Ways To Impress Your GF/BF's Chinese Parents While Dining In A Chinese Restaurant (& Etiquette Tips)
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- čas přidán 10. 09. 2024
- Chinese cultural norms can be confusing for Westerners. How should you dress? Can you serve others using your own chopsticks? Who pours who tea? Who pays? In this video geared towards a non-Chinese audience, I breakdown what to do during a traditional meal to leave a positive impression on Chinese parents - most applicably those who are first-gen, born in Asia.
Very well explained. Can also include 1. greeting & bidding goodbye to parents at table before & after the meal - i.e., if one is already seated at the table waiting for the parents to arrive, one must stand up to greet them; just as if the parents leave first, one must stand up to say goodbye. 2. knowing that the best seats are the inside one, i.e., those furthest away from the door/exit, and must be reserved for the parents. 3. the parents must be the first people to touch their chopsticks to start eating.
Wow these are REALLY good! I need to pin this!
I know this video is 2 years old but as a Mexican-American dating a traditional Chinese woman your tips are helping me so much prepare for the first time meeting her parents!! Many thanks!!
I found your channel through the “how to wear heavy earrings” video, your video quality and eloquence is fantastic and your voice is so soothing. Hope you get the attention you deserve, I’m loving the content!
Hi Lisa! Wow what a beautiful comment. I really appreciate you watching! Thank you for leaving such uplifting feedback. It’s for commenters and viewers like you that I do this 🥰
Thank you. Just started seeing this amazing woman and she is Chinese. This video will definitely help me make a great first impression on her mom and dad :)
There is this boy I am friends with, and he is from China (I am starting to think I like him, oh no). I have always loved learning about different cultures and learning new languages, so this video is very helpful! We are planning on one of us visiting the other sometime in the future, wether he comes to America or I visit in China. Thank you!
This warms my heart. Best of luck on your meeting 💕
My boyfriend has some scary stories about his mom, so I want to try to impress her and his dad! Thanks so much!
I hope it all goes well, Maeve! Love your name!
@@CrystalClues Rewatching because his parents are coming to visit soon. I just noticed your reply! Thank you so much, yours is so pretty too!
You should not be someone you don't are. Don't change yourself just because someone has problem with your style or character.
SUPER helpful, thank you. There's not a lot of content out there that covers this. I'm meeting my Chinese girlfriend's parents in Singapore early next year so I'm doing my homework in preparing as I want to make a great first impression. If there are other tips you have such as what types of gifts to give (should I also have a gift for her older brother?), should I wear a suit, should I stay at a hotel vs staying with her, etc. that would be amazing and appreciated.
Thank you! It's beautiful to learn the meaning behind the etiquette rules.
Random comment: I loooove your accent!!! Ppl from CA have the best accent in the English speaking world I swear (English ain’t my mother tongue but I just love how ppl from your state sound)!
Gonna visit my girlfriend parents soon. I live in China too. Thanks for the tips.
My 4 Chinese guys bestfriends are inviting me to go to China since they are Chinese people and I was wondering to learn how to show them respect before I go there since i already know Chinese people are all about they're culture I don't want them to hate me just because I know nothing about they're culture so I was trying to learn more and this Helps alot Thank you! ❤️ And maybe someday I'll Marry one of them 😂
It was such an interesting video! Thank you so much for sharing all these informations with us and teaching us for the techniques and tricks😊 Your videos have such an excellent quality, I can see how much work you put into them.
As for some recommended topics, I think you should stick with these kind of topics a bit more, since you can share your own personal opinions. For example, you could talk about "how to impress your Chinese significant other's Chinese family (parents, grandparents)", "what things you should avoid with Chinese people", "what are uncomfortable or sensitive topics for Chinese people in general", "what gifts do Chinese parents like the most", "what are the differences between western and chinese cooking" etc.
I would be really interested on these videos honestly. I hope in the future we might see some of these topics.😊
Keep up with the good work!🥰
Thank you for your amazing comment - all those videos ideas are GOLD! Appreciate the encouragement very much 💓
@@CrystalClues I can't wait to see your new videos🥰
Meeting his parents next week wish me luck 😭
Very informative 🤣 Thanks for sharing~
Any time!
4:10 when I paused this exact moment of your video (for a little time) and went back to my series there was this American character making fun of something related to tea and one of the British characters almost started a fight with him 🤯
These were once my nightmares when I was a child🤪 I just wanna eat🤓
haha I'm sorry I hope I didn't trigger you!
Very very interesting
I'm black And Struggling 🦋 but eventually this will be my sign of her meeting her parents
Good thing I live in different colture and in different Country. Simply I'm not gonna wear something what I dislike or do things I don't like just because some people has problem with that. Good thing that I have girlfriend.
I have religious and other dietary preferences. Can you give any advice for some one who can't eat 90% of the food in a Chinese restaurant.
The finger tapping custom is very specific to only Hong Kong, & Guangzhou province.
I had explained the tea tapping story when I worked in Shanghai and my Chinese colleagues told me they don’t do that nor ever heard of this story in the rest of mainland China, they just say thank you or nod their head.
Hi Cynthia! Thanks for weighing in. I definitely believe it. My father’s side is from that province and that is probably why this was such a common practice that I saw growing up watching others do it at dim sum restaurants. I want to thank you for clarifying because I am not a historical expert or anthropologist 😅 but as long as the intent is clear with the finger tapping, I believe most well-meaning recipients of a refresh on their tea, who come from
that background, would still recognize it as a sign of respect and appreciation.
@@CrystalClues You’re welcome. My father is also from HK, so the first tapping custom is typical in dim sum restaurants, so the lack of finger tapping in Shanghai & Beijing when I ate out with my mainland Chinese colleagues was a very apparent stark difference.
If I’m ever around mainland Chinese friends again I’ll tap the table if they pour me tea and see if they notice 🤣 (hopefully soon... COVID has made indoor dining rather challenging if not nonexistent in a lot of counties these days). Be safe and healthy, Cynthia!
Thank you
Omg I have been having so much anxiety about meeting my chinese parents.. I felt so good.. Until i realised fuck they live in China 😭🙈😂😂
LOL well at least that helps!
@@CrystalClues nooo thats so scary😱
In a months time ,iam going to meet my Chinese girlfriends, parents, I'm sweating already🥵I don't want to get things wrong🤣 I'm feeling weak🥴
Honestly David, you are going to be fine! If you're already watching this, it means you're someone who has empathy and consideration for others. THAT is a quality any in-law would appreciate. I hope it goes well!
I have to stop and think at the "take off your shoes" part, does it mean that in western society, in general, you don't take off your shoes when you visit somebody's house? In here, people will stare with with their jaw dropping 😲😲
Wow! High heels, pageantry, chinese culture... Have you some teaching job? Because you're really good at explaining and passing along your knowledge, thanks!
Haha Xavier, thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! Usually the people who see this video don’t really have any interest in the others… I appreciate you checking it out and for giving me such kind feedback! 🥰
i dont know why but her face reminds me of Jackie Aina
Soooooo....we’re waitereeeeers??? Then 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and think like a waiter, who works in a restaurant, while your out with the family.
Actually yo be honest.. my boyfriend father’s doesn’t like me because of the age gap. They want me to separate to his son . I’m 30 yrs old and their son is 21. Suddenly they force me to do miscarriage 😭 and now they ask me to separate to my boyfriend for his future.. what a rude parents they are!! They are chinese!
What happened then after two years?