7 Signs You are a TRUE Gentleman
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- Become a true gentleman on the inside by adopting these seven characteristics.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:36 Trait 1
1:52 Trait 2
2:57 Trait 3
3:54 Trait 4
5:11 Trait 5
6:06 Trait 6
7:09 Trait 7
8:56 Anything else? - Jak na to + styl
Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age. Being a gentleman is a matter of choice - Vin Diesel
Well said!
A gentleman was traditionally a member of the gentry that didn't have to physically labor for a living. In the modern day, it has transformed into an ethos which tries to encapsulate that level of sophistication in both action & aesthetic. Stoicism & religious virtue is the bedrock of gentlemanly philosophy, yet many people simply see it as a stylistic choice.
I agree...Stoicism is the foundation of a gentlemen...from which you can become a True Gentlemen
Man… that’s an impressive summary… thanks a lot…
Not convinced that religion is required - could just as easily be an impediment when you consider how zealots behave 😕
@@FlatOutMatt I'd rather live in a society where vices & impulses are constrained by the spiritual implications of morality than the literal circus we find ourselves living in today.
@@bustavonnutz fantastic but the problem is they’re not constrained by any sensible definition of that word.
I'm 67 years old and watching your video. Live, don't just exist. Get better, not bitter. Yes, great words. But wisdom is what one DOES with those words. Well done, my man.
Personality traits of a gentleman
1. Maintains dignity. Have enough confidence in your own abilities so you don't become desperate. 'I will always be ok.'
2. Self-respect - dress well, eat good food, good skin care, style - 'I deserve' to dress, eat well
3. Gentlemanly behaviors - no man is an island, make the effort to make the world a better place, help others, be kind and warm
4. Gentleman is unique and authentic - don't be afraid to think for yourself, eccentricities can be ok
5. Open Minded - gentleman does not look down on others but recognizes other's points of view
6. Taking ownership - the buck stops with me, no excuses, takes responsibility for actions and state of mind
7. 'I shall use my time' philosophy. Do what you want to do. Don't waste your days. Not afraid to step out of the ordinary
Here is a nice addition from one of my favorite songs of the 1980s by Sting:
If "manners maketh man" as someone said.
He's the hero of the day.
It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile.
Be yourself no matter what they say.
Modesty, propriety can lead to notoriety.
You could end up as the only one.
Gentleness, sobriety are rare in this society.
At night a candle's brighter than the sun
Takes more than combat gear to make a man.
Takes more than a license for a gun.
Confront your enemies, avoid them when you can.
A gentleman will walk but never run.
A gentleman always endeavors to not unintentionally offend others. He always remains in control of himself wherever he is and whatever is happening around him. He studies the emotion and contents of this thoughts and does not practice anger or jealousy. He never punches down. He is conscientious in all things, big and small. His word is sacred. Remember, it takes a lifetime to build a good reputation, but only five minutes to ruin it.
That first sentence is a weird one. It kinda sounds like "a gentleman always endeavors to intentionally offend others." Might want to elaborate on that.
I live in Israel and in this hot little country, however nice it may be , you can almost rarely see a person in a tie. And I cannot explain why , but I always dreamed of going to work and going a full day with a tie (just like in the American 80s 90s 2000s films). So ive decided one day to go in smart at work , and yes I get looks from people surrounding me but to my surprise the people I work with are very delighted with the way I dress to work , and so now I rock a tie almost every day even though it is so not a part of Israeli culture, yet people still love it and Im glad they do!
A long time ago, when a senior in high school, one member of our gang suggested that each Friday we should dress up in business attire - jacket & tie - for school. I really liked the idea. We were all likely to end up in academic or managerial roles, and our final year in high school was really our job, so why not dress the part! (And the girls who were important to us liked it too!)
@@mikewise1256 awesome! My girl likes it as well😉
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Women like men who have themselves "put together". It begins with an idea about dress, then becomes other ideas, and eventually a "philosophy of life".
Nothing about being an Israeli is gentlemanly
These are all wonderful traits that any person, at any age, should heed. I specifically love Trait 3. Showing kindness and compassion for others is, in my opinion, one of the most gentlemanly virtues one can have.
One conundrum I often face is the unsupressable disgust I feel when I encounter those who make zero effort - which is quite often, I'm afraid. On trains, I see full grown men with yellowed shirts that are clearly not well fit and have greasy hair, smelling strange, and are glued to their phones looking at animated girls (I live in Japan), tapping away.
I do not care it's a cheap suit or not, but for God's sake, wear it properly, stand straight, and read a book. It's the few instances (well, given the population scale of such men, perhaps highly frequent) that I despise and look down on people.
I respect everyone for any job (well, given that it is legal), social standing, level of wealth, and beliefs. Attitude and mannerisms are however, another story to me.
Perhaps I'm not gentlemanly enough.
As a Classic Gentlewoman, I would like to thank you for your incredible content, this video in particular. I apply all of your habits daily. Keep soaring in your endeavours and I wish you endless success.
Solid gold. We live in a dangerous world, so I would add that a gentleman invokes peace through strength.
Yet a gentlemen is not going to be a punching bag. He wants to avoid a fight, but like James Bond as stated, he can clear out the bar, or realistically, in at least put himself out of harms way.
Yes we live in a dangerous world. A gentlemen isn't a sheep walking blindly among the wolves. There is no being less gentlemanly in being paranoid enough to see danger areas, recognize the human wolves, and avoid the ambush points. Being a gentlemen does not mean a yuppie target walking around thinking all is good and everyone is wonderful. Some of good, some are pure evil
This video has a tremendous amount of wisdom. I'd like to add: A gentleman thinks before he speaks, and he considers what effect his words may have on others.
Trait #3 yes absolutely. Thinking back on what most distinguishes a gentleman to me is how one treats others, regardless of age, gender, perceived social status. Politeness, kindness, a respectful calm demeanor, and generally making people comfortable around one (even service staff) are all traits that define a gentleman.
Nicely done video.
A gentleman is not defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit but by the content of his character and his manners.
A gentleman doesn't swear at or in front of women. He doesn't treat her as one of the guys.
What a beautiful ending! So inspired...
We cannot choose how we're born, our start in life, or who will love us. But we can choose whether we'll believe the truth or the lie, whether we'll show up, when we'll give up, and if our word will mean something or nothing at all.
You choose your own reputation. No matter who you are, you can choose to live your life with integrity.
“A gentleman takes responsibility for both his actions, and his state of mind.” Bravo! I’ve met a countless number of men who’ve never learned this.
I loved the Jack London reference by the way. “The call of the wild” is one of my favourite books.
right on!
GentZ is clearly a man of intelligence, capable of original thought. Then there's the little things like his correct pronunciation of "often", "entrepreneur", etc. Pretty impressive.
I do not know the source of the quote but years ago I heard “A gentleman does not inconvenience others.” So good manners, strong ethics, and self-control factor into it. It is how I strive to carry myself.
Superb. Profound and concise. You touched on themes expounded by Jesus Christ, the Stoics, Dale Carnegie & Ralph Waldo Emerson. Thank you.
Very inspiring to know that someone of your age has such wisdom. I would only add that one should never stop learning: about art and culture, science and technology, psychology - follow your interests and broaden your knowledge. But never stop learning.
Small addon to Trait 7 if u are from Germany/Austria please dont get mad if people wont see ur painting as amazing as they are, prove the haters wrong and dont become politician.
Love the channel. Cheers!
Great video, I’m glad I found your channel!
great video, very inspiring, good job!
One of your best efforts. Well done!
Well done. Bravo!
Thank you for this
Great post…your channel is both informative and inspiring 🙌🏻.
Im not handsome. Im on the avarge branch of the tree. All through my 67 years ive had to build this fake personality, high energy, overgraces. I even took acting classes. And its mostly worked. At 5-10, 12 stone 4 puonds and a nice mop of hair, i made a point from an early age, to get my haircut every 3 to 4 weeks to spruce myself up and to feel good. My working life is at an end, my children have flown the nest, and my wife and l travel more at home in Ireland and abroad. I have 3 brother's who are better looking than me, (my wife does not agree) but, i must say, because of my short comings in the looks department, I've certainly made up for it in charm and generosity, and above all its made me more humble.
I love your podcast, its full of intelligent manly advese. God bless you. You seamed to be a tallented lovely guy.
Well said n I am beginning to like your channel!
Excellent!!!
Loving the outfit James! Keep it up!
I agree
And at the same time bring humor to the world to
This is such wonderful advice, and so refreshing! Thank you for producing this content, so sorely needed today!
One of your best presentations.
Absolutely brilliant!!! 🥃 ✨
James Bond was an agent..as well as a gent! Definitely sir, you are a very charming man! I love your videos!
Thank you so m much for another wonderful video! You sir, are a very insightful, and wise gentleman!
This is outstanding! Your advice to seek counseling, if necessary to improve/prepare oneself for that perfect mate, is just stellar.
Very well said. I have always liked Jack London's writing. I like that quote. I always say you can't save time you can only spend it. So spend it wisely. Cheers Ron
always love your talks young man.....
High and noble living, and defense of those weaker than yourself.
Gentleman is also always humble and always says
Thank you
Please
when he wants something or if someone does him a favour or gesture
Big fan of your work! It's really helping me refine my gentlemanly sensibilities, many of which have (fortunately) come naturally to me. So, thank you. Also, I love this music. Playlist?
So very eloquently presented! Thank you so very much for this, and all other videos you provide. God bless you.
You are wise beyond your years.
This is so important ❤❤
Good words keep it up !
Much admired...well done sit.
I’m in my late 70s and like to believe I carry myself as a gentleman but have one Q: What’s with the unshaven look? My dad taught me to shower, shave and dress well every day. You look sharp with the exception of the stubble.
I have led a life much as Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote about in his essay “Self Reliance.” Your approach to gentleman characteristics parallels Emerson’s writings. In addition, if I may add, gentleman characteristics are always manly in nature.
Time very well spent! How ironic that many are preoccupied with and distracted by the superficial, the pretentious, the scoundrels, who espouse and exemplify the exact opposite of these values, characteristics and behaviors. I hope that you find a wider audience and visibility.
Very good and valid info and advice. These are learned attributes. In order to learn these important values, boys and young men have to be taught. Unfortunately, this is not the agenda, by and large, of fathers, families or society.
We, as aspiring gentlemen, must provide inspiration, guidance and direction through our actions and demeanor. Without pretension, indignation or authority. Just by being and acting as real gentlemen.
I salute your efforts.
Cheers
Good evening Sir,
thank you for the video.
Well said what makes a gentleman with values.
A man is not born a gentleman, it is a process and it is helpful to have a mentor to guide you through it.
Unfortunately, there are fewer and fewer men or gentlemen who take on this role. So thank you again for your videos.
What an excellent job! Having seen many videos about the do's and don'ts in life, I was horrified with the thought about what I would hear again. But, I have to admit, I was wrong. Not only are you explaining why doing this or that in a particular situation is unacceptable for a gentleman, you are also offering alternatives, and you are giving the viewer the permission to be himself. Now, I might disagree a little bit with the messiness, especially with the messy desk. As the joke goes, the boss is shouting at his secretary: "You organized my desk! How am I going to find anything again?" Otherwise, it is absolutely refreshing to see that in the 21st century of social media, dating apps and artificial intelligence, some people are still paying detailed attention to social etiquette, good manners and savoir vivre.
Being a self-disciplined man. Cultivating such quality transfers into any endeavor one pursues and is the quality that gets him through the most difficult of times.
FYI I really like the suit jacket that you wore for this video!
Very nice. This vid hit a lot of points. I enjoyed hearing them said. Not because I was already doing activity and that made me feel good. But because there have been times when I doubted myself while doing some of things you said. For example, I have wondered if I've been too open minded.
As crazy as that sounds. I have been told that I'm too willing to listen to oppossing views. And to to disregard the person telling me that would in a sense be me being unwilling to listen to a different view.
So it sometimes seems to me that being a gentleman is like a dance that's a give & take between partners, or like a boxer who favors counter punching.
You have a style and it may be strong and works well for you but it can never be completely dominant because you never lose the concentration of what others are doing. So you can never get too much into yourself. I think that's the message here or at least part of it. Thanks for the vid. And for helping me to think.
Great content thank you
Great video. Another good idea could be a discussion on, 'signs you're not a gentleman, and what to do about it'.
Well done.
A role model for me is the fictional Sheriff Andy Taylor; always humble, always permitting Deputy Barney Fife to take center stage, always social, always super glad to meet and greet etc. Andy Griffith said he wished he was more like Andy Taylor. I have looked for writings on how to be more like Andy Taylor. If you know of any, please let me know. Good vid.
I'm part of a guild of gentlemen on discord. A community that wants to help improve men. I shared this video to the gentlemen there. Cheers mate!
Being a gentleman is about word and deed, not about clothes or styles
Great overall video, but- some of us haven gotten to see the last James Bond movie yet- going forward, please consider not providing narrative spoilers for it or other films, thanks!
My parents taught me to be a gentleman. Be considerate to others, don’t use bad language in public (private is another matter kkk) dress according to where you are, respecting your surroundings. I’m becoming more of a rare breed now, however that doesn’t tempt me to change, quite the opposite, I feel how pathetic so many are in their look and behaviour, it’s actually a sign of their inner insecurity. 😊
Thanks
This was great!😢
Brilliant!!!! My Father is My Role Model !!!!!
BRAVO!!!!!!U DID IT ALL....HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY!!!!
@@jheagy1234567890 james why not??????
Where is here???,,,
5:25 Closing the gap between the late Sir Terry Pratchett's ''gentle man'' ideal and the archetype you're upholding.
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Being a true gentlemen always means you are socially aware of the people around you and their needs. Making sure you acknowledge them as human beings and validate their worth regardless of your differences.
1. He has confidence.
2. He has self-respect.
3. He is kind and giving.
4. He is unique.
5. He is open-minded (how to differentiate between snob and gentlemen).
6. He takes ownership.
7. He has a definite life philosophy and takes risks, using his time well.
I wonder who your father and mother were and how they influenced you. They did a good job. Thank you for promoting gentlemanly traits for all young men. Hopefully we'll see a parallel video about how to be a true lady.
Really nice video! Do you edit your videos by yourself?
Now THIS is the kind of stuff men need right now. No more cod philosophy. This is how to level up. Back to basics. Become a gentleman 💪
You could also spend some attention of an important prerogative of a gentleman: the half-ironic cop-out in social situations where a gentleman is asked to do something he definitely does not want to do: 'Sorry, but a gentleman never walks over the grass; .... never eats lobster; .... never goes to the cinema; ..... never travels over long distances; ....... etc. etc. It always works and the bystanders laugh respectfully.
I'm a baby boomer so not your primary audience. However, I would like to commend you on bringing the gentleman lifestyle to new generations and highlighting the difference between living and simply being alive. Also, that Jack London quote is my favorite.
I would add protective personality in a healthy way
American style is dominated by the rabble these days.
The upside is it’s easy to be and dress well above average
Could you make a video in which you talk about your education and career?
Great content! Getting some great insight. If I can share one piece of advice since I've gotten so much from you; Vermouth is kept in the fridge. It goes bad quickly.
And vermouth comes in both sweet and dry forms; a touch of both are necessary for a "Perfect Manhattan".
@@MM-vv8mt Looks like he has both with some Bullet Bourbon and Tanqueray. Grab some cocktail cherries and Angostura and you got yourself a nice little Martini/Manhattan set up.
I drink it quicker than it can go bad ;)
@@bsmith1you have good eyes! There are also some bitters lurking behind. I keep my cherries and other garnishes in the fridge
Might I, as a Canadian, add to your mantra for living a positive life, a quote from our famous British Columbian artist, Emily Carr (1871 - 1945)
"I am always watching for fear of getting feeble and passé in my work. I want to pour till the pail is empty, the last bit going out in a gush, not drops.”
In my country of Slovakia one our family member is top of the richest person in country
But because he’s elegant and humble unless you know him you wouldn’t never think he’s incredibly wealthy
Rust Never Sleeps
Wearing a sports coat and tie regularly is not eccentric. To think so just shows how eccentricity has been devalued over time, like so many other things.
Gérard de Nerval had a pet lobster named Thibault, which he walked at the end of a blue silk ribbon in the Palais-Royal in Paris. Allegedly, Nerval said: “Why should a lobster be any more ridiculous than a dog? ...or a cat, or a gazelle, or a lion, or any other animal that one chooses to take for a walk? I have a liking for lobsters. They are peaceful, serious creatures. They know the secrets of the sea, they don't bark, and they don't gnaw upon one's monadic privacy like dogs do. And Goethe had an aversion to dogs, and he wasn't mad.”
Now, that’s eccentric! Get yourself a lobster, young man!
My dad always says good quality of gentleman is also know where to be silent rather than joining childish chat about gossiping someone
As when you join those chats you look like a fool just like the group
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Troy: You know, I asked him about that. He said, good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them. See, I didn't know that, I thought it was just a way of acting all superior. Oh and you know what else he told me?
Eve: What?
Troy: He thinks I'm a gentleman and you're a lady.
Eve: [disgusted] Well, consider the source! I don't even know what a lady is.
Troy: I know, I mean I thought a "gentleman" was somebody that owned horses. But it turns out, his short and simple definition of a lady or a gentleman is, someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible.
Eve: Where do you think he got all that information?
Troy: From the oddest place - his parents. I mean, I don't think I got that memo from mine.
-Blast From the Past
Gentleman know whether to keep the toilet seat up or down.
Courage?
This young gentleman is wiser than most guys I see stumbling around America.
Let us not act as if that were a standard...
Becoming 20 is about chosing if you wanna be Tyler Durden or James Bond
Modern men need to become men again❤️
Damn
Take a deep breath and count to ten before reacting - in any fashion. There may be more than just what is immediately in front of you.
A gentleman has the physical ability to defend his dignity and honor as well as the dignity and honor of others. Therefore, he is skilled in the arts of self-defense
Excellent but I think a sense of humor should have been included in the list of traits.