There were several times during this where I said: me too. Maybe one day I'll be able to say that I met the love of my life and bought my first house. You are such an inspiration. Congratulations!! ✨️💕
It can happen. I bought my first house at age 29, admittedly with a loan from my dad, but still...it's not impossible! And my parents were madly in love for 65 years before my beloved dad passed away from cancer just over a year ago, so I know that true love IS possible, as well. But just remember: learning to love yourself first is the basis of any happy, healthy relationship. You deserve love, and loving yourself is great practice for loving someone else! I wish you nothing but the best out of life! ❤😊
I don't like these videos especially from content creators, I think it gives people false hope. I always thought one day it will all fall into place and everything will be fine, and I ended up just being more ill and more depressed. I think people should speak openly about how it's ok not to be ok and how life can be hard and we can struggle
@@x-starlight-x That is a very fair point! I suffer from moderate to severe depression, and I honestly don't know if it will ever be "cured" and I'll be a normal, happy person. My therapist tells me every week that it's ok to not be ok, and that it's even possible to be "ok" without actually being ok by other people's definition. Thanks for saying this. It's so true, and IMHO knowing this can actually feel more hopeful to depressed people than potentially false hopes of a happy, perfect life and a perfect life partner being out there somewhere if you just look hard enough. There's nothing wrong with NOT being in a relationship, and of course the most important relationship in your life will always be with yourself. Wishing you the best. ❤️🩹
@@maneckineckbeard1749 I completely understand you about the depression. I have always said it's something you learn to live with, it will never go away, but that's absolutely ok, and I think that's something that should be made more clear. Because when life happens, and someone is more prone to depression, and false hope is given, people can struggle emotionally and the pressure is huge. It's ok not to have a partner, a big house, designer clothes, luxury car etc We need to love ourselves first and find peace and then we can support each other and spread that love and peace ❤️
I hear you. I was a full blown addict by the time I hit 25. Long story short, I’m clean now and I get to be a wife and a mother, I broke the cycle. As long as you’re still breathing, there is hope. ❤
Had it not been for my kids, my codependent relationship would’ve turned me into an addict. I met my daughter and threw all that away. ❤ God bless you & your family.
Hi Monica, I just wanted to say that the part where you said you gave yourself scars gave me a little hope. I’ve been struggling with SH, but you saying that shows me that there is hope. Thank you so, so, so, so much. ❤
You got this! My mom went back to school when i was younger and i was always so impressed with how hard she worked, you’re very strong and i wish you the best ❤❤
10 years ago. I was starved. Underweight and sick constantly. I’d just left my abuser. I too am engaged, bought a house and my first new car. I grew up in a house without running water born to both parents who didn’t finish high school. I have two degrees. I’m still lost on where life is meant to go sometimes. But I trust what led me here. ❤your message brought me to tears 😭
Thank you for posting this. Currently 19 and feeling like a failure compared to my peers and struggling mentally. It’s good to know that things can and will get better
@@fxmaaa555 I feel you. Just know, you have soo much time left to achieve everything you want in life, including happiness. And it absolutely is okay to ask for help. Everyone needs help sometimes. 🩷
Thank you for this! I think this is my favorite “makeup” video so far! I do my makeup to heal! After breast cancer left me unable to do much. Learning makeup at 51 yrs old has been my physical therapy and mental therapy!
I know when you say scars, it can be referring to a couple of different things- from emotional trauma to literal scars on your body. As someone who has struggled with self harm for over a decade, I’m dying for more people to talk and open up about their experiences (IF THIS IS THE CASE.) I have felt beyond alone and isolated because I never see influencers representing people like me ❤️
Yeah I used to as well my scars will never heal and they are everywhere. Now I try to think of them as an important part of my story. I had to go through that to get where I am now and now life is good. We are poor but I have my kids and we are happy.
This your sign to accept Jesus in your life. You see i used to go through tough times that were unbearingly painful and i couldnt get myself out of it and find peace, one day i was in a midst of a storm and out of nowhere i felt god calling me, and so i prayed for hours, cried my heart out, complained, and asked for help and peace and right after that i felt a weight lifted off my chest. I pray that when u decide to trust him, same thing happens to u, theres no doubt that once u have faith in jesus he will cast out all demons from your body and give u new life, new purpose, so trust him with your life lean unto him for hes your savior, who died for u out of his unconditional love and grace for you. I love you, God loves you, please give him a chance, hes calling you to him.
@@emankhan3965 If it helped you to believe in Jesus, that’s great. But not everyone find‘s inner peace and happiness in religion. So with respect for your believes, I wished you would not advice religion as a cure-for-all. In the worst case, that can backfire and cause more psychological harm than it might help. In the end, it religion is a very personal thing.
26 years later, you are THEE most amazing brown girl influencer that has literally changed thousands of lives across continents!!! We love and appreciate yooou❤ Wishing you love, light and happiness for ALL the years to come!
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
The feeling of finally not having to leave anymore is something I hope I can experience I'm so glad you're able to buy a house and have that for yourself ❤❤❤❤
I love the realness of this video. You are so right. I look back and see how far I have come. Yes, we are strong women who can achieve anything and more than we can believe
You made me cry because I am in ur past situation right now, very traumatised, hopeless and depressed 😔I am 26, engineer, started beauty business, bought my first house too. I am struggling with mental health, I appreciate this video as it gives me hope.❤❤
You are very accomplished for your age! It's really inspiring actually. I would recommend starting therapy if you have the time and money. Things can be overwhelming even when you are "successful". Good luck on your journey and I hope you find peace, happiness, and YOUR version of success ❤❤❤❤
I'm so proud of you!!! this is a great message. even if some are not christian, this is perfect for easter! thank you monica so much and we appreaciate you. literal chills this whole short edit- thx for the likessss
4 months ago I lost my father and got abandoned by who I thought was the love of my life while my mother got diagnosed with cancer… I trust ALLAH 🤲🏻 May happiness find my way and my family ya RAB
I’m 27 and I’m still trying to get my degree and my dream job. I still live at home and I have never been in a relationship or had a job for longer than a month. I suffer for anxiety and was finally trying to get help for it but it got delayed because of something with my insurance. I’m taking a semester off and I might have to transfer to a different university. There are days where I wish that won’t ever wake up. My parents are immigrants and still support me but every day I feel like a waste of their sacrifices. When I was younger i thought I had a bright future but every time I come close to achieving something now my life decides to take a wrong turn.
Twenty yrs ago I felt similar to you , but one day I decided I wanted to live , I prayed to God to give me courage and strength, don't worry about the future, love one day at a time , see if you can get a pet help a lot with anxiety or maybe grow flowers. Smile even if you don't feel like it. You still have a bright future, I pray that you find strength and courage to move forward of which you already have.i wish you healing.❤
I'm turning 32 this week, and I'm just now about to start my career path .. I was out of it for these past three years bc of 7 deaths in my family. I understand. Your life is not determined by your current situation, keep pushing forward and surround yourself with positive people who believe in you as much as you should definitely believe in yourself!! I also am pushing through my anxiety and depression.. remember to water yourself, be kind to yourself, and be patient. I believe in you. 🤍
Make a way to go to the dr!! Just keep pushing every day with the insurance! Or try another Dr. you got this!! Keep praying and trust me hun you are young!! It’s okay to be at home at 27!!! You parents should be letting you stay there to have a roof over ur head!! I hope my son stays with me for as long as possible but I know he probably won’t! Ur parents will miss you when you go! You are wanted and loved.
That feeling of finally unpacking boxes after 8 years of moving and just leaving some of the packed. Did you have that ? I did, it was such a release and relief 💕
I feel this. The first time I was raped was when I was 6. I started self-harming at 9. Developed heart problems at 13. Eating disorder started at 14. Abusive relationships at 16, 17, and 18. Married my best friend at 19. Infertility in early 20’s. Life-threatening pregnancy 1 and 2 by the time I was 27. Sexually assaulted by multiple people throughout my 20’s. Went to college and earned my graduate degree during which time I was struck by lightning, attacked by a sting ray, sexually assaulted on a family vacation, abandoned by my parents, “adopted” by new parents and abandoned again, found out I couldn’t have anymore children, and then became one of the targets of a planned mass shooting. At 36, I became a child therapist, started running races, learned to find intense joy in the little family I had created, and started conquering my mental demons. Continuing to trust the process and find little moments in life to love. Those who suffer the most are capable of experiencing shifts in an emotional pendulum in which they know extreme joy. Without suffering, there is no joy. I’m so happy for you and the future you have laid out for yourself! You got this, Girl!!
Your resilience, self worth /self confidence journey, trusting your gifts, course correcting, and gambling on one's self while taking a leap of faith is beyond admiral and you sharing this with us is itself a blessing. Some of us have been there and are not on the other side yet while others have given up but the greatest message is to keep going and know we're worthy of wonderful things 🙏🏽. Congratulations on everything M❤.
Its genuinely amazing how you've prospered despite going through such hard times. I might not know you very closely, Monica, but im genuinely proud. You're not only an amazing teacher, but also and inspiration ❤
This is my favorite video of yours! I have it saved whenever I feel like things are not working out, I just watch this video and it gives me some sort of strength that things will fall in the right place eventually ❤️
Wow amazing story! I would love if you did more of these. Also i laughed at the end lol "like you trusted this make up look" . Thank you for sharing your life story with us.
Thank you for sharing your story. Makes me realise I am not alone when life hits rock bottom. Normalizing talking about difficult and painful moments is so important
Noticed you saying "gave myself scars" please don't blame yourself for what happened. You did what you thought was best in that situation. You didn't do this on purpose so please forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. Thank you for sharing your incredible story with us. God bless you sweetheart ✝️
I’m a mother of an adult child of 18 going on 30 ! I remember when I was younger and first married to my husband, my mother kept saying “ he’s toxic “ . My dad respected him because he was a firefighter, we parted for 8 months and eventually got back together. It’s a good thing, he’s literally my best friend. My daughter and I wouldn’t have it any other way, even if we have our spats once in a while . I just quit my job last year , I’m taking care of my elderly mother in law, my husband’s finally working after 15 years of being retired. I’ve been through a lot , anxiety attacks and depression. When I consider everything we’ve been through, God has really pulled us through. Keep it up , stay positive and be happy. Congratulations to you both 💫💫
Girl, you didn't give yourself scars...those are reminders of things you've learned while on your journey.👏🏾👏🏼👏🏽 Keep going, and NEVER look back‼️‼️‼️🫂
God bless you! This is so inspiring! I had the biggest heartbreak ever a few months ago. 8 years & engaged together gone. I have to rebuild my whole life again. I went through some dark times and still sometimes comes up again. Hoping one day I can say I am married to the love of my life and own a house one day. Thank you for sharing your story!
thank you for sharing your story Monica, you are an angel and we love you! as a content creator this is such an important message to share, you are truly inspiring. so happy for you and how far you've come
This is so beautiful!!! An amazing testimony and witness to the resilience of the human spirit!!! Wishing this gorgeous woman much happiness on her awesome journey ❤ ❤❤
Proud of you, you now and also you then. Thankyou for being a voice, not only for the brown girlies. But for all of us, the ones who need a loud, 0 filter influencer. A real one. ❤️❤️
Congratulations on everything. And thabk you for the advice. Sometimes when you're in the middle of "it", difficulty...its hard to trust the process. You give people hope.
Hello Monica, thank you for being such an inspiration and thank you for sharing your story ❤ I pray that one day I’ll be able to confidently say “… after so many years, I finally bought my first house!”
This is beautiful! We all go through so many phases but we just need to keep moving forward and with good counsel and persistence and God things will make a turn for the better…thank for your transparency it is refreshing ❤❤❤
28: just got dumped out of the blue by the guy I thought was my life partner 😮💨 I have to move out as soon as possible. I’m trying to find a place with my brother so we don’t have to live with our emotionally abusive mom again, but he’s pretty toxic himself. We might not be able to avoid moving back home though because every apartment listing we look into comes back already leased out. I hope the process starts working it’s magic soon 😰
When any woman of my age, of any country, takes her flight, without anything or anyone, but courage and vision, i swear, that makes me so content, so full of positivity for all the women who are just being born or becoming one. Thanks, Monica, love for you, from your homeland.
I don't like these videos especially from content creators, I think it gives people false hope. I always thought one day it will all fall into place and everything will be fine, and I ended up just being more ill and more depressed. I think people should speak openly about how it's ok not to be ok and how life can be hard and we can struggle
@@mitskimaxxing are you ok? I never once questioned whether she struggled. I just find it hard to relate to these content creators that are popular due to mainly luck and most of them preach about manifesting a better future and everything will come to you. In reality we need to teach people who are really depressed and really struggling, that can't seem to get out of the rut and see no end in site, that it is ok to not be ok. Sometimes life happens and we just need to support each other and love each other. It's ok not to have a partner, a big house, lots of money, the nicest car etc. We should learn to love ourselves and find peace
I agree but also a disagree with some parts. While it’s okay to tell people that not everything will fall into place, because for some it doesn’t, there are some people that need to hear this message. People who are currently scared to try something new or getting out of a pit of depression because they just believe everything will stay the same. Both messages should be preached, as some people need to hear different things.
@@mono_tone6511 I understand where you are coming from, but from someone who has suffered with dark thoughts and depression, I was always told everything will be ok, and if you are told it enough times you start to believe it, but when things don't improve and reality hits, it can be emotionally overwhelming. I don't want to go into detail about my life, but I always thought things would get better because that's what I was told and made to believe, when really I wish someone had sat me down and explained to me it's ok if you don't meet these expectations, it's ok not to be ok. I think we need to focus on loving ourselves and finding peace, and then spread that love and peace ❤️
Don't give me that bs I'm glad your happy but don't say shit like TrUsT tHe PrOcEsS when being an influencer is a very lucky and pretty privileged based thing in a very saturated job market, it's harder for normal people to "TrUsT tHe PrOcEsS" because we don't have tiktok money to fall back on, we have to stay in that toxic relationship and we have to endure that job that we despise. I'm sorry this is all very tone deaf.
no you are absolutely correct because she most likely had a nice salary from SWE and probably lived on it and invested it into social media content creation. a lot of influencers either are born rich or had a crazy salary prior to their current tiktok career
Exactly, “trust the process” is not in my favour nor for those around me, I live in a homeless shelter and the people around are trying to start over but in reality they just letting go of life, having no home or a job is hard but seeing people on social media telling people to “trust the process” I just don’t believe it, there are people who are lucky and those who are not lucky
I’m going through everything you said 🥹 and I also studied software engineering and i hate so much 💔 I’m 26 years old now , I wish things will work out
Girl we are so proud of you, ❤❤❤❤ you brought me to tears, it can be hard getting out a toxic relationships I’ve been there and met the girl of my dreams now. Life does get better and is a process love your videos and we love you❤
Thank you. I'm stuck doing a major I didn't want to choose and I've been feeling pessimistic about my life these days... So this was really inspiring, thank you so much
As an Indian woman, there's a lot of respect for content creators like you who make a change in society. By acknowledging brown girl friendly products that aid in boosting confidence is a remarkable job which is why At 26, you bought your own house! I never wrote on your channel but always went through liking every single video. Just in case you happen to come to India. Do tell us, you seem like a great woman to be friends with 😊
You worded this so beautifully. And I think this definitely left a huge impact because it resonated so much with so many of us who are struggling as well right now. Thank you so much for the motivation ❤️ and I just wanna say I’m so happy for you. Congratulations!
You are so brave for leaving your toxic relationship and going to a new place. We are so happy for you!! I am glad you are with people who love you and support you. You have your own house!!! That is amazing!!! I just love your content, and you, I am not a brown skin girl, but I love all of your videos!!! See that your videos are bringing a lot of different people who love what you do, be proud of who you are!!! 💖💖💖
There were several times during this where I said: me too. Maybe one day I'll be able to say that I met the love of my life and bought my first house.
You are such an inspiration. Congratulations!! ✨️💕
It can happen.
I bought my first house at age 29, admittedly with a loan from my dad, but still...it's not impossible! And my parents were madly in love for 65 years before my beloved dad passed away from cancer just over a year ago, so I know that true love IS possible, as well.
But just remember: learning to love yourself first is the basis of any happy, healthy relationship. You deserve love, and loving yourself is great practice for loving someone else!
I wish you nothing but the best out of life! ❤😊
me too❤
I don't like these videos especially from content creators, I think it gives people false hope. I always thought one day it will all fall into place and everything will be fine, and I ended up just being more ill and more depressed. I think people should speak openly about how it's ok not to be ok and how life can be hard and we can struggle
@@x-starlight-x That is a very fair point! I suffer from moderate to severe depression, and I honestly don't know if it will ever be "cured" and I'll be a normal, happy person. My therapist tells me every week that it's ok to not be ok, and that it's even possible to be "ok" without actually being ok by other people's definition. Thanks for saying this. It's so true, and IMHO knowing this can actually feel more hopeful to depressed people than potentially false hopes of a happy, perfect life and a perfect life partner being out there somewhere if you just look hard enough.
There's nothing wrong with NOT being in a relationship, and of course the most important relationship in your life will always be with yourself.
Wishing you the best. ❤️🩹
@@maneckineckbeard1749 I completely understand you about the depression. I have always said it's something you learn to live with, it will never go away, but that's absolutely ok, and I think that's something that should be made more clear. Because when life happens, and someone is more prone to depression, and false hope is given, people can struggle emotionally and the pressure is huge. It's ok not to have a partner, a big house, designer clothes, luxury car etc We need to love ourselves first and find peace and then we can support each other and spread that love and peace ❤️
I hear you. I was a full blown addict by the time I hit 25. Long story short, I’m clean now and I get to be a wife and a mother, I broke the cycle. As long as you’re still breathing, there is hope. ❤
I'm so glad you are feeling better now! It's not easy to be clean. Good luck going forward ❤❤❤
Had it not been for my kids, my codependent relationship would’ve turned me into an addict. I met my daughter and threw all that away. ❤
God bless you & your family.
Hi Monica, I just wanted to say that the part where you said you gave yourself scars gave me a little hope. I’ve been struggling with SH, but you saying that shows me that there is hope. Thank you so, so, so, so much. ❤
I felt the same way when she mentioned binge eating. There's hope for us sweetie. We can do it🧡
@@sweetiedahling8137 Thank you. I know we’re strangers, but it’s nice to know someone understands.
Sending you both love and positive vibes!!❤❤❤❤
@@toyia8158 thank you so much beautiful internet stranger 🧡🧡🧡
@@toyia8158 Thank you so much this has made my day thank you!!! 🩵
Im a mother of 8 going back to school. Thank you for this!.. God bless 😊
Go Girl !!! 👏👏👏
All the best momma.
You got this sis!! Rooting for you 💜💜💜
You got this! My mom went back to school when i was younger and i was always so impressed with how hard she worked, you’re very strong and i wish you the best ❤❤
You got this girl!!!!!!!!! ✨️🩷
The last line caught me off guard ❤
lmaooo i was tearing up and then she broke the fourth wall and made me bust out laughing. i was not trusting the process but was surprised 😂
Fr 😂
Too much makeup. 🤷🏽♀️
And that’s okay
@@sg5720i think that it doesnt matter, and that it looks lovely on her 🤷🏽♀️
Trusting the process is horrifying yet I'm still here and you're gorgeous! Thank you!
This got me emotional. All those lows were so you could appreciate the blessings of simplicity and stability.
Strong & Beautiful!? You rock, proud of you 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤God bless you Hun xxx
I want this so bad. Its been nonstop lows for over a year, I'm losing count
10 years ago. I was starved. Underweight and sick constantly. I’d just left my abuser.
I too am engaged, bought a house and my first new car.
I grew up in a house without running water born to both parents who didn’t finish high school. I have two degrees.
I’m still lost on where life is meant to go sometimes. But I trust what led me here. ❤your message brought me to tears 😭
Thank you for posting this. Currently 19 and feeling like a failure compared to my peers and struggling mentally. It’s good to know that things can and will get better
@@fxmaaa555 I feel you. Just know, you have soo much time left to achieve everything you want in life, including happiness. And it absolutely is okay to ask for help. Everyone needs help sometimes. 🩷
Girl I’m 32 and still struggling, comparison is the thief of joy. Your life is your life
I hated my life at 19 lol, I feel a lot better now at 27
I’m 19 too, got rejected for this test I have to pass to progress further in my college major, but we gonna get thru this together 🤍
They will 🤍
Thank you for this! I think this is my favorite “makeup” video so far! I do my makeup to heal! After breast cancer left me unable to do much. Learning makeup at 51 yrs old has been my physical therapy and mental therapy!
I know when you say scars, it can be referring to a couple of different things- from emotional trauma to literal scars on your body. As someone who has struggled with self harm for over a decade, I’m dying for more people to talk and open up about their experiences (IF THIS IS THE CASE.) I have felt beyond alone and isolated because I never see influencers representing people like me ❤️
Yeah I used to as well my scars will never heal and they are everywhere. Now I try to think of them as an important part of my story. I had to go through that to get where I am now and now life is good. We are poor but I have my kids and we are happy.
This your sign to accept Jesus in your life. You see i used to go through tough times that were unbearingly painful and i couldnt get myself out of it and find peace, one day i was in a midst of a storm and out of nowhere i felt god calling me, and so i prayed for hours, cried my heart out, complained, and asked for help and peace and right after that i felt a weight lifted off my chest. I pray that when u decide to trust him, same thing happens to u, theres no doubt that once u have faith in jesus he will cast out all demons from your body and give u new life, new purpose, so trust him with your life lean unto him for hes your savior, who died for u out of his unconditional love and grace for you. I love you, God loves you, please give him a chance, hes calling you to him.
@@emankhan3965 If it helped you to believe in Jesus, that’s great. But not everyone find‘s inner peace and happiness in religion. So with respect for your believes, I wished you would not advice religion as a cure-for-all. In the worst case, that can backfire and cause more psychological harm than it might help. In the end, it religion is a very personal thing.
this!!!
I don’t think it’s what she meant tho. But as someone with the same struggles, it’s what I heard too
You are a precious soul! Keep inspiring the world.
26 years later, you are THEE most amazing brown girl influencer that has literally changed thousands of lives across continents!!! We love and appreciate yooou❤ Wishing you love, light and happiness for ALL the years to come!
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
*James 1*
❤❤❤ your comment is so sweet. I hope she sees it
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Exactly
You went through a lot. You deserve to be where you are now. Thank you
The last part where she mentioned moving so many time till she bought her own house 😢 this hit me hard
The feeling of finally not having to leave anymore is something I hope I can experience I'm so glad you're able to buy a house and have that for yourself ❤❤❤❤
I love the realness of this video. You are so right. I look back and see how far I have come. Yes, we are strong women who can achieve anything and more than we can believe
You made me cry because I am in ur past situation right now, very traumatised, hopeless and depressed 😔I am 26, engineer, started beauty business, bought my first house too. I am struggling with mental health, I appreciate this video as it gives me hope.❤❤
You are very accomplished for your age! It's really inspiring actually. I would recommend starting therapy if you have the time and money. Things can be overwhelming even when you are "successful". Good luck on your journey and I hope you find peace, happiness, and YOUR version of success ❤❤❤❤
I'm so proud of you!!! this is a great message. even if some are not christian, this is perfect for easter! thank you monica so much and we appreaciate you. literal chills this whole short
edit- thx for the likessss
4 months ago I lost my father and got abandoned by who I thought was the love of my life while my mother got diagnosed with cancer… I trust ALLAH 🤲🏻 May happiness find my way and my family ya RAB
I’m 27 and I’m still trying to get my degree and my dream job. I still live at home and I have never been in a relationship or had a job for longer than a month. I suffer for anxiety and was finally trying to get help for it but it got delayed because of something with my insurance. I’m taking a semester off and I might have to transfer to a different university. There are days where I wish that won’t ever wake up. My parents are immigrants and still support me but every day I feel like a waste of their sacrifices. When I was younger i thought I had a bright future but every time I come close to achieving something now my life decides to take a wrong turn.
Twenty yrs ago I felt similar to you , but one day I decided I wanted to live , I prayed to God to give me courage and strength, don't worry about the future, love one day at a time , see if you can get a pet help a lot with anxiety or maybe grow flowers. Smile even if you don't feel like it. You still have a bright future, I pray that you find strength and courage to move forward of which you already have.i wish you healing.❤
Life is full of ups and downs
Just keep pushing
Cause one day you are going to smile 😊
I'm turning 32 this week, and I'm just now about to start my career path .. I was out of it for these past three years bc of 7 deaths in my family. I understand. Your life is not determined by your current situation, keep pushing forward and surround yourself with positive people who believe in you as much as you should definitely believe in yourself!! I also am pushing through my anxiety and depression.. remember to water yourself, be kind to yourself, and be patient. I believe in you. 🤍
Make a way to go to the dr!! Just keep pushing every day with the insurance! Or try another Dr. you got this!! Keep praying and trust me hun you are young!! It’s okay to be at home at 27!!! You parents should be letting you stay there to have a roof over ur head!! I hope my son stays with me for as long as possible but I know he probably won’t! Ur parents will miss you when you go! You are wanted and loved.
I'm 27 too and pretty much the same as you. I hope life turns out greater than great for the both us !!
This is my favorite video of yours...it's real..honest..and kind
Congratulations 🎉 you’re so brave for going through this all!!! 🫶🏻
Her success is all due to being an influencer. Normal people don’t get that privilege
We’re proud of you 🩷 your story will help so many people
Trust the process just like you did with this makeup look. Bravo 👏🏽
That feeling of finally unpacking boxes after 8 years of moving and just leaving some of the packed. Did you have that ? I did, it was such a release and relief 💕
you don't know how much it helps to hear this. thank you.
I feel this. The first time I was raped was when I was 6. I started self-harming at 9. Developed heart problems at 13. Eating disorder started at 14. Abusive relationships at 16, 17, and 18. Married my best friend at 19. Infertility in early 20’s. Life-threatening pregnancy 1 and 2 by the time I was 27. Sexually assaulted by multiple people throughout my 20’s. Went to college and earned my graduate degree during which time I was struck by lightning, attacked by a sting ray, sexually assaulted on a family vacation, abandoned by my parents, “adopted” by new parents and abandoned again, found out I couldn’t have anymore children, and then became one of the targets of a planned mass shooting. At 36, I became a child therapist, started running races, learned to find intense joy in the little family I had created, and started conquering my mental demons. Continuing to trust the process and find little moments in life to love. Those who suffer the most are capable of experiencing shifts in an emotional pendulum in which they know extreme joy. Without suffering, there is no joy. I’m so happy for you and the future you have laid out for yourself! You got this, Girl!!
Your resilience, self worth /self confidence journey, trusting your gifts, course correcting, and gambling on one's self while taking a leap of faith is beyond admiral and you sharing this with us is itself a blessing. Some of us have been there and are not on the other side yet while others have given up but the greatest message is to keep going and know we're worthy of wonderful things 🙏🏽. Congratulations on everything M❤.
I'm so proud of you! Thank you for your transparency ❤🫶🏾🥰💫🙏🏾
I really needed to hear this "TRUST THE PROCESS" Monica 😭❤️.Thank you so much 🙏.
every time i see this video pop up in my recommendations, i watch it. it makes me cry every time, but you painted such a beautiful picture of hope. ❤
Its genuinely amazing how you've prospered despite going through such hard times. I might not know you very closely, Monica, but im genuinely proud. You're not only an amazing teacher, but also and inspiration ❤
I love her she’s went through so much and she worked her way from the bottom to the top! I’m so proud of u girl❤❤❤
I’m so happy you’re in a good place now. You deserve it❤❤❤
This is my favorite video of yours! I have it saved whenever I feel like things are not working out, I just watch this video and it gives me some sort of strength that things will fall in the right place eventually ❤️
Wow amazing story! I would love if you did more of these. Also i laughed at the end lol "like you trusted this make up look" . Thank you for sharing your life story with us.
This is such an inspiration , thank you for sharing your testimony with us. You’re beautiful inside out ❤🥹
Congratulations, lady!!!!! As someone that is going through similar situations... Your words are inspiration and hope!!! Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your story. Makes me realise I am not alone when life hits rock bottom. Normalizing talking about difficult and painful moments is so important
Girl im so fricking proud of you. You are an inspiration to so many. Let ur tears water the seeds of ur future. We're rooting for you❤❤❤❤❤
So glad you’re in a better place. You’re not alone, so many of us have the scars you have. Thank you for sharing. ❤
You are a SURVIVOR!! Respect to you.
Noticed you saying "gave myself scars" please don't blame yourself for what happened. You did what you thought was best in that situation. You didn't do this on purpose so please forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. Thank you for sharing your incredible story with us. God bless you sweetheart ✝️
I’m a mother of an adult child of 18 going on 30 ! I remember when I was younger and first married to my husband, my mother kept saying “ he’s toxic “ . My dad respected him because he was a firefighter, we parted for 8 months and eventually got back together. It’s a good thing, he’s literally my best friend. My daughter and I wouldn’t have it any other way, even if we have our spats once in a while . I just quit my job last year , I’m taking care of my elderly mother in law, my husband’s finally working after 15 years of being retired. I’ve been through a lot , anxiety attacks and depression. When I consider everything we’ve been through, God has really pulled us through.
Keep it up , stay positive and be happy. Congratulations to you both 💫💫
Honestly I watched this a few times. Thank you. I spent all night sad that things aren’t great yet, but the story isn’t over. You’re amazing!
I went through something similar and girl you got me 😢 Congratulations Monica, stay strong 💪🏽 ❤
Girl, you didn't give yourself scars...those are reminders of things you've learned while on your journey.👏🏾👏🏼👏🏽 Keep going, and NEVER look back‼️‼️‼️🫂
God bless you! This is so inspiring! I had the biggest heartbreak ever a few months ago. 8 years & engaged together gone. I have to rebuild my whole life again. I went through some dark times and still sometimes comes up again. Hoping one day I can say I am married to the love of my life and own a house one day. Thank you for sharing your story!
Glad you’re here girl. ❤ you’re tough, smart and most of all kind.
thank you for sharing your journey, it really helps to see that whatever hardships you’re faced with in the movement arent forever lasting
Aw so proud of you 👏🏾 you deserve all the happiness and joy!! you’ve earned it 💖💖
You are very strong and wise. Thank you for this, I needed to hear it. Congratulations on your home and all of your success & happiness 💜
Sometimes the strongest ones are put through the toughest situations
thank you for sharing your story Monica, you are an angel and we love you! as a content creator this is such an important message to share, you are truly inspiring. so happy for you and how far you've come
im so happy for u girl inspiration x
My heart goes to you ❤ for being vulnerable to state this. I guess I need to work hard to better my life . Thank you for posting this
YOU GOT YOUR HOUSE! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOY
This is so beautiful!!! An amazing testimony and witness to the resilience of the human spirit!!! Wishing this gorgeous woman much happiness on her awesome journey ❤ ❤❤
Congratulations! I am really proud and happy for you. I am so glad that you came this far! :)🙏🏾👑✨💕
❤ DON'T GIVE UP keep sharing this with EVERYONE! YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION!!! 👏👏🙏🙏
Proud of you, you now and also you then. Thankyou for being a voice, not only for the brown girlies. But for all of us, the ones who need a loud, 0 filter influencer. A real one. ❤️❤️
Congratulations on everything. And thabk you for the advice. Sometimes when you're in the middle of "it", difficulty...its hard to trust the process. You give people hope.
Hello Monica, thank you for being such an inspiration and thank you for sharing your story ❤ I pray that one day I’ll be able to confidently say “… after so many years, I finally bought my first house!”
This is beautiful! We all go through so many phases but we just need to keep moving forward and with good counsel and persistence and God things will make a turn for the better…thank for your transparency it is refreshing ❤❤❤
You Go Girl 😭💐
i love how nobody is talking about the last line
Congrats on every win along your way ❤ everyone deserves happiness 😊
Thank you for saying this cuz things have been so hard for me for the past year and a half😭 this was very inspiring❤️
Congratulations for you house, Monica. Thank you for posting, I've been struggling and this was really inspiring. I wish you the best !
Girl I'm bout to cry for you CONGRATULATIONS AHHHHH YOU GOT THE HOUSE 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿💖
Thank you for not giving up and being an inspiration to keep going🌹💚
I was about to cry then you said the last line😂😂😂
Incredible message delivered perfectly!
“Trust the process”
28: just got dumped out of the blue by the guy I thought was my life partner 😮💨 I have to move out as soon as possible. I’m trying to find a place with my brother so we don’t have to live with our emotionally abusive mom again, but he’s pretty toxic himself. We might not be able to avoid moving back home though because every apartment listing we look into comes back already leased out. I hope the process starts working it’s magic soon 😰
I pray you find a safe place 🙏🏾❤️
Trust GOD and it will.
“And gave myself scars that will be with me forever” man that hit me hard most relatable lines ever 😩😭😞
Im 26 have the love of my life but still in a shitty job in LA and living with my parents 😅 you’re blessed
When any woman of my age, of any country, takes her flight, without anything or anyone, but courage and vision, i swear, that makes me so content, so full of positivity for all the women who are just being born or becoming one.
Thanks, Monica, love for you, from your homeland.
You deserve it deeply❤
This is a good story for us na di kami dapat sumuko sa laban sa buhay good story of life ❤❤❤
Stuff like this used to inspire me, but lately I feel as though I won’t be so lucky
Sending positive energy your way 🙌
Thank you girl I needed to hear this, you’ve come so far
I don't like these videos especially from content creators, I think it gives people false hope. I always thought one day it will all fall into place and everything will be fine, and I ended up just being more ill and more depressed. I think people should speak openly about how it's ok not to be ok and how life can be hard and we can struggle
did you think she didnt struggle for all of those years? what a close minded way to view life.
@@mitskimaxxing are you ok? I never once questioned whether she struggled. I just find it hard to relate to these content creators that are popular due to mainly luck and most of them preach about manifesting a better future and everything will come to you. In reality we need to teach people who are really depressed and really struggling, that can't seem to get out of the rut and see no end in site, that it is ok to not be ok. Sometimes life happens and we just need to support each other and love each other. It's ok not to have a partner, a big house, lots of money, the nicest car etc. We should learn to love ourselves and find peace
I agree but also a disagree with some parts. While it’s okay to tell people that not everything will fall into place, because for some it doesn’t, there are some people that need to hear this message. People who are currently scared to try something new or getting out of a pit of depression because they just believe everything will stay the same. Both messages should be preached, as some people need to hear different things.
@@mono_tone6511 I understand where you are coming from, but from someone who has suffered with dark thoughts and depression, I was always told everything will be ok, and if you are told it enough times you start to believe it, but when things don't improve and reality hits, it can be emotionally overwhelming. I don't want to go into detail about my life, but I always thought things would get better because that's what I was told and made to believe, when really I wish someone had sat me down and explained to me it's ok if you don't meet these expectations, it's ok not to be ok. I think we need to focus on loving ourselves and finding peace, and then spread that love and peace ❤️
💯 true
You’re seriously such an inspiration. I don’t even wear makeup, I just watch your videos bc I love your energy :)
I didn’t cry😬
Don't give me that bs I'm glad your happy but don't say shit like TrUsT tHe PrOcEsS when being an influencer is a very lucky and pretty privileged based thing in a very saturated job market, it's harder for normal people to "TrUsT tHe PrOcEsS" because we don't have tiktok money to fall back on, we have to stay in that toxic relationship and we have to endure that job that we despise.
I'm sorry this is all very tone deaf.
@@mono_tone6511what process??😂😂 she just got lucky thats all
no you are absolutely correct because she most likely had a nice salary from SWE and probably lived on it and invested it into social media content creation. a lot of influencers either are born rich or had a crazy salary prior to their current tiktok career
Exactly, “trust the process” is not in my favour nor for those around me, I live in a homeless shelter and the people around are trying to start over but in reality they just letting go of life, having no home or a job is hard but seeing people on social media telling people to “trust the process” I just don’t believe it, there are people who are lucky and those who are not lucky
I am so happy that you found your perfect relationship and found yourself ❤ Always put yourself first! Congratulations.
wash your face, way too much makeup. Be your natural self
I’m going through everything you said 🥹 and I also studied software engineering and i hate so much 💔 I’m 26 years old now , I wish things will work out
You honestly are such an inspiration to many people including me!!
Girl we are so proud of you, ❤❤❤❤ you brought me to tears, it can be hard getting out a toxic relationships I’ve been there and met the girl of my dreams now. Life does get better and is a process love your videos and we love you❤
Thank you. I'm stuck doing a major I didn't want to choose and I've been feeling pessimistic about my life these days... So this was really inspiring, thank you so much
As an Indian woman, there's a lot of respect for content creators like you who make a change in society. By acknowledging brown girl friendly products that aid in boosting confidence is a remarkable job which is why At 26, you bought your own house!
I never wrote on your channel but always went through liking every single video. Just in case you happen to come to India. Do tell us, you seem like a great woman to be friends with 😊
I love that you're in a beautiful place in your life. Wishing more wonderful years to come.
Thank you for this girl. It give relief but wow. The way yoi did your makeup!
Period we’re so proud of you truly inspirational 👏🏿❤
I'm so sorry but it's so inspiring how u powered through all that and now it seems like ur living ur best life! Good luck!
Keep going, congratulations for your goals 🎉🎉🎉U are fighter!!!
You worded this so beautifully. And I think this definitely left a huge impact because it resonated so much with so many of us who are struggling as well right now. Thank you so much for the motivation ❤️ and I just wanna say I’m so happy for you. Congratulations!
As weird as it seems the connection you did to prove your point was beautiful! ❤❤❤
You are so brave for leaving your toxic relationship and going to a new place. We are so happy for you!! I am glad you are with people who love you and support you. You have your own house!!! That is amazing!!! I just love your content, and you, I am not a brown skin girl, but I love all of your videos!!! See that your videos are bringing a lot of different people who love what you do, be proud of who you are!!! 💖💖💖