I had to get the idea out of MY head years ago that soulmates and the girl of my dreams exist. Men got duped to feel the same way emotionally about love as Women do
Nah, Sadia is spot on. You can be as nice as you wanna be but as long as you aren't naive, women won't be able to control you. Its when a woman knows she can control you that she gets turned off.
Part true. the other half truth is many people really aren't as nice as they claim and many people men and women have had the worst encounters with fake nice people and grow a huge detest in their heart for them and would rather take anything then someone just fake is the bigger issue. I think being nice and kind is good but it has it's drawbacks the resentment and the giving your all turns into really bad anger and easily abuse.
@@synergyrevolution2332most times if a woman can't control you she will eventually get turned off too. as men... we all have a shelf life. just realize no matter what you do with women you are fucked in the end.
She is spot on with this. I was over attached to my mum as the last born of the house. Always saw my dad as the bad man. Always took my mum's side. Never attempted to understand him till he died. Went into my marriage saying I will never be like my dad. Am currently facing a divorce now. How I wish I had listened to my old man when he said to me that I will understand better when u are a man,why I do what I do. 😢. Naive guy here. Have learnt the hard way.
Im in the same situation right now at a divorce. Did you improve from your old you if yes what steps did you take and what are the tactics you can give me ?
@kiridistekbaston2360 It's a continuous process bro. Am just looking back at tins I did wrong,where is went wrong. Note dem down cos until u find someone else u never really know if u have improved in that area of your life. If u will fall for the same trick again. I think self awareness is key now. Noting down your mistakes is the first step.
@@kirikdistekbaston2360 Start by reading self help books, books on personal development, I will recommend Law of Human Nature by Robert Greene, it's a great resource.
@@obdanny2000 That's your opinion and everybody is entitled to theirs. And in my opinion it really depends on how you use that backbone if it is really needed. Most good women understand and will agree with the backbone stand if it is for the better of the relationship.
@sparkyguitar0058 Whatever your opinion is, I repeat, a man needs to have a backbone. Why are you triggered by that? If you don't have boundaries, you become a doormat and even the "good girl" will end up resenting you. You can be "nice" and have a backbone, just don't be a doormat, period.
I think it’s more of a self respect thing, as a man, I think the lack of self respect is what causes men to be how they are. Every time I have seen a man do something that he could have avoided when it comes to women, it’s because he is afraid of the woman or he is not sure he is good enough for her. I have been vehemently rejected in ways that most men will not be able to tolerate, and I did not go around chasing the woman. Confidence is who you are whether women like you or not. As a man, it should be something that you possess that nobody can take away from you. A lot of men don’t have that kind of value, and I think this is why they are WILLINGLY NAIVE. They finish last because they don’t have the self respect to put themselves first and go after what is first instead of waiting in line and being last. If you wait to be last, you are a beggar not a chooser
She's right to an extent. The only thing I would add is that it's not necessarily that you think your mom is right. What makes men think women are innocent is the media. If there's no father around to give the male side of the story, he's going to believe what society is telling him. She nailed the naivete aspect on the head. Women don't like a dope they can run circles around.
My father in law had a really bad temper and would blow his stack at the drop of a pin. But my mother in law would pick away at him even if he was in a really good mood. She would start criticizing him for little things then would go on to something he did years ago. Then the fighting would start. She just couldn't leave him alone and had to pick and pick until he finally got mad and would start yelling. So I saw plenty of how it could definitely be a woman's fault.
As a man who was raised being attached to mother due to problems with father i agree with her. Being attached to overprotective mother causes now many problems in my life i have to solve. If you feel that you are being raised the same way - look for independency. Search for work, for financial independence and go live alone on your own, you need to break your dependance on mother to grow, i think
She forget to mention that society and the media as a whole paint women to be damn near perfect to the point that women can't do no wrong . I advice men to get away from their mom's as soon as possible so they can develop their own perceptive of what manhood is about . They also have to embrace their true opinions even in the face of female critism .
This 50% True. Nice guys/Naive guys have not developed their hard side due to a number of reasons. Domineering mothers crush them , over nurturing mothers deflate men's hard side. When it is the hard side that attracts women. Aphrodite was married to Adonis, but was in love with Ares (A psychopath).
@@Fraggr92 The Greek Gods represent various aspects of human behaviour personified. Not only spheres of the natural world. My observation is based on a few decades of dating and experience, young son.
@@Ston247 The greek gods are bedtime stories that people in ancient times told each other the same way that we watch movies and play video games in modern times. They have absolutely no bearing on anything in the real world, and to actually base your view on reality on them is laughably ignorant, and honestly quite sad. To believe in Athena, Zeus and Ares is no better than to believe in Voldemort, Luke Skywalker and Bilbo Baggins.
@@Fraggr92 Wrong again, young man. And besides, my experience isn't based on fairy tales. It's based on actual life experiences. Listen to what others are saying, not just your own attitude. The author of this video gave me her endorsement. That says something.
@@relationshipadvice2025 It is a shame human nature is so predictable. I'm sticking to writing and recording music for now. Thanks for your reply. Take care.
I was given away at birth by my mother. After that I was raised by self absorbed bullies. I learned to tolerate horrible behavior in hopes of one scrap of connection with another human
This is not about guys or girls even. When you are overly "nice", that is somehow construed as weakness and naivety as well. That you can be walked on and you won't stand up for yourself b/c you are too "nice". We are teaching our daughter this lesson. It's a valuable lesson for everyone. The right balance in holding firm vs "being nice".
This has nothing to do with the whole nice guys finish last idea. That idea came from nice guys not even getting a woman. Whereas she’s talking about weeding out bad women. Nice guys don’t even get the opportunity to do that!
Let's be honest here Girls don't even give nice guys a chance Rather than saying nice guys finish last..it's more accurate to say that they never finish at all
@@KK-sg5glYes exactly Nice guys never get chosen by a girl ...even if he does get chosen ,he was literally her last preference..in other words he did finish last
Every women who says this to me: "Hey we should hangout together sometimes" she is actually saying..... " I don't like to be around you" That really breaks me💀
Been finishing last all my life. I thought relationships were supposed to be about love. At 65yo I finally get it. Luckily I have a little bit of money left... BTW, I had a dad, but I was one of ten kids, and he didn't take the time to be sure I understood anything important.
I understand your point, and I agree, I just want to clarify something, it is entirely possible for all exes of someone to be toxic/narcissistic, and what you "did" was grow up in a toxic environment, be lied to, manipulated and abused. If someone would openly question my assesment of people in my life, without being solid arguments (which is impossible on the first dates, not actually knowing the details of the situatios) it would be a HUGE red flag for me. Your example is a good one since toxic people tend to advertise their "crazy ex" more, still, this is why discernment is very important, situations are nuanced and you might miss an opportunity
I wouldn’t consider myself to be completely ignorant but I surely didn’t know and understand just how bad it could really be or get out here. . I’ve been through and seen things that give me nightmares till this day. Once you’re no longer the fool, you no longer jump at every opportunity and women notice you don’t put up with any bullsh*t.
Spot on as always. I was naive going into my marriage, I grew up with a Toxic farther, and I was sympathetic towards my mum. Needless to say my spouse gave me a rude awakening to reality.
@@JP-te5en good to know you have put all behind you, same here bro. I am approaching all my relationships with a renewed mentality. A lot more strategic in life now.
Yup, I grew up that way until traumatic events forced me to see my parents exactly as they were, which significantly altered how I approach relationships with women now.
I had no father growing up except for my grandfather (mother's side). My mother consistently bad-mouthed my bio-father to no end. I think now it was an over-reaction. But she is a semi-hardcore feminist. Short hair and all. I was screwed from the beginning. I am what I would call a nice guy, but I acknowledge I am fairly naive, especially when it comes to women. By the amount of women I attract, I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm even attracting girls in their 20's by a fairly large amount, and I'm 53. And they're all beautiful by anyone's standard. But I've had to fight my way through some bs for several years. This is just one more layer.
The moment a woman mistreats you, walk away with mental strength Improve yourself, find a better woman When all men stop putting up with toxic traits, many women will stop
My mom and grandma did not answer my curiosity and questions growing up, I love them to this day but left eventually. Was called mamas boys for taking care of my family, but just heard everyone out and had my own opinions. Would have been better to leave sooner overall to help shed them. They actually made me very pragmatic thinking because of it did not have much to say overall to them eventually
I'll throw a third option. I grew up knowing my mom was a PITA (to us kids) and my dad was often sick of her and did things with us away from her, usually by doing something golf or fishing related. But they rarely fought and never in front of us. It was more or less a peaceful, stable home. I never saw her manipulate him (nag yes), in hindsight she was likely much less dishonest than the average person. But I would say in some ways I was still naive. Looking back I have to wonder if it was not because of the reasons she gave, but rather some false belief that everyone finds a way to get along and crazy BS or blatant lies to get what you want were someone else's problem and easy to spot in a partner. That was modelled for me and I just assumed that all couples were that way. No worries though, most of us all eventually learn our spouses games.
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Im so introverted i dont even talk to woman. The only exception is for work reasons, other issuses with or from my parents dont can mess up relationships because i dont have them. Or thats the mess itself?
Imagine being the spoiled child who suffered a very early age trauma in the form of loss, being regarded as “amazing, so smart, so different, so special, so artistic…” and therefor a hope of bringing fortune to this quit modest family. Then he learn to play the keyboard and in three months he is on par and playing with the adults, skipping processes everywhere, getting shortcuts because that is all he sees because, this 9yo child thinks: “if I can figure out stuff by myself while given just the basic information, why bother learning the theory as everyone else”? And again, this reinforces the family’s belief that his brilliance will save them, specially when by that point his strict but very proud father has an incurable heart condition. He passes away weeks before he graduates in the conservatory and at the funeral, the then 13yo, not so bright anymore, besides his father’s coffin is time after time taped at his shoulder from behind in a top to down slightly hard tappings while saying: “now you are the man of the house and have to take care of your mother (37yo) and your sister (10yo)”. He is not ready and would never be. Has a day by day life, disregarding common sense simply because he has none. Sabotages himself time after time. Get sick, almost dies and loses a one of job. Finally collapses when his mother, 57yo, dies from cancer holding both of his son and daughter hands. Suddenly he realizes what he really is: nothing. There is and there never wore a real goal for him to achieve but certainly there were ways to get nowhere. That must be devastating, scary as hell to look at this abyss he finally managed to get to by every automatic action he took in his life. I agree, such a person would be very naive because it did not develop healthy emotional cognition, the skill to perceive the world from the outside in, but only by the image he creates and absolutely believes. Pray for his soul, if there is even one.
The difference between nice and good. Nice men do not set boundaries, are not confident, expect a reward, and think they're entitled because they are nice. Good guys set boundaries, behave decent because they are, they do not feel entitled and do not expect a reward. They are just good. People see the difference. Especially women. Setting boundaries shows self-worth and communicating them respectfully shows confidence. Confidence is attractive. Love is not a war in which you conquer someone. Love is not a transaction, in which you buy someone. Love just is. You feel it, or you don't. You can buy sex, but not intimacy.
I saw her in a clip with Andrew Tate, looking up to him like she would...Until then I thought that she knows what she is saying, but in this case, it clearly is who the naive is :). She knows how to talk, but that's how far it goes. Take it as a personal opinion and no more.
"They didn't question reality. They have a poor relationship with the truth. They look for what they want to hear." Sounds fucked up, but learning to accept this world and not some other one is the key to happiness Learning to love how fucked up you actually are and all the people you know actually are
*"Nice guys finish last"* is a saying made up by "rappers". In other words, nice guys don't force people to like them, and actually have to work on: charisma, ethics, wisdom, and making enough to provide. "Rappers" just take what they want, and mock those who don't. The moral of the story is... go talk to the girl you like. Fuck your shame! You ain't a "rapper", and that means you're better than more men than you'd believe in this world. Be your authentic self, cause even being a "nice guy" the media mocks... makes you better than most men on this planet.
I think more importantly, it’s growing up in this decentralized culture, being exposed to too many people in general. I believe a lot of the problems we face have more to do with social infrastructure than the Band-Aids we’re trying to put on it by coming up with these new philosophies of social interaction.
''Its the same as saying ''men who ''trust a woman'' finish last.... Men Just GO YOUR OWN WAY, and finish with this hyper-confused, gamble that is modern day relationships.. imo
Parents divorced at 10 and I always was like none of your shit has anything to do with me so keep your shit to yourself. It doesn’t even bother me. When two people don’t want to be with each other anymore I got this at 10 mentally , maybe not fully emotionally but I understood it. Adults are often way to emotional and children shouldn’t be involved in emotional drama stemming from their parents. Children adapt a reason you can’t raise a child you can simply be what you want them to become.
Nice guys are shit on universally but when anyone gets into trouble or needs a person to listen to them all of a sudden they're looking for a nice person to help them. It's backwards logic to not respect nice people but want to live in a nice society
These nice guys she's talking about aren't often as intellectually lazy as she describes them to be. Many of these men would have figured out the truth about women's nature if they hadn't been being constantly brainwashed by the media growing up. The father's job is to make sure the boys unlearn the lies, but he often doesn't even see it because he's not around when they're watching this stuff. Fathers spend a lot of time at work, and you KNOW the mother isn't going to spend any time doing this.
I don't trust "nice" people who aren't a little bit naive and selfish. Only monsters and Saints will seem nice 24/7. Guess who you're statistically more likely to encounter?
58, havent dated in 35 years, when i used to ask , all id hear was '' oh, youre a nice guy "", whatever that meant, so i stopped, now, all you see are videos saying "" wher are all the nice guys ''? now this !!! they dont know WHAT the hell they want....
So what is the advice here. Assume girls who had a tough time with there past relationships deserved to be treated that way or are overexaggerating and so what. What do i do as a man trying to woman to share my wife with. Does she think you should stay away from women like that. She never really says.
As it was/and is written by The Only Mighty One & Creator of the Heavens & 🌎 YAHUAH 𐤉𐤄𐤅𐤄 יהוה (I AM HE WHO SELF EXISTS) “the woman was made for the man” understand this, and you will b ahead of the game(s) …
Those men; they invent things or prove mathematical theorems. They most likely contributed to the device you’re watching this on. Thanks for your opinion. You can thank me for mine. Wish you the best of luck in life. I’ve found it namely passion. But who cares? Well, I do.
She is right but "naive" is an umbrella term in this case. Let's give real psychiatrists a chance to explain these things... Everybody loooves psychology these days. And they give advice, because why not.
Ahh no women are attracted to evil period..bcz survival power etc ...agreeableness in big five..u cant simultaneously be agreeable and disagreeable..Personality comes in cluster
If a woman says she wants a nice guy she means she wants the guy she is currently with to be nice; she doesn't want YOU.
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I had to get the idea out of MY head years ago that soulmates and the girl of my dreams exist. Men got duped to feel the same way emotionally about love as Women do
Nah, Sadia is spot on. You can be as nice as you wanna be but as long as you aren't naive, women won't be able to control you. Its when a woman knows she can control you that she gets turned off.
Part true. the other half truth is many people really aren't as nice as they claim and many people men and women have had the worst encounters with fake nice people and grow a huge detest in their heart for them and would rather take anything then someone just fake is the bigger issue. I think being nice and kind is good but it has it's drawbacks the resentment and the giving your all turns into really bad anger and easily abuse.
@@synergyrevolution2332most times if a woman can't control you she will eventually get turned off too. as men... we all have a shelf life. just realize no matter what you do with women you are fucked in the end.
She is spot on with this. I was over attached to my mum as the last born of the house. Always saw my dad as the bad man. Always took my mum's side. Never attempted to understand him till he died. Went into my marriage saying I will never be like my dad. Am currently facing a divorce now. How I wish I had listened to my old man when he said to me that I will understand better when u are a man,why I do what I do. 😢. Naive guy here. Have learnt the hard way.
This is pretty sad. I'm sorry man.
Im in the same situation right now at a divorce. Did you improve from your old you if yes what steps did you take and what are the tactics you can give me ?
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It's a continuous process bro. Am just looking back at tins I did wrong,where is went wrong. Note dem down cos until u find someone else u never really know if u have improved in that area of your life. If u will fall for the same trick again. I think self awareness is key now. Noting down your mistakes is the first step.
@@kirikdistekbaston2360 Start by reading self help books, books on personal development, I will recommend Law of Human Nature by Robert Greene, it's a great resource.
Best thing about being the nice guy is that the women that are actually looking for the typical nice guy are worth it
A man needs to have a backbone, period, regardless of whether the woman is worth it or not.
@@obdanny2000 That's your opinion and everybody is entitled to theirs. And in my opinion it really depends on how you use that backbone if it is really needed. Most good women understand and will agree with the backbone stand if it is for the better of the relationship.
@sparkyguitar0058 Whatever your opinion is, I repeat, a man needs to have a backbone. Why are you triggered by that? If you don't have boundaries, you become a doormat and even the "good girl" will end up resenting you. You can be "nice" and have a backbone, just don't be a doormat, period.
I disagree with you.
@@relationshipadvice2025 Who do you disagree with?
"Nice" doesn't mean nice. Be kind instead. Kind with everyone, not just women. This is an universally attractive trait
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I think it’s more of a self respect thing, as a man, I think the lack of self respect is what causes men to be how they are. Every time I have seen a man do something that he could have avoided when it comes to women, it’s because he is afraid of the woman or he is not sure he is good enough for her. I have been vehemently rejected in ways that most men will not be able to tolerate, and I did not go around chasing the woman. Confidence is who you are whether women like you or not. As a man, it should be something that you possess that nobody can take away from you. A lot of men don’t have that kind of value, and I think this is why they are WILLINGLY NAIVE. They finish last because they don’t have the self respect to put themselves first and go after what is first instead of waiting in line and being last. If you wait to be last, you are a beggar not a chooser
Yes and No...
@@relationshipadvice2025Care to elaborate on your response?
Agree completely, at the end of the day, it boils down to self-respect and sticking up for yourself
She's right to an extent. The only thing I would add is that it's not necessarily that you think your mom is right. What makes men think women are innocent is the media. If there's no father around to give the male side of the story, he's going to believe what society is telling him. She nailed the naivete aspect on the head. Women don't like a dope they can run circles around.
Men watched what their mother do too
Too true. I grew up thinking women were “the fairer sex”. I didn’t really understand things until I was in my 40s. 😢
But I did learn.
My father in law had a really bad temper and would blow his stack at the drop of a pin. But my mother in law would pick away at him even if he was in a really good mood. She would start criticizing him for little things then would go on to something he did years ago. Then the fighting would start. She just couldn't leave him alone and had to pick and pick until he finally got mad and would start yelling. So I saw plenty of how it could definitely be a woman's fault.
As a man who was raised being attached to mother due to problems with father i agree with her. Being attached to overprotective mother causes now many problems in my life i have to solve.
If you feel that you are being raised the same way - look for independency. Search for work, for financial independence and go live alone on your own, you need to break your dependance on mother to grow, i think
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She forget to mention that society and the media as a whole paint women to be damn near perfect to the point that women can't do no wrong .
I advice men to get away from their mom's as soon as possible so they can develop their own perceptive of what manhood is about .
They also have to embrace their true opinions even in the face of female critism .
Agree
This 50% True. Nice guys/Naive guys have not developed their hard side due to a number of reasons. Domineering mothers crush them , over nurturing mothers deflate men's hard side. When it is the hard side that attracts women. Aphrodite was married to Adonis, but was in love with Ares (A psychopath).
Basing your world view on ancient greek gods is like basing your world view on Harry Potter. Just saying mate.
@@Fraggr92 The Greek Gods represent various aspects of human behaviour personified. Not only spheres of the natural world. My observation is based on a few decades of dating and experience, young son.
@@Ston247 The greek gods are bedtime stories that people in ancient times told each other the same way that we watch movies and play video games in modern times. They have absolutely no bearing on anything in the real world, and to actually base your view on reality on them is laughably ignorant, and honestly quite sad.
To believe in Athena, Zeus and Ares is no better than to believe in Voldemort, Luke Skywalker and Bilbo Baggins.
@@Fraggr92 Wrong again, young man. And besides, my experience isn't based on fairy tales. It's based on actual life experiences. Listen to what others are saying, not just your own attitude. The author of this video gave me her endorsement. That says something.
She was married to Hephaustes, Smith god. Not Adonis.
I agree. These men tend to tolerate toxic women, too, as the women are actually versions of their mommies.
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@@relationshipadvice2025 It is a shame human nature is so predictable. I'm sticking to writing and recording music for now. Thanks for your reply. Take care.
I was given away at birth by my mother. After that I was raised by self absorbed bullies. I learned to tolerate horrible behavior in hopes of one scrap of connection with another human
This is not about guys or girls even. When you are overly "nice", that is somehow construed as weakness and naivety as well. That you can be walked on and you won't stand up for yourself b/c you are too "nice". We are teaching our daughter this lesson. It's a valuable lesson for everyone. The right balance in holding firm vs "being nice".
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This has nothing to do with the whole nice guys finish last idea. That idea came from nice guys not even getting a woman. Whereas she’s talking about weeding out bad women. Nice guys don’t even get the opportunity to do that!
Nice guys have no backbone and standards that enable him to weed out women in the first place .
@@Ben256MBgetting a woman’s attention comes before weeding her out.
Let's be honest here
Girls don't even give nice guys a chance
Rather than saying nice guys finish last..it's more accurate to say that they never finish at all
@@KK-sg5glYes exactly
Nice guys never get chosen by a girl ...even if he does get chosen ,he was literally her last preference..in other words he did finish last
Every women who says this to me: "Hey we should hangout together sometimes"
she is actually saying..... " I don't like to be around you"
That really breaks me💀
Sadia Khan is 36 years old, not married and no children. My guys you better don't follow her advice
Yes, absolutely true 👍
Been finishing last all my life. I thought relationships were supposed to be about love. At 65yo I finally get it. Luckily I have a little bit of money left...
BTW, I had a dad, but I was one of ten kids, and he didn't take the time to be sure I understood anything important.
Yeah, that had to be rough. Had to be hard on your dad, too; Alot of people to look after and not enough time for all of them.
Naive PEOPLE finish last.
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I understand your point, and I agree, I just want to clarify something, it is entirely possible for all exes of someone to be toxic/narcissistic, and what you "did" was grow up in a toxic environment, be lied to, manipulated and abused. If someone would openly question my assesment of people in my life, without being solid arguments (which is impossible on the first dates, not actually knowing the details of the situatios) it would be a HUGE red flag for me. Your example is a good one since toxic people tend to advertise their "crazy ex" more, still, this is why discernment is very important, situations are nuanced and you might miss an opportunity
I wouldn’t consider myself to be completely ignorant but I surely didn’t know and understand just how bad it could really be or get out here. . I’ve been through and seen things that give me nightmares till this day.
Once you’re no longer the fool, you no longer jump at every opportunity and women notice you don’t put up with any bullsh*t.
Spot on as always. I was naive going into my marriage, I grew up with a Toxic farther, and I was sympathetic towards my mum.
Needless to say my spouse gave me a rude awakening to reality.
Hope you learn from mistakes…❤❤❤️🙏🙏🙏
Same dynamics here. It's all behind me now. Hopefully same for you
@@JP-te5en good to know you have put all behind you, same here bro. I am approaching all my relationships with a renewed mentality. A lot more strategic in life now.
I've been in several psychotherapeutists from teen years to my thirties, but she described me so well
Yup, I grew up that way until traumatic events forced me to see my parents exactly as they were, which significantly altered how I approach relationships with women now.
God loves naive and nice guys, the reward is in the other world.
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Nuff said, thanks for clarifying on the " Nice Guys Finish Last " subject 💯👌🏾!
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“I don’t look for truth, I just listen to/for what I want to hear.” Thanks, that helped a lot. #cepv #IMustWin
be kind to women long enough theyll be out the door. Blacken their eyes enough and they will stay for the long haul :)
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she is a female, an arab female... they have quite special gender dynamics, i wouldnt ask her for advice.
Shes either Indian, pakistani or Afghan
her view of the world is quite simple... i never had a girlfriend and yes my relationship to my parents is bad, but its not the way she describes it.
I had no father growing up except for my grandfather (mother's side). My mother consistently bad-mouthed my bio-father to no end. I think now it was an over-reaction. But she is a semi-hardcore feminist. Short hair and all. I was screwed from the beginning. I am what I would call a nice guy, but I acknowledge I am fairly naive, especially when it comes to women. By the amount of women I attract, I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm even attracting girls in their 20's by a fairly large amount, and I'm 53. And they're all beautiful by anyone's standard. But I've had to fight my way through some bs for several years. This is just one more layer.
The moment a woman mistreats you, walk away with mental strength
Improve yourself, find a better woman
When all men stop putting up with toxic traits, many women will stop
My mom and grandma did not answer my curiosity and questions growing up, I love them to this day but left eventually. Was called mamas boys for taking care of my family, but just heard everyone out and had my own opinions. Would have been better to leave sooner overall to help shed them. They actually made me very pragmatic thinking because of it did not have much to say overall to them eventually
How can one improve this “naive guy” issue, if he’s already way past childhood or no longer in close touch with their parents. Is this issue solvable.
I agree with her, still struggling with naivety…until I figure things out no dating
I disagree. I'm nice and naive and I usually finish before my wife...
It's not a race, it's a jewel hunt in a minefield. It's ok to let others clear the path first.
she is spot dead on!!!!!!!!
I'll throw a third option. I grew up knowing my mom was a PITA (to us kids) and my dad was often sick of her and did things with us away from her, usually by doing something golf or fishing related. But they rarely fought and never in front of us. It was more or less a peaceful, stable home. I never saw her manipulate him (nag yes), in hindsight she was likely much less dishonest than the average person.
But I would say in some ways I was still naive. Looking back I have to wonder if it was not because of the reasons she gave, but rather some false belief that everyone finds a way to get along and crazy BS or blatant lies to get what you want were someone else's problem and easy to spot in a partner. That was modelled for me and I just assumed that all couples were that way.
No worries though, most of us all eventually learn our spouses games.
Women: We don't want to be treated as objects
Also women on youtube: big bank challenge, half naked yoga, try on haul, curvy model, only fans, clean half naked with me, see through try on haul, etc
I’m very naive and still am I don’t know how to change it
just cuz you lost your innocence doesn't mean i have to
She’s outstanding. Excellent advice
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Im so introverted i dont even talk to woman. The only exception is for work reasons, other issuses with or from my parents dont can mess up relationships because i dont have them. Or thats the mess itself?
I agree with a lot of this. But nice guys do not finish last. They just don’t finish with you.
Imagine being the spoiled child who suffered a very early age trauma in the form of loss, being regarded as “amazing, so smart, so different, so special, so artistic…” and therefor a hope of bringing fortune to this quit modest family. Then he learn to play the keyboard and in three months he is on par and playing with the adults, skipping processes everywhere, getting shortcuts because that is all he sees because, this 9yo child thinks: “if I can figure out stuff by myself while given just the basic information, why bother learning the theory as everyone else”?
And again, this reinforces the family’s belief that his brilliance will save them, specially when by that point his strict but very proud father has an incurable heart condition. He passes away weeks before he graduates in the conservatory and at the funeral, the then 13yo, not so bright anymore, besides his father’s coffin is time after time taped at his shoulder from behind in a top to down slightly hard tappings while saying: “now you are the man of the house and have to take care of your mother (37yo) and your sister (10yo)”. He is not ready and would never be.
Has a day by day life, disregarding common sense simply because he has none. Sabotages himself time after time. Get sick, almost dies and loses a one of job. Finally collapses when his mother, 57yo, dies from cancer holding both of his son and daughter hands.
Suddenly he realizes what he really is: nothing. There is and there never wore a real goal for him to achieve but certainly there were ways to get nowhere.
That must be devastating, scary as hell to look at this abyss he finally managed to get to by every automatic action he took in his life. I agree, such a person would be very naive because it did not develop healthy emotional cognition, the skill to perceive the world from the outside in, but only by the image he creates and absolutely believes. Pray for his soul, if there is even one.
Wow! This sounds like me exactly!
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@@relationshipadvice2025 it took a lot of “wtf” moments to rectify this. Ouch!
The difference between nice and good.
Nice men do not set boundaries, are not confident, expect a reward, and think they're entitled because they are nice.
Good guys set boundaries, behave decent because they are, they do not feel entitled and do not expect a reward. They are just good.
People see the difference. Especially women. Setting boundaries shows self-worth and communicating them respectfully shows confidence. Confidence is attractive.
Love is not a war in which you conquer someone. Love is not a transaction, in which you buy someone. Love just is.
You feel it, or you don't.
You can buy sex, but not intimacy.
Damn. The accuracy !!
I saw her in a clip with Andrew Tate, looking up to him like she would...Until then I thought that she knows what she is saying, but in this case, it clearly is who the naive is :). She knows how to talk, but that's how far it goes. Take it as a personal opinion and no more.
This is why redpill knowledge is necessary.
Just don't go overboard with it to that other extreme end.
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Every truth about female behavior is redpill lol
Of all her experience.... She knows.
"They didn't question reality. They have a poor relationship with the truth. They look for what they want to hear."
Sounds fucked up, but learning to accept this world and not some other one is the key to happiness
Learning to love how fucked up you actually are and all the people you know actually are
*"Nice guys finish last"* is a saying made up by "rappers".
In other words, nice guys don't force people to like them, and actually have to work on: charisma, ethics, wisdom, and making enough to provide. "Rappers" just take what they want, and mock those who don't.
The moral of the story is... go talk to the girl you like. Fuck your shame! You ain't a "rapper", and that means you're better than more men than you'd believe in this world. Be your authentic self, cause even being a "nice guy" the media mocks... makes you better than most men on this planet.
I grew up in boarding school, detached from both of my parents. What does that make me ?
Women use and take it granted the Naive Guys... and hunted by Cheap guys.
I always make sure my lady finishes first.
Interesting how the same person can be on the money with some things yet completely off with others
I think more importantly, it’s growing up in this decentralized culture, being exposed to too many people in general. I believe a lot of the problems we face have more to do with social infrastructure than the Band-Aids we’re trying to put on it by coming up with these new philosophies of social interaction.
She's not wrong
Yep
Yeah, that's me. Thanks for clarifications - I needed that.
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''Its the same as saying ''men who ''trust a woman'' finish last.... Men Just GO YOUR OWN WAY, and finish with this hyper-confused, gamble that is modern day relationships.. imo
This is true Naive Guys Finish Last
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that you're punished for being kind is something assholes parading as nice guys to get what they want tell themselves
Parents divorced at 10 and I always was like none of your shit has anything to do with me so keep your shit to yourself. It doesn’t even bother me. When two people don’t want to be with each other anymore I got this at 10 mentally , maybe not fully emotionally but I understood it. Adults are often way to emotional and children shouldn’t be involved in emotional drama stemming from their parents. Children adapt a reason you can’t raise a child you can simply be what you want them to become.
"Nice guys finish last," yeah thats because we let our partners finish first. 😤
What if I was distant with both of my parents because they were both toxic in their own way? ☠☠
Don’t be like them
Currently going through this...
Afghanistan has the right idea, this foolishness is nonexistent there.
Move there.
Nice guys are shit on universally but when anyone gets into trouble or needs a person to listen to them all of a sudden they're looking for a nice person to help them. It's backwards logic to not respect nice people but want to live in a nice society
What does man do then?? any solution for this?
Oh so true. Im very nice, until im not. Naive I am not.
That’s good🙏
Anyone watched the film 'psycho' 👀
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Norman had an issue with his parents, lol.
These nice guys she's talking about aren't often as intellectually lazy as she describes them to be. Many of these men would have figured out the truth about women's nature if they hadn't been being constantly brainwashed by the media growing up. The father's job is to make sure the boys unlearn the lies, but he often doesn't even see it because he's not around when they're watching this stuff. Fathers spend a lot of time at work, and you KNOW the mother isn't going to spend any time doing this.
islam is right about women
Agree💯💯💯
I don't trust "nice" people who aren't a little bit naive and selfish. Only monsters and Saints will seem nice 24/7.
Guess who you're statistically more likely to encounter?
Easy solution, don't date or get married. You'll just get screwed over.
Okay, stop for a moment.
WHAT DOES IT HAVE WITH FINISHING LAST?
58, havent dated in 35 years, when i used to ask , all id hear was '' oh, youre a nice guy "",
whatever that meant, so i stopped, now, all you see are videos saying "" wher are all the nice guys ''? now this !!! they dont know WHAT the hell they want....
What about for those who had a weak father, basically the complete opposite of a toxic father kinda like a simp to the wife
So what is the advice here. Assume girls who had a tough time with there past relationships deserved to be treated that way or are overexaggerating and so what. What do i do as a man trying to woman to share my wife with. Does she think you should stay away from women like that. She never really says.
I met new girl every five years so there is not much of a choice if I want some.
Only terrible parents recruit the kids for allies. Mine weren't that great but at least they kept their squabbles to themselves.
If your going to change your mind in the first 15 seconds just start the video again.
Street smarts, learn them or be exploited for all that your worth.
Be grateful there maybe some naive guys still around in the world, soon many men are going their own ways .
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My life
Facts
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I disagree, I have seen many naive men having qualities mentioned by her having girlfriend.
Insulting! A rather black and white premise for naivety.
As it was/and is written by The Only Mighty One & Creator of the Heavens & 🌎 YAHUAH 𐤉𐤄𐤅𐤄 יהוה (I AM HE WHO SELF EXISTS) “the woman was made for the man” understand this, and you will b ahead of the game(s) …
Don't eat words please complete them.
Nobody can stay naive with the flood of internet information.
Those men; they invent things or prove mathematical theorems. They most likely contributed to the device you’re watching this on. Thanks for your opinion. You can thank me for mine. Wish you the best of luck in life. I’ve found it namely passion. But who cares? Well, I do.
Give a Woman heaven and she will complain about the view Give a Woman hell and she demand to chip in on the rent 😕 tis true 😔
I think she mixed up nieve with non-rapist
Jesus Christ of Nazareth.. I'm definitely naive..
I bet you she's not married because she thinks she deserves someone of Ronaldo's status
She’s taken
@@relationshipadvice2025 ok . Would be interesting to know who wears the trousers in that relationship
@@relationshipadvice2025The fact she's taken didn't mean she's a quality woman .
Most husbands are beta as hell !!
She is right but "naive" is an umbrella term in this case.
Let's give real psychiatrists a chance to explain these things...
Everybody loooves psychology these days. And they give advice, because why not.
So true
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If you dont have role models that tell you the way things are, youll be like a sheep to the slaughter.
Ahh no women are attracted to evil period..bcz survival power etc ...agreeableness in big five..u cant simultaneously be agreeable and disagreeable..Personality comes in cluster