How to Stop Overeating ➡️ Flip This Switch!
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Disclaimer: This video is for information purposes only and my content should not be used as a substitute for seeking treatment from a healthcare provider. My content is not going to be suitable for everyone, so please use your self discernment before applying any video content in your own life.
Many of us have felt that after bingeing or losing control around food, we should feel bad. I've been trapped in this cycle of guilt myself, believing that if I felt bad enough, I might change my behavior. However, through developing self-awareness, I've learned that guilt can perpetuate overeating patterns rather than resolve them.
To illustrate this, I delve into an intriguing study involving dieters who believed they were evaluating the effects of eating while watching TV. In reality, the study focused on the impact of self-compassion on eating behavior. Participants first ate a donut, then proceeded to a room filled with candies for a supposed taste test. Unknown to them, their candy consumption was monitored to measure the effects of a verbal intervention given to half of the group. This intervention encouraged self-compassion, suggesting that occasional indulgence is part of the human experience and shouldn't be a source of self-reproach.
The results were telling. Those who received the self-compassion intervention ate significantly less candy than those who did not. This speaks volumes about the power of self kindness, mindfulness, and recognizing common humanity in mitigating feelings of guilt and altering eating behavior.
This study underscores a crucial message: self-compassion could be transformative for anyone struggling with guilt around food. It's not about not caring about what we eat, but about understanding and acknowledging our feelings without harsh judgment. This approach doesn't just apply to eating but is a powerful tool for enhancing overall well-being.
I hope this video helps you reflect on how self-compassion can shift your relationship with food and yourself. For those interested in exploring this topic further, I run monthly groups to connect and discuss our relationships with food more deeply. Check out the description below for links to the study and more information about these groups, as well as my podcast, "Life After Diets."
Thank you for watching, and I look forward to bringing more insights in the next video. Remember, self-compassion isn’t just a concept; it's a practical approach to fostering healthier habits and a happier life.
I've gained 7kg in the past 6 months since switching to a stressful new job. After work, I would go home and binge while watching TV shows.
For the past two weeks, two people who I considered my good friends told me I am too fat, that I look ugly like fat gollum, and that I need to exercise and lose weight. I shared a happy photo of myself, and the reply I got was how round my face look. My friend said fat people are lazy and are inherently less valuable.
I feel devastated. Although I know my friends are only saying things in line with their value and they want good things for me, I felt unloved and invalid just for how my body looks.
My eating habits are out of control but I feel so helpless and their unkind words are not helping. I feel like I can't be friends with them anymore and that makes me really sad.
I’m here for your support
Give yourself the compassion they are not able to give you at this moment.
Hang in, you really are not alone in the eating struggle. There will always be those people, friends or otherwise, who will always say something stupid revealing THEIR shortsightedness and ignorance. It’s THEM and NOT you. These are “friends”???
I'm sorry for saying that but these people are shallow.. they should be supporting you in this difficult stressful period not making you feel more bad.. please ignore their comments you are not defined as a person from some more or less weight..try to find ways to let yourself relax and release the stress and then only if you want to try to do something about the weight.. not for them..they can think whatever they want but it doesn't mean it is right..
@@dguy7436 I haven't talked to them since. Messages like yours and this channel has been helping me. ❤️
Didn't even know I needed a video like this. So many times, I've found myself feeling awful -- both physically and emotionally -- after a binge, and many of those times, I'd tell myself to burn this horrible feeling into my mind so that I would remember it next time I felt a binge coming on.
Needless to say, it hasn't really worked.
Thank you for this insight. Here's to being kinder to ourselves!
I was at dinner with a work group and while I’ve been trying to recover from the guilt, someone else looked around kind of anxious and worried we were all going to judge her, and said, “I’ll be bad. I’ll get a hamburger…”
This experience triggered something in me I’ve been trying to put behind me. But I also felt pain for her and her anxiety around food (and in general).
❤️🩹❤️🩹
Really interesting. I was spoken to really rudely & hurtfully by someone about my weight recently; it made me feel sad then quite angry and rebellious - I had fish and chips that evening almost as an act of defiance - like a big F-You to them for saying it.
❤️🩹❤️🩹 I feel that
Interesting! There’s also the physiological component which has to do with actual cravings and food addictions caused by poor eating habits-too many refined carbs, inadequate protein, fat, and fiber. All of these can cause insulin resistance and perpetuate the problem. Definitely, the binge eating is psychological, as well. I can attest to it, but working on good nutrition and intermittent fasting has helped me more than anything in my decades of struggle.
See, I took the researchers’ intervention differently. Like it’s reverse psychology. They were saying “don’t feel bad” so that you DO feel bad and stop. It seems like it’s still guilt that is driving or not driving the choices people are making there.
I like your father , bringing awerness to the act of eating.
You helped me so much. Until I read your book I could not stop binging. Chronic dieter. As soon as I increased my protein intake I felt satisfied and did not binge
As usual….. makes 100% sense!!!
But does your dad know what you do 😂 seriously, so much wisdom, as usual. “Being self compassionate about what you’re eating is not the same as not caring about what you’re eating” The 3 parts of self compassion makes total sense. Easier said than done that feeling bad or guilty is not helpful. So, kindly keep manipulating us into having more self compassion ❤
He knows! And to be fair, he’s never been judgemental about what I eat so I was really taken aback at the time. It’s why I’ve chosen to interpret it this was his stuff and that he was talking about the world (aka HIM) more generally.
Had our history been different I may have had a bigger reaction 🔥
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist it usually is their stuff! Important to remember when it comes to parents (as I like to tell my son) 😊
Thank you so much for the videos and for speaking your truth and persisting that being kind and understanding and nice to yourself is so important.😊 I'm very hard on myself and I hate making mistakes so I know what you mean by eating more trying to feel better for having messed up, which is ridiculous, but that's what I've done. Being mindful, noticing my behavior, being understanding, and compassionate have been really helpful. It's a slow process because I'm not used to it, but I can see it working.❤😊
I love your videos and content. I've been watching a couple videos a day as try to build new eating skills and I feel like the thoughts and suggestions you've shared has changed me from the inside out. Thanks so much. ❤
This was seriously wonderful, thank you
Thanks for this ❤- currently practicing self compassion for overeating.
Excellent video, thank you!
this was actually, really helpful.
I really appreciate your videos.
I don't binge on candy and junk food tho. Ice cream, biscuits, chocolate is all disgusting to me. Haven't had that in decades. My bines are all healthy foods. So I guess half of what you said applies but nobody talks about those of us who don't binge on that junk.
Same here! I don't binge on "junk" food but nutritious foods.
@@lisanow6856ohh hi. I'm glad someone else is like this too. I don't like that when people think and talk about binges that it's always 'junk' food they are thinking of and talking about. It's so invalidating to not be taken seriously or have our kind of binges, talked about more. ❤
I also eat only healthy food cooked from scratch but probably a bit too much . I haven’t baked a cake in years because of sugar ...forget pancakes , too much flour etc I’m still a little overweight by 5 kilos that I can’t lose . I try to walk 30 min a day but at my age , 77 , it’s not always possible....tough really .
I get it. Self compassion.
I love your videos 🌻 and your new setup is nice
Fascinating!
I tried so many exercises that helped me a little bit, but I finally stoped binge eating when I got pregnant. Everything stopped suddenly 😅
Absolutely brilliant.
Thank you
Thank you - that's really insightful 👍
Thank you!!☀️☀️☀️
Interesting 😊thank you😊
Thank you, I’ll try that 👍
Thank you! ❤
THANK YOU 😢
Thank you❤
What about those few of us who don't binge on junk food and haven't for years/decades. Mine are all healthy foods.
At 7:09, I can't make out what you are saying-- "The meta-binge"? "The __ to binge"?
Yes! Meta binge
I gained 34 kg in 5 months
Helpp😭😭😭😭
I really do not like your dad for saying that.
I like your videos but find it hard to understand your speech sometimes
that doesn't feel like self-compassion, it feels like southern guilt.
why eat candy in the first place? - I never eat it - nor do I eat donuts nor do I snack while watching TV - why would you? - I don't even like the stuff, never did.
Well good for you. But alot of people struggle with it. Think yourself one of the lucky ones !
I'm curious to understand what is the goal of your comment. What are you trying to achieve and why did you watch this video in the first place?
I needed this🫶