Situationships and avoidants

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  • čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
  • Most Situationships involve a partner that is severely avoidant, and involves a partner that does not hold or enforce boundaries #boundaries #healthyboundaries #heartbroken #emotionallyunavailable #fearofabandonment #avoidant #avoidantattachment #relationship #dating #insecureattachment #relationshipcoach #situationship #attachment #breakup #fearfulavoidant #situationships

Komentáře • 24

  • @KR-ou2qo
    @KR-ou2qo Před 29 dny +6

    Even with lables, it can still be a situationship when no genuine commitment is involved

  • @hempmaiden
    @hempmaiden Před měsícem +12

    This is 100% accurate and wise. It’s completely insightful and extremely well expressed. I’m not quite sure how Coach Ryan does this. Extraordinarily succinct.

    • @laurawright1342
      @laurawright1342 Před 26 dny

      💯❤

    • @colinwalton489
      @colinwalton489 Před 3 dny

      Being afraid of abandonment is a self fulfilling prophecy by a number Avoident.
      They engineer the abandonment by how they refuse to be available emotional.
      If they refuse to take responsibility for their actions then no one can ever make them feel secure

  • @Passport2Pleasure
    @Passport2Pleasure Před měsícem +6

    Whether you choose or want a title or label, that's not what gives us security in a relationship. Relationship Agreements that are mutually created and agreed to being honored repeatedly and consistently over time does. The Experience of the relationship, not the the Label on it is where safety and security is built.

  • @jurgenwehner3607
    @jurgenwehner3607 Před měsícem +7

    6 years 11 months situationship

  • @dmitryisaev5955
    @dmitryisaev5955 Před 29 dny +2

    Had same situation. I kept pressing for a marriage and she finally left saying that if she feels strong enough about me she will give me a sign. Be careful break up with a DA is a ticking bomb…

  • @csstudio3648
    @csstudio3648 Před měsícem +2

    Yes, I've been dealing with this for a while with an FA/DA. Now that I have a clear picture of what is going on, I'm less anxious about it, though still not happy. Thank you for this content. You'r clear explanations are very helpful!

  • @gayleneflower398
    @gayleneflower398 Před měsícem +5

    It wasn’t that way in my situation, he said I was his girlfriend and then he pulled away for no reason slow motion. He has done it before he monkey branched! So it doesn’t matter what he calls one, they’re still cheaters and liars, and messed up people

  • @laurawright1342
    @laurawright1342 Před 26 dny

    You are such a blessing to me!!!! I soooo appreciate your words of wisdom and truth! ❤

  • @Nonfiction.Reader
    @Nonfiction.Reader Před měsícem +1

    True 😢.

  • @unvaccinatedmgtowfitness

    Don’t stay and get breadcrumbed to death. Don’t stay and tolerate being kept at an arm’s length. Don’t stay and tolerate being always outside of the avoidant’s walls.

  • @konkosko5878
    @konkosko5878 Před měsícem +1

    I wish a video where it shows: the "why" this type of break-ups lasts more than others and how it changes the concept of relations. The reasons, not that much for those who have been living these grieves. More focused on being understood by those who are suppost to be our support( friends/family..etc) and also for avoidants XD ( that I know that is not highly likely to be understood)

  • @caitlinshields3472
    @caitlinshields3472 Před měsícem

    Great video! I can hear you better from this corner the fish painting really distracts and competes with your messages. Thank you for your service!!!! Such a good teacher.

  • @yeeeeeyy
    @yeeeeeyy Před měsícem

    💯❤️

  • @fadingfrontier1585
    @fadingfrontier1585 Před měsícem

    This happened to me with what I believe to be a FA, or whatever that failure of a woman is. Thank you Coach Ryan for your wise suggestions!!

  • @Forestgnome513
    @Forestgnome513 Před měsícem +2

    Does this type of interaction happen between two people who are just friends? Some physical attraction between the friends might have existed, but there was definitely emotional intimacy building.

  • @dejaporter7338
    @dejaporter7338 Před 3 dny

    I was an enabler he always crossed my boundaries and i always forgave him o cant believe i was so stupid

  • @archimedesofsyracuse9268
    @archimedesofsyracuse9268 Před měsícem +1

    Hey, coach! Can you make a video on why an avoidant deleted/blocked you on social media out of the blue

  • @kimsummers9283
    @kimsummers9283 Před 4 dny +1

    Also known as the Deadzone lol no thanks. I'm worth way more than that lol miss me with that bullshit 😂 either man up and be the partner I deserve or leave me TF alone!