What do Japanese guys Think of Western girls ?
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What western women think about Japanese guys. Me personally, Italian, I married a Japanese man. I am quite strong headed but he is strong too, so I like he takes charge, and we are very happy together. I find Japanese men very attractive, stylish and somehow patient and cute. Don't beat yourself up, girls and boys are the same around the world, when there is love and mutual respect nothing else matters. âșïž
@@femme_fatalist I am sorry to hear it didn't work out. But you are absolutely right. I am not sure if I would be able to be with anybody else . And as a woman I wish you to find "that" person , which will stand by you and support you, always đ§Ą
You and your husband are cute.
@@Orbt_ â€ïž
Yes very attractive!
Mood my man is from Japan too â€ïž and our relationship is based so much on respect â€ïž I'm learning the language too so it make the communication easier â€ïž
"Western men are manly in that they are polite and chivalrous gentlemen"
Me: living and born in Europe and still waiting that this happens in real life
That's just out of date view point, chivalry is dead. :)
TBH most people I meet are very polite. I only really remember someone if they're rude to me.
@@genma986 More like self-preservation as the #Metoo movement made male-female interactions more awkward, which is why security cameras need to be installed everywhere.
@@franciscoaguiar2120 Not really lol, the woman just have a different taste in men now đ in the US for example the woman donât like Hispanic, Asian or even some whites. You gotta be a specific person for them to want you oh and also the money. Donât take it personal and look elsewhere but donât be desperate man
@@mikloridden8276 Lol, where did I looked desperate? Was just stating redpill facts. Read some redpill books, maybe you'll understand
I'm curious about how Japanese women feel about Western women, from a non-romantic standpoint. And vice versa.
Great video as always!
lol gay ppl exist
@@klemute if he can manage to find enough people to interview on that topic that would be cool too. Platonic relationships exist too though
@@klemute Not for long
@@klemute women exist too
Yess, I wanted to know the opinion of Japanese women about friendship with Western women
I think the first two guys were on point.
My boyfriend is japanese and so shy, he couldn't even look at my face the first times we dated. I'm pretty assertive myself and bold at times (and French XD), I was so scared of scaring him away but he actually loves it. đ€·đŸââïž
In his case, being shy and kind actually makes him really manly to me because he shows his feelings with his actions instead of just talking.
I find that really bold and appealing, ironically. And it does make one feel safe and protected.
Aww you're so lucky đ
Very nice đ
@@Dailyfandom Ngl it was difficult in the beginning but now I find his shyness kinda quirky so I don't really mind. He's a really great guy đ
This sounds a little similar to me to the way I find that seem more human rather than manly ironically more manly? The more you seem like just some neutral human being with human thoughts and human emotions the more I'm like woah look at that male~ I mean honestly guys you already have a male body and male face. Just be human, however you feel like it. You'll naturally have some manly traits because of that, because that's just the chemical makeup of your brain you know. But just be yourself, let those things naturally emerge. Actively try to be a good human being, the manly stuff will come on their own. And read my comment but swap the genders and just tell me my comment isn't true for many guys... I know many guys feel the exact same way about women as I feel about men, and I'm by far not the only woman who feels this way.
Avoiding eye contact is the norm in Japan, he wasnât that shy just not used to eye contact LOL
"You can experience things you normally don't get to by learning about other countries' cultures."
"I could learn some of my partner's language."
Those were excellent answers, at least for me. Nice video and very informative. đȘ
@@shizukagozen777 it depends on what the person wants.
@@shizukagozen777 i mean if they date foreigners because it's an opportunity for them to learn new cultures and language as well, then I don't see that as a bad answer, as long as they're happy with that decision. Anyways, I respect your opinion.
@@shizukagozen777 i interpreted it as a more fall in love first, and learn about the other person's culture as a bonus (it's always cool to learn more about other cultures) rather than date this person solely to get an in to a culture. and yeesh, you dont have to generalize japanese people like that
@@shizukagozen777 I never knew that thinking an entire freaking race worth of people didn't behave the same way counted as "idealizing"... Dude, I'm not an expert at Japanese culture but I'm pretty sure that, on the other side of the spectrum, a Japanese person would avoid dating a westerner no matter what cuz they're (the jp person) racist. Stop generalizing please. And who are you to assume how Japanese people think? Were you born and raised in japan? Even if you were, it's easy to get skewed opinions of your surroundings based on personal experiences so really you don't have any credibility no matter what you say for as long as you're trying to convince someone that all Japanese people are incapable of loving foreigners for their personality rather than physical traits.
@@Yuuki-jp4ob I agree with you I honestly don't know what he was on about
As an American, I can only say that from everyone Iâve ever met theyâve had good views of Japanese people. We admire how smart you are. We admire the way you take care of your country in terms of cleanliness too. We donât look down upon you. Again, this is only from my experience but I have never heard anyone talk badly about you đ
*America as in only the US
@@animacionesamericanas272 Obviously
@@animacionesamericanas272 How else do you describe a person from the US as efficiently as people from other countries? The commenter didn't say, "In America...." They said, "As an American...." Citizens of the People's Republic of China are called Chinese, and citizens of the United States of America are called American in English. It really isn't that different.
@@persephonehades7547 you missed the point, it isn't about efficiency or what's easier, its about whats wrong and absurd, how most latin american countries have an American (or americano) identity already and historically, with all the rigth since no matter how the US is called, theyre allways referencing the American continent. Just because a country put 0 creativity in their name doesn't mean the other dozen countries should accept a country that put its name after a continent just like that
@@animacionesamericanas272 @animaciones americanas so you all don't identify with your countries of origin first and just identify with "latin American" or "American?" Fine, but the world as a whole will not recognize that. We identify people by their country of origin to the best of our ability, and Americans from the US can't help it they established their country and took the name "American" for their citizens officially before any other country was found on either continent. We can't go by Unitedstatison because that as a word came out in English long after the country's conception, and it is still not the world-recognized citizen identifier of the US. And it won't be, because it's a mouthful and unnecessary.
It's also worth noting that, to my knowledge, every language besides Spanish and Portuguese also refers to Americans as some derivative of American and not Unitedstatison. On the world stage, *you* are the ones in the wrong for chastising Americans for using their nation identifies as recognized by literally *everyone else.*
The first two guys were the sweetest! đ I loved that they said they were even willing to learn their partners language. That takes alot of commitment on both ends! Great video!! đ
I think this shows how loyal men can be, if only western women had an ounce of the same qualities, but alas they don't this is why our country is failing in marriage and child bearing, majority of western women hold LITTLE TO NO WIFE qualities.
@@15751Chris Loyal men are abused by insecure woman and vice versa. Insecure men abuse woman. Its very difficult to find loyal people these days, seems like everyone is trying to get one up from the partner they already have and can never be content or they always think they are such a catch and deserve more than what they are worth lol
@@Killswitch1411 Yeah everyone thinks they're entitled to more than they're worth that's the main problem. I think that's the case for women at least, always looking for a better man, a lot of men don't even really care how good looking the girl is. That said, I think men have more commitment issues.
They probably said that under pressure xD
Yea you love the vulnerable ones. Says a lot about you.
I really appreciate how you interview people. You are calm and understanding and you help with wording. It can be nerve wracking to be put on the spot with an interview but you definitely exude a calm and safe feeling
I study in Europe and we have loads of Japanese exchange students, usually people are saddened when the Japanese students only stick to their own. No one will approach and force you to socialize, bu i can tell you, we're all waiting to get to know you too, everyone is interested in everyone's world and culture. In the west its common for you to introduce yourself to the conversation. So i recommend trying that and dont worry about your English, the most broken English is still decipherable! (Especially with internationals around)
I get the feeling that Japanese people think that every westerners speaks perfect English when that couldn't be further from the truth. French people butcher English like there is no tomorrow, the Italian accent became a stereotype and a joke, same goes for the German one, ... and that's for the people that talk it but have an accent because there are a lot of people who don't talk English or don't talk it very well. In that regard, we're all in the same basket here.
Exactly! I think itâs the same for most foreigners studying in a different country; it feels much safer and easier to stick with people who share your language and culture out of fear of rejection or not being understood. But anyone feeling like this should try to branch out and engage more, I think youâll be pleasantly surprised at how welcoming and friendly people can be, even if you canât communicate perfectly!
That shit wouldnât fly in America. Weâre aggressively friendly. Like will approach you to talk or invite you out places. Donât speak the same language? No problem, we got phones and wild hand gestures.
@@magnarcreed3801 đđ this comment reminds me of my Japanese exchange students, they started off very quiet and shy but by the end of their stay they had already made friends and shared their email addresses so they could still keep in touch when they got home. I wish all foreign exchange was like this â€ïž
â@@paocut9018 This is so true and a really great perspective. Even though I'm a native English speaker I have never been upset or bothered by someone's accent or mistakes. I have a french friend who always apologizes for his "bad english" but I'm really just grateful he learned it at all and we can communicate. Sometimes I don't understand his pronunciation or the grammar is wrong, but like 99% of the time we figure it out and he can use pictures or a translator. Learning a new language is really hard and I only have respect for those who do try.
As a western woman, I find Japanese menâs shyness to be rather endearing. They seem to have more of an introspective view point and self awareness that is very intriguing. They want to embrace our differences rather than change who we are. We can be overwhelming for sure but I think dating western men has taught us that we have to almost over explain ourselves and teach men how to love us.
Me too especially because Iâm really introverted, donât say whatâs on my mind , and super shy, so I get where they are coming from cause Iâm the same way.
âWhat do Japanese girls think of Western guysâ coming soon !
Btw Iâm gonna go to Okinawa this week
Super excited
Hello will you do one with Black people too please reply TakashiđđŒ..
Ask them what they think of black guys and girls
@@ishmaelmiles2216 Bro I am from Asia and tbh,east Asian people in general dont prefer black people but dont worry,i hope you will find the right person if yoire a nice guyđ
@@michaelsailo2037 i see, I've heard otherwise but thanks man
@@ishmaelmiles2216 that's an easy answer im afraid, but it depends on the person ofc
I honestly think that when two people make a genuine connection, no amount of language or cultural barriers can keep them apart. Also, there are many different ways to be "manly" if that is a concern. I think most women want a loving, supportive, attentive, affectionate partner, although I cannot speak for everyone. Relationships are 100/100. There are times when you are more confident and can take the lead and vice versa. I think curiosity is a great relationship starter. Being curious means you're willing to learn and explore.
Have been married to my Japanese husband for 13 years last month. Yes, he is shy and very quiet.But I know I can count on him 100% and he would never let me down. When I got very sick,he took care of me, even though he had a big surgery himself just a little while ago.
I donât think anyone else would have done this for me.
I would have let you be the strong woman you are.. You got this lol.. I'm kidding.
@POLY STUDY alot of them do look very feminine.
@@Killswitch1411 oh we have aLpha mAle here.
@@sallyenki4440 you dont have to be a ALPHA to be just a man.. These boys walking around wanna look like their sister or dress and look better than their girl friends its quite odd. God forbid they ever had to fight a war.. you going to put these men in the front line?? Imagine all the men in Ukraine looked like the men in Japan.. They be doomed.
@POLY STUDY that's just toxic masculinity
Actually us western women, when in a relationship, we protect each other. The man protects us in certain ways and we protect the man back in other ways. It is true companionship this way. đ„° What one lacks the other fills. Find someone who makes you feel complete and compliments you, and whom you do the same for them. That phrase "You complete me" comes to mind
Itâs beautifully said : I think people can be shy or assertive when the situation impose it, even if each person has a âmainâ personalities which dominates, because even a shy person can become suddenly assertive and determined when itâs to protect the partner in a dangerous situation, for example. And the same the other way around : in private, men as much as women can become shy even though they normally tend to be strong and confident.
This is so true
I don't think you really get what "protecting" or the feeling of doing so means, which kinda illustrates why they think the way they do about western women
@@_Lumiere_ Could you elaborate a little?
â@@rigierish3807 It's a gender role thing, a masculinity vs femininity thing. It's not a nebulous concept of affection for each other. Sure, both partners care for each other and show each other affection. That's largely gender neutral. But being a man in a relationship with a woman means that you provide her with safety, both emotional and physical, but most directly the physical kind. You can go places together that would otherwise feel unsafe for the woman if she was alone and you can be steadfast in the face of emotional turmoil, allowing her to feel vulnerable with the feeling that she can rely on the man to stay grounded. A woman doesnt bring a sense of physical or even necessarily emotional safety to a man and men dont seek it. What men seek is softness and a nurturing kind of care and even more concretely, they seek women for whom it would be appropriate to play the role of protector. The feeling of being relied on in that way and seeing a woman put her trust in you and seek protection from you, even with small gestures like clinging to your arm as you walk through the city at night is very special. The nurturing kind of emotional care that you get from women is different from the kind you get from men, it's more about relaxing and feeling loved, but also needed. Seeing a woman show that nurturing care to children and even small animals elicits the same kind of affection and feeling of wanting to protect her. There is also some overlap between the genders when it comes to these concepts, but generally speaking, these are the differences.
Men like to feel like men and provide safety and women like to feel like women and be provided with safety. Generally speaking. The west has largely moved away from gender roles and people act like these feelings dont or shouldnt exist, but they arent exactly going to disappear. In east asia, even in countries were men and women are equal and both have careers, like in Japan, these traditions still exist and people arent afraid to expect them because the culture expects this of both men and women. Women there are no less vocal about wanting men who provide this. To them, this is normal and common sense.
There are shy women in the US as well and I have met very independent women in Japan too.
The last guy seems really sweet, when asked about the language barrier, he was willing to work on his English and to make that effort to communicate
I think thatâs really touching. If I see someone trying that hard to try and communicate with me even though we arenât fluent in each otherâs languages, I would 100% put in the same effort in learning their language
I'm from Brazil, and I really like your content. I'm learning Japanese now and it's helping me a lot to have your videos to watch. Thanks for that.
Coming from a Latino family of loud, strong, aggressive personalities, I was actually the opposite. Because of that, I wanted a boyfriend/spouse that was the opposite of what I was subjected to growing up. I met and married an Asian guy who is so low key, he makes me look like I'm aggressive. Lol I like that every time I show affection to him, he always reacts as if it is the first time he's ever been loved on and really enjoys it. It's a win-win, I like to shower him with affection, and he likes to receive it. đ„° Don't get me wrong, he likes to give affection too, but it's more "secretive" (at home only) kind of affection, he doesn't like anyone seeing him do it. Once he did surprise me and gave me a quick kiss in public though. I guess he wanted to try it once. đ I think Latina-Asian relationships are really well suited. â€ïžâđ„
As a westerner from the southern US, it was confusing to me when I visited Japan. I have to admit, because southerners tend to be outgoing, I wasnât sure I was âwantedâ in Japan. Like maybe they didnât like me. No one smiled or looked at me. Now that I am in my 30s, and have traveled more, it seems very silly I felt that way.
You should try to visited indonesia
I come from Greece, a place where it's not so likely to meet a person from Japan, however you would be surprised to know how popular Japanese culture is lately especially among young people. I personally think Japanese men are quite handsome and I don't mind at all if they're shy or want to be protective towards their women, to tell you the truth sometimes I'd find it really comforting if someone had such feelings for me, because being bold and independent always comes at a cost. Anyway the thing is that chemistry is the most important thing between two people and in many cases opposites are attracted and make beautiful combinations! Lots of love from the other side of the world đ †đ!
I agree with u it is chemistry that works best between couples. Iâm from America never get a chance to really hear anyone from Greece. Ty
Yes. Japanese CULTURE is popular in the west. But the vast majority of western women wouldnât even consider dating an Asian man due to stereotypes, beauty standards, etc. Not only that, Asians in Europe face heavy overt discrimination. Especially since COVID
@@stompstompstomp9394 well,if most of the western women wouldn't even consider dating Asian men, that's great news for the rest of us who find them gorgeous and want to date them! As for the discrimination issue, to me it's very clear that those who judge people according to their colour or race even in the century we live in,should have their psychological issues checked as soon as possible!!!
@@shizukagozen777 I agree with the first part but the main reason why most western women refuse to date Asian men is mainly due to stereotypes such as Asian men having small pps, being shorter than other races, smaller in stature, physically inferior, feminine, studious n nerdy, etc. Yes, things like kpop definitely did sort of change the image of Asian men, but for the most part a lot of western women have this negative image of them. And sometimes, kpop reinforces the stereotype of Asian men being feminine. Hell, even a lot of westernized Asian WOMEN refuse to date Asian men. Asian men are also statistically considered to be the LEAST desirable for most women, while white men are the most desirable. You can look it up for yourself. Although I appreciate your optimism, this is just the reality.
@@stompstompstomp9394 What are you talking about? K-pop singers and Japanese Drama actors are quite popular in Occidental countries and considered attractive by a lot of women.
7:36 aw i feel bad that he thinks like that about western people. Because trust me, there are many westerners who really love japanese people, culture, manners etc. I would like to visit there. Love your content! đ
Yes, but also a lot who hate past/modern Japan to this day due to World War II. Canât really blame them (victims?) but its just sad.
@@user-bf9dk4xb1j What western person does this? Only the people from commie twt and war veterans or POW's. But yeah,i can say that i've seen this happen many times before,lol.
@V most of that hate doesn't come from the west, most is centered in Korea, China and surrounding placed because they were brutalized many times and never got an apology. The west had 1 incident with them ever
@@dflaming1371 there wasnât just a single incident, Donât be so US centric.
Some older people here still dislike japan for what they did in the war. They were more brutal than the SS, atleast Japan has changed a lot since then.
Kind and genuine will always win the heart đ great and interesting video , loved hearing all the options and their thoughts! đđ
I hope I'm not being rude, but I often get the feeling that most Japanese people base their image of westerners mainly on americans (in my own experience at least) and it's very frustrating. I was surprised by the men in this video actually, but I still felt the need tomention this. I'm from Eastern Europe and I can say we're not all assertive and loud and highly sexual. Especially in my part of Europe, there are still traditional people and gentle women, but I feel like we're more and more influenced by the West as well, especially by the media. Also, I want Japanese people to be more confident, because I've yet to meet a person from my country at least that looks down on Japan and your culture, on the contrary. We think you're polite, hard working, disciplined and spiritual. Maybe a bit weird too haha. Thanks for the video, great as usual.
Bruh, Eastern Europe is not part of the West. It's literally in the name.
@@TomorrowWeLive For Asians it is wtf? eastern europe is still Europe, and by "western" they usually refer towhite people.
@@TomorrowWeLive Most of Europe is considered Western. There are a few countries in that group referred to as "Eastern Europe" although they're technically "Western," like Poland, Latvia, Lithuania, and Slovakia.
@@TomorrowWeLive The West is referred to be North America and Europe aka "first world countries" from the west.
I agree, I wonder where he got that perception from. I think they also think about Spain, Russia and France when mentioning Europe. Even my mom, she doesn't know Japanese culture at all but she was assured and more relaxed when I was living with a Japanese person as an exchange student.
Wow, I found it very interesting that the Japanese say the word "communication" in English, it made me wonder if there is not a Japanese word for it but I'm sure there is. I also laughed and found it adorable that to say "chivalrous" they say "lady first." Takashii I thought it was very insightful of you when that young man said he thinks Westerners look down on the Japanese, but you turned it around and suggested that perhaps it's that the Japanese look up to Westerners, I was impressed by that :) Thank you for your wonderful insightful videos!
The reason they used communication instead of the native Japanese word might be because English is trendy over there and they're probably just trying to fit in by using loan words :)
What I like the most in your videos is the conversation you have with the interviewee, you don't just ask the main question, you develop a conversation and in that way you can expose various points of view. I think people are shaped by the culture in which they grew up, but the personality, and certain moments of our life also counts. I'm Portuguese and I'm shy, but I learned to be more comfortable talking to others due to my profession. Most foreigners are independent but we also like to be taken care of. And I believe there are many strong and independent Japanese women, I think it would be a good topic to address on the channel. Another thing that would be good to address was whether the Japanese would marry foreigners, I think it's a different matter than dating. Something that caught my attention was also the fact that when you start dating you can't have male friends. I don't really agree with this because we don't relate to the opposite sex just to get a boyfriend, there are people we just want as friend, I think it's a matter of trust in the partner. There has to be time for ourselves, for friends and for dating. Sorry for the long message đ Thank you for the video Takashii.
An interesting series of conversations. Learning about other cultures is fascinating. Thank you.
This is verrry I interesting. I love how direct the questions are! People don't even hesitate to share too! Fascinating.
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The second guy was so sweet and answered honestly yet politely. Love this video!
I've noticed how practical and well thought out the responses are... I really like that
I like the first two boys he interviewed. They said they don't mind if their foreign partner can't speak good Japanese as long as they can communicate. They even said they'd want to study their partner's language and culture
What strikes me is the fact that every guy answered the question of the language barrier with, "oh, I would just learn their language." You ask that question in the US and most people are going to say that their partner must speak English. It find it very admirable that these Japanese people are willing to just up and devote countless hours learning another language for the sake of a relationship.
So I guess I am not from that "most" you are talking about. Personally I disgaree with what you just said.
@@Nope991 You said it yourself. I said "most" not "all".
@@frogpaste Yes but as I said I disagree with your statment. I don't think the most part is true in the first place.
@@Nope991 Well, I could be wrong. But in my 33 years of being an American, I can honestly say most people *I've* met would rather date someone who speaks English than learn another language in order to date someone.
@@frogpaste Oh ok if that is what you meant then I will agree with you. I thought that you meant if an American dates a foreigner he/she is likely not to speak that foreign language even though the American decided to become a partner with a foreign. I am sorry I understood you wrongly.
Great video, thank you for sharing it was really informative and interesting đ
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The thing I noticed in both the women and the men video is that, perhaps communication isn't as easy or clear in a purely Japanese/Eastern relationship (as opposed to a mixed/international one)? Pretty interesting. Communication and openness are pretty welcomed and paramount even to good healthy relationships in a lot of Western countries. Interesting to see both the men and women opinions! Lots of Japanese girls seemed to be open to dating abroad or foreigners, where as most Japanese men interviewed here seemed to want to stay closer to home with their relationships. Cool stuff!!
What a beautiful language and direct honest small chat. Love Japanese Culture.
You interview very well. I always your videos. Thanks to the participants for being so candid! Very Interesting.
Takashi san , thanks for your hard work in making such an interesting videos in English , it helps a lot of foreigners to understand Japanese people thoughts better! :) Arigatou Gozaimasu!
My opinion of Japanese men as a Western woman (who has never dated). Iâve never actually noticed a huge difference in the things they do, but they seem (to me) to be a bit more respectful than the Western men I know. For me, personally, I prefer shyer guys and am not attracted to, like, masculinity, or height. Iâve never considered Asian men in general to be short, theyâre the height Iâm interested in. I like personality more than looks or wtv-if theyâre cute, bonus points-and like being a protector, but Iâm fine with being protected. I also donât have any male friends (online, cuz thatâs where my friends are) mainly because I donât talk to a lot of guys and feel more than awkward than I already am when talking to girlâs. But yeah, thatâs my opinion as a Western girl with no dating experience! đ đ
The forth guy with the bowl cut and the black and white adidas jacket was the most attractive! I want to interview him! đ
Ahh, i love this chanel, there is always something interesting topic. â€ïž
5:28 Even in my western + western relationship, I'm the outspoken one, and prefer confrontation over quietly accepting any kind of injustice. In a me-before-you society, it's necessary to be assertive. Also as a minority, I have learned that I have to stand up for myself and for others who can't stand up for themselves. It's both self-preservation, and a kindness.
But in an eastern society where the group is valued over the individual, it may be less necessary to be assertive, so you might find the same women behaving differently. I am not assertive because it is a personality trait. I am assertive because if I am not, I am mistreated (or at greater risk of being mistreated).
Very well said.
Exactly. I used to be bullied for being shy and always trying to help people. It stopped when I became colder and more egoistic. (,:
Takashi next you should ASK japanese people what they think of Western music or what is there favourite music :)
You are a hardworking person. Good job đ đ
Really love your insights you give us.
Awesome that you asked about Western women in your video. Most women in the West are different from each other. Sure, many share similar likes and dislikes, but no one is the same. At the end of day, if a Japanese man wants to date a Western woman, just take your time with that person. But that's up to them. I can't claim to be an expert on dating, but all I say is take you time. Thanks Takashii-san for this video!
Yep. Iâm a dominant and assertive woman but I e met various other women way different from me.
Great questions Takashi! Interesting opinions and topic in general. đ I really liked your conversation with the second interviewee.
In general yes, I do think Japanese guys are bit shy, but very polite and kind as you all mention. Also I think it is true, that regardless of the nationality nowadays we women in general are more open, ambitious and assertive and partner with similar qualities, goals, ambitions would be a great match. But then again it is entirely individual thing. The communication really is the key and stepping out of your comfort zone from time to time can do wonders. âșïž Keep the good work!
I loved this video so much! It does give me hope that at least the men are looking at in my perspective, American women and a more positive light rather than overlooking them. I think that there is a lot of misconceptions with the way that they think American women perceive them. I think as an American woman that Japanese men are perceived to want to stay true to their culture but the fact that theyâre willing to venture out and try to date a western foreigner as an American is awesome and really cool that they would give the opportunity to get to know someone whoâs out of there Norm and comfort zone and that the language barrier isnât that big of an issue. Thank you so much for making this video!â€đ
by the way i like how both you and the people you find try to be as honest as possibile, i like that
ăăźăăăȘăć„œăă§ăă!! it was very interesting and i'll continue to study japanese so it will be easier if i ever fall in love with a japanese person :D
Interesting conversation as always. Thank you, Takashi! Also, as a lifelong Packers fan, I was excited to see the man wearing the Packers jacket in the first interview. đđ
Bro nobody cares about handegg here. They just wear it cuz it looks cool
Your interviewing skills are off the charts bro! Great job, you phrased your questions really well including the follow-up tagging. Superb!
This was interesting. I hope you will also cover about Japanese and Southeast Asian relationships!
A LOTS of filipinas/filipinos (who are from the SEA) are married to the japanese in the 80s so yes, this will be an interesting topic
Love your content. It's def a cultural difference. Native American men & women are very similar to Japanese, when dating. I think that shyness can be mis-identified as coldness in the West. Many "western" women are forward and it shocks the man, since they are used to the shy quiet approach. Native people are looked at in this same way in America. Native women tend to like the quiet & shyness, since sometimes they are this way. Where western people label it as being cold or disinterested.
While I do understand the need to feel strong and manly next to your girl (and honestly I 'd take a nice, gentle, caring guy over the overly macho, aggressive dude) I feel like there might be quite a few Japanese women with strong personalities as well, who prefer to act differently in order not to intimidate men. Anyway, what is important is that you love and respect eachother and I think your personalities will (hopefully) "learn to fit better" over time, even if you might seem different in the beginning.
P. S. Props to the first guys for willing to learn their partner's language.
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P. P. S. Every time I hear about a foreign girl and a japanese guy I think of Rachel and Jun. She's bubblyish and he seems like a really chill person.
It's not about intimidation, it's about fulfilling gender roles in the relationship, which actually feels good. A feminine woman in need of protection is simply more attractive, that's all there is to it.
@@_Lumiere_ I 'll keep my opinion about gender roles to myself. Once you start liking /loving someone many things disappear from your mind and lose the importance you thought they had.
P. S. Having a man around, be it as a friend or a BF, does make a woman feel safer though. Most creeps give up when they see there's a boy with you, so yeah that part of the "gender roles" I agree with.
@@dis4497 They never leave your subconscious and that becomes more apparent over time. The west has a tendency to deny gender differences in how we feel attraction as well as how we are in relationships, choosing rather think that we are more or less the same. Japanese culture, while being quite modern and progressive in the sense that they have a dating culture and women have careers, still sees gender roles as common sense and both men and women seek their equivalent counterpart in this regard. These roles arent just social constructs, they are literally how people feel innately. That's why you can never change the fact that men will generally be more attracted to feminine women in need of protection and no amount of chalking it up to "intimidation" will make men become naturally more attracted to "tough and strong" women instead.
So I see you a lot in the comments repeating the same things.Iâd say itâs a waste of time on your behalf.a lot of the things you say are strictly societal implications and preceptions of gender that have been created by humans to oppress other humans.they are not biological in any way letâs just say it at that.if so then âmasculineâ women wouldnât exist.Japan is a patriarchal society they donât treat their women with an ounce of respect in fact theyâre considered 2nd class citizens so I wouldnât be surprise that Japanese men meet women who have been raised in a non gender conforming way and are able to be their own person and develop their own traits and call them intimidating I mean they say the same thing about Japanese women who are blood type A. men like women who are self sufficient and that is a traditionally a masculine trait yes men do like âmasculine womenâ even tho I donât think being a a self sufficient women makes you a completely masculine bei just like how being nurturing is a feminine trait both sexes need those traits to be functions productive healthy humans .the idea of feminine and masculine are broad terms thatâs can encompass alot of things then just how youâre thinking of them and how you apply it.
@@hagonistheman7880 i quite frankly donât care.if you lose breath and die thatâs your problem.
Takashii-san, you are a thoughtful interviewer. You make me miss living in Japan. Keep up all the good work!
You have very good English, keep up the good work, and I love hearing input from different cultures, no matter what it is, candy, thoughts, religion, it's truly wonderful to be able to know a person's perspective, they may be backed by personal perspective, or just the input, my Japanese isn't perfect, by any sense, but keep doing what you're doing, I deeply appreciate it
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Love from Canada! I think Japanese people are fascinating, noble, polite and creative people. My partner and I love watching Anime together with English subtitles. I would like to know if most Japanese practice Shinto or practice spirituality, what does that look like? I come from a Christianized upbringing, and have always been curious about Japan and their spiritual origins. Thank you for these great interviews!
I would also like to know if Japanese people believe in reincarnation?
@@cosmicoraclestarot yes they believe if you live a good life, you have a great second life
@@Joshuu333 amazing! I think thatâs a totally fair way to think of life!
i've learn from my japanese teacher that the shameless relative to sex activities like love hotel or other comes from the fact, that japan didn't grown up in christian value like chastity or others.
@@etistyle96 I grew up in a Christian home but I am not a Christian. I found that Christianâs have a very judgemental outlook towards others which really made me not want to be a ChristianâŠ.every religion has something within it that you might call shameless, at the end of the day, we are all human. And we all make choices.
pls make a video on do people in japan follow any superstations ... loved the video :))))
thanks for this video! I appreciated that. I find this video very important, because we learn culture of other countries. I'm really sorrow find that many people (in this case the Japanese men) said that "as a Japanese man I prefer date a Japanese woman".
Btw, thanks really for this opportunity
Since there are so many interested in relationships. Maybe you can make a Video about Japanese Dating Portals online. And how a western Girl can get into it.
I like the honesty of the interviewed men. And yes, it is true. Some Western Persons misunderstand respect and friendliness as weakness. That is a shame. But not everyone is like that.
I think the first two guys nailed it! They are young and smart :)
Keep up the good work, Señor Takashii đ
Interesting content! Congrats takashi-san
itâs interesting seeing how important âprotectingâ a girl is. as if to be always on guard, starting on the defense. Iâm gay so both me and my boyfriend are guys (obv lol) and if we ever needed protecting, weâd be there for each other, mutually.
ps i love your videos and theyâve been helping me learn Japanese so thanks for that! â€ïž
All of these guys you interviewed are charming. It was so sweet one guy wanted to be his partners protector. I also agree with the last guy preferring a potential girlfriend not hang out with male friends. I understand women have a right to have the friends they want and to be trusted. However when going out with male friends it might be better to have the bf along too.
This was very interesting, thank you!
To me as a Norwegian Japanese men come across as polite, patient and kind.
Thats gold â€
oh I love the final guy's answers though! He seemed very cool and open. Didn't really think, just answered. And gave some great answers. Doesn't matter where you're from, people are people, and if you get along and there's a spark, go for it :)
There is so much hope in the world with the current generation. I hope weâre all able to find common ground one day and realize that we are all humans who just want to live and be free. To experience all the good things that life has to offer us. History has taught us all to respect each other and to be kind, to value life above all else. I believe we still have such a far way to go. At least 2-3 more generations but I really envision a world where we can all live together equally in harmony. Humanity must prevail. Only we can dictate our future as a species.
I'm from the U.S. Once, I was in a popular tourist spot and I distinctly recall seeing two Japanese men walking together exploring. I knew they were Japanese because of their distinct fashion, and they were very tall and slender. I will never forget seeing them because they were so fair and dark, so impressive and beautiful with a distinct air about them. I felt so intimidated and like they were so elegant and cool that they would never want to talk to me. Lol I bet they would have found me rude if I just told them what I really thought. Now I'll never know. I imagine Japanese men to be so dignified and out of my reach even when they are right in front of me, like God's from heaven unto Earth just gracing the world with beauty. They make me spout poetry.
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I can understand how it could feel like we look down on you and I can only speak for myself but personally I love to meet new people and experience new things. I find different cultures so interesting
Very interesting! I am a woman from Canada and I smiled a lot during this video. Stereotypes really kill potential relationships :D I will have to remember why men are shy when I go to Japan! It is a trait that is very endearing to a lot of women. I mean it is something some women would acknowledge with respect.
I think some women want shy, nice guys to use and boss them âčïž
That's what a lot of japanese guys think
@@tromboner6061 nah shy and kind men are husband material fr
I'm an Australian girl of European parents but love how in Japan ppl are so polite. Unlike in many countries where they feel free just to grab you and hug and kiss, even when they just meet you. I prefer the politeness.
I get what you mean, as an Aussie guy with Indian parents, and having attended a Greek Orthodox school, both cultures are very hands-on
The positive side of that is that its rare to feel left out or unwanted
I really love to visit japan someday , i like your content please interview some filipinos there too âșïžâșïž
I feel like Iâm the opposite of these descriptions đ Iâm extremely shy and have a hard time speaking up. I worry about how I appear to others or saying something wrong and being embarrassed. đȘ
As someone from the UK every single Japanese guy I've spoken to has been really polite (something we really value over here), and shy like me haha. I really like that, though. It means we'd have a mutual relationship where we both make decisions, rather than one person taking charge. I feel like they're much more loyal, too, and there isn't this creepy culture over there of getting a girlfriend to show off. They want an actual relationship that will go somewhere, and I really respect that.
My first love was a Japanese guy. We met almost 8 years ago in China where both of us were studying on an exchange program.
You can't imagine what an experience it was. I spoke Chinese, and he was just learning it. Neither of us knew English at that time. I started learning Japanese and made great progress in just a couple of months of communication. So, we basically communicated via online dictionaries, broken Japanese and English and in Chinese.
It was love at first sight.
Eventually, we had to part ways because I had to return to Russia to finish my studies, but it was the best relationship and the most passionate man I've ever met.
Great interview Takashii!
I'm curious too being from New Zealand and a western single woman love japanese / Korean guys though never got to date any sadly ... And prob out of most age groups now as in my early 40s but great video
that's sad he thinks we look down on japanese people! this year we got a lot of exchanged students from japan so i was very excited to talk with them! and i indeed got to chat with the boy and the four girls, it's always cool and interesting
Interesting video Takashi. I would like know what Japanese people think about Latin American people. Greetings from Dominican Republic !
thank you for such an informative video!
Great interviews and questions @TAKASHii from Japan :)
It looks like you had a fun time with Yuka-chan from @with me JAPAN this afternoon!! :)
As a 40 year old American, I can say in all my experience that not once have I met anyone that spoke negatively of Japan. In fact, we highly respect the country. They're perceived as disciplined, calm, kind, generous, beautiful, highly intelligent, and creative (the birth of manga and anime is a gift to the world). The west respects the east, most definitely. Politicians may cause friction now and then but we don't apply their greed or brutality to their general populations, and we hope the greed and brutality of ours isn't applied to us as a whole either. For example, they're currently trying to make us hate and distrust Russia. We don't buy it, most of us know that Russians are awesome and we could care less what squabbles the leaders get into amongst themselves. We know it's about oil money and power.
If you see a westerner in Japan, then be certain that they love Japan and Japanese people. If you're too shy to start a conversation, at least make eye contact and smile (if you're wearing a mask nod your head too). It's a welcoming signal to westerners and they may come say hello to you. Much love to you all from America!
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@@333DOT. Yup. (: Are you?
Commend you to see beyond the media narratives of the Russia -Ukraine- US crisis.
@@intpleb4206 yes
yes, since Putin has invaded Ukraine the media is trying to make us all hate and disgust every russian, wanting us to see them the same as we see Putin.
I'm your #1 FAN Takashii since then
You really deserve your fans
I'm his #1 fan
You could make this into the new version of Pet Shop Boys track from the 80s
'Japan Men and Western Girls'
It is interesting to see the views of the young people. I would just like to say enjoy all experiences and all people and forget about what people thinking of you as westerners have similar insecurities as well. One life - enjoy it.
I was so impressed with how genuine, respectful, and considerate the two Japanese young men were when answering the questions. I'd love you to interview western women who have Japanese partners to ask them: Are Japanese men good boyfriends?
Hey why don't you make vlogs it's super fun !
Please make video japenese thoughts about dubai and their people đđâŁ
Thanks for the great video! Well thought out questions. I really appreciate it. It kind of confirms why I donât try to date (Japanese) guys here bc I think they mostly wouldnât be interested in me.
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Could you please ask people what they think of disabled foreigners who visit?
(This is the first video of yours that I've watched and I really like it!)
Love from Nepal đłđ” â€
I love your videos!!
Super interesting. I'm thinking more and more that the month I spend in Japan might be lonely.