HOW NARCISSISTIC ABUSE CONFUSED YOU And Why Its Hard To Let Go.
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Narcissistic abuse looks like:
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.
Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:
Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.
Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.
Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
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Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and mindfulness practices can all contribute to your recovery.
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Anyone else confused about what even happened in the relationship? Or have a hard time remembering?
I find myself being unable to remember a LOT of stuff. Most of the time I was confused by what's been happening.
Lol wtf he got me a birthday card and marked out girl with an ex so I guess he was hinting at been just friends
I do its all foggy and not clear .
I started writing things down since this February. By June we got divorced. WRITE THINGS DOWN PEOPLE..JOURNAL IT REMEMBER IT . build a picture .
@@shan8767 I started that too!
one of the most horrible things about living in the world today is that sweet innocent pure hearted people with only good intentions have to take the time to understand TRUE EVIL. understanding evil people takes away some ofbour innocence
NO! It Wake U Up from Fairy Tale Thinking to REALTY! That Should be A Good Thing If Not A Narc.
Really, after looking back there was no reason to try to understand this evil. Abstaining from it after calling it like it was should have been the answer. Hindsight is 20 20. The good times kept me going.
So true
Yes,EXCACTLY..Only we HSP good hearted people gone though that hell narc abuse is..All flying monkeys,gaslighting,triangulation and smearcampaign...
@@valeriegaddy8833 Yes,I wake up to a brutally hard REALITY as that HSP person I am after years with narc abuse as coindipendet person..
The fatigue is real after you go no contact. Once you get past that it gets better.
So true, my mum suffered terrible headache after she left my dad I couldn’t believe what was happening
Danny right now I am so tired and unmotivated I some time want to hear from him but for the most part I don't even want to hear that condescending critical voice
It's because you are still seeking validation outside of self. Once you love YOUR validation more, you're free. It's not about them. It's about you. Been there. Felt that. It gets better.
+Rainbo you're absolutely right it does get better. But it takes time of healing away from abusive people to get to that place. Even once you reach a place of great self-validation, you still find no need to be around abusers liars and manipulators. Because they just don't resonate with you
Rainbo how do you do this?
@@IAm-zu4ql you do this by believing in yourself, and knowing that whatever you feel it is valid. I let someone in my life brainwash me into believing that my feelings are not valid. That I'm oversensitive dramatic and even emotionally unstable. after years of reading books on the subject, watching videos such as this, and six months or so of counseling--I've got come a long way in terms of being able to validate my own feelings and perspective. In fact I'm still living with this person at the moment, and this knowledge, while it hasn't stopped me from feeling really frustrated or angry from time to time, has helped me see the situation for what it is I'm no longer falling into these traps.
I had to switch my strategy. For instance I no longer expect to be able to resolve issues problems or my feelings with this person part. If this person crosses my boundaries does is inconsiderate rude or disrespectful, I no longer try to get them to see the error of their ways or ask to be treated differently. What I do do, it's basically treat them like a child. I tell them what I didn't like in that I do not want want them to do it again, and I usually State some sort of a consequence. I leave it right at that. no more trying to explain no more trying to get them to understand my feelings or any of that f****** endless, pointless, masochism.
you have a right to your feelings and no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Don't expect a narcissist to validate how you feel ever it's a recipe for serious psychological harm.
Wow. Very well said. Clear & precisely to the point. Very true. Very, very, true.
Absolutely - now I'm free of them (and there was more than one) I will no longer stand for any type of abuse let alone manipulation. Anybody who is inauthentic will steer clear of me these days. After several years of narc abuse full on - replete with flying monkeys, gaslighting, smear campaigns and totally irreparable social and family relationships I am finally free. It took me nearly 2 years to recover but I can happily and confidently say I will never be in another narc relationship again. High Five Rainbo!
Don't stay and waste your life they never change
+aline simon 🙌
ok 😔
They change by only getting worse!!!
How do you know they never change?
@@aleeahsias536 Trust me, they don't. My sister is a narcissist and no matter what they say they will never, never, ever change. Don't find out the hard way, take it from my 55 years of experience.
38 year survivor of husband who cheated from day one. I'm free now. Everyday, I count my blessings. Kinda starting to just smile for the weirdest things...a sunset.....just pure freedom makes me smile. Love being single.
Keep smiling dear life gets easier day by day
You're not the cause of the problem, they just want you to think that you are. Detach yourself emotionally from narcissists and toxic people, observe don't absorb. If you allow yourself to be brought into their wrestling ring, there is a chance of getting hurt. So observe what they're showing you or what they're saying to you. Just don't absorb it, don't let it become a part of you when it's a part of them.
+Narc Survivor excellent advice man thank you so much. I have heard of that observe don't absorb.
I saw some observe don't absorb techniques on Ross Rosenberg's channel which have worked for me. Normally I would feel so anxious in the presence of a narcissist, but if I just observe it creates a shield.
Remember if you are in a long term marriage (mine over 20 years) that things don't end when you leave them. The legal stuff can drag on for YEARS if the narc spouse wants to confound and confuse legal proceedings. This is not something you can shrug off and walk away. Mine promised he'd bankrupt me and did his best to do so. I had one lawyer quit because it took 3 months to get one document out of him (should have taken 2 minutes) and she never COULD get it from him. Trying not to absorb is very difficult when you need to be extremely vigilant and you will need to do much of the legal work yourself unless you are a millionaire. The alternative is to declare bankruptcy as soon as you leave the relationship.
The funny thing is i can hear your voice in my head as i am reading this
Thanks a lot big brother ,I'm healing right now been damaged and roughed up!!Be blessed and keep on motivating us people are hooked outside there thinking maybe the situation might get better but it will never happen...God bless you 🙏
Thank you. I believe you gave me the missing link. I needed to forgive myself not just the narcissist. Everyone tells you to forgive the narcissist but no one tells you to forgive yourself. I needed that.
Ruth Webb,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
@@christianpulisic7784 Awwww! ☺️
Narcs don't deserve our time, give that time for self care
Amen
Yes and where are people when you need help and support?All i get is more abuse every time i ask for help.
👍Thank you. 💞
1. Acceptance - get away & stay away from the narcissist
2. Understand biochemical changes that might be happening in your body
3. Forgive yourself
My ex has new relationship then also she some times block me sometimes unblock me again block me again unblock me ..and right crypty message..why?
Thank you!
Ishan Guria It sounds like you are her toy
Ishan Guria don’t worry about why, say bye
Ishan Guria gaslighting
I appreciate it. May God bring healing to everyone who suffered from narcissists.
I just divorced my narc from a 8yr relationship and have a 5yr old. I’ve tried explaining to people that I’ve been conditioned and they don’t grasp nor believe me. They think I’m too strong for it but it happened so gradually I didn’t realize it. He withheld love and affection when needed and looking back I’ve only had conditional love which was the reward. No contact is hard and you have to rewire. So here’s to no contact ❤️
I'm divorcing mine. 7 years and no kids. I'm going through the same thing. I've bee called stupid for allowing this to happen all these years but I thought he loved me. He just loved me working and paying hisBill's. Even now he wants to divorce done on his time and I'm the one moving! I want to hate him. I'm trying to hate him.
Do not engage with people who don't have a clue about your experience. If you're still in a fragile state , someone's well-meaning advice may lead you back to your abuser. Only discuss your struggles in recovery but someone you trust completely and whose judgment appears to be sound. Someone who is mentally and emotionally stable to the point that you can see it. Look for someone who has self respect and something you want for yourself. Much love.
Can relate to the difficulty of people not believing or understanding. I was always told I was just exaggerating 😔
Ashlee Chandler I would love to interview you , I bring alit if awareness to my audience and would love to share your story
To no contact my friend.
Yes this is so true. Before the LORD opened my eyes to narc abuse I went to my abuser and asked, “What have I done wrong?... etc etc... not realizing that the narc literally hates me and could care less and wants me to think it’s all my fault and I am to blame for our horrible relationship. So glad I learned the truth soon after. There can be no true relationship with a narcissist. They don’t want one.
I am obsessed with staying away from old narky. Still learning to forgive myself for encountering Satan himself! Bless you, Kevin. We love and appreciate you. Thanks,
Marcia...nothing to forgive...we have all learned from this abuse....My thoughts are...its a lesson to learn about true empathy....so ....we have been given this information.....study to become a therapist....Ive done level 4....gave up...narc abuse....However, I really do not want to be a one to one therapist...too much past abuse....burnt out!!!
Marcia... I felt stupid. But the narc wears 2 masks. Went thru the feeling stupid stage. I don't feel bad about myself for that now. You will not one day also.
@@mishaanton5436 . Thank you, Misha. I appreciate that. Bless your heart.
@@mishaanton5436 .Thank you, Misha. Bless your heart
lol @ Satan
Wow, I never knew I had adrenal fatigue years ago when I was so tired all the time. I slept most of the time and didn't know that my narcissistic family was the cause of it. Now that I've been NC with them for nearly 5 years, all of those health problems are gone. I wake up refreshed and ready to take on the day.
I know, right! I would get headaches a lot. I remember I would go to sleep with a migraine and wake with one. It is awful! Since I've been away from them I'm a little better. I have way more to go.
ShiaGirl18: I was in high school when I started sleeping all the time. I would go to sleep when I got home from school. I remember my friend telling me that she called and was told by a family member that I was asleep (in the middle of the afternoon). I told her that I felt like a fish out of water; and that was because my family moved to another state when I was just 14 years old. I left all of my friends behind (the only love I ever received) and was being bullied by these mean girls at my new school. So no wonder I was sleeping all the time--I was trying to shut out all of that pain from being the scapegoat at home and at school. How in the world did I ever survive this hellish nightmare?!?
Peace Joy I use to have headaches. Feeling drained a lot...after my ex packed up and left I felt peace. I sleep good now and no headaches. He was the cause of my headaches and stress. Narcs will drain you.
Adrenal fatigue can take years to recover from. It is something that has to be seen as a journey to recovery.
Peace Joy I’m going through that adrenal fatigue right now. Your comment is an inspiration for me to overcome this spiritual battle. God bless you sister 🙏🏿
One goes no contact while wishing they would contact them because in the heart they want to teach the narcissist a lesson. They want to see if there has been any change.
+Gwendolyn Wehage that is absolutely part of the problem yes
the only change will be for the worse, there is no fixing NPD
I'm finally getting it.
C March yes, there is just no real closure with them.
i know there is no change and dont need to teach her a lesson,,,she has moved on to a new source now and i did truly love her and her son...no matter how hard i would try i just couldnt fix what was wrong with her,,,,,its like talking to a child at times.
I survived an overt narc and 18 mos latter I had to survive a covert one. The universe keeps throwing challenges (different demons).
In this world of duality we're at war with the opposing forces of darkness and those caught or blinded by them. I don't feel like a victim for attracting these predators, I choose to see myself as the light or opposite magnetic force which attracted them. These experiences have made me stronger, taught me about these types, to detect early red flags, to set up boundaries and going no contact. I am aware now, a surviving warrior.
Very informative and helpful video, thank you.
If you are born to one, they can do an awful lot of damage to you, and you have no one to teach you what the problem is. When you are grown, and completely broken, then if you are lucky you can find a counsellor who can enlighten you. But a child is defenseless against this.
No Contact with my narc parents - 14 years and going. Narcs don't change - only WE do.
+Karina Prado that is absolutely right. Thank you for watching
Karina Prado That’s the truth, once I ended my relationship. I felt empowered and not so drained or running on adrenaline. I’m so happy to have the positive people in my life. I was told I was drama and too sensitive. Though I’ve learned, stay away from partners with multiple exes as friends, and individuals that always play victim, I learned it all...
I’ve gone 20 years no contact with my parents. You’re right, they haven’t changed.
Good for you take care and remain vigilant. MY little brother tricked me into coming home for mom 35yrs no contact I fell for it now I'm battling to clear my head again
Kevin.....there never were good times....it was just their "fake" love. It was just the narc dropping the "bar" to play with our emotions......and then to raise it even higher.
+Susan Mc Cann absolutely right Susan, the only good times are the times that you bring into the relationship. Everything they have to offer is pretty lousy
@@TheRoyalWe I experience just the opposite ... He will bring in the good times by riding his bike and taking me on that awesome trips and I miss that now extremely ... sitting with a jacket and helmet and not going on that awesome road trips is killing me ... feeling quite lost at the moment .. all this is confusing me at the moment ... he is truly an exciting and very much alive 72 year old that I ever met ... other men his age is old and over the wall, but he is full of energy, riding his bike, doing things and going places...I also had put into the relationship a lot together with him, we had these most awesome times together, dancing, partying, going on outings and road trips, meeting people, but for some reason, my children could never be part of all this awesomeness, he will forever create nastiness that my kids and family did not like him at all, but he is then this awesome lover, friend, partner, helping hand ... this is too confusing for me ... :'( he walked out on me after we had a fight on Tuesday night and still am in contact with me being so nice and a true gentleman ... I don't understand that how it can be so perfect when we are apart and when we stay together the nasty insults and fighting starts again...terrible. He is truly not a bad person, but for some reason we clash all the time...are we both narc's or what? My brain is standing still at this moment ....
I always said my narc made a good time bad, and a bad time worse.....
@@jennykoekemoer7013Jesus said he didn't come in peace, but with a sword to separate, for you and him to get right with God while there is still time. If he's verbally abusive it's never good and we must never compromise when it comes to God's will for our lives. It's your decision. I pray for both of you. 🙏💜
The lesson will always be to value yourself. Simple as that. That will not let you be susceptible. These narcs aren't worthy of anybody decent. Let them hang out with their own kind. See how that goes. That's not arrogance. That's resolve. Always a great vlog Kevin.
I have come to the same conclusion, that anyone... anywhere near normal... cannot peacefully coexist with the narcissist. It just can never work. If you have a backbone it threatens their defenses and they discard pretty fast. If you don't have a backbone then they get tired of it anyway, they see your spirit dying and that is not useful to them, and they discard anyway... Stir clear and see the flags next time so you don;t waste any time , energy, resources or emotions in a dead end game. Getting free is much harder than avoiding them at the start! People who don;t know the cluster B personalities are out there and are a dangerous roller coaster ride through crazy , pain and disappointment... all of that and it's never even real... or close to real, for them.... you may as well love a movie star (from afar, no stalking) and you'd be saner, safer and not lose as much.... ! You are an extra in their movie... everyone is an extra in their movie... so they swap out the extras right and left and with little to no regard.... you matter even less than you think once your mind fog clears! It is amazing, and I believe there is some self hypnosis going on... he wasn't what I wanted him to be, but I tried to feel he was and every excuse or runaway train of thought worked to get me there....
Nope... see them as they are. If you wouldn't want your daughter, sister or best friend to be in the kind of relationship you have w/ the narc, then why are you accepting less for yourself? If you set the bar higher, the narc will fail very very soon.... weeks not months or years... and you will avoid wasting time. Set the bar for truth, respectful , compassion, care, connection, being kind / helpful, being responsible, working together. No way a narc will stay around you for very long.... they can;t deal... and those expectations are like Narc-Raid! PSSSSSST ... bye bye narc...... Also, if anyone is out and getting back to their own true mind and happy again... and fears a Hoover... my Hoover plan is this... to ignore the first 3 attempts, and if here is a fourth... I will either send the legal code for "harassment" (just the code, nothing else) or... the telephone # of a sheriff deputy friend with the note...
"Call Deputy XYZ at tel # XYZ to find out how and why your contact is unwanted." I know that will freak him out and he will stop... dead in his tracks! (He does not want a TRO against him!) Which BTW is my next step if there is any contact after contact #4....... Whether they are rabid and ill and can;t help it, or sly foxes doing what works for them, matters not... the outcome for everyone else is wasted energy, lies, confusion, pain and crazy time.
@@robinsmith560 Kevins vlog & your reply to my simplistic comment is so dead on accurate. One of the most poignant & precise shared thoughts anybody could read. The attraction between this perfect storm of target & someone vulnerable is nothing less than preditorial. So habitually done, the narc doesn't even comprehend it. You sure aren't going to get them to introspect their actions or how they made you feel. Their only analysis will be a manipulation error to data bank for future. The real mindfuck is you do everything that is caring, genuine & real....and it's exploited. All to pacify a tormented mind. Your a disposable mental trash recepticle. Tough to try again when your confused & know you did everything right. Zero contact is like utopia. Find your bearings, know you did nothing out of bounds & call it what it was. A sociopath with deviant behaviors. Lesson learned.
Robin Smith Brad McEwen I absolutely agree. The key to effing these fools off in my experience is the acceptance that they hate you - so obvious when we are willing to open our eyes and see the behaviours for what they really are - complete contempt for humanity. Then it's bye bye Narc - and bye bye ALL Narcs.
Yes.. but not being a narc, I find, and fight the next emotion in ME... feeling sorry for the narc... because no one would choose that life for themselves,,, however.. you should feel bad for them a little and bad for the victims and ourselves more.. and also realize.. nothing no sympathy love therapy etc will "heal" them... they don't want to change.. it WORKS for them,,, so best life is narc free,,, I feel bad for him and keep my distance and No Contact. His pain loss envy depression anger etc is his business... So yes they hate humanity because they feel outside it looking in.. and all they can do is mimic feelings,,, that never reach their core.. they never know love or caring or putting the welfare of anyone else before theirs... ever. and they resent the bonding and emotional ties we have.
They are ill and defective and broken and pity is our natural response... but they are dangerous and will never want rescue or healing. Move away from the Narc! LOL (all of them, not just your recent... but all of them!)
@@robinsmith560 exactly correct in my opinion.
I've been finding it hard to forgive myself but I'm working on my personal healing.
Kimberly Bellamy: That's because the narc defined you in order to control you. You need to tell yourself every day just how beautiful you are--inside and out. You must do this until you believe it (because you are). Look at a photo of yourself (it doesn't matter if you're a child or an adult in the photo) and speak to yourself kindly and lovingly. Tell yourself how sorry you are that you abandoned yourself and that from now on, you promise to be 100% loyal to yourself. Promise that you'll be the most loving parent and best friend to yourself. You should start seeing your "soul" in your photo, and it will be like coming home to yourself. Good luck with everything.
Kimberly Bellamy ditto
Kimberly Bellamy you really should forgive yourself it's not your fault everybody wants to be loved add to love
Slowly but surely I'll get there
Kimberly Bellamy forgiving yourself is most important to ur recovery....
The narc is in jail. I am alive and well. And going to start living again
Lisa Estenson,I'm so happy ☺️ for you
Amen to Truth. I left him the first time he raged at me with our infant daughter. But went back, for dare I add religious reasons…. But, learned my initial instincts were spot on. Stayed another 22 years and for other reasons… however, I am Proud of my courageous self. I left and this time Forever, never to be abused again! On my own, appreciating my self again! I truly Owe God the glory for getting me through this darkness!
Kevin, I thank you for talking about this. I was not going to talk about this in a public forum but, I am an RN and want to share so others can learn what happens.
The narc I was dating did put me in adrenal fatigue which caused me to go in to an Estrogen heavy imbalance. Adrenal fatigue creates high amounts of cortisol which creates the fight or flight syndrome. That adrenaline rush. When the body creates high amounts of cortisol it pulls from other hormones, primary progesterone which balances the Estrogen in the body. We know estrogen and progesterone as the menstrual cycle hormones/sex hormones.
I developed a breast tumor 2 years into the relationship. The Breasts have estrogen receptors. The Cancer was created by the excessive amounts of estrogen in my body. The estrogen was the fuel for tumor growth. Thank goodness I caught it early with monthly breast exams and no, there was no help from the Narc through the surgeries. He literally cared less and did not support my family through the crisis and didn’t bother to show up for one of the surgeries. I was finally strong enough emotionally to leave the narc by year 4.5. He started cheating on me before the surgeries, the recovery from the deception at that point was extremely painful. I am lucky I am alive.
What I want to tell women is don’t take their sexual organs for granted. You know the old Adage “men will use you up”. If you don’t, then learn it now.
This can happen with the Narcs, psychopaths, sociopaths and other abusive relationships. Women of all ages please head this warning, when these kinds of stressful relationships occur with women you think that its only your emotions, NO, it is also the body. The female body is a delicate balance of hormones as you know...periods can be awful. Get out as soon as you can. Literally save yourself from a shortened life or not being able to conceive at all.
Get a full check up and yes STD check too. If this guy doesn’t care then he probable didn’t practice safe sex either.
I am now living a cancer free life but, I also live with the guilt that I let this terrible person in my life that caused so much stress on my body that has changed it forever. Please ladies do not take your body for granted.
Take the time to know who you are dating. Just like Kevin says, do you want someone like this to have children with and abuse you into fatigue that can effect you with disease. This is serious stuff.
Do your inner work and get educated. Most men these days are serial dating and are not going to buy the cow if the milk is free.
Thank you Kevin for all the good work your doing. You have made a huge difference in my life.
WOW, thank you. your story is life changing for me. good luck on your journey.
Wow! Thank you ❤
Thanks for sharing that; my narcissistic I’m afraid is a preacher; I’m married to him and am grappling with guilt of how to get out
Thank you for sharing your story. I feel the same is happening to me, being stuck in flight or fight mode for 3 years, the adrenal fatigue is no joke. I'm afraid to get a mammogram because I have a feeling I have tumors, I noticed throbbing pain several months ago. I have a toddler who is the light of my life. If I do have cancer, I'm afraid of her being motherless. I'm trying to leave the narc, but it's a delicate process since I'm an immigrant in his country and our child has dual nationalities. Sigh.😓
Hi
I hope you are in good health.
All the best
Sarah
drama drama drama drama Pause
drama drama drama drama Pause
drama drama ...
With this pattern, who wouldn’t want/need the Pause?!
Yes, an addictive cycle.
Identify it, and take yourself OUT!!!
They create the drama, and then the Pause, to keep you hooked.
Everything is relative: Who wouldn’t like/need the Pause under these circumstances?!
The big fat problem tho: They cannot sustain the Pause.
Hit resume: drama drama drama ...
Your power lies in making a choice 💙
+Carol Duncan you're absolutely right the power does Line Road ability to make the choice and hopefully you make the right choice to get out and stay out
Carol Duncan
Excellent!!! Thank you!
u dont knw hw ur reply has helped me...
amazingly shocking...
my feelings in ur words...
a lil more practically placed.
thanx
Carol Duncan I am dealing with one for 42 years and this is sooo true
Wow Carol you just described this Narc pattern on point! Thank you! 💎
This is so true. It's been 5 months and I'm still in the trama bond. I'm currently forgiving myself for falling in Love with my Ex Narc. I'm on a Self Love Journey and by being a CoDependent I'm going through allowing myself to not do for anyone but myself rigjt now. I ger severe anziety being around anything or anyone that is needy. It feels Narcissistic by doing this and gives me severe anxiety doing for myself being told all my life from relationships that it's selfish to do for myself. My Mother who was BiPolar/Narcissistic/Sckitcofrantic all her life passed away 6 months ago and I went into this lost child state of emotion. This started my Journey to self love. My Ex abandoned me a month later because he couldn't deal with my grieving so it was a Double Whammy from both Narcissistic relationships. It's my responsibility to look deap inside and heal that little girl looking for Love. I see everything so clear. My Faith in GOD has also helped me stay strong and disciplined to walk with Love and Forgivness. Even though they were both very toxic I still Loved them both dearly. I feel free by sharing my story. Thank You
Glenda Frye,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!
Glenda Frye,You deserve better 🙏
The idealization phase is really good. You see a person that really wants you. Her mirroring of you makes the hoovering look like genuine attraction. It masquerades her sick twisted objectification and makes it look like authentic affection. The devaluation phase sucks but doesn't suck completely. This is where they play mind games. Get you emotionally addicted. You walk on eggshells, you feel frustrated, but timely dose of dopamine keeps you in there. It builds momentum. You feel like you are headed for somewhere. It's like running on gravel. You find it discomforting, but the pain goes away for chunks of time, and you feel like you are gaining speed, you can almost see the sweet destination, you can almost see your abuser permanently transform into the amazing person that she pretended to be in the idealization phase. You gain speed, get used to the discomfort, the anticipation of the abuser's on the verge transformation is enchanting, and then out of nowhere you hit a wall. All that momentum, all that effort just vanishes. You feel confused. You don't realize what just happened. The abuser now acts like there was nothing there in the first place. It was all in your head. You feel like you cannot trust anybody, not even yourself. You feel like a addict who has suddenly been deprived of the timely supply. Not only does the sweet destination doesn't exist, but the candy-land you had been to in the beginning was all a farce. Frustration, anger, resentment, guilt are feelings that now control you. It's hard to be productive. You don't know what to do. Is it revenge that you want, or the hope that the abuser may finally come around some day. I have seen it twice. I know the later would never happen, and the former is what the abuser wants. She wants you to react, to feel miserable. That's her victory. The only way to heal now is to forget and ignore. It's hard but its the only way.
Wow, I know this was a while back but so accurate.
Thanks.
You really have a great understanding of these relationships. They are mind boggling and leave you feeling unbelievably lost and confused. We start to believe we are bad mean hurtful and not being good spouses then all along they are doing all the damage. I look back on the " marriage " and now see I was constantly tricked. Crazy ! Thank you for helping everyone
NO NO NO!!! My life is a NO NARCACIST ZONE.
Al Socks : thats awesome ! Way to go ! I said that to myself some time back BUT I somehow let the sneaky snakes back in unconsciously. Time to stick to my GUNS no matter the weather !
The biochemistry is so on point. That up and down adrenaline and dopamine feeling are what I’m noticing. I’ve started tracking how I feel. I’m no contact and so appreciate your videos.
+Joy C there's a lot more to that it gets really deep. Too often people don't realize what they put their body through by being in it a abusive relationship
Its exhausting the ups and downs. One day im saying f him the next day i miss him....
It's this neuro-biochemical mechanism that narcs use to drive you crazy.
Not interested in hearing or speaking to any of the narcissist that were in my life. I wholeheartedly, refuse to deal or live in their delusional world.
Forgiveness to me, should never be given to people who have no remorse or a conscience, that's something they will always lack.
Nomore Tears: Here's how I look at it--forgiveness is divine if you can extend it to those who have hurt you. However, narc abuse is a different type of abuse because it's insidious and unrelenting--not to mention the narc gets a kick out of kicking you--especially when you're down. To that I say, "extend the forgiveness to yourself and let the narc/s extend the forgiveness to themselves," because the last thing we need as scapegoats and empaths is to feel obligated to forgive an unrepentant monster. If they want forgiveness, let them forgive themselves. The only thing I would caution against is that we don't hold grudges--because that will definitely eat us up inside and cause us illness (which the narc would delight in).
Peace Joy forgiveness is divine if the person is truthfully remorseful, but one will never receive any form of a honest apology from a toxic person. Their entitlement and agenda that they believe is their God given right, is what will continue the abuse. I won't wait or spend one more second on something that I know I will never receive. Thanks for your reply.
Peace Joy
Well said! 👏👏👏
+Nomore Tears yes you are absolutely right thank you for watching
Religious leaders that tell us to turn the other cheek 70 x7 urk me.
In my case there was no relationship, just a complete stranger using my family to attack, control and harass me until I moved out, and the narcissist moved in with my family… unbelievable
It's hard when the narc is my mother. No contact but still comprehending the reality that she is an evil abuser.
I have read books, learned about them in psychology and I've become so aware that I can count the day (8) when he finally defaults completely....
He can only be a man of his word for (2) days..... I had zero contact for 3 months and even got a restraining order (keep him from leaving awful roses at my door randomly...
Then I had a rather awful event occur with mold in my home , and there he was....
I fell for it (knowing)...I'm so intuitive I'd know what bars to see his car at because I'd def never pull him out...
It was almost like he had become a study for me , until one day I woke up depressed, crying and felt lost ....
I didn't know my fav restaurant anymore , i stopped my sketching and art, my mountain therapy I'd take once a month ,became an issue ...after a 3 year roller coaster of the vicious cycle I have completely lost myself.....my passions , I'd refrain from sharing any of my insight because I suddenly felt I was no longer intelligent as well.
I have all stuff at his place ,slowly packed away and we havent spoken in 2 days.... I am just gonna ghost him because I've tried EVERY OTHER OPTION..... for a moment I felt like it was mean to do, but you've hit the nail on the head......
I am so blessed to have found your channel and you really put it in terms that only those that are going through it , can relate......
Thank you so much !!!!!!!
I've just started my no contact from my entire family a year ago. The person who hurt the most was my own identical twin sister. I've never felt gut wrenching betrayal like that before. It broke me as a person. A year later and I'm on the up and up! I'm so thankful I found these videos! You're truly doing the Lord's work here. 🙏💞
Bless you Morgan. I’m dealing with similar … somehow the pain of a sibling also being a narc is harder than just the parents . We assume they’re here to share our healing journey with us, and it’s devastating to learn that actually they’re against us, and not with us at all 😞
Yes It is true about the high and low feelings.I never realised that until now .thanks for the guidance.
Feeling like this now, has been 5 weeks no contact. Thanks for explaining this is a 'normal' emotion after leaving the narcissist. Thought I was going crazy......
it's priceless when a narc acts like you do nothing ..guilts you into whatever they want and the control is pathetic... women are the best at this game.
I've watched a zillion of these videos on CZcams since I realized that I was in a relationship with a abusive, toxic narcissit . I must say, I really dig you the most. Keep spreading the wisdom, and educating others on such a horrible reality that is dealing with these individuals . So many need help on the long road to healing . Much love, brother.
Hitting that subscribe button!
Thanks for the advice to apologize to our own bodies, our wonderful selves. To apologize, I have to contemplate what I did wrong (not what the abuser says I did wrong). I have not WRONGED the narcissist. My WRONG DOING was staying, allowing my "wonderful self" to be abused. My wrong doing was to BELIEVE his lies. "I'm sorry wonderful self for not protecting you; for not believing you are awesome." Without the narcissist we ALL are WONDERFUL.
This couldn’t have come at a better time. Everything finally makes sense. You answered all of my questions. Thank you very much!
I think I've just realised, a hard pill the swallow, that the man who I've been in an off/off relationship since 2016 is a narcissist. That is such a hard pill to swallow. 😞. He dumped me again just before new year. Nothing caused it, he just left me by text. As he's always done. He abused me a lot. Emotionally, and psychologically. He deletes pictures off his Instagram but keeps some and I suppose it's part of the slow abuse after the break up. He's always come back saying it was this reason why, and that reason. He's never meant any of his apologies when he comes back because he dumps me again shortly after. It's cruel. Yet in person he seems charming and so kind.
Emel Mustafa I’ve been here! Your story sounds exactly like mine which is scary.. just remember it’s not you it’s them.. God will take care of the rest
Exactly how I feel
I’m sorry you went through that! I know exactly how that feels. I had the same situation happen to me.♥️
You're right, they did not deserve me.
Rian Reese,You are beautiful,Hope you are not with a narcissist.....
I'm too vulnerable, as though road pizza from an evil parent. So it's hard to ward off Narcissists.
Thank you for this video. That explains why I felt tightening in my head. I also feel it in my chest.
Thank you for this! I r watched a ton of videos on narcissistic abuse and I’m well aware of the effects it has had on my life. But this made me realize I need to forgive myself! This is key to recovery.
+Susan Fritz that's a very huge bold step but healing is there
You are dead on, I'm still blown away that this is my reality
So true!!! Don't want to talk to him, but find myself constantly checking for emails or messages... crazy making!! It has been five years of pure crazy!! Thank you for explaining. It makes it so much easier to get out and move on.
+Renate Mjelde it is a crazy place to be in, you truly do have to make yourself leave the situation and stay committed to no contact and safe distance from the person.
Its so strange isnt it!
Number 3 is a challenge for me. Just watching you touch yourself and saying sorry to you made me feel this immense regret I have within me. I did let myself down by being in that relationship long past its expiry date. Forget abt forgiving him, I am struggling to forgive me first.
Secondly, I DID have an addiction to that relationship. I didnt like the dynamic, toxicity AND the person but it felt like a gambling machine to me. I kept wanting to drop a quarter into the machine and see if I got somethin out of it .
The blame game and devaluing made me wanna prove to him that I was a nice person and I didnt deserve this so treat me better.
Its like most of the time when he would blame me for what HE did wrong, I was expected to take accountability for it.
Sometimes I did cause I knew he just wntd to fight and create drama so Id just apologize to shut him up.
That was one part of me, the other part of me didnt wanna be alone.
I was also TIRED of dating and starting over.
There were many negative things at play.
Felt like every guy Ive ever dated was a narc. Im wondering Kevin, is it even possible for an empath to be in a relationship with another empath ?
+Rebecca-Joy Henson it is possible for an empath to have a relationship with another empath. And I imagined it would just be an explosion of fireworks. However, the difficulty in finding this relationship comes with slowing things way down to the point of really truly getting to know the person everything about them.
The Royal We : I dont mind slowing down. I kind of like it actually. These days, however, as a defense mechanism, I tend to push and rush thru relationships cause I hv wasted valuable time being in rships with narcs for YEARS ( a cumulative of 13 years with different narcissists ) and then finding out I need to get outta dodge. The last one was a huge blow. He acted like an empath SO well ! I figured finally I have someone on the same page but of course, the good ol' narky habits come out like daisies. He KNEW I was looking for an empath so the day he blew up, he tells me while screamin on top of his lung " you wanna see the real me ? This is the real me !!". Not sure why I decided to stay after he said that but it was CREEPY. "Its" voice even changed. I somehow thought maybe he was just goin thru a rough time at work. I dont mind mood swings cause ALL of us have it every now and then but did I think he was actiing up bcos he was a narcissist ? Not at all. A very rude awakening. If only we had empath clones like you.
My thoughts exactly! I am so afraid to open my heart to anymore men, knowing my empathic self. I have had my heart crushed 3 times, I don't think I can do it again.
Creat Tinine : Me too. Theres only so much betrayal and heartache one can take. I think we need to embark on a temporary dating hiatus to heal and set our focus. These relationships are taking a toll on us, to the detriment of our mental health.
Rebecca-Joy Henson I took a 14yr hiatus from men after my divorce because my sociopathic ex did so much damage. Then I met a guy this past year...and he turned out to be textbook covert narc..about killed my heart. I didn't want to be alone all my life but man, I can't keep doing this heartbreak stuff. I can't just 'move on' like friends suggest. I am not built like that. Thankfully with this channel and a few others like it, I am getting educated on myself and the kind of men out there that I need to stay wayyy clear of.
Protect yourself from all narcissist!!!!!!!!!!!
+aline simon 🙌🤗
aline simon,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,I hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
This is the best channel explaining Narcissist behavior. Great Job.
Thank you 👑🙌🙌
Thank you Kevin. You speak a sacred truth. Only someone who has been where we have can know these things. Thanks for bravely imparting your wisdom.
I've been going over these very principles for the last 2 days since my discard. There's something in hearing someone else say it, even in a video, that's so helpful- thanks.
You are such a special gift.. Thank you for these videos..
+Jennifer Records you are also truly a special gift thank you so much for watching the video. You are a natural encourager and a true nurturer thank you
Thank-you so much. This message solves the puzzle of what is going on in our thiking and changing those old self-destructive thinking patterns I had all my life with these kinds of people. I am realizing how much damage, all the games played on me, what was really going on. I get mad sometimes but I am learning to accept and detach. Thank you for helping me get there.
I heard it takes at least 7 times of leaving before you leave for good. This was true in my case. A person has their breaking point.
This is so enlightening. I grew up thinking thats just how the world is. Hes dead now but I still punish myself from inside my head. What an evil spell that was from year one being so conditioned. Its good recognizing that thinking for the first time, and I'm not the evil, wrong one all the time. Yay!
It's real I'm being abused I even quit my job. I dont feel motivated, to work .
I meant to say .. forgive myself for letting this terrible man into my life to harm me, not ever knowing of the evil that would happen to me, myself...not that I caused this.... relationship
I learned from experience that a narcissist will never want to fix a problem. Even going to them to hear their side causes anger in them. They know they have acted badly, even a step to be willing to admit your own things is intimidating to the narcissist. They love to hate us when we attempt to fix things it shows them we are the more mature person who resolves things. Narcissists love conflict, just like the devil loves it.
Addiction and fatigue...that is why it is so hard to let go. God forgive me...in Jesus name. Amen. 🙏
Yes, Kevin the addictive tendencies we were groomed for from childbirth by our narc parents! Addressed!...Why getting away geographically may or may not free us since the pain remains inside our minds, hearts and souls..Though some may HAVE TO untraceable sadly. I FEEL GUILTY for my One year NC from my Narc Abusive family...GUILTY?? It's late in life too..I could not take anymore...Got worse with their aging. Scapegoated from birth. Boundaries is something I have to work on.. Mine crossed so many times..i don't know how to place proper boundaries for myself. Thanks, Kevin! I have spoken to you on the phone some months ago. I am grateful! yet, I won't be a pest...Hope all is well with you!
My mother breeded with a narcissist-the worst decision ever! He triangulated and manipulated his daughter into seeing him as a saint but he was a demon -i know this because I was his target. His scapegoat. And he eventually turned the entire family against me and I left home carrying the family's shame as well as his shame and blame.
Well after long 6 years, I finally had a breakthrough and realized who he really was - a empathy lacking malignant covert narcissist, and I slowly proved that I was the victim all along -he was the real perpetuator. And since I was his target I know that he had stopped loving me first ever since I was a child because he lacked true empathy. Without it, there's no true love. Therefore he has never loved me. And he hides his demonic nature behind a mask.
As we speak I'm having my photos removed from my mother's house where he stays at and I will NEVER bring my children there EVER! In fear that he may treat one of them like he has treated me.
Like they say, the scariest thing is when the scapegoat rises from the depth of despair and reclaims his or her self worth that was lost many years ago and when the Real narcissist has been exposed.
He's finished bruh and everyone knows it, except him.
Ahhh such in an important statement... forgive yourselves...God only knows! ❤️
WOW awesome video...you are changing lives...thank you so much ❤️
+B Mc thank you for watching
+B Mc thank you
Kevin, you’re wonderful, so insightful and the real deal. You are the next Tony Robbins. Hugs from Nashville TN
Ann Claire Pahlavi,You look stunning 🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
My goodness, the adrenal fatigue example is so real! My father is a vicious, violent narcissist. Any time I am around him, I literally have to be ready for a fight at any second. The adrenaline surge is something I never realized would happen and I always feel drained and exhausted after I deal with him.
Chandler White
Omg leave asp he sounds crazy and he might hurt you really bad
The discard was so out of the blue and so quick.
Yeah... it’s so weird. I had to unblock my ex narc temporarily to ask him to take me off an emergency contact for a rental car company because they called me. (It was from a previous year and didn’t update it). I texted him briefly then reblocked. I had to for my own sanity. Just knowing he has access to me is not good. His 7 discards prior spoke volumes. He doesn’t feel good about himself and I wasn’t going to be the recipient of his frail ego and poor self worth. You are so right, Kevin. One can never do enough to please these nutters. Not putting myself thru it. Forgiveness changes your frequency. It’s the best thing to change your vibration
Thank you so much for this video, I was in the same dilemma. Firstly, I am happy to see that others react the same way, and secondly, you gave me answers and helped me find the light at the end of that never-ending dark tunnel and close the door. Stay Blessed.
+Steph S. Thank you for watching
Came across your video this evening 5/8/19 and will be escaping/leaving tomorrow when he goes to work & will never look back. After 7 yrs, enough! Ty for your video....amen!
Thank you again for helping others do much 💜
Forgiveness is not about the other person but, about us choosing to move forward and not allowing an un forgiving heart to destroy our minds and bodies.
OMG I'm going through this right now. THANK YOU soooooo much for helping me understand what's happening to me.
What you need to understand as well is that the narc is going through the same thing or worse. It's the same program. They are sitting there needing you to call them. You just have to be indifferent and say I don't care what he or she or they are doing. Just smile at yourself and know they are missing you even more.
Do you think thats true? I believe i was just a replaceable object to him. They get attached to no one. He discarded his own mother before me.
@@MsPeppersmom I almost implied the narc gas feelings like a human there.. So instead of them "missing you" it's more like them missing what you could be doing for them.
It's almost like you trying to have a relationship with them to start with. You try but it always goes wrong and it's just never right. Its even accepted as just grouchyness or their sour disposition. You will try every angle to try to accept them but it all boils down to the same thing. You having to work double time to try to please everyone before yourself and you suffer for it.
Also I'm speaking from my perspective as a child who was brought up with this disorder by narc parents so this is a parent child situation and every relationship and narc are different.
The narc doesn't miss you 😂 if your toaster breaks, you don't miss it, you buy a new one!
Your channel is blessing so many people including me. Forgiving yourself is so hard but necessary in order for you to heal and flourish. Healing is a process. Don't give up you deserve it.
10:50 I have to forgive myself for getting involved with someone I had no business getting involved with. I totally crossed my own boundaries with him, I started smoking weed everyday with him when I never use to smoke and slept with him too soon when I wasn't even ready or comfortable. Wow that hit me hard.
Labelle Ayitiii oh don't worry I already ran as fast as I could. I made that comment after I had already gone no contact. I was doing all these things to try and please him. He snapped on me once for no reason (gaslighting), I still gave him another chance. The second time it happened he tried to triangulate and said a girl in a cafe was flirting with him while I was in the bathroom, then told me to shut the f*** up a bunch of times when I calmly asked him what he meant by her flirting with him (gaslighting again) and I never spoke to him again after that.
I love this man , he is saying exactly what I’m feeling . Thanks for making sense of it in my mind .
You ROCK :)
Goooooooooness, it makes me feel like I'm crazy. Literally. Thanks for doing this for us. It helps a lot! Daphne
Thank you so much for this.... I have been married for 7 years but with him for 11. He has always had someone else in the picture but says its because of me and that he is doing this to make sure he stays with me because he didnt realize he was getting with a woman who isn't nurturing. It hurts and for so long I believed it. He brought another girl into our home and she has been living there since we got married and of course his thing is that they are best friends and he doesn't look at her like that and that we need help but he wont get a job... I feel so stupid and weak. I cant believe I allowed this for so long. We have 2 young boys and I kept staying thinking I was giving them their father. I'm just ready for this to be over it has been alot and taking a toll on me.... but I know I'm ready to end this. I can't hardly stand to be around him.
I kicked him out today. I can’t stand the thought of living with him, but I can’t stand the thought of a life without him. I just want to call him. Everything hurts
Thank you so much for your advice! I was married for 20 and yes now I see why the more complacent I was the worse things got and I didn't see why. The day I defended myself... well she divorced me and left me without even speaking to me... i thought I'd die... I'm shaking off the dust and moving on...
I think it is hard because you want something you can't have. You want them to change.
Love this guy. So knowledgeable and no nonsense
Wow this took my breath away everything I want to say never knew how
+Jessica Hunter thank you for watching.
Great video Kevin!
It is so confusing, when someone blows hot and cold and yes, you have amazing times, then really bad and confusing times. but there were red flags in the beginning, where my narcy kept saying "silly Lisa" and always disagreeing, then saying, "what do u want? a pammy pammy guy?" it felt like wading through mud, having a conversation, when he was in one of his moods
My narcissist told me he loved me, two seconds later I said I’m not willing to play mind games, next he sent me videos of him talking to other women and blocked me…. 7 months
Wow! Best focused and descriptive content I’ve viewed in a while and I’ve been researching NPD for the past 6 mos. Thanks for this!
+Angela thank you
Thanks for your support Kevin!!! Update on court case: he got a restraining order against me because he blatantly lied and my attorney and I weren't in the court room at the time (my attorneys mistake I guess 😔) but I think this was fate because I'm almost positive I'm going to press charges now. He falsified court documents and defaced my character to protect his fake image because he didn't want me to expose him by moving forward with charges (I told him I would press charges because he physically attacked me.) Do not have mercy on these narcissists, they DO NOT give a shit about us and they are RUTHLESS. Be strong and STAND IN YOUR TRUTH. DO NOT HESITATE OR WAIT, THEY WILL RETALIATE AGAINST YOU. Anyone who would go to that length lacks remorse and empathy... that definitely opened my eyes. Thanks for the new video!!!!
Go for what you gut tells you...not your heart.....I wished I had listerned to my gut and not the heart...Kate Grace....Rock on sister...hope life fills you with love and positivity....xx...Lets whip this evil out!!
Lyn Kent YES!!!! Absolutely!! Thank you so much for your support. I think I'm gonna go for it. It's been two years of him shutting me down and dimming my light, time to let my light shine once and for all!!! ❤🙏🕯 LOVE & LIGHT TO YOU XOXOXO
I just finished court with the ex narc and yes he lied lied lied with not a drop of conscience.....no worries girl friend go for it they hate to see your strength that’s the best revenge...he always turned his back and ignored me at previous court dates not this time he stared and stared cause I did not shrink back....forward you must....you got this...big hugs.....💝
Many relationships these days go from love to a court order. This is the effect of narcissism on our society.
Mella B thank you so much xoxoxo
Oh my…. Yesssssssss the highs are so high and the lows are so low….addicted and trying to free myself from this cycle, but part of me wants to get out and part doesn’t. This clearly explains why I’m still stuck
Sherry M,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
My lord I'm so glad I found your Channel. My male cousin dearly needs your help. His mother is a covert narcassist and she has done so many damage to him. Put him on Ritalin when he was a child and displaying unhappiness eith her after she took him away from his father. He at a young age had anxiety, depression ended up Turing to drugs..heroin. fst fwd 20 years...he's still using, his mother has been enabling him and supporting his drug addiction in secret all while telling other people she doesn't and complaining about his issues to get attention. My cousin feels no self worth, he's has no voice anymore, he lives in fear of his mother and now his sister whose very narcasstic as well. He just entered a rehab for 90 days and he really wants to trun his life around but I fear if he doesn't cut off his narcassist mother and sister he will fall right back. He uses because he can't display his pain they caused. It breaks my heart for him. He needs you and your coaching. I'm sending him some of your videos and I hope it opens his eyes so he can really heal and kick this habit once and for all.
Wow Kevin, another video with great insights. Thank you.
+AJ C thank you so much for watching I appreciate this
Thanks Kevin. It's hard for ppl to understand us. They take CPTSD as depression. I'm like 🤦🙅 I'm not depressed.
Oh my gosh! Yes. 🙌🏼 this is spot on!
Thank you so much. This helped me more than you know.
Carina Steyl,You look gorgeous 🌹🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
This is just so amazing, thank you so much for breaking down the addictive part so comprehensively.
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This is soo me! Yes, quite similar to Pavlov! Take care and thanks!
Oh my goodness, Love your insight, your feedback from a males perspective.
Recognizing things for what they really are is so important.
Everything you said is spot on;
The physical, mental aspect of it all.
Thank you so much..
Time will heal everything just sad for the kids, but they seem much happier. Double edge sword!!!
I will look into one of your courses
Yes thank you Kevin for your wisdom and generosity
Hi Kevin Thank U For Sharing.I Went No Contact Broke My Contact.The Narcissists Has.Been Giving Me The Silent Treatment For Over 2 Months..Of Really Hurts After He Discarded Me 3 Yrs Ago I'm So Very Lost....He Through Me Away Like Trash....As If I Never Exsisted....
Demetria Gaines
Accept the relationship for what it was and it’s limitations. Focus on loving you and validating you. It is no longer about him. It is about you.
Roxy K Thank U Your Right.
Demetria Gaines
Welcome :) you are you and you have the right to be loved. You have the right to enjoy life. You have the right not to feel like you have to fix someone. Everyone is responsible for themselves.
You are responsible for you, for generating your own joy :)
You are not a therapist/psychologist and your job is not to fix personalities. Don’t waste time.
Accept the invaluable lessons. Love yourself and lift your self esteem. You are lovable even if he made you feel like a disposable trash. His behavior is NOT a reflection of your self worth.
The more you will love and accept and know your self worth the less likely to attract such disrespect and games.
You are worthy of love.
Roxy K Thank U
So Very Much
For Caring..💝💝
Demetria Gaines
Same here.
This is a narcissistic trademark way - to throw people away like trash. This is exactly what hurt me so much.
Good people would not do it to anyone.
We just have to mentally pick ourselves up and move on towards real happiness.
But do not worry dear.
Life/God/karma/universe/etc. will deliver them exactly to that trash hole. Leave the vengeаnce to God. There is no deadline on it. And karma never looses addresses.
Thank God the trash took itself our.
We are blessed.