the pale people saying they cause racism. Just like your saying Darkest brown people have a problem with lighter brown people. The real conversation with Black/brown shades as a whole has to do with envy and just pure jealousy and being in denial. That the honest conversation people need to have and self reflection. Stop putting anger towards people because you want what you what you wear not born with. And making people feel bad because they were born with. You can’t get made at genetics like seriously 😂 another thing is who cares if you don’t fit at the table, you make your own table if you don’t fit in. Just like you made a Channel for a Particular audience/ viewers. You made a space and that’s ok just like the other people do. Like Humans we are always dividing no matter what it is that’s just how humans are. Earliest lesson of this would be bing in school where everyone had their own clique. And some probably got made They didn’t fit in the group the wanted to be in. So it up to the individual to form their own group or join what exists.