Borderline Personality Disorder in a Minute
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- "People who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder tend to have unstable emotions, relationships, and sense of self. They can have difficulties at work or in personal relationships due to impulsivity. In today’s One Minute Diagnosis video, I will talk about the clues clinicians use to recognize Borderline Personality Disorder. Thanks for watching!”- Dr. Ben Michaelis
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I literally can weep, laugh, and be emotionless in the same day.
Wow same
@@bunnybird9342 Tell me an anecdote. I need it.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 I cannot recall any specific examples because there are way too many and they don't have any specific causes. That's just how I am.
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Me neither. I'm just longing for human connection, though I already know it's always a dead end.
Hence why I stay alone now.
I can't explain in words how I feel 😢
Hi Shipa 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your profile tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment but we're not friends on quora I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement I will Like Us to be friends if you don’t?
@@Raymondgogolf You say that to lots of women unfortunately
My mother is an Aquarius and she is, let's say "difficult." You can't be as bad as her. I bought a little bit into astrology but not because I think planets determine your personality willing but the season that your mother is pregnant. I probably have BPD but I don't want to be diagnosed. What's the point? I don't want to change I just want to be accepted. Like a person in a wheelchair is allowed to be a little slower than the people behind them, that they build ramps for handicapped people to access a place. I just want to be given the understanding that sometimes I'm going to be kind of nuts, lots of time going to be very moody. And have a hair-trigger temper to others but they don't know that the fuse has been burning for a long time before I explode. As a man it gets me in lots and lots of trouble.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Thankyou for your kind words. I havnt been diagnosed but possily have the few traits of BPD but i keep it to myself. Little bit of research iv done there really isnt a cure for it can be caused because of abandonment issues, i believe this comes from not having my father around he left when i was born he was a stranger to me.
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Similar.
I don't think I have BPD afterall. I think I had some traits from extreme stress and neglect, but I'm older now. I hate being angry, it literally hurts my head, But, I know someone who is a rage beast, and I am learning to let others storms not affect me. There is an infinite amount of shit humans in this world. It is so bad, I don't think WW3 is a bad idea.
OMFG IT'S ONE PUNCH MAN!
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I am 36 years old and just got told I have BPD a year ago, it explains a lot about my up and down moods and seeing everything black and white. I am on anti depressants and try to catch myself when I am being rude or say something the wrong way. It is hard but at least now I know what is wrong with me
Hi Bobby 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your profile tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment but we're not friends on quora I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement I will Like Us to be friends if you don’t?
I've been diagnosed with BPD. I've never drank alcohol, smoked anything, done drugs, am very morally clean, however I am compulsive where it comes to shopping or eating a lot of certain foods. All the other things you mention are so true. I also have other diagnoses as well that I'd rather not mention. I wish you'd explain how people become like this or if there's hope for people like us. I'm pretty sure my mother had this as well. When someone I know and like a lot leaves me either by choice or moves away, my reaction is terrifying, I actually experience adult separation anxiety. My mother did not know how to relate let alone love anyone so she severely abused me in every catagory and it didn't stop when I grew older. I had zero people or life skills. What I don't understand is why my life became 10 times worse when my abusers died? I wish doctors/experts and others would realize how hard I try to be kind and loving towards others even though I have no emotional response when love is being shown to me (actually I can't stand it when someone touches me or tries to hug me, gives me the creepiest feelings.)
Similar here but quite different. The family dynamic though can be crazy and not at all cool.
I know just how you feel.
There are other videos that explore the question of how BPD develops (just one of the common elements I recall is that many BPD patients had a parent who was inconsistent with discipline, so for a given problem they sometimes punished and other times let it go). There absolutely is hope! The therapy of choice is dialectical behavioral therapy.
Hi Justelle’s 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your profile tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment but we're not friends on quora I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement I will Like Us to be friends if you don’t?
@@Raymondgogolf Hi Raymond, you sound like a wonderful person, we can be friends, but it's hard to know what's in a person's heart because unfortunately there are wrong people everywhere, you know what I mean? Where are you from? Perhaps we could message each other this way for now.
As someone who experiences BPD this video explains it well. Thanks. Gem x
Concise and informative; well done.
Kudos to you for mentioning the BEHAVIORS rather than the typical DSM "checklist", and especially for mentioning the "blackouts" these individuals have when experiencing an extremely stressful (for them) event. I've been studying the Cluster B disorders for about 7 years now, and it is surprising to me how many clinicians and researchers here on YT almost NEVER mention this.
During university I was so stressed I got the diagnose of schizotypal disorder, but I really can find myself more in this, except the drugs and alcohol. In my eyes some people are like angels or devils, it can switch
so helpful! thank you
i think i want to talk to a professional about whether or not i have BPD, but i heard that doctors don't like diagnosing BPD because it's a difficult thing for them to deal with! is this true? thank you!
Some doctors are reluctant to diagnose BPD for a few reasons: 1. Insurance often doesn't cover treatment for personality disorders so some doctors don't diagnose it because they may concerned about their patients being reimbursed. 2. Some doctors may be concerned about stigmas associated with the disorder. However, responsible clinicians who see the signs of the disorder should diagnose it if there is enough evidence to do so. I hope this helps and that you connect with a good clinician in your area. Sincerely, Dr. Ben
I'd advice you to consider the pros and cons of the diagnosis. I live in Finland, so things work differently in here, but at least for me, i'm allowed e.g. to some free DBT-therapy groups that i wouldn't get to go to without a diagnosis. But then again, some therapists might not want to work with you, and sometimes your feelings - or even suicide threats - aren't taken seriously because of your bpd.
Thanks, Emmi. I wish that the insurance system in the US was as enlightened as it sounds like it is in Finland. Unfortunately, it's challenging for people in our country to get the help they need, but you are right: diagnosis cuts two ways: The label can be difficult but it can provide you with a path towards treatment as well.
oneminutediagnosis + Dr. Ben: Thank you for such a clear, concise video outlining this. The general public does not understand disassociate personality characteristics far less BPD, narcissism, psychopaths/sociopaths, scizophenia, bipolar, even depression, and how to understand, relate or help those who are affected by these. For instance, depression and those that have panic attacks, OCD, germ phobia and other symptoms could be helped with seritonin medications yet the view is still a stigma. Common sense approach to help people receive mental/emotional support, therapy and medications ( brain lacks) should be more strongly advocated. Parkinson's disease is a lack of dopamine, and is understood, yet more should be advocated to treat any brain (physiological) disorders that lead to mental disorders. l wish clinicians would do more blood testing methods including checking endocrine levels and better diet therapy (from lack of certain minerals, and B vitamins especially) might be helpful. Any coping habits such as cigarette smoking, drinking, self medicating, can deplete the body and more so the brain yet not enough is being done through diet, relaxation/meditation, exercise, advocating positive life experiences that would help those that suffer through these problems.
Nor is there a spiritual component to help understand and heal the event that caused trama to affect the emotional/mental state of the person and affected the brain sometimes even leading to sickness/disease of the body for example many have psychological wounds from wrong childhood experiences, also negative mindsets from condemnation/self condemnation, guilt even lack/ loss of good support (caring encouragement) in early relationships. They feel fractured mentally, emotionally, drained out of coping skills, unable to resolve the past, and sometimes repeat the past (same event, same type of people who made them feel bad and damaged their self worth/self esteem).
ln my own experience dealing with childhood trama (abuse) and foster care ( abandonment issues), l found LOVE, Caring Compassionate acceptance without harsh judgement and emotional healing through my relationship with JESUS. No lasting guilt, record of wrongs was ever desplayed with HIS forgiveness and healing. l was made whole by asking for forgiveness of my sins, hurting others, hurting myself: l learned how to forgive others: to give Grace, Mercy Compassionate care, kindness, respect and to honor others for what they were gifted with and what they lacked, and to treat them with understanding and kindness even if they could not; to discern: this was something bothering them, not necessarily my actions or fault. l forgave them!
Most in this LIFE forget to Forgive themselves! Some bury emotions, some never examine their hurts or allow themselves to grieve over their self loss. Some condemn themselves when it was only a circumstantial accident! Self care for emotions/mental wounds should be taught at an early age, as well as doing encouraging steps to feel whole, happy again.
Life experiences, childhood trama, environmental changes, extreme stressful periods ( poverty, lack of needs, parential support and love, lack of acceptance, to extremes of chronic sickness/disease, political conflict/war, death of a loved one or child) jumble our emotions and do not allow us to learn how to cope or even acknowledge our needs. We just rush on trying to make a living (yet some feel they are only existing). More self care must be advocated for life's stressful occurrences, from Psyiatric professionals! We need MORE advocacy to help the general public (to seek help for any mental/emotional needs just as we need to advocate for addictions counseling).
My personal relationship with
GOD saved my sanity, and HE helps me with any need, any problems and l found HE and HE Alone could cancel any addiction, heal any hurt! Not only could l come to JESUS to heal my past wounds but any present emotional/mental
SOUL WOUNDS. HE also helped me see that anger was destructive
and living in any anger, bitterness or resentment was an emotional poisoning of my soul, spirit and body! l have recently come to understand about Offense how it keeps a person in bondage and unresolved offense keeps a person in the past unable to move on. Now l DAILY ask JESUS to heal my SOUL WOUNDS! l ask the HOLY SPIRIT to help me walk in LOVE and give others kindness, Compassion, empathy and caring - to treat Others with dignity and respect! JESUS gives me new PEACE and HOPE and Joy and helps me with patience. Do l. always get it right, NO, but l am learning and ask others to Forgive me for causing ANY hurt or offense. This was HIS wonderful suggestion! l Also am aware of the Enemy of my soul ( spiritually) and ask to stay in GOD's TRUTH. Condemnation/ SELF Condemnation DO NOT come from GOD and emotional/mental lies from this only seek to distroy our self worth/self esteem! You see: FEAR, condemnation, guilt, feelings of loss, and anything that harms self esteem/self worth causes pain and suffering that eventually harms us physically. Every one needs more encouragement, friendship and loving relationships but with our dependency on cell phone and computers we have lost some of the personal touch! More counseling centers need to be advocated to help us cope with our new 21st societies needs.
Thank you for listening!
Blessings to all!
oneminutediagnosis + Do some that could have BPD actually feel stuck in a child like state of emotional maturity unsure or unable to cope with their mental/emotional needs (perhaps feel they were not able to mature in coping skills or letting others know their needs) due to
childhood trama or relationship
problems, Doctor?
Perhaps earlier negative memories (unless dealt with and healed) can hurt us not only in the future but change how we see the world and others. Negative mindsets/emotions can adversely affect our physical brains also (lead to depression).
So be good to yourself, do more self care (get encouragement and social support from family, friends, help others, do hobbies, enjoy silly movies, videos, cartoons, comics - laughter heals). Seek professional help too! And Remember: FATHER GOD LOVES and ADORES YOU. YOU ARE PRECIOUS! Take care! Be kind to yourself!
THANK FOR YOUR CLEARLY INFORMATIONS
I have a lot of signs, but I'm afraid to tell my parents. My mom always thinks I fake everything I do...
Is there another trusted adult you could talk to first: perhaps your doctor or a guidance counselor?
oneminutediagnosis I could try to tell my counselor. So yes, there is. Thank you for replying.
Devin L I told it to my Aunt, not sure if she told it to my mother, I was 17years old when I finally told her about what happened, she called me to go to her room for a massage because she feel uneasy , I was a teenager then rately I make a good conversation with anybody, it happens that It suddenly came out through my mouth, the details is quiet ordinary like those of some people who experienced it, Mother was alwayd out, visiting the city whenever my Aunts returned back from abroad, stayed with them for weeks ..that's all I could say, The abuse didn't go that far but it leaves a scar inside of me.
Devin L
Hi Devin. If you want help, seek help through your doctor, school counselor or another trusted adult. Studies show that the earlier you get help, the greater the success you will have toward healing. Be courageous, God is with you and I will keep you in my prayers.
Me too. Thats prob why you developed it. I wasnt listened to as a child and told what I was feeling was wrong. Aswell as tons of abuse from exes and my dad never coming back. Allot can trigger it. I just found out I have this and I think its helping me fix my flaws and be aware now. Goodluck xo
Abused codependent
CANNOT... LIKE... HARD ENOUGH!!!!
So accurate. 100 per cent
That's So True That's not Me at all That's Rifica Douglas Seriously
i have 7 out of the 9 shown. and recently ive been sad for a week straight and i cant seem to get happy again
It's not hard to spot symptoms when someone as close as your partner has them (8 of 9). Much more challenging is to get the person seek help. I could not take it any more after 11 years of roller coaster, and what a coincidence: At the same time he realised that living with me has been hell from the beginning. ;-)
Spot on yip .
I just wanted to share 1 critical issue which goes unnoticed all the time so that you can make aware to your audience.
THE FINE LINE BETWEEN SHARING HELPFUL INFO AND SHARING DANGEROUS INFO WITH BPD.
For a non-sufferer to bluntly say "CHILD ABUSE AND MISTREATMENT BY YOUR PARENTS CAUSED YOUR DISORDER" is an extremely risky thing to say to a person who's already going through hell.
It doesn't do any good to someone already suffering and oblivious to what caused it. It's not the same as letting someone know they've cancer after a diagnosis because it can't be hidden.
I'm not sure if 99% of the information found on the 1st page of CZcams & Google search results are either meant for clinicians or for the rest of the population who doesn't have it but wants to help BPD people. But pretty sure the majority who are looking up for info are sufferers. And most of the articles and videos contains outright harmful information to a BPD.
In cases of socio-environmentally inflicted psychological disorders such as BPD, there's absolutely no benefit whatsoever in letting millions of sufferers know or remind about the causation of the disorder unless absolutely necessary.
The person coming in for help to the office is already suffering from anger, resentment, grudges, suicidality, trust issues and a bunch of other complications involving relationships with others. And if me being their expert, tell them that their suffering is caused by other people/caregivers abusing or mistreating them when they were a helpless child is nothing short of craziness. Unless, when I want to rub more salt to their already agonizing wounds and make their condition worse.
The only exception I'd consider letting patients know about what caused it is when the patient is undergoing treatment and seeing improvements and are ready to start ACCEPTANCE. And considering, only a few reach out for help and even fewer can afford therapy, that's totally risky and unnecessary info put out to millions.
I was on CZcams clicking on video titles which are supposed to help but found it quiet disheartening to see experts talking about "child abuse and mistreatment caused your illness" instead, to the point that I no longer could watch videos related to BPD anymore. It's like the experts have the technical knowledge about the disorder but can't see or feel the sufferer and have no idea what negative effects something can cause unless it's not mentioned in the manual they were taught.
I know that we live in the information age but not all information is healthy. There's a good reason we say be careful while Googling up your symptoms. But for disorders such as BPD, it's a big understatement. A majority of the info are very helpful but there are some info which does more harm when people are already suffering enough. For disorders such as BPD, there's such a fine line in giving out helpful info and sharing risky info.
FYI, I was putting in a lot of effort in healing for the past one year and had gotten so much better. But, until I decided to Google up or search CZcams and stumbled with info I didn't intentionally search for. Hearing that, led me to have a relapse, an outrage on my parents. I love my parents but I haven't talked to them since and made things worse until I felt depressed again.
I know this is CZcams and most people don't care what others feel. But I expect you to be different as you're a psychiatrist. So, please be careful in discussing the causation part.
PS: I'd prefer if my comment is not quoted or cited in future videos.
Thanks doc.
I've been diagnosed with bipolar 2 like 7years ago...plus mild schizophrenia...(which is stupid because I don't show the symptoms but once in a while). Since all these issues started, I've always believed I had this but never brought it up. I'm about 99% sure I have this.
How do I discuss with my Dr about bpd without sounding like a hypochondriac? My Dr already assumes I deal with depression and anxiety. But lately doing some self research (because my symptoms drive me insane. Especially my mental outbursts at inappropriate random times) and it seems lime I resonate with all the symptoms of bpd. I just want help. I want to end my suffering.
What kind of psychologist/psychiatrist would be apt to diagnose me and how? should i hint that i suspect im BPD? is this something based on chemical imbalance? can it be managed at some level? what would be my options??
I don't think the part of paranoia, disconnect from reality and blackouts are one of the criteria for bpd here in Finland. I have those, and it's fascinating to find out they might be also connected to my bpd.
I have a hard time to remember things from my past. For example in which order some events have happened, (once i even was pretty convinced that i had time traveled or something because nothing seemed to make sense) and quite a lot of periods of which i don't remember much at all. My therapist seemed quite baffled by these things. Do you think these symptoms could be part of the disorder?
You should check. I think we are moving towards an international diagnostic standard of ICD-10. I would bet that the clinicians in Finland are using that as well, but let me know if not.
oneminutediagnosis if you have bpd and you feel like you can't do it anymore on your own where is the best place to go to for help? That will take month to month payments after you get back on your feet.
Hi, Jenn, It depends on where you live, but if you are having a hard time finding mental health help in your area, you may want to reach out to your primary care physician for trusted referrals.
If you are at an adult social function and someone gives a guest a wedgie or jerks a ballcap over their head then that is poor impulse control. Great Channel the straight dope.
I've got all... Well atleast now I understand why it only took my doctor a few hours to diagnose me.
Hello dr Michael. What about a male ( person, who always blamed others for his wrong doing? A person who can not see what they did wrong to make the other person react but it is always someone's fault
2) this person feels like the whole world is coming after him or plotting against him.
3) can tell you they love u but disappear when they are getting closer to u. Or he always looks for negative flashback just to run away.
3) he will call u when they whole world is against him but they moment u give them the help they need to get stronger they pushed u away.
5) also this person keeps on avoid things that can leads to him confessing his mental condition instead he will pick a fight n run away.5) this person feels like everyone is talking about him
6) a person will say " u guys are my strength and the next few days he will shut family or loved one off n replace them with someone else.
This this person has borderline personality disorder or paranoia schizophrenic?
The thing I learned through this is that a lot of the time, a person goes through two or even three different misdiagnosis. I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety, which then turned into a bipolar diagnosis, and now I'm officially diagnosed with BPD and am able to get the proper treatment.
how do i get help for this because i am seeing early signs that i have this ?
This is over a minute but helpful anyway.
Ha, that's true! So glad you found this video helpful anyway.
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I'm diagnosed BPD as well
what is the relationship btn BPD and appropriateness
I think it might be finally time to talk to a professional after this quarantine bs is over. Maybe its not even BPD but you know would be great to talk to a professional about it lmao
Can compulsive lying be a symptom/effect of having BPD?
No, you are just a liar.
this persons seems to be trolling the comment base on this video for no reason.
yes, it can be.
100% percent all the symtoms are true
You so right ticked 7
Hi Karen 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your profile tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment but we're not friends on quora I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement I will Like Us to be friends if you don’t?
How can they know for sure that it is a personality disorder and not a disorder like depression, bipolar, anxiety or schizophrenia? I don’t know much about borderline, I am just wondering about it. I am diagnosed with bipolar and anxiety, I want to learn about other mental illnesses as well.
Have a magical day anxiety kind of goes along with BPD, there's alot that it comes with.
I have BPD, OCD, anxiety, depression, etc.
I'm BPD, however the stigma of cutting is incorrect. The term should be self defeating behavior. Most borderlines do not cut or burn themselves
Dear Jennifer,
Thank you for commenting. You are correct. Self defeating behavior is very often the case rather than self harm from my clinical experience. In doing these videos I have been trying to stick entirely with the DSM5 criteria, which cites "self harm," rather than "self defeating behavior". I believe that the new version may change this to be "Self Defeating," rather than "Self Harm." You are correct for noting it.
Thanks again.
Aren't those two completely different issues? At least for me; i engage in both, but they happen in very different situations, for different kinds of reasons, and one is much more conscious behavior than the other.
They can be. In my response to Jennifer I was just pointing out that the DSM currently only notes Self Harm in the diagnostic criteria, though I have observed both, and especially the Self Defeating behavior in my practice.
What do you mean by self deafeating behaviour?
One of the criterias is self harm and suicidal ideation. Of course not all sufferers do but they are more likely than not.
Whooo! 9/9 baby let’s go. High score! :D
Why do people with bpd get angry fast and say hurtful things and ignore and block the person who loves them and who have been there for them? What can I do I'm broken hearted. My ex called me hurtful names, put hands on me and punch walls and say I wanna harm you over things i try to talk to about. I try to reach out to her family that's what my therapist ask they ignore me.
If I intentionally hit a thick wall or wardrobe because the pain on my knuckles calms me in a way, is this a weird form of self harm?
That may have been a pretty messed up sentence, but just know that I'd never hit a person or animal out of anger.
Demanderzander + l think you having this physical pain helps make your emotional pain feel
less! A good rule of thumb: when you hurt emotionally - DON'T HIT,
others or harm yourself!!! Do something to relive it another way:
do a hobby, watch sports, exercise or take a walk, put on a fun video or movie, talk to a good friend, try cooking, play a video game (limit time - some last for hours), go to a pool to swim (gym), go shopping to get a inexpensive item, or check out your favorite bookstore etc. DO NOT drink, self medicate, gamble or rush out and drive in a bad emotional state (don't drink and drive). YOUR Life matters! Do some activities, then later examine your feelings and your hurt. Forgive others, forgive your mistakes, and make amends with the other person. Acknowledging you hurt someone else, and saving you are Sorry is courageous, not whimpy or stupid! Forgive your self, try to learn from any mistakes! lt happens to all of us! We are all human, not perfect. Do not bury your hurt, or it can appear again or cause suppressed anger ( depression). Anger is a tool to tell us something is wrong or we feel an injustice - but don't live in anger ( suppresses good feelings, alienates us from love). I talk to FATHER GOD and JESUS to help me deal with my emotions, to Forgive others and l ask HIM to daily heal my SOUL WOUNDS! l asked JESUS to forgive all my sins, and to give me HIS salvation, by being HIS child l can ask for help with any need and He helps me FORGIVE others and myself! Then l can HEAL! Hope this helps! Take care ! Blessings!
Demanderzander + Yes This is a form of self harm, which may be aimed at helping you to feel something if you are feeling empty or it could be a way to relieve anxiety. Work on identifying what triggers you to this response. Once you have identified the trigger you can use one of the strategies that Lorna recommended above as a way of addressing some of the negative emotions you are feeling -- or use another strategy to help soothe the feelings but do not harm yourself or others in these moments, as it can lead to worse problems. I hope this is helpful for you.
Can BPD sometimes lead to a person trending to be Manipulative and to act like some people are sort of against them?
Yes. This is not uncommon.
...not "acting" like others are against them...they truly believe it. This is the result of improper 'wiring' of the emotional centers of the brain, that occurs in their developing brain as young children. People who ACT like everyone is against them are more likely to be on the antisocial/sociopathic spectrum. Bpd is most closely related to Ptsd.
oneminutediagnosis
I think all these behaviors are on the narcissistic spectrum. At the low end are empaths and the extreme end are sociopaths-psychopaths. Malignant narcissists are impulsive, reckless, manipulative, pathological liars, addicted to all sorts of destructive behaviors; sexual perversions, porn addicts, drug and alcohol abuse, energy vampires, same-species predators, easily enraged, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually abusive, extremely jealous, they bully to try to control and make unreasonable demands, are hypersensitive, hypersexual, project, blame shift, cause confusion and arguments, engage in word salad, gaslighting, are easily bored, irresponsible, lack empathy - basically, they have emotional disregulation - they have little or no activity in the frontal cortex in the area responsible for empathy.
Very well put I'd say the same thing for my x ...he's all of them then some and his sister (11months apart) are the exact same its freaken crazy stuff..
Well, she's nine for nine!
I have most of the symptoms does that mean I have the bpd ?
Shishi Bella if you really think that this is what you might have,,, please visit a doctor or mental health professional. It is important to get help ASAP!
Elissa Collett thanks a lot dear I will very soon ♡
Hello Shishi- Thank you for reaching out. My sincere apologies for the delay. I would recommend you first seek out a mental health professional in your area (ideally one with expertise in BPD, but anyone who is well trained should be able to help. Unfortunately, I know that finding a good provider can be tricky depending on where you live, so if you are having a hard time finding someone, reach out to your GP (primary care physician) and he or she will be able to direct you to the right person. I hope you connect with the right person, soon, Shishi.
Ben Michaelis aw thank you sir for replying to me , that is very kind of you I appreciate it truly ! I will definitely seek help and take your advice in consideration .Again thank you very much :)
Yes, you definitely have Borderline Personality Disorder.
What if I have 1 of symptoms?
My gf has BPD and bipolar 2. She is medicated and going to DBT twice a week. There has been enough time for her medicine to fully kick in and she continues to have VERY unstable emotions. She breaks up with me at least once a week, slaps me, screams, makes threats, and everything else evil that you can think of (lying, manipulating, cheating). Other times she is sweet as an angel. I'm afraid she won't ever be able to have stable emotions and act right consistently. Is it possible for medicine and therapy to fail at treating these evil disorders?
You need to seriously consider leaving her as she will ruin your life. Leave while you can.
If she is slapping you then this is assault and you need to go to the police.
Omg I think I need to talk with my therapist
I have all of these symptoms...
I have been diagnosed with BPD, but I barely fit 4 of these 9 traits...
It can actually disappear with age
I can Identify many of these traits also and narsestic 2. But not personally...
I have a my life destroyed 4, 34 years by a person with many of these 2 traits. Life as been hell and and is hell. Have no money and have lost everything, and life is a struggle.
Don't know why no on believes me about this person...
I have actually nothing left and life has been hell and is hell because of this person.
9/9.......
psychological blackouts are no joke. you really don’t feel human at all. I know from experiencing it.
Do you feel as if something takes over you? Over your body or spirit when the episode occurs?
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What if the person had been sexually molested by her own father when she was a child and it causes her to disconnect from them during her adulthood and fee l bitter of visiting them, is that a somekind of mental disorder?
desanjose Kristina If this causes you problems in friendships/relationships, causes you physical discomfort, makes you overly sensitive or untrusting....you may have bpd or a form of Ptsd. Pushing it out of your mind won't make it go away. Find a reason to seek a professional's insight... you don't have to feel like a victim, and you don't owe anybody that hurt you, to carry their secrets as your burden. Live your life free.
When people experience trauma especially child abuse, it often causes behaviors similar to PTSD. I think a lot of mild personality disorders are actually a form of PTSD. A person who is a sociopath/psychopath is on the extreme end of the spectrum.
Gloria Aquino Sociopathic is correct, psychopaths are born, however, not created by circumstance. A psychopath has more in common with an extremely autistic person, in that, they cannot understand the feelings of others, and their own are only based around getting pleasure. Sociopaths, have and understand all of the basic human emotions, but only understand others' feelings through a morally skewed view. A sociopath knows how a person will feel if they hurt someone, but don't feel guilty, if they (for whatever reason) think they deserve it. A psychopath doesn't understand how that person will feel, and either doesn't care or will derive excitement from their suffering. Most, psychopaths just don't care, because they can't empathize, though...very few are sadistic for pleasure.
(born...or formed in early infancy, from lack of bonding. The jury is still out.)
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Agree not all sociopaths are born or made that way, but I am convinced by studies that show many of them are more prone to become malignant because of horrific childhood abuses by family members, neighbors, and they develop a false self to escape the shame at the core of their self, and the behaviors become a coping mechanism which works helps them survive, but as an adult, those same behaviors cause much trouble in relationships, in school, in jobs, with the law, etc. Their emotional development was stunted and they have emotional disregulation which is why many of them are impulsive, reckless, and easily enraged - a dangerous combination. These people make up the majority of the prison population.
Gloria Aquino You just perfectly defined BPD. Though some can be, most are not true sociopaths..they both suffer from *Cognitive Dysregulation* Someone with BPD can have vastly different flawed behaviors from another, as well. Stigmatizing us all as drug addicts, liars or undesirables, only takes society further from a solution. We are all responsible for our actions, but taking stigma away can encourage undiagnosed adults to get the help they need, and earlier diagnosing/ preemptive treatment for children of diagnosed or at-risk parents, is imperative to ending the cycle. BPD can be effectively treated with therapy and medication. Clinical sociopaths cannot be rewired...yet. Borderline personality disorder is completely treatable and 100% preventable.
and I think I might have this..
I don't want to go to a therapist, and I don't want to assume things. I've watched many videos on things I feel I might have but I don't want to diagnose myself because what if I'm wrong. I'm not entirely sure about one of the things here so I have either 5 or 6 of these.
Hello Alois- I appreciate where you are coming from, but if you are suffering you may want to get help. If you don't feel comfortable going to a therapist, perhaps consider speaking with your primary care physician.
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I guess, these are one of the most dangerous cannibals in relationships
got them all and bipolar type 2
marilyn gazelle you've hit the crackpot.
Hi Marilyn,
Thank you for stopping by and watching. I hope that you can get the help and resources you need. Is there a trusted adult you could talk to first: perhaps your doctor or a guidance counselor?
Here are also a few resources to get you started:
www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml
psychcentral.com/disorders/borderline-personality-disorder-symptoms/
Also, if you are in crisis, please consider using CrisisTextLine or of course call 911.
Finally, if you found this helpful, feel free to pass it on to people you know and love so they can have a better understanding of what you are going through.
Sincerely,
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.
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Why do so many in the mental health profession dislike helping borderlines?
Paw Christensen And your talking to a past diagnosed borderline. Not all of us are the same. I'm someone who actually cannot lie and am actually being taught how to make a little lie (by my mental health professionals) to help myself from family controlling everything I do, if I try to lie.. People can tell as I completely mess up my words.
I was brought up with a father who lied and cheated all the time, I saw the outcomes of his lying all through growing up, its easier to tell the truth than to cover and string together a small lie.
Soul eye NZ
What I've heard lately, is that many of them were not trained in how to treat people with this and other disorders and so they don't know how to help. Many of the behaviors of Cluster B types tend to overlap and so many people are comorbid.
exactly i need help for my bpd and cant find it
Im scared idk what to do
Did you just go on google and look up the criteria? I wish you really would explain it under a minute
It’s utterly fascinating how all of this is just made up subjectively by “experts”.
I think I might have this...im worried
Me too dude, were you dignosed??
Shit, I'd be worried too if I were you. You probably have this shit.
At 1:36 I have observed that in another.
I have 8 of those....
sounds like me
Is their ah cure?
On occasion some people grow out of it as they get older.
Holy shit...half man..half giraffe ..100% genius!
and thats my sister
I have 8 of those things
Haylee Roach which one u dont have?
I think I have bpd but I'm only 10 so yeah
A thing they didn't get to mention in the video is ou have to be over 18 to be diagnosed, you're probably just growing and hormones can make you feel like this something
Thans, Shauna. That's true. I tried to provide as much information in a short amount of time, but you are correct. You must be 18+ to receive this diagnosis. You are right to point out all of the difficulties that come with adolescence that can be misdiagnosed if clinicians are not careful
Whatever. I have a masters in counseling psychology and can tell you this is the most overdiagnosed condition out there. Relax, people, you are FINE
Shut up.
I agree with you. Anybody who is ever so slightly different to what is considered normal is diagnosed with a personality disorder.
I have all 9....
Jesus Christ.
I see you used a Soap Opera camera lens..
7 out of 9
Dear Abyss,
Thank you for stopping by and watching. I hope that you can get the help and resources you need. Here are a few to get you started:
www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personalitydisorder/index.shtml
psychcentral.com/disorders/borderline-personality-disorder-symptoms/
Also, if you are in crisis, please consider using CrisisTextLine or of course call 911.
Finally, if you found this helpful, feel free to pass it on to people you know and love so they can have a better understanding of what you are going through.
Sincerely,
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.
Sweet Mother of Mary.
Me in a nutshell
SO EVERYONE EARTH BASICALLY?!?! THE FUCK??
U if fbk Ttg if you have it... not at ALL
Well apparently our psychiatrists don't diagnose anymore so I don't know how you are supposed to get a definitive answer..🙄
Yeah, but in UK, it doesn't exist, or just no one cares.
Ann Foxgold and your justice system is shit
they are monsters, leave them alone.
If anyone wants to date me, I'm sending this link as a precursor. #IHateYouDontLeaveMe
Many of the symptoms reminds me of bipolar disorder
Yes. There is a significant overlap in symptoms between the two disorders, and clinicians often end up having to rule one of these two out when making a diagnosis.
I was pretty sure my sister was bi-polar. After her hospital stay due to suicide threat I told her she should ask her counselor about it, and I gave her examples of her history that were consistent with bipolar. She got back to me and said he thought she was more borderline. I read up on that and think he's right. The big key is she puts me on a pedestal one day and if I critique her in the slightest way she ERUPTS and suddenly I am the biggest jerk alive. That is not consistent with bipolar I don't think. It's exhausting. You have to handle her with kid gloves. I'm fucking tired of her bullshit to be honest. I want her to get help but she's so vile to know that until that time I really don't gaf about her and her toxic abusive fucking bullshit.
1 minute diagnosis are you for real...... Thats absolutely unprofessional!!
Amber heard
They are malignant narcissists.