Taking care of an elderly parent is the most traumatizing painful experience, I’d get my limbs sawed off then deal with it, some people in life really have it well
preach, only child taking care of both my 66yo parents at 29, 2years in and I havent had a full day to myself since. Utterly exhausted and its sad that the friends I do have do nothing for me. Family isn't around to help. I'd do anything to get out of this
I've been a caretaker of various family members for 26 years. I'm burned out now from taking care of a family member with cancer who is very selfish, manipulative and controlling. His personality was this way before being diagnosed with cancer. Every family member has been supportive of him but it's never enough. I'm at my wits end to the point I just want to run away to save my sanity and emotional well being .
I just need to talk. I took care of my mom for 3 years until she passed from Alzheimer’s. Since then I am, again the sole caregiver, for my 87 year old dad with dementia. I can’t sleep besides my dad gets up so many times at night and he needs help walking. Thank you for just being here tonight so that I can actually say these words. I love my dad, he’s a good “patient”. He Jokes and laughs unlike my mom who, in late stages of her Alzheimer’s, would hit me, throw things, try to kick me while changing her diapers. I am just soooooo tired but I can’t sleep......
As much as I want to say "you're not alone", i know that I shouldn't. Because the reality that infact you're so horribly alone and helpless hits you when you're restless, crying yourself to sleep on a difficult night. I know, because I've had "friends" say that to me, too. I know, because I have been left alone and scoffed at at the times Ive needed the very same "friends" the most. Nothing hurts more than realizing that you're suffering all alone. I know what you feel, because I feel that too. I know what you're going through, because I am going through it too. I know it's tough, but the fact that you still keep going is astounding, and I'm proud of you. Think of me as a companion, standing right beside you through all the rain and storms. I wish you, your dad and your family well. Be brave. Best of luck. God bless.
Sometimes you need to vent. Caregiving is a difficult duty. I think ppl forget that as caregivers are life is on hold and we most or all of the time dont have support from family for whatever the reasons.
Please get some help, I didn’t and it was not a good end. No support from most friends and family. I didn’t realize I was trying to save her but not caring for myself
Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.
Home health care agencies do nothing to assist their employees to prevent burnout, I reached out to managers for help with no success my only option was to quit a job I had for almost 10 years plus pay is always low so low even McDonald’s pays more than caregiver agencies.
I work from home, take care of a disabled/bed ridden brother and another family member that has a mental disability, manage a house and they all live with me. I don't know how I manage to get through the day. I am not a young person and worry my life will be cut short because I have no one to help. I tried to get home care but after constant and repeated requests for documents dating 5 yrs ago as proof of his income became very frustrating. No matter how many times we sent the documents, they wanted more so we gave up. Its very hard to get help unless you are destitute. He can't afford to pay himself for homecare. Hopefully this video will at least help me de-stress otherwise I am headed for severe burnout and a shortened life.
I understand how your feeling sometimes it feels so overwhelming. I hope and pray you can find someone even just an hour a day so you can get some alone time. I wish you well and your in my prayers.
Deb ctou story sound so.much like mine and my older brothers i can hardly manage to get work done when my brother dosent want me to leave at all i only mow the grass after my dogs dissapere going out
I have a mental illness and I know the struggle you are going through taking care of someone with that disability. I applaud you and wish you all the best and hope that you are able to get some help. Those depending on you need you healthy, not burned out. Take care!
I can't take it anymore. I have a disabled and elderly parent with COPD, advanced cerebral atrophy, tardive dyskinesia, mobility issues, and she functions at roughly a five- or seven-year-old level (and has for over a decade) I am up over and over to turn on, turn off her TV and select channels for her, making her food, doing the laundry, cleaning the house, cleaning up after her (she defecates the bed and makes messes all the time). She sometimes lumbers up to take the wrong medications if they aren't kept from her, and she somehow lumbers into the kitchen while I'm asleep and binge eats sweets and causes messes (she gets bruises falling down while doing this). She can lumber into the kitchen at night but can't get out of bed to use the bathroom, so I have to clean the fecal matter out of her clothes, and what is WORSE is that I am already dealing with a severe hack that has been going on for over a decade and prevents me from working.
I have OCD and have to caretake for my grandmother cause my mother gave up and left it all on me. I love my grandma dearly but good god its draining having to listen to her complain about everything of every single minute cause then in turn i feel like its my fault and im not doing enough and when shes distressed or unwell, i am as well. I cant help the way i am and im probably not fit to be a caretaker but im literally all this womans got at this point. Im just so exhausted and tired of feeling like im responsible for everything in her life.
Exactly doing exercise, breathing and getting help from others is not something I can do everyday. No one is helping me take care of my elderly parents and I have to survive off pittance because I'm not allowed access to anything else benefits wise.
Exactly what I'm living. I'm 69 and care for my mother who is 91. Not easy ... especially if your siblings "have no time to care, are living to far away, don't know how ..." And if they add : " Your are the only one who chose to do the job ... Bad luck ! Now go on ... " Among your prevention recommandations I neglected one : "Move, stay physically active, go and walk" You are certainly true . I think It's very useful. Thank you.
Taking care of an elderly parent is the most traumatizing painful experience, I’d get my limbs sawed off then deal with it, some people in life really have it well
Me tooo
Same here.
preach, only child taking care of both my 66yo parents at 29, 2years in and I havent had a full day to myself since. Utterly exhausted and its sad that the friends I do have do nothing for me. Family isn't around to help. I'd do anything to get out of this
It really is.
Taking care of my dad was so hard. 🥲
I've been a caretaker of various family members for 26 years. I'm burned out now from taking care of a family member with cancer who is very selfish, manipulative and controlling. His personality was this way before being diagnosed with cancer. Every family member has been supportive of him but it's never enough. I'm at my wits end to the point I just want to run away to save my sanity and emotional well being .
In all honesty you really cant prevent caregiver burnouts...Even the most level headed person has thier limits.
Right😂 I'm listening to this like um no lol
I just need to talk. I took care of my mom for 3 years until she passed from Alzheimer’s. Since then I am, again the sole caregiver, for my 87 year old dad with dementia. I can’t sleep besides my dad gets up so many times at night and he needs help walking. Thank you for just being here tonight so that I can actually say these words. I love my dad, he’s a good “patient”. He Jokes and laughs unlike my mom who, in late stages of her Alzheimer’s, would hit me, throw things, try to kick me while changing her diapers. I am just soooooo tired but I can’t sleep......
As much as I want to say "you're not alone", i know that I shouldn't. Because the reality that infact you're so horribly alone and helpless hits you when you're restless, crying yourself to sleep on a difficult night. I know, because I've had "friends" say that to me, too. I know, because I have been left alone and scoffed at at the times Ive needed the very same "friends" the most. Nothing hurts more than realizing that you're suffering all alone.
I know what you feel, because I feel that too. I know what you're going through, because I am going through it too. I know it's tough, but the fact that you still keep going is astounding, and I'm proud of you. Think of me as a companion, standing right beside you through all the rain and storms.
I wish you, your dad and your family well. Be brave. Best of luck. God bless.
I hope everything will go well with you. God will bless you for the way you take care of your parents. Take care and thanks for sharing.
I desperately need advice how to handle this and what I will go through. I feel like life is over.
Any advice please.
Give him 2 mg melatonin and take 1.5 mg for you own sleep.
Sometimes you need to vent. Caregiving is a difficult duty. I think ppl forget that as caregivers are life is on hold and we most or all of the time dont have support from family for whatever the reasons.
Please get some help, I didn’t and it was not a good end. No support from most friends and family. I didn’t realize I was trying to save her but not caring for myself
Very informative, but please lose the background music, please.
I love my mom but taking care of her all the time has drove me to my wit's end
Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.
Home health care agencies do nothing to assist their employees to prevent burnout, I reached out to managers for help with no success my only option was to quit a job I had for almost 10 years plus pay is always low so low even McDonald’s pays more than caregiver agencies.
I work from home, take care of a disabled/bed ridden brother and another family member that has a mental disability, manage a house and they all live with me. I don't know how I manage to get through the day. I am not a young person and worry my life will be cut short because I have no one to help. I tried to get home care but after constant and repeated requests for documents dating 5 yrs ago as proof of his income became very frustrating. No matter how many times we sent the documents, they wanted more so we gave up. Its very hard to get help unless you are destitute. He can't afford to pay himself for homecare. Hopefully this video will at least help me de-stress otherwise I am headed for severe burnout and a shortened life.
I'm sending prayers your way.
That will not occur in Jesus name You will live a long abundant life in Jesus nams
I understand how your feeling sometimes it feels so overwhelming. I hope and pray you can find someone even just an hour a day so you can get some alone time. I wish you well and your in my prayers.
Deb ctou story sound so.much like mine and my older brothers i can hardly manage to get work done when my brother dosent want me to leave at all i only mow the grass after my dogs dissapere going out
I have a mental illness and I know the struggle you are going through taking care of someone with that disability. I applaud you and wish you all the best and hope that you are able to get some help. Those depending on you need you healthy, not burned out. Take care!
How c!n tou do toga or breathing when spmeone is yelling idiot at you
I can't take it anymore. I have a disabled and elderly parent with COPD, advanced cerebral atrophy, tardive dyskinesia, mobility issues, and she functions at roughly a five- or seven-year-old level (and has for over a decade) I am up over and over to turn on, turn off her TV and select channels for her, making her food, doing the laundry, cleaning the house, cleaning up after her (she defecates the bed and makes messes all the time). She sometimes lumbers up to take the wrong medications if they aren't kept from her, and she somehow lumbers into the kitchen while I'm asleep and binge eats sweets and causes messes (she gets bruises falling down while doing this). She can lumber into the kitchen at night but can't get out of bed to use the bathroom, so I have to clean the fecal matter out of her clothes, and what is WORSE is that I am already dealing with a severe hack that has been going on for over a decade and prevents me from working.
Thank you for this video!! 😭😭😭
You're welcome ❤
Thanks
It's the same if it is a pet. I'm burnt out
I have OCD and have to caretake for my grandmother cause my mother gave up and left it all on me. I love my grandma dearly but good god its draining having to listen to her complain about everything of every single minute cause then in turn i feel like its my fault and im not doing enough and when shes distressed or unwell, i am as well. I cant help the way i am and im probably not fit to be a caretaker but im literally all this womans got at this point. Im just so exhausted and tired of feeling like im responsible for everything in her life.
Worst advice ever. This video is a jok
Exactly doing exercise, breathing and getting help from others is not something I can do everyday. No one is helping me take care of my elderly parents and I have to survive off pittance because I'm not allowed access to anything else benefits wise.
Very informative
Glad you think so!
May I request your permission to use this for my educational video lesson
A care givers must read Joe Brazeal Author of "Living with Thunder Alzheimer's untold a family's journey"
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Exactly what I'm living. I'm 69 and care for my mother who is 91. Not easy ... especially if your siblings "have no time to care, are living to far away, don't know how ..." And if they add : " Your are the only one who chose to do the job ... Bad luck ! Now go on ... "
Among your prevention recommandations I neglected one : "Move, stay physically active, go and walk" You are certainly true . I think It's very useful. Thank you.