Lifelong Partners or Marriage? Why Women Are Constantly Scrutinized for Not Being Married

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  • čas přidán 14. 03. 2022
  • You own your business… but you’re not married. You’re a successful leader in the community… but you’re not married. Society has undoubtedly made women feel as though they’re lacking something if their ideal “complete package” doesn’t include a husband. We dive into the stigma around women who haven’t said “I do,” intentionally or not.
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  • @lynne709
    @lynne709 Před 2 lety +517

    The only thing that bothers me about people who choose not to get married is sometimes they choose to devalue marriage by saying it’s just a piece of paper. Nothing could be further from the truth. If it was just a piece of paper you would just sign it. I’ve always respected that Loni makes it clear that although marriage isn’t for her that doesn’t mean the institution of marriage isn’t valuable. I wish people would just admit that they want the freedom to choose when and how they exit a relationship and marriage doesn’t allow that.

    • @masonpatrices
      @masonpatrices Před 2 lety +12

      Facts

    • @tonicrawford375
      @tonicrawford375 Před 2 lety +7

      Yesss 😊

    • @purplecowmovement7677
      @purplecowmovement7677 Před 2 lety +4

      True

    • @Pushi_97
      @Pushi_97 Před 2 lety +55

      There is alot more people who are married that judge non married people, than the other way around. Married people are not pressured into to getting a divorce while women are heavily pressured into getting married.

    • @binibini7975
      @binibini7975 Před 2 lety +4

      Great point!!

  • @mndegrassi8
    @mndegrassi8 Před 2 lety +289

    I get why some don't want to get married. What I don't understand are the ones who say they don't want to do it because "it's a huge commitment", meanwhile they'll have children whilly nilly with anyone. Is that not a bigger commitment? 🤔

    • @mimose5747
      @mimose5747 Před 2 lety +28

      Add to it that children are a for sure, more permanent commitment, at that!!🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @heytheresunshine9405
      @heytheresunshine9405 Před 2 lety +26

      Sis we can pass the collection plate because you gave the word from on high!

    • @Shayvideos1
      @Shayvideos1 Před 2 lety

      I agree.

    • @genwilson7741
      @genwilson7741 Před 2 lety +1

      Lets be real, a lot of kids out here are “surprises” because their parents were either too lazy or not educated on safe sex to prevent the pregnancy. Then 9 months later there’s nothing to do but man up and take care of your new child.

    • @RTA6226
      @RTA6226 Před 2 lety

      @@mrs.fredrick_ AMEN!

  • @EmorettaRobinson
    @EmorettaRobinson Před 2 lety +128

    It's Jeannie asking "Why did you leave that camera on her for so long" that got me. I'm glad they had this discussion. I'm not married and never have been. I'm not against it. That's just not something that has happened.

  • @ms.krys2835
    @ms.krys2835 Před 2 lety +74

    We have to normalize people doing what’s best for them. Everyone doesn’t have to do the same thing and live the same life. Trust me I know plenty of people who are married and miserable. It’s sad that women get judged if they aren’t married and sometimes if they don’t have or want children. It’s ridiculous.

    • @victoriajohn7079
      @victoriajohn7079 Před rokem +6

      Exactly, we need to normalize people minding their own business and just stop judging people.

  • @DJ-fk1ci
    @DJ-fk1ci Před 2 lety +36

    This is facts. I’m a male in corporate America and i have noticed how those who are married (both men and women) seem to be respected more. They even are the ones usually promoted and in positions of power. And once you add kids in the mix it’s a whole new level.

    • @-.a9942
      @-.a9942 Před 2 lety +8

      Yes America is a family oriented even when they say they are not. You’ll have more support of you are married and have kids, choosing the opposite is just going agains their ideal

    • @sheenabullock6399
      @sheenabullock6399 Před 2 lety

      it happens globally, I know of CEOs who have been told by their Boards that it looks 'bad' that they're not married and they need to get married because it'll help with the optics.

    • @TheDlockett1
      @TheDlockett1 Před rokem

      It’s because you literally have more to work for, a person that’s married with kids and is truly committed has a drive from beyond this world. The pressure builds diamonds, those that ARENT willing to truly commit don’t want to get married because the pressure scares them but if we didn’t do scary things we wouldn’t be human. Learn from others mistakes, don’t let them beat you. Marriage is a contract to literally fight for your love to give yourself purpose other than your own.

  • @adamgranger5653
    @adamgranger5653 Před 2 lety +112

    My grandma following her divorce from my grandpa after being married for 25 years moved on and was able to have another 25 year relationship with her loving significant other but they never married and it didn't matter to me growing up cause he was a bonus grandpa that i was lucky to have and we cherished him until he passed away in 2017. My grandma misses him every day and is sad to not have her best friend with her anymore

  • @afiana3930
    @afiana3930 Před 2 lety +96

    This is one of the most intellectually stimulating conversations The Real has had. I love it!!

  • @TlhomphoDitedu
    @TlhomphoDitedu Před 2 lety +108

    I think most of us want companionship. It just doesn’t happen for everyone by a certain age. I think we’d all be better off if we admitted that life didn’t go according to plan… that maybe the right person was not met… for example. It happens. It’s mostly out of your control. And some people are less willing to settle than others

    • @justafanfave228
      @justafanfave228 Před 2 lety +22

      Not settling makes sense because anyone can be married. There is not a shortage of dusties out there. However, not everyone is willing to settle. I ain’t settling but I am still young sooo… 🤷🏽‍♀️
      Better to marry late or not at all than marry wrong.

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 Před 2 lety +8

      I agree that most of us want companionship, but some of us are able to separate companionship from marriage. Its ouk to want companionship but not marriage

    • @alextroy9202
      @alextroy9202 Před 2 lety

      I want companionship. But not really married

    • @clove8763
      @clove8763 Před 2 lety

      I'm not settling for Jack!!! LMBO!!! Only kidding...No, wait a minute, no I'm not! 😁

  • @hiboahmed8876
    @hiboahmed8876 Před 2 lety +84

    I missed Jeannie’s energy and commentary. I’m so glad she back

    • @ForeverGodsGirl03
      @ForeverGodsGirl03 Před 2 lety +3

      @@fakeaccount704 are they not recording any new content?

    • @hiboahmed8876
      @hiboahmed8876 Před 2 lety +4

      @@fakeaccount704 pretty sure this is new content

    • @pixigirl999
      @pixigirl999 Před 2 lety +6

      @@fakeaccount704 but she has no belly. She’s been pregnant the entire time she was on there this since prior to her maternity leave. They never recorded in the studio last season so how could it be old? I am confusion.

    • @cacinabell3369
      @cacinabell3369 Před 2 lety +2

      @Rachel Crawford well, I thought that too at first. But, then I thought about whoever handles their CZcams channel postings, and they do it backwards. They would show the least important or wait til the end of the week to show Jeannie back 😂

    • @candicepetgrave3147
      @candicepetgrave3147 Před 2 lety +2

      @Rachel Crawford actually I saw a video and she said “ when I was pregnant “ which would indicate that she’s back

  • @rifatherapper
    @rifatherapper Před 2 lety +12

    I appreciate the diversity of this conversation, especially Adrienne’s last statement about divorces connected with religious marriages to avoid sinning.

  • @tvkid2012
    @tvkid2012 Před 2 lety +14

    If you want to get married, then do so. If you do not, then don’t. Simple as that. If you want to be single, be single. People are gonna talk regardless so let them. The only opinion that really matters at the end of the day is yours. It is your life. Be happy, and do you 💕

  • @shanerob681
    @shanerob681 Před 2 lety +36

    I agree, there is too much pressure to find someone in order to complete your adult life. And life is not always better after you get married and have children. There is no guarantee that you will be protected and happy or that you will have a healthy close relationship until you die.
    People really need to be comfortable alone and know themselves and what they want out of life before bringing anyone else into their life. When the focus is just locking into a commitment, you can very easily find yourself rationalizing staying in a bad relationship.
    If the relationship does not work out, you need to feel good enough about yourself to move on and know that you can still be happy single. Otherwise you’re likely to rush into another relationship to avoid being alone and you’ll probably miss some red flags.

  • @debraalleyne1760
    @debraalleyne1760 Před 2 lety +22

    They can't lose Jeannie. She makes the show watchable.

  • @jordangaddis9207
    @jordangaddis9207 Před 2 lety +49

    It’s all fun and games until it comes to that MONEY/WILL/LIFE INSURANCE POLICY lmao

    • @dance4life1208
      @dance4life1208 Před 2 lety +2

      Exactly people will be in a bad position listening to other people

    • @babygirl4949
      @babygirl4949 Před 2 lety

      Tuh! Listen!

    • @glencoco8751
      @glencoco8751 Před 2 lety

      Hello!!!!

    • @bren7067
      @bren7067 Před 2 lety +6

      You can put anyone as a beneficiary as long as they have a proven interes in you. You can write anyone in your will.

    • @omphilemoerane2569
      @omphilemoerane2569 Před 2 lety +4

      That's literally what a will is for lol.

  • @cjfit6292
    @cjfit6292 Před 2 lety +20

    Marriage is not for everyone!
    Marriage is hard and not anything to aspire to and this is coming from a happily married woman. There are so many other things in life that can make you feel complete.
    Enough already people.

    • @sarahs-di3jc
      @sarahs-di3jc Před 2 lety +1

      25 year partnership vs. 25 year marriage. What makes marriage harder?

    • @Officialgaella
      @Officialgaella Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@sarahs-di3jcFreedom!! Too many ppl in marriage forgive more they husbands/wife for cheating , beating ect… than ppl in relationships. From ppl around me I saw they easily forgive them than if they were in relationships. That’s something not everyone want to do if they do dirty!!!! That’s why we prefer freedom of marriage than marriage

  • @katyarnold6757
    @katyarnold6757 Před 2 lety +20

    I agree with Loni Love you shouldn't be pressured into getting married. Marriage is a business legal contract with no guaranteed that the marriage will be successful.

    • @HeyTitouvideos
      @HeyTitouvideos Před 2 lety +3

      Exactly ! When I started thinking about getting married, I promised myself I would read the whole section about marriage in our "civil code" (I am from France) to understand, beyond love etc, what I would be stepping into. And if I still agree with what I read, we would go through it. I am still not done reading but it is NOT a commitment to be taken lightly. We as women are only taught the romantic side of it or the "big day". There is a whole life after that day. In France, most people I know don't care about being married but value their relationship as it is and are super committed, and I think it's great that we have that choice

  • @meaganbianca2978
    @meaganbianca2978 Před 2 lety +7

    People think I’m bitter with men because I say I rather be on my own. Truly not. Just aware of my purpose that I set for myself and want to focus on that

  • @ufink
    @ufink Před 2 lety +50

    I think ideas such as these that state there’s no benefit to marriage are luxury beliefs. Loni, Jeannie, Adrienne, Garcelle, these are women that are in an economic class that can afford them to live out such ideas without much repercussions. For you the average income earner. Don’t buy into such beliefs. They don’t benefit you in the long run. A lot of us need the legality and the security that comes from marriage and the stability it provides. It’s good for your mental state, for your children, and for society in a whole. Be careful what ideas you adopt. These people on TV live very different lives from us. 😘

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 Před 2 lety +18

      Tell that to many women who have been in long abusive marriages or married simply because society pressured them to. Every marriage isn't a fairytale and relationships are hard work.

    • @mgeijho
      @mgeijho Před 2 lety +4

      Your line of thinking is the very reason so many women in poor communities are in abusive marriages because they need a man to take care of them.women are beat up and/or killed daily by their partners because they feel like they have nowhere to go.people are cheated on and get AIDS because they feel stuck in their marriages because they feel like they dont have the freedom to leave.im not rich,but id rather spend my life single than unhappy in a marriage.

    • @ufink
      @ufink Před 2 lety +16

      @Sara Matthews no one is saying it’s a fairytale.. and no one is saying succumb to pressure. You don’t have to be in a marriage to be in a bad or abusive relationship. Demonizing marriage is not the answer.. Neither is denying the benefits of it.. Marriage is not the cause of bad relationships.. The people in it are.

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 Před 2 lety +2

      @@mgeijho exactly

    • @kaylenejantjes8113
      @kaylenejantjes8113 Před 2 lety +3

      This is a very interesting thought. Thanks for sharing. There are unspoken benefits that comes with being married person.

  • @ssmith6963
    @ssmith6963 Před 2 lety +64

    I had a female relative say to me a few months ago that she hoped that I would find a guy to marry to take care of me. It was beyond rude and insulting. She told me a few years ago she saw me getting married soon. The problem is with her and not me. I think she is projecting her own issues. Why are we so vicious to each other? We look at single people and see them as something that needs fixed. It is really sad. Stay out of my life please.

    • @colletampechi9030
      @colletampechi9030 Před 2 lety +9

      That's real sad,and why people assume that coz someone is not married is not happy,or I lack something,live ur life dear,and don't let anybody tell u how to live it.

    • @ssmith6963
      @ssmith6963 Před 2 lety +3

      @@colletampechi9030 Thank you. It has been hurtful. Take care!

    • @makreviews2146
      @makreviews2146 Před 2 lety +10

      I understand exactly what you’re saying I had a family member whom I now no longer communicate with say to me, randomly might I add, that they will “pray for me” because according to them I’m over 30 and not married and should be. He then said he believes women should be married by their late 20s, his words not mine. It was beyond disgusting, insulting and inappropriate. I’d never expressed anything about marriage or even a desire to be married nor my dating life to this person so it was also a shock. Mind you, this is a person whose been divorced twice and on his third marriage so might have been trying to project his insecurities on me. I don’t tell anyone how to live their life and do not want anyone trying to push their sexist and outdated standards/rules about relationships and marriage on me.

    • @ssmith6963
      @ssmith6963 Před 2 lety

      @@makreviews2146 We have so much in common. My relative is divorced too and I have never expressed my thoughts about marriage or dating life. I have never told her how to live her life but she has always been opinionated and bossy when it comes to mine. I no longer communicate with her anymore because it has been too stressful and hurtful. I don't need judgment in my life. I want freedom from the toxicity and it has been peaceful but it also has been sad to say that about a relative too. Keep doing you and keep finding the courage to stick up for yourself.

    • @kaylenejantjes8113
      @kaylenejantjes8113 Před 2 lety +6

      Damn, I feel you on this! People be talking outta their asses thinking single people are less than and all that crap.

  • @Desi-zz4gb
    @Desi-zz4gb Před 2 lety +13

    I think people just need to drink water and mind their business. However, if you know marriage is what you want, get with someone that's wants that too

  • @maryihezie1190
    @maryihezie1190 Před 2 lety +7

    Loni is so on point! Preach! You start making mistakes because of the pressure.

  • @divinerae4966
    @divinerae4966 Před 2 lety +14

    This conversation could've been the entire show, I enjoyed it. Women, we just have to know who we are, know your purpose and don't fall into this expectation, of what the world says. You are looked at differently when you are not married or even when married, but then you don't have kids. I just don't regard, people's expectations of my personal life🤷🏽‍♀️.

    • @Tan87ful
      @Tan87ful Před 2 lety +1

      👏👏👏💯💯💯

  • @RTA6226
    @RTA6226 Před 2 lety +5

    I like what Jeannie said, "You all have been together so long. What's going on?" My answer, "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!?" As these women say, WHY do they bother women and don't pressure men?

  • @gigilamoore2656
    @gigilamoore2656 Před 2 lety +6

    If two people are happy unmarried, then so be it. If they would be happy married, then so be it. None of anyone's business.

  • @arbsan8366
    @arbsan8366 Před 2 lety +16

    I love this whole discussion so much! I love how Loni makes it a point at the beginning of her dating to let it be known she doesn’t want to be married and I’m so happy she found someone who is on the same page!

  • @Lunzzxii
    @Lunzzxii Před 2 lety +3

    Ppl questioned George Clooney all the time. Some ppl thought he was secretly gay. They always asked him about his relationships in interviews.

  • @mariansalmon4400
    @mariansalmon4400 Před 2 lety +13

    Thank you ladies for what you said not to pressure women

  • @ashleyrogers1930
    @ashleyrogers1930 Před 2 lety +8

    Y'all do know George Clooney was married before Amal right. He had been divorced for years though.

    • @lynne709
      @lynne709 Před 2 lety +4

      He was also questioned about getting married all the time before her met Amal so I don’t know what the ladies were talking about.

  • @LMLification
    @LMLification Před 2 lety +8

    It is far better to be single than to have a man or a marriage when there are so many people who stay might stay married for decades but never fully know the person or end up with someone who evolved into something awful in terms of character. Learn how to love yourself and stop thinking you need someone to feel complete. Not knocking marriages and partnerships, but they are not necessary to have a complete, fulfilling life. The quality of relationships in life is far more important than the quantity.

  • @myriambhji3951
    @myriambhji3951 Před 2 lety +4

    I freaking hate when Adrienne talk over Loni gahdamn I can't take it anymore !!!!

  • @genniferhayes-brown6564
    @genniferhayes-brown6564 Před 2 lety +18

    We can normalize not wanting to be married only because we have to normalize that this is the world and as a Christian we live in the world but are not of this world. His took the rib from a man to make woman so it was meant for us to desire that partnership . If the Bible is not your blueprint for living than live your life the way you want.

    • @taliavelazquez358
      @taliavelazquez358 Před 2 lety

      There are Christians who desire to be single, some of the greatest believers were abstinent men and women.

  • @missindependant3630
    @missindependant3630 Před 2 lety +7

    This show means so much to me and the fact that you’re replying to comments finally is so nice to see!!!

    • @Tan87ful
      @Tan87ful Před 2 lety +1

      Agreed 💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @CJ-dg3bm
    @CJ-dg3bm Před 2 lety +2

    And it's soooooo annoying. They act like if a woman isn't married in coupled up they're some dried up lonely spinster and they just don't do this to guys. The last two years I've been getting this from my family and it's really annoying and sexist and disappointing behavior. Dude, if I want to die single it's my business especially when I haven't expressed to you that I am wanting a man! Geeze! If you want to have a relationship or a marriage do it but it's also okay if you don't want to. Maybe you don't want to have to check with someone else before you make a decision, maybe you haven't met the one and you don't want to settle, maybe you just don't want to be married and your life is full without a partner...all of these things are normal and acceptable just the same as there are some people who want babies and others who absolutely do not want children. Normalize choices and worry about your own lives.

  • @Shalayah2010
    @Shalayah2010 Před 2 lety +5

    Did we forget that not that long ago women literally depended on a man for their livelihood. So yes, women are going to get criticized because we aren't that far removed from that era... shoot, women around the world still depend on men and marriage to live.

  • @kaywired2004
    @kaywired2004 Před 2 lety

    I have been reintroduced to The Real and these four ladies are my group of friends in my head , seriously I find my self watching these videos two times. I wish they could stay but I am happy we have these videos to go back to. The conversations the honesty the diversity of this show I love it. Bless them all.

  • @colletampechi9030
    @colletampechi9030 Před 2 lety +32

    I think people have to let people do what they wanna do,if marriage is your thing then go for it,if is not then enjoy it,I think people try to tell people what to do in their life always ,marriage is not a joke,I respect that institution so much and it is a beautiful thing,I'm not married and I don't think I will ever be and I'm good.

    • @wendyfan8071
      @wendyfan8071 Před 2 lety +1

      Same😉

    • @TheMeloettaful
      @TheMeloettaful Před 2 lety +3

      I'm not married myself, and have no children of my own. Though I know it irritates my dad because he wants MORE grandkids. I know I would be a terrible wife, and wouldn't be able to financially support kids either.
      It's just not appealing to me. Me and my mom are planning a Hawaiian cruise for 2023. You think I'd be able to do that with kids running underfoot and a husband to cowtow to to ask if it's even ok to do that?? No ma'am!
      Luckily my mom doesn't care about that with me and doesn't pressure me at all. The only thing about marriage that I like is when I'm invited to the wedding ceremonies where there's free food and drinks lol 😂!

    • @colletampechi9030
      @colletampechi9030 Před 2 lety +3

      @@TheMeloettaful and its OK,enjoy ur life dear,the problem is people except too much from people,and that's not fair ,as long as ur happy that's what matters.

  • @wendyfan8071
    @wendyfan8071 Před 2 lety +5

    41 single never married and I'm good🙂

  • @heatherlynsey3092
    @heatherlynsey3092 Před 2 lety +15

    I have to say that I’ve also heard people grill men over not having a wife. Especially my brothers, they are all in their 30s and I constantly hear people asking “why haven’t you found your soul mate yet?” or things like “you better hurry times wasting!!”. So it does go both ways!

    • @TheMeloettaful
      @TheMeloettaful Před 2 lety +1

      My younger brother is closing in on 30 and is still single. I really don't think he will ever get married. Me and him are similar in this. He is even more introverted than I am and would rather spend time with his video games than other people.
      As for me I know I'm not getting married, nor having any kids neither.

  • @tisch9233
    @tisch9233 Před 2 lety +23

    Marriage means security if BOTH sites agree to be in a longlife commitment.

  • @shellyedwards2875
    @shellyedwards2875 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you. So much pressure on women it's too much , yet men don't get that pressure. Live your life genuinely ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @kristenphebs9580
    @kristenphebs9580 Před 2 lety +48

    Been in a relationship for over 7 years. We're happy doing the Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn relationship ❤️. Both been married before and no rush. We're best friends his family loves me, wants us married ( my side too) but if it's not broke and working...why try and fix it?❤️❤️

    • @TheRealDaytime
      @TheRealDaytime  Před 2 lety +11

      Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!

    • @dawncullen0214
      @dawncullen0214 Před 2 lety +3

      Tina turner got married after a 30 year engagement 🤣

    • @707tich
      @707tich Před 2 lety +2

      That’s lovely💫 and your situation works and is different.

  • @honeybdream
    @honeybdream Před 2 lety +3

    Whatever floats your boat & doesn’t sink mine‼️💙☮️

  • @makreviews2146
    @makreviews2146 Před 2 lety +4

    I think the key to this at the end of the day is each couple and individual should not be judged, have pressure put on them or anyone telling them what they “should” or “should not” do in terms of getting married or not. That is the business of each couple and individual and no one else. No one has the right to tell people what they should do that is their choice.

  • @cdale211989
    @cdale211989 Před 2 lety +2

    It is not a “new day” the Word never fades away. Marriage cuts out a lot of confusion and is the framework for a healthy family.

  • @rachelsmith5643
    @rachelsmith5643 Před 2 lety +1

    lol I thought I was the only one who didn't care for that Jagged Edge song and didn't find it romantic! Totally agree with Adrienne.

  • @SagittariusQueen1980
    @SagittariusQueen1980 Před 2 lety +21

    My aunt has been with her man for almost 40 years and have 2 kids, they're fine! Marriage should be up to the couples, not everyone else. Not everyone wants to be married and that's fine. I'm married to my husband for 17 years, let couples do what's best for them. Not being married doesn't make you worthless.

  • @rudiannwildgoose-laing4629

    If you get married and have a family as a women you a deemed limited in your flexibility to take on additional responsibilities in the workfore. If you are not married then something is wrong with you. Damn if you do, damn if you dont.

  • @reeboo43
    @reeboo43 Před 2 lety +4

    Well my Mom told me at 8 our neighbors had been in a relationship for over 20 years when the man died the family wouldn't let the girlfriend come to the funeral and she couldn't do anything about it she got no pension...Also I wanted to do it God's Way we ain't laying together unless we where married

  • @nicoleyoshihara4011
    @nicoleyoshihara4011 Před 2 lety +4

    Marriage all the way with God's blessing and to be right with God and to answer my vocation of marriage. God please give strength to all single Catholic/Christian women and men who are looking for their future spouse but are having a difficult time especially in today's society. Please help us to see and use our singleness as a gift and give us strength to not settle for your very best. Singleness is not a lifelong vocation and I pray that people will realize this. Amen 🙏❤

  • @maame6224
    @maame6224 Před 2 lety +3

    Great topic and love all ur comments!👏👏👏👏

  • @RTA6226
    @RTA6226 Před 2 lety +2

    I agree. WHY do they pressure women? They do NOT pressure men. It's 2022! My GOD! I agree with Adrienne, a lot of young people will marry to legitimize sex. That never works. Bottom line is people need to mind their own business! Why do you care about what other people are doing anyway?

  • @Ronsayy
    @Ronsayy Před 2 lety +5

    I love listening to this conversation.

  • @marcellacollins4697
    @marcellacollins4697 Před 2 lety +4

    Thats up to the individual some people just dont wanna be married and was asked to many issues responsible

  • @stephanie8202
    @stephanie8202 Před 2 lety +2

    AMEN LONI!!! Not being married nor Not having kids make you LESS of a woman 💯.

  • @mimim6857
    @mimim6857 Před 2 lety +4

    For many businesses marriage represents stability, so they feel you’re more likely to stick around.

  • @addsomespice4627
    @addsomespice4627 Před 2 lety +29

    Sometimes I’m confused on if Adrienne is Christian or not 😭

    • @i.7354
      @i.7354 Před 2 lety +5

      Me too🤣!!!

    • @cdale211989
      @cdale211989 Před 2 lety +2

      Bc the Bible is pro marriage. It speaks about it multiple times.

    • @ceeceedior21
      @ceeceedior21 Před 2 lety +10

      Don’t judge her because you sin differently

  • @venuscamp1245
    @venuscamp1245 Před 2 lety +2

    Valid points ladies 👍

  • @marissa._
    @marissa._ Před 2 lety +4

    Its ignorant and annoying when people say, "we're meant to be paired". 😒
    According to who?!?!??? 🤨
    Is that in writing somewhere??? 😕🤷🏽‍♀️
    Is it a sin to be alone??? 😕
    Are people gonna be damned to hell for all eternity if they're alone and single??? 😕
    Is it against some law we don't know about to be alone?!?? 😕🤷🏽‍♀️
    Are people gonna be jailed if they're alone and single and/or choose to be that way??? 😕
    There's people in relationships that are TOXIC, ABUSIVE, MISERABLE, LONELY, ETC.
    Yet, when there's a single person who GENUINELY LOVES & ENJOYS their life being alone, people think its "wrong" or "abnormal" or that the person is "unlovable" or "unwanted". Like for goodness sake, some people just want and/or need to enjoy their own lives alone 🤷🏽‍♀️. Some people are LITERALLY MEANT to be alone and single and to enjoy their lives as such. There's NOTHING "wrong" with that!
    Its peaceful to be alone and single for some people and there's NOTHING "wrong" or "weird" or "abnormal" about that!
    Everyone doesn't want, much less "need" marriage and kids! Kids that didn't even ask to be born and brought into this sick, pathetic, dying, evil, cruel, INCONCEIVABLY HARD & UNFAIR, UNJUST, poverty-stricken, disease-ridden, illness-infested world in the first damn place!
    People need to learn the difference between alone vs. lonely.
    - Alone is to be by oneself. Its a state of being.
    - Lonely is a FEELING typically associated with sadness and feeling like "something's missing".
    I've seen more relationships than not that have actually inspired me to stay alone and made me glad to be single.
    Like you said, we were born alone, we're going to die alone. We're WHOLE as we are.
    Edit:
    Also, just because someone wants and/or needs to be single and they GENUINELY ENJOY their life that way, it DOESN'T MEAN that they have "commitment-phobia" OR that they were "traumatized"! 😒🙄🤦🏽‍♀️
    They DON'T have sh** to prove to you, me or anyone else!
    NO ONE is required NOR obligated to be in a relationship and reproduce!
    That's giving Handmaid's Tale!
    I understand that some people want companionship and that's fine...FOR THAT PARTICULAR PERSON IN QUESTION! However, it doesn't (*and sometimes won't*) happen for everyone and that's okay. Who the hell wants to settle for less?!??
    It'll ALWAYS BE BETTER to either marry LATE or NOT marry AT ALL than to marry wrong!
    NORMALIZE NOT looking at single people as something that needs to be "fixed" and something being "wrong" with them when in FACT, there ain't sh** "wrong" with them AT ALL!
    Being single is VERY PEACEFUL and for some people its A LOT SAFER to be single than in a relationship!!! While trauma MAY play a role in SOME cases, there's instances where it DOESN'T! Why does it have to?!?!??? 🤨
    Why can't it be a person's decision that should be respected WITHOUT question?!?!?!
    Why does there have to be a reason for someone's personal choice for THEIR LIFE that DOESN'T affect you in NO WAY, SHAPE OR FORM?!?!?!?!
    Why the f*** do A LOT of you people get off on trying to run other people's lives?!?!?! Telling other people (*specifically women*) what THEY should do with THEIR LIVES, BODIES and how YOU THINK THEY'LL feel if they DON'T "settle down" or in other words, settle for less and reproduce!?!!?!?
    How would you know if they'll feel "lonely" or not?!?!?!?!
    WHAT makes you think that?!?!? 🤨
    WHY do you think that?!?!?! 🤨
    HOW did you come to thought?!?!?!? 🤨
    Because YOU said so?!?!?!? 🤨
    Because you knew someone who told you THEIR experience so now you think you have a right to COMPARE everyone alike?!?!?!? 🤨
    So now YOU make the rules?!?!?! 🤨
    GTFOH!!! 🖕🏽
    This is NOT the 1800s!!!! Women ARE ALLOWED to have credit cards, work, have THEIR OWN MONEY, businesses, apartments, houses, cars, etc.
    The times of dowries are OVER!!!! THANKFULLY!!!!

  • @Sarah-zg2iq
    @Sarah-zg2iq Před 2 lety +5

    Garcelle looks amazing 🌺

  • @killawalez3944
    @killawalez3944 Před 2 lety +1

    Lmfao I love when Adrienne freaks out about Loni’s faces 😅😅😅

  • @seygra20
    @seygra20 Před 2 lety +2

    Love Adrienne's chain set.

  • @roka2031
    @roka2031 Před 2 lety +2

    I don't get people who say they don't want to be married then they live with the person, their finances is tied up with the person, they share their life on a daily with the person...etc...etc that's exactly what would be happening if you are married to the person but even better because you have some leagl proctection if stuff goes south...

  • @Tyra_Night
    @Tyra_Night Před 2 lety +2

    1:22 😂 Agree! This is me when I hear this song!

    • @Tan87ful
      @Tan87ful Před 2 lety

      😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯

  • @Thewifelife40
    @Thewifelife40 Před 11 měsíci

    Jeannie's ring is so beautiful!! That thang be blinging😍😍😍

  • @modeljaisimone
    @modeljaisimone Před 2 lety +4

    Loni cracks me up every time 😂😂😂😂

  • @TheSunshinefee
    @TheSunshinefee Před 2 lety +3

    next time have the subject how married women shun single friends. once they are married, they tend to forget their single friends, they only spend time with married couples

  • @Diana734
    @Diana734 Před 2 lety +3

    Marriage gives you certain rights and privileges. It is not just a piece of paper...it is one of the biggest contracts you will sign in your life.

  • @ednajay5724
    @ednajay5724 Před 2 lety +3

    I'm surprised they didn't mention Oprah as an example in this segment

  • @707tich
    @707tich Před 2 lety +1

    For me I’m talking about me who is 34 years old single. In my mid career. Still dating and had 2 serious relationships in past. I have always know I wanted to be a wife because. I value myself with would bring into a marriage and I adore children I NEVER want to be communicated to or with… as a baby mother. Wtf? 😳🥴🥴🥴🥴🖐🏾The bank manager: “Good afternoon baby mother, “ the school head teacher “is your baby mother coming to the PTA meeting”, travelling: “who’s the name under”? oh my name not my baby mother, in casual or official discussions.. “oh my baby mother would say the same”

  • @2sense110
    @2sense110 Před 2 lety +23

    Some of these women claim Christianity and none of them side with the Bible on this topic. It's not the first time and it won't be the last. They need to keep there believes to themselves and just break these topics down like reasonable people

  • @rebeccajean1572
    @rebeccajean1572 Před 2 lety +4

    That’s nice until something unfortunately happens and you have no rights to anything your boyfriend has.

  • @LockedInNOW
    @LockedInNOW Před 2 lety +5

    Who cares if someone is married or not , just don’t be engaged for a billion years 🤣 !

  • @malalopita8999
    @malalopita8999 Před 4 dny

    Please bring back this show!!!!!!!!!!!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @Justauri-asdfghjkl
    @Justauri-asdfghjkl Před 2 lety +3

    It irritates me that men are the ones who decide who gets married (proposing and their last name) but women are the ones shamed for not being married

    • @apRN1993
      @apRN1993 Před 2 lety

      THIS!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @HBSugar1106
    @HBSugar1106 Před 2 lety +5

    I just hope people don't get married because of only financial reasons, the business contract, the benefits you receive legally, and so on. I think everyone needs to imagine their life 40-50 years with the same person. If you're comfortable looking at the same man or woman every single day. You know he/she is going to be on your child's birth certificate , your tax forms, your emergency contact/next of kin, your financial documents, attending family functions, business functions, friends, social events. You see each other in all different lights and darkness. If you can tolerate 40-50 years of that or more. Then by God and the holy spirit that is your husband or wife. If you have any doubt in your mind that you can't trust this person, his/her family, his/her judgment, his/her character, the way they talk to you, they just add more problems or weight. Do not marry him or her. Run don't walk. You know when you want someone in your corner when you will fight like hell for this person if they were in the hospital, on the street, without a job, no food to eat. You know you would get out there to help them. You wouldn't want to see them with anyone else but you. I say marry for love. Marry for companionship. Everyone can get money if you just go hustle and get a job. Any job is better than no job. I say if you have a place to live, eat, clothes you're doing better than most. If you found and have pure unconditional love that's the icing on the cake.

  • @miriamh2551
    @miriamh2551 Před 2 lety +18

    Marriage is so much more important than people make it out to be. It isn't just a piece of paper, it's a contract where you're legalizing things for God's sake, in the eyes of the law, community, etc!
    To call it just a piece of paper like many do is downplaying it so much, money is also just a piece of paper, in that case so are birth and death certificates...these are all very important 'pieces of paper' that symbolize so much. I'm sad our next generation doesn't see that

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Před 2 lety +1

      exactly

    • @Officialgaella
      @Officialgaella Před 10 měsíci +1

      Not true!! You can be fulfilled without contact of marriage. Like not everyone want the same lifestyles and that’s okay

  • @jamarkuswilson1525
    @jamarkuswilson1525 Před 2 lety +3

    Living in Vietnam for the last three years and 45 and not married, I get asked what's wrong with me not being married. By 25 here you should be married or something is wrong with you, so some of it is cultural.

  • @michaelrichardwarner
    @michaelrichardwarner Před 2 lety +3

    I have a partner of 3 years we have been through a lot in those three years I happen to be physically disabled severely so with that being said I am able to be married and have kids but just because I'm able to do something doesn't mean that I want to do it so saying all that to say my partner and I have both discussed and been firm and fervent about the fact that we do not want to be married we also do not want kids and people diminish and demonize that fact! We as a society need to stop, putting our own personal views on broader society if an individual couple or individual people do not see want envision or need marriage in their future or kids in their future to be considered a whole person within their own self-value and self-worth then stop putting pressures on them to do something they clearly don't want to do it is more responsible just say you know what this is not something that's for me I know and I value this other person that I'm in a relationship but we do not necessarily need marriage or want marriage or see marriage in our future to be joyful and joy filled and enhance the happiness of the individuals within this relationship to be the most Paramount over arcing goal of our relationship!

  • @tonicrawford375
    @tonicrawford375 Před 2 lety +24

    Not judging. I think some (keyword:some) ppl are just afraid of that level of commitment (marriage) and one reason being, the possibility of divorce, there’s always a possibility, right? I also believe some people don’t view marriage the way God does because if so we wouldn’t be ok with doing everything outside of marriage that God said is ok only within marriage. I been there and done that. Brief testimony, I start to feel bad for having sex outside of marriage, and giving my boyfriend all the benefits that I knew deep down inside only my husband should have but I was in too deep and what helped me change my mindset is when I kept talking to God more and more. God start showing me my worth not only as a wife some day but even in other areas. I had to change my mindset because of the commitment I made to God since I said I was Christian and with his help I did. I’m now married. Marriage is beautiful, challenging and rewarding especially with the one God ordains.

    • @nicoleyoshihara4011
      @nicoleyoshihara4011 Před 2 lety +3

      @Toni Crawford Love this! God Bless you and your marriage 🙏❤
      I know I am called to marriage and closer to turning 30 but I will hope and pray for the one God has for me to come into my life soon. I really would love to gain a best friend and share my life with someone who has the same values as me (Catholicism)

    • @tonicrawford375
      @tonicrawford375 Před 2 lety +2

      @@nicoleyoshihara4011 Aww thank you and I pray that God bless you with your hearts desire. He knows the perfect time 🙏🏽❤️

    • @nicoleyoshihara4011
      @nicoleyoshihara4011 Před 2 lety +2

      @@tonicrawford375 You're welcome!^_^❤ Thank you so much ^_^ Happy Thursday!^_^❤

  • @jeffrivera3612
    @jeffrivera3612 Před 2 lety +36

    My mom and dad have been together 29 years and aren’t married. Is their relationship perfect ? No, but I personally will never look down on them for not being married . Marriage doesn’t make a couple better than one who isn’t .

    • @Prince_the_One
      @Prince_the_One Před 2 lety +4

      May I ask why they haven't gotten married? Aren't they common law married by now?

    • @dance4life1208
      @dance4life1208 Před 2 lety +6

      @@Prince_the_One every state doesn’t have common law

    • @Prince_the_One
      @Prince_the_One Před 2 lety

      @@dance4life1208 interesting thank you for telling me

  • @justafanfave228
    @justafanfave228 Před 2 lety +4

    If it wasn’t for marriage, my dad’s girlfriend would have put my autistic brother on the street. That paper secured his home.
    However, it doesn’t mean I am gonna settle.

    • @violetl.4615
      @violetl.4615 Před 2 lety

      Huh who is your dad married to?

    • @justafanfave228
      @justafanfave228 Před 2 lety +2

      @@violetl.4615 Lmaooo. My mom but he also had a girlfriend of many years.

  • @sharpaycutie2
    @sharpaycutie2 Před 2 lety

    When you’re marriage minded all you attract is the same kind. So yes on the first dates I’m talking about marriage and kids and discipline children and what kind of home we want to have.
    I DO think it’s weird when people don’t want marriage tho and usually there are underlying reasons why they don’t like trauma and learned bad habits form their parents

  • @CrystalDatingCoach
    @CrystalDatingCoach Před 2 lety +1

    Kurt Russell wants to Marry Goldie Hawn. She's been married before...and doesn't want to do it again. Over 40 in a "long term" Relationship is Pathetic. Being boyfriend and girlfriend over 40 is Ridiculous. It's like having a job without a contract..and don't lie to yourself. Ladies get a RING on it and the lease in both of your names. Ps. GOD forbid your "boyfriend" has any accident and is in the hospital, his family can bann you from seeing him...YOU'RE not family.

  • @nisim3457
    @nisim3457 Před 2 lety +14

    I'm with the same person for 28 yrs Not married and have three grown children together known him since I was 15yrs. Love has kept us together ❤

    • @Tan87ful
      @Tan87ful Před 2 lety

      Good blessings to you 😀

  • @nikig2891
    @nikig2891 Před 2 lety +1

    I think there are also women who want to get married but aren’t willing to compromise on the person they want to marry.

  • @demitriwelling1348
    @demitriwelling1348 Před 2 lety +3

    Marriage for the right reasons to a loving cooperative partner is a plus. All their points are valid.

    • @Tan87ful
      @Tan87ful Před 2 lety

      👏👏👏💯💯💯

  • @CookieFridays
    @CookieFridays Před 2 lety +1

    Live and let live.
    For me, I’ve always known I wanted a husband, the idea of having multiple boyfriends, dating several guys, wasting time and being heartbroken never appealed to me and that may be why I didn’t even start dating until I was 28. Nowadays after having a little more experience, I think it’s actually taught me a lot by chatting with a lot of guys and dating, but that’s not the point. I still want to find the right guy that I can envision a future with. Now, if I never have children, I might not care to get married, or I wouldn’t mind waiting like 10 years until marriage. But yeah, in the back of my mind I do still like the idea of marriage, I’m a romantic and as long as I’m happy with my partner and love them, I wouldn’t be pessimistic about the future or worry about potential divorce. If I had kids I think I would feel uncomfortable that I wasn’t married. Kids are the biggest commitment of all in my opinion.
    It’s up to everyone though. In some cultures, marriage is more like a nightmare because of misogynistic values and expectations with in-laws etc. I don’t like that, if you think getting a wife is akin to getting a mom, housekeeper or slave, that’s not something I would want to subscribe to

  • @RealTakerslady
    @RealTakerslady Před 2 lety +2

    They questioned Clooney constantly, started gay rumors

  • @faithoverfear6965
    @faithoverfear6965 Před 2 lety

    Does anyone else notice how Garcelle navigates the conversations in such a mature way.. making sure Loni gets to speak for herself.

  • @christinadg
    @christinadg Před 2 lety +3

    If something happens to you boyfriend or girlfriend feelings don’t matter. Medically spouse, then family feelings matter!

  • @Shanaepink
    @Shanaepink Před 2 lety

    Well if the real won't be on anymore could it be a weekly podcast or pick up by another company. I mean this is my weekly relax session.

  • @tay_dance7696
    @tay_dance7696 Před 2 lety +3

    I love Loni’s outfit!

    • @ginan4130
      @ginan4130 Před 2 lety +1

      Me toooooo... I'm going through the comments trying to see where did she get it from....

  • @carenwebb9044
    @carenwebb9044 Před 2 lety +1

    I love that jagged edge song

  • @marcellacollins4697
    @marcellacollins4697 Před 2 lety

    Thanks jeanie

  • @erinalexander2188
    @erinalexander2188 Před 2 lety +4

    Omg I thought I was the only one who didn't like the lyrics to that Jagged Edge song! It's not romantic at all lol

    • @Tan87ful
      @Tan87ful Před 2 lety

      😂😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯

  • @prettychrissy
    @prettychrissy Před 2 lety +1

    I just hate the fact if a woman is not married she is viewed as undesirable or unwanted like she is damage goods

  • @ScreamTatumRiley
    @ScreamTatumRiley Před 2 lety +3

    Not everyone wants to get married and have kids …like me I just don’t want it

  • @gaila.9852
    @gaila.9852 Před 2 lety +2

    I will never understand why people worry about whether other people will get married and have kids. Why does that concern you!?

  • @deebar5218
    @deebar5218 Před 2 lety +1

    I really like Adrienne white look, hair makeup, everything pops! The all look great but is hard to pull off white!

  • @emileydow646
    @emileydow646 Před 2 lety

    My parents have been happily committed to one another for 32 years! 3 kids, 3 grandkids and never had the desire or goal to get married. They have never run into any issues, just judgment from others because it is almost unheard of to have a successful family and partnership these days without wanting to get married.