How Do I Ask For Help If I’m Thinking About Suicide? (feat. Shani Tran) | Facing Suicide | PBS
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Licensed therapist Shani Tran brings together three young people to share their lived experience with suicide and how to ask for help.
If you are thinking about suicide, or if you or someone you know is in emotional crisis, in the U.S. call or text 988 - or chat 988.lifeline.org - for confidential, free crisis support. You can find a list of international crisis lines here: www.iasp.info/crisis-centres-...
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Facing Suicide: Let’s Talk, produced by Twin Cities PBS, creates a space of understanding, hope, and action for young people whose lives have been impacted by suicide, including those who have experienced a suicidal crisis and the loved ones, peers, and community who support them. In each episode host/therapist Shani Tran brings a question to the group that has either dealt with suicidal ideation or an attempt, to get their insights and advice on how to navigate the complexities of a topic that can feel overwhelming. How hope and healing have brought them to a place of stability where they can manage their mental health and use their stories to connect with others and continue to spread that hope.
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Chapters:
1:01 - How have you reached out for help
2:24 - Shani shares her experiences with thoughts of suicide post college
4:00 - How do you know when to reach out for help
5:50 - Shani shares her struggles with postpartum
7:08 - Why you shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help
8:40 - Shani shares what continued healing looks like
9:25 - Where to start when you’re struggling
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I feel like the kind of help I'm searching for doesn't exist in this world. That's why I feel so sad and lonely and wanting just to leave this world. I don't feel like I fit in this world, like there's no place for me in this world.
I'm the same 🙂 There is a fundamental incongruity between me and this world😊
So stay there bud a world and heaven beyond this
Me too.
Same this is the feeling
Take mushrooms ketamine listen hardtechno by fernanda martins czech republic and it helps
“I’m so low I’m so down I don’t want to be here and I don’t want to bother someone else” that rings for me
+3000
😢
Hope youre getting the support and help you need and deserve. ❤
Same. I just wana go away tho
Same
I just want the pain to stop! I want to stop feeling like im drowning all the time 😢
I hear you!
Im here for my dog. He is so sweet and innocent that I couldn't bear leaving him alone
Hello, fellow traveler.
Your dog child is a great reason to stay around. You, yourself, are also a great reason to stay.
Say hi if you need or want to.
@@MISNM0 I got injured in the morning. In the evening my friends dog licked me. It was cool.
@@scottphillips7795
We don't deserve dogs. 🐶
I can understand that.
@@MISNM0 Stop
I feel like no one takes me serious or understands just how much pain I'm in until I actually do it... Like it feels like ppl think I talk about suicide just for attention... My sister knows, but no one else gets it.
I get it
@@spiral_warrior_850 thank you for this. I hope you're doing ok.
I hear this too...we are sending out an SOS and it's just bouncing off of the people that could help ☹️
Yayy thats truth🙂💔
I can’t wait to leave this world 🎉 I think it’s gonna be the best day of my life 👍🏾
"You are loved"
Could someone tell that to my brain please? No matter how many times I hear it, it's as if my brain still isn't convinced.
Why do you seek to be loved? It doesn't really matter, what matters is your feeling and your satisfaction with yourself, and the most important thing is God's satisfaction about you.
@@hid4768 I am a Christian and believe in God's love, but I am also a human being, and I am biologically wired to want to be loved by other humans, and I am not a bad person for wanting that.
What accept satisfaction from something imaginary must be coping with something
@@samkuzma7830coming to a video about suicide and telling people they’re coping because they believe in a higher power? You sound great.
You are loved
I thought it was weird nobody mentioned this so I will. Sometimes you don't want help. It's a messed up mind set to have but I know from experience that it happens. I remember waiting so long to talk about it with anyone (other than joking about it; suicidal people are pretty hilarious) because I didn't want to get better. I didn't want a stranger to make me like living, because I legitimately thought I'd be better off dead. It is still a battle and a lot of the time the only reason I bother fighting it is that I don't want to make a fuss for the people around me. Never underestimate the human ability to be masochistic.
I understand what you mean. Also, sometimes a person may not want to get better because they have felt so bad for so long, it's all they know. Change, even if it's for the better, is scary.
@@StarchildMagic I came back to this cause you commented and just made myself sad :(
Excellent point!
Agree.... some are just completely tired of the "fight" to keep going, and it is indeed a fight.
Sometimes you also don’t want ‘help’ because that so-called ‘help’ involves being put on horrible medications that cause completely awful side effects like PSSD and Akathisia, two conditions that can potentially be permanent and are conditions that often drive people to suicide. Psychiatric medications are horrible.
I am no longer asking for help because I dont feel like there's anything anyone can do to help me, and they dont care anyway. My doctor sent me to the ER for a heart issue a few weeks ago & I was treated horribly there. The ER nurses couldn't have cared less if I lived or died...so I am certainly not going to ask them for mental health help. I was hoping I would just have a heart attack & get it over with & die. I've seen counselors since I was 19 years old & been on meds since my 20's & it never gets better.
Meds bring the horrible feelings on stronger for me so no more. I keep searching for a way that no one gas to deal with remains
@user-do1mt8xe4b I understand that feeling too and am so sorry. Life is short enough as it is...I dont think we really want to die, but just can't live with the way things are anymore. And some things just can't be changed, no matter how hard you try ☹️
You're 100% right.. and the sad part is ... NOONE CARES! NOT EVEN FAMILY
@@zoesynovle991 The sad thing is, sometimes I think family is the worst. You would think they would be the 1st to reach out...I dont know if they are just oblivous or too self-absorbed or just dont know how to help, but they could at least try
I have been suicidal for 9 years and I have only ever verbally admitted it to four people: two therapists, my mother, and my boyfriend. It is a hard thing to talk about and I have always felt so isolated. Thank you for making this video.
u dead now?
I absolutely understand u been like this me whole life never really understood it but if iv been feeling this and u been there like this for 9 years ya doing something right stay strong 💪
People treat me like a criminal when ever I mention it. I am always anonymous as I can be online so no one knows who I am. It's horrible being in the shadows.
@@Alexlinnk wow
Almost as soon as this video started, I was bawling. I've lived with suicidal thoughts for 30 years and I have always felt so alone with them. Hearing others talk honestly about their experiences helps me know that I am *not* alone. Thank you.
Are you still suicidal?
I have a resource if you'd like it or more than one.
It's the feeling of being so alone with people who love you.
What if the trigger for suicidal ideation is based on the concept of being alone... not feeling comfortable around others? It feels like a lot of these solutions are centered around connecting and hanging out with someone. What if you can't even bring yourself to do that?
What if you have no one to reach out too?
@@_______ACE_______ I was wondering the same thing..
I feel like I just don’t want to be here on earth anymore, like there just has to be a better place and way of being. I don’t want to hurt myself or cause pain to my loved ones, I simply just don’t want to be in this reality. Can anybody relate?
I can relate. I have been in a very bad way for a long time. I have no friends, my family have run out of patience with me, and my experiences with Doctors and nurses has been pure torment. I don't fit in anywhere in society. I have the body of a human but the mind of something else entirely. I cannot stand it here, and I long to escape. If I have to endure the anguish much longer I am worried I will go psychotic with anguish. I have tried so hard to hold it together and cope but I can't continue for very much longer. I am desperate and very scared. I don't dare ask anyone for help because I was badly punished by police and health care workers, handcuffed, detained and I am still traumatised from all of that. There are those of us who are suffering silently. Screaming our silent screams and praying for the end to come. We are not completely alone, as these platforms show, but we are completely trapped in this horrible cruel world.
No one hears you. I am 55 and I think of it everyday. But then I am scared that I will come back in my left life living the same life. I daily pray that I don't wake up the next day morning. God please come and take me with you.
Hi Ida, we just want to say on behalf of PBS, we're so sorry to hear that you feel this way. We hope you'll consider reaching out to one of the free services available, so you can speak with a trained counselor who can help. It's all confidential. For example, call or text 988 - or chat 988.lifeline.org
@@PBS Thank you
Been there too.
@@PBS all of these services just put you in a weird circle of resources.
You call one, they give you resources/contacts
you call those, they give you some more resources
those resources refer you to some other resources.
ida, please keep trying. you are alive for some reason. maybe some of us NEVER find that reason, but i honestly believe (and this isnt a cliche) that you HAVE VALUE. you are loved. you are a human being that deserves mercy and dignity. this takes work, though. i dont know your situation fully, but i believe it takes work to FIND something, find a way out to more happiness. unfortunately, if adults well past 35 have feelings of isolation, despair and/or depression, chances are they ALWAYS will. there will be dark periods, but i think people can try to minimize those, to find happiness, satisfaction, contentment, love in their daily lives.
i hope you find that. it takes work from yourself, though. you have to WANT to. please reach out to people if you think you can get help from them.
I feel down and hopeless. I was driving home from work yesterday and felt like I wanted to run my car into a rock wall. I don’t have anyone to talk to except my husband and he gets mad and feels like I’m attacking him if I talk about how I’m feeling. He makes it all about him. So I don’t want to tell him how I feel because at least then we don’t argue but it doesn’t help how I’m feeling inside.
First off, I am sorry you feel like this. Please call a crisis number if you need to and there are people that care.
You deserve better! I'm sorry your husband isn't very sensitive to you. My wife is the same way and it's really. I hope you feel better!
Wow and the whole time I wish I was IN a relationship. Yea, this isn't about him, it's about YOU, YOU need to help yourself because you DESERVE it. We all do.
I feel like I just read my current situation and now I know im not alone in this empty feeling. What I've learned is that I cannot change someone to feel something for me and push them to the back of my mind and all the problems I have. They aren't important, but you are❤
This brought me to tears as I'm in a very familiar situation. Please reach out to me as my husband makes me feel as though I'm getting on his nerves even when I ask the most simplest question and it hurts my feelings and makes me cry. I'm fighting tears as I write this to you...I feel your pain. We're not the only ones going through this but maybe talking about this to someone going through the same as we are will help US. I am here...please reach out...
A truth I learnt the hard way
Never share your problems with anybody.
20% don't care about them and 80% are glad you have them.
Very true
Special as a man. No one cares. Pretty messed up, more ao when comes to a relationship.
That's 100% true
but what if you think they care?
@@LuLuIrene Lol
There's nothing really bad going on in my life, but I just feel mentally and physically tired.
Mee too
I called a suicide hotline in Canada before i attempted suicide, and they were very unconcerned. They even had the nerve to ask me to complete a survey of how they did!
@@Life_42 they weren’t any help, just telling me to stay positive
@@charmleneboni I think these hotlines link people to culty anti psychiatry groups instead of real medical treatment. If you're suicidal call your doctor.
I’m sorry that happened to. 🥺
@@charmleneboni If you ever need anyone to talk to they are always there.
@@charmleneboniI am so sorry this happened to you. That is why I do not feel hopeful about receiving help ☹️
I think I’m ready to go. Life doesn’t seem worth it at this point in my life. I have kids and even that’s not enough anymore. Nothing brings me joy. I’m constantly depressed, even when I have a smile on my face.
:(
I have yet to hear anyone say they just need a soft, safe place to just vent. I have found when shit comes up for me and I call a friend or relative they tend to become hysterical and have unsolicited advice for what I should do. Usually I just hang up-I needed to be heard, without judgements or solutions-just be that soft sacred space of silence and support-that's why I am the first call in a crisis- I wish my family and friends could emulate this for me, it just never occurs to them....
The unsolicited advice bit resonates with me. Be nice if we could all access a 3rd party or a place to let our guard down, let it out, with no repercussions.
It seems to be the way it is. It takes someone who's been there to listen without the stigma kicking in.
LOUDER AND FROM A BIGGER SOAPBOX PLEASE
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
A lot of people are problem solvers. They assume that if someone wants support, they are asking for help in fixing some problem, when in reality we all need support in different ways. It can sometimes be helpful to just be honest about what you want, to let them know that you just want them to listen and to understand, not to try and solve your problems (which often aren’t things that can really be solved like that). Other times you just have to find the right person who gives you the kind of support you need.
Side note, but I find that people who have struggled with mental health themselves tend to lean more towards being empathetic than trying to give advice, which is why honestly sometimes the best person to talk to about that stuff is people who know about it from personal experience. Strong emphasis on the sometimes there though.
Quality of help depends on your income level and where you live.
I am a 3 time Suicide Attempt Survivor. #End the Stigma . #End the Shame. I work in Behavioral Health, and I get the word out both Privately and Professionally.
Thank you for being you and for doing that.
Get the word out about what?
How did you try to die?
Wow, at that point fate must really need you for something, huh.
(This is a joke, I'm just trying to lighten the mood. Don't take this the wrong way, I hope you are doing better.)
"Sometimes you don't even know that you need to heal something until it's brought back up again." That just hit deep
Even if you don’t have family or friends around, sometimes the right stranger, or teacher, neighbor, or coworker that feels safe, can become a lifeline.
@@FleurPillager I agree. You can even go to the ER.
Yes, you're right. Someone who feels safe to you.
If you have a mental illness you need medical treatment. Chatting is not a treatment for any medical condition.
@@oddlilbird What must yes or must not happen? The suicide of every or any must not happen for the suicide of every or any to must not happen. The suicide of every or any must yes happen for the suicide of every or any to must yes happen. The immortality of every or any must yes happen for the immortality of every or any to must yes happen. The immortality of every or any must not happen for the immortality of every or any to must not happen. Hence there's the contradiction that can never be solved but must yes be solved as they must yes happen for them to must yes happen as well as they must not happen for them to must not happen. Hence every must yes be immortal to solve this as this contradiction can never be solved but must yes be solved as they must yes happen for them to must yes happen as well as they must not happen for them to must not happen. So start doing things to make and keep you and every alive and reach the goal of immortality.2
@@Highlander9740 What must yes or must not happen? The suicide of every or any must not happen for the suicide of every or any to must not happen. The suicide of every or any must yes happen for the suicide of every or any to must yes happen. The immortality of every or any must yes happen for the immortality of every or any to must yes happen. The immortality of every or any must not happen for the immortality of every or any to must not happen. Hence there's the contradiction that can never be solved but must yes be solved as they must yes happen for them to must yes happen as well as they must not happen for them to must not happen. Hence every must yes be immortal to solve this as this contradiction can never be solved but must yes be solved as they must yes happen for them to must yes happen as well as they must not happen for them to must not happen. So start doing things to make and keep you and every alive and reach the goal of immortality.3
idk if anyone cares to read but i'm 16 years old and i've struggled with suicidal thoughts since i was around 9. my father emotionally, physically, and sexually abused me and my mother since the age of 6 and when i grew older i realized something was wrong. my parents would often fight all the time, and i would intervene just to get beat. i would cry in my room wondering why or how this has happened and why all my friends dads acted so differently. the aftermath definitely broke my mother because she now puts the blame on me and shifts her beliefs to it being the devil trying to curse our home. when i first opened up
to them, she sent me to a hospital for 2 months and i saw no one else but my social worker. when it didn't work (obviously) she was frustrated and decided i was just a defect to her life and shut me out. being alone for so long i attempted once, but i'm very glad to be alive still. i've realized that although there's no one in my close family who loves me, i have a life to live and i want to grow up to be a social worker. i want to help kids like me. it pains me to see my little self cry in her room feeling like she did something wrong.
Your story means a lot to me. I went through not nearly as much but I have been through similar trauma and emotional abuse from my parents.
You are so strong and amazing for wanting to help kids struggling someday. I hope to also do that
You have been so strong😢😢❤❤
@@wisteria1739 thank you so much ❤️
@@avabauer8450 don't feel like your trauma is insignificant in anyway to mine, we both endured much undeserving pain ❤️😞 im sorry you experienced that, we are in this together ❤️❤️
Almost 18 with similar story, social worker is one of my dream jobs but sadly requires a lot to be one
Unfortunately I don’t believe there is a way out for me. I won’t ever be able to accept living with a chronic illness. I feel it is more inevitable than anything else, just holding on for as long as I can.
Absolutely this. I survived terminal cancer… believe me it’s not the lottery you think it is. I was NOT informed of my rights to die with dignity and told that treatment was the only way. Irony? Projected survival after this cancer is seven years. I just hit 5…now I get to sit and wait for it in pain everyday that most people cannot begin to understand.
I'm tired. I keep trying to push away the constant thought, the days are easier when I'm busy. But then when work ends....I need everything to end too
My heart feels swollen.
swollen. that is an excellent way to describe it.
For some there is no help. It's BS. For those suffering chronic pain, often nothing will help. That needs to change. We pmace too much focus on how the person feels emotunally, depression, etc.
Too many people believe it stems from feelings of depressions or loneliness, sadness, etc. Often the cause is so much daily chronic pain that the person can no longer live with the never ending pain. Why do we ignore this?
I've been asking for help for 15 years and I'm still waiting for that help. I can only wait so long. Let's also not forget that therapy is very expensive for most Americans. However, my issue downs respond to therapy. I need the pain to be gone.
I honestly feel like that's the worst part of all of this, I get this crazy pain and frustration builds up once I cannot tolerate it so I've started using CBD and low doses of thc and it has helped but again they all cost money.
That's another reason I don't tell anyone anymore, we just have to deal with the pain while dealing with regular daily bs.
Yep, I developed severe head pain, vertigo , drop attacks and chronic body pain. I would absolutely not want to top myself if I was well. Being well for decades prior, it's hard to cope with that level of disability. Just get me out of pain please lol.
I had an horrific childhood. Think, all horrible things and basically, that's it. And yet I was not depressed much. Sure, I had symptoms of ptsd but I was okay but now? Wake up with pain and go to sleep with pain. Heaps of meds,- nothing works. Lots of medical gaslighting. Thousands spend. No help. Who the heck wants to live with that. Only my kiddo keeps me fighting
The timing of when this video was released was remarkable for me. Very needed.
im so tired of going through this cycle. asking for help never helped before, but i searched for this video. i don't how to ask for help in a way where someone will believe me. I will ask, one last time. one way or another
Life doesn’t matter. There’s an inherent obligation for survival and connection in the human condition. It has no meaning ultimately and neither does anyone’s life.
I tried to ask for help and was arrested, put in jail, and now all I want to do is die. Tired of trying and being a burden, and all of the pain to go away!
So powerful! These stories are very important and provide hope to people contemplating suicide and to their loved ones who are trying to help them. Thank you for this video 💙
That hardest part is having literally no one. I have a “girlfriend” and kid who’s 4 but it still doesn’t feel enough to hold onto. No family. No friends. Just struggling everyday. It’s not worth it. Why sit and work my life away to barely make it by. Or have a “family” that barley cares I exist. No appreciation for hard work.
It is very hard to live, i don't wanna live anymore. I'm just already dead i nside and waiting for the last breath, hope its soon
No dont do that their is hope
I need help I'm losing it mentally, emotionally
Talk about it man tell me
Ive been suicidal for a couple months now & im 22... Lost my job then I got robbed of 2k...I applied at over 30 jobs, finally found one and on my first day got pulled over for a broken head light on my first day going to work. Cop told me my license was suspended because of an unpaid speeding ticket I had months ago. I paid it at court, but never took it to the dmv... I owe $824 ny nov 3rd. I only saw the mail that I missed court a few days ago😭. The dmv guy told me and reassured me i didnt have to pay anything since I gave him a copy of the ticket reciept. Turns out its not up to him.
I hope things are now looking up for you. Did you resolve your situation?
I’ve tried Asking for help and it did nothing. My father yelled at me telling me that he could take me to Kms, and that I’m such a disappointment. Idk what to do anymore. I’m just a kid it’s not like I can move out.
Same
How are you now?
I am batting with suicidal thoughts I don't want to be placed in a mental hospital but I don't know what to or who to turn to. I feel unloved and I feel that no likes or cares about me.
That’s how I felt for the longest time too, but now I think I want to. I’m afraid of myself but I don’t know how to ask for help
I never asked for help. I know no one can help me. i believe its contagious. I dont want to infect other people specially relatives.
There are hotlines where you can text or message instead of phone call, it's easier in my opinion and helps.
There is always someone who can help. You don't know people can't help until you ask, and when you do, that is the first step.
Hi - echoing what other responders have said, if you're not yet comfortable speaking with relatives, know that there there are mental health professionals who can help. Call or text 988 or chat at www.988Lifeline.org
How to ask for help when suicidal?
Step 1: don't ask for help.
I need to know if I can reopen the case and give them the recording I have on my daughter-in-law they knew all along how my son dies 16 years ago 2:50 2:56
I don't really know what else to do. What exactly is the point? I struggle, I've achieved a lot, I still don't feel like it's worth it and I have no one. What exactly is the point of living day to day if there is no milestone that makes me happy?
I feel the same way
I feel you
The only reason I have my self deletion thoughts is because of money. Is it just me? That's literally my only problem. I never saw the point in talking to someone because I have a clear understanding of my problem. I just hate asking for help.
I identify with this very strongly. The root cause of everything for me, the multiple problems I suffer with, could all be solved with money. It's harsh...
They love and cherish you when you don’t need their help. The longer you need help the less they care.
That hits so hard bro :(
I remember a time when I was happy. But then life got so... hard. I don't remember how it feels to be happy anymore. I hope things get better for me... and to all who are struggling. Take care
How can you get help when the system is trying to destroy you
It gets worse and worse everyday, it will prob be 10x worse tomorow and continuing.
So powerful!!! I’m a 2x Suicide attempt survivor & Sexual abuse/physical abuse survivor I would’ve loved to been apart of this discussion. Mental health/Mental illness is real
I feel alone all the time 😔 ... but i just wan't to say don't give up in life 🙏🏻 , may my light give you strength & love to fight this battle you going through...... DON'T GIVE UP WE LOVE YOU❤❤❤
I am from the PH. Mental Health is the least priority in our country. The cost of a single consultation with a mental health professional here in Manila is equivalent to a week of minimum wage. There are public hospitals here offering consultation but setting up an appointment may take a while. It sucks.
I am from India
Same thing here and to top it all off, the stigma is just too much.
If you would like some digital resources it is my honor to share them.
This is why I don't seek help...cost.
I am from Pakistan. I've learned to not share mental issues with anyone, including family members. Life is just not worth living here for me.
@@bhavyakjain I feel your pain from across the border in Pakistan bro. Different countries now but same *** people.
I turned to Psilocybin. It has helped me break the chains of depression and suicidal thoughts.
I had some benefit. But they make me violently ill.
Saw ur post did this help with depression
When you live a dishonarable life. People around you care so much that your life has become so unreal and fake they push you away from your dreams and want to control you like a puppet. The only reason i still live is my father. Because i don't want him to pay for me or have any grief. But when he dies i shall follow. After my fathers death my life on this planet becomes obsolete. I lost all grip with the world as nothing drives me anymore to go ahead. Everything gets harder overtime to maintain,build ... And all this withouth purpose with the death of my mother i saw how fake relationships are and how vultures fight for there place. Nothing we do has meaning to any of us. Its one fight to survive. And i lost the will to thrive to be first,better,know more. I want this fake world to end asap.
How true
What if you don’t have friends to talk too?
Find some1 online
@@LonnieBoyhow can someone find someone online to talk to
@@LonnieBoyhow can someone find someone online to talk to
I can feel their anxiety so much. Does anyone feel it? It makes me relate to them. It makes me feel human. People hide their anxiety so well and sometimes I wonder why I’m not able to hide it so well? I start to kind of ramble and hold my breath when I talk and they all kind of did it. I also fidget and swing my legs like the girl in the sweater. I wish I could find more videos of people genuinely being anxious and not being ridiculed for it because this made me feel less isolated.
I had family but in our family you didn't talk about your feelings for any reason. If you did you were cut off immediately and the subject was changed. I knew I couldn't talk to them so I turned to other things to cope. My coping skills weren't the best and even those didn't help. I am a 3 times suicide survivor with the last being the one that hospitalized me. When I committed suicide I took pills. My son found me face down with scissors in my hand at my chest. Long story short, 3 days later I was discharged with a bottle of antidepressants, really? I received zero help, was deemed fit to go home with pills. No one ever talked to me about why I took the pills, no one asked why I took them, nothing but pills and an appointment to a mental health person who spent 5 minutes asking how the pills made me feel. I quit going and resolved to go forward without ever looking back. When I tried talking to the psychologist I was directed back to the pills every time so after the 4th visit I quit going, didn't bother with those horrible pills and it's now 23 years later and I'm ok
Dam
They don't even ask you if you want anxiety meds, they just give it to you. At the hospital that I went to the doctor said she was going to give me stuff for my stomach which one of them she did but after my release she gave me ideas medications and without even mentioning anxiety she gave me antidepressants without talking to me about it. It seems like they rather would just push medications versus talking to a therapist and then if it wasn't helping then resort to medications. Now it seems to be the new Norm for them to just put your medications and then expect you to numb your pain, get over it and go on with your life. That's why we are where we at because we are just tired of making believe everything is okay and just coping!
Such a great video, have come back to this more than once. (no major ideation but was watching videos on ideation and mental health)
Really well made!
Its hard I've been out of prison 11 months after doing 6 years im 27 all i do is work n workout no women in my life no social life i think about it time to time just wanted to watch some videos
Hmmm Glad to have met this page , thank you for making me rethink my actions.
The way she said u take care hit deep
Glad that this video exists, any message of hope and the normalization of talk about the topic is one worth communicating to an audience that needs it.
However, it felt a bit flat (with respect to the survivors in this video) to see the same perspectives that we tend to see in messages such as this. There is a disappointing lack of attention being paid to things like class or isolation as obstacles in the way of healing. What do we tell people who can't ask for help because they're late on rent and it's cost prohibitive to do so? What do we tell the time poor who can't make room in their lives between the two jobs they're working to feed their children? Who is reaching out to the people who are wholly reliant on people and systems that can't be relied upon?
Ditto! TY
I knew it when I saw the intro. Just more "it gets better" without anything to really help us...
I f_____g love you for saying this.
I feel that way. Alone and unhappy. I'm drowning in medical debt. I feel life is hopeless, but I keep pushing on.
I don't know which path ill go ,i try to be positive but the stress is so muchh, my dad was alcoholic and would blame me for my life failure,unemployment, our poor lifestyle .i think he is right im a failure in life ,i even have like mentally ill mind because of too much stress ,i wanted those sound on my head to go away .mom i love you im mising you
I hope you will be ok.
The sad truth is I feel like it's impossible to prevent suicide completely, it's sad but some people have no choice but to commit suicide. How can you save people in such situations? And really not many people want to talk about suicide coz it's a iffy topic, I get it.
So the answer I found is that you need to surround yourself with trustworthy people who care about you, then you will always have someone to count on.
I've learned that this isn't a phase.
Great video. Thank you :)
I can't believe someone really needs me, and I think my parents or boyfriend won't even cry if I die. I am trying to find the experience of somebody whose relative commited suicide. I don't think something will change after my death, they will go on happily. And it makes me real pain.
I can't count all the times I had exactly the same thoughts. But here's the good thing: they aren't true. People do need you & your existence matters.
Try volunteering at charity, give back to people in secret🤫 Also if you die, how can you show people your love ?
Hi. We’re so sorry you’re feeling this way. We just wanted to say that help is available. If you’re struggling, please call or text 988 or chat www.988Lifeline.org
(@988Lifeline). They’re here for you and available 24/7.
@@PBS What happens if someone calls and they need medical treatment for mental illness? Are they referred to doctors? What about uninsured people in need of medical care? I don't know what this hotline does.
What do i avoid saying so i dont get the cops involved thats more what im scared of. Which eggshells do i have to avoid walking on in this phone call?
I’m soo exhausted with my life… i feel like nobody truly understands me… i been in soo much pain since last 2 years.. i dnt even wanna talk to anyone.. all i had was my bf .. now it seems like even he doesn’t care 😭 all i can think of is an easy and painless way to leave this world behind
When there's no one to talk to the end is here.A person can take so much and no more.
Hi, I'm Shani. I am the host and a licensed professional clinical counselor. If you have any further questions that you feel didn't get answered in the video please don't hesitate to ask. The work I do is about empowering people to own their mental health journey. There are so many elements that were left out of this video because it is a series and there are 3 more episodes. I hope that everyone takes care to not judge the people that were brave enough to share their stories. As you can not truly know someone based on a 10 minute video. Thank you
How do you get better when someone you love leaves you for someone else and you wanted to be together forever. I’ve never felt so alone and all day long I think about ending my life and I’ve been keeping it all inside and it’s just killing me.
What's the point of living .... We all have to die someday ..Then why not today ???
I’m so close. I know people care, it’s just that I don’t care. I’m wanting to be done with this pain.
6:30 Similarly, the only thing that stops me to do IT, is my Mother. She has unbelievable effort on me for 27 years and I do not want to ruin her world….
Lets live for them!
I want to die, but I’m too scared to do it!! Maybe I’ll be man enough to end it all.
To anyone who is contemplating suicide please reach out! Please do not be afraid! I have a friend in hospital right now who attempted suicide. Please reach out!
There is help!
Reach out to who exactly? Nobody cares
Nobody carez until u r bright person with money
I'm surprised to see these comments (bc there's a lot of reality in them) and also that there is no other reply at all.
What if you asked and no one wants to help? They just stopped contacting you after they knew that you have that thought?
Hey! I'd be beyond happy if I can listen to you, and I really mean it! Don't hesitate to write me back if you feel like!
I know the help available to me. That's why I don't seek it.
Im so low right now, over a year no job, been applying, have so many bills and all i keep getting is rejected 😢
I've been unemployed/employed in service for almost a year. My degree led to nothing. Temp agencies led to nothing. I can't stand politics, I can't stand going out outside, I'm afraid all the time. I left my college city and moved back in with my parents I had such astronomical dreams 2 years ago. I had hope. Now I feel like I have nothing and I wish it would all end.
It's hard asking for help when most of the time you do ask for help you get rebuked.
I don’t want to ask for help because not sure if I need it and I don’t want people to think of me like this
Does anyone know what the websites that are pro suicide are?
I feel so much pain it's depression and anxiety and anhedonia 😭
I don't want to be here anymore the pain is getting worst everyday..😢
You’re a beautiful man with a gorgeous face. Hang in there. ❤️
This is all good but I tried looking for help at 17 when I first felt depressed. I couldn’t find a therapist to relate to, most therapist are not Black and it was too exhausting explaining the Black culture.The few therapist 3 actually, were seemingly unable to understand and relate , or seemed incompetent I have tried several times
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).
I've been suicidal since I was 9 years old. I have no friends or family and quite honestly no one cares if I'm here or not. I'm not important in life to anyone.
I am at the lowest point of my life I don’t know how to come back. Everything is failing I feel like a failure
Seek the help you need. The future you will thank you for it.
I’m really sad. I’m tired of seeing pain and hurt. And I feel like no one loves me even though I know some do.. regardless I still feel alone
for me asking for help and seeing a therapist or group talking ect whatever has been the easy part for me but actually getting better or seeing results just hasn't happened.
ALL YALL WILL DO IS CALL THE POLICE & PUT ME IN A 5150
“You are getting through your emotions and that doesn’t mean you are emotional; you are actually very strong”. This was a pivoting statement for me. Thank you.
Tbh it just doesn't sound like it it feels like it's just a saying
Dont ever ask! They lock you away!!!😢
For men, no one really cares. I made the mistake of telling my wife about the anxiety and suicidal thoughts and she uses as a weapon against me since.
The same thing is happening to me 😭
But I'm the woman
Yeah I know this first hand.
I feel this
Loved ones can't help. it has to be a professional
I just cant see a way through this ...
I'm sad and depressed. I have things I need to talk about but no one to talk to. It's really personal and I don't want to talk to my family about it.
I feel like I have made my loved ones numb to my depression because I ask for help too much and it’s almost like the boy cried wolf now I don’t know who to turn too
When I was little my father was very abusive I was to young to remember anything now but I just for some reason have the built up emotion and I think I just need to talk to someone but I have mater social anxiety and whenever I get uncomfortable I just shut down completely and that stops me from asking for help and I just keeper this emotions stuck in a bubble waiting to burst and it hased cause me to want to just end it all but I know that will make lots of people very sad like my mother and my brothers but I can't talk to anyone and my life keeps on geting worse and worse and I can't handle it and I just want to end it all at this point my life is to stressful for someone my age to be having to deal with and it makes it hard to makes friends and it's making the holl bigger and theres no one that understands what's happing with me because of my social anxiety and I can't live with it can someone tell me what I should do at this point.
I've heard it all. I know no one can reason me out of it. At this point, either I have to find my way out of it on my own, inflict that onto someone else, or just do it already.
I'm trying to figure it out which one it'll be.
What's your story man I want to hear you
Stay strong brother