What Are The Symptoms of a Mental Breakdown? The Day I Snapped (Mental Health Doc) | Only Human
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- In contrast to socially acceptable moaning about minor stresses and strains, The Day I Snapped investigates what happens when the stress of working life causes a major meltdown.
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This is not a mental illness. This is a normal reaction to a society that is sick.
It is easier for the system to blame on the individual, to point at someone and say "you're ill, you're having breakdown, you need medication, you need theraphy" than to be honest and say "you're right, this lifestyle is unsustainable, the society needs to change, working conditions need to change, access to a properhousing needs to change, the priorities of society need to change".
Don't let the system blame you, you're not sick, the world is.
FACTS!
Exactly how it is!
Who said this? "Before you diagnose yourself with depression make sure you're not surrounded by idiots!"
Well said.
You are correct. It’s very sad. A time of madness. People are suffering. It reminds me of the book by GeorgeOrwell. “Animal Farm”. I’m sorry for everyone who suffers.
Thank you ❤
No
In the US, breakdown is no option as there is no support if you can’t work. Those who break end up on the streets, generally with no way back.
Absolutely agree.. I'd be on the streets right now without my support system. I'm one of the lucky ones.
There’s unemployment insurance, Medicaid, etc.
@@cherylj7460 No quality of life. No decent housing. No companionship. Sry. I will change places with you.
@@shellyslioneyes I totally understand you 💙
@@shellyslioneyes I’m sorry. I sure don’t intend to imply that unemployment or med. is a solution. Sometimes people don’t know about these services.
The sad thing is, we leave our jobs because of stress, only to find the stress of unemployment.
Yes.
I always have lived very below my means and when I went on workers comp it was a vacation. Everyone should get 1 year off after working 6 or so years
Me
Indeed
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That doesn’t happen in the US. We’re not allowed to have breakdowns if we do, we just get fired.
Sure do! I was forced to quit after working the personal service crisis line for a health insurance company. I was in my prime, was the youngest and highest paid out of my team. I had a mental and nervous breakdown in the middle of work. On top of already having high functioning depression and bipolar 2 no one would ever have the slightest clue I always managed to hide it so well and one day I just broke. My brain just felt like it snapped in half. But that moment was one of the biggest blessings in disguise.
Yes indeed! So sad. We have NO support systems here. As you can see from the amount of homeless and mentally sick.
@@Mercurychyld1
Everyone would stop working if we did.
@@Mercurychyld1 we care more about a stupid football game then we care about people's mental health America sucks
Exactly.
Most people assume breakdowns are only like what they see on tv, but it can be different for everyone. In my case i didn't explode.. i "imploded." On the outside i looked normal (for a while) but i just went quiet and stopped talking to everyone, lost interest in everything, slept all the time to pass the days, barely ate AND ate like a glutton at the same time, stopped taking care of myself and neglected everything, and much more.
What really hurt the most was my family noticed but acted like nothing ever happened.
I relate to this so deeply. How are you doing now?
SO SORRY TO HEAR, A HUG WOULD DO WONDERS, LOVE FROM A STRANGER WOULD ALSO HELP I SAY this from exp, take care this is a hug from me!!!
??? I'm guessing you didn't work during that time either.
@@jjonez787 because working for yourself which is 10x more work is being lazy right? Don't you have anything better to do than target people who are struggling?
@@graceandmercy423 doing slightly better, taking care of myself and health one step at a time, baby steps but i'm progressing slowly but surely. Thanks for asking, how are you?
“Sorry you’re having a breakdown but who’s gonna cover your shift?”
R U serious, because if not then I can understand the sarcasm, but if not pay attention I might learn something that I can help a fellow citizen! Not the company😉😉
This😣
I've been here... I know exactly how it feels to want to just be "gone" not necessarily dead, but gone... To anyone fighting right now, I wish you strength and good health 🙏♥️ I'm still fighting... I hope we will make it.
I hope we do too love 💕
Perfectly stated. Simply not to be or ever been. My breakdown cost me all but my life, which had no value. I started again from scratch.
Lilith I hope you are ok. Sending you strength and love.❤
@@nancyayotte2297 I hope she is too💕
@@afrohuman2 here there ❤
I'm fighting still. Constant crying and probably my physical health isn't good either... I'm sinking 😥
How are you?
I'm sending love ❤
I am a former police officer that developed PTSD. I had heard of the illness but didn’t understand that it was actually a brain injury, it changes the structure of your brain. It was just cumulative trauma. Eventually, my nervous system just snapped. It just couldn’t take any more hits. The illness just warps the way you see the world. You feel like there is no escape. You have been running on “hot” for so long that you are either emotionally flat or furious. Your mood is completely unstable, you get flashes of the images of things you have seen everyday…..these thoughts are intrusive and cannot be controlled. PTSD will leave you feeling like a wounded animal on the side of the road, snarling and nipping at anyone that gets close…..as you perceive that everyone is trying to hurt you. It’s the kind of madness and psychological pain that carries with it suicidal ideation. There is no quick fix or simple treatment with PTSD. Some of us never completely recover, even if we receive quality treatment. I wouldn’t wish PTSD on anyone. It absolutely cripples you.
@@meleshenko3767 Thanks. Recovery is a journey. Namaste.
Wish you the best!
@@kati1017 Namaste.
Thank you for sharing, so much of it doesn't register for most people, it is still a very misunderstood field of well-being. Meditation, especially breathwork, a supportive community, lots of rest and relaxation, and being able to do the things you do love doing, and feeling safe, and unharassed by life and responsibilities for a time, help the nervous system to repair itself, few are lucky to be able to take a time out. Healing is completely possible, it just takes consistent doing and repetition to rewire the brain and heal the nervous system. Just like it took time to fully develop the PTSD, it takes time to get back to a healthier state. I hope you can find more of this for yourself. Sending you immense well-being. EMDR and TIR methods are also really helpful. I am in my own healing journey, maybe some of it helps, maybe you ignore this, either way I wish you the best.
@@charlenevano Yes, recovery is a journey. This is an illness that is misunderstood and extends beyond veterans and first responders. I would agree that it does not register with most. We all fail at times to acknowledge the world that exists beyond our own noses. We are simply behind the 8 ball as a species when it comes to treating trauma related disorders, injuries, and illnesses. Ignorance plays it’s part in the equation as does self-absorption. “It’s not my problem” or worse…..”who cares?”. We have to have compassion for one another. When we look upon another who is suffering, we must acknowledge a bit of ourselves and our own frailty. Illness and death come to us all. There is a divine spark inherent to each life. My healing story is not just about me as we are all interconnected. Namaste.
In the mid-1990's I had a mental breakdown at work. I was working on a very hectic Med Surg unit at the hospital one evening and I finally snapped after I was told for the 5th time that Mrs so and so needed medication. I had so much coming at me at the same time and no one to help that I started screaming and crying hysterically in the middle of the hall and afterward I stood there babbling incoherently. I was sent home and took two months off, started on anti-depressants, and started seeing a therapist. I went back to work and was doing O.K until a year and a half later and then had to take another month off due to extreme stress. Again I returned to work and was able to transfer to a less stressful unit and worked there for 5 years without a problem until the unit closed. Then I was transferred to Oncology and within two years I had to resign because I could no longer deal with the stress. As of 2015 I no longer work in health care.
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I understand you so well...and health care is not the place for anyone to function in...its nothing to do with you....its a horrible place to work ...no one helps and the work loads are huge...the pressures are extreme .....goid for you for leaving your way better off...i nearly had a breakdown a few times because the work place environment sucks...if you complain your going down...i finalky reached the age if retirement..was burnt out....and sm happily retired...never ever feel bad that you left
I really feel for you. Healthcare is hugely stressful. And I hope you’ve found an identity away from it, because I know so many of us ARE healthcare workers. It’s not what we do, it’s who we are, and just like the social worker in this video, without an identity like that, we often don’t know who or how to live. The guy who became a builder is an excellent example of how important it is for us to find what we are supposed to be & happiest at, away from our original career.
You tried to cope. You made the right decision ❤
Empath ❤
So brutally honest... "Choosing to die is one of the last taboos isn't it? Once one has tried to end it, and survived, one knows you can always do it again. Not doing so is more out of respect for those around you than out of a real desire to live,"
Not always. Im a Christian. No one would care if I died. Except God. I just pray daily to be taken. Im in 3 late stage diseases. Id rather be dead than continue to suffer.
@@shellyslioneyes you're stronger than you realize. I admire you admitting the truth.
Is there any wishes you have?
@@shellyslioneyes no one would care about me either...I actually think people want me gone.... but it's not up to them.
I would care. 💙
@@peggyh4805 bless you.🙏 You're an amazing soul ❤️
I had a breakdown during Covid. My body was tired, mind was tired, I was completely burned out. I was diagnosed with Catatonia. Honestly being on the mental health unit was the most peaceful time in my life and that’s saying a lot…
Our souls are suffocating.
Yes. It's very sad. We all live on prison planet Earth. Be in the world and not of the world. It's a spiritual war. Peace.
@@screentake01 it’s a plane not a planet. We are meant to be in a personal relationship with our Creator. Jesus is the light. But it is absolutely a spiritual war! And it’s getting heavier by the minute
@@laylascott6096 what do you mean..it's a plane and not a planet?
Please pray and know Christ loves you
@@laylascott6096amen❤
I’ve been in the operating room for 22 years, and we’ve always been overworked and underpaid. Long hours, insufficient staffing, unsupportive management and mean surgeons have destroyed my body and soul.
Oh No! I would hope u remember all those who U helped to heal with the skill u brought to help these souls in need.I hope this brings U some comfort!knowing wonderful caring people like U still exist.✌️🦋
This is why we need a four day work week.
Nooooooooo! More work is needed, idle hands do the devils work. It’s a meaningless , shallow, intrusive fake extrovert society that is the problem.
A 40 hour work week is not a life 😢
And a better work/life balance which most government not care about
That is happening in Denmark and Sweden, the 4 day week.
People think less workhours will make life better but that won't solve there issues. The problem is much bigger and has to do with issues like structure of society and so on.
No one with major depression should watch this. The music is so sad and so were the stories. I had to turn it off, I was dissociating 😢
Thank you.
I'm coping with cannabis while I watch to be honest
Thank you. I really appreciate this comment. 🫂
I’m forcing myself to watch the whole thing because I feel like I’m a failure if I can’t. It’s a vicious cycle 😞
@@Monkey_Wolf03 not true. We were taught that self-care was selfish. It's the most caring thing we can do for everyone. Don't worry about the selfish thing, protect your own emotions. No one else can.❤️
Working in mental health care is one of the most difficult jobs one can possibly do! Taking on other people's grief is incredibly difficult!
I just saw a study about the 10 most dangerous jobs. All of them were physical injury and primarily of something that could happen. They don’t look at the mental and emotional dangers at all, probably because more women go into these roles so aren’t taken seriously.
Awe 😢
It did me in after 30+ years, covid fatigue. Live in my car now
It’s called vicarious trauma and is very common in the helping professions. In being caring we become like huge sponges.
@@vickiegveg
This was amazing. When the man said he feels good when he leaves work on Friday but then feels anxiety about going to work as soon as he wakes on Saturday... that's me.
......thats everyone.
Same 😢
a deep dread that sets off more symptoms that leave you unproductive, intrusive thoughts and isolating in an attempt to bring some type of reprieve.
I look forward to my 2 days of doing nothing….but filled with anxiety 24/7. I forced myself this weekend to not open my laptop, but knowing I will be behind the 8 ball on Monday.
Yep. It’s really like 1 day off to rest, and one day filled with absolute dread.
Depression is anger without enthusiasm.
No
Perhaps unreleased anger
I left my whole career last year due to stress. My boss was bullying me and the expectations and lack of support had become too much. When I decided to leave I felt a physical lightness.
I hope you are doing better.
Glad you got out ❤
bullying drive me to suicidal thinking
Congratulations!
Wishing you all the best!
And you didn't challenge him to a fist fight? Shame on you
We have had 6 suicides on the train network in Melbourne Aus in the last fortnight . People at moment are so stressed out by cost of living ; rising rents; grocery costs etc etc. please reach out and get the help you need.
So true...I had two major psychotic breakdowns ( working in mental health as a single mother, low wage and high high stress) i kept ending up in crisis, housing stress, health issues ...broke and destitute in suicidal major depression...( twice once my daughter was grown up)....just completely unmanageable my life became. Stress overload, I just couldn't cope at all. It was so lonely and I felt so helpless to ever get well. I'm alcoholic also but have been experiencing miraculous recovery in a 12 step program and talking with others who have experienced poor mental health has really helped me to not feel alone. I Found the program in a residential rehab when I could not get ongoing treatment or support at psychiatric facility during several different hospital admissions. Mental health is so under resourced in Australia...but in treatment for alcoholism and therapeutic support I've found peace, a safe home, renewed hope and a meaningful life. Enjoying very good mental health and wellbeing after a 35 year long suffering. We can and do recover if we can find the right support. Homelessness is such a traumatic experience, my heart goes out to the many people who are in this situation right now. Loving kindness and compassion to all who suffer mental illness ❤ please don't give up ❤
Is there any help don't think so 😢
Yes. Reach out give someone a chance to help you. You might be the reason someone else finds their worth.
@@michelleaguirre6412 There is. ❤ I hope you're safe. It seems like you might need someone to talk to? Just know people do care. I care.
@@michelleaguirre6412 sweet soul do you need to talk?
I wanted to be laid off… everyone was laid off around me … but not me 😭😫😖 I ended up quitting shortly after… financially devastating, but a relief
This video should be mandatory viewing in schools hospitals and mental heath services
I was a teacher once and had a full breakdown. I had to leave 3/4 of the way into the year. I wanted to leave the first day I was there, but endured as long as I could. I stopped eating at one point, lost 15 pounds. All I would do is come home and lie on the ground, sometimes I would sleep there. I’d go to bed at 7:30 sometimes. It was the worst time of my life. Being a teacher in my state is a night mare.
I quit being a teacher. It doesn't pay enough for the stress in the USA
Was it California? I’m a teacher and I’m feeling it….just 4 more weeks until summer break. 🫨🫣🤪😵💫🙃🤪🫨🙃😔🫣😵💫😲🥺
I worked with a nurse many years ago who taught Jr High for 2 years and then had to quit because she could no longer handle having to deal with the same disrespectful and out-of-control students for 9 months straight.. She did fine in nursing because even though it was stressful her assignments were different each week and she had different patients.
@@prettybullet7728 This demonic powers of the sons of Cain.
You must be in CA….I’m subbing and it’s horrific…
After struggling with general anxiety and stress for years I finally collapsed. I was screaming and crying and banging my head against the steering wheel. The pain was so overwhelming my body and mind just could not contain it any longer. I just wanted to stop existing, But it was also a blessing, it was my turning point to seek for professional help. Sometimes we need to hit bottom, and then the only way is up.
I agree, but I like to say that it is necessary to stay down there, but on my feet battling demons enough to accept the dark side. From there I move forward, but not back to where I fell from. Its a slow and steady rise. Its one of the things that helped me retire from drinking, to "slowly land the airplane". I suppose one could slowly take flight as well.
Sometimes I wonder if breakdowns in some situations are "normal" reactions to a highly abnormal state of our current society. Society has become highly complex and demanding while at the same time, social supports have become weaker. The previous generations that had a sense of purpose and persistence/fortitude during difficult times were grounded by community and spiritual meaning, which has all but fallen away in the last few decades. I think this loss and the complexity/demands impacts sensitive souls the most. I recommend that people simplify their lives as much as possible (material items, debt, social media, unwanted social obligations), take time out in nature to gain perspective, and pray or meditate to reconnect to the essential.
@@kristinab1078 you are so right, totally agree with you. But I think the urge to be part of a community is too deep engraved in our DNA. a heritage of our ancestors, It used to be a survival mechanism, being part of a herd. And today from a psychological point of view it still is. Therefore I believe eventually when all modern individualism starts to loose its glamour, we will go back to basic
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I work in a toxic place. Yesterday was horrible and I called in sick today because I almost lost it on several people yesterday. I feel bad about taking a day but I need it.
Don’t worry about taking a day off! Take more!!
@@cathyhunnemeder3064 Right. Your mental health is more important. Sending hugs 🤗
Sick days are for when you are mentally burnt out
I never call in unless I am ready to break down....
The day I snapped was when I had a full blown panic attack on a bus. In the middle of the highway, I asked the driver to please let me off. I couldn't breathe. I thought I was having a heart attack. I laid down in the middle of the side walk. I couldn't careless who was watching me. It was extremely frightening. That was when I knew my body had reached its limit on stress. Unfortunately mine wasn't due to work. It was due to my marriage.
I went through something similar. My brain almost broke from the stress/abuse in my marriage. Are you ok? Are you safe?
I also can relate. I've tried for years. Said I was done. Now, he's going to be a better man. I can't do it. I have so much contempt for this person. I love myself and forgive myself.
I've noticed lots of women in the comments. How's feminism working out for you?
@@starlingswallow I'm safe . Thank you for asking. It was nothing physical but more of a mental abuse. Years of that and I'm now left with a panic disorder. Stress is so powerful and scary. I believed it altered my brain.
Between my marriage and my bi polar son I feel like brain and heart are going to explode. I can't believe I haven't had a heart attack from the stress and heartbreak
It is like an elastic band of which the ability to stretch has gone forever ...
Stress will break a person eventually. Its like not sleeping more than 2-4 hrs a night for 6 yrs. I know. My brain is not "streching" anymore.
yes, we develop such a high tolerance to pain and suffering eventually backfires.
Whoever thought it was a good idea for people to teach boys and men not to cry? The consequences of not expressing grief and overwhelm are really tragic.
You are right on, which is why I always encouraged my son from the time he was born that humans are equipped with tears to shed, to release. We’re not conforming to societal ways of thinking that boys and men don’t cry, even women have reached a stage where you don’t see them crying anymore either. We’re missing some very common sense human nature stuff here world of people. If we don’t stop with all the nonsense, we need to start looking at not having children anymore because the world we live in, we as humans are very far removed. Suffering and struggle exist within us all as a whole.
Yes indeed😊
This is what happened to me in nursing after 40 years I finally broke. What was odd is there was nobody there to help me like I had helped everyone else. Then I lost my income and had no experience in any other field so it made matters worse in my life. I sure didn't have money to go and talk to a professional about it so I just suffered through it. All of the long hours and constant stress took a toll on my physical health too., because I had a heart attack at 49 but healed and still kept working until, finally, I just completely broke. I am now 56 and have no clue what to do. I started in nursing at 15 as a nurses aide so it is, literally, all I know.
🙏🙏🙏
❤
You are not alone. I’m in same boat.
Been a nurse for 30 years, have had to step away a few times in that length of time. Management is unforgiving and there is no one to take care of YOU, you lose your benefits and cannot go to doctors and therapists. It is ironic to be sure, you are not alone, i completely felt that, I cannot make enough to live doing anything else either. ❤
oh no...I wish I could say something to make things ok for you....big wifi hugs! 💗
I have had to many breakdown. Just because I'm okay on the outside does not mean I'm okay on the inside.
I has a nervous breakdown of the street so severe (without warning) that during the crisis I almost fainted and people came over and started carrying me inside a restaurant. For me it was due to a series of cumulative stress/anxiety throughout 2 years and in this day nothing particular triggered it but all emotions came up bursting out like when when shaking a soda can. I started hyperventilating and couldn’t breathe and started screaming and crying and that’s when I was falling down… Thank God for the people that helped me!
I’m glad you’re ok. It’s so scary and debilitating
God loves you in Jesus name
I took care of my boyfriend, who became physically handicapped and very ill, for nine years. I was so burnt out that I seriously and literally wanted to be reincarnated as a dog, in a quiet home. I wanted to be a dog and lay around as much as I wanted and cuddle with other dogs or humans and be taken care of and not have anything to worry about or do. There were times when I would just lay on the floor on my stomach and not be able to move, I was so paralyzed with exhaustion. I loved him so much but I just wasn't strong enough. Every day was a constant struggle. Plus I have my own health issues. I had to put him in a nursing home and felt like a terrible failure.
@ Donna Knudson, Sweet lady, you are NOT a failure, you are only human. You did all you could do & then some. God bless you! Love & hugs to you 😘🫂❤️🌹🙏🙏🙏
You weren’t strong enough?? No you were beyond strong! I wouldn’t have lasted a year. I always wish I could be more like those who have such strength to do such work. To be a care taker that long is beyond commendable. And in most cases unfathomable. You are incredibly kind empathetic and your strength is on 20. Thank you for your long term service to another and being the very change and motivation we all want to see in the world.
You are so incredibly strong. I took care of my mother for years, I absolutely relate to the feeling of wanting to be taken care of and reincarnated as a dog. I literally said the same thing to my dad the other day. Sending you love❤
Caregiver burnout is a very REAL issue, and nothing ro be ashamed of. We all have to have time for ourselves every now and again...if we don't, we will lose ourselves. Please don't feel bad for putting him in a home....look at it this way: you are the sole reason he was able to live at home for so long...
Also, if you think about it, people who work at a nursing home, do a shift, and get to have time away from caring for patients. They work in a team. You did all of that alone, almost with no breaks. You did really well and now you need to look after yourself. You did incredibly well.
The US needs better mental health care. It's embarrassing in comparison to the UK.
US needs a better social structure. More communal, more humane. Less capitalistic. Less controlled by corporations. That would eliminate the need for 90% of mental health services.
The US needs to tax the rich until they leave. I'm not joking. There's something highly evil about them. And there's no reforming them. And they don't have talents or knowledge which surpass the average person. All they have is money which they use to corrupt the system and maintain their unfair advantage.
Somehow, someway, we need to get the psychopaths with money out of here. We'd all be better off without their lies, propaganda, cruelty, hoarding, and bribes.
Better health care all around
Lots of Americans living here in UK, maybe thats the reason. Can't be pay.
preach
It took me 5 years after my breakdown to get back to functioning, 11 years later and my brain still isn’t the same or my body.. as my brain healed my body disabled. Stress makes it all worse. I’m no longer who I was by any stretch.. The Career and goal oriented Single mom. All my friends are gone. I have 2 of 3 of my grandkids to give my love too. I am still easily overwhelmed and my fibro is constantly flaring as my stress goes up. The massive amount of stress I endured before the breakdown🤯👀🤯🤬. I disagree about pets. I feel with fibro it limits normal activity. I’m still in therapy and finally found meds that seem to be working. With M DD I have to really fight not to sink into the dark and now I can see the signs. Sending love and light 💕 to everyone fighting with mental and physical health
I hear you.
@@river8760 💕💕😔
@@river8760 me to
Hello 👋 are you ok?
Sending love 💝
@@iLilith11 I am. Thank you💕 I still struggle daily but I really appreciate the less painful days more 💕
I’ve been on antidepressants for 15 years and I’m only 30. I take them simply because I can’t tell if they are helping or not. I really felt it when he said the same thing.
Imagine all of the doctors and nurses who are working in hospitals that are understaffed, the stress level is dangerous for them as well as patients. Laws and regulations need to stop corporations from understaffing hospitals, schools, nursing homes, etc. When your citizens are sick physically and mentally, it will eventually bankrupt the country. Teachers are leaving schools due to stress, medical staff leaving healthcare due to stress. What is happening should alarm everyone.
My mental breakdown was from a horrible, traumatic divorce. My ex used his position working in the USA, and we are Canadian. He wanted to gain everything. And he expected me to go back to Canada without my children.
Now, 11 years later, his second wife, an American, divorced him in 2021.
Karma is real, present, and even's things out.
My x abused me and my own kids and his family are Responsible for the TRUTH, what happens in the dark will come out to the light no one can mock Jeh God..
Karma!
I had a breakdown in 2009. Hospitalized for 3 days. I drank 16 oz of triple sec then swallowed a bunch of Tylenol. Was forced to drink a charcoal drink and vomit. It was a horrible time for me. I hope I never have another one. If you are struggling, please put yourself first. Don’t shrug it off.
Putting yourself first is kinda impossible when you have young kids. They depend on you putting them first. 🤷♂️
@@saschamayer4050 yes for sure. Their welfare was often my only motivation to get off the floor.
@@joan.nao1246
I know that feeling. 🙂
You are lucky you survived that. My son did not. Acute liver failure from acetaminophen toxicity.
I’m glad you’re here❤
I can relate immensely I got bullied a lot at work plus to make matters worst I have Social Anxiety 😔
That’s sad to hear , hope things get better
Bullied at work? Like, by grown adults???
@@bettycat4832 yes
@Betty Cat I can't yell you how ridiculous "adults" act and think they are entitled to treat others
This is IMO what happens to a whole generation of latch key kids with not enough parental and grandparents' good guidance.
@@akcirapoo3569 Yikes. I'm sorry you had to put up with stupid people who never frikken grew up. Last year I was attending a credit recovery school and in the office there were these two ladies who would have meetings with students (some of these kids were either homeless, pregnant, or moving away from their abusive parents) and right after these kids would leave they'd start talking trash about them like it was gossip or something. "I don't know why she thinks she's gonna graduate" "yeah she's turning 21 in 2 months and still needs like 8 credits". Like giggling and joking about these kids who were in awful situations with so many problems that they probably WEREN'T going to graduate. Broke my heart to hear grown ups talking like that. And they were so nice to us until we left the room.
this is Britain and the NHS had a doctor coming to the house, an ambulance and hospital stay for a panic attack and home nurses for the sick farmer, it makes me feel incredibly touched over my mother country, this level of care does not exist in Australia.. I miss the gentleness of the culture..
Nor here in the U.S. Nobody cares here. Even the suicide hotline will place you on hold!
But with 1/5 of the population struggling with mental health, it's clearly not that gentle. Does everyone that needs it have that level of care?
I have last stages of 3 chronic diseases and I beg to be kept. But in USA, state poverty insurance doesn't allow it till your on deaths door. Even then, you can't die in hospital. I wont take dialysis. Poverty and quality of life makes is a nil issue. Im ready to go. I wont be missed. Im so lonely anyway.
Why in America our homeless population is huge and we have the most people in prison (in the entire world) because we don't have health care for most, and ones that do either have very large deductibles or mental illness isn't covered. The British people have no idea how lucky they are!
To Shellyslioneyes I am so sorry for your situation. You're not alone, there are many of us and it may sound crazy but I find that nature is my soul mate and constant companion always with love in their heart.
I was working as a sushi chef and had a mental breakdown on the line due to personal life and well as workplace stressors. 12 hour shifts 6 days a week also I have family members I’m a care giver for. I was messing up basic orders I should be able to do in my sleep. My boss pulled me aside and DIDNT ask me if I was okay, instead asked me if I was on drugs. Walked out, didn’t look back.
Good on you!
I learned a lot from this video. Thank you for making it.
I don’t feel so abnormal now.
I felt the sorriest for the farmer. Having animals dependent on him for care, life and death. I had a small farm and had to let it go after my husband died. Never did it again.
Is feeling worse than not feeling? Just curious from your perspective.
I'm going through this exact thing, only I stare at the ceiling for hours on end. With thoughts of no purpose, I'm just done.
I'm a professional clinical mental health and lifestyle medicine therapist. There are around 8000 fully trained university educated helpers in Australia out of work because the government disregards us as practitioners. Without Medicare rebates ppl cannot afford the extra burden to care for their mental health. Our industry needs regulation
I'm a USA 🇺🇸 citizen and I support you 100%. Your education is required in this day and age for people to be able to cope with the demands of life these days. Those who can't afford this valuable care are the ones that need mental care the most! Sending light ✨️ and love ❤️
All by design, make no mistake.
@@soulthriver-oz6470 Sadly you're right. Most humans now are just slaves, the greedy ones are just fine.
Like in America, it's cheaper to just let people be homeless or put in jail rather than have professionals like you to treat them. Thanks for helping people.
Thankyou all for the support. I have provided over 1000 hours of free unpaid counselling and mental health help for ppl in the last 12 months. It's a tough gig but this is me - what I do for my fellow humans
Wow, great medical response. In the United States, there is little support for mental breakdowns or exhaustion. Many many many people are closed to breaking point throughout our cities
100,000 THUMBS UP.
Thank the dentist's for that. They'd been pushing to close mental health facilities, since shortly after WW2. Rehab made the mistake of acquiescing.
Every idea a democratic has is destructive.
our modern lives have us in treadmill from college to work and we run ourselves into the ground
I've had several breakdowns, it seems. I feel so fragile now that I can't trust myself to take on responsibilities. I'll flake out when I get the last bit stressed. I just can't, anymore.
I tried going to university - I love school - but I couldn't handle it, especially after COVID hit. I kept failing classes. My doctor told me to cut my course load. 4 classes to 2, 2 to 1, then my financial aid was cut off because I wasn't taking enough classes... Needless to say, I've dropped out.
It goes in waves. It's starting to get bad again...
If you haven’t already, start taking b vitamins. Especially b1. Nutritional yeast-saved my life.
Seek mental health counseling. Not trying to arm chair diagnose you, but I have a feeling you've got some trauma to work out.
@sallyostling no everyone can afford that.
@@lifesong8484 there's always a way. If you're low income, ask/apply for services. There are hotlines you can call that can direct you to other options. If someone is broken, the chance of putting themselves back together again in a good way are few and far between.
My breakdown wasn’t from work, but the lack of meaningful work, pulled me farther down. When I was in a severe depressed state it was difficult to sell myself to obtain work. But, I was desperate for work to support myself. It took years and much psychotherapy to help me create a life that matters to me.
Bless all the participants in this piece…I hope that they never loose sight of their place in this human experience. There is one for all of us!
I can relate so much to this, it's scary.
At the age of 21,I had a breakdown, following the death of my mother & laid off from work a few months later.
I already had depression & anxiety since the age of 5, when my dad died.
I had agoraphobia & forced myself to work. It doesn't help to have sarcastic, & toxic employers. I'm grateful I'm retired now. Still taking meds for the anxiety / depression, it doesn't go away.
Why oh why do managers have to be so toxic?
menopause brought on a mental breakdown for me, HRT saved my life
Just came across this. I know the pain these folks are speaking so candidly of. Tears are pooling as I type. Wishing you all well.
Same
I've just made the tough decision to move from Funeral and mortuary care to a more gentle career. One part of me is devastated but the other part feels liberated. This speaks to me so much. Thanks
Goid for you look after yourself you did the right thing
Been following you and reading of your journey for a bit now and I hope you don’t mind me chiming in as soon as I read you were switching to a more gentle career path the energy in my whole body became electrified ~ this is 99.99% accurate for a positive outcome for you ! 💚🙏🏼💚🙏🏼💚🙏🏼💚
You did the right thing ❤
I wish you the best!
@Victoria Scott. Congratulations on being so brave! 😀
I thought no one would understand mr struggles. Watching this video and reading the comments I don’t feel so alone. In the “real world” it’s still a stigma! I lost my apartment during my 2nd breakdown, but recuperating and getting my feet has been a mountain. Employers don’t care, bills are still waiting on you. And if you look normal, are single, in your 40s and able bodied, you won’t get disability or support services to help monetarily to catch up.
Thats ruff
This is how I feel everyday
Last Saturday I tried to hold in my cry in an ICU unit about 10 times before I broke down crying and asked to go home saying I vomited because my eyes were so watery, I have been to a therapist and I'm getting there, I'm so lonely, I've been a carer for 8 years and have no one to care for me or even talk too. I'm trying to love myself again.
One day at a time x
It is so ironic and painful to be a carer, but uncared for. I respond to others with care too, but it seems there’s none for me. I get you. I think many of us are taken for granted at work and even in our families. We do need to do something about it but it’s not easy. Loving ourselves is of course a starting place. Good luck on your journey.
I also am a medical professional and feel the same way…..I take care of people all day, employees and patients and I have no one at home to show a kindness to myself so I tell myself be kind to yourself and do not feel guilty for sitting in 1 spot for 6 hours
I hate it when other people tell me oh you are strong. What do they know about being bullied constantly at work. And when you speak up, you the one subject to be seen as the trouble maker. Yet on the outside, the company posted a sign " Speak up". I finally broke down a cried. The next morning my blood pressure is 199/100. Then I feel something is terribly wrong
"There was no value in what I was doing...."
Yep.
That was my 'Last straw,' too.
Social workers have my respect. They are unappreciated, underpaid and are such a blessing. Thank you
It's lovely to see the role of pets in these people's recoveries. 💜🐾
I’ve almost had 2 mental break downs. Where I seriously thought I’d have to be taken somewhere. But, my ability to communicate well with my husband, I think is what prevented them from going 100 all the way with me.
You are lucky. I have been trying to communicate with my husband but he gives me substandard support. I want to die
@@babigirl9111 Don't try to get blood from a stone. Find a new friend. Volunteering puts you in touch with caring people. 🫂💜
My circumstances were different because while I worked in the beauty industry, and was dealing with my schizophrenic son. I got to the point where I was holding back thoughts about my clients complaining about how their hair wasn't right or their nails was an emergency because they had a social
whatever or what to wear. To me, that all became trivial where it once was important to me also. I just wanted to tell them to shut the eff up. Of course I never said that out loud. I was dieing inside watching my son struggle. And he handled it with grace and strength. I died from the meds and I finally just broke. 😢
I can relate, I have a daughter with schizoaffective she’s doing ok now though thank god
What was your last phrase? Did you die from the meds? I don't understand.
I'm so sorry - I have a son with schizophrenia who has a heart condition and isn't responsive to most meds. It's heartbreaking to witness. Wish there was a cure for it.
Can you explain “I died from the meds.”
I hope you are finding healing and support.
I worked in the fashion industry, and I experienced the same thing. The seriousness at which clothes and beauty are treated made me physically sick. So, I left.
If you’re not putting yourself 1st you make yourself vulnerable.
True and it could be conditioning from a narcissistic parent to not put yourself first.
Hello Darlings... I have been there for many, many years, but don't give in please. I have escaped through the will of goodness and have never been happier in every way ❤
I'm a strong person and not too many things can cause me to allow depression to take over. I have been depressed when I lost my first son in 1989, it was the worse heart wrecked feeling and I would not want anyone to feel like whar your spouse called them..omg he called me a murderer, when I had no control over the baby's death, I still haven't received an apology from him..but he's paying for it I suppose,,
So sorry for your loss...🙏✨
So sorry for your loss 🙏💔
So sorry… men tend to be angry and mean when they are depressed or heartbroken. Sorry you had to go through this.
God bless you 😢you are a survivor and have suffered. Sympathy for your great loss
Outstanding, balanced presentation. As one woman who had attempted suicide & survived in reflection said even though the option was still there it was "out of deep respect for those that cared for me that I know I won't try again..." indeed. We are loved, cared about, & we are stardust: endless.
That was my reason for not attempting in the first place. I do not want to hurt my family, my children.
❤️🙏🏽
First time I've cried from a CZcams comment.
I always wanted to start a program for people on the brink that instead of quitting life, they could instead escape their life and begin a new one. There are infinite lives out there to live and you aren’t actually permanently tied to any of them. At any given day just as you are allowed to pull the plug on your life, you could walk away from your whole life even if it was for a little while until they felt like emerging old life into their new life. If they never wanted to go back, the program would help them establish a new permanent life with all new people and new experiences. This would be a solution for many looking to end it all due to exhaustion and obligation. It would’nt be perfect as many left behind would be hurt and confused, but if this person had ended it all permanently, those people were going to already experience a much greater pain anyway. In this case, they can at least know the absence isn’t likely forever.
I think people living a dead end life just need to escape THEIR reality and be introduced into a completely different one in a new area of life that doesn’t cross reference with the last life. This is the closest thing to a healthy s uicide. Oriole just need to be shown this one life theyve been existing in isn’t the only road of existence. We tend to think THIS IS IT. And when you think that, of course you’ll want to end it. But maybe instead of being a highly stressed Surgeon dealing with a mountain of lawsuits and claims you’ll love being a bartender in Montego Bey on an beach making people smile all day. Something you forgot you yourself could do. Would be a very rewarding life altering program.
I would love to be your first test subject. So ready to walk away or call it quits either way just don’t want to continue this way.
I love this. I have to remind myself some times that changing up everything is always a possibility and should be bravely attempted before any permanent solution. It’s can be difficult to know sometimes if one’s depression and anxiety is situational or not, and I love your idea as a way to find out. But yes, we can also make dramatic changes on our own if we can find the courage and move our feet.
This is a excellent point of view,you are absolutely right, I wish more people think this way and built a project together.
If only that was an option!... Not being able to leave my hometown n childhood trama is what's killing me...
Let me know when you could heal my disabilities. I have no one to "leave behind." Only my age, chronic severe health issues and poverty and severe malnutrition holds me back. If you have a way out of this, let me know. Im a Christian so no bartending, but I'd love to do something for ppl. As it is, I have no friends, and my 4 kids are involved with their own lives...as they should. I had my life. At 53, I will never be a burden to them or to a man.
They found something that gave them a sense of accomplishment, purpose, to feel proud of their work (how they spend their day) , something that gave them a sense of joy. When school or work become drudgery, heed the sign, symptom. Either add something, or remove something, find the new combination that works for you. The corporate world of arbitrary goals, and arbitrary expectations of always outperform last year is not the normal, biological human experience. Great video. Adding that, Nutrition and minerals, healthy diet matter as well. Many symptoms can onset due in part to being depleted in minerals. Working inside offi es and lack of outdoor time also matter.
My work woudlnt allow me even 1 days off. I ended up quitting
I'm sorry. Your health comes first. Best wishes.❤
You did the right thing.
Im very thankful and grateful that my employer has very strict personal vitality rules. I got sent home to regenerate mentally and physically, whilst keeping my pay, and could worry about myself and my kid.
How lucky you all are to not be in the US. I feel like I need to get out of here to a commonwealth country I am running out of options to survive.
We all are.
I follow the guy Simon on his wildlife Aid channel and I never knew he was going through this. I agree that I would rather be with animals then people because they don’t judge. All they want is to be cared for and loved. I hope Simon continues to find his joy saving the wild animals. He’s seems like such a nice guy and humorous as well.
Can you share the link to his channel please? I love supporting wildlife refuge channels by subscribing & the work they do is much needed!
Try looking for “wildlife aid” I think it’s the same guy,,, good luck
It's good to listen to real stories. Just the facts. Little music and no drama.
I feel like I’m about to have one. I literally couldn’t sleep last night and woke up shaking. It’s stressful running your own business. Yesterday I thought I died in my sleep. I had an outer body feeling. With no health insurance I have no idea how to cope.
Hi Eva....hang on in there gal. I have had similar. I get an awful sensation that my soul is trying to leave my body through the top of my head. It's not nice. You will get through this and you will learn from it . Life is a tough old journey. My faith gets me through. Forget yesterday, don't worry about tomorrow. Just do today. Practice it. You will make it. Lots of love from Lana ❤❤
@@davespencer2425 thanks for your lovely words. I completely lost my faith.
God bless you!!
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I have had that soul slipping away feeling too. Mine is certainly unresolved grief over the loss of my only child. It's been twelve years.
Sending love to everyone 💗
The struggle is so real 😢
Be kind to yourselves
I wish I could hug all of you and tell you it's going to be ok
I can only say from personal experience that sometimes just breathing is all you have the strength to do and other times you find yourself smiling and you feel well
Be kind to yourself
You matter, and you are enough
Only someone who had these types of issues can understand the courage it takes to face each day
@Charmaine Priestman. I'm sending you hugs! You have a very kind heart. Thank you for you're encouragement. I needed it.
@@jennifersherman8838 🥰❣️
Very rare to find diamonds in the rough Charmaine...but you definitely shine with your beautiful cut"💎...your heartful words are refreshing & a reflection of a kind soul"...may health always keep with you"...& all safe & best wishes sent with smile 😊🌻🌿
@@janekendall1220 💟
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Been there during Covid. I fantasized about driving off the hwy
Isn't this just the ultimate in workplace bullying? surely its time to call this treatement of employees what it is and hold organisations to account for it.
I had a breakdown 10 years ago , my brain collapsed and I had amnesia for 6 weeks , I remember bits and pieces, I was driving and doing everyday things but I don’t remember , I changed my email ,password without being “conscious “, voice mail code , I colored my hair , sometimes I would be conscious and be horrified because i had bought stuff or been on a date without remembering
I wonder are a lot of people may have undiagnosed a high functioning autism as many older ppl are going around without the understanding of there needs, thank god the kids are getting diagnosed nowadays but it’s the older ppl that don’t know themselves. Burnout is a sign in adults
Yep! I’ve discovered that this year at48… it’s sad because we are lost and no one there to help us
I had a complete mental breakdown at 40, what saved my life was going on a ketogenic diet and eating fermented foods, like homemade kefir, homemade sauerkraut. If you can't think clearly, constantly worrying about everything, and feel like you're falling apart look into changing your diet. Sugar and carbs are very inflammatory for some people.
Totally agree. Its life changing for me.
Gut health and mental health
Met a man once after a complete and total emotional breakdown. He acted like a five year old. He was once a successful business man
Retired from AT&T here in USA. Quotas, quotas.....
Micromanagement.
This is happening to me right now, i am trying my best to communicate this to those around me but the advice i get almost every time is to "suck it up". I didnt show up to work today, and need to get the sick leave paper (idk what its called) and im so anxious that the doctor is going to dismiss my struggles.
To anyone out there struggling, please do what you think is the best for your mind and soul. Do not put up with anything
Sometimes I wonder if breakdowns in some situations are "normal" reactions to a highly abnormal state of our current society. Society has become highly complex and demanding while at the same time, social supports have become weaker. The previous generations that had a sense of purpose and persistence/fortitude during difficult times were grounded by community and spiritual meaning, which has all but fallen away in the last few decades. I think this loss and the complexity/demands impacts sensitive souls the most. I recommend that people simplify their lives as much as possible (material items, debt, social media, unwanted social obligations), take time out in nature to gain perspective, and pray or meditate to reconnect to the essential.
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@@SA-hy6nw Thanks for bothering to read it and commenting. :)
Totally agree - i left the city ten years ago and moved to the mountains with my dogs and thankfully have been able to work from home. Nature, animals and getting away from everyone has been my healing.
I relate so much here. I felt that. I’ve been there and still recovering
❤(((hugs)))
Constant pressure to produce, never rest. Make money or you're a douchebag (or crazy)... There's something profoundly sick about society. The whole thing revolves around money... I don't blame these people for getting tired of it. More to life than money. I won't earn popularity points for saying that.
I'm there right now can't stop crying for no reason
I am so sorry Frances that you are experiencing a difficult time; I hope you will be feeling better soon.
@@marietaylor5174 🙏🏼💯💙thank you Marie 💜
I hope you can connect with someone who can help, Frances. I’m sorry you’re dealing with so much.
Hang in there Frances. Just know that whatever has a hold on you, the situation will change in time. Sometimes crying for no reason can be medical. A doctor might be able to help. But for now, just know there are others who have experienced this, you are not alone. I’m sending a virtual hug 🤗. It helped me to “take myself in hand” and encourage myself to do one thing at a time, make a cup of tea, sit down at the table…prepare a snack…questioning myself, am I hungry, do I need rest, shall I have a little walk…etc as if one part of me was taking care of the sad lost feeling person as I worked through some major grief.
@@elisesterling9634 your right I've been on my own for ever I'm 61
& Dealt all kinds of life situations!!
Body change etc.! I never had children & no family to speak of!?
I do have a wonderful husband!!
28 yrs !!
Thank you for your time & also reaching out!!🙏🏼🪶🍁 ☯️
Do be well & safe 🌎
I work for the healthcare industry in the U.S. and you would think they would be more compassionate regarding this kind of thing. NO not even close.
It is frightening when one can relate to too much of what they are saying.
After 18 years, I had to sell my business after a slow build up of depression and stress. I finally broke down, spent 3 weeks at a psychiatric hospital and have never fully recovered. Didn’t cost me any money though. 🇨🇦
I felt like what these people described. I'm a retired nurse now, but while working, it became so stressful that I found myself sitting in my car crying before work and then sitting in my car after work crying my heart out. Having someone's life in your hands day in and day out takes its toll on people. I had to retire at 62 for my own sanity because I just could not take the stress any longer. Being retired with little to no income is stressful in itself, but it's a lot better than working daily and questioning my own sanity.
I feel like I'm on edge all the time. I'm fed up having to explain myself. I don't know what's going to happen.
you sound miserable, go see a shrink
Be there, done that. Husband had no mercy. He made it worse.
I have epilepsy . Every time I have a break down they say “we’ll call you and see if you can still work “ 😅 looking for work is fine but keeping it is stressful and depressing
This life in the modern world is leading to unhappiness and depression! We have to do better than this, or we are doomed in so many ways!
Watching this is a little scary for me. A little too close to home but I’m glad to be hearing this time. I’m glad that everyone’s talking.
Taught High School for years. It was soul destroying. Nothing was ever good enough, micromanaged all the time, goals were always set, but were completely unrealistic and unachievable …..then I snapped, and broke down….. walked away. Then had a heart attack. But, a new direction opened up and I took it. Never looked back.
I really don't understand these people and i want to comprhend them. My mother was one of them. For almost 30 i seeked to improve her health. When she lost her brain, her mind, her thoughts bc of a dementia she became the happier human being until this dementia killed her. Her last year was pure joy. That was her gift to me ... never suffer in my life what she had to in hers. I'm thankful for.
Very touching
I lived with the mantra "if i want something done, i want it done yesrerday! If not, today will do". No wonder it all came apart and it was on the very day i gave myself permission to say "i cant do this any more and i need help". From feeling like i could comfortably juggle 8 balls at the same time to falling off the hydroslide in the space of a minute. Thank goodness it happened because although i mourned what i could no longer do, i was able to start anew and become me! Discover me! Learn to love me! It took years but i have never been happier or healthier. I am busier than i was at 35 doing the things i could never have dreamed of or have the time to do. Life is good again. Blessings from New Zealand. ❤
12 hr shifts are making me physically ill. Acid stomach, chest pain, dizzy from work elevators. I have chronic pain & multiple areas of arthritis. Walking hurts. Financial stress on top of work stress & mobility struggles.