What I Needed to Hear to Avoid a Nervous Breakdown

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  • čas přidán 6. 07. 2024
  • In this video, author and mental health educator Douglas Bloch tells the story of how he used the power of encouraging and reassuring words, said by himself and others, to survive an episode of hellish anxiety. He then shares two strategies that describe how you can apply the power of encouraging words in your own life.
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Komentáře • 136

  • @Handlegrip
    @Handlegrip Před 2 lety +64

    It really does help to hear somebody tells me it will be OK, you will get better, this is not permanent. The mornings are hard for me. Especially after a sleepless night.

    • @charlesandrzejewski7405
      @charlesandrzejewski7405 Před 2 lety +4

      Start doing positive momentum task give yourself credit for making bed etc it build momentum and encourages you like a snowball effect. Try to shoot for 3-5 tasks a day. Use action words in your vocab like I can I will, execute etc.

    • @khappy1286
      @khappy1286 Před rokem +5

      Sorry. Nights are hard for me. We will get through it and things are getting better because we are making small steps that help us get through things much easier We are helped by God. He is good and is for us.

    • @Handlegrip
      @Handlegrip Před rokem +2

      @@khappy1286 yes, the dr put me on effexor and klonopin and it has really helped me. I can deal with life much bitter.

  • @johnmccann8319
    @johnmccann8319 Před 2 lety +44

    Douglas I've just watched this video and you tell the story of asking your friend to re-assure you until you get yourself out of your dark hopeless moments. When my moments of darknees and anxiety come I revisit YOUR videos and listen to your advice and re-assurance.Although we have never met I consider you a very important friend who gives me hope when I get down and feel lost.And I want to thank you for being there.Stay well and positive.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +6

      Thanks John. I'm glad I am able to help. Let me know anytime you're near Portland

    • @dracarnoir7606
      @dracarnoir7606 Před 7 měsíci

      Good advice , thank you.

  • @chessdad182
    @chessdad182 Před 2 lety +11

    Friends like this are priceless.

  • @hogarthay
    @hogarthay Před 2 lety +11

    I always come back to you Douglas if I am tested. Your messages are like an angel in my corner

  • @RedLP5000S
    @RedLP5000S Před 2 lety +15

    I am currently living my darkest days, yet it's not due to any outside forces. It's all in my head. My struggle with coping and acceptance has manifested into isolation and agoraphobia. I am thankfully going to be getting ECT treatments in the near future to help lift my darkness. I appreciate all of these videos as they help put my condition into perspective. Take care.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +4

      I had ECT in 2016, and it helped me. Good luck with your treatment. I'm glad that you are persevering.

  • @camey4844
    @camey4844 Před 2 lety +11

    You have no idea how many people you are helping Douglas by providing this powerful technique. Whatever challenge you are currently facing, I'm quite certain you will be fine. And thank you for your help and support.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety

      Thank you Dahir. I’m glad the technique was helpful

  • @user-hi1se4ms4j
    @user-hi1se4ms4j Před 3 měsíci +3

    I have panic and depression from losing my mother and from having a relationship with a cruel male narcissist......I hope these words help

    • @purronnaspaw
      @purronnaspaw Před 3 měsíci

      I believe it will. I have recordings of friends and family saying kind words, and it helps me. Stay away from anything negative. My best to you.

  • @pmbluemoon
    @pmbluemoon Před 2 lety +9

    Thank you Douglas, I'm glad you have stayed here to help us out by sharing your story, and I send you happiness and love, appreciation and hugs as well 💗
    I have a saying on my fridge (magnet) "A misty morning does not indicate a foggy day."

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      Always great to hear from you. I appreciate that adage.

  • @ryanbenson4610
    @ryanbenson4610 Před 2 lety +16

    Thank you for sharing such personal moments in your life. Much appreciated, Douglas.

  • @charlesandrzejewski7405
    @charlesandrzejewski7405 Před 2 lety +8

    I like the one quote by I think Maya Angelou - people will for get what you say or what you teach them but they won't forget how you made them feel. I have to remember that because I get so caught up in learning new techniques and modalities and trying to apply them to each client and at the end of the day they probably just want somebody's compassion and presence

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +2

      You are so correct. That's what happened among the members of my depression support groups.

  • @cowboyjohnsontown
    @cowboyjohnsontown Před 2 lety +21

    Thanks for sharing this, Douglas. I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing a recent/current struggle. I agree with Mike- you'll get through this. Thanks for all you do!

  • @acceptinglife6491
    @acceptinglife6491 Před 2 lety +7

    Wow, what a powerful support system you have with Mike🥺

  • @jaredbond7908
    @jaredbond7908 Před 2 lety +9

    Yeah, I know what it's like to wake up in a panic. I've been suffering for 20 years now (since age 17). But I finally think things are going to change for me. For one, medication helps tremendously. I've tried dozens in my life, but mostly when I was young. When I got older, I became a serious alcoholic. I thought the cycle would never end. But I finally feel like I don't need to drink, now that I'm taking Prozac and gabapentin. Honestly, I take when needed, and it gets me pretty buzzed. But I don't crave it. Way healthier than alcohol (and cheaper). Also, stress has reduced, because I'm pretty sure I've gotten disability, first try. Didn't expect that. Best wishes to everyone. Medication helps a ton. It will give you the strength and calmness to improve your life. I never thought I'd be a "depression survivor", but I'm really looking forward to all the great things I'm gonna do in my life!
    Agh, I can't resist saying one more thing. A big motivation for suicide is anger over your life, and against the world. Perhaps the hardest is thinking of your own stupid mistakes, inability to see, or just plain misfortune. But sadly.... the world doesn't care. You can only pick up the pieces, learn from it, and try to make whatever small difference you can. And don't beat yourself up for being a coward. It's really easy to wish you were dead. It's much harder to actually do it. I've been trapped in that loop for 20 years and I'm sick of it. It's not gonna happen. I don't necessarily regret my path, but it's time now to move on. And thankfully, life will be comfortable enough to do so. Get help, and make the changes that you know need to happen. Kill your anger and self-hate with medication. You can indeed get rid of that pain in your chest.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +3

      Thanks for sharing your healing journey. When medication works it is truly wonderful

  • @mae9064
    @mae9064 Před 2 lety +9

    Douglas, I truly hope you are well, the gift of your channel is that it provides a community base to rest on, on the days when i and others feel like we are free falling, into that dark place, I think you are one of the bravest men I’ve never met , please keep on keeping on. You really do matter xx

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you for your kind words. Speaking of community base, I do a weekly live video chat on thugs channel every Sunday noon Pacific Coast time. Just show up on the main page and click on the link. We have a community of loving people that give each other mutual support.

    • @mae9064
      @mae9064 Před 2 lety

      @@DouglasBloch I live in Ireland 🍀and regularly tune into your live vid chat or watch recording later. It’s one of my touch stones to keep me grounded. Thanks again

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you for your ongoing support. I’ve always wanted to visit Ireland

    • @mae9064
      @mae9064 Před 2 lety

      @@DouglasBloch I do hope ye can make a trip in the future. 🤞 🇮🇪

  • @cleopatraoatcake7364
    @cleopatraoatcake7364 Před 2 lety +3

    One day at a time! You will find peace, Douglas--I believe it!

  • @eternal1099
    @eternal1099 Před rokem

    Even when you are going through your own trauma, you think of others. You are a truly caring person

  • @lisam2036
    @lisam2036 Před 2 lety +6

    Thank you so much for sharing your raw and real struggles, it helps me SO much to watch and listen to your videos and podcast. You have a very warm and reassuring voice and I appreciate everything you do to try to help others who are going through similar struggles. I listen to your podcasts multiple times when I'm going through painful times and it always helps. I'm so grateful to have found your book, videos and podcast. I really do not think there is anyone else doing what you're doing, it's a lifesaver for many I'm sure. People in pain want to connect with others who truly get it and we know you really get it. Thank you.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety

      Thanks Lisa. I glad my tools are helpful. What book of mine do you have? Here is a website that lists all of my offerings. douglasbloch.com

  • @margaretdooley2742
    @margaretdooley2742 Před 2 lety +5

    Fantastic doug l hope you are feeling well.l think you are kind and very inspiring person .

  • @homebody61
    @homebody61 Před rokem

    Doug, you’ve been through hell over and over again, and you always remain there for others.

  • @naadiiadzz
    @naadiiadzz Před 9 měsíci +1

    I am going through a really difficult time and I find this video very helpful and comforting- thank you for sharing.

  • @tinadulay4812
    @tinadulay4812 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you. I am so very sad right now.

  • @dreamcatcher1558
    @dreamcatcher1558 Před rokem +1

    This just happened today while I was driving. I had to call my wife and just talk to her and calm down, but she didn't know I was having an anxiety or nervous attack i couldn't tell her. It's a scary time. I have been experiencing headaches for the past month, and after an MRI and CAT scan, doctors can't figure out the issue. This has caused me to slowly breakdown. On top of an uncertain future with the economy and a high mortgage. I always had the confidence to lead my family out of any hard times, but if I'm not healthy then I can't do that. I believe this is causing me to have high axiety. I have never experienced this before.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před rokem

      If things don't improve, I will reach out for professional help

  • @dragonbel2250
    @dragonbel2250 Před 2 lety +2

    This is one video I would like to go back to after I feel less anxious. For now I feel too anxious to even watch it until the end...

  • @anaid1111
    @anaid1111 Před 2 lety +7

    Those are really helpful strategies, thank you Douglas.

  • @nicoyou11
    @nicoyou11 Před 2 lety +2

    When you are in a good state of mind, record yourself with your mobile saying those affirmations to be used later in case of a crisis.

  • @sandym4317
    @sandym4317 Před 2 lety +5

    Thank you so much. I’ve been following your channel & I appreciate you sharing your personal experience. I’m not alone, Thank you.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety

      No, you are not alone at all. Just read the comments on this video.

    • @ttephi3667
      @ttephi3667 Před 2 lety

      Yes Sandy, you're not alone - hugs

  • @Contessa998
    @Contessa998 Před 2 lety +2

    Very nice, thank you 🙏

  • @janeymorris1273
    @janeymorris1273 Před 10 měsíci

    Love your vulnerability ❤

  • @lee-kazz
    @lee-kazz Před 5 měsíci +1

    Another brilliant video, thank you ❤

  • @dianawatson-speakingseed751
    @dianawatson-speakingseed751 Před 3 měsíci

    I LOVED this. Thank you! It really helped.

  • @eli92
    @eli92 Před rokem

    Thank you sir . Appreciate your kindness and words.

  • @jacob9739
    @jacob9739 Před 2 lety +3

    You are such a gift 💙

  • @heatherinCT
    @heatherinCT Před 2 měsíci

    You're amazing

  • @susankeeley1733
    @susankeeley1733 Před 10 měsíci

    This is great Douglas, thankyou and GodBless.

  • @user-wh3hr3oz6l
    @user-wh3hr3oz6l Před 2 lety +1

    I had the same over Christmas and new year, racing thoughts, sleepless nights, depression.

    • @ABCiiiiiiii
      @ABCiiiiiiii Před 2 lety

      Hello my friend
      I am going through sand thing. I wonder are you better now? If yes, what has helped?

    • @user-wh3hr3oz6l
      @user-wh3hr3oz6l Před 2 lety +2

      @@ABCiiiiiiii it was hard, my ex broke up with me and I was a mess, I did counseling once a week, took some sleeping pills for just 3-4 days to get my sleep cycle back (insomnia makes depression very intense), went to the gym, kept busy (helps a lot ) and talked to friends, talking really helps even if it’s through the “3rd person” if you know what I mean “I have a friend who’s really depressed “.. It doesn’t last forever, make sure you say to yourself “this too shall pass”. Check out eckhart tolle, his teachings about anxiety and depression also helped immensely. Pray helps a lot too and I’m happy to say I’m better now, best of luck.

    • @user-wh3hr3oz6l
      @user-wh3hr3oz6l Před 2 lety +1

      Just to give u an update, I’m fully recovered and have a new gf now

  • @lorenheard2561
    @lorenheard2561 Před 2 lety +1

    February is an awful month for me. My Grandma died before my birthday when I was very young( literally the day before my birthday,and the funeral the next day!) It feels imprinted on my brain and soul,and though it has been decades,I have always looked at my birthday as gloom and doom. Along with other depressive moments that have little to do with that memory... Got to keep going! It is a beautiful and sunny day. I will give the Lord God Thanks and work through the day. Thank you for your words!

  • @nicoyou11
    @nicoyou11 Před 2 lety

    It also really helped me to share my hopeless thoughts and fears to a friend to get a reality check.

  • @flylord4927
    @flylord4927 Před 2 lety

    So wonderful to hear. Thank you, Douglas!!!

  • @gregl65
    @gregl65 Před rokem

    Thanks

  • @ttephi3667
    @ttephi3667 Před 2 lety +2

    I find solace in your openness of real struggles that still arise from time to time, even though you are mostly well now. I do suffer from 'hopelessness' about the future and when it's at its worst, well... Thank you for showing me I am not alone Douglas.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      You are not alone. We are all in this together

    • @ttephi3667
      @ttephi3667 Před 2 lety

      @@DouglasBloch Yes, thank you Douglas... Hope you are feeling better...

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety

      I am a little better

  • @japplesin
    @japplesin Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @elainebraindrain3174
    @elainebraindrain3174 Před 27 dny

    Im exiting soon

  • @roxanneschmidt8192
    @roxanneschmidt8192 Před 2 lety +2

    What an inspiring concept . Never thought of this ; thanks 🙏🏻 Doug for sharing this tip and also your personal experience .

  • @kiaraxo_
    @kiaraxo_ Před 2 lety

    thank you for your videos. i came across your videos about two months ago and i come back to them every time i’m struggling severely. thanks for being so open and honest. your helping a lot of people.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      I’m glad to hear my videos have been helpful for you

  • @aaronramsden1657
    @aaronramsden1657 Před rokem

    Thanks for being around Douglas

  • @bpassion4fashion581
    @bpassion4fashion581 Před 2 lety

    Aww. This touched me deeply !

  • @kimlec3592
    @kimlec3592 Před 2 lety

    It's true, whether you think you can or cannot, you're right.

  • @MichaelGallant-ep9jn
    @MichaelGallant-ep9jn Před 2 lety

    Thank you Douglas. I am going to take your advice, and I've sent this video to a couple of friends.

  • @paulflint6254
    @paulflint6254 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for this video, i find your videos help , it's good that you shared this ❤️

  • @frankducett9
    @frankducett9 Před rokem

    Thank you very much.

  • @8v71buses
    @8v71buses Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing and I spotted this video in a time when I needed it because my was battling racing thoughts and intrusive thoughts and it seemed like it wasn’t ending but this video saved me just in time 😌. Keep it up champ 😎👍🏾

  • @kimlec3592
    @kimlec3592 Před 2 lety

    Thank you. Very much. For making the effort.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      You’re welcome.

    • @kimlec3592
      @kimlec3592 Před 2 lety

      @@DouglasBloch Thank you for remaining despite the very difficult states, and for making videos to help people who also have struggles emotionally.

  • @Ragnarrage
    @Ragnarrage Před 6 měsíci

    This will help in dark moments for sure. Never stop there, work on mindfulness and perspective, daily. Retrain your brain. These moments will become less and less frequent. They will never go away completly. No one can turn off their mind. But you can negotiate with your mind and it will accept your terms eventually if you keep at it. I wish you all peace and calm.

  • @discoballer
    @discoballer Před 2 lety

    Thank you 🖤

  • @khappy1286
    @khappy1286 Před rokem

    This helped me right now at this moment in my life. Thank you.

  • @kristinam1470
    @kristinam1470 Před rokem

    I remember when I was experiencing big mental crisis I watched your video and listened to those affirmation statements I needed to convince myself it was true. I tried so hard to believe that I can actually get better. Now I’m listening to this thinking of course one can get better and it will. That means I got better. You helped me on that path of recovery. I hope you never get to go through another crisis like the one you described. But if you do I wish you come out of it and quickly. You are such an incredible source of support for many of us here and I then you for that

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před rokem

      Thanks Kristina. I'm very glad I made it through this crisis and for the help I received.

  • @Yellow-Rose
    @Yellow-Rose Před 2 lety

    Tysm for this, Mr. Bloch! Glad to hear you're feeling better. Never underestimate the powerful healing of the spoken word. I know that when someone says to me "everything will be ok" it's almost like a light switch was turned on. May I offer a few (hopefully) healing affirmations that help me? It's easier said than done bc I know the destruction that depression can do, but when depression comes for you, ignore it. Depression is an insecure bully that wants your attention. Let the negative thoughts come and go. Don't hold on to them. We have to remember that our brain is sick (depression is sometimes called the cancer of the mind) and we shouldn't trust or believe in the negative thoughts that it regurgitates. We are not those thoughts, we are not our depression.

  • @ErnolDawnbringer
    @ErnolDawnbringer Před 2 lety

    You are inspiring

  • @darryk4154
    @darryk4154 Před 2 lety

    Listening to certain songs usually helps a lot.

  • @shiadustinleipalanca
    @shiadustinleipalanca Před rokem

    I stepped my friends feet and we got down,we slipped on a basketball scrimmage on a outdoor court.Then I suddenly used my healing 7 month bone/limb/hand then we both standed up i sat down on the bench then i got nervous breakdown while lying on my cousin then i saw blue visions then my hand hurted so much and i didnt hear anything at first the i heard my mom she said “Shia wake up its just a slip dont worry were here for you” then they brought me to the hospital then no major injuries only minor and my muscles got traumatized because of the slip

  • @nensi1972
    @nensi1972 Před 2 lety

    ... ❤️🙏...dear Douglas, i like to listen to your advices, your experiences, teachings, and your wisdom...it helps,... 🙏...but when i am in the shadows, of something uncomprehensable, i talk to God, pray to Jesus, and Mother Mary...then read New Testament, or books ofc orthodox christian monachs, and elders ,...and still reading Sergei Nikolaevich Lazarev books ...and listen to the sermons of Derek Prince...for the last two and a half years i am in pretty deranged state of mind, ...coping through, i do not know how, only because of my faith in God, or better, because of God's mercy...thank you for everything dear Douglas, i hope you are well, and good... 🙏❤️🌹...God bless you 🙏❤️

  • @karengriffiths9549
    @karengriffiths9549 Před 2 lety

    Sorry doug your not feeling so good
    Them thoughts of feeling like theirs no end to it all are bleak .
    Am like that now
    Wanting to end my life
    I see no end to this suffering and loniness. Am weary and tired of anxiety and crying.
    I will try what u have said in this video.
    Lots of love doug and peace will come again .
    Xx

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety

      Karana encourage you to try some of the strategies I said in the video. Would be great if you could find someone to read encouraging words so you can record them

  • @anthonycotter1493
    @anthonycotter1493 Před 2 lety

    I liked this video as soon as I heard the joke :)
    Please keep telling jokes at the start of your videos

  • @opencurtin
    @opencurtin Před 2 lety +1

    Ive often thought of becoming a therapist but feel too broken to help anyone .

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +3

      Being broken can actually help you understand other peoples problems because you have experienced them yourself

  • @peacemind5829
    @peacemind5829 Před 2 lety +2

    Sir I have a questions for you I am from india 🇮🇳 Please answer me ..I am suffering from depression anxiety and ocd and it was really serious my first year of mental illness I even attempted to suicide now u can imagine how serious it is...but I never ever took medication I was in deep pain....no sleep for months...after one years....I do self counseling watch you tube video reprogramming mind...mind awareness stay....in present I really work hard but I notice there was a massive improvement on me i feel more confident then before I love to face the anxiety and fear......but now last 6 month not feeling that much good but still moving works but anxiety is very bad....I couldn't control on my emotions and thought and have body pain like emotions enery stuck in my body......but I didn't take any medicine...plz suggested me something and what u say about my struggle and recovery

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety

      I suggest that you see a mental health professional who specializes in the treatment of anxiety. When the symptoms get really bad we can't heal on her own. So find someone who's qualified and can help you. Also they might recommend medication as part of your treatment. But that is up for them and you to decide. The important thing is to get professional help.

  • @magnus88mm49
    @magnus88mm49 Před 2 lety +1

    If you make your intrusive thoughts more stronger is it possible to make them weaker

    • @Yellow-Rose
      @Yellow-Rose Před 2 lety +3

      We shouldn't believe what depression tells us. It's a lying, cheating, jealous monster that likes to take cheap shots at us. I say jealous bc many people with depression are often talented and artistic in some way. They have a lot to offer the world and depression wants to take their gifts.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +2

      Yes, many artistic people suffer from depression.

  • @MotherEarth573
    @MotherEarth573 Před 2 lety

    Dear doug, have you ever tried the psychedelics? I heard 1 dose has cured many people long-term depression

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz Před 2 lety +1

    for me its playing some piece of random keys on a electronic piano keyboard,

    • @josejimenaz
      @josejimenaz Před 2 lety

      tat might help music is therapeutic douglas

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  Před 2 lety +1

      Yes, music is very therapeutic.

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz Před 2 lety

    Another ☝️ is be disciplined n eat n drink healthy to avoid a nervous breakdown

  • @julies570
    @julies570 Před rokem

    Thanks