Self Doubt During UPSC Preparation : An Honest Conversation.
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- čas přidán 15. 07. 2024
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The views expressed in this Video are absolutely personal in nature.
I'm using GoodNotes 5 on the iPad Pro to make this video.
Contents :
0:00 - What is Self Doubt?
0:46 - A personal story
2:40 - Triggers
3:58 - Impact of Self Doubt
5:04 - The Solution
11:04 - Final Message
For all the support and help you've given me so far, a huge thank you :)
SIR let me tell you very frankly and mujhe yh bolne mein koi hichkichahat nahi hai that I am a proud mother of a 3 year old daughter. My husband and my in laws are very supportive. I used to come to library at 9 AM and used to Go at 10 PM. Ghar jaane ke baad I dont have a single sec even to go to washroom because meri daughter mujhe pakad leti hai . I very well understand ki pure din mujhe vo nahi dekhti hai that's y she holds me up till the time she gets into sleep in my lap. I am working really hard from last 12 months for this exam. Sabkuch cover kiya hai , phir bhi self doubt, frustration har 2 din pe hota rhta hai and ofcourse the exam pressure. But dil se humesha ek awaz aati hai ki cant give up in the last. Aapka video dekh kar bhut acha laga Sir.. Thankyou for understanding the fear of every serious aspirants. Love from the bottom of my heart Sir
Ho jayega dii aap tension mt lo!! 😊❤
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Keep going Mam, you are an inspiration,You remind me of Anu mam who did the same .Best of luck
I take the screenshot of this comment… appreciate uh mam❤❤❤ ALL THE BEST….
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Good morning Sir.Turned 30 this year. Left a permanent job at Air Force School as a teacher. Always wanted to do UPSC & be an IAS, however I lacked the courage to do so. Last year I mustered up all my courage and took the decision to quit my job & started preparing religiously. For the past 1 year I am been studying, revising, giving tests & identifying the loopholes. Even after doing so,I still haven't been able to score the way I wanted. I was always a poor student in quant, so CSAT will always be a major hurdle for me. As of now, I can only do number syste, average, RC, reasoning and few other topics properly, rest I can't even understand, no matter koi bhi mujhe Kitna lucid tarike se samjhaye.
For the last 1 month, I have been understand extreme stress & anxiety. Many factors contributing to it- backlogs just like Shivin Sir said, tests & revision, fear of failure.
But since last week- I have reversed the narrative and I say this to myself every moment and everyday because I have risked my years of education, my confidence, my permanent job & a good stable carrier. So there's no option of going back, I say this - "Ankita bs ek aur hour, bs ek aur din padhle, tu kar payegi, tujhse hoga, tune life me bohot failures face kiye h, to ab kisi baat se darrna nhi."
Now I believe that I am giving all that I have & if I still do not qualify, atleast I will have no regrets. I will give next one last attempt and call it off. If things will be in my favor, then well & good and if not atleast I will not have any regrets for the rest of my life. I will know that I did everything that was under my control.
I think, right now whatever Shivin Sir had said resonates absolutely with each one of us who are struggling hard to have self belief.
Thank you Sir for all that you been doing for us. Take care.
I am a 30 yr old woman broken unemployed unmarried. Wasted my 20s always kept people first but at the end I'm left alone. Today I don't have any frnds the person I was with cheated uski pehle se gf thi and finally he left me for her shaadi ka sapna bhi toot gaya.. I'm surviving on medications my parents are also in their 60s my mom has severe health issues 2 baar stroke bhi huwa unhe. As I'm their only child Sare responsibilities mere upar h month m 6 se 7 baar hospitals le jana padhta h unhe.. Lung disorder thyroid high bp arthrities insulin bhi dena padhta h unhe.. Pta nhi kb sb shi hoga? I am a post graduate in English literature still unemployed.. Just everyday I wake up telling myself one day may be things will get better.. 🙏
One day you make it sister
@@Msharma30 all we need is to believe in the impossible, tab universe bhi haar man jati h. Bs hope aur faith ko pakde rehna bohot important h..chahe koi exam ho ya zindagi ka koi bhi situation. Remember- Hope is a DECISION.
@@Msharma30 You are not alone when you have parents with you.
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होके मायूस ना यूँ शाम की तरह ढलते रहिये ज़िंदगी एक भोर है सूरज की तरह निकलते रहिये ठहरोगे एक पाँव पर तो थक जाओगे धीरे धीरे ही सही मगर राह चलते रहिये...❤
Let's play again the gamble of UPSC @ our own risk,,,,😅 2023 ki Tarah UPSC isss baar CSAT mein fail kr diya to kabhi 🖊️ 📚 touch ni krunga 😅 I'm ready for 2024 😅 common UPSC hit me hard 😅 All the best to everyone!!!
Ghar pr shadi ka pressure h , exam clear nhi hone ki vjh se now my parents dont trust me ..very toxic Environment not able to study ..all the time i m just crying
Now I feel that not only happened with me...
Shadi ka ap mat socho vo jinka kam hai vo kr lenge app aapna kam krte rho uska socho shadi ka nhi all the best❤
Mere sath bhi hai yahi sab. But me karna chahta hoo to mujhe koi nhi rok sakta. Kyoki me karna chahta hoo.
Ye waqt hamesha yad karna .Dubara kabhi nhi kar paogi
*ye pain Jo aapko abhi feel ho rha hai , isse Kai Guna jyada pain Puri zindagi me milega agar aapne abhi giveup kr diya to,aur Ghar walo ke baton me aa gye to*
Similar pta nhi hm ladkiya kaha jaye
Even though I am medico still happening to me
May not complete 100 percent Target daily.but your guidance teach soo much consistency . Thank you Shrivin sir.. we are soo blessed to find a mentor. like you
Thank you shivin. You have been a back bone for me. You are becoming a part of life. Can't thank you enough.❤
You belong to those categories, where your parents are too supportive,.. How could we fight,where yours parents always says that, "tujse na ho payega, tu ladki hai shaadi karni hai, shaadi karle" and alongwith backlogs, hospital duty, self doubts, wrong pyq attempt...
You are going to loosen in front of yourselves.
But I am doing my best...
Set Your Heart Ablaze...
All the best👍..You are definitely going to make it❤.
Aur ak baat jinhe koi nahi support karta unhe Bhagwan khood support karne aate hai. God bless you✨.
@deepali6615 Truly said b
Bro your words made my day!!❤❤❤❤
Love from the core of my heart✨️🫂
Learn the art of mentally distance* from everyone.
Well there is this thing happening to me so what to do there is only one mother fucking option stay hard you know what to do and how to ... Was medically unfit for CDS after recommended been medically unfit for CAPF been giving my 4 th attempt been bed ridden 2 years straight so what life always difficult but only one option is to be savage and stay hard ....
@@deepali6615
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you so much sir! ❤Much needed talk.
Yes I am having self doubt!!
But it will be okay .
Thanks Shivin sir
Need of the hour . Thank you sir.
dhanyavaad sir dil se...
Radhe-Radhe❣❣
Shivin sir, thanks a lot for all your efforts ❤😊
Much needed sir.
Thank you so much
Thank you for the kind words❤. Can't say more than this
Thank uhhhh so much Shivin Da...... for understanding & that much support 😊
What a timing shivin sir... Most needed
Thnku So Much Sir 🙏😇
you are saviour for us sir.
thankyou so much.
Thank you Shivin Sir..✨🙏
Yes, I am having self -doubt. But I will get through this phase! Thank you for this video sir. You are our guiding light!!!
Thank your for this video, it was really needed!
A much needed video !! 🙌
Thankyou Bhaiya🦋❤
Thanku shivin sir❤
Thank you big brother and a true mentor❤
Sir,You just came with the videos that thoughts running in mind .Thank-you sir for coming with the videos that really boost my strength
Thnq so much bhaiya ❤
Thank you for making this video. I would revisit this many times I guess and would overcome my self doubt.
Thank you so much for this video.
Thank you so much sir for your support at this time😊
Thank You Very Much Sir..... for this Support...🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❣❣❣❣
Right time right content right video ... thank you dear Dr.Shivin ❤️
Thank you so much Sir for your support 💯
Thankyou so much. It was so helpful and supportive 🥲
Sir you are always there for us. Thank you so much
Much needed video , i am very thankful to you for this video
Thank You So Much Sir 🥺🙏🙏
Thank you sir for your time and I try to follow all the path what you suggest. Today is best day for me ❤❤❤ I also part of this journey
Thank you so much Sir... ❤️
Thank you so much Sir 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much sir!!✨❣️
Thankyou Sir for the worldly advice...
Thank you ,sir. It is easy to do with your support. I do not have self doubt now as I have completely dissociated myself of the results and enjoying the process. This time is seeming best to me but it doesn't mean that my preparation is very good and I have no backlogs. I have a lot of backlogs but self doubt is not there. Just sometimes, disappointment comes after looking less marks and wasting time. I am good to go and blessed to do this preparation and having a mentor like you.💓
Thank you so much sir this video is a most needed video for me right now
Sir i am actually living in the words you said at end....still won't giveup
Whenever i feel anxious , i call my boyfreind, he is my biggest support in this jorney.
Thank you so much sir 😊❤
You are a saviour... Thankyouu ❣️
This was. EXACTLY what i needed to hear. Sir, please start taking live sessions on Saturday. I liked that I had to study the whole week so that I could show you at the end that I did. accountability and all..
Thank u 🖤 always there….
Really needed ❤❤this
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Some are good days and some are bad ones like crests and troughs but admitting it ,will try the best of my core to perform better and better till my selection... Right now only Flts , backlogs and the race to complete every other things spurs anxiety levels but it is going to be it...everybody has to go through it...let's just swim together and learn to adapt to difficult times of preparation.... ❤ Happy study ❤
Thankyouuu so much sir❤
Thankyou so much sir🙏🏾🥹🙌
Backlog hai kuch subject abhi padha nhi hai revision kam hai csat ka phobia hai aur daily mind se aata hai ki is bar mai prelims nhi nikal paunga lakin maine padhai nhi chhodi hai mai daily padh raha hu but daily targets pura nhi ho pa raha hai ex geography Mai abhi Padhi raha hu aur economy start ho chuki😢
Same bhai 😞 mgr padhna nahi choda
Hey go for dr upsc channel 😊 revision easy hai mera v geography nhi complete tha kia maine
Ha ye to lagta hai nhi niklega is bar kuki bhut blunder kar Diya fir v apna best denge 😊 I will clear prelims.
@@ismritigupta-19 ok Thq
@@ismritigupta-19 padhai karte rehna hai jarur niklega
Love the way ❤
Dear sir, Thank you ❤
Much needed therapy ❤
i acknowledge i have self doubt and i get into this never-ending vicious cycle of thoughts that make me want to skip the attempt. but i promise myself, from today i.e 11th may, 2023 i am going to work through it. not just for the sake of this exam but to learn to have a sense of control over how i feel and how i act upon it, to learn to control my Id which always has an easy alternate to escape problems. it wont happen in a day or two, but i am going to work to overcome it. i have worked hard for this exam, i am not going to let my anxiety and self doubt take it away from me. as much as it if impossible, i wish and pray we all get through because everyone working hard deserves to get what they did work for. thankyou sir, sometimes all one needs is the same conventional thing to be just reminded of. thankyou for being there.
thank you so much sir😊🙏
Thank you so much sir.... I realized everyone will be going through some or the other things... but we should try overcoming that and look forward for things which we can only control and let go of all the things!!
Even I've wasted some time in this self doubt... and I for sure will overcome this by working hard!!
Thank you so much sir for this message... just received at the right time!!
Every word of yours is truly relatable.....
Backlog fear and pyq fear is like a mountain
Thank you sir...yes I have self doubt but your words made me feel better....I'll focus on my efforts which is under my control..thank you for being sir🙏
Everyday i also go through self doubt for all the reasons which you just told SHIVIN BHAI. Since i have so much faith in you , from now onwards I will also follow your one guidance that is self doubt when you are not working hard enough but don't when you get low score in mocks.
THANKS SHIVIN BHAI FOR YOU GUIDANCE.
Ty Sir!!!!
Thanks once again 🙏
Thank you so much sir 🙏😊😊
This man is so humble... ❤
Yes ,I hv self doubt but I will make it n will give my 100% !!
Thankyou 😇
Thank you Sir 🙏
Means a lot sir infact for all of us that you are here and speaking about something which we all are facing aomost every couple of days but instead of talking abiut it we kept silent...
Rightnow i do feel pressurized, self doubt, blaming own self for all the odds and many more
But at the end of the day only one thing comes from within i.e. i am not gonna give up!!
So here i am and i will make sure that i will re- rewise whatever i have stidies so far with C.A along with CSAT practice
That's all.
I will give my best to make into the list as still its not too late 16th june is yet to come, we still have time to channelize things and offcourse give ourselves a little more strength to walk forward ❤
Thank you sir 😊
Thank you sir
Thankyou sir ❤
Yes i am having self doubt. But continue study will overcome. Thank you sir
I too feel self doubt on me. Thank you sir for making video on this small but pertinent issue.
thank you so much shivin sir,my younger brother
Thank you so much sirr❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am proud of u sir🙏🙏
I have been sick for the past couple of days and the stress of not being able to finish my daily targets was making it so much worse. It definitely feels less lonely to know that I am not the only one filled with worry and self-doubt...Taking the day off from studies today to simply relax and calm down.
Shall be restarting tomorrow with the motto to enjoy the remaining process.
UPSC is a journey that tests all of ours perseverance and patience. Let's conquer it 💪
tnx sir for your words
I get a feeling sometimes that I am forgetting a lot of things, sometimes I feel that exam me kahi silly mistake na jaaye, and the fear of being defeated by CSAT ..... These are things which come a wind . But in that moment I'll to my self "Just keep walking, help will arrive.....". And that is what I do.
Hi sir thankyou for the tips you have given I'm a neet aspirant and all the points you spoke up in the video will really going to help in the whole journey thankyou for guiding like this only .
Your words always ....very powerful ....for the journey...thanku sir....😊😊
Final message was 🔥🔥♥♥
Yes im having self doubt.. but thank you sir ...this video was much needed 🙏🏻
Sir u r really a gem🎉🎉🎉❤❤
Will see your golden thoughts daily👍👍👍
Tq so much sir ❤❤
Thankyou sir.
Yes I'm having doubt whether to attempt this year or not..
But I believe together we will get through this.
Thank you Shivin Sir
Sir u r great ,it was needed alot for me . U r good doctor,good teacher, good mentor, good guide and above all these u r a good human being 😊😊😊😊❤ thank u shivin sir
Watched till end...
Yes, Sir this self doubt happens a lot during last phases of preparation.
This time i was feeling bit relaxed, but then realized i could give more eforts than i have.
Got that click to give extra❤.
Thank you
Working hard with 2 kids. Thanks for such kind words.
Shivin bro's video = Clarity + Motivation
Feeling very low n unable to study properly, only just getting thoughts about i am not good at core scoring subjects , not feeling confident in them . But now i m confident again after hearing you will do my best nd will not overthink .
areee sir how can someone be so accurate. your every word is correct. i am not alone. facing same problems. from last 3 days i am not able to study . due to family distraction- some relatives and self doubt. and now i dont wanna study . feeling like i am lacking and behind competition .