Breaking the anxiety cycle through kindness | Steven Zanella | TEDxAmoskeagMillyard
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- Trapped in a lifelong loop of anxiety and fear, it took a small miracle to quiet the negative voices in Steven Zanella’s head, allowing him to practice the self-kindness that would change his thinking - and his life - for good.
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This is without a doubt the best Tedx talk, and talk on anxiety that I have ever heard. Don't underestimate how much this will help people. Brilliant job Steven, you should be incredibly proud!!
Youre right.Lots of lectures pretend to solve our problem overnight, which I know is not possible. But he showed us his own experience openly.
Isaac Batista, lots of problems CAN be solved overnight... or more accurately, in one session. A session, not lecture.
I agree
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ive never related to something so much in my life!
Glad you connected with it. Thanks for taking the time to watch it.
I related to your story. I am going through this exact thing now, and feel I am losing my mind. I almost never want to leave the house, and I am terrified about going to work. How did this happen....that is all I can think
It's the thoughts you are thinking that is causing the anxiety to grow. You must learn to refocus your thinking and open up to the understanding that you do have control, you just need to learn how to take it back. Check out my The Anxiety Dharma Facebook group and maybe I can help. facebook.com/groups/887184724746336/
Thank you so kindly Steve!!!
Thank you Steve! Very good presentation!
"i felt that i was surrounded by happy people living normal lives, and i was just faking it and i was worried that some day people will find out my secret,,, that i wasn't normal that i wasn't like everyone else" :( ... this is exactly how i feel.. thank you for your speech so very very much it helps to know people that are experiencing this. and overcoming it like you, you are awesome
I am experiensing anxiety disorder for long time this guy give a little hope and make me believe that am not alone with this kind of feelings.. than you..
It's the most annoying experience. I went through exactly what Steve explained but was able to break out. I am happy to help
@@vinodkc7614 I made it out. Let's help each other break the chains
@@mindthemind4954 How were you able to break out? What helped you the most?
this is exactly how I feel as well
This is so tough.. This guy is brave as f
Thank you!
I can relate to this. I cried with you and could feel your pain. I have social anxiety so bad I have not had a date in 20 years and can not hold on to a job. I have insomnia from the constant overthinking. Thank you for your talk. It gives me hope.
Heather Winer I hope things get better ^^ *hugs*
Heather Winer
I sincerely hope things get better for you! I have situational axiety I believe... I've never been diagnosed but all my panic attacks usually happen when certain situations arrive... It's very frustrating
hello I have anxiety as well, and cant keep a job for longer than some months, may i ask you how do you do it? if you cannot work, do you work from home or what do you do?
it is currently so bad that i have to think what to do instead of working because i cannot stand it, my anxiety is too severe
Heather Winer wow 😮 I feel you, my feeling are the same
Lying in bed listening to this in the dark with tears streaming down my face. Steven's story is so relatable. I've had that voice in my head my whole life.
I was doing dishes while crying
Wow. This is one of the best motivational speeches I've ever heard in my life!
Sir you have my sincere respect.
Unlike other theorists and people who claim to have allready overcome their ordeal but appear so fake and arrogant on the other hand, you showed us how to fight. You showed us how to stand on the stage while still fighting your own battle and last until the end. Your bravery is even more inspirering than any words.
I believe Anxiety won't ever really go away- it's a live long battle. I try to think of you when I get my next panic attack :)
Thank you so much!
+Steve Zanella loved your video, thank you for posting. I lost a Ted Talks video about a guy I could 100% relate too. Is there someone you know of I can reach out to who host Ted talks who could help me find his name or video again?
Thanks for the kind words!!! I have no idea how to find your lost talk. Each TEDx talk is managed by a different team based on the location of the talk. You can try to search based on the subject matter of the talk and maybe you will get lucky and find the talk again. Good luck!
Awesome. Thank you so much
Don't think of the next panic attack... That feeds into the cycle.... It's somethinh I struggle with... Ever since I've had anxiety all I can think is... What's gonna be the next trigger... When is the trigger gonna happen... How am I going to behave to that trigger... I guess you'd say I have situational anxiety
I have suffered the same problems with severe anxiety, depression, self hatred, panic attacks my whole life. My wife just left me after 7 years of marriage because she considered my mental condition a weakness & she could not stay in love with a 45 year old man who is weak. You are the bravest person i have ever seen on TEDx, Steven and just knowing that someone like you struggles daily with the disorder and still has the courage to inform those lucky enough to not be afflicted... gives me hope that i am not the total loser/freak/outcast i have felt like all my life. Thank you for sharing : )
Thank you for sharing with me! I am so sorry for what you are going through. Take this time to work on yourself. You are not weak because you have a mental condition. It takes great strength to know you are vulnerable. There is so much life has to offer. Don't let the actions of others dictate your self-worth. Find the benefit that is hidden in the pain and work towards making yourself a better version of who you are. I'd be happy to try and help if I can.
one could make the argument that your exwife is the neurotic and "weak" one. It's all about perspective
Just note this ..what you. Have suffered it can make people to fall in knees if they have the same problem.. but you stood up and that is brave..
This talk was about me. Thank you for sharing I don't feel like the only one anymore.
I was ones in this situation, i would love to help
Mind The Mind help me too. I need it.
Bob Pipes, you surely are not alone. There are millions of us in the world.
That was raw emotion Steve, I can relate to you & I feel your pain, so many thoughts go through your head with negative talk & having people bring you down, your quality of life suffers & your in a dead end job & you can't function.......I have nobody building me up.......I suffer from anxiety & depression & unfortunately my family lives a state away, but they don't care about me & I don't have any support system nor do I have any friends & I'm a very friendly & outgoing person & I'm very kind regardless of how badly people around me treat me......I go to the movies by myself, I go shopping by myself, I go to lunch by myself, I recently had a work injury which led me to go the ER 3 different times by myself, it's so sad & humiliating when you are injured & you have nobody to hold your hand & I go painting to keep my mind off the bad things, but by myself......I'm hoping there's a silver lining out there......I'm a good person with a kind-heart I deserve better.......we all do!!!🙏
I'm so sorry for your struggles. Feeling alone is never fun. But try to look at your independence as a strength... you are strong enough to take care of yourself and be self-sufficient. Learn to build yourself up and focus on what you are capable of doing rather than wishing someone else was there to do it for you. I spent many years surrounded by people but I still felt alone. I'm not sure what is worse... being alone or being with people who make you feel alone. Keep your head up and use your time to focus on things you love. Painting is a great way to share your emotions and story with the world. Maybe take a painting class and talk to others that share your passions. You'll find that you are not as alone as you think you are! Best of luck!
He's an amazing speaker. The feelings are real and i have been through all the emotions he has expressed. The voice is very real and scary but it's true you have to break the negative habit snd introduce yourself to a new positive habit. Small steps
Thank you for your kind words! Small steps every day :)
Have you experienced derealization with your panic attacks??? If so... How did you overcome them?
You will make it
I cried when you talked about your Dad being outside the door ... I cried because you are so beautifully transparent and vulnerable and real... and how you have become strong and now helping others.
OMG I have never seen such a public display of honesty and courage!!! I LOVE you for this. Thank you SO much for SO HUMAN!!!! I wish you all the good in the Universe.
A wonderful testament of how love conquers fear. Thank you.
Steven - you crushed it. I'm working harder than ever before on changing my negative thought patterns. I'm 30 and still struggle with severe anxiety, but i'm not giving up. Thanks for your wisdom.
Are you on meds
I've had anxiety all my life, One very important piece of advice i have to share, stress will accumulate in muscle tissue, which is the hiding place for stress, which causes a lot of physical symptoms. I bought a treadmill and walk/run on it and it really relieves the anxiety /stress. Yes, you could just go for a walk, but sometime you want to be able to control the speed and duration, slant ect for varying the intensity. gentle walking on it works wonders, one minute runs work amazing too.
best clip on anxiety i have ever seen totally relate to everything said.
Thank you for this. Anxiety has paralyzed my life and ruined some great relationships. I hit rock bottom and hope to be where you are someday. Someday.
Thank you for sharing your story. I use to say "why me".... Now I say why not me! Self talk is a powerful dialogue. As a child I would beat myself up verbally, I would not speak that way to anyone else. After many years I realized that I needed to be kind, loving and nice to that inner child that is in all of us.
" that, no matter what choice I made, it would be the wrong one; that no choices were good, they were all bad ". So relatable, So genuine. Best TED talk on anxiety ever.
I admire this man's vulnerability. I have never heard a better - or more moving- explanation of anxiety from a public speaker. He brought tears to my eyes. I know and love people who have anxiety disorder. After listening to his experience, I feel like I have an even better understanding of my loved ones who battle this illness. It's sad that mental illnesses are still such a stigma when so many of us suffer from them. The more people that share their own story and put faces to mental illness, the less of a stigma they will become. Kindness and understanding are truly the answer here.
Wow,this should be called "OUT WITTING THE DEVIL!"Thank you.
I’m 42. I think I grew up with anxiety disorder. Couldn’t focus in class reading the same page. The things that I wanted seemed almost attained but I would sabotage myself. When situations got complicated I would run away with fear.I totally relate to you. I self medicate too. Somewhere between 8 and 42 years of age it got out of control. I would tell myself that I wasn’t worried about something specific, like moving house. I would tell myself that I can use a positive attitude. That would work for small problems. Getting rid of anxiety was almost impossible, but I finally admitted it to myself that I have it. What a relief. Now the work begins. My days are so special now.
Keep up the great work. Celebrate the small victories and allow room for the small failures... they both will come. Good luck!
Breathtaking! This speech saves my life everyday! Be well my friend! I feel you!
Glad you found it and that it helped. Be well, also, my friend!
Thank you Mr Steven Zanella you are a great person and i hope i'll be like you and those who are living in anxiety will also be all kind to ourselves and to others.
Steve, your honesty is brilliant and inspirational.
I think I'm depressed, and I have never loved myself. Your talk was inspiring to me, it was so touching and relatable and was what I needed to hear. Thank you.
+keesalemon Sorry you are feeling depressed. Learning to fix the relationship with ourselves is the most important thing. Our relationship with ourself impacts our relationship with everyone else. You can't truly be happy with others until you are happy with yourself. You can get there! Let me know if I can help. :)
You are not alone. I made out, you will as well.
I can relate to it so much. That voice in my head that pulls me down constantly, says that i am not as good as smart as others, as normal and as happy as others. Because of this feeling things go bad and feel more bad and my self doubt gets reinforced. But we have to practice being positive, kind to ourselves as we are kind and embracing towards others.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
I never got misty eyed listening to a Ted talk before. Amazing job, Steven. I’ll remember your words for a long time.
One of the best TED talk ever
Best ever talk about anxiety. Steven you are not alone. Million and million of people are in the same situation as you. You are a wonderful soul, thank you for this great gift you give to anxiety fighters.
I absolutely loved hearing your testimony. thank you for sharing your story with the world. it definitely helps me feel that I am not alone in dealing with anxiety. I went to therapy for over a year and much of what I learned is what you mentioned in your talk. hearing you encouraged me to battle my anxiety and silence the voice inside.
So me. This is crazy.
you had me on tears from the beginning until the end, I can relate a lot with everything you said, I was diagnozed with anxiety about 4 years ago butI was living with It and panic attacks my hole life, I started treatment, last year I felt so strong and powerfull and so in control of my life that I asked my doctor to take me off meds cos' I didn't wanna spend my life taking it, this year it all went spiraling down I'm not sure if i'm hitting rock bottom yet but it sure feels like it, everything I had a "build" I realize now that It was the meds , they helped me to live an illusion of everything was fine, but life this year stripped me of every drop of self steem, self control, postivive thinking, I feel depressed, anxious, It has been one of the worst years of my life and I feelt so touched by your talk I just couldn't stop crying, for now everything feels black and white, but I'm gonna take your advice on treating myself differently I'm always so harsh on myself, thank you
Good luck with everything! I know you are strong and you can do this. Learn to love yourself, scars and all. It isn't as easy as just deciding to do it, but it is possible if you put in the work. Each day is another opportunity to rebuild your confidence, your self-esteem and your life. Best of luck and let me know if I can help!
This happened to me as well. It took me over two years to get my life back after detoxing off of benzos....so sad :(
I have the same issue when doing things. I felt myself can't do good. I don't know how to break that.
kong023, You need to retrain your brain. That takes time, but you gain a little every day. Stop the negative self talk and be kind to yourself.
I hope so badly that you start to feel better. I refuse to take meds for that very reason. And I know with enough time and practice on the positive thoughts you will get better! At least I hope you will! I will be trying too!
Thank you for speaking out for me, and people like me. Good to know I'm not alone. I do feel like I'm the only one in the world feeling like this. Everybody tells me not to fear. But man they have no idea what I've been going through. I'm so scared they will understand I'm worthless. I wanna escape from my life.
My heart ache listening to this. What a great man he is and so strong to made it to the stage. I'm anxious just like him and want to get better.
Steven, You are my hero. Must be such a good feeling to know that the kindness you showed yourself, helps others finally see what they need to do to get back up and help themselves. Thank you for taking the risk to show your heart.
This is how I feel. Thank you so much for this video
I never considered myself as having anxiety, as I didn't have anxiety or panic attacks. However, I've recently discovered that's because I avoid situations that might make me anxious. I was in such a situation a few years ago, and needed to choose between one of a selection from set 'A' and one of a selection from set 'B'. I ended up in knots as I tried to work out whether 'A' or 'B' would be better. I asked myself 'but what if 'A' is better?' when I considered an option from set 'B', but also asked 'but what if 'B' is better?' when I considered an option from set 'A'.
I ended up making no decision at all, which has ruined my life and my ex-girlfriend's.
In hindsight, I realise that I never actually tried answering the questions. I should have considered 'if I choose one from set 'A', then these are the options of circumstances that are likely to happen' and 'if I choose one from set 'B' then this is a list of circumstances that are likely to happen'. It would have been clear which one I should have chosen then, based on the 'fact that the 'best case scenario' if I picked 'A' was better than if I picked 'B', and the worst-case scenario' if I picked 'B' was worse than if I picked 'A'.
I got into such a state that I didn't think rationally, so my emotions hampered any decision making skills that I should have used.
I've suffered a huge financial loss as a result, lost my long-term relationship and have messed up the rest of my life, as I have ended up in set 'B' and in the 'worst case scenario', but with much worse terms than if I had chose it myself.
I don't know how young or old you are, but let yourself feel the feelings because it is true. It sucks. You don't have to get stuck into that thought forever but recognizing the situation as what it is before moving on helps
I felt like you were talking to me, you made me tear up.I've had anxiety since I was a child and I'm 37 now and trying to transform and retrain my brain! it hasn't been easy but I created a system for myself and it has been helping. Thank you for sharing. It is reassuring to see i'm not alone in this and it is possible to overcome anxiety.
You are anything but alone! :)
Your comments make feel we are many out there but together we are winning over this monster called Depression and Anxiety.
Had my first panic attack at 21. His description is as accurate as any I've ever heard. I'm 53 now and tired of approaching my anxiety the same way....thank you for this talk.
To all those out there on this same journey. I believe we can do this!!!!
OMG He's going to make me cry at work because I completely understand every litte emotion he's going through! This is the most honest speech about anxiety I have ever heard. I'm just learning to admit I hae anxiety at 30, I can't imagine going infromt of a crowd and admitting the million ways I have avoided life because of my anxiety. I'm so proud of you!
This man's level of empathy is beautiful! Brilliant talk.
I salute you Steven - a thousand-fold. I want to hug you and thank you for sharing your music with the world. I'll play it everyday.
I have realized that for anyone out there that is struggling and feel like finally giving up on yourself, YOU have the greatest potential to help people in life. When you start to figure out how to get past obstacles, you will have the ability to help millions who are going through the same thing. Never give up, if you feel like giving up, I am telling you that in that moment it is just the beginning of your story.
WOW!!! I have never in my entire life cried from the start and end of video 😭😭😭, you have really inspired to start trying and say to myself, I can do this, rather than I can't do this. People like me who always had anxiety and always wanted to be alone rather than going out and talking to people, can relate to what you were going through, I know now that I need to start trying and build a new habit of stepping out of my comfort zone and see positivity out of it, not potential failure. You're a legend bro :) Simply amazing!!!
This is awesome. So glad you are motivated to push yourself. Just remember to do it with patience and love... allow yourself to struggle because that's part of the journey, also. Allow it to happen without judging yourself and keep moving forward. You'll get there. Let me know if I can help! Thanks for watching and best wishes!!
The best talk on self-compassion and how it fix mental problems.
I wish more people see this.
YOU MADE ME CRY, SIR. I SALUTE YOU!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!
Superb talk. Not only due to sharing how he overcame anxiety but also because he dared to be so much vulnerable in front of so many people. That is tremendously empowering. Kudos Bro 👏🏽
This talk is so relatable. Thank you! ❤
I so understand this man. My anxiety still gets the best of me.
He literally described my past life. And my son was my savior too.
Love this
Steven, over 6 years later this video is still making an impact. I'm Stephen. I suffer from my own anxieties. Your story, your experiences were almost an exact mirror of what's been going on with me for the past 5 years. Your message is powerful. I too am an expert negative thinker and speaking negatively to myself. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for your bravery. And hey, WHAT IF you didn't get on that stage?
Omg I can relate to all of this. People have no idea how it's like to have severe anxiety. It's not only mental but you literally feel unwell on most days, if not every day. I can't even remember what it feels like without anxiety.
This is sensational, i felt every word, i know how you feel, i hate anxiety, but this helped me a lot. You are a special person and keep on spreading your story.
This had me weeping! Your story is relatable in so many ways! Many times we think we are alone in our anxiety bt once I listen to these talks I realise i'm not as alone as I thought.
"Why I can't be normal"... this is what I think and wish all the time... in deep fear and depression.
Only 5 mins in to this talk and I can relate to this so much, it’s like hearing a story of my own life. When he starts crying I just want to give him a hug and tell him how amazing and courageous he is in sharing his vulnerability to help others . Thank you so much!! I am saving this to my Wellbeing playlist and will rewatch regularly, along with the other things I am doing to retire my anxious brain 🧠...like listening to guided meditations and reading/watching videos b people like Kyle Cease and Dr Joe Dispenza. May the universe bless you Steven Zanella beyond what you could ever imagine ... I wish this for all of us!
What an amazing story. I am currently at rock bottom. In therapy to deal with lifelong (nearly) anxiety dealing with the effects of a 23 year emotionally abusive marriage. The panic attacks have gotten so bad work has gotten almost unbearable. I know what I need to do, and I'm prepared to do the hard work to do it. There is an awesome person in here, and I'll uncover that. It is not easy! I have an appointment with my regular doctor today to get something to help to just calm myself down enough throughout the day.
The advice about parenting yourself really hit home. I have not had the opportunity to be a parent, but I know I would be an awesome one - without the anxiety. I'm going to use that to remind myself I should not be so hard on myself for not instantly getting better.
If I had a child who was in the situation I am in, the smallest touch of common sense would tell me loud and clear (and I would listen to THAT) this is a long-haul process. I need to give myself that same grace I would give my child. I need to love myself that much.
Wow!!!! I don't know how you knew every single emotion and thought I've ever had, but you nailed it. I'm actually breathless rn. This popped up on fb so I had to go find you...blown away rn. I think I'm going to listen to you every single day of the rest of my life. Thank you Steven ❤
Oh my God! This is my story too! God bless this guy! He's so brave!
Amazing. I knew exactly what he was talking about at every level. I felt understood which I never have in relation to my anxiety. The fear takes over your life
You are one of the most bravest person I have come across. It takes a whole lot to talk to a large group of people. Thats awesome!!!
You are soooooo brave!!!! This is soooooo wonderful!!!! I am a newish parent and I have to say that I lived with a parent that worried growing up and here I am worrying that I'll worry with my child too. This is wonderful!!!! You are amazing it is soooooo hard when you can't give yourself that steady confidence that you need to relax or not worry, That steady confidence is love. You found that with your daughter you are the parent you didn't have when you needed it. I know your parents were probably there for you in other times in your life, but the ones from when you were three. You are great!
This hit home. This is the most inspirational thing on anxiety I have ever heard. You give me hope. Thank you.
It's so hard to watch this video and not to cry, feel happy for him and, like an anxious person, try to embrace all the things he said. You go, Steven, thank you for the words!
OMG -- the part about the father being locked out and asking him to help, brought back sooo many memories of this happening to me.
All the feelings you described is the exactly the same way I feel. Thank you for speaking on it. Hearing it from someone else...exactly what you cant find the words to say makes a difference.
This talk meant a lot to me. It spoke what I am feeling and what I have been trying to do everyday for the last 6 months. I still feel anxious, but I trust myself that I can get through the worst.
This definitely made me cry. Negative thinking is a habit for me still and, I'm blessed to have found this video. God bless him and, his beautiful children.
His story was so heartbreaking. I cried with him. Such a brave human being to come out and use your voice to help others. I felt your pain so much and it inspires me to keep pushing on ❤️
this was literally the most genuine, raw, and most relateable tedtalk i've ever listened to. thank you, steven for sharing your story and being so vulnerable in order to help others. soso good 👍👍👍
I find your method of lessening your anxiety very practical and for once, applicable to me. I have a nephew that I really love like my own son, and all these time I've always anxious, worried and scared that he might grow up like me, and my sister. The scary thought often times kept me from sleeping at night. So hearing your take on "I dont want this to happen" and to actually make that a motivation to wake me up from my own nightmare, I thank you. I want to be a better person so this haunting anxiety won't haunt my nephew.
And with that standing ovation...I salute you, Steven...this blew my mind...so relatable...had my crying...your openness is congratulatory. I wish you all the best! 😀
thank you steve, very emotional,honest and brave, you are my inspiration to pick myself up in the last couple of days and feeling less alone, everything you say i can relate to
bless you and thank you for what you do
This is 2022 and I am still related to this and finally people more aware of mental health and open about it today.
I was really moved by this TED talk. Thank you for your honesty and courage! One of the best TED talks I have watched!
Thank you!
I am so happy that your life is so different now and I wrote down the things you said, to help myself with anxiety. Your story has inspired me. You are an amazing ,kind and loving person. Stay blessed.
Thank you, Steve! You talk is one of the most real and authentic talks I have ever seen. So very helpful.
Thank you for sharing your story and giving me the inspiration and tools to tackle my anxious inner voice. Learning to love yourself and be kind to yourself is so important. Keep spreading your message of hope and kindness!
I have reached that rock bottom "place" inside myself. I have never learnt to love myself or even be kind to me. This helped me to see. I have to see ME. Thankyou for this
Great motivational speech! I cried too. I've suffered with anxiety for decades and I felt your pain here. It's such a tough road, but you seem to be doing quite well! Thanks so much for being brave enough to tackle this. You did an AWESOME job! Amazing!
Just tremendous, the best talk on anxiety I’ve ever heard
That guy is BRAVE 👍 I feel happy to see him happy! The parents fights screw up kids lives forever. Love your kids and show them the great parents in you.
I have battled this my whole life too. At age 33, with a new family, and a new job I had my first panic attack. where I was on 24-7 on call , and the sleep deprivation, and lack of exercise, brought it out. I was always self medicating with extreme cardio exercise. And it worked. People thought I was this fitness nut. When actually I was jogging, running, swimming, hours of hockey, bodybuilding, lap swimming etc, to calm down. Those things help me , and they can help you. Also get 6-8 hours of sleep each night. I start every morning with the Wim Hof guided breathing exercises free on you tube. And yes , and yes, I go in cold water daily. I don’t push myself as hard. But I am still scared of the dentist and dr. This man said some good stuff that helped me. I hope the things I wrote help others too.
I’m proud of this guy. He so thoroughly explains what it’s like and I can tell how hard it was for him to get to the point where he could get up and say it. Anxiety is like a bully in school or something. Once you get up the nerve to punch back hard, they run away.
I’m where you were right now but I’m going to try to hear your words of wisdom and compassion to try to get better from now.What an amazing man you are.Thank you.
I never saw a video I could relate to so much. I cried through the whole video.
You are brave. I can't thank you enough for you wisdom and sharing your story.
You are so inspiring.
What a beautiful and inspiring talk. The world needs more people like you.
I feel like this is the story of my life! Thank you for sharing this. Even among the few people who want to listen, no one seems to understand this. I know how you feel and I am glad I am not alone.
You are not alone! :)
Thank you for sharing your story. My anxiety always makes me beat myself up, and constant worries wears me off. Your story made me cry, I feel like I am alone as well.
Damn I relate to him so much I felt I'm not the only one
I cried like a baby with this talk because I completely relate to it, thanks for giving it, you did it great!
I can so relate with this brave man. I am in tears over here because this is so me. Thank you so much for this video. I dont feel so alone. I have a 6 year old little girl that looks up to me. I walk around everyday and im looking at all the " normal" people and i feel so out of place. I do not fit in. My mind never shuts off. Its 1:30 am and i have to be up at 6:30 am and im awake anxious over tomorow. Thanks for the poisitive talk.
That was just what I needed to hear.Have done alot of work on myself this year, but my anxiety has taken hold a little in the past few weeks...Things are not how I expected them to be at this point in my life, but listening to your talk, made me realise that's ok.
Thank you x
I’m really sorry for anyone going through any sort of anxiety I go through it myself so I understand what it’s like and just wish everyone the best my heart goes out to all of you reading this your amazing take a deep breath and just keep your head up
Amazing speech. First time Ted talks brings me into tears.
Thank you Steven for sharing your mind and story! You have helped me. Your vulnerability, strength and kindness will go a long way. May God bless you and your family. ♥️
I honestly can relate to you! I am much older i have lived in fear most of my life along with anxiety and anger. I did come from an abusive family. What you lived is what i am living now. sometimes i dont know where to start with all these emotions running my mind. I know they are my thoughts, my worries thats keeping from growing into happiness.
Sorry for your struggles. Recognizing that these are just thoughts is a good first step. Thoughts are images that run through your head. You can learn to control and change those thoughts if you focus your attention in the right direction and on the correct things. Learning to rationalize the thoughts as they come in, focusing on new images that change your emotional state and practicing the art of simply witnessing and watching your thoughts can help you learn to separate your identity from your thoughts. You have your thoughts... you are NOT your thoughts. Good luck!
Wow, great advice! it makes lots of sense to just take notice of my thoughts and feelings. i just let my mind run take control sense i thought most of my beliefs and thoughts were accurate for so long that I stopped trying. Thank you Steve!!
Steven, there are simply no words to express how much this helped me. You are an incredible human being. Thank you so much for sharing your strory.
Great talk... I'm amazed at what you've accomplished. I've suffered from anxiety for a long time and can relate to much of what you've been through. That you fell in love and are raising beautiful kids in spite of the anxiety gives me hope.