5 Ways Not To Impress Your Crush
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- If you're looking for dating advice on how to impress your crush, how to talk to your crush, how to attract your crush, or how to et your crush to like you back, then this video is not for you. In this video, we talk about the ways that you are actually rejecting your crush without realizing. Doing things like insulting, ignoring, or even teasing your crush too much can actually backfire.
We have a playlist on dating here actually if you want to learn more on dating strategies: • Dating Ins and Outs (P...
Writer: Daila Ayala
Script Editor: Denise Ding
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VO: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: OatsAndToast
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1st
Congrats on finding this video before anyone else did.
Yea
19 hours ago???
This is witchcraft I swear-
This was edited and posted 19 hrs aho and they edited the vid 5 mins ago
Tip: Dont, dont try to bend over backwards for anyone, focus on yourself first before anything else, especially when you need serious work on yourself
Well said!
Ditto! In fact, if you crush on anyone else at ALL... you've already failed. 😜 stop 'flirting' and just have a normal convo
Best choice and great way to waste your life - wait for a better moment.
Too late, I'm too into this, that's it might be to late to get out
You can say that again!
1. Ignoring them (0:48)
2. Negging and insulting them (2:07)
3. Deflecting their advances (3:16)
4. Teasing too much (4:02)
But the video title says there are 5 ways...
@@rajashekharniyogi9673 the video had four, I watched and looked out for 5 but #4 was the last one
@@da_beano Maybe the 5th is leaving them on a cliff...A cliffhanger.
As someone who is speaking from experience, ghosting someone you have a crush on is one of the worst things you can do to them. It's one thing if you need space, and you can convey that message to them at any point whether its direct or not, but deliberately ignoring them when they're saying hi, asking you a question, or wondering if your free to hang out is a horrible, heart breaking thing you can do. And this can technically apply to any super close friends as well as crushes. Trust me, if you need space, just tell them or simply say "Sorry I'm busy" or "Sorry not this time, maybe another time."
Ghosting hurts...it's never fun
Yeah I made that mistake and for some reason I feel like he feels really bad so he tries really hard to pretend I don't exist but he goes near me any chance he gets, yet he always says nothing to me despite me being here
damn man i ghosted my gf for a time and o didn't know just how bad it is, i don't think i will ghost someone again in my life
Yall i got ignored lmao from a simple question ;-;
But it seems like its the only way to get their attention/ to get them to realize how much they need you.
@@MikeyLee559 still. don't do it
It’s not easy to impress your crush. Sometimes, you end up getting disappointed. However, you have to stay confident, independent, goofy, kind, and be who you are. Remember that there’s nothing more attractive and impressive than being the best version of yourself. Being the real, you are still the most important thing of all. Your goal is not just to impress your crush but also to get him/her to know and appreciate the real you.
I think we tend to overcomplicate things like this. When around someone you like be yourself and try not to be overbearing. If they like you back they will naturally gravitate to you 💛
Exactly! I have this girl who really acts like she likes me and is super nice but won’t admit it! Do you think maybe she scared to tell me? She gets very nervous around me.
@@TotallyHumanGamer you're coping
@@fuarkk3611 lmao
Easier said than done sadly for a lot of people, overthinking is my JAM though I've been trying to be better about it!
@@MrDuckyart right. Lol trying my best but I be trippin
another: don't do things with others that you don't enjoy/want to do just to impress them. you should be willing to do things with anyone, but not if it's something that you don't want to do or dislike
For number 1, I personally have struggled with it because I worry about coming across as too clingy. People would tell me I always made it obvious I had a crush because I was too clingy and annoying. I'm working on this.
Same here😪
Yeah, us guys don't like it because we know every dude gets that treatment. Makes us lowkey not feel special, but uncomfortable to speak on it as it won't matter. Other guys use it agianst a female, other dudes just move around.
Some can tell what you want and will try to teach you a better way of channeling that energy of who you have a crush on.
@@bioheart09 gah yeah I understand that, sometimes I feel like i play hard to get but then I literally forget to reply. I used to talk to this guy as friends and stuff, and i'd like tell myself i'll respond in an hour and now it's been 2 weeks and I don't even want to open it yyet
@@spamaccount3525 that's a lil universal. I know those actions very well, idk if you still do it but please, catagorize people in your head right, and according to the love they deserve, and truly try and be the one that reaches out.
I do know that in this day and age people do text back alot either but the put in effort, if long enough, will turn into habit.
Don't feel bad about any of it.
Mario annnd Sonic?
I love this username!
It’s strange but over here there always seems to be a competition of “who can show less” and it’s really sad. I like being expressive when I have a crush but as soon as I am it’s like I’ve lost because that’s when things start to slowly fade away.
I had a crush on someone for a while now, and over the long time where we interacted I just ignored them. A part of me wanted them to come to me first or was pushing myself away to not seem weird or clingy. And unfortunately as a result I don’t know them that well and I really wish I was more confident when I newly met them. I’m trying to start to be more friendly, and another thing I learned is that confidence isn’t creepy! So whoever is reading this go for it!
it's crazy you said that because I'm going through the exact same thing! Me and my crush have been friends for the longest time but I had to leave the area for a year or so and when I came they didn't even feel like the person I knew before... im trying to rebuild our relationship again but it's difficult when they are near their friends all the time haha! :)
@@Psych2go ❤
@@avastapes oh yeah haha 😂? Go for it! I wish you the best, random stranger in the internet that I don’t know!
It’s hard not to act defensive when you’ve been already hurt, but I like to get in a mentality of ‘be your best version’, and if it doesn’t do you good, step back immediately. that way you don’t feel you are the one to blame.
I thought the title said
"ways to get over your crush"
And im like"i could really use it"
After he moved away never got to tell him that i love him
I'm not exaggerating when I say I felt "feverish" around the girl I had feelings for, back in High-School. I could hardly move or breathe either. That was ages ago. I still can't get her out of my head, and I've been trying to forget for over 13 years.
how cute was she omf
@@Brusselsprout763 The whole thing was my fault, really, but now that I'm actually thinking about it, she wasn't too bad. We met in Middle-School. She could certainly tear a big-ass Textbook in half with little to no effort, and make a staple to the gut look painless. That must have been either an accident, or probably did that to herself to show off. Either way, that kind of Pain Tolerance was more than I've ever seen almost anyone else of my time, and I really liked that about her, and I've been to a few Behavioral Schools. I was also afraid of her for that very same reason. She picked me up with no issues whatsoever, and hid behind me when she was playing with her friend. Those mixed emotions combined with all the Psyche Meds I took drove me insane. When I first saw her in High-School, her hair was absolutely beautiful. Still short, but she must have grew it out a slight bit, because she had it down to her neck, with a small portion of it put up into a ponytail. I'll never forget that slow smile she gave me that morning. I couldn't get a word out, nor could I summon the strength to lift my hand to wave. My gaze just shifted between her and the person in front of me. These feelings I had for her were new and frightening to me. I actually thought there was something seriously wrong with me. I would feel a chill throughout my body, yet there was also a heat just as intense. I would often sweat and freeze up. It felt as though I was going to pass out. We began to write to eachother, getting a little more personal as we went, and as my feelings grew, my mind began to break down. By October, I was already off the deep end. I wasn't exactly myself by the time I overheard someone talking about a girl knocking out a boy after he asked her out. Knowing how the girl I liked was, there could have been no one else tough enough to do that. I had no sense to ask questions, and I hadn't seen her for a few days, so I was getting worried. She comes back to receive what came to be the last message I wrote to her. I was afraid she was going to hurt me like I thought she hurt the boy, and threatened to kill her if she tried. If I were to be realistic, knowing why I liked her so much, she would easily have killed me first. I was Expelled, given Community Service, which I served on a Horse Farm, and sent to a Behavioral School.
@@drpottymouth It wasn't your fault, don't blame yourself. I hope you feel better 🤍
@@dk28100 I've been trying to, but the dreams don't help any. I occasionally have dreams about her. I apologize, and we talk about deeply personal things. We share laughs. It always feels so real. And just as it seems she's forgiven me, she vanishes, and I'm dragged into the next dream, carrying with me the feelings of Loneliness, Emptiness, Grief, and Self-Loathing. And it lingers. It's like Heartbreak all over again. It never hurts any less than the day of the Incident. I actually felt like she understood me until then. And Present Day, she's still considered one of a very extreme few who ever could. I wanted to be with her more than anything, but I wasn't ready for those kinds of feelings. I choose to remain Single, knowing that this whole thing is just going to happen again. Not exactly the same, but something very similar.
@@drpottymouth It will get better. It may feel like these horrible feelings are endless but at one point they will end. I believe in you and I'm so proud of you for handling all this
Just ask your crush out first, keep it friendly, then take it to next level if it works well. Small steps makes it easier. Caution, I had a girl colleague who I thought liked me and cried when I left the job....But she ignored me when I asked her out. So asking her out helps you know if her feelings are genuine or not.
Well said!
Do you think he’ll get scared if it is me, the girl, who asks him out?
@@michellerrnn I've been asked out once before and I'm always flattered. It's fine to ask a guy out, if you don't ask you'll never know and it's a headache to always wonder. When you do finally ask, all the worry of "what if this and what if that happens etc" disappears, and at least he'll know you like him, and that's the first step. If he doesn't want to go out, don't worry - give yourself credit for your courage to ask. There's Plenty other guys, and at least you know where you stand, which is the important thing, so that you can move on to other guys. Just do it in small steps, be yourself and just make it friendly. Hope this helps.
@@Sy2023hk it certainly does help 🙏🏼 thank you so much!!! It’s always scary to put yourself out there, but you’re completely right
@@michellerrnn goodluck on asking him out!!!
Yikes, I'm one of those "tease too much" kinda guys. It's just something I do to most of my friends, mostly banter. I find it hard to communicate otherwise. Thanks for the advice bruv
Wood you like sum tea? Fink it frew bruv innit!
@@rolosilver3256 smh i'm american, just use british terms because i watch a lot of people who do
respect, i aooreciate that actually wrote it here. same with me, just being too stupid to communicate so I'm joking over it, trying to look smart
Ive always struggled with bantering, im always nice and serious☹️
At first ... you have to be careful af
But keep being yourself not the one you think your crush likes you to be
Imagine em as a friend and try to make a good relationship in a total balance
yup!
Honestly I wouldn't mind having someone by my side. Buy I've spent so much time alone I'm used to it now. I also saw too much of relatives in bad relationships. Making me just hate people in general.
I do get lonely though. Honestly I think about the small things of a relationship that I would really love to do. Little things like talking ghost stories or helping them make a puzzle.
Sorry going through some tough stuff at the moment
No worries, I get you. Even when we get used to being in our own company, it’s natural to desire the company of good people who can be true friends to us. I hope that this tough time that you’re dealing with passes by quickly, you’ll be okay 😊
@@unicornwithluv950 thanks dude
Sorry to hear that
Tell me about it, if you want to...?
You will get thru this!
I remember watching so many of your videos, years ago. I had a huge crush on this one girl at the time in middle school. I was so scared to even talk to her eventhough we're in the same class. But after watching your vids I gathered up the courage to talk to her. Thankfully me and her became really good friends and eventually she even called me "boy best friend". Tbh I somehow acted normal around her eventhough I was extremely flattered inside even when she was being nice or making eye contact. Then last year I decided to risk it all by confessing. As I confessed my heart was legit beating so fast but she said she liked me 😱 i was in utter shock. Istg it felt like I was in heaven. Now its been a year since we started dating. Today is our anniversary so I wanted to come here to show my appreciation to u for helping me gather the courage to interact with her and at the end even be with her.
I will continue supporting u and I wish all of u guys and girls who are in love, the best of luck. Trust me, this channel is spitting facts. Love your vids and have a blessed day or night 😄🙌❤❤❤
This is so cute 💗 Hope you guys last long fam!
@@broadwayzjm5257 Thanks so much ❤
Bro how did you talked the first time ?? ..I mean I don't know a shi* about her ..how should u just go and talk to her and that to about nothing? 😭
And even if we talk our talks are very short ..eg: Give me that book , what pg no , what was the last word said....etc which ends so fast 😭
Pls help your bro here
@@dreamxd9331 When it comes to the first time, It was extremely awkward but i just started saying random stuff which somehow started a conversation 💀I also used to have quite short talks with her but after a while those short talks became longer. We started talking about very deep things thats happening within our lives and we talked for hours and hours which made our bond even stronger. U need to just keep talking and try to make her want to know more about u. Not rly the best at giving advice, I'm sure there is somebody out there who could do better 😅
Moral of the story: Don't be a Tsudere in real life, sure it may seem cute in Anime but it's very annoying irl and when you ask them out and they rejected you, don't wonder why, you just need to know that you were treating them like a dog
Exactly. Just because something works on TV or in a movie doesn’t mean it translates well in real life. Unless you know for a *fact* your crush loves you, worships the ground you walk on, and is constantly groveling at your feet and *begging* you to ask them out, you really don’t have the luxury to be tsundere and keep their interest. That’s reality for most normal people.
yus.
I 100% agree with everything in this video. NEVER. GHOST. ANYONE. I do not care if you just find that person annoying for crushing on you. Constantly ignoring someone when they really did nothing wrong to you says more about how bad *you* are. I got ghosted by a "friendly" girl who said she wanted to go out with me, and it hurt so much to realize that she was stringing me along the whole time and then ignores me to hang out with other boys. I am not quite over it yet because this is not the first time something like this happened to me. What makes it worse is that some people told me that it was MY fault for her ghosting me because "I was not attractive/confident enough." Uh I was pretty confident until I was lied to multiple times in a row.
SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS!! T-T I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said and omg this video is so helpful. My best guy friend of 7 years started acting weird a little over a year ago and ghosting me but not entirely. It was tearing me up emotionally because of my crush on him. I confessed my feelings for the sake of clearing the air and being honest. He did not take it well in the end. I’m mostly over the hurt feelings however I totally understand where you’re coming from about “stringing you along” he said he wanted to remain friends and then a few months after confessing, he dropped me like a hot potato. I felt so foolish. To anyone reading this, *be honest from the start and stay honest* Aka maintain solid, open communication. I totally relate. ❤️🩹
People are being immature when they ghost, they don’t know how to confront situation which is going to bite them in their asses one day. Pls don’t let it reflect on you.
Yup, I feel ya. One year ago i was in the same boat. That girl was like a whole other level of serotonin boost for me, we were sooo close to get together, we had a lot of dates and things to do together. But one day she was like "oh wait i dont want this at all, lets not say anything just disapear from his life, yea that sounds great idea" and she left. xD I tried to tell her, if you dont want us, then tell me, Its alright to say it out loud, but she just wondered in the void for minutes, she couldt make that in words. So i got enough of this. I told her that i dont like this childish act and i prefer real talks over this "find out whats wrong" kinda things. My last words to her was "you no longer exist in my world so have a great one" I cut every single contact with her, except ONE (for that case if she wanna tell me something that came up in her mind) but she never tried to do that. Long story short, i found another, a lot better person than her. I am happy and that is the most important thing for me. WE are happy together.
If someone start to ghost you, you have the right to exterminate them from your life. Thats the finest way to go in my opinion.
Man, I put my signature under your words. You are a healthy man like me who deserves a fine girl. NEVER SETTLE FOR THE LESS.
@@Daniiel117 You are an awesome man and I am happy that you found a fine girl. I raise my mug for you!
As much as rejection hurts, disapointment hurts more. I understand a person why they would reject me because im not the man theyre looking for but when someone enters your life and expecting to get something only to get disapointed even if you tried your best it crushes you so bad that makes you wanna give it up
I know this, met a woman of my life, I know I won't find anyone like her even if I had 10 lives and it was me who fucked it up as I didn't know how to act masculine enough and understand women signals
Why do we have to understand signals? Can't we just, you know, TALK?
@@mrscruffles801 with women, it's the most important thing. If you talk with them like with your buddies and don't look for signs, you will get burned, I talk from a very devastating experience. You will come off as not masculine or she will think that you either clueless or don't want her, or just are her friend as you might miss her "invitation" to be closer, to kiss her, or miss her "compatibility/shit tests" because women might say one thing but do the other thing, it's not as important what they say but what they do. They are like cats, they might act that they don't like you, but in reality they come to you and go to test you if you are masculine enough to break her barriers
@@01iverQueen What signs exactly?
Truth!
I liked the video, but especially the number 5. I liked the way the subject was talked about, and there even was a message about the problem in our society that no one really talks about. Truly wonderful.
Choose Self-respect always before such Emotions.
yup!
@@Psych2go first time 🥳reply from you 🤗, just made my day☺ ❤, thanku so much🥰, take care & spread happiness as you do🤗❤🤨
Thank you for this, I rlly needed it not only for my crush but for my friends too 😊
Glad it helped you! :)
You taught me an important lesson today
I feel guilty to accept that this exact thing I did for my friend and now she doesn't converse with me anymore
I wish I knew this before.
The one time I got a girl to like me was without trying so my advice is to just not try
Not only did it make my life easier because I wasn’t trying to get a girlfriend, but it also meant I wasn’t being clingy, I wasn’t trying hard to impress her, I was just living my life the way I wanted to live it, and she still ended up liking me
Just do your own thing, don’t worry about it
@Yes Mhm I mean, Try a LITTLE bit, just don't tire yourself from trying.
@Yes Mhm HEY WOAH, DONT PUT YOURSELF DOWN LIKE THAT
That’s why no girl wants you! You’re putting yourself down, SHOW SOME CONFIDENCE
I’m a 6/10 at the absolute best, I’ve got a big gut, glasses, really bad hair, I wear a fedora, I’ve got acne and I STILL almost got a girlfriend, SO DONT GIVE ME ANY BULLSHIT
AND DONT SAY SHE DESERVES SOMEONE BETTER, THAT’S NOT YOUR DECISION TO MAKE
@Yes Mhm If you are able to shit on yourself like that, it is proof that you are a good man. This is caused by an uncommon thing some people have, called morality or moral compass. You have the ability to self-reflecf, which means you have the ability to always become a better version each day.
Your problem is, just, you used your self-reflection way too much. Just accept that sometimes, the other people are wrong, not you.
yup!
Good thing I watched this video. So in the future I don't have to emotionally hurt someone I like without even knowing.
I've been doing all of these, we had an open conversation about it and he was honest about how it was hurting him. that I went too far. I now realise it's because I am scared to get close to someone, I think it's a healthy thing to work on that self awareness and make sure you recognize your own flaws. I'm trying to be better, I don't want to hurt the people I care about so much
sometimes i kinda forget what my crush looks like for a while because i'm too scared to glance in his general direction😭😭😭let alone talk to him
I genuinely needed a video like this so thank you
This literally couldn't come at a better time.. thank u so much
Same. It's like magic.
Yeah, literally.
Agreed lol
Ong
They always come out a couple days late for me. Where was this when I needed it 😭
*The timing of this VIDEO COULDN'T BE ANY BETTER*
I'm friend with him and we both know it wasnt meant to be. i worked with him for a year and knew he had someone in his life about a month in my job. it hurted since he's a really good guy. he seems pretty happy with his life right now so I'm not meddling with his possibly good relationship.
1. Ignoring them
2. Nagging/Annoying them
3. Deflecting their advances
4. Teasing too much
Ya’ll make the BEST videos thank u so much for these😭❤️
Did we miss any others?
I swear to god your videos pop out when I'm having a bad day, not only that it recommends me the videos that I need the most
I'm just 70% hopeless and sad when thinking about my crush, because of many things..
I always accidentally end up pushing my crush away
You can get them back!
The timing couldn't have been more perfect
Thanks, I'll try these out tommorow!
I wonder sometimes if I had this happen. The struggle of not picking up on if someone is interested is real. It definitely helps when someone who is interested engages in conversation with you.
Me: “Is ignored by my crush” yep I feel that 🥲
You're crush doesn't like you because you like jellybean
@@joshisgoofyahh7021 That was completely unnecessary
BRO. i am LIVING for this animation!!!! props to the animator(s)!!!!!
Thank you for your support!
This video is definitely one that I need right now. Thank you!
You're so welcome!
This video just proves how me and my crush are doing these things.
I LOVVVVEEE this video, thank you!! 💖😍
I especially love the voice actors different tones in this video. XD
I swear these videos literally get uploaded at the right time. I guess the Universe wanted me to see this haha
Whenever you refuse to do something and make someone upset
Perf timing, great video
thanks for the advice!!
Your narration is so great.
My crush who had been ignoring me so badly ( he didn't even make a good eye contact ) for nearly 10 years, proposed me last year. I rejected him thinking it would take him a few days to loose interest in me and pursue another person. Exactly 60 days later he proposed another person and now is in relationship.
Basically saying just keep it real
I don’t have a crush or looking for anyone atm but I’m here 🤷♂️
I have no crush currently, but these can help in the future when i find someone i like.
I’d like to think of it as doing them a favor. I’m way too messed up and wouldn’t want to make anyone struggle with me.
Great and accurate video
Thanks for sharing and helping.
👍🏼
"Don't listen to those pickup artist tips"
THANK
YOU
So many people need to hear this. And even that word "pickup artist" gets me mad, damnit.
Loving your content, Psych2Go, thank you for all that you do
Yeah the pickup artist stuff tries to paint your romantic/sexual interest as someone who isn't human. I hate it too. It's actually pretty depressing...
glad it helped!
Okay but this video is truly *sooo* accurate.
Animation is awesome! Good job
Really need this one
Can I offer/request a video topic? Could you make a video on how to get over someone? Like after being rejected or breaking up. I don’t think you’ve made a video on this, but if you have, please point me to it because I need it
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Need it to
For sure! Did you want to help fill out this form as well? forms.gle/pZvWdRXcD3p99hWc9
I've been through that I can tell you after a break up you just lose interest in everything basically total sadness no appetite it's the worst feeling in the world but let me tell you time does heal
Yes, I really need this. I think I have to stop crushing on him.
I pushed her away long ago when it seemed she was taking a mild interest in me. I want no broken heart nor emotional turmoil. I spared myself the eventual breakup and went into avoidance mode. She eventually quit trying to contact me or get familiar with me. We never went through any emotional hardships nor broke up. There was never a, "we." When one is unlikable, it is always best to avoid others that may take an interest in you. It will spare you a lot of pain. Preemptive avoidance is a great tool for the socially inept.
I love those animations, they are so cute!!!!
no matter how hard i try to connect to them they never look at me anymore so what the point i guess i never should be love anyway
Ok, this came up and I am watching this at 2 am and I have a date tomorrow that I just siddenly got really nervous for
Thank u very much for this video :)
I had a crush on a colleague who used to text me a lot during our project together to the point I thought that he was interested in me. Later he would ghost me when there were people around, occasionally paying attention when I was alone. I was deeply hurt by his behaviour and started to ignore him altogether. But I always find him looking at me from far away more often.
I am in fact deeply hurt by his behaviour
Number 1: Don’t simp
Suddenly Getting Ghosted By The Person You Love Without Knowing The Reason And Where You Went Wrong Is Like Killing Yourself Again And Again... Don't Really Know How To Express Those Feelings...
I've never had a crush but im watching this anyway
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lucky
I never show any of these signs to my crush (at least i think i don't) but still always miserably fail and must ruin the friendship i have with them as well, often a few days after confessing how i feel. The problem isn't me confessing, however. It's ALWAYS to some other problem, usually caused by me. Due to this, I have given up on liking others because it always fails, and because nobody has shown any signs of liking me in the first place.
As an introvert I am sick and tired of rejection and getting the cold shoulder.
I have decided to stay single indefinitely.
This is me all over. I know I do but I’m scared they don’t see me in the same way because of this now they are not interested anymore 😔
I think these suggestions would be helpful in meeting new people in general, regardless of having a crush or not 👍
early!! i love this channel!
Seeing what not to do and not having done any of these things, I still don’t know what to do right. I’m 38 with basically zero relationship experience. I’ve tried but I’ve never succeeded. Being autistic doesn’t help either.
Low confidence tags along.
The 2D animation for this video is super cute!
So important!
1st one is so true!
I had a long-term crush. She was my best friend. I've been liking her for the last 2-3 years. I just ignored and ghosted her out of nowhere because I know that she doesn't feel the same way and our friendship will be over soon.
i always try not to seem weird or embarrassing everywhere i go and it really stresses me out
I’m into a guy (online) in a friend group and I invite him to play games with me all the time. He joins it’s fun we have our conversations praise each other and say our goodbyes. Then we go swipe without talking so I initiate a conversation this is always how it is. I always cringe looking back at our messages because it’s just me asking him to play with me.
He’s never tried to start a convo with me and doesn’t really pay much attention to me other than saying hello and asking how my day was. This leads me to believe that he’s not interested and it hurts. Im relatively new to the friend group (6-7 months) and I want to say something to him to make him want to spend more time with me or think I’m interesting without being weird I’m unsure what to do.
It's okay! GO with your instincts
The first one, I struggle with it, mostly out of embarrassment. I avoid eye contact and basically try to make myself invisible for fear of giving my feelings away to whoever it is. It's not great, but I'm working on it. =)
me being relieved that I'm actually friends w them
Though important ..... some crushes are worth pushing away😕 before the mental pressure reaches it's heights
These animations are dope
Who else thinks her voice is so calming?
I absolutely love your voice
I see the word crush, I click.
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The first one is so true. I always seem to ignore my crush. I secretly admire him so much but whenever I am around him I completely ignore him coz I don't wanna seem like I am interested in him or show him that I like him coz he's just too good. We used to talk a bit better b4 than now until I kinda started ignoring him. I know he stares at me sometimes but I totally ignore that too. I am just so awkward and nervous around him that I don't know what to do. I really wanna talk to him easily but idk how to do that and about what I should talk😭
It'll take time and some patience, you got this!
Just the right video for my date tomorrow 😜 thank you psych2go ❤️❤️
Yes, this will be lifesaver
#1 - Ignoring them - 0:48
#2 - Negging and insulting them - 2:07
#3 - Deflecting their advances - 3:16
#4 - Teasing too much - 4:07
I don’t think there was a fifth one-
Oof i tease them too much sadly - they tease me too tho
ty!
A boy I liked awhile ago used to ignore me even when we were close, so I did the same, he new I liked him so now I constantly avoid confessing my feelings. I don't know how to flirt so I usually tease. I need to improve myself
Great video 👍
If someone is emotionally scarred, it's hard for them to communicate with others. Especially if they've been ignored by the one person they feel the closest too. And it makes matters worse if they have a crush, with all the conversation they have to do and things like that. It's incredibly difficult for them to talk to tell crush or respond to their crush when their crush says "hi". The person feels insecure that their crush might ignore them if they try to talk to them, since they were ignored by the one person they felt closest too. It gives them that sense of feeling that their crush might reject them and negative thoughts like that. The person then has trouble communicating with their crush about the problem, which makes their crush feel like they never liked them in the first place, and it hurts the person even more, to the point that they could barely speak to their crush because they feel *that* insecure. The person is left to just mirror their crush, and show the other sings that they like their crush, stressed at the fact that if they don't tell their crush the truth...things will end between the two of them.
-And that person...-
-is me.-
my crush and I are friends with benefits. We’ve done alot of intimate things, spend the night at his place, hold hands, kiss, cuddle, etc. He calls me by nicknames all the time. In the past I’ve told him I liked him and he said he’s emotionally unavailable and another time I asked if he actually likes me and he said it’s not me, it’s him and he’s not used to talking to someone all the time and afraid of being attached. What should I do? I care about his feelings and he said he cares about mines but whenI text him we talk then he leaves me on read so I give him space but idk what space he wants :(
@@Nia-aliah I actually fell bad for you, but my advice is to ask him what he feels more comfortable doing with you, and try to acknowledge his choice. If he is emotionally unavailable, it might be hard to still try to stay with him, but if you're already friends(with benefits) and he doesn't want to push it further, then that's okay. It's his choice. Just continue to try and spend time with him(when he needs it). Give him time and patience, and I'm sure you two would end up happy together.
However, don't try to pressure him into a relationship(if you're not already in one with him).
That's the best advice I have, feel free to tell me if it works or not(I'm hoping it will work lol)
@@bad_boypikachu not to overstep but do you have any socials I can contact you?
It’s just so hard because he treats me like I’m his and he supports me because I’ve been self harming alot and I guess that’s also why he didn’t want to date just yet.
In the past he’s mentioned also it’s because his ex hurt him when he was in highschool and when he was in the navy he became distant and depressed because they couldn’t talk to people everyday so I guess that’s also why he’s not used to talking so much or afraid of being attached. I do care for him alot. He’s a nice guy and I want us to work but it’s hard to be patient
@@bad_boypikachu So news flash. We haven’t talked in 8 days but he’s active on social media. He’s been hanging out with people and I believe its another girl. I’m leaving college soon and we were supposed to hang out before I leave but I doubt we’ll hang out anymore. I noticed he spends time with other people but when it comes to me he hesitates so I’m assuming he doesn’t like me….so yea I’m heartbroke
@@Nia-aliah Wow...maybe that might've explained why you needed help, because you didn't know where he liked you or not. I'm sorry, but I'm not sure what to say about this except that at least I think you're a nice person for at least being patient with him 😞
i needed this, i want this one dude away from me
Having a crush is the worst. Wish I'll never have one ever again.
I am, and it so obvious today! I am too crazy for him, too crazy for all humans!
How do I fix this then?
I know I have a problem with ghosting. I’m a super friendly & open person (I’m a theatre kid for heavens sake!) but I can’t stop protecting myself by ghosting people I love & eventually self sabotaging relationships
I still don’t know how to get close to others. And I hate it so so much.
I know the video said to “just be nice/talk more” but I already CAN do that.
How do I make a connection? Why do I push them away before we can be in love?? HOW do I love them even after we get together. What am I supposed to do???
I hate this.