How to Get Unstuck in Life | A Monk's Perspective
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2024
- Many times in life we can feel stuck. We can feel the sense of "being a failure", not being where you want to be, or feeling like you made the wrong choices in life. This is all normal and we will all go through this from time to time. If you are in this space, I wanted to provide you with 4 steps to help you turn your situation around. I hope you enjoy! #monks #buddhism #mentalhealth
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0:00 Introduction
1:23 See your situation accurately
2:46 Make a decision
3:39 Research
4:48 Take action
5:15 Car analogy
6:27 Eliminate doubt
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Thanks for watching.
How do you or did you get yourself unstuck?
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0:00 Introduction
1:23 See your situation accurately
2:46 Make a decision
3:39 Research
4:48 Take action
5:15 Car analogy
6:27 Eliminate doubt
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3 A's: Acknowledge, Accept, Act. Often we want to move from acknowledging a problem/issue directly to action but we first have to fully accept what happened, how we got here and the extend of the "dilemma" before we are ready to change our course and take the right action. It's easier to sway between denial and panic decisions until all you do is run away either mentally or physically. I find that I have to give myself time to fully digest where I truly am right now and also to take responsibility for previous (often rushed, irrational or poorly informed) decisions that got me to this point. I don't have to blame or shame myself but I also mustn't refuse to look at what happened. I find that some of my "poor" decisions were a result of feeling lost, helpless and then either doing the "easiest" thing or letting others (like my parents or boyfriend) make/influence my decisions. I should have taken more time, done more research, gotten more information and asked for the right kind of help from the right people BEFORE making my own choice and then fighting for it if necessary. Then I also have the experience now to be humble about my path and the possibility that I might have to change it or that it might not work out the way I want it to.
hey nick i studied buddism and i have a question if you do something bad will you have to keep being reborn and suffer till you reach nirvana
Thanks a million. Making the choice is the hardest step. I resigned from a toxic workplace 2.5 years ago. Sold my house at the absolute best time and am now retired. Never looked back. More time for gratitude and helping others rather than being angry and exhausted. Good tips. Once the choice is made doors open 🙏
That’s so wonderful to hear my friend :-)
I swear he posts videos that I need to hear every single time.
Thank you my friend. I’m glad it resonates and helpful to your situation 😊😊
Thank you Nick. I always remember “ I have the ability to begin again” I am so great full for my free will.
Wonderful! 😊😊😊
Thank you so much, Nick! Sometimes the hardest thing is to let go, but once we trust, life catches us and takes us to a better place :)
Absolutely! 😊😊
My workplace of almost 14 years have become toxic because of a new manager and I’ve made a decision to cut ties. Thank you for your calm wisdom, it helps me a lot. ❤
You are so welcome 😊
Toxic management is horrible. It’s like being at war every single day
We are all truly limitless! Don’t let your mind bind you! Love yourself and keep moving forward! ❤
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Thank you, Nick! This is so timely... I'm really struggling with my job and career choices, but I'm not in a position to make any changes right now. I'm trying to plan strategically and remain calm, but I notice that my mind tends to get very anxious and stubborn. Mindfulness practice is so important. Your words are healing.
I’m glad it’s helpful. Just take it one step at a time :-)
I too am anxious and stubborn when the chips are down (as they have been lately). This does not help at all! I do hope you find your way soon 💪🏼🙏🏼🧡 Nick, your soothing encouragement is timely. Thank you for your guiding light (and your wonderful humour 😊❤)
Beautifully said. I tend to overthink things when I'm stuck. Decided that I can't make any major changes right now and have chosen to write each day to eliminate doubts. Too early to tell if it's working but I'm enjoying getting things out of my head and on to paper. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
Wonderful my friend. That’s a good step 😊😊
Thank you for your calm, wise words, Nick. 🙏
You are most welcome my friend 😊😊 thank you
"Take out the drama"- Yes, sir. That's why family is in Maryland and I am in Tennessee. To much drama and it's been like that for years, all in all, for as long as I can remember.
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This message was valuable. I beat myself up for 'messing up' last month. I can live with that temporary failure in my life. I will stay the course with my new plans.
wonderful my friend. Yes just start again today :)
Thanks so much Nick. I've been beating myself up today with the F word.The reality is I have many blessings.
Yes, continue to be kind with yourself, my friend :-)
Your videos are always so insightful and calming. My biggest struggle is my health, which has gotten so bad over the past 2 decades; I'm disabled and exhausted every day because of it, and isolated. Thank you for the videos. The tips are very helpful
You’re welcome. I’m glad it’s helpful :-)
"See your situation accurately"- Yes.
I can only speak for myself. When I do this, I have to admit that life is great.
Why? My life is quiet, peaceful, orderly, and good. That's no exaggeration.
I do fulfilling work, earn a good wage, which permits me to save regularly and take care of my life, I'm in good health, and I have no family to care for.
Few worldly cares, few worldly possessions, and freedom.
This summarizes my life perfectly.
"Less is more, small is beautiful, simple is best."😊🙏
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"Make a choice." Professionally speaking, I did that years ago. I left at the threshold of completing my doctorate/ dissertation in educational administration. I left, never looked back, and have no regrets.
However, your point has stimulated thought regarding another matter. I see the direction in which I must go if my life is to more peaceful and I am going. Thank you 😊
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I was putting to much pressure on myself so thank you for reminding me to calm down and for your precious advice, they made a world of difference to my life.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You are so welcome! I’m glad it was helpful :-)
Thank you so much for sharing this message. Without noticing at times, I forget can be too harsh with myself about the past.
You are so welcome 😊
Thanks again! I always love how you break things down into simple steps.
Glad it was helpful! Thank you my friend 😊
Your channel helped me a lot during my darkest time，right now still like it，your words can always calm me down easily ❤❤❤❤
Thank you! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
"I'm heading in the wrong direction- this is not where I am trying to go"- Well put.
As my therapist put it, "when we realize this, we must get off at the exit." And I got off😊
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It is that simple and straightforward. Break things down in small steps ,write them down if you need to ,then one step at a time. Thx Ven Nick🙂
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This is just what I needed today as we consider if we should move from our home of two decades and go to a different state. I have been feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything involved and just listening to you has made me feel that I can do the research and make a calm, wise decision. You are a 'life GPS' for us, Nick!
Aww thank you. I’m glad it came at the right time. Be very kind to yourself and good luck on your move/research my friend 😊😊
The happiest days of my life were those with less responsibilities for others. It gave me the freedom to focus internally for the first time in decades. Even when given life’s curve balls, when it has been only me, it’s easier to deal with when I don’t have an overwhelming responsibilities for others.
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Hello Nick. I've been a subscriber for a few years & I like watching your videos because for a few minutes it brings a bit of calm to my personal chaos. I've been a type-1 diabetic for nearly 46 years & my health is now in rapid decline. Now on top of everything else, I have an infected broken tooth & do not have the money to have it removed. My Mom died Dec.16th,2018 & I've been alone since.
I feel like my end is near but there's so many things left undone.
Sending you my blessings my friend 😊
Blessings to you... life can be so challenging.. I have found ao many videos on meditation (simple) that have been helpful to me and my anxiety. Many on Yoga Nidra ( by Ally B ) that are helpful at night for sleep and relaxation. Peace be with you friend.
@@sheilabrennan4481 TYVM for your kind reply. But no one could guess or believe how bad my situation has become. I've just woken up & it's 9:36pm.
If & when I do "sleep", it's never restful & each time I do, I don't expect to wake up.
I keep fighting & it's GOD's decision when my end comes, I just wish I weren't all alone &
would receive some help.
@Vampirebear13 You're absolutely rightI don't know how bad your situation is. I do know that there are many, many people suffering due to isolation, Health and financial problems. Again I have turned to youtube in particular for help, As there are so many great videos to help guide me. Although i've been sober for 26 x years, I still go to 12 step meetings for community. Although not religious I also Go to church for community that I found there. I wish you absolutely the very best and hope You are able to find Some type of community to at least help with your discomfort and heartache. Blessings to you friend. 🙏
@Vampirebear13 You're absolutely rightI don't know how bad your situation is. I do know that there are many, many people suffering due to isolation, Health and financial problems. Again I have turned to youtube in particular for help, As there are so many great videos to help guide me. Although i've been sober for 26 x years, I still go to 12 step meetings for community. Although not religious I also Go to church for community that I found there. I wish you absolutely the very best and hope You are able to find Some type of community to at least help with your discomfort and heartache. Blessings to you friend. 🙏
I'm at seeing my situation and make a decision thank you for this it was much needed and it just showed up
I think that one of the greatest hindrance is the feeling of lack. When I view that my life is incomplete if I dont do this or have that, it makes me feel overwhelmed and take action out of duty instead of love.
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This is so helpful thank you 🙏🇨🇦
I found this video very helpful - thank you
Thank you Ven.Nick
Been beating myself up about a place that just doesn’t seem right for me.This as all your talks are,is so helpful.Really appreciate you🙏🧡
You are amazing thanking you for caring to teach simply how to work at self and learning to pivot 🙏
Nick, love the way you laugh at yourself. You are the friend we all need. You are mightily blessed. Thank you. From Meng C
😆😆 thank you so much my friend
Good morning Ven. Nick! 🙋♀️🧡
Today i decided to begin my day with your calming and helpful wisdom. I am happy to find you just posted it 3hrs ago. Thank you very much for your kind words and concern to those of us stuck in a difficult situation.
Take care and i will look forward to your next vlog.
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Good morning! I’m glad it was helpful my friend :-)
@@nickkeomahavong01 you are much appreciated ven.nick 🌿🧡
Thank you Venerable Nick for this powerful message! Blessings to you! ❤️
Thank you Robin 😊😊
Thank you! I really needed this ❤🙏
You’re welcome 😊
Thank you Nick 🙏🌻
You are so welcome 😊
A timely video. Thanks a bunch, Nick!
My pleasure! Thank you
Thanks Nick. Very Helpful:)
You’re welcome ☺️
very very helpful !!! thank you so much !!!
You're welcome! I’m glad it was helpful 😊
Thank you bro. Nick for this encouragement🙏
You’re welcome ☺️
I really needed to hear this Ven. Nick. Thank you for this video.
You're so welcome! Wonderful timing 😊
Thank you ! 👍👍👍
You’re welcome ☺️
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
You're most welcome 😊
thank you 🙏
You're welcome 😊
Well timed video, Thank you!
Glad it was helpful! 😊
Thanks Ven. Nick, love the thought process and the ability to hav a giggle at your efforts. 🙏
Haha 😆 thank you my friend
Thanks Nick 🙏🏻 it was a great video 🙏🏻💚🌿
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for the dhamma, Ven. Nick! Your compassion and wisdom are medicine and guidance. Sending you so much appreciation and praying for your well-being. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you again my friend 😊
Sending you my gratitude.
Thank you Catherine 😊
Thank you…🫶🏻
Love your messages…
Love your smile
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Thank you so much. :-)
Thank you so much for wisdom.
You are so welcome😊
Thank you Ven Nick for the discourse
You’re welcome ☺️ thank you
Thank you Nick for your words of encouragement. Warm regards.
My pleasure! Thank you so much. :-)
Thank you so much for your wisodm and love your amazing !
Aww thank you so much 😊
This vid was very helpful, Ven. Nick. Thank you😊
Glad it was helpful! 😊
Always so insipring Nick, thank you for the words in your videos!
My pleasure! Thank you so much. :-)
Nick, thank you so much for your outstanding offerings! I'm a new subscriber, and each video I view is as a message from the Divine. 🙏
Aww thank you so much and welcome to the channel 😊
Excellent advice! Thank you so much for the time you take to help us grow!
My pleasure! Thank you so much 😊
Thsnk you for sharing your wisdom with the people all over the world. 🙏🙏🙏
My pleasure! Thank you so much. :-)
Thank you Nick. Your videos are a great help. Keep sharing ❤
Thank you! Will do! 😊
Thank you Ven Nick, for me research helps, love and light to you 🌞
Wonderful! 😊
Many thanks 🙏🏼
You are welcome! 😊
Thank you, Nick. Thanks from my whole heart. You help me so much! God bless you!
You’re welcome ☺️
Great video, very helpful reminders on getting unstuck in life! Thank you!
You are so welcome! 😊
thank you for sharing your wisdom. I love your calmness and your laugh, it always makes me smile. and makes everything feel like its going to be okay:)
Aww thank you for your kind words my friend. Hope you are well 😊
lots of love and blessings
Thank you 😊
Brilliant thanks
Thank you so much 😊
This video is gold
Thank you so much my friend 😊
Thank you for all the helpful tip.. Ive really improved as a person ever since discovering your channel
Wonderful. I’m glad it’s helpful :-) keep up the great work.
"We can always make mistakes but never a fatal mistake"- Don Domenico Clericuzio, The Last Don.
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Wonderful. 🙏
Thank you!
Very helpful ❤🎉
I'm so glad! Thank you 😊
I am currently I this place right now. Thank you for a path.
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Thank you dear Nick!!🙏
Greetings from, Isla Margarita Venezuela!!🙂
Greetings to you my friend 😊
I am there, Nick! My landlord forced an eviction. I realize my reality you must move.. My heart said I have wanted to relocate. I took direction to let go of most things. I moved with a suitcase. I am here and settled in finding new direction.
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Lovely gentle kindness toward ourselves ❤
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I just wanted to tell you that your video came on my recommendations page and I kid you not YOU WERE SPEAKING TO ME...every single word you said was FOR me, cannot thank you enough for you help and wisdom❤
Awww I’m glad it was helpful my friend. Welcome to the channel and please keep us updated on your progress 😊
Thank you so much Nick! I hope that I’ll be able to follow your advice.
You’re welcome! Please keep us updated 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 Thanks a lot - now I definitely have to do something and can’t make excuses anymore! 😬
Gracias🙏
You’re welcome ☺️
Seeing things from 30,000 feet up will help differentiate ones problems. I often combine everything into one (wrong thought). Also what has happened is the past does not exist anymore. Just now (right thought).
Thankyou Roshi Nick.
You’re welcome ☺️
"Eliminate that and keep going."
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@tstan... Very helpful.Tq so much.Have a good day today Bhante
Thank you! You too!
I really need to hear those important words
I’m glad it’s helpful :-) thank you
So very inspiring. Blessings to you and your family.😊🙏💐
Thank you! You too!
😊 Thank you
Ty sir
You are so welcome :) thank you!
"a process for us to refine"
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"It was a painful lesson that had to be learned."
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Thank you Venerable Nick. I am going to attend a conference soon where I will meet new people. I appreciate your words. ♥
You’re welcome 😊
It’s really nice meeting you Venerable Nick. I’m so glad I found you on CZcams. I had an amazing dream in reference to how to light up our own lives and be our own refuge. In the dream from my head, throat, and heart I saw it as a house that was a body; my body and I was upstairs lighting the candles up in my head and the way down to my heart. ❤️🙏
@@joysbeautiebar wow that’s beautiful 😊
Hi Nick, do you offer meditation lessons? I'm looking for a teacher and l love your work!
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Thank you so much of this video come up just when I need it. We appreciate your wise word.
You are so welcome. Thank you 😊
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Thanks for the timely message
If my boundaries are constantly and purposely trespassed , what should i do ?
Please guide me 🙏
It might be helpful to start establishing boundaries.
@@nickkeomahavong01that's what I'm asking . After establishing my boundaries , after making very clear of what I need , still if I'm not taken serious what to do ?
I'm sorry to trouble you . I really need some guidance .
i am too powerless, to start taking any action 😞
Be kind to yourself, my friend :-)
Thank you Nick my concentration isn’t good at the moment my thoughts keep drifting away from one thing to another and not hear what’s being said in front of me how can I solve this issue from happening please thank you so much for your video
You’re already doing it my friend. Just keep noticing and becoming aware of it. This is the first step :-)
@@nickkeomahavong01 thank you Nick for your reply
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I’m curious, Ven. Nick (and you may very well have answered this question already, so I apologize for missing the answer), but how much of a role did being a relationship therapist and seeing how much contempt can exist between two people who, at least at one point in time, loved each other, have on your decision to become ordained, if it had any influence at all. And if not consciously, do you believe it had any subconscious affect?
That’s a great question. Personally not too much. I think it was just more of a bigger calling from inside 😊
It my fortune this chanel appear to my youtube. I have question which i can get the answer and solution, we tent to belive our inner voice or thought ( could be happy,fearfull or other thoughts) when we have fearfull thought i tend to belive it to happend to me and if it is good i tend to unbelieve it to happend to me. my question is should we do with this thoughts?and how to take action agains this thoughts. Thank you for the enlighment
First, we need to see clearly and accurately. This is where Meditation can be so helpful in the beginning, we cannot fully trust our thoughts. It can be quite tricky.
I have gone through a lot of things in my life, i've managed to go forward and fight it all. But now i feel like i'm very full of pain inside me, my heart my soul. How can i release out the pain ? I wished i could find someone to teach me how ...
I am in the same place.