I didn’t expect to but I cried watching this. You never know that that fatherless little girl is still crying out even as an adult. I commend your dad for listening to you and allowing you to express your hurt without diminishing your feelings. Such a beautiful conversation
That’s beautiful I’d like to get to that point I have the same thing about my dad and I love my dad I will go all out for my dad but I don’t think he see me I don’t never see me but how I would want mountains for my dad but now I love him and he’s at but 82 years old , he’s the only one left
“What I have left is yours” - Toya’s Dad 😭😭😭😭😭 that broke me! He meant that thing! And shout out to you Toya for allowing your father to be to your children what he was not able to be to you and your brother in your younger years 🥲 Man! This was beautiful 😍
Latoya, I can relate to this entire video. You are Amazing, such a joy, blessing, & inspiration to this 60+ yr. old woman. Thank you so much for sharing! ⚘⚘⚘
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
"At this point in my life", "(dad) you were a late bloomer", "I wanna advise the 20 and 30 year old men"... this video is all the more reason as a young woman I'll date older, much older men.
My Dad wasn’t in my life. I knew who he was but he never showed up. Later in life, once I had my 1st child, I finally told him that I didn’t think he was my Dad, even though he’s on my birth certificate🤷🏽♀️. My mother was pissed but I had to do this for me. So a DNA test convinced me that he was. Years later he is still the same selfish out of touch man, who had the gall to tell me I needed to pay more attention to my Dad. What?!?!? When did he EVER pay attention to me? I’ve decided that DNA doesn’t give you an invitation into my life. I was blessed to find the man who is my husband and father of my children to be the father to our children that I never had. I’m ok with that.
Bless you. I have a very similar narrative. The audacity of my father to ask why I don’t show him love when he was never interested. He has never held himself accountable. We didn’t even know his mother was alive until age 40. At some point they were content with out my sister and I being a part of their lives.
“Whatever I have left is yours” *grabs tissue* I applaud this conversation! I’ve asked for an apology from mine, I should not have to, but I’ve moved on.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
@@johncapo2843 Lies. Some wives/women get up and go because the man.ain't shit and some men leave because they are selfish and don't want the responsibility and duty of a woman and HIS children.
@@johncapo2843 All you do is comment on women’s comments most of it negative. Why don’t you unsubscribe from Latoya if you don’t have anything positive to say?
@@johncapo2843 your friend situation. Not EVERY situation. I know plenty of dead beat dads who have done nothing for thier children. The mother didn't want them anymore so they chose to let go of their children.
This was sooo good! I think every girl wants to be "Daddy's Girl". However, not every man has the capacity for this. I love his honesty and his willingness to listen about how his daughter was/is feeling.
Yes, I love how he listened and listened to understand, not to refute or without rebuttal! That is what Love does…. It’s quick to listen and slow to speak!!!
@@robbyg4777 that is true...I'm 31 & I remember seeing my father 3 times from the age of 6 up until he passed when I was 28. The visions I have in my head is my mom struggling to raise 6 girls with no child support. It took me a long time to forgive him for leaving his children, the pain my mom felt & watching her cry. It's not easy, but I had to forgive for my peace of mind.
I'm one of those girls that had her father physically because he's married to my mother still is and under the same roof but the only time my father showed me any kind of attention was when he was disciplining me. Fortunately I didn't growing up think that in order for a man to show me love he gotta beat me.
When you said "Let him love them... because that's the way he wanted to love me." I completely broke down. That is exactly what my mother told me 3 days ago about my Dad.
This was the best dad and daughter sit down conversation I have ever saw and heard, So much raw and real conversation. This need to be put in a book. Your dad said something that shook the foundation of dad and children. Our heavenly father is a first father and he will need out needs, even emotionally. Latoya you did amazing, in holding those tears back.
I'm glad your father showed up and told his truth. Some older men that have children are still in their selfish years and will lie about how the showed up in their children's lives and wonder why the grown children don't care about them. When I read The Ten Commandments, I honor my mother twice.
Because they already forgave each other ,so this sit down was not hard for him to show up ...she did say it at the end ..if she didn't forgive him ,it wouldn't be so easy
She's taking a huge step. Many men, not just black men disappear at times in a child's life and it really hurts. What gets me is how many reappear when the child grows up after the work has been put in by Moms, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. A friend who is a nurse stated to me so many men are in hospitals alone, and wish they had stayed with their families, especially at this time in their lives. Many men only think of now, if you lay down with a girl or woman take responsibility if a baby develops out of that relationship, many care very little about the future or their children and many die alone and have huge regrets. This is just me I would never want to hear what was the cause of why they weren't around. Too little too late. I have no respect for a man that doesn't take care of his children, no respect whatsoever and nothing he says would ever change my mind. All the respect to the moms that love and care for their children. She's good, I wouldn't allow him to bring up anything to be frank I wouldn't want to hear his BS.
You took the words RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH! I definitely aspire to be healed and whole, but stay where you at. I do absolutely love how they had a productive, positive and very real conversation! A lot of the father’s issue, including mine is that they don’t want to own up to what they did. They’re either delusional and maybe think that mandated child support was enough or they know they were there and just can’t bear to acknowledge or hear that! Absolutely pathetic.
I watched this and can't stop crying! I didn't meet my father until I was 23 and as a fully grown woman, I still deal with abandoment issues. He was never there for me and I never felt like a grown man ever gave me the " I got you" phrase with words or by their actions. Thanks for doing this with your dad and I hope you guys do a Part 2. Your father showed up and told his truth with no excuses. Thanks for doing this. Please consider segments with you and your dad. We love it!
I remember having a similar honest conversation with my pops. I became a little boy again. He passed away a few years later and I think God everyday we were able to have that moment.
This is heart-touching. As a daddy's girl with older brothers and many uncles, I have always had the love and protection of men. It's difficult to imagine life without their impact. Glad she now has a good relationship with her Dad.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Even as a therapist. This is one of THE best father-daughter conversations that I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing. Blessings on your journey forward! I’m sharing this to my private group now.
I hear the part about forgiveness, but I’m not even ready. Mom was murdered, dad didn’t step up. Threw us on his sister. Had 2 more kids with another woman that ended up in the system. I feel like I’m mad for me and my brothers. Now he has grandkids he don’t know. He can acknowledge everyone but his kids and grandkids and that pisses me the hell off.
This is SUCH a necessary conversation and I thank you Latoya for having it with your dad and sharing it with us. Made me tear up🥹 I didn't get to have this conversation with my father, I attempted twice but to no avail. However, when he became ill I was there, every appointment, treatment, cleanup for 5 months until he took his last breath. I was 38 before I heard the words I love you. It wasn't until he passed that I knew even though he was not there he was proud of me and my accomplishments . To that point, I pray for our men that the upcoming generation doesn't feel dropped by their father, but supported, loved and valued. My Heavenly Father continues to stand in the gap and I know he has me.
I did love to see this convo. I am a girl who was raised with both parents. They were married for 54 years and he passed this year in Feb. I'll be turning 40 on the 25th of this month and have really been on an emotional rollercoaster. Father's are wonderful if they allow themselves to be. I am/was blessed.
Because of my own daddy issues, I was so nervous to watch this. I expected him to minimize your experience and make excuses. This conversation was beautiful. It was beautiful to hear him own his mistakes. At this rate, I feel like Tommicus is gonna be on the show!
@Day I'm so sorry that you've experienced this. I've learned that some men have not done the work to heal from their own past traumas. So, they grow older in age, but their emotional development remains stunted and/or it leads to narcissism.
I’ll never forget having the “birds and the bees” convo with my dad. It was on my birthday a few years ago when he was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. I missed out on so much throughout my years and I felt cheated because we were just getting started. But I was his caretaker in his final days and held his hand as he took his last breath. It was the most beautiful and heartbreaking moment of my life.
I bawled my eyes out. Your story is exactly like mine. I went to my Dad after my biggest heart break and he dropped the ball. He did not do what your father did at all. I held that resentment for 5 years and then I wrote him a letter that healed our relationship and till this day, my Dad fathers me and is open and does not drop the ball. ❤🙏🏽
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Girl…this was the BEST conversation! I love how your dad admitted his downfalls and shortcomings as a parent. This conversation was so pure and straight from the heart ♥️
Love all of your content, but this one LeToya. So many of us are dealing with “daddy issues”😩we definitely need more discussions like this. I find it’s important for you to know a person’s upbringing in order to get a full understanding of why people are the way they are. Glad you all were able to mend and grow your relationship🙏🏽
This was really great. Thank you for sharing abt your relationship with your dad. I love that you were able to forgive your dad; I know first hand forgiveness start with you(the individual)& that's were true healing starts. Again, thanks for sharing & your doing an amazing job. 👏🏽 ❤💯
Very heart wrenching conversation! I could feel your dad fighting back the tears as you expressed how his absence affected you! When he did cry I knew he connected with your bleeding heart and that he was sorry. I have 4 grown daughters. Their mother and I stayed married until my last daughter finished college. Even though their mother and I grew apart, I wanted the 3 of them to grow up in a home with both parents. I always wanted my daughters to know that "I GOT YOU"! I still try and demonstrate that today, even though they are in their 20's and 30's. This conversation was awesome!
Dad daughter relationships are the best. As a Dad of 3 beautiful daughters, those are the best time of my live whenever I'm having conversations with them and teaching them new things, especially about men.
I had to park my car. The tears got me. What a very REAL story. Im sure it will help so many people. Thanks for sharing, and thanks for being you, Latoya. ❤️
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
I think Maya Angelou said something like her mom wasn’t the best mom when she was a child but was a better mom as she was an adult. It’s never too late if the 2 are willing to do the work. Great video
I am a man that is 44 that has never met my father, I was raised mainly by my aunt and mama. I lost my aunt and mama 5 days apart in 2020. Through therapy and work with a healer, I have learned that my dad did not know how to be a father to me. Also I have learned that my mama did not know how to be a mother. Childhood trauma is real. While my mama was living I tried to have conversations around my feelings and how other family member treated me. Many of those conversations fail on deaf ears. Because of my mama’s life, after the age of 12 she chose not to have empathy for me has a human being. From my perspective I come from a dysfunctional narcessist family structure. Because I had not done the mental work on myself, I never got to have this type conversation with my mama or aunt. I have to forgive my mama every morning so I do not have a bad day. LeToya thank you so much for being honest with your father and allowing the public to see this conversation.
This was a beautiful, tough daddy daughter conversation. The fact that you gave your dad grace & forgiveness. I felt you & your dad. Grace, growth, love is what I witnessed.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
This makes me wanna cry a river. I love my dad because he shared in conceiving me. There has been a void in my life that impacted my relationships because my dad was not there. I love him because he is my dad, but I never knew what it was like to have a father😭
Girlllll, I pray that Love finds you, covers you, nurtures you, gives you everything your heart desires and deserves!! You are a bomb azz woman and I love it!! Keep growing and extending Grace and Forgiveness, it looks great on you!!! BTW, Gianna looks like your daddy🥰
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Ms. Toya… as I sit here watching “The Jeffersons”, I’m looking at this video, and my heart is heavy. I’ve tried to mend fences with my father, but we’re both stubborn. He was an absentee father, and doesn’t take accountability for ANYTHING. I have no children, and I’m single. I never want to put a child in a place where I’m both mom AND dad!💯
While I respect both your decisions, I'm left wondering if it's unfortunate that you'd make the best parents because you know what's needed & would be willing to provide it to the children you might've had
Man! Forgiveness is a beautiful thing. My dad abandoned my brothers and I when my mom died when I was just 7 years old. We went through hell as a result. But in my 20’s I got to start over with him. He really stepped up as a grandfather for my oldest son when he was a baby. He spent every waking minute with him. I didn’t know he’d pass when he would turn 1 and while I was 25. I miss my Daddy so much. This brought back a lot of my own memories and what happened when I chose to forgive him. This is beautiful Letoya! ❤️ Thank you for sharing.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
@@johncapo2843 Hi John, while I understand this may be true for some, my father was on heroin. My mother, from what I remember was a great mom and wife. Albeit, I was 7 when she passed. My parents loved each other very much. My father couldn’t handle the weight of parental responsibility and the enormous pain from losing his spouse. Not right, but he is human. From Letoya’s statement and the father’s agreement he had a mistress. God calls us to be faithful in marriage. Cheating on your wife is not loving your wife as God commands. The Jezebel spirit is rampant among us. However, all women don’t fall under this category. Sometimes we all need to take responsibility for our actions and choices. In this case, it looks like he was absent for a time and allowed his daughter to address it. Now they’ve both healed. Accountability from a man or woman is beautiful… amen? 🙏
My child is 1 year 8 months now. He still hasn't seen her. When I send pics, he blueticks. I've always been the one to initiate a relationship. And now am tired. I have accepted that my dad is dead. Infact, I have accepted that he probably never wanted to be a father but found himself with kids from different people. He doesn't even Want to have conversations. I wish I could say "finally my dad and I were good on his death bed. But even then, I know it wont be so. All I know is that I never had a proper childhood. And that not everything has to be fixed
@@ladyras this is true too. While I’m grateful my dad came back into my life, I do understand that not every parent that walked away has a heart to fix it. My thoughts and prayers are with you so that you can have peace while you’re dealing with everything. I know how hard it is not having your parent there. I’m sending you lots of love and hugs. We didn’t asked to be here and they owe us the chance to heal. Even if he doesn’t come through, I pray you have the peace and strength to deal with it. Thank you for being an amazing mom anyway! You are a super hero! ❤️😊🤗
Yes my dad raised me and my sister at a young age. My dad was a hard working man and strong man. lm so proud and blessed and happy my dad raised us. Im about to cry. I love n miss my dad so much every day. Rest in heavenly peace dad. 😊🙏
Omg. I walked into a Houston furniture store 😬 Latoya's dad couldn't stop bragging on her.❤️ He showed us pictures of her more than he showed us furniture 🤭
I am so glad to have been raised by my father and the fact that he took full responsibility to parent me ...he did not come from an intact home...both of his parents died when he was a child...maybe that is what him determined to be a real man and father.
This was soooo needed. For those of us who will never have that relationship change or growth with their fathers, THIS WAS NEEDED! 🙌🏾😭❤️ Thank you both for sharing and allowing vulnerability to rule. ❤️
I feel this comment. Part of me is like "Lemme go call my Dad." But then Im like "Nah... my story is different." But this is beautiful. My son and i were just talking about this commandment. There should be a commandment to be good to your kids too.
Had me in tears. Just now working out my relationship with my dad and I'm 34. I too held on to tears of anger but I let it go. You just can't hold on to resentment. Forgives is freedom.
Chile I’m sitting here on my lunch break crying. Let me get myself together so I can go back in this people establishment. This was beautiful to witness. Thanks for your transparency in sharing
I just love how no matter how the conversation was hard her Dad stayed in it n he listened. All we want is for us to be heard, N he gave that to his daughter. This was amazing.
This was so good. I too forgave my father. He lived in our house,but still was not there. He never ever said, "I love you". I sent him a card when he was in a nursing home. The nurse said he cried. He died 2 weeks later. I was so glad I forgave him. I found myself with men who treated me like I didn't matter. I see I was going by what I saw/felt from my father. I'm glad you still have the chance to have your parents. Mine have passed away. Keep up the good work.❤️
I’m sad to hear that bout your parents, Dawn i don’t think you are the only one, 90 percent of black women don’t really know how to find love or actually know what it feels like to have a real love.. cause we never received it from our own Fathers, so we continue to pick the wrong men to be with. My new man is God !!!
Seeing this made me realize that my husband has taught me some things that I wasn't able to learn from my dad. I had to pause the video to send him a random thank you text lol. This was a great video. And it's a blessing to see a parent receive redemption 🙌🏾 My father passed away when I was 12 so I love seeing true, selfless forgiveness between parents and their children. Children deserves their flowers while they are still alive just like parents do. ❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
So many of us never got the opportunity to have an ADULT conversation with our fathers. It is beautiful to see how this has healed you. Blessings for sharing this with the world.
Wow. Just wow. I feel like you just created a synopsis of my 44 years. My dad passed away in November 2021. In my grief, God said to me what your dad said, “I’ll take over from here. I will be her Father.” And He has. He has been my Father when my dad was alive and since his death. We never reconciled the offenses before he passed away, but God, in His perfect “God Way” allowed me to speak with my dad after his death via 3 different dreams, and it is well with my soul-because of my Heavenly Father. Thanks for sharing.
I understand her totally 100% . Ive always taken care of me and two daughters with the help of God. I’ve never had a man to take care of me and my children. I thank God he helped me stand thru trials, tests and temptations
This is so close to home Toya I’m trying to forgive, my dad for the same thing he has done to our family even in my.late 40s therapy is helping me through this!💜💪🏼⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Yes Sis Same Thing Here & A Key l’ve Learned From Not Only Toya But Therapy Also. Having Grace 🙏🏾 ls Key. Along With Becoming A Parent. I Realized WE Don’t Always Have All The Answers. So I Have To Extend Grace As Well As Ask For lt
@@NYCCHOCOLATE7777 if it wasn’t for my faith in the Almighty I don’t think I’ll be able to speak to my dad, at this given moment in time my siblings and I are trying our best though.
@@hiddenbeauty8769 l So Understand Sis And Agree. But Another Thing l’ve Learned ls Being A Parent ls The HARDEST Job l’ve Ever Had. And No One Gives You An Handbook Or Manual. You Learned By Experience, Life & Environment. That ls Why Understanding, Communication & Grace With LOVE Is Needed.🙏🏾
Girl I am sitting in my parked car in my driveway and you got me out here so long I’m now bawling in the car and even stayed in the car until it started down pour raining and now I’m stuck. Thank you for this video- a lot to take away- my father has passed and I always wished we could have had a conversation like this- very therapeutic- a lot to love about this video❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for your transparency 💕
This was great! My Dad said he wasn’t the best when the Grandson came. After all the neglect and abuse I had nothing left for him and even though I forgave him, no relationship. Healing takes awhile. After he disowned me I know now he wasn’t worthy of me. God cares for the orphans.
My dad passed away when I was 14. So he never saw me grow up or meet his grandsons. He remembers me as a child. We never mended our relationship but in my mind I know he loved me. I'm his only child. His sole heir. I look mostly like him. I think me being outspoken at times most likely us him lol. You're fortunate to be able to get another chance at having a relationship with one another.
Oh the water works 😭😭 a few of the points you made, were similar to me and my Daddy. He’s no longer here and I have so many moments where I’m like I never knew him on the personal level that would liked to. I was 21 and 23 years old when I had my boys. They were the only reason I ever started back talking to him and eventually forgiving him. I saw that he was trying to do so much better with my boys than he did with me. Then I had my daughter at 30 and he was so excited about her. I knew he figured it was his chance to get a redo with her that he didn’t have with me. The day she turned 9 months and my boys first day back to school after summer break, he died. My world was shattered bc I felt like we had so much more to do and he had so much more to do with my children. In a couple of days is his death anniversary and every day since Aug. 1, I’ve been reminded of it. My heart is so broken and it’s also that I’m expecting another girl in November. But I thank GOD often for giving me what I needed to forgive my Daddy and have a good 5 years with him before he died. Even though my world was shattered, deep down I felt a peace like no other bc of the forgiveness. Forgive. Forgive. And forgive often 💕
I teared up watching this...I'm a certified Daddy's girl and forever will be. I'm glad and blessed that he's always been present in my life, raised me, married to my mother for 42 years but I also accept him as he is bcos even though he was there, there are many conversations especially about men I would've profited hearing from him firsthand that he never had with me ..I went into relationships with unrealistic expectations bcos of how good he was to me and I found out the hard way that it's a cold world lol. Makes me think of John Mayer's Song...Fathers 🎵🎵Fathers be good to your daughters Daughters will love like you do Girls become lovers who turn into mothers So mothers be good to your daughters too...
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Latoya I want to say Thank you for doing this. Sincerely. I am 31 years old southern girl from Louisiana with two kids a 10 year old girl and 8 year old boy and I have never met my dad before he’s from Houston Tx and I am so hurt I carry a lot of pain from that. This episode is really encouraging to me I know I need to meet him but I’m have so many mixed emotions. Thank you again for sharing your story you give me courage.
Mentioning his mistress had me 😂😂😂😂😂 because I'm the same way with my father...I hold nothing back and we share laughter... I forgave my dad and I just love him for him, not his flaw's....But trust, it took a long time and prayer...
Our parents are human. I think we embrace an idea of parenthood and become disappointed when our parents don’t meet our expectations. Parents also deal with unresolved trauma that doesn’t go away because they had children. In a perfect world everyone would be the Cleavers or the Huxtables, maybe even the Evanses but people can only do what they have the capacity to do. I’m glad she showed her Father grace and I’m glad she isn’t holding on to anger. Thank you for sharing!
Some fathers never mature even after their children reach adulthood. Sometimes you have to understand that their only job was to get you here & that's enough. Blessings to all 💚.
This was absolutely everything. After my dad being absent for over 20 years I feel like God has been placing him in my thoughts and my dreams for this very thing. Forgiving him for being absent all these years. This came at an amazing time when I have decided to pursue a conversation like similar to this. Thanks Latoya and your father for your amazing candor about how both of you felt. Keep doing the awesome job.
Wow...This is my story. So real and heartfelt! I didn't understand my father's lack of interaction with me until after he passed away, that his lack of emotional support came from him being abandoned by his mother. At that moment of learning this, I understood that he loved me the best way he knew how. I also, understand why I choose certain men in my life. I wish I could've had conversation with my father about understanding men. I'm so proud of you LeToya for forgiving your father and allowing him to father you in your adult life. Also, our children are our parents 2nd chance. I commend your Dad for being a better grandfather.
This is right on time. 👏🏾 I have gone through a stage of acceptance regarding this subject. And recently purged my true feeling about abandonment and disappointment to my Narcissistic Father. I am on my healing journey and very proud of my self. I am leaning on God for guidance during this time. LeToya, Thank you for sharing your story. 😊
My dad is this way too. He broke me in many ways growing up. Had to separate myself from him, as I accepted he was set in his ways and that staying around him (and other family members) would continue to hurt me. It's been a challenging journey, but I think I've come a long way.
I loved this..my father died on Mother’s Day this year. We didn’t get to reconcile but I forgave him many years ago and was happy to hear he accept The Lord as his savior before leaving this earth. Sometimes you gotta take a step back and see what our parents went through and extend grace.
This right here, is God's grace in full display!!! You're so blessed to have a second chance at a relationship with your dad, Toya. Most of us "daddy less girls" don't get that chance. May your relationship grow from strength to strength in the time you have together.
Wowwwww this right here is beautiful, u guys got me tearing up on this one, i really think a lot of girls go through this in there lives, and a lot of fathers need to see this.
At 23 years old, this really hit home for me Toya 🥺 not only did this video let me know that I’m not alone, but it even encouraged me to forgive. I truly appreciate the authenticity and transparency of your channel 🤍
Toya. It's Irish 702. I'm a Houston girl too! I swear had My Mamma and Daddy not moved us from home, Houston when I was 4, I would have known you... Keep representing us Sis. You make me feel like I'm at home! ❤️🥰💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🍀
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
This was beautiful. Some fathers are just very toxic and best to forgive them from a distance for your own emotional health. It’s very unfortunate and I find this to be so common within the B community. I’m tired of dealing with BM issues.They need to heal themselves. I’m focused on my peace, happiness and living life to the fullest.
When I tell you I am crying real tears oh lawdddddd 😭 this help me to heal the inner girl as 36 year woman & someone who desires to forgive my own father and love the time we have left ❤️ thank you Ma’am
You have his smile. My father have been estranged for over forty years. My father still chooses not to be a part of my life. I've forgiven him. I hope he forgives himself. He's nearly 85 years old and still harbors contention. I gave him to the Lord.
This was so powerful and I thank you for your transparency. I too was fatherless even though I had a father and a stepfather. Both of them hurt me in ways one could never imagine and it left me scarred for a very long time. I agree with your Dad...God in spite of me fighting Him, took care of me when I let Him and it took me some years, to surrender every fiber of my being to let Him be Sovereign over every aspect of my life, but in doing so, He helped me to learn how to love me. Thank you for this and what a blessing to have a father willing to sit and have a frank conversation! You are blessed beautiful because many of us don't get to have the conversation.
Wow..just wow. I will be 58 on Aug 30th..my dad's bday as well. He unfortunately wanted a boy and received a girl. I lost my mother a year ago..and haven't spoken to my dad in 5 yrs. I am healing me..and know I need to have a conversation with him. I am in Austin and he is in Pflugerville...so I will be making that drive soon. 🙏😥
August 13th made a year since my father died 💔 We did not have a great relationship. He was very verbally abusive to me when I lived with him during my teen years and I eventually forgave him a few years ago. Like I said at his funeral… things were great at the beginning of my life, not so great in the middle, but his life ended with us on good terms. And for that, I’m grateful ❤️
I didn’t expect to but I cried watching this. You never know that that fatherless little girl is still crying out even as an adult. I commend your dad for listening to you and allowing you to express your hurt without diminishing your feelings. Such a beautiful conversation
Yaaaaas! Amen 🙏🏾! Bless Latoya & her dad’s relationship. Great conversation!!!
What a joke after all this time of doing absolutely nothing!
That’s beautiful I’d like to get to that point I have the same thing about my dad and I love my dad I will go all out for my dad but I don’t think he see me I don’t never see me but how I would want mountains for my dad but now I love him and he’s at but 82 years old , he’s the only one left
I couldn't have said it any better. 🤎
Sis this one got me as well it home for me in so many ways...
“What I have left is yours” - Toya’s Dad 😭😭😭😭😭 that broke me! He meant that thing! And shout out to you Toya for allowing your father to be to your children what he was not able to be to you and your brother in your younger years 🥲 Man! This was beautiful 😍
😢😭😭your words
Latoya, I can relate to this entire video. You are Amazing, such a joy, blessing, & inspiration to this 60+ yr. old woman. Thank you so much for sharing! ⚘⚘⚘
Beatuiful
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a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain
the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
"At this point in my life", "(dad) you were a late bloomer", "I wanna advise the 20 and 30 year old men"... this video is all the more reason as a young woman I'll date older, much older men.
My Dad wasn’t in my life. I knew who he was but he never showed up. Later in life, once I had my 1st child, I finally told him that I didn’t think he was my Dad, even though he’s on my birth certificate🤷🏽♀️. My mother was pissed but I had to do this for me. So a DNA test convinced me that he was. Years later he is still the same selfish out of touch man, who had the gall to tell me I needed to pay more attention to my Dad. What?!?!? When did he EVER pay attention to me? I’ve decided that DNA doesn’t give you an invitation into my life. I was blessed to find the man who is my husband and father of my children to be the father to our children that I never had. I’m ok with that.
Bless you. I have a very similar narrative. The audacity of my father to ask why I don’t show him love when he was never interested. He has never held himself accountable. We didn’t even know his mother was alive until age 40. At some point they were content with out my sister and I being a part of their lives.
“Whatever I have left is yours” *grabs tissue* I applaud this conversation! I’ve asked for an apology from mine, I should not have to, but I’ve moved on.
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a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
@@johncapo2843 Lies. Some wives/women get up and go because the man.ain't shit and some men leave because they are selfish and don't want the responsibility and duty of a woman and HIS children.
@@johncapo2843 All you do is comment on women’s comments most of it negative. Why don’t you unsubscribe from Latoya if you don’t have anything positive to say?
This was such a great show on forgiveness
@@johncapo2843 your friend situation. Not EVERY situation. I know plenty of dead beat dads who have done nothing for thier children. The mother didn't want them anymore so they chose to let go of their children.
This was sooo good! I think every girl wants to be "Daddy's Girl". However, not every man has the capacity for this. I love his honesty and his willingness to listen about how his daughter was/is feeling.
And not every woman has the capacity to forgive
Yes, I love how he listened and listened to understand, not to refute or without rebuttal! That is what Love does…. It’s quick to listen and slow to speak!!!
@@robbyg4777 that is true...I'm 31 & I remember seeing my father 3 times from the age of 6 up until he passed when I was 28. The visions I have in my head is my mom struggling to raise 6 girls with no child support. It took me a long time to forgive him for leaving his children, the pain my mom felt & watching her cry. It's not easy, but I had to forgive for my peace of mind.
@KFat perfectly stated!! 👍🏾
I'm one of those girls that had her father physically because he's married to my mother still is and under the same roof but the only time my father showed me any kind of attention was when he was disciplining me. Fortunately I didn't growing up think that in order for a man to show me love he gotta beat me.
When you said "Let him love them... because that's the way he wanted to love me." I completely broke down. That is exactly what my mother told me 3 days ago about my Dad.
💗💗
Whew this had me emotional. Some fathers don't understand how important and how much of an impact they have in their child's life
Mostly negative in the child's mind
Particularly, the impact of their absence.
An honest, non defensive, heartfelt conversation. Absolutely beautiful.
This was the best dad and daughter sit down conversation I have ever saw and heard, So much raw and real conversation. This need to be put in a book. Your dad said something that shook the foundation of dad and children. Our heavenly father is a first father and he will need out needs, even emotionally. Latoya you did amazing, in holding those tears back.
Yes, this conversation was healing for me and my dad has been deceased for going on 15 years.
Amazing conversation
I'm glad your father showed up and told his truth. Some older men that have children are still in their selfish years and will lie about how the showed up in their children's lives and wonder why the grown children don't care about them. When I read The Ten Commandments, I honor my mother twice.
Yea…I’m indifferent. I wish him well tho.
Ha! This comment is tea! Real facts for many of us..
Not 2x. 😩 Sis, I don't think that's it, but I totally understand..
Your entire comment is speaking to me Tandra and that’s where I am. I am okay.
Because they already forgave each other ,so this sit down was not hard for him to show up ...she did say it at the end ..if she didn't forgive him ,it wouldn't be so easy
She's taking a huge step. Many men, not just black men disappear at times in a child's life and it really hurts. What gets me is how many reappear when the child grows up after the work has been put in by Moms, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. A friend who is a nurse stated to me so many men are in hospitals alone, and wish they had stayed with their families, especially at this time in their lives. Many men only think of now, if you lay down with a girl or woman take responsibility if a baby develops out of that relationship, many care very little about the future or their children and many die alone and have huge regrets. This is just me I would never want to hear what was the cause of why they weren't around. Too little too late. I have no respect for a man that doesn't take care of his children, no respect whatsoever and nothing he says would ever change my mind. All the respect to the moms that love and care for their children. She's good, I wouldn't allow him to bring up anything to be frank I wouldn't want to hear his BS.
You took the words RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH! I definitely aspire to be healed and whole, but stay where you at. I do absolutely love how they had a productive, positive and very real conversation! A lot of the father’s issue, including mine is that they don’t want to own up to what they did. They’re either delusional and maybe think that mandated child support was enough or they know they were there and just can’t bear to acknowledge or hear that! Absolutely pathetic.
for real my dad left like less than 2 weeks ago😭
I watched this and can't stop crying! I didn't meet my father until I was 23 and as a fully grown woman, I still deal with abandoment issues. He was never there for me and I never felt like a grown man ever gave me the " I got you" phrase with words or by their actions. Thanks for doing this with your dad and I hope you guys do a Part 2. Your father showed up and told his truth with no excuses. Thanks for doing this. Please consider segments with you and your dad. We love it!
I wish I could have an open convo like this with both of my parents. This is healing.
My mama ain't gone do nothing but argue tooth and nail, and deny, deny, deny or all the sudden have a case of amnesia. Lmao!
@@candicedawson4264 mine talks in riddles🥴😅
@@candicedawson4264 is she a Gemini sounds like mine lmao!! I done started to call her "Dory" since she got amnesia now lol.
It’s so funny how genes work because her son looks just like her dad🥰
Toya and her brother look just like their dad, too.
@@danabenson4125 Latoya looks like her mom
I remember having a similar honest conversation with my pops. I became a little boy again. He passed away a few years later and I think God everyday we were able to have that moment.
This is heart-touching. As a daddy's girl with older brothers and many uncles, I have always had the love and protection of men. It's difficult to imagine life without their impact. Glad she now has a good relationship with her Dad.
Me too... I'm so grateful for my dad and brother, but like you said glad she now has a good relationship with her dad
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a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Same here
@@johncapo2843that’s some people’s story but not all.
Even as a therapist. This is one of THE best father-daughter conversations that I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing. Blessings on your journey forward!
I’m sharing this to my private group now.
Wheeeew Toya, this to close to home for me hun. I swear, even in my 40s my dad's absence is a problem for me. I'm so over him.
I hear the part about forgiveness, but I’m not even ready. Mom was murdered, dad didn’t step up. Threw us on his sister. Had 2 more kids with another woman that ended up in the system. I feel like I’m mad for me and my brothers. Now he has grandkids he don’t know. He can acknowledge everyone but his kids and grandkids and that pisses me the hell off.
I get it for sure
So sad. Pray for him. Nothing you can do. Let go of the anger, he doesn’t deserve that space in your brain. I had too.
@@keishacox3735 so why you praying for him .
This is SUCH a necessary conversation and I thank you Latoya for having it with your dad and sharing it with us. Made me tear up🥹
I didn't get to have this conversation with my father, I attempted twice but to no avail. However, when he became ill I was there, every appointment, treatment, cleanup for 5 months until he took his last breath. I was 38 before I heard the words I love you. It wasn't until he passed that I knew even though he was not there he was proud of me and my accomplishments . To that point, I pray for our men that the upcoming generation doesn't feel dropped by their father, but supported, loved and valued. My Heavenly Father continues to stand in the gap and I know he has me.
I did love to see this convo. I am a girl who was raised with both parents. They were married for 54 years and he passed this year in Feb. I'll be turning 40 on the 25th of this month and have really been on an emotional rollercoaster. Father's are wonderful if they allow themselves to be. I am/was blessed.
Because of my own daddy issues, I was so nervous to watch this. I expected him to minimize your experience and make excuses. This conversation was beautiful. It was beautiful to hear him own his mistakes.
At this rate, I feel like Tommicus is gonna be on the show!
Why would he do that... the point of this session was release those barriers not keep them up.
Black men have a history of not owning their absence. So I get it.
Naaaahhh, she ain't ready yet!!!
@Day I'm so sorry that you've experienced this. I've learned that some men have not done the work to heal from their own past traumas. So, they grow older in age, but their emotional development remains stunted and/or it leads to narcissism.
I’ll never forget having the “birds and the bees” convo with my dad. It was on my birthday a few years ago when he was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. I missed out on so much throughout my years and I felt cheated because we were just getting started. But I was his caretaker in his final days and held his hand as he took his last breath. It was the most beautiful and heartbreaking moment of my life.
You are loved ❤ ♥
Wow💜🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing this personal story. ❤️
Very refreshing, I’m a daddy’s girl he died when I was around 6 but he loved his kids. Thanks for sharing your dad and your heart ❤️
Me too
I bawled my eyes out. Your story is exactly like mine. I went to my Dad after my biggest heart break and he dropped the ball. He did not do what your father did at all. I held that resentment for 5 years and then I wrote him a letter that healed our relationship and till this day, my Dad fathers me and is open and does not drop the ball. ❤🙏🏽
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a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Girl…this was the BEST conversation! I love how your dad admitted his downfalls and shortcomings as a parent. This conversation was so pure and straight from the heart ♥️
Definitely took a lot to get to this point!
Love all of your content, but this one LeToya. So many of us are dealing with “daddy issues”😩we definitely need more discussions like this. I find it’s important for you to know a person’s upbringing in order to get a full understanding of why people are the way they are. Glad you all were able to mend and grow your relationship🙏🏽
Definitely!
This was really great. Thank you for sharing abt your relationship with your dad. I love that you were able to forgive your dad; I know first hand forgiveness start with you(the individual)& that's were true healing starts. Again, thanks for sharing & your doing an amazing job. 👏🏽 ❤💯
Letoya is a beautiful woman and gifted love your music and voice this really is encouraging God bless you 🙏❤️
@@LeaveItToLeToyaWhat became of the mistress ?
Very heart wrenching conversation! I could feel your dad fighting back the tears as you expressed how his absence affected you! When he did cry I knew he connected with your bleeding heart and that he was sorry. I have 4 grown daughters. Their mother and I stayed married until my last daughter finished college. Even though their mother and I grew apart, I wanted the 3 of them to grow up in a home with both parents. I always wanted my daughters to know that "I GOT YOU"! I still try and demonstrate that today, even though they are in their 20's and 30's. This conversation was awesome!
Dad daughter relationships are the best. As a Dad of 3 beautiful daughters, those are the best time of my live whenever I'm having conversations with them and teaching them new things, especially about men.
This channel and the topics you discuss - just wow. God is using you Toya!! The anointing is so undeniable💕
🎯💯💯
I agree 💯
Amen!!!
I’m totally in agreement with this statement 💯.
Yesssssssss
I had to park my car. The tears got me. What a very REAL story. Im sure it will help so many people. Thanks for sharing, and thanks for being you, Latoya. ❤️
Aw! ❤️
This has by far helped me. Never cried so much. It’s amazing how so many of us woman have these feelings.
@@LeaveItToLeToya I admire how you picked up the pieces after DC and moved on . You showed and proved how talented you are .
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
I think Maya Angelou said something like her mom wasn’t the best mom when she was a child but was a better mom as she was an adult. It’s never too late if the 2 are willing to do the work. Great video
I am a man that is 44 that has never met my father, I was raised mainly by my aunt and mama. I lost my aunt and mama 5 days apart in 2020. Through therapy and work with a healer, I have learned that my dad did not know how to be a father to me. Also I have learned that my mama did not know how to be a mother. Childhood trauma is real. While my mama was living I tried to have conversations around my feelings and how other family member treated me. Many of those conversations fail on deaf ears. Because of my mama’s life, after the age of 12 she chose not to have empathy for me has a human being. From my perspective I come from a dysfunctional narcessist family structure. Because I had not done the mental work on myself, I never got to have this type conversation with my mama or aunt. I have to forgive my mama every morning so I do not have a bad day. LeToya thank you so much for being honest with your father and allowing the public to see this conversation.
May God Bless You Stay Strong ❤️
This was a beautiful, tough daddy daughter conversation. The fact that you gave your dad grace & forgiveness.
I felt you & your dad. Grace, growth, love is what I witnessed.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
This makes me wanna cry a river. I love my dad because he shared in conceiving me. There has been a void in my life that impacted my relationships because my dad was not there. I love him because he is my dad, but I never knew what it was like to have a father😭
This made me hug my daughter and appreciate being in her life, even more. Thank you for the honest conversation.
You and your dad’s relationship is EVERYTHING..you can tell he’s a proud Dad
Girlllll, I pray that Love finds you, covers you, nurtures you, gives you everything your heart desires and deserves!! You are a bomb azz woman and I love it!! Keep growing and extending Grace and Forgiveness, it looks great on you!!! BTW, Gianna looks like your daddy🥰
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Ms. Toya… as I sit here watching “The Jeffersons”, I’m looking at this video, and my heart is heavy. I’ve tried to mend fences with my father, but we’re both stubborn. He was an absentee father, and doesn’t take accountability for ANYTHING. I have no children, and I’m single. I never want to put a child in a place where I’m both mom AND dad!💯
Wow, you just articulated my present life. Single and no kids and don't want to put kids through this. I want better.
While I respect both your decisions, I'm left wondering if it's unfortunate that you'd make the best parents because you know what's needed & would be willing to provide it to the children you might've had
My baby is a daddy’s girl and I’m so proud of him for being THAT dad
Man! Forgiveness is a beautiful thing. My dad abandoned my brothers and I when my mom died when I was just 7 years old. We went through hell as a result. But in my 20’s I got to start over with him. He really stepped up as a grandfather for my oldest son when he was a baby. He spent every waking minute with him. I didn’t know he’d pass when he would turn 1 and while I was 25. I miss my Daddy so much. This brought back a lot of my own memories and what happened when I chose to forgive him. This is beautiful Letoya! ❤️ Thank you for sharing.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
@@johncapo2843 Hi John, while I understand this may be true for some, my father was on heroin. My mother, from what I remember was a great mom and wife. Albeit, I was 7 when she passed. My parents loved each other very much. My father couldn’t handle the weight of parental responsibility and the enormous pain from losing his spouse. Not right, but he is human. From Letoya’s statement and the father’s agreement he had a mistress. God calls us to be faithful in marriage. Cheating on your wife is not loving your wife as God commands. The Jezebel spirit is rampant among us. However, all women don’t fall under this category. Sometimes we all need to take responsibility for our actions and choices. In this case, it looks like he was absent for a time and allowed his daughter to address it. Now they’ve both healed. Accountability from a man or woman is beautiful… amen? 🙏
My child is 1 year 8 months now. He still hasn't seen her. When I send pics, he blueticks. I've always been the one to initiate a relationship. And now am tired. I have accepted that my dad is dead. Infact, I have accepted that he probably never wanted to be a father but found himself with kids from different people. He doesn't even Want to have conversations.
I wish I could say "finally my dad and I were good on his death bed. But even then, I know it wont be so. All I know is that I never had a proper childhood. And that not everything has to be fixed
@@ladyras this is true too. While I’m grateful my dad came back into my life, I do understand that not every parent that walked away has a heart to fix it. My thoughts and prayers are with you so that you can have peace while you’re dealing with everything. I know how hard it is not having your parent there. I’m sending you lots of love and hugs. We didn’t asked to be here and they owe us the chance to heal. Even if he doesn’t come through, I pray you have the peace and strength to deal with it. Thank you for being an amazing mom anyway! You are a super hero! ❤️😊🤗
@@johncapo2843YALL ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO BLAME THE MOM FOH
My father was a girl dad and he showed me how much he really cared about me.
Same. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes my dad raised me and my sister at a young age. My dad was a hard working man and strong man. lm so proud and blessed and happy my dad raised us. Im about to cry. I love n miss my dad so much every day. Rest in heavenly peace dad. 😊🙏
Omg. I walked into a Houston furniture store 😬 Latoya's dad couldn't stop bragging on her.❤️ He showed us pictures of her more than he showed us furniture 🤭
I am so glad to have been raised by my father and the fact that he took full responsibility to parent me ...he did not come from an intact home...both of his parents died when he was a child...maybe that is what him determined to be a real man and father.
This was soooo needed. For those of us who will never have that relationship change or growth with their fathers, THIS WAS NEEDED! 🙌🏾😭❤️ Thank you both for sharing and allowing vulnerability to rule. ❤️
I feel this comment. Part of me is like "Lemme go call my Dad." But then Im like "Nah... my story is different." But this is beautiful. My son and i were just talking about this commandment. There should be a commandment to be good to your kids too.
Had me in tears. Just now working out my relationship with my dad and I'm 34. I too held on to tears of anger but I let it go. You just can't hold on to resentment. Forgives is freedom.
I Definitely 2nd This , This Was Definitely Me As Well.
Same.
💯 ❤️🤗
He's only looking for a future care taker no man abandons his legacy
@@weaveandwelfaretookblackme as far as it depends upon you be peaceable with all men!! That's between him and God, I'm doing my part love
Toya! Yes ma’am! You are truly blessing people with this platform.
You are too sweet ❤️
FACTS SIS...She is really showing us that she is a deep down to earth person! Keeping it 100 is so refreshing & touches so many people! 😉🙏🏻
The “Whatever I have left is yours” broke me💙. I SALUTE YOU SIR
The transparency, accountability and healing is evident in their relationship....thank God.
Chile I’m sitting here on my lunch break crying. Let me get myself together so I can go back in this people establishment. This was beautiful to witness. Thanks for your transparency in sharing
Girl me too 😭gotta pull it together
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I just love how no matter how the conversation was hard her Dad stayed in it n he listened. All we want is for us to be heard, N he gave that to his daughter. This was amazing.
A wonderful example of a man who is righting his past mistakes. This was just lovely.
This was so good. I too forgave my father. He lived in our house,but still was not there. He never ever said, "I love you". I sent him a card when he was in a nursing home. The nurse said he cried. He died 2 weeks later. I was so glad I forgave him. I found myself with men who treated me like I didn't matter. I see I was going by what I saw/felt from my father. I'm glad you still have the chance to have your parents. Mine have passed away. Keep up the good work.❤️
I’m sad to hear that bout your parents, Dawn i don’t think you are the only one, 90 percent of black women don’t really know how to find love or actually know what it feels like to have a real love.. cause we never received it from our own Fathers, so we continue to pick the wrong men to be with. My new man is God !!!
Seeing this made me realize that my husband has taught me some things that I wasn't able to learn from my dad. I had to pause the video to send him a random thank you text lol. This was a great video. And it's a blessing to see a parent receive redemption 🙌🏾 My father passed away when I was 12 so I love seeing true, selfless forgiveness between parents and their children. Children deserves their flowers while they are still alive just like parents do. ❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
💜 This 🙏🏾 Sis
I’m sorry for your loss ❤️
So many of us never got the opportunity to have an ADULT conversation with our fathers. It is beautiful to see how this has healed you. Blessings for sharing this with the world.
Wow. Just wow. I feel like you just created a synopsis of my 44 years. My dad passed away in November 2021. In my grief, God said to me what your dad said, “I’ll take over from here. I will be her Father.”
And He has. He has been my Father when my dad was alive and since his death. We never reconciled the offenses before he passed away, but God, in His perfect “God Way” allowed me to speak with my dad after his death via 3 different dreams, and it is well with my soul-because of my Heavenly Father.
Thanks for sharing.
I understand her totally 100% . Ive always taken care of me and two daughters with the help of God. I’ve never had a man to take care of me and my children. I thank God he helped me stand thru trials, tests and temptations
I felt it when Letoya said " I never felt like a man fully had my back..
I haven't reached the forgiven process yet..
This is so close to home Toya I’m trying to forgive, my dad for the same thing he has done to our family even in my.late 40s therapy is helping me through this!💜💪🏼⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Yes Sis
Same Thing Here & A Key l’ve Learned From Not Only Toya But Therapy Also.
Having Grace 🙏🏾 ls Key. Along With Becoming A Parent. I Realized WE Don’t Always Have All The Answers. So I Have To Extend Grace As Well As Ask For lt
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@@NYCCHOCOLATE7777 if it wasn’t for my faith in the Almighty I don’t think I’ll be able to speak to my dad, at this given moment in time my siblings and I are trying our best though.
@@hiddenbeauty8769 l So Understand Sis And Agree. But Another Thing l’ve Learned ls Being A Parent ls The HARDEST Job l’ve Ever Had. And No One Gives You An Handbook Or Manual. You Learned By Experience, Life & Environment. That ls Why Understanding, Communication & Grace With LOVE Is Needed.🙏🏾
Girl I am sitting in my parked car in my driveway and you got me out here so long I’m now bawling in the car and even stayed in the car until it started down pour raining and now I’m stuck. Thank you for this video- a lot to take away- my father has passed and I always wished we could have had a conversation like this- very therapeutic- a lot to love about this video❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for your transparency 💕
This was great! My Dad said he wasn’t the best when the Grandson came. After all the neglect and abuse I had nothing left for him and even though I forgave him, no relationship. Healing takes awhile. After he disowned me I know now he wasn’t worthy of me. God cares for the orphans.
When he said “what I have left is yours” put a tear in my eye.
My dad passed away when I was 14. So he never saw me grow up or meet his grandsons. He remembers me as a child. We never mended our relationship but in my mind I know he loved me. I'm his only child. His sole heir. I look mostly like him. I think me being outspoken at times most likely us him lol. You're fortunate to be able to get another chance at having a relationship with one another.
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This episode definitely had me crying and help me to understand my mother (played both rolls in my life) and know it’s time to truly forgive her
Oh the water works 😭😭 a few of the points you made, were similar to me and my Daddy.
He’s no longer here and I have so many moments where I’m like I never knew him on the personal level that would liked to.
I was 21 and 23 years old when I had my boys. They were the only reason I ever started back talking to him and eventually forgiving him. I saw that he was trying to do so much better with my boys than he did with me. Then I had my daughter at 30 and he was so excited about her. I knew he figured it was his chance to get a redo with her that he didn’t have with me. The day she turned 9 months and my boys first day back to school after summer break, he died. My world was shattered bc I felt like we had so much more to do and he had so much more to do with my children. In a couple of days is his death anniversary and every day since Aug. 1, I’ve been reminded of it. My heart is so broken and it’s also that I’m expecting another girl in November.
But I thank GOD often for giving me what I needed to forgive my Daddy and have a good 5 years with him before he died. Even though my world was shattered, deep down I felt a peace like no other bc of the forgiveness.
Forgive. Forgive. And forgive often 💕
TySun looks so much like your dad! This was a very therapeutic episode. The episodes just get better and better. Thanks for putting in the time sis.
I teared up watching this...I'm a certified Daddy's girl and forever will be. I'm glad and blessed that he's always been present in my life, raised me, married to my mother for 42 years but I also accept him as he is bcos even though he was there, there are many conversations especially about men I would've profited hearing from him firsthand that he never had with me ..I went into relationships with unrealistic expectations bcos of how good he was to me and I found out the hard way that it's a cold world lol.
Makes me think of John Mayer's Song...Fathers
🎵🎵Fathers be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daughters too...
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Latoya I want to say Thank you for doing this. Sincerely. I am 31 years old southern girl from Louisiana with two kids a 10 year old girl and 8 year old boy and I have never met my dad before he’s from Houston Tx and I am so hurt I carry a lot of pain from that. This episode is really encouraging to me I know I need to meet him but I’m have so many mixed emotions. Thank you again for sharing your story you give me courage.
To clarify I carry a lot of pain for him not being present in my life.
Mentioning his mistress had me 😂😂😂😂😂 because I'm the same way with my father...I hold nothing back and we share laughter... I forgave my dad and I just love him for him, not his flaw's....But trust, it took a long time and prayer...
Our parents are human. I think we embrace an idea of parenthood and become disappointed when our parents don’t meet our expectations. Parents also deal with unresolved trauma that doesn’t go away because they had children. In a perfect world everyone would be the Cleavers or the Huxtables, maybe even the Evanses but people can only do what they have the capacity to do. I’m glad she showed her Father grace and I’m glad she isn’t holding on to anger. Thank you for sharing!
Some fathers never mature even after their children reach adulthood. Sometimes you have to understand that their only job was to get you here & that's enough. Blessings to all 💚.
This was so therapeutic and carthetic. It's nice to hear someone take responsibility on both sides for their parts.
Started crying from the moment I read the title. I hope my Dad and I get to this place some day 😭
This was absolutely everything. After my dad being absent for over 20 years I feel like God has been placing him in my thoughts and my dreams for this very thing. Forgiving him for being absent all these years. This came at an amazing time when I have decided to pursue a conversation like similar to this. Thanks Latoya and your father for your amazing candor about how both of you felt. Keep doing the awesome job.
I literally just burst into tears when he said "WhT i have left , whatever i am ...." 😢💞
Flowers for Dad💐
Wow...This is my story. So real and heartfelt! I didn't understand my father's lack of interaction with me until after he passed away, that his lack of emotional support came from him being abandoned by his mother. At that moment of learning this, I understood that he loved me the best way he knew how. I also, understand why I choose certain men in my life. I wish I could've had conversation with my father about understanding men. I'm so proud of you LeToya for forgiving your father and allowing him to father you in your adult life. Also, our children are our parents 2nd chance. I commend your Dad for being a better grandfather.
My dad made huge mistakes and is still living and hasn’t showed up for my baby at all. She’s 20. She consider her grandad dead. It’s pretty sad
I love watching girl dad stories. I never got to experience that. But I love seeing women being love by their dads even when they are adults.
This episode was so good! Side note… Toya’s son looks just like her dad 🤍. Love her personality!
This is right on time. 👏🏾 I have gone through a stage of acceptance regarding this subject. And recently purged my true feeling about abandonment and disappointment to my Narcissistic Father. I am on my healing journey and very proud of my self. I am leaning on God for guidance during this time.
LeToya, Thank you for sharing your story. 😊
Go girl.....God’s gat you 👍
My dad is this way too. He broke me in many ways growing up. Had to separate myself from him, as I accepted he was set in his ways and that staying around him (and other family members) would continue to hurt me. It's been a challenging journey, but I think I've come a long way.
I loved this..my father died on Mother’s Day this year. We didn’t get to reconcile but I forgave him many years ago and was happy to hear he accept The Lord as his savior before leaving this earth. Sometimes you gotta take a step back and see what our parents went through and extend grace.
This right here, is God's grace in full display!!! You're so blessed to have a second chance at a relationship with your dad, Toya. Most of us "daddy less girls" don't get that chance. May your relationship grow from strength to strength in the time you have together.
Wowwwww this right here is beautiful, u guys got me tearing up on this one, i really think a lot of girls go through this in there lives, and a lot of fathers need to see this.
At 23 years old, this really hit home for me Toya 🥺 not only did this video let me know that I’m not alone, but it even encouraged me to forgive. I truly appreciate the authenticity and transparency of your channel 🤍
Your son looks just like your dad…wow!
This is crazy . Me being a single father having a daughter ..I cant imagine the pain she went thru .A man cannot leave what he created.
This made me cry!! When your Dad said God took over and said I'll be her Father!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 oooooo weeee this was good!!!!
I cried 😭😭😭😭 I loved what your dad said about God fathering you and that he could not take credit for anything that has taken place in your life
When he said "what I have left is yours" that made me a lil misty😢
"Whatever I have left.... it's yours!" 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 My heart!
Toya. It's Irish 702. I'm a Houston girl too! I swear had My Mamma and Daddy not moved us from home, Houston when I was 4, I would have known you... Keep representing us Sis. You make me feel like I'm at home! ❤️🥰💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🍀
If we knew in our twenties what we know now we would all have done something’s differently, such as life.. Tell the truth LeToya…🦋🦋🦋
I don't have a relationship with my father so I understand how you felt, but yall have me at work fighting tears.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
This was beautiful. Some fathers are just very toxic and best to forgive them from a distance for your own emotional health. It’s very unfortunate and I find this to be so common within the B community. I’m tired of dealing with BM issues.They need to heal themselves. I’m focused on my peace, happiness and living life to the fullest.
I wasn't expecting to cry either, but when he said what I have left is yours. that took me out
When I tell you I am crying real tears oh lawdddddd 😭 this help me to heal the inner girl as 36 year woman & someone who desires to forgive my own father and love the time we have left ❤️ thank you Ma’am
You have his smile. My father have been estranged for over forty years. My father still chooses not to be a part of my life. I've forgiven him. I hope he forgives himself. He's nearly 85 years old and still harbors contention. I gave him to the Lord.
This was so powerful and I thank you for your transparency. I too was fatherless even though I had a father and a stepfather. Both of them hurt me in ways one could never imagine and it left me scarred for a very long time. I agree with your Dad...God in spite of me fighting Him, took care of me when I let Him and it took me some years, to surrender every fiber of my being to let Him be Sovereign over every aspect of my life, but in doing so, He helped me to learn how to love me. Thank you for this and what a blessing to have a father willing to sit and have a frank conversation! You are blessed beautiful because many of us don't get to have the conversation.
BEAUTIFUL!
“And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.”
Matthew 6:12 KJV
AMEN 🙏🏾
Wow..just wow. I will be 58 on Aug 30th..my dad's bday as well. He unfortunately wanted a boy and received a girl. I lost my mother a year ago..and haven't spoken to my dad in 5 yrs. I am healing me..and know I need to have a conversation with him. I am in Austin and he is in Pflugerville...so I will be making that drive soon. 🙏😥
I love Latoya. She truly seems genuinely nice yet she doesn't take no mess. I pray she gets her own talk show if that's what she desires.
I admire how she was able to pick up the pieces from DC and move on .
August 13th made a year since my father died 💔 We did not have a great relationship. He was very verbally abusive to me when I lived with him during my teen years and I eventually forgave him a few years ago. Like I said at his funeral… things were great at the beginning of my life, not so great in the middle, but his life ended with us on good terms. And for that, I’m grateful ❤️
Oh My!! Her children looks just like her dad!! Especially her daughter!