Psychology of Sarcasm - with JP Sears
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Why are people sarcastic? Understand how the psychology behind sarcasm comes from a place of pain. Sarcastic comments are misdirected expressions in place of being vulnerable with the hurt inside. Understand how to dive deeper into your heart when dealing with sarcasm, either from yourself or other people. I also explain the light side of sarcasm.
I really like this video and I'm not even being sarcastic.
Pffffffffffft, as if.
Oh the humility!
thanks for being open and honest jp
AwakenWithJP this channel will be huge but can you tell me how it suddenly gained thousands of subs practically overnight. is there a trick
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One of the dangers I've experienced repeatedly with sarcasm is that it can leave people feeling insecure and uncertain about the sincerity of what's being said. When a generally sarcastic person wants to be genuine, it can be very difficult for him/her to be taken seriously because his/her continual sarcasm has trained people to not regard him/her seriously.
femaleintelligent1 hey are you still single? 😏
I'd agree. And that person will find him or herself isoltate or merely surrounbded by sycophants (it's the essence of my comment above).... But in a relationship, in my books, it can signal the end of a discussion, and often leads to terrible fights and ultimately break-ups. It was one of the big causes of my first divorce: I tend to be fairly blunt in my expression of what I feel, but my first partner had what's known in German as a "Mundwerk," a gift of sarcasm. And it silenced any true discussion. So when the separation-divorce came, my partner was taken entirely by surprise. Plus, I was not mature enough to deal with it... so there's that as well.
There's a saying, "Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit" ... And given how trending it is to be sarcastic, I've wondered why it is that sarcasm is still popular, I've concluded it is because of what you said, there's no sincerity in sarcasm.
I think that sarcasm is used as a means to respond without needing to give a subject thought, its lazy, and hurtful towards others because they, who might have given their words more thought and weight, aren't taken seriously.
Mine come from people trying to hurt me with a smile and still think its cool... so they are the ones I use it on so they know how I fill as well.now they can see my smile...in they face..
. Positive Power. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. .no kidding. 💋.
"Inside every cynical person, is a disappointed idealist." - George Carlin
Cynism is not sarcasm.
@@Spark_Iskra_z_Polski would you explain the difference?
Wow
@@Spark_Iskra_z_Polski there's usually a correlation
@@matheus.lifestyle sarcasm is contextual and language based, cynicism is when you generally distrust the authencity of many things like someone's motivation for donating to charity (a cynic would assume it's just for the tax benefits, not altruism) and people often adopt this disposition towards life when they become nihilistic. All this to say, there's generally a strong correlation between cynicism, nihilism, and sarcasm.
For many years I worked with teens in care. A psychiatrist who worked with staff told us that sarcasm is "thinly veiled anger" and we all nervously laughed. He went on to say that sometimes it's so thinly veiled, you could spit through it. Our kids used sarcasm all the time and as staff we had to be on our toes not to mirror that back to them. I developed sarcasm as a way of coping with living in a family where alcoholism and verbal abuse and a lack of fidelity reigned. His explanation and my work really helped me to conquer the need to be sarcastic.
That's too bad ... it's a form of bonding in New Jersey
@@leighmcmillan6282until it hurts someone because behind every sarcastic communication, there’s painful truth
Hurt people hurt people.
D34D 1N51D3 Damn! That’s always a good one to remember.
Wow not necessarily but I get it 😊
True, but it's still no excuse. Knowing that hurt people hurt people can help us to forgive the abuse, but once you internalize this knowledge, you really should know better than to perpetuate the abuse. Break the cycle.
You mean I have to do it twice each time?
My new metal band name lol
There's a big difference between sarcasm and irony. Irony is to point out the absurdity of something. Sarcasm is meant to wound. I would say JP's parody videos fall under the former. His videos are ironic, they poke gentle fun at situations we find ourselves in. They sit as a reminder to stop taking ourselves so seriously, to have perspective.
It seems to me like he's also using self-deprecating humor to disarm people who might otherwise not be comfortable enough to spend serious time watching any kind of "self-help" channel. It's a smart thing to do, and I'm not even being sarcastic.
I thought the same. But most of the people mix it up.
I was just going to comment on this. Irony can be a wonderful way of diffusing a litany of bad situations and regaining a sense of calm through humor...
Irony is expecting something but what happened is the opposite.
Example (not the best one of course): a person comes up with an elaborate plan to gain a lot of money but ends up being broke or dying from having too much money.
He admits to using “sarcasm and satire” in his videos.
Sarcasm is using irony to put somebody to the place...
I have felt hurt and confused by sarcasm since I was a young teenager. I didn't even know the word back then, but I knew how it hurt. I believe that sarcastic people think they are very clever and smarter than the people they hurt. They are elitists who enjoy seeing others hurt by their words. Sometimes they think they are being funny, but if the sender and the receiver aren't BOTH laughing it isn't funny at all. They are haters. Personally, I never employ sarcasm because it is ALWAYS mean. As a mature adult I choose not to respond to sarcastic remarks. I walk away.
Sarcasm is always mean no it isn't you don't understand sarcasm
You need to take Sarcasm 101!
It nearly made me cry. My partner is always using sarcasm against me, I get upset and he just tell me I have no sense of humor..good to hear that sarcasm is not a sense of humour. Realising and angry now. Thanks for your brilliant mind.
He might just be teasing you...it's a hubby thing
@@BJ5712 No it wasn't. I can tell the difference. But divorced now and truly happy, laughing a lot now with friends who tease but don't bully. Life is 100times better.
@@gerafinali4384 Good for you...Do whatever makes you happy. Life is too short. Good luck.
Is gaslighting when they say u taking it serious u have no sense of humor
Sorry I don’t buy it, sarcasm could be more like Covert aggressive Society is heavily influenced by the Freudian psychology always looking for the archaeological past pain suffering narrative and that’s how they hook u and they still keep doing it even at the expense of hurting u…
In Portland Oregon, we have eliminated sarcasm. As with a blind person who says that their hearing has increased, without Sarcasm our other senses of humor have been greatly enhanced. If you travel here, you will witness the deep joys of "slap stick," "mime theater," and "rollie poley." And gone are the days when acerbic, absurdest mid-century humor left us daunted, confused or with an unmet need for validation. Hooray Pacific NW Humor!
+Tom Johnson Haha :-)
It's true. There is sarcasm in PDX but I moved here from the east coast many years ago and i noticed differences... I think all in all I appreciate the diminished sarcasm in Portland.
Portlandia not sarcastic- now I know you are being sarcastic!
Best comment I've ever read.
This is so true, I cant stand sarcasm as someone who lives in portland Oregon as well, I can completely agree. Its such a rude thing to use sarcasm and I honestly dont understand it at all.
No but really portland Oregon is built on sarcasm.
This helped me to process an experience I had.
I was at lunch with some colleagues at a conference after we had all attended the final keynote speech. I had personally felt like the keynote speaker was a bad fit for the conference, and that he spoke about topics that seemed embarrassingly simple to me. Overall, I had a hard time paying attention. Having to sit through the talk was really uncomfortable, yet at lunch, nobody mentioned the keynote at all. I think I felt the need have my feelings validated. I said "so how about that keynote?" in a sarcastic tone. One of the people at the table responded with the same tone "oh, it was great!" and conversation about it was over. I had already felt strange for having such a strong negative feeling about the presentation, and now I felt embarrassed too.
Looking back, I could have been more vulnerable and said "I don't know if it's just me, but it seemed like the keynote was pretty off, and it was hard for me to sit through." My sarcasm sort of forced the people listening to view the situation in a negative way without giving them room for an opinion. I was trying to process my pain, but didn't take others into consideration.
This is probably a less harmful situation than most, but it has stuck with me for some reason. Glad to process it a bit more now. Thanks JP!
It depends a lot on your location. I have lived in Anglosaxon and French countries, it is very different, especially in Sydney where everyone pretends everything is good all the time in a hipster-like mood where « oh, interesting » sometimes is the bottom of the scale. But I bet unsuccessful places have less superficiality, even Anglosaxon ones.
Maybe in your culture or in that location it just wasn’t appropriate to talk negatively about the work of someone.
this is why you need to stop being sarcastic or sounding like that :) it hurts people, and what about those that don't pick it up, hope you grow out of it.
@@marz_mitzi nah. Screw feelings. I’ll say whatever I damn please. Go cry in the bathroom if you can’t handle negativity.
Sometimes it's uncomfortable when being talked to about something you already know.
With sarcasm, like most expression, it comes down to intent. Two friends can be playfully sarcastic with one another, with a wink and a smile, knowing it's safe to do so. I think this applies to JP's Ultra videos as well - it's a shared joke.
Ken Wallo I feel the same way. Sarcasm is funny if one is invited and in a safe environment like a comedian would do with his familiar audience. Like JP’s channel.
Ken Wallo well said!
Ken Wallo I agree. Intent varies, and matters, which complicates response. Context also complicates response. I had an Interview this week , with two Interviewers. The first one interviewer was not sarcastic, she barely has an interest in our conversation. The second had interest, more energy, but was sarcastic, I was focused on giving the requested info. , which surprisingly was definitely not work related, because I clarified with both of them what they wanted, and I was focused on being positive and friendly. Afterward I realized he was sarcastic many times. He could have thought he had a cleaver strategy to determine if I was a good worker or good clique fit...or he may have been bored and jerking me around for fun.
I’m from the UK and I see a lot of our sarcasm is lost on folks from the US.
@@its_me_dave explains a lot.. I had a relationship with a British girl (I'm American).. one of my least favorite characteristics about her was her sarcasm. I'm more of a heart/feeler person and I also tend to observe others. It wasn't funny half the time and now whenever she has a conversation with a friend of mine she's being sarcastic towards... I can't tell.. and it bothers me indirectly.. and then after I tell her to stop she is quick to tell me to calm down... Talking to me like I'm a child. Then I feel like crap and guilty for trying to understand another conversation she's having where the sarcasm is shared and understood.
I love the response: “I see you smiling, I’ve heard what you’ve said, and I need you to know, here’s how I feel about it...I feel sad about what you’re saying and it doesn’t strike me as funny.”
I feel that sarcasm is a toxic sense of humor by expressing ones own negative energy, which is inner pain, and wrapping it in a joke.
I really love your channel and your perspective on various healing topics and trends, especially when they can take over our lives and especially when we “lose ourselves” by getting our identity wrapped around healing topics and trends like gluten free, paleo, veganism, conspiracy theories, and toxic relationship communication techniques.
And plus being in the alternative healing world for me feels kinda lonely when I get to serious about it. I find your satirical videos deeply healing for me, because I like to be able to laugh at myself.
I’m so grateful to you JP for your video content and for entertaining my coworkers on our breaks! Thank you!
Lovely comment ❤
What I really love about your style is the raw honesty. I used to teach yoga and meditation and quite for many reasons, but one was that I didn't live up to who I thought a teacher of yoga should be. I wasn't relaxed enough. I still lost my balance and got angry. Your videos remind me that's okay. We're all in the together.
To further my point, you are "real". Too many "gurus" or spiritual guides are too perfect--or claim to be. In these videos I feel like I'm hanging out with a friend that is just laying it on the line instead of talking down to me.
Open Coop I love it! Thank you for seeing me eye to eye :-)
Open Coop, so glad to read your comment, I use to teach yoga too and quit for the same reason, was too human to portray a spiritual yogi and judged the self as a fraud... These videos crack me up and now helpful too
@@AwakenWithJP the best way to stop sarcasm is just be like yeah okay and see them be confused.
I usually love sarcasm. Even when it's directed at me. I think it's a great comedic tool.
i wouldn't, and it wouldn't be funny to me
@@marz_mitzi No one is here to care or please your feelings snowflake
@@marz_mitzi I think he read your reply as it was a quick response from you. 🧐👌
Narcissists REALLY don't understand sarcasm and they do NOT get the humour, which is why they take it so personally and make it all about them 😅
_People with a healthy sense of humour are a serious problem right now. You should really be more ashamed of yourself for not being more narcissistic...and so we just ask that you please be more offended. I know I am._
#Karen demands to speak to your manager about the way your laughter ASSaulted her and she is an American citizen!!
I think the nastiness of sarcasm is that is lures one in with a positive statement that is then turned on its head when it becomes clear that the meaning is the exact opposite. As for your 'sarcastic' videos, I love them! I meditate every day, great for my mental health, and adored your how to meditate video, really funny :) (ps, I'm not being sarcastic!)
Sarcasm is a slippery slope and is not always appropriate but if it is used with humor can certainly be a hilarious way to express ourselves. Great being at your event in Encinitas. I gleaned a lot from your insights. Life is a journey and I am grateful you share yours in such a big way. Thank you!
My husband learned to use sarcasm from his family to make passive aggressive comments. It always comes off as an insult, an observation of your weakness, criticism of something you like that he doesn't like, and a power move. He gets to feel a bit more powerful, re-establishes his "teacher - mentor" role in life. After 36 years I'm just sick of it. Ignoring it has been my only defense.
Your channel is quickly becoming my favorite. :) I love your funny videos, I love your serious videos. Thank you for making them. :)
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This is gold! I'm with the other commenters, I don't see your Ultra Spiritual videos as sarcastic, just satire. And I absolutely see myself in some of them and they make me laugh at my own Ultra Spiritual side. Now I need to go find more abundant pictures for my vision board.
me too. it makes me laugh at myself, and i still know how to value the purpose of those qualities we laugh at when they have one. Love your ultra spiritual videos.
@@minakim2874 no
I adore sarcasm. I find it a gentle way to point out foolishness or confusion without being mean. I find it to be a form of humor. When I say something stupid I like it when someone is sarcastic with me because it makes me realize that I've goofed. It makes me laugh at myself. Does that mean I'm a masochist? I think people who don't understand sarcasm are not able to see the humor in situations or themselves. Everyone needs to quit being so damn sensitive about themselves. Besides that indulging in sarcasm is just plain fun.
yea I agree i feel sarcasm keeps things light in any kind of conversation, the only time it would become i problem is if someone does it waaay to much and doesn't understand or cant sense inappropriate times to keep being sarcastic.But that is with anything, you can be to serious wayyy to much or you can be to goofy way to much and at inappropriate times.
I have learned the hard way that using sarcasm with schizophrenics and concrete thinkers can be a problem but other than that I say let them rip....
Like anything there are difference shades. Here JP was mainly talking about sarcasm designed to hurt but there are many forms. I often use it for comedy which works ok as long as people can see my expression and know that it is to be funny. Sarcasm can definitely not be humorous. If you see someone being sarcastic in a serious setting and take it as fun then you are definitely not getting the message.
Gee thanks for the lesson in sensitivity Steven. How did you know I am a mean hearted brute that enjoys seeing people put down with sarcasm. I'm glad you pointed it out to me so I could get the message. Now since you can't see my face I'll let you decide if I'm being sarcastic or not!!!! :) or :(
Matilda Percival I agree with that. I adore sarcasm because I can say how I feel, without going overboard. Especially when pointing out foolishness. I also find it hilarious, and it reminds me to not take certain situations seriously. A lot of people seem to look down on sarcasm, but we are allowed to have our opinions.
So in other words, sarcasm is a way to hide insecurities and project them on other people... it's a facade and defense mechanism. I think people who are sarcastic are pretentious because they are not telling how they really feel and it's a way of insulting people without them knowing it. They put on a facade of higher intellectualism when it is anything but. Yes, and sometimes they are trying to hide pain, to appear impenetrable, and thus intellectually intimidating. Sarcasm is phony. If it was about being honest, then sarcastic people would admit it.
Thank you, because your opinion matters.
Interesting...Part of it all comes down to what you are saying and how you are saying it. I have had all sorts of people mention to me over the years "you are so sarcastic all the time". Interestingly, it is not something I am aware of. It is also not something I specifically set out to do. I think a lot of it is also down to how someone pecieves you. I do try my best now to think carefully about what I say and how I say it these days. I try and think about the effect it might have and what appreciated or non appreciated value from that person.
When constantly putting ‘common’ labels 🏷 on people and then on ourselves like:
sarcastic or bi polar or manic or depressed or obsessive or psycho or bully or creepy or narcissistic or psychopathic whatever >
(Most all humans have “narcissistic” behavior or we would all live with the bears 🐻 in the mountains by ourselves)
Putting 🏷 Labels on people
tends to ‘dumb things down’ and explain very little &
It minimizes the real behavior that’s actually manifesting and the hidden motivation behind it all
If all bullies and rude insulting sarcastic people or whatever 🏷 label is put on them are ignored -well bye bye birdie
> ignore them - non reactive - 🤐
Detach from them ...
dropping the expectation...
they will scurry away without an audience to fed their insecurities
Those type people need their
EGO fed
from the reactions & interactions with others
They want a response 🤖 and they set the stage for how that response might turn out for their benefit ... manipulation 101
I know
My beliefs only matter to me 👍🏼 and that’s all that really matters and what other people believe doesn’t impact my peace much anymore- people are entitled to believe literally whatever they want to believe 👍🏼
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Very insightful but I would caveat your comment and stress that sarcasm IMO can and is appropriate if the person it’s directed toward knows you well and that person shares a similar sense of sarcasm.
It doesn't mean that .Not in my opinon anyway (the original statement commenting on ) ... Sarcasm can be used for driving a point ... Like someone may say dont help that homeless guy out they not worth it ... and you could be like .. "No people who have nothing to eat and stuck on street not worth any consideration hey . Who does that " Sarcasm ..So no i disagree sorry but i do strongly.. it has its purpose .. for revealing certain hard harsh truths many would rather avoid seeing .. AKA being REALLY
REAL
your sarcasm is funny, not mean, not the same thing
I’ve watched this so many times. Lots of CZcams videos on sarcasm and the pain it causes- this one really nails it from all perspectives. I keep revisiting it. Great stuff.
Dude! You seriously continue to blow me away!!! You’re so brilliant in wit, but make people seriously pause and take a long hard look at themselves and their views!
Thanks so much for your content!
#absolutelegend!!!
Watching people not laugh at sarcasm just brings joy to my soul. It's the reason I wake up ever morning.
Have you seen a therapist for ur anger? I'm sorry
Here is my mind fart
Sarcasm=empathy nullification.
Yes. Our gut tells us when it's being used that way! 💞💞💞 your explanation. I'm stepping away from people who use it much more quickly these days. I'm recognizing they're not going to change and they're not worth my time.
This past few months I became more pessimistic. I gave up that anything good will ever happen to me. I just accept that I might never leave this cripling poverty ever.
I used sarcasm to hide my disappointments about myself. I dont fight life anymore and just go with life. When there is something I am asked to do I just agree with it.
Quite the contrary sarcasm can highlight those who dont think valid aka who are false and ignorant. Into noticing certain things . That they may ought to recognise .. It can drive a point home of how false many are ... Example "No helping poor people is silly tut who would do that " im a human being not a flipping bank Empathy hey ? etc /... SARCASM ...... So no not always that ..When used correctly it serves a purpose
Why is sarcasm is celebrated and deliberately scripted into our society? Watch a sitcom and count the sarcastic comments. I noticed my nieces and nephews taking sarcastic comments from their cartoons and trying to use them in life. It was really disappointing how fast this sarcasm made an impression. Great video.
This is something I've wondered myself, and to me, I think it comes from a place of laziness. Not making the effort to consider what others are saying, and responding in a manner that lacks consideration and honesty has become a norm because I think we're in a day and age where people have a higher demand on fast results, and the less effort required, the faster we can produce results, even in the way we respond to people.
SO MUCH THIS. so many people just don't get it at all, and it's just kinda toxic that those people are just supposed to deal with sarcasm being awesome and so normal, it isn't normal. not everyone can understand or be sarcastic. if everyone could do it... fine. but it just causes confusion and hurt!
I'm an ex Catholic and of Irish descent. Therefore I was sucked into J.P.' s videos like a hungry sink. They are fumny on a level of self examination. Then he gets serious and begins to help me heal those hidden pains we all experience in life. The video on shame hit the nail on the head. I understand more about myself today through his videos then any other tool I've used. Thank you J.P.
I wish I could like this 10 times! I thought I was going to get another comical video and it really hit deep. I'm new to your channel, JP, but I'm grateful for it on many levels. Keep on keepin' on, man.🙂
I've read in a book once (Scar Tissue, Anthony Kiedis's autobiography) that sarcasm is harmful to the soul. I didn't really think about that much until I watched your video. I'm going to try to not be sarcastic now because of this. Thank you.
Sarcasm is my passion
JP, you straight up ROCK. Your intention absolutely DOES come through, which I believe is why Julie doesn't feel hurt by the humor in your videos!
I was just wondering what it would be like if you did a serious video and this fell in my lap. Thank you for taking as objective of a stance as humanly possible on so many issues, and exploring them in a light, entertaining way! Keep on rocking!
Very well stated JP. Your insight show in your humorous videos so this just highlights it.
I wasn’t expecting this, you are so kind and thoughtful. All of your videos are done to make people laugh and look at situations through a different lens your intent is not to hurt people that is clear. Because you felt compelled to make this video proves that there are people out there that use sarcasm to hurt people but you were not one of them. Your videos make me laugh and think and you are a blessing to a lot of people don’t lose sight of that ever. Have a good day honey!❤️
This is incredible. It's a complex defense mechanism articulated in a way that was relatable and easy to understand. I love that with your expansive reach you're promoting mindfulness and and awareness. Sarcasm, avoidance, anger, and essentially all unhealthy mechanisms are secondary reactions/behaviors cause by an uncomfortable emotion. Like you said sarcasm allows the person being sarcastic to avoid their pain and instead gain a false control over the other person.
Countering the automatic responses we've know all of lives is challenging. But it's possible. I've done it. I never stop doing it. One day I'm hoping it'll come naturally for me but for now I have to consciously stop and check my reaction. If I'm being sarcastic... what is the uncomfortable emotion and/or pain that I'm protecting myself from? That question saves you SO much time. If you know what you're upset about it can be resolved! Getting pissed off about the little things that have the same root emotion over and over again is exhausting. It is liberating and empowering to have such a presence in your own thought process. No one tells you that you can cognitively change your automatic way of thinking. I went for years on auto pilot. Never second guessing my knee jerk emotion. It's worth a second look. You'll be better for doing it.
Sorry such a long post but I am just such a huge proponent of this school of thinking. I think everyone in the world should subscribe to it. Speaking to other humans with respect and compassion and for our selves when we self talk. You cannot hurt someone while simultaneously having empathy for them. Remember this next time someone is sarcastic. They're in pain. You know. They might might not. Don't get frustrated or reactive, their behavior has nothing to do with you. Nine times out of ten people have no idea why they act the way they do. Just stay on topic and and guide them through their own journey of self awareness and enlightenment ✌🏻
Your true kindness still shows even in your "sarcatic" videos, JP. They are all wonderfully humorous and make my day. When I'm down in the dumps, I turn on one of your vids and have a good laugh, which makes me feel better....and that is my true sentiment....not sarcasm
This is great ! The best explanation for people who have no clue of what the word means or why it’s not healthy. Sarcasm is angers cousin.
Your satire compared to sarcasm is like orthoscopic surgery vs full abdominal opening. Love your stuff. Nice of you to present this honest summary.
Passive aggressive criticism is a perfect phrase for destructive, self serving sarcasm. Intent is everything.
I don't think your Ultra Spiritual vids are sarcastic for any other reason than it is such a non-confrontational way to remind us all to check ourselves. If we are those people who have become "ultra spiritual" then it is a mirror and an invitation to look closely at that. If we are the ones who are making fun of the more spiritually-based people, it invites us to examine that and heal something. I think they are marvelous! I also like your regular vids too. Helpful and pure.
In our current climate your ability to speak freely in this way is of great value. The way your using sarcasm is to teach not to hurt. Please continue and thank you for being a clear voice in a sea of confusion.
I've lived with a sarcastic person for ten+ years. It's painful, and confusing. The abuse councilors say that it's a sign of an abuser. Your videos, don't have the same vibs as sarcasm. They are gently poking people to look at themselves in the negative ( like in a picture film negative) so some things become more apparent and noticable in a different light. I know I do, and I welcome wisdom in understanding myself and others around me. And as entertainment, now that's a bonus! Love your work!
The greek word is pronounced sarkasMOS (the a's are pronounced like the a in "are" ) Thank you for your clear explanations in your video's. They heal me through understanding.
Barbara Argyropoulou Brinkman I'm Greek BEST COMMENT EVER !!!! :)
I lost a valuable friendship, due to sarcasm, many years ago. You're very right, I was coming from a place of pain.
I see your satirical videos not as you speaking from a place of pain, but to catch the attention of others by emulate a pain that they've experienced.
I think we all know one of those "ultra spiritual" people. One of those videos spread like wildfire in my community in the bay area, because there are a LOT of people like that whom we deal with here.
Sarcasm for the sake of entertainment and validating the pain of others.
I think what makes his ultra spiritual videos so enjoyable for us self-acknowledge spiritual people …how was that for a PC description … is that he is commenting on himself and not poking at others … he takes what would otherwise be judgmental and makes it personal, whimsical and fun:)
I thought you were just talking sh** when you said sarcasmos means "to tear flesh"... turns out you were being serious... I googled it.
This one got even stranger than I expected. Well done.
Your raw honesty cuts through to the core of everything I've been working on for decades. Now, go let your dog in!!!
I was raised with a mom & her sisters who were masters of sarcasm and 'making fun' of others. They really were funny. But then I turned into an older child (can't say I "grew up" because I refuse to) and moved away. Lo & behold people out in the world didn't all make fun of people. Wow, what a concept. I was always made fun of (bullied) as a kid, so I turned on myself and made fun of myself (to get attention? to be accepted? all of the above?) When I went to a group counsel and the counselor told me I had to stop making fun of myself, the other 'inmates' as I called my comrades in this group, when they heard I was advised to stop making fun of myself all said, "oh damn, too bad...you were SO funny!!!" - But now, when my adult daughters get together, they make fun of me. As you said to "find your voice" - I did and asked them to stop. They made fun of me asking them to stop. Next day, I really found my voice and said to my eldest one that their constant making fun of me really hurts my feelings and to PLEASE stop. And it made me cry as I asked for this. So, this is me being vulnerable, having this out on your public forum for EVERYONE to read, when on my website, I'm being all cool and creative. Just wanted to share the depth of what you say how it resonates with all I've been working on, and how you say it in such a way that really is effective in my progress and 'grokking' it. Thanks again.
I see your "ultra spiritual" videos as great social commentary.... funny and thought provoking at the same time.
I appreciated your Ultra Spiritual series. They were well done and my first intro to your content. Those videos were drenched in verbal irony with elements of satire but didn’t come off as sarcastic. Sarcasm conveys mockery and contempt. Your Ultra Spiritual series were amusing to even the most super serial yogis. Cheers
Of course, I thought that this would be one of your humour videos, but.....boy, did I appreciate it!!!!! Thank you for breaking things down SO very well. It made me soul-search! 💕
really great video! wow. so impressed! I've already subscribed (a friend sent me your gluten intolerant video which was HILARIOUS) and I'm only disappointed that I haven't watched your videos sooner! Keep up the good work!
J.P. just owned this video. Watching it again. Love it!!!
When I see the ultra spiritual videos, I feel pain and vulnerability that I salute and honor. It echoed the experience of pain that a person would feel at the hands of fake spirituality. It takes time to peel off what was light from shadow after it, but it is a rude awakening. Love peace and healing!
Thank you for pointing out there are two kinds of "cutting open" or tearing flesh... this is another wonderful lesson on our expressions of feeling and emotions.
Thank you so much for your insight here, JP. A couple of years ago I did a lot of being vulnerable and open, confronting sarcasm with someone I was in a deep relationship with. It was very healing, ultimately, after we parted ways and spent many months trying to learn how to communicate again. What came up for me as I listened to your words is that I'm still projecting a lot of that pain onto these situations that I don't have nearly as much invested in. I can name that fear, I can use that knife of perception to cut out pain with honesty rather than turn it inward. Yeah. That's pretty good. Much love and gratitude to you.
I appreciate you sharing about you Julie :-)
AwakenWithJP :-)
Julie Lobdell You are not catching on to the joke I don't think... he is being sarcastic right now, you see that... right????
Anthony Maduri really?
Darryn Grabbe y e s.
I never thought about sarcasm that much but it makes so much sense now
I don't know about helping me with my sarcasm, but your videos have certainly aided me with my insomnia. So thanks for that, at least... :)
I wish there was a way to like a video more than once. I’ve watched this video several times since it’s release seven years ago and I return to it from time to time.
Great video. I always thought sarcasm is some kind of defense mechanism.
One of my favourite channels man.
You really covered this topic in a fine way, Thanks man. I can relate to so much of this on a personal level.
I think your sarcasm is lovely and awesome!! Keep it coming!
Haha "I don't even know what I am"
Great video as usual!
I miss seeing videos like this on your channel. Now dont get me wrong, I love the current material. But once in a while these reflective and thought provoking videos are helpful!
I can see how people might think of your Ultra Spiritual series as being a bit mean, but i think the series is really honest, and that is what I love the most about the series. I can laugh at the series BECAUSE I've used the Ultra Spiritual mindset so much in my life. I find that when I personally notice that I am starting to sound pompous in the middle of a conversation, If I relate whatever I am talking about as the next way to become Ultra Spiritual for humor, I can both ease the mindsets of people around me as they understand I know how I sound, and also, so that I can remember that I need to be more humble. I love that series!
Hi! Greetings from Greece & congrats on your videos. In ancient greek sarx means flesh and sarcasm in greek is pronnounced as sarcasmos with the most powerfull syllabus being the last one and not the second as you pronounced it. Yet your pronnounciation sounds great too, I just commended on that because you gave it a second thought on your video. Keep up with that great work :)
I remember an incredibly sarcastic HR at a recent company I left that seemed to thrive off sarcasm every morning standup - leaving the company with a more insecure mindset to tackle the day.
JP! Thank you for your videos! I really appreciate your knowledge, wisdom and humor. Keep it up!
I played this one thinking it was from the ultra spiritual series....then with shock I realised it was a serious video. I think the ultra spiritual videos are more satirical than sarcastic. I don't feel there's any contempt conveyed. I love the Tao of the Man Bun especially.
Thank you for your satirical videos. Being satirical is nice aproach our hearts to help us realize what's our life about and we were not being aware of. Thanks, again.
Well explained and one of your best videos, once we learn how to diffuse it and use it productively it becomes a great way to share knowledge with the base of humour as opposed to hurt.
A lot of great comedians have stumbled on this and used it well.
"...Losing myself through the superficial agenda of 'finding myself'. There is no greater way than lose yourself than to believe you are finding yourself while you are loosing yourself". WOW
You are absolutely fabulous! Thank you for all of your videos and for continuing to put up with us!
JP you are good! Love your videos. You pulled me thru very hard times recently. I do appreciate your insight coupled with refreshing honesty.
I dunno, my sarcasm comes from a place of humour and I'm only ever sarcastic around close friends and family cause I know they can handle it.
Thanks for bringing this up it’s a very important point to make because it hasn’t been brought up and it shows that you can actually take sarcasm by it’s ugly head and use it to your advantage in a playful and safe way.
yeah this Reeaaallly heeeellllped a loooot with my clinically diagnosed sarcasm disorder. *cries deep inside*
I must say, I found your videos and loved them! The sarcasm and humility you show is a wonderful place to explore. I was curious after watching a few why you were expressing such extremes in the videos.
I found this video and I want to thank you personally for showing you and talking so elegantly with your words. Honestly I've been finding it difficult in person to find the words to properly express my truth and as it happens with many people I'm sure, things come out too concrete and I sometimes feel the need to defend or over-explain my perspective. Also I sometimes decide not to say anything because my mind wanders with uncertainty as to whether it is truth or thought. Even with those few sentences I am uncertain as to whether or not you will understand where I'm coming from, but that is for you and whoever else to feel I suppose.
Thank you
love it as well as the sarcastic videos.keep up the great work
If you choose to frame the world in such a way that everyone (or "most people") are speaking sarcastically at all times, it's like flipping the world on its head and entering a dark world. Suddenly, any compliment someone gives you feels like a dig with some sort of subtextual meaning behind it that you can't quite place. You ask, "What do you mean by that?" and in return, you are certain to receive an answer that doesn't convince you of their good intent. It's a slippery slope. REMEMBER: you can only control your framing and perception of reality, not what the other person has said. And also, never take anything too personally either! We're all on different paths colliding chaotically with one another and have entirely separate connotations for what different things mean.
That was a really good question. No sarcasm
Extremely honest and smart... i mirror
Good, this is a good talk. You are a Guru. Seriously. Not kidding. Seriously, trust me.
OMG you're so amazing!!! So brilliant!!! So funny!!! So talented!!! Not flattering. I truly think this.
I think your videos are awesom! And yes they have made me think a lot about many aspects of my own healing process. Looooove the humor! Thanks!
Awesome! Thanks this video helped me be forgiving towards a sarcastic acquaintance. Exactly what I needed. Thanks. :)
Confronting the person about their sarcasm is difficult but with a gentle approach it can be worked through. Simply saying, "ouch that one hurt", or "you know when you say that in with sarcasm it hurts my feelings, can you please not do that ".
"Scar-casm"- great. Yes, Shadow Work comedy....for the purpose of Awareness, Acceptance, Bringing to Light/ Making Light, and Transformation.
I appreciate your ability to point out absurd ideologies using sarcasm as a tool to bring out a very important point you are trying to make. I get who you are. Those who are offended just don't get it. We cant control others interpretations particularly if they are of opposite standpoint. We can't please everyone and if we try to we won't please anyone. Just be who you are. I get you.
Thank you for that explanation. I’m having a hard time coping with my boyfriend’s sarcasm but this puts a new light on it. I’m going to bring this to his attention.
All the best.
Years ago I brought it to the attention of a guy I was dating; and that was the end of us dating, although we remained friends. Recently I realized I'm not interested in being friends with him anymore. His sarcasm and insistence that it's just a joke, saying I'm too thin skinned, and to skinny! at a weight towards the higher middle of the weight range for my height... He's punishing me for not being sexually involved with him. Not worth my time.
@@goodintentions1302 They don’t change. Yes lowest of wit. Like there hiding behind there doors. I hate it
Really interesting, never thought about it from that point of view. Thank you for sharing this!
Watching it from Peru :)
Wow! Really insightful. Thank you.
So wonderfully expressed. I completely understand what you say about creating an opening (even an uncomfortable one) in order to reveal and acknowledge something we couldn't look at. Your humorous videos have that.
Is there a hint of shadow-sarcasm in them too? Perhaps, because all things have a shadow, but the balance tips towards the intended healing within the context of all your videos (context is always important).
No way are the Ultra Spiritual videos mean spirited. They are a shinning example of how to make fun of something, a wonderful reminder to not take ourselves or our spiritually too seriously, and are incredibly fun to watch. In my eyes, you bring overlooked issues to light, in a lighthearted way - pointing out blindspots to those that claim an interest in being aware. They come across as playful, not harmful. Besides, laughter is always the best medicine in any case.
Sarcasm is an art form, and honestly I have a profound appreciation for those who are able to pull off on a regular basis.
However, doesn't take a rocket scientist to see it for what it is - a defense mechanism.
We all make concessions every day, scoot things under the rug, as required by life.
Sarcasm - done right requires above-avg amount of intelligence, charisma, confidence.
Therefore, people usually conclude that sarcasm is an "admirable trait," (arguably I believe media programming largely responsible for creating this idea).
That said, a VERY powerful behavior.
Wielders of this special talent both attract & instill fear in others (ie. disagreeing, honestly speaking their minds etc).
Ironically, as I get older & wiser, it becomes clear who was suffering the most - "the classic smart ass."
Question - who will provide tools to help break down this artificial, ego-driven, anti-connecting, anti-communication behavior?
Until we confront & quit enabling this behavior in others, it's just white noise.
Sarcasm is not an art form. Children use it all the time, and it really is the lowest attempt at humor.
You don’t have to be smart at all to be sarcastic
Another excellent video.
Sometimes my best friend is sarcastic after I'm sharing something vulnerable and intimate with her, I'm just guessing she's uncomfortable and doesn't know how to react but it really bothers me.
I thought this was going to be a parody until I realized JP wasn't wearing a purple t-shirt and had his hair back. Sweet video, thank you.
As usual youre videos are the cause of much enlightenment. I appreciate you!
This is so helpful. Sarcasm is something I really dislike. I am glad that I understand it better now.