My husband had dementia. One tme he looked at me and said " what time do you get off maybe we can go out to eat".He was trying to pick me up. Miss my guy.
My Mom had alzheimers. Dad had to put her into a home because she was very violent. The best thing I can remember is that when she finally just was lost in herself, about a week before she died, I was visiting her and she looked me right in the eye and said, "There's my baby." She never spoke or responded again. It was a final gift.
My Grammy had Alzheimer's and her to was violent to anyone that interacted with her .. family, nursing staff etc. She didn't recognize her immediate family, but could recall things from her childhood. She lived to be 79 yo. 8 yrs. With this terrible disease. 😢
@Frank Shahinian I pray for a cure🙏❤️I've heard so many sad and horrific stories about this disease.The worst thing is watching the person you know change into some one else and they completely forget you.Thats so heartbreaking.I know there are different levels and different reactions as well.I pray for the families that have lost loved ones and for the families that are currently facing the challenges of this terrible disease.🙏❤️💯
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" - Maya Angelou.
My mom didn’t know I was her daughter, but her heart knew I was someone meaningful to her. I didn’t care whether she knew my name or how we were connected. I was so grateful that somewhere inside she knew I was nice to her and cared about her.
My Mom thought I was her Mom because I took care of her. I would cook all her comfort foods and since she saw me as the one there nurturing her I guess she saw me as her mother. It was sweet and sometimes she'd call me Mom and I'd say, "Yes? " Then she would look at me real confused and say, "You're not my Mom are you? You are my daughter!" I'd say, "I'm whoever you want or need me to be." It was tough but I don't regret spending all that time with her.
My dad had dementia. I'd see him everyday but he didn't really know who I was. But one morning I came into his bedroom and when he saw me his eyes lit up, and he was, "honey! Where have you been??!" He was soooo happy to see me and he knew who I was. It was such a bittersweet moment😢
LMT I BROKE INTO TEARS WHEN I READ YOUR COMMENT I CAN ONLY IMAGINE HOW EMOTIONAL THAT SPECIFIC DAY WAS SO HAPPY HE REMEBERED YOU BUT I BET IT ALSO MADE YOU CRY 😢❤❤
Yes, sad and wonderful. My mother had Alzheimers. Even when she was still living at her home, she would get angry because I wouldn't take her home, meaning her mother's home. Her mother died passed on about 16 years before then.
❤😂Beautiful! My mom had dementia, but before she passed, she had a moment when she remembered who I was. She called my name and told me that she loved me. She then told me not to let anyone to tell me anything different. 😊
My special moment was when my mom’s doctor asked her, who is he, referring to me. She said oh, he’s that nice guy who takes care of me. It warms my heart every time I remember.
❤ my mum gives a similar answer too her part time nurse and her Dr. The reason her nurse is only part time is because the other half I'm her nurse I am so blessed
My husband and I went to the Ronald Reagan library in California a few yrs ago, in the last room of the display was a video of his son telling the people about the last few months before he passed away, he said he would always give his dad a hug before and after his visit. President Reagan told someone (I can’t recall who) when he was asked about his son’s visit he said I’m not sure who he is but I know he’s the man that always hugs me. I started to cry. Just like I did with this video. 😢
Ugh i cannot imagine, I’ve had one family member with this disease rest her gorgeous soul…. She gave us hell while she was on earth and I know she’s keeping us In line while she’s upstairs 😊 miss her dearly I wish I had the words and time to convey that to her
I watched a Ted talk that was heartbreaking about dementia and Alzheimer’s. At the end she made me cry when she said “ you’ll either have dementia or Alzheimer’s or you’ll look after someone with it. You’ll forget everything you know but you never forget love. Your body always remembers. You might not remember who the person is but you’ll know that you love them. Love never dies” So beautiful.
I love it❤❤❤ My Grandparents are the most special people to me, they introduced me to the word, and then they did something I still can't explain, but am forever grateful - the validated it right before my eyes on my Gpa's last day on this Earth..my Gpa, on our last day together fell into a comatosed state that night- we lost all communication, and then he raised his arm up high and called for my Gma .. She must have waited there for him just as she told him she would, bc that is my very last memory with him. I still tear up & think about that moment every single day. It was beautiful, and special, and powerful 🙏❤️❤️❤️
This is precious and heartbreaking. My gramps used call my grandma on the phone when she was standing right beside him. She would ask him who he was calling and he would answer, "I'm calling Mary." She would tell him she's right there. He sometimes would say he is sorry...he said he knows something is not right in his mind. 😢 The day he passed he said it was going to be a beautiful day. ❤
I rejoice to the fact that you all acknowledge her vocabulary. The fullest acknowledgement seen here merits recognition. That gives value to her existing humanity. On her behalf, I thank you!
Such a cruel disease. My dad died of dementia three years ago, but I lost him long before that. In the beginning when he knew he was losing his cognition, he would hug me so hard and say, "I don't know how many more hugs I will remember so lets make these the best hugs ever," every time. The last thing he ever communicated to me was he blew a raspberry at me because he was angry with me about some thing. Miss him and his hugs so so much.
It is a heartbreaking disease you mourn them as the live and breathe in front of you and you mourn them when they pass away. It is a hard path to follow. Being a caregiver for a loved one will test every bit of strenghth you have spiritually mentally and physically.
Thank you for sharing your light and care with some of those who need it most in this world… it must be an awful thing to completely forget who you are & those around you that you love & care for. 😢
I'm also a nurse whom specializes in dementia, And I had a lady that had a similar reaction every time she saw her husband as well, they've been married for 71 yrs, and she just recently passed... Truly one of the most beautiful song/soul I've ever known. ❤️
This is the reason why I am a Geriatric Nurse!! I’ve had some of my clients refer me as “ my daughter, my cousin Sherry or a family member. What’s funny and sweet is that I am black and most of my clients are Caucasian. One of my client’s daughter ended up saying “ I’m so jealous that she totally ignores me and all the while referring to you as her daughter but I sleep at night knowing that my mom has someone who loves her like a daughter would. “ She ended up calling me her “ sister “ You should see other clients who were still high functioning looking at the one referring me as her cousin that she grew up with!! She’s white,85 and I’m black and 38 !! You gotta love working with people with dementia. It is so rewarding at the end of the day ❤❤❤
That's so nice. My dad has dementia and had to go into a home in January, it's a lovely place and he gets on well but he thinks he's in a private hospital because he has stomach pains. He keeps talking about going home soon. The other day he asked me to look for his passport so he can go on a cruise, he had the staff convinced the whole family were going together in April 😂
@@sandraallen4142 i hope he is adjusting well! I’m sure you’ve probably done this already but bringing in familiar items to furnish his room really helps in him adjusting better. The more stuff he has from his house/ bedroom would make him feel like he was home. Some people buy all new things to furnish for their loved ones and that creates a space in their mind that they don’t belong there. Moving them into an unfamiliar environment can take them longer to adjust. I usually encourage family members to bring a recliner that they already had, hang family pictures, bring family heirloom and ease into moving in. Start by an overnight stay , then twice a week and finally move in. That way they familiarize themselves with a home away from home. Sending good vibes to you and your family ♥️
I will Never forget how my grandma starred at me in my eyes.....rhen she finally said to me oooooh honey I love you. She was trying so hard to remember
@mahmudibrahimbako5928 no it says "wife with dementia has wonderful reaction to when her husband comes home everyday ". But, I agree he looks young af
big strong men get to cry as well.... your tears are coming from a place of love....please don't be afraid to let the tears fall even if you are with a pal.... your pals will think no less of you. I've never been around Alzheimer's so I'm not going to try and make suggestions on what to do.... but I have been around heartbreak and we all need someone to hold on to and cry like a baby.... take care Art... I truly wish you and your wife the best. 🙏💗🙏
The strongest men I know cry. It takes real strength to be vulnerable. I always felt that men who are truly comfortable in their masculinity don't care about people seeing them vulnerable because they know who they are. I know that my parents, who are close to your age were unfortunately brought up in a world where the majority felt that showing emotions as a man was showing weakness. My dad has only ever cried in front of me one time in 30 years and it broke my heart to know how difficult that must have been for him but it proved to me in my mind that my daddy is the strongest man I have ever known. Real strength comes by doing the difficult thing, not the easy thing. Vulnerability is difficult, but rewarding in many ways. My dad and I connected more on that day he cried with me, than we had the 20 years prior. He cried because I was crying and it broke his heart to see me that way. It's been 10 years since that happened and we are better off for it. This guy probably does cry a lot. I would. But maybe in that moment that he didn't wanna confuse his wife more than she probably already is, by crying. She may not understand why.
I think it's awesome when a man can cry. I don't think any less of him, I actually think more of him - because it takes strength to allow vulnerability. It also shows compassion, empathy, and big heart. I respect you. ❤
My precious Granny passed away from dementia on Jan. 17, 2022. When it first started affecting her, she told me to please never get mad at her, if she couldn't remember me one day. There's no way I could've ever gotten mad at my Gran. She was one of the best Gran's you could ever ask for. ♥️
That’s so beautiful. And sad . My great grandpa passed away in the 90’s from it . Only recently did my mom tell me a story , of when she was young and they were in the garden . And he looked right at her and said … something is really wrong . And she said what papa ? And he said , I’m not sure , but I don’t think I’ll be around much longer . I can’t think straight anymore . Well he made it another 20 years but my momma says she never will forget the day he “changed” . And he knew something was off with his body . He slowly changed , and by the time I was born all he knew is what people told him . He changed. And legit forgot everyone . But my mom says she will never forget that day in the garden where he told her something wasn’t right .
@@kstizz2686 I'm glad your great grandpa lived another 20 years. My Granny only lived about 3 years, after she was diagnosed. It seemed like it hit her so fast. She was always very independent. She was 86 when she passed.
Mine was an outstanding Great Grandmother. Born in 1889 she could make curtains, men's suits, baby clothes and everything else. Stores were not like today. She could and did make wall paper and the glue to hang it. There was no "domestic" challenge for her. And always, always she played with the children. Hanging clothes was an adventure with my GG. ❤❤❤Thanks for the memories.
@kstizz2686 thank you for sharing. Dementia is not so hard for the truly stricken as it is for the slide down to incompetence. Still aware, but sliding into the darkness. Knowing that something is wrong but powerless to stop it. Your Dad saw it coming. Bless your whole family.
@fairy wishes Respectfully, the sweet, loving 'husband' appears to be younger. His crew cut with dark hair & a fuller face attributes to this. My dad is 83, mom is 81. My dad looks to be in his young 60's! The lady could be a 'cougar' too! LoL This vid shows a beautiful love amongst all 3. For each of them, my heart breaks & swells with sweet emotions as they live with this. I've lost 3 grandparents to this cruel disease. Peace & love 🦋
My great grandmother only recognized me. I was 18. She called me my mom's name. I(as my mom) was the only person she recognized so... I finished college near her so I could see her everyday till she died. It was very special for me. For both of us.
Thank you for sharing that. That was very touching. My grandmother became senile in her 70's and ended up living with us, and died at the age of 75. I'm sure it was very hard for my mom. I was 13 at the time. My mom died in 2007 at the age of 87. To this day, it still doesn't feel right that my parents are no longer here. Life is weird.
You can tell that he is her safe place. He makes her feel whole. Even through the dementia. I remember when my pawpaw had alzheimers and had to be hospitalized. We couldn't get to the hospital because he was in a hospital a few hours away and when we walked through the door his eyes lit up. He grabbed my grandma's hand and kissed it. She asked "do you know who I am?" His response "I can't remember your name but I know that you're my girl. You're so beautiful." It was the sunshine we needed on a dark day.
I appreciate that someone is taking the time to do her hair and make her look beautiful each morning. It’s a sign of respect that not every dementia patient receives
Especially in a care facility. I worked at one the families had to pay the hair lady. I honestly think the facility should have been paying her so all the residents could get a hair cut. Little things like that, make them smile.
@@HAIRHOLIC_1 I can promise you, that YOU are one in a million and nurses who feel like you do, are hard to come by. Your blessings will be multiplied a million times over when you get to heaven! Jesus said “if you do good to one of these, you have done it to Me.” Bless you.
I’m a coordinator in a memory care unit and the first thing I tell new hires, “your residents appearance is the reflection of your work, sloppy work is not tolerated here”. During the lockdown I became barber, beautician, nail tech etc
This was my great grandmother with my great grandfather. He used to play cards under a tree not far from the house on Sundays when we would visit them. Then as he was walking home she could see him and she would get all excited and say “Look! Look!” In Portuguese. It was precious. And he took care of her mostly on his own (Sundays my grandmother and her sister would alternate cooking some food for the week and helping clean the house for him. They also got meals on wheels but day to day they were alone together) for years and years.
@@croonyerzoonyer yes of course...I was just thinking the couple knew each other for many more years. (Sounded insensitive of me when it came to the children...didn't mean to though.)
My mom suffered from dementia before her passing...some of the saddest and sweetest days of my life.😢😢 she never said my name but when my brother walked by her, she would lean over to me and whisper who is that man. One night she went to bed one and an hour or so later I heard her walking in the hall, I got up to check on her and she said I'm hungry, I agreed that I was too. I suggested we go get a snack, she whispered won't we get in trouble? I told her no, it was okay and we went and sat at the table and sneaked a piece of pie, we whispered and ate by the light of a lamp..😢 One of the sweetest moments we ever shared that I will treasure until the day I see her again😊
My precious, compassionate and beautiful mother had dementia. She passed away from Covid pneumonia in 2021 2 days after her 74th bday. My amazing father had a heart attack and needed emergency triple bypass surgery. My momma didn’t know what was going on however she did miss him tremendously while he was in the hospital. My two sisters and I were there all the time taking care of them both so we comforted my momma and reassured her that my Dad would be home soon. Well, she woke up one morning after I went to pick up my Dad from the hospital and when she walked out the bedroom into the living and seen my Dad. Her reaction was of pure love and surprise. I have a video that I wish I could post-just not quite there yet as we are all still grieving my momma. They were(I say still are as my Dad will never find someone else) together 60 years. My mom met my Dad when she was 14 and they got married when my mom was 16. So married 58 years!!! They truly have a love story that is so so incredible with plenty of persistence, respect, love, understanding, and most of communication. Thanks to everyone allowing me to share my story and taking the time to read it. Love from my home to yours, Katie
Hello that was so touching for me thank you and I would love to see your video My Mum was so horrible to me for three years before we all realised it was dementia. I was so heartbroken during that three years I couldn’t be in her company. She made up a story that I was going to kill her by pushing her down the staircase. She would go around our small town telling all our friends …….Did you know susan tried to push me down the stairs and kill me. When she passed away she said to my sister… isn’t Susan a beautiful girl….. inside and out. I was there when she passed She squeezed my hand ! We thought she wasn’t aware when she was going but no no no they say dont under estimate the power of the mind and reflexes when we are dying.
Hi Susan, that's how my mother was, claiming every caregiver we hired was physically abusing her or trying to kill her. I was the only sibling of 4 taking her to appointments, paying her bills, and cooking and cleaning for her. Visiting Angels and others were to give me a break. And then came the day I discovered she was telling my brothers that I was physically hurting her and stealing her money....and they believed her. I lost 3 brothers that I thought I knew and my mother in one fell swoop. I wish I had thought to document her behavior. I wish I had insisted each of them come and live with her for a week, so they could have lived her new reality.
@@JanetheScot Aw your story is my story My parents where married 60 years I gave up a very lucrative job. Running 22 shops ( just a general manager) But was a great job i loved it. So my father had an accident going to work on his bike. Lady hit him from the side and damaged his back and neck. They had a little nursery business started up. My mum rang me up one day and said would you come up ( three hours from me ) and come into the business and help us? I did and bought my husband up who left his job in the bank. It was a big thing. I have five siblings,they all had big jobs as well. (Teachers ) Anyway i invested all my money into helping my patents get on the track again. To cut a long story short my father died of a stroke 15 years later. My mother left me a small amount of their big estate in her will (which I didn’t care about ) Funny how i was the one that gave everything and i was the one she attacked when in dementia. It was quiet Interesting in the last year my mum made up this story that my Dad was having a affair with this women She often said Dad is visiting me today but the fluzzy waits outside she could describe her which was also interesting My Dad would have never cheat on her in their marriage My mum was a beautiful caring Mum to all us kids. Im at peace now knowing she is dancing with Dad. But I’m sure taking steps not to get dementia by taking naturopathy tablets Im 71 My mother got Dementia at 87 She died at 89. Thanks for sharing it made a difference to hear another story Also the beautiful video. I live on the central coast east Australia Where do you live ?
Lost my father in law and my dad from dementia. It is a cruel disease. For 400 days my dad called me every day, sometimes twice. I took every single call even though we would have the same conversation every call. Dad crossed over the day before Thanksgiving this past year. Don't ever waste a minute with anyone with dementia. ❤
Lost my Mom to dementia last year on May 6th then we lost my father-in-law November 14th from liver failure. Both on hospice at my home. I'm glad they both chose to be with me as their caregiver and I got to spend their last days with them on Earth. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I mostly agree with you, but I have seen patients with early-onset Alzheimers nearly kill their loved ones. Some are in a state of near-constant rage, and therefore must be sent to a long-term care facility that specializes in people with early-onset Alzheimers. Most can't stay at home, even with receiving antipsychotic medications. It is very sad, especially because I've been told over and over again by their loved ones that these were the kindest, sweetest people before Alzheimers.
@@2manybooks2littletime25 My uncle was one of those raging Alzheimer's patients who was barely manageable in an Alzheimer's care unit. He had been a boxer in his youth and was still very muscularly strong and crazy and sadly and severely injured his wife. Her husband is so loving and she is inordinately fortunate. They probably loved each other to pieces.
I remember a colleague at work sitting at his desk with tears streaming down his face. I asked what was wrong and he said that he stopped by to visit his dad and his dad did not recognize him. Such a debilitating condition.
That's 1 of my biggest fears that I wouldn't 1 day recognize my daughter. My adopted grandmother & biological grandmother both had dementia in their final years of life...very sad but my adopted grandmother recognized my daughter when she was a toddler🧡 & my biological grandmother only recognized my mother & she also "connected" with her youngest daughter as the lady who's always nice to her💗 They're together on the other side now💔😢
Very controversial opinion here, so I mean no offense to anyone; but this is why I think people should have the right to euthanasia if they have a terminal illness. I personally, would like to be euthanized before I reach that condition. I'd hate to put my loved ones through that; I'd rather die with my memories intact. Of course, everyone should have a choice to decide to see it through to the end if they wish. But, I hate the fact that I won't get the choice to end my life when I deem it.
@@nothanks1239 I agree this should be a thing in the US. My grandma had a looonngggg battle with cancer and that last round seem like it sucked the souls out of all of us. She didn’t want us to see her like that and we didn’t want to see her like that. But she fought with everything she had and I am eternally grateful for every day God allowed us be with her.
@@HelloWorld2B Sorry to hear that happened to you grandma. Mine got parkinsons and she gave up. She wanted to die and didn't make much effort to live her life; yet she lived like that for 10 years. It is definitely awful to watch your loved ones deteriorate in front of you. I hope that the US is able to get this procedure one day. As I hope that England (my country) gets the procedure as well. I'd hate to be in agony, whilst the hospital keeps me living longer.
She is beautiful inside and out, and so are you. She raised a beautiful, caring daughter. ❤ I hope one day they'll be able to stop this disease from progressing. It is truly cruel.
@@prestigemultimediagroup6436 I get what each of mean ... In my younger years, up to age of 6-7, way back in c. 1982 -83, my maternal grandmother lived with us. As a young child, watching her descent into dementia was something awful ... Most of the time, she was OK, but I can't forget her screams when she was having a bad day, and the times I can hear my dad trying to prevent her hurting herself when in one of her episodes of, yes, fear, anger, and confusion, especially when she forgot who he was, or where she was. I wanted to get into medical research, especially, and specifically, the neurodegenerative disorders. But it wasn't to be ... But, if I was literally 30yrs younger, if I can go back in time knowing now what I could've known then, well, I'll hope to be in a laboratory, developing a treatment, that if efficacious, would refuse to patient ...
@@nigelftjust remember there are many different kinds and so many stages so not everyone experiences the same things. It is a horrible experience and disease 😢 I hope one day we can find a cure or at least a way to slow it down.
My mother passed 23 yrs ago, she'd just turned 63 & exactly 1 wk later she was gone. My mother had alzheimers she was diagnosed in her 40s. Back then, nobody would talk about it & there wasn't any support systems available. My heart breaks for all those with dementia & their loved ones bcuz the path ur traveling on is made from shards of glass. I don't believe that all is forgotten bcuz I'd see my mom's skin color get rosey & her eyes were clear & focused. To me alzheimers, dementia is a family disease, we all become victims once it enters a loved one. I wish all who are diagnosed, their family's & friends the best
I believe those of us who live through this with our family and friends go on to become so compassionate to the people going through it now. Nobody has any idea how heartbreaking and HARD this road is but someone who traveled it before.
My grandmother has dementia. She is quickly forgetting everything she knows, she can’t walk anymore and has almost completely forgotten English. We are Native American and my grandmothers first language is our traditional Ojibwe language. She had to stop speaking it as a child due to Indian boarding school rules and hasn’t spoken it in years. We all thought she forgot it but apparently not because now that’s all she speaks. It’s bitter sweet. ❤😢
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That is normal with bad dementia condition, you forget all the languages you have learned after your native tongue. That’s why in Sweden there are many older people who don’t speak or understand Swedish anymore. They only know Finnish language and need Finnish speaking caretakers.
My father passed away April 27, he had dementia and every time he saw me he would smile. He didn’t remember my name however when I asked him if he knew who I was, he would respond “ how can I forget you”😢❤. May 27 will make it a month since he passed and I miss every day and I feel and hear his voice every day❤
God bless your pops. Hope he's having a great time in graduate school. One day we all will get there, and he'll be there to hand you your life school diploma as well.
My best friend had dementia between me her 3 kids and their spouses we took care of her at her home in shifts. One night she ask me How long have you been working here? I said not long, you know what I like about working here? She said what? I said spending time with you...she patted my hand and said I feel the same way. Big applause to caregivers if you haven't done it you don't have a clue how rewarding, totally hard , heartbreaking and tiring it can be, A path I would never shy from but I wish on know one.
@@catrojana3694 …a calling, if you will. I’ve always believed that God, in His omnipotence, gives the most precious and important battles to His strongest warriors. Take care!🤗
Absolutely, I was married 50 years together, 51, and I miss him terribly. He suffered from idiopathic Parkinsons disease since he was 33. He was home with us when he passed at 77yrs old with stage 4 Cancer! There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him! I'm thankful he isn't suffering anymore!🌟🌟🤗🤗💕😘
Do you see how well put-together she is? I've seen families who seem to figure the person won't care what they look like, so why bother. Her daughter (I assume) is giving her the dignity she deserves. Along with the wonderful way she communicates with her. A lovely lesson for us all. Or me anyway.
A lot of Alzheimer's sufferers develop an aversion to water. My Mom wouldn't shower, wouldn't let anyone else clean her, and she would get physically violent when we tried.
@@cisium1184 That's interesting and does give a reprieve to some people. I didn't have that problem when I took care of my aunt very temporarily. My biggest problem was I'm terrible with hairstyling. But she was an actress & would have been so unhappy if she didn't look good, so I definitely did the best I could.
Or some family members don't bother visiting because visit won't be remembered. But in the moment they love it. I was with her almost every day. I asked her 1st thing who I was. She always answered my Baby.
Bless her. Such a cruel condition. My friend's late neighbour's wife had dementia. She had to live in a home because it became too difficult for him to cope. For over 20 years, he went and had breakfast with her, even though she had no idea who he was. When someone asked why he struggled there every day as she did not know who he was, his answer made me cry. All he said was, "I know who she is." He had one aim in life, to be able to arrange and attend her funeral. He achieved this, and, his work done, he died within a few weeks.
I am a Spanish living in the US. My dad had Alzheimer's. He became not talkative and lost in himself. The morning he passed, I had a chance to say good bye to him and told him I loved him and missed him. It was so comforting to hear his last words -I love you and miss you too. He never spoke again. I miss you papá
I’m so sorry for your loss! My sweet madrecita has dimentia now and she’s so much like a sweet little girl! All she does is giggle at the silliest things. And she’s a talker, constantly asking the same questions. If she asks me a question one thousand times over and over I always answer her, over and again, as if it were the first time. The best way to calm her is to sing beautiful boleros from her childhood and she will sing them all. That’s how I change her conversation when she repeats herself. She just loves to sing, hug and laugh. I love my Mama’ ♥️. 🙏♥️
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s. I hadn’t seen her for a few years as she was moved to another state to live with my aunt. She had to be put in a nursing home after a couple of years. I went up to visit & my aunt kindly tried to warn me that my grandmother might not recognize me or might be afraid of me. When we got to the nursing home, there she was, her sweet Georgia accent and her musical laugh…. and she looked up and said You’re my Caroline!! Where have you been? Come give me some sugars, honey I’m so glad to see you! It was hands down the best day of my life. I miss her so much.
My grandmother had Dementia . I went to visit her . She didn’t know I was Her granddaughter . She said to me “ You are the Sweetest Lady I have ever met “ It meant more than if she had known I was her granddaughter .. because I knew that’s exactly what she believed about me .. not because I was Her granddaughter ♥️♥️
@@HypsyGyspy1467 I think it’s the sharing of their wisdom. They have so much experience behind them, have lived long lives usually, and are happy to give us a good road to follow. Even though they may not always remember us, they’re usually still glad to see us and we can enjoy our time together.
My grandma had dementia. The last years of her life she cried every time I met her. She wanted to go home, but the home she wanted to go to was the one she lived in as a small child. She didn't recognize her home she had lived in for over 50 years. She was almost blind and didn't recognize us, her relatives. When me and my sister graduated, we visited her with our graduation caps so she would recognize those as something to be proud of. It made her happy as her generation rarely had the chance to get education beyond compulsory primary school. With dementia even little things that make the person happy are very important.
Awe she’s so precious. My mom had those same reactions when me or my dad walked into the house. She talked like that and everything. Always had a big hug and a smile for us. Such a blessing to have so much love!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
My mother, whom I take care of alone, is starting to seriously forget. I can only hope that can find somebody who sounds as caring and lovely as you all do, if even to give me a break sometimes. I’m afraid to leave her with somebody. Bless you.
@@mangot589 I hope you find somebody. I wish I could help everyone who finds themselves a caregiver for a loved one. No matter how much you love the person you are taking care of you still need breaks whenever possible. I know what it's like to need a break, and I wasn't even taking care of my dad, who had ALS, alone. My mom did most of the work and my sisters helped. It was a ton of work for all of us. Wishing you and your mother the best. Hope you get some help soon.
My dad was a very damaged man. He got dementia and forgot he was an asshole. Now he's sweet and kind and grateful. Sometimes dementia can be a gift. He's living his best life now...always in the moment and surrounded by people who take great care of him and who love him.
The reply below from esterjoy said it far better than I can and you are both right that somehow the Man your dad was MEANT to be has emerged so that you can experience each other as it was intended. 🙏❤️
My mother had dementia. I was her sole care taker for 17 months during the pandemic until she passed. Being her caretaker was the highlight of my life.
She would be so proud! What a beautiful way to word such a scary, often frustrating & heartbreaking time. I can only pray if my boy ever faces such a journey with me, that he too can feel a sense of pride in his decisions prior to my going home to be w/the Lord.
Being there for your parent at the end caring for them is hard but it is a gift that’s hard to describe. It gives you peace that stays with you long after . I held my moms hand while she talked to my deceased sister and was delighted she brought my brother who died a s a baby. I told her it was ok to go and she did. The others who couldn’t face her illness are fked up about her death . I have ☮️
@@AP-gb3ehI think they do see their deceased loved ones shortly before they pass. My mother had dementia and shortly before she died, she vividly talked about her deceased relatives. Before that, she had rarely uttered a complete sentence in years. I guess when one door closes another door opens.
My heart is breaking. My prayers & thoughts are with everyone who has/ is dealing with a loved one who suffers from these horrible illnesses 😢 I wish there was a way for me to take away the hurt that everyone feels when dealing with this! GOD Bless you all with the memories that you share with your loved ones!
The dementia diseases are the worst of all diseases. Until you have been put jnto the arena of suffering yourself or caring for a loved one you can' fully appreciate its devastation. So so SO heartbreaking. Bless this sweet couple!
My mum fought Dementia for 9 long years I whispered you can go now we ( her children) will be ok we’re adults now we don’t need you to protect us… she smiled and passed a few days later. 💔 the hardest words I’ve ever spoken. 😢xx
As a previous hospice nurse I can tell you with my whole heart, those were the kindest and most meaningful words you could tell her. I know it was hard but know now she can rest and be at peace. You are a strong person to have been able to say them. Loving thoughts to you and your family. 💜💜💜💜
@@natbb9 it’s true though. She won’t be able to protect you forever. It may sound harsh but it is. It’s not that we don’t want her help, it’s that we don’t need it anymore. Because we want to protect our mothers the way she protected us.
@@natbb9 then don't! Totally your choice. 🙂 ❤ But for this lady it sounded like that's what needed to be said. I'm sure I will always feel like I need my mom but I don't want her to hang on suffering for me.
I was my mother's caregiver for 12 years. I slowly watched as dementia took over the person she was. As hard as it was for me to see her like that, I know it had to be harder for her to have to live and slowly lose the memory of the 86 years she lived. I'm grateful that when she passed, she still knew who I was.
I'm currently my moms and were just at the beginning of this journey. She was diagnosed in 2019. She is 74 and still doing great. I hope it is slow progression like your mom's was. I'm so scared.
I took care of a lady in her 80's with dementia, she had her in the later stages. She lived with her daughter. I would come while the daughter was working. Mom knew who her daughter was, she just didnt remember her name. The love they had was just beautiful.
@@queencerseilannister3519 I too am taking care of my mom who is 89 with dementia. I moved in with her 6 years ago. She has the most loving eyes and is happy like a child 99 percent of the time. It's hard sometimes. I thank God everyday for the help he gives me to take care of her. ❤
My grandpa had alzheimers and made it to final stages (very unlikely) where you basically forget to breath properly and you die. He forgot how to eat and would try and eat paintings of food and drawings etc. He lived at home with us until he couldn't breathe right. Even forgetting everything one could forget, he would even till the day he died cry out FLORA! His wife's name. Hoping she would come in the room. (She had died years earlier)
When i visited my mom who had dementia.. the moment i entered the house, she knew we had a connection as she hugged me so tight and tears of joy started to flow for both of us. She just can't remember my name but I believe she knew I am her daughter. Pls. love deeply those who are struggling with dementia.
My mom reverted back to age 17. She thought she was in 11th grade and late for school in the morning. When she saw her reflection she was horrified to be 79. It’s such a hard job emotionally to be a parents caretaker. Esp when they can’t remember you. ❤
It would probably be a good idea to keep a photo album handy and show her her whole life beginning to end, might make her feel better. Idk just a thought makes me think of that movie 50 first dates. God bless anyone going through this. ❤
For what it's worth Hun, she knows you, she knows who you are. You are Always in her heart and in her memory. It's the pathways to recall these memories that are being hindered. Deep Down, She Really Knows Who You Are😘😘😘
I was a CNA on a dementia Unit , I will never forget this nice lady that walked and walked around the floor in a circle everytime she would see me she would say “are you lost little girl , want me to help you find your mother” sweetest little lady ever ❤️
My great-grandma had it for a bit before she passed. We knew she was changing when she told my grandma she needed to get ready for school. She forgot our names in a whim, but referred to us by celebrity names, childhood nicknames, and skin color (very common in Spanish-speaking households). One night she was having trouble breathing, so I helped her set-up her breathing mask. She looked at me in the eyes and said “You will go very far in life. You’ll grow up a strong, young man and I’ll be very proud of you wherever I am.” She died the following week, but every time I’m having a hard day, I remember her and her kind words.
My pop had dementia and died in May of last year. He forgot pretty much everyone(even his children) but he remembered that I had tattoos all over and when he saw me, I was covered up since it was cold, he asked me where all my tattoos went. He couldn't remember my name but the fact he remembered me in some way really meant a lot to me. I miss him so much.
My friend's husband had dementia/Alzheimer's at 46. She'd go visit him in the hospital and he wouldn't know her. 46. It's not fair. This is a beautiful moment.
Don't ever let a doctor tell you there's nothing wrong with you. Demand you want to see a neurologist for spinal tap and memory test to see if you have Alzheimers.
My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at 53 im 16years younger than him. These 8 years have been hard but his eyes still light up when I walk in the room. He's alittle violent from time to time but it from the confusion 😓
I cared for my dad who had dementia. Six years. He passed in 2018. I wouldn't trade those years for anything in the world. He was home, well cared for, surrounded by people he loved and who loved him. When he passed he was holding my mom's hand.❤😢
It’s so amazing how a spouse who has dementia can’t remember nobody else but can remember the husband or wife before my husband passed he couldn’t remember I’ll kids but he remember me I miss him so much but God is awesome 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@Ann Maree Skinner I know, a friend of ours is going through it with her husband, sometimes he knows her, sometimes he doesn't and he is afraid of her, so sad😢.
My great grandmom did almost the same thing....when I came in her back door, she hugged me and held my hand, and said "I don't remember your name, but I know that I love you!". She passed away a few months after that.
same! i was in my grandparents' house and it took my grandma about 2wks to say my name, she told me bfast is ready ♥️ she knew i was her grandchild she just doesn't remember my name hehe
The same is happening with my aunt and uncle, She’s still living at their home and he’s with her everyday. My uncle’s deep love for my aunt blows me away whenever I witness it
I cried. My dad has dementia and every other day is just further decline. He has moments of clarity and you can see the fear in his eyes. We all comfort him during these rare moment telling him that we will always be beside him. Dementia is a dark prison. Sometime a ray of light appears and you struggle to see through the hole to see outside before the hole closes.
My mother has vascular dementia and is genteel and soft with a similar build like this precious woman. I’m treating her with massive oxygenation to the brain using a Bemer at intensity 6 at the moment. Two straps going at the same time. Last night she started to sing (humming), after being nonverbal for a year after a stroke. With these types of patients you have to eliminate all sugar from the diet and that means processed foods. Sugar is highly inflammatory to the brain so basically feed them a Mediterranean dietary. Engage them in exercise and movement. Don’t let them sit too long. And put them to bed no later than 10:00 pm. The sleeping part is extremely important. And try to get a Bemer with two straps that you can apply to the brain directly. It’s a life savor.
God bless you. It is tough at times. I had to find humor in my dad's shenanigans. He was a funny guy and it helped to laugh along the way. I was so happy to be able to be with him during sone of his frightful times as he was for me as a child. I miss him dearly
My mother has late stage dementia, she is 77. I was, diagnosed with FTD dementia last year, I'm 61. My mom has been robbed of her life and dignity by this cruel disease 😢 I am petrified and afraid, I wish we were allowed to choose our own end of life legally so we do not have to go through this.
Much respect for hanging in there. People who never have to take care of them will ever know the terrible emotional pain. Or the pure joy of spending fleeting moments with them.
At least she still remembers him right now. There will come a time she’ll think he’s her dad or that she gave birth to him. My grandmother died of Alzheimer’s and she didn’t have the speech problem, but thought her son, my dad, was her husband that had passed 6 months earlier. She thought she’d given birth to one of the caregivers when my parents couldn’t handle her anymore. She went from a fiery little spitfire to a meek and mild little lady. Alzheimer’s can totally change their personality, along with he memory loss. Such a heartbreaking disease, but at least she wasn’t in any physical pain with it. Thank God for that! 🙏🏼😇
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My mother in law has dementia and she is 81 years old with the flexibility and agility of a 21 year old. She can kick her leg high, squat down low and climb. She once climbed off the upstairs patio. The good part is that she is not violent. She is loving, and smiles a lot. I think if one has a loving childhood it’s reflected in their lives today.
Not fair, not true, and a little cruel to say to those who might have family members with the violent tendencies. Dementia affects people differently and can completely change one’s personality. Someone can have a beautiful life with a lot of love and still become violent or just a different personality - cruelty of the disease. Maybe kindness and thinking before speaking is called for.
😢 My mother has alzhiemers and I took care of her as long as I could, its the worst, saddening, exhausting thing in the world, you have to actually live in their world!! God bless her!
I took care of my Dad at his home until he passed. Im so thankful he always knew me. It would have crushed me if he didn't because we were always so close. You're a great person for the love and care of your Mother. I remember how hard it was emotionally and physically. Love to you and your family.
there is a cure for those who believe in Jesus. The Bible says, By the stripes of Jesus we are healed. Jesus is THE cure. These kind of mental problems are cause by the enemy. I was very sick (not with this, but . . . ) and I took a fast, I was fasting and praying to Jesus to heal me and he did. And what I had was incurable. People just need to have personal relationships with God and this is will not even happen. Every time the enemy is trying to bring something bad in my life, God will speak to me through my dreams or through my spirit and I will always know what to pray against. We need to fast and pray all the time. We need to read Bible and declare the word of God upon out lives.
My Daddy had Alzheimer's, and mother later was diagnosed with Dementia. I had gotten Training in the Care of these awful diseases, and did private care. I finally quit my job, got a bigger place, my boyfriend moved in, mom moved in and we cared for her(though he worked another job) for almost 4 yrs. One man I cared for with Dementia had Aphasia. His daughter was stunned how well I could communicate with him. She and I still text, send cards and gifts, even since his passing away in 2010. 🙏🏻🤗❤️
@@wereallabitcrazee4312 I agree! I've prayed, and I ask the Lord to please let me keep my sight and my mind. My 2 yr old grandson and I are so close. He thinks Nana lives at his house, and my daughter and son-in-law have told me when I can't take care of myself, they have room for me. But, he and I have fun together. 🙏🏻🤗❤️
I know it’s still hard but she lives through you and how she raised you. My condolences to you mothers passing, something that is never easy on anyone but we must remain strong for them as they got us ready for the world.
My Grandma had alzheimers/dementia and she thought I was her sister Lori. My mom had passed 11 months to the day before Grandma did and we had to tell her Mom was working because if we remined her mom was gone she grieved all over again. Anyway a week before she passed she opened her eyes and asked "Beth honey, we are good people aren't we?" Last words she ever spoke to me. A few minutes before she passed, she got a huge smile on her face and said my mom's name. I am convinced mom was there to show Grandma to her heavenly home
Beth, I have heard these death bed visions of loved ones smiling and reaching out their arms. I do believe the face of Jesus is there too. Tears to my eyes each time I hear one of these stories. Thx so much for sharing yours.
My mom had dementia. When she had a stroke, she declined rapidly. It was a blessing to her and we her children that she still remembered us and we were with her to the end. She remembered some grandkids but not great grandkids. There were around 12 people from her family that stayed at my house for a week as her body shut down. My sister-in-law sand Amazing Grace and though my mom was barely conscious, she sang along. Many treasured memories.
What a beautiful moment and at the same time awful disease for one to have. My great aunt had it. After her husband passed, she lived with my family. Every day she would stand by the window looking for her husband, and asking where John was, unfortunately we had to tell her each time he had passed away a few years before. She would break down and cry each time. It was always sad to see her go through the pain each time. They're both reunited in heaven.🙏🏼🥺
How awful for her to relive his loss every day. I probably would have lied to her - but only if she would forget she was waiting for him because having her wait for him non stop would be awful too. What a horrible disease.
@H B My grandma had dementia. She thought she was a child, always waiting for her mom to come home. We would tell her she was at work with another family member. Explaining the reality was to upsetting for her.
@@quki3 she would have forgotten it, the same way as she forget that he died. People with dementia has only feelings, one needs to make sure that those are good ones.
This is why love, and marriage rules. Both of my parents had dementia, mom with a bad case of Alzheimer's. She died laying next to my dad, holding hands. Making that ending (together in the home they lived in for 50 years)possible was my goal and I think I'm more proud of that that anything I accomplished in my life.
Even with Alzheimer's her smile is light up the rooms your mom is beautiful , and she lucky to have a loving husband, and daughter be with HER every STEP of the way .
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My husband had dementia. One tme he looked at me and said " what time do you get off maybe we can go out to eat".He was trying to pick me up. Miss my guy.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 this is funny.
That is so adorable and I'm so happy you have memories like that with him!
That's beautiful. Says a lot to me. Thank you for sharing this sweet memory. ❤
What a beautiful glimpse of the love between these two!🥰
That’s beautifully sad I’m sorry ❤
My Mom had alzheimers. Dad had to put her into a home because she was very violent. The best thing I can remember is that when she finally just was lost in herself, about a week before she died, I was visiting her and she looked me right in the eye and said, "There's my baby." She never spoke or responded again. It was a final gift.
🙏❤️
My Grammy had Alzheimer's and her to was violent to anyone that interacted with her .. family, nursing staff etc. She didn't recognize her immediate family, but could recall things from her childhood. She lived to be 79 yo. 8 yrs. With this terrible disease. 😢
@Frank Shahinian I pray for a cure🙏❤️I've heard so many sad and horrific stories about this disease.The worst thing is watching the person you know change into some one else and they completely forget you.Thats so heartbreaking.I know there are different levels and different reactions as well.I pray for the families that have lost loved ones and for the families that are currently facing the challenges of this terrible disease.🙏❤️💯
My prayers go out to you 🙏🏽
Don't worry she regained all her memory. ♥️
My father in law would look at his wife and say “I don’t know who she is but I know I love that lady”. He had Alzheimer’s. 😥
That is so beautiful
😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
Awww
That just made me cry. 😢But in a beautiful kind of way. Thank you. ❤
@@2284Nikki Sending Love ❤️....Are you single? ❤️😊
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" - Maya Angelou.
I thought it was 'but people will never forget how good you look.
My mom didn’t know I was her daughter, but her heart knew I was someone meaningful to her. I didn’t care whether she knew my name or how we were connected. I was so grateful that somewhere inside she knew I was nice to her and cared about her.
God Bless!
That's beautiful Judy. God bless you.
DIOS te bendiga 🎉
My Mom thought I was her Mom because I took care of her. I would cook all her comfort foods and since she saw me as the one there nurturing her I guess she saw me as her mother. It was sweet and sometimes she'd call me Mom and I'd say, "Yes? " Then she would look at me real confused and say, "You're not my Mom are you? You are my daughter!" I'd say, "I'm whoever you want or need me to be." It was tough but I don't regret spending all that time with her.
That’s all that truly matters in the end.
As long as there is Love involved, we
normally can feel it from another.
My dad had dementia. I'd see him everyday but he didn't really know who I was. But one morning I came into his bedroom and when he saw me his eyes lit up, and he was, "honey! Where have you been??!" He was soooo happy to see me and he knew who I was. It was such a bittersweet moment😢
That makes me so sad. I feel for people who have gone through this. It must be so difficult. I’m glad you had a beautiful moment with your dad. ❤️
😢 I'm glad he had that moment with you. Something tells me he is very proud of his daughter. God bless.
this hurts my heart!! 😞
LMT I BROKE INTO TEARS WHEN I READ YOUR COMMENT I CAN ONLY IMAGINE HOW EMOTIONAL THAT SPECIFIC DAY WAS SO HAPPY HE REMEBERED YOU BUT I BET IT ALSO MADE YOU CRY 😢❤❤
Dear God...cant imagine goin thru not bein recognized by my mom or dad..
It's both sad and wholesome at the same time❤😢
💯❤️❤️
♥️😢💜🙏
Yes, sad and wonderful. My mother had Alzheimers. Even when she was still living at her home, she would get angry because I wouldn't take her home, meaning her mother's home. Her mother died passed on about 16 years before then.
@@margaretcorbitt6422 😢
@@margaretcorbitt6422 I'm so sorry to hear that🥲
❤😂Beautiful! My mom had dementia, but before she passed, she had a moment when she remembered who I was. She called my name and told me that she loved me. She then told me not to let anyone to tell me anything different. 😊
What a beautiful gift she gave you.
Please keep in mind that people with dementia may not always remember who you are but they always remember how you make them feel ❤
This is so very true
Exactly this! Actually, this is true for all of us. Or, substitute "what you said" for "who you are. A valuable life lesson.
A maya angelou quote
Qué hermosa frase, es lo que pienso!
@@KF-cx8bm And definitely worth re-quoting! 😀
My special moment was when my mom’s doctor asked her, who is he, referring to me. She said oh, he’s that nice guy who takes care of me. It warms my heart every time I remember.
bless your heart
❤ my mum gives a similar answer too her part time nurse and her Dr. The reason her nurse is only part time is because the other half I'm her nurse I am so blessed
My husband and I went to the Ronald Reagan library in California a few yrs ago, in the last room of the display was a video of his son telling the people about the last few months before he passed away, he said he would always give his dad a hug before and after his visit. President Reagan told someone (I can’t recall who) when he was asked about his son’s visit he said I’m not sure who he is but I know he’s the man that always hugs me. I started to cry. Just like I did with this video. 😢
Ugh i cannot imagine, I’ve had one family member with this disease rest her gorgeous soul…. She gave us hell while she was on earth and I know she’s keeping us In line while she’s upstairs 😊 miss her dearly I wish I had the words and time to convey that to her
Oh What a fine memory ❤
I watched a Ted talk that was heartbreaking about dementia and Alzheimer’s. At the end she made me cry when she said “ you’ll either have dementia or Alzheimer’s or you’ll look after someone with it. You’ll forget everything you know but you never forget love. Your body always remembers. You might not remember who the person is but you’ll know that you love them. Love never dies”
So beautiful.
I truly truly believe that statement ❤
Beautiful! Hope it's always true!♥️
I love it❤❤❤ My Grandparents are the most special people to me, they introduced me to the word, and then they did something I still can't explain, but am forever grateful - the validated it right before my eyes on my Gpa's last day on this Earth..my Gpa, on our last day together fell into a comatosed state that night- we lost all communication, and then he raised his arm up high and called for my Gma .. She must have waited there for him just as she told him she would, bc that is my very last memory with him. I still tear up & think about that moment every single day. It was beautiful, and special, and powerful 🙏❤️❤️❤️
@@amandawhitney6255 that’s so beautiful. 😊
That was so beautiful …. ❤️
This is precious and heartbreaking. My gramps used call my grandma on the phone when she was standing right beside him. She would ask him who he was calling and he would answer, "I'm calling Mary." She would tell him she's right there. He sometimes would say he is sorry...he said he knows something is not right in his mind. 😢 The day he passed he said it was going to be a beautiful day. ❤
I rejoice to the fact that you all acknowledge her vocabulary. The fullest acknowledgement seen here merits recognition. That gives value to her existing humanity. On her behalf, I thank you!
I second that rejoicing of acknowledgment. ❤🎉
💜🙏♥️
Absolutely!
I felt like the mom was telling her to stop filming her and “Don’t post it!”
Beautifully said! 1000%
Such a cruel disease. My dad died of dementia three years ago, but I lost him long before that. In the beginning when he knew he was losing his cognition, he would hug me so hard and say, "I don't know how many more hugs I will remember so lets make these the best hugs ever," every time. The last thing he ever communicated to me was he blew a raspberry at me because he was angry with me about some thing. Miss him and his hugs so so much.
Awwwwwwww ❤ this made me smile and cry.
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I know they’re in there, I just know it. ❤
It is a heartbreaking disease you mourn them as the live and breathe in front of you and you mourn them when they pass away. It is a hard path to follow. Being a caregiver for a loved one will test every bit of strenghth you have spiritually mentally and physically.
I am a nurse that specializes in dementia/Alzheimer’s … this is so beautiful it brings tears to my eyes 😢
What would you recommend people do if dementia runs in the family? Any preventive measures we can take?
That is so beautiful so beautiful and sad at the same time God bless the family
Thank you for sharing your light and care with some of those who need it most in this world… it must be an awful thing to completely forget who you are & those around you that you love & care for. 😢
Beautiful with this disease is an oxymoron but I do know and understand what you're saying but it's nothing beautiful about this
I'm also a nurse whom specializes in dementia, And I had a lady that had a similar reaction every time she saw her husband as well, they've been married for 71 yrs, and she just recently passed... Truly one of the most beautiful song/soul I've ever known. ❤️
What a striking woman. She is gorgeous. I’m so sorry to hear she lives with this horrible disease 💔
This man is a gift. I'm assuming the kind girl in the background is their wonderful daughter. This lady is in good hands. 😢
agree
God bless you and yours ❤️ 🙏
Yes God bless them
VERY GOOD HANDS INDEED
Amen on everything right here.
You can see all of the love these three folks share and I'm thankful they are together.God bless them
I'm confused, he looks like he could be her son. And wouldn't he be in retirement age? like her?
This is the reason why I am a Geriatric Nurse!!
I’ve had some of my clients refer me as “ my daughter, my cousin Sherry or a family member.
What’s funny and sweet is that I am black and most of my clients are Caucasian.
One of my client’s daughter ended up saying “ I’m so jealous that she totally ignores me and all the while referring to you as her daughter but I sleep at night knowing that my mom has someone who loves her like a daughter would. “
She ended up calling me her “ sister “
You should see other clients who were still high functioning looking at the one referring me as her cousin that she grew up with!!
She’s white,85 and I’m black and 38 !!
You gotta love working with people with dementia.
It is so rewarding at the end of the day ❤❤❤
I’m glad they have someone like you taking care of them in that vulnerable state. You’re so sweet ❤️
@@BrookeKatherine. thank you 🥰
That's so nice. My dad has dementia and had to go into a home in January, it's a lovely place and he gets on well but he thinks he's in a private hospital because he has stomach pains. He keeps talking about going home soon. The other day he asked me to look for his passport so he can go on a cruise, he had the staff convinced the whole family were going together in April 😂
@@sandraallen4142 i hope he is adjusting well!
I’m sure you’ve probably done this already but bringing in familiar items to furnish his room really helps in him adjusting better.
The more stuff he has from his house/ bedroom would make him feel like he was home.
Some people buy all new things to furnish for their loved ones and that creates a space in their mind that they don’t belong there.
Moving them into an unfamiliar environment can take them longer to adjust.
I usually encourage family members to bring a recliner that they already had, hang family pictures, bring family heirloom and ease into moving in.
Start by an overnight stay , then twice a week and finally move in.
That way they familiarize themselves with a home away from home.
Sending good vibes to you and your family ♥️
God’s blessings and protection on you Sis for ministering to your patients. Your hands work for the Glory of God. ❤❤❤
My gma had dementia & called 911 to report "a very attractive man" broke into her home. That man was my grandfather
❤Thats a Beautiful Story
Bless All yall hearts
Bless U......
I will Never forget how my grandma starred at me in my eyes.....rhen she finally said to me oooooh honey I love you. She was trying so hard to remember
@@ms.malone7039 Bless you right back! 💞
She is so adorable!!!!! It's so sad that she has this horrible disease. Her husband is one of a kind.
I think he's her son, the girl saying Dad's back, is her grand daughter
@@mahmudibrahimbako5928ohhh maybe.! I was thinking, how can that be the husband?? He looks so young
@mahmudibrahimbako5928 no it says "wife with dementia has wonderful reaction to when her husband comes home everyday ". But, I agree he looks young af
God bless this family ❤❤
@@beautyonabarnbudget. The caption or title could be wrong in this case.
64 year old man here..with tears in my eyes and a huge lump in my throat. A very strong man to not break down in front of his wife.
Awww it's ok to cry! It doesn't mean you're weak!! And I'm absolutely sure your wife would tell you the same thing!!!
You have every right to break down ! You are human being, not a Matel! Let you cry !
big strong men get to cry as well.... your tears are coming from a place of love....please don't be afraid to let the tears fall even if you are with a pal.... your pals will think no less of you. I've never been around Alzheimer's so I'm not going to try and make suggestions on what to do.... but I have been around heartbreak and we all need someone to hold on to and cry like a baby.... take care Art... I truly wish you and your wife the best. 🙏💗🙏
The strongest men I know cry. It takes real strength to be vulnerable.
I always felt that men who are truly comfortable in their masculinity don't care about people seeing them vulnerable because they know who they are.
I know that my parents, who are close to your age were unfortunately brought up in a world where the majority felt that showing emotions as a man was showing weakness.
My dad has only ever cried in front of me one time in 30 years and it broke my heart to know how difficult that must have been for him but it proved to me in my mind that my daddy is the strongest man I have ever known.
Real strength comes by doing the difficult thing, not the easy thing. Vulnerability is difficult, but rewarding in many ways.
My dad and I connected more on that day he cried with me, than we had the 20 years prior. He cried because I was crying and it broke his heart to see me that way. It's been 10 years since that happened and we are better off for it.
This guy probably does cry a lot. I would. But maybe in that moment that he didn't wanna confuse his wife more than she probably already is, by crying. She may not understand why.
I think it's awesome when a man can cry. I don't think any less of him, I actually think more of him - because it takes strength to allow vulnerability.
It also shows compassion, empathy, and big heart. I respect you. ❤
My precious Granny passed away from dementia on Jan. 17, 2022. When it first started affecting her, she told me to please never get mad at her, if she couldn't remember me one day. There's no way I could've ever gotten mad at my Gran. She was one of the best Gran's you could ever ask for. ♥️
That’s so beautiful. And sad . My great grandpa passed away in the 90’s from it . Only recently did my mom tell me a story , of when she was young and they were in the garden . And he looked right at her and said … something is really wrong . And she said what papa ? And he said , I’m not sure , but I don’t think I’ll be around much longer . I can’t think straight anymore . Well he made it another 20 years but my momma says she never will forget the day he “changed” . And he knew something was off with his body . He slowly changed , and by the time I was born all he knew is what people told him . He changed. And legit forgot everyone . But my mom says she will never forget that day in the garden where he told her something wasn’t right .
@@kstizz2686 I'm glad your great grandpa lived another 20 years. My Granny only lived about 3 years, after she was diagnosed. It seemed like it hit her so fast. She was always very independent. She was 86 when she passed.
Mine was an outstanding Great Grandmother. Born in 1889 she could make curtains, men's suits, baby clothes and everything else. Stores were not like today. She could and did make wall paper and the glue to hang it. There was no "domestic" challenge for her. And always, always she played with the children. Hanging clothes was an adventure with my GG. ❤❤❤Thanks for the memories.
@kstizz2686 thank you for sharing. Dementia is not so hard for the truly stricken as it is for the slide down to incompetence. Still aware, but sliding into the darkness. Knowing that something is wrong but powerless to stop it. Your Dad saw it coming. Bless your whole family.
Same
The love transcends all the confusion or inabilities to talk or understand. That family is handling everything really great.
Yes, a lot of people with dementia say that they don’t know who a family member is but they know that they love them :’)
Love is biochemical in essence. So yeah man, totally
@fairy wishes he is younger
@fairy wishes Respectfully, the sweet, loving 'husband' appears to be younger. His crew cut with dark hair & a fuller face attributes to this. My dad is 83, mom is 81. My dad looks to be in his young 60's! The lady could be a 'cougar' too! LoL This vid shows a beautiful love amongst all 3. For each of them, my heart breaks & swells with sweet emotions as they live with this. I've lost 3 grandparents to this cruel disease. Peace & love 🦋
❤Yes.🙏🏾
I pray all people with dementia and altzheimers, have loving and patient ❤people around them such as this!!
My great grandmother only recognized me. I was 18. She called me my mom's name. I(as my mom) was the only person she recognized so... I finished college near her so I could see her everyday till she died. It was very special for me. For both of us.
That was my grandma as well. I dropped out of college to be with her every minute of the day. I would do it all over again if I had to
cnee That was so sweet of you to be near her. Thanks for sharing that. 💜
Thank you for sharing that. That was very touching. My grandmother became senile in her 70's and ended up living with us, and died at the age of 75. I'm sure it was very hard for my mom. I was 13 at the time. My mom died in 2007 at the age of 87. To this day, it still doesn't feel right that my parents are no longer here. Life is weird.
I know you are so glad you made that decision❤
God bless you for that...what a sweetheart you are❤
You can tell that he is her safe place. He makes her feel whole. Even through the dementia. I remember when my pawpaw had alzheimers and had to be hospitalized. We couldn't get to the hospital because he was in a hospital a few hours away and when we walked through the door his eyes lit up. He grabbed my grandma's hand and kissed it. She asked "do you know who I am?" His response "I can't remember your name but I know that you're my girl. You're so beautiful." It was the sunshine we needed on a dark day.
That is the most beautiful thing I've ever read!
@@melissadibiase3446 Truly, my eyes welled up when I read that. It is beautiful. We remember how someone makes us feel when all names are gone.
Wow, you almost brought me to tears ❤
😌💗
Beautiful❤😔⚘
I appreciate that someone is taking the time to do her hair and make her look beautiful each morning. It’s a sign of respect that not every dementia patient receives
Sometimes it’s not that they don’t get the respect , it’s very difficult to get them to shower.
Especially in a care facility. I worked at one the families had to pay the hair lady. I honestly think the facility should have been paying her so all the residents could get a hair cut. Little things like that, make them smile.
@@HAIRHOLIC_1 God bless you for your service to humanity as that's what I consider it to be. May you be rewarded.
@@HAIRHOLIC_1 I can promise you, that YOU are one in a million and nurses who feel like you do, are hard to come by. Your blessings will be multiplied a million times over when you get to heaven! Jesus said “if you do good to one of these, you have done it to Me.” Bless you.
I’m a coordinator in a memory care unit and the first thing I tell new hires, “your residents appearance is the reflection of your work, sloppy work is not tolerated here”. During the lockdown I became barber, beautician, nail tech etc
This was my great grandmother with my great grandfather. He used to play cards under a tree not far from the house on Sundays when we would visit them. Then as he was walking home she could see him and she would get all excited and say “Look! Look!” In Portuguese. It was precious. And he took care of her mostly on his own (Sundays my grandmother and her sister would alternate cooking some food for the week and helping clean the house for him. They also got meals on wheels but day to day they were alone together) for years and years.
My father did not recognize his children but recognized my mother until the end.
Pure love❤.
@@donnasantiago5016 yes… but sad for his children.
@@croonyerzoonyer yes of course...I was just thinking the couple knew each other for many more years. (Sounded insensitive of me when it came to the children...didn't mean to though.)
@C Z my father did the same thing .
Same with my grandfather. Though he also remembered his first grandchild. 😅
My mom suffered from dementia before her passing...some of the saddest and sweetest days of my life.😢😢 she never said my name but when my brother walked by her, she would lean over to me and whisper who is that man. One night she went to bed one and an hour or so later I heard her walking in the hall, I got up to check on her and she said I'm hungry, I agreed that I was too. I suggested we go get a snack, she whispered won't we get in trouble? I told her no, it was okay and we went and sat at the table and sneaked a piece of pie, we whispered and ate by the light of a lamp..😢 One of the sweetest moments we ever shared that I will treasure until the day I see her again😊
This is so special !!
❤❤❤💔 God bless u, what a precious memory to have. May it continue to light ur heart till u meet again
Xx❤
You made me cry....I hardly ever cry 🪷
This made me cry. What a precious memory.
Real love….❤ That’s so beautiful!
My precious, compassionate and beautiful mother had dementia. She passed away from Covid pneumonia in 2021 2 days after her 74th bday. My amazing father had a heart attack and needed emergency triple bypass surgery. My momma didn’t know what was going on however she did miss him tremendously while he was in the hospital. My two sisters and I were there all the time taking care of them
both so we comforted my momma and reassured her that my Dad would be home soon. Well, she woke up one morning after I went to pick up my Dad from the hospital and when she walked out the bedroom into the living and seen my Dad. Her reaction was of pure love and surprise. I have a video that I wish I could post-just not quite there yet as we are all still grieving my momma. They were(I say still are as my Dad will never find someone else) together 60 years. My mom met my Dad when she was 14 and they got married when my mom was 16. So married 58 years!!! They truly have a love story that is so so incredible with plenty of persistence, respect, love, understanding, and most of communication. Thanks to everyone allowing me to share my story and taking the time to read it. Love from my home to yours, Katie
Hello that was so touching for me thank you and I would love to see your video
My Mum was so horrible to me for three years before we all realised it was dementia.
I was so heartbroken during that three years I couldn’t be in her company.
She made up a story that I was going to kill her by pushing her down the staircase. She would go around our small town telling all our friends …….Did you know susan tried to push me down the stairs and kill me.
When she passed away she said to my sister… isn’t Susan a beautiful girl….. inside and out.
I was there when she passed
She squeezed my hand !
We thought she wasn’t aware when she was going but no no no they say dont under estimate the power of the mind and reflexes when we are dying.
Hi Susan, that's how my mother was, claiming every caregiver we hired was physically abusing her or trying to kill her. I was the only sibling of 4 taking her to appointments, paying her bills, and cooking and cleaning for her. Visiting Angels and others were to give me a break. And then came the day I discovered she was telling my brothers that I was physically hurting her and stealing her money....and they believed her. I lost 3 brothers that I thought I knew and my mother in one fell swoop.
I wish I had thought to document her behavior. I wish I had insisted each of them come and live with her for a week, so they could have lived her new reality.
@@JanetheScot Aw your story is my story
My parents where married 60 years
I gave up a very lucrative job. Running 22 shops ( just a general manager)
But was a great job i loved it.
So my father had an accident going to work on his bike. Lady hit him from the side and damaged his back and neck. They had a little nursery business started up. My mum rang me up one day and said would you come up ( three hours from me )
and come into the business and help us?
I did and bought my husband up who left his job in the bank. It was a big thing.
I have five siblings,they all had big jobs as well. (Teachers )
Anyway i invested all my money into helping my patents get on the track again.
To cut a long story short my father died of a stroke 15 years later.
My mother left me a small amount of their big estate in her will (which I didn’t care about )
Funny how i was the one that gave everything and i was the one she attacked when in dementia.
It was quiet Interesting in the last year my mum made up this story that my Dad was having a affair with this women
She often said Dad is visiting me today but the fluzzy waits outside
she could describe her which was also interesting
My Dad would have never cheat on her in their marriage
My mum was a beautiful caring Mum to all us kids.
Im at peace now knowing she is dancing with Dad.
But I’m sure taking steps not to get dementia by taking naturopathy tablets
Im 71
My mother got Dementia at 87
She died at 89.
Thanks for sharing it made a difference to hear another story
Also the beautiful video.
I live on the central coast east Australia
Where do you live ?
que história de vida emm😢
What a beautiful story. Hope to see the beautiful video one day. How precious ❤ so amazing she got to experience that kind of love
She knows she is loved ! She is blessed with your kindness. May God continue to bless and give your family strength in this journey.
Lost my father in law and my dad from dementia. It is a cruel disease. For 400 days my dad called me every day, sometimes twice. I took every single call even though we would have the same conversation every call. Dad crossed over the day before Thanksgiving this past year. Don't ever waste a minute with anyone with dementia. ❤
Lost my Mom to dementia last year on May 6th then we lost my father-in-law November 14th from liver failure. Both on hospice at my home. I'm glad they both chose to be with me as their caregiver and I got to spend their last days with them on Earth. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
@@Five0Five and I am deeply sorry for your loss as well
@@Five0Five
GOD bless you for that. 🙏💝
I'm so sorry for your losses.
@@bvl98 thank you 😊
Someone with Alzheimer’s disease can teach you two of the greatest gifts of mankind….compassion & forgiveness.❤️
😊❤️🏴
Right
I mostly agree with you, but I have seen patients with early-onset Alzheimers nearly kill their loved ones. Some are in a state of near-constant rage, and therefore must be sent to a long-term care facility that specializes in people with early-onset Alzheimers. Most can't stay at home, even with receiving antipsychotic medications. It is very sad, especially because I've been told over and over again by their loved ones that these were the kindest, sweetest people before Alzheimers.
Beautifully said and so true ❤
@@2manybooks2littletime25
My uncle was one of those raging Alzheimer's patients who was barely manageable in an Alzheimer's care unit. He had been a boxer in his youth and was still very muscularly strong and crazy and sadly and severely injured his wife. Her husband is so loving and she is inordinately fortunate. They probably loved each other to pieces.
I remember a colleague at work sitting at his desk with tears streaming down his face. I asked what was wrong and he said that he stopped by to visit his dad and his dad did not recognize him. Such a debilitating condition.
That's 1 of my biggest fears that I wouldn't 1 day recognize my daughter. My adopted grandmother & biological grandmother both had dementia in their final years of life...very sad but my adopted grandmother recognized my daughter when she was a toddler🧡 & my biological grandmother only recognized my mother & she also "connected" with her youngest daughter as the lady who's always nice to her💗 They're together on the other side now💔😢
Very controversial opinion here, so I mean no offense to anyone; but this is why I think people should have the right to euthanasia if they have a terminal illness. I personally, would like to be euthanized before I reach that condition. I'd hate to put my loved ones through that; I'd rather die with my memories intact. Of course, everyone should have a choice to decide to see it through to the end if they wish. But, I hate the fact that I won't get the choice to end my life when I deem it.
@@nothanks1239 I hear you 😎 all the best.
@@nothanks1239 I agree this should be a thing in the US. My grandma had a looonngggg battle with cancer and that last round seem like it sucked the souls out of all of us. She didn’t want us to see her like that and we didn’t want to see her like that. But she fought with everything she had and I am eternally grateful for every day God allowed us be with her.
@@HelloWorld2B Sorry to hear that happened to you grandma. Mine got parkinsons and she gave up. She wanted to die and didn't make much effort to live her life; yet she lived like that for 10 years. It is definitely awful to watch your loved ones deteriorate in front of you. I hope that the US is able to get this procedure one day. As I hope that England (my country) gets the procedure as well. I'd hate to be in agony, whilst the hospital keeps me living longer.
She is beautiful inside and out, and so are you. She raised a beautiful, caring daughter. ❤ I hope one day they'll be able to stop this disease from progressing. It is truly cruel.
I’m so glad she gets that happiness everyday. So often, it’s 24 hrs of confusion fear and anger for people with dementia.
No it isnt my wife runs a care facility they arent insane they have dementia... there are lucid times and bad ones...
@@prestigemultimediagroup6436
I get what each of mean ...
In my younger years, up to age of 6-7, way back in c. 1982 -83, my maternal grandmother lived with us. As a young child, watching her descent into dementia was something awful ...
Most of the time, she was OK, but I can't forget her screams when she was having a bad day, and the times I can hear my dad trying to prevent her hurting herself when in one of her episodes of, yes, fear, anger, and confusion, especially when she forgot who he was, or where she was.
I wanted to get into medical research, especially, and specifically, the neurodegenerative disorders. But it wasn't to be ...
But, if I was literally 30yrs younger, if I can go back in time knowing now what I could've known then, well, I'll hope to be in a laboratory, developing a treatment, that if efficacious, would refuse to patient ...
@@nigelft ❤❤i wholeheartedly agree with u.This is such a cruel disease, im soo sorry both u and yr father witnessed yr grandmother go through tht🎉🎉.
@@nigelftjust remember there are many different kinds and so many stages so not everyone experiences the same things. It is a horrible experience and disease 😢 I hope one day we can find a cure or at least a way to slow it down.
I'm glad she has people. Imagine having no people. 😟
My mother passed 23 yrs ago, she'd just turned 63 & exactly 1 wk later she was gone. My mother had alzheimers she was diagnosed in her 40s. Back then, nobody would talk about it & there wasn't any support systems available. My heart breaks for all those with dementia & their loved ones bcuz the path ur traveling on is made from shards of glass. I don't believe that all is forgotten bcuz I'd see my mom's skin color get rosey & her eyes were clear & focused. To me alzheimers, dementia is a family disease, we all become victims once it enters a loved one. I wish all who are diagnosed, their family's & friends the best
I believe those of us who live through this with our family and friends go on to become so compassionate to the people going through it now. Nobody has any idea how heartbreaking and HARD this road is but someone who traveled it before.
This mom's reaction, smile beaming, you can SEE the thrill on her face!
It’s actually a lifestyle condition with some genetic risks.
BOB, I have never read or heard a better description of the devastation dementia can bring to a family.
I'm so sorry. hugs.
Age is just a number. The look in her eyes when she saw her husband 😢….that’s love right there ❤😊
My grandmother has dementia. She is quickly forgetting everything she knows, she can’t walk anymore and has almost completely forgotten English. We are Native American and my grandmothers first language is our traditional Ojibwe language. She had to stop speaking it as a child due to Indian boarding school rules and hasn’t spoken it in years. We all thought she forgot it but apparently not because now that’s all she speaks. It’s bitter sweet. ❤😢
Ongosh that is very special though, how precious
Wow that is amazing. Her culture survived.
Look up keto, its very promising for people and if she is taking statins. They are not good. Look up Dr Berry - High cholesterol is a good thing! They site studies about statins.
I just can’t imagine how emotional that must be for you all, and how precious
That is normal with bad dementia condition, you forget all the languages you have learned after your native tongue. That’s why in Sweden there are many older people who don’t speak or understand Swedish anymore. They only know Finnish language and need Finnish speaking caretakers.
My father passed away April 27, he had dementia and every time he saw me he would smile. He didn’t remember my name however when I asked him if he knew who I was, he would respond “ how can I forget you”😢❤. May 27 will make it a month since he passed and I miss every day and I feel and hear his voice every day❤
God bless your pops. Hope he's having a great time in graduate school. One day we all will get there, and he'll be there to hand you your life school diploma as well.
Hugs to you. I'm so sorry
Aww I’m sorry that’s so sweet 🥹
Awwww
❤❤❤
My best friend had dementia between me her 3 kids and their spouses we took care of her at her home in shifts. One night she ask me How long have you been working here? I said not long, you know what I like about working here? She said what? I said spending time with you...she patted my hand and said I feel the same way. Big applause to caregivers if you haven't done it you don't have a clue how rewarding, totally hard , heartbreaking and tiring it can be, A path I would never shy from but I wish on know one.
your very special
I took care of my aunt for a while. 😢😊❤
It's a vocation ❤
@@catrojana3694 …a calling, if you will. I’ve always believed that God, in His omnipotence, gives the most precious and important battles to His strongest warriors. Take care!🤗
Absolutely, I was married 50 years together, 51, and I miss him terribly. He suffered from idiopathic Parkinsons disease since he was 33. He was home with us when he passed at 77yrs old with stage 4 Cancer! There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him! I'm thankful he isn't suffering anymore!🌟🌟🤗🤗💕😘
His constant kisses 🥹🥹 God bless this marriage ❤
There is a man who took his vows seriously ❤️❤️❤️
Do you see how well put-together she is? I've seen families who seem to figure the person won't care what they look like, so why bother. Her daughter (I assume) is giving her the dignity she deserves. Along with the wonderful way she communicates with her. A lovely lesson for us all. Or me anyway.
A lot of Alzheimer's sufferers develop an aversion to water. My Mom wouldn't shower, wouldn't let anyone else clean her, and she would get physically violent when we tried.
@@cisium1184yup im in the same exact place, she will not get in the shower.
@@cisium1184 That's interesting and does give a reprieve to some people. I didn't have that problem when I took care of my aunt very temporarily. My biggest problem was I'm terrible with hairstyling. But she was an actress & would have been so unhappy if she didn't look good, so I definitely did the best I could.
Or some family members don't bother visiting because visit won't be remembered. But in the moment they love it. I was with her almost every day. I asked her 1st thing who I was. She always answered my Baby.
Was thinking the same thing. She is deeply loved and cared for. Beautiful lady.
Bless her. Such a cruel condition.
My friend's late neighbour's wife had dementia. She had to live in a home because it became too difficult for him to cope. For over 20 years, he went and had breakfast with her, even though she had no idea who he was. When someone asked why he struggled there every day as she did not know who he was, his answer made me cry. All he said was, "I know who she is." He had one aim in life, to be able to arrange and attend her funeral. He achieved this, and, his work done, he died within a few weeks.
Incredible...purity..
N pure love...which iz rare now..
N ppl r fake
I saw that story on Pinterest.
That’s how it is for my mom. She went everyday. He passed away a month ago - I pray I don’t lose her!💜
😢😢So sad.
Your story had be bawling and smiling at the same time, especially the “I know who she is”.😢
Her smile n reaction are so genuine 💖 she looks so well taken care of as well. I commend you 4 caring for her in her final days. Thank u.
I am a Spanish living in the US. My dad had Alzheimer's. He became not talkative and lost in himself. The morning he passed, I had a chance to say good bye to him and told him I loved him and missed him. It was so comforting to hear his last words -I love you and miss you too. He never spoke again. I miss you papá
God bless you!!!
Im so sorry for your loss.
♥️♥️ 🙏🏻♥️♥️
I’m so sorry for your loss! My sweet madrecita has dimentia now and she’s so much like a sweet little girl! All she does is giggle at the silliest things. And she’s a talker, constantly asking the same questions. If she asks me a question one thousand times over and over I always answer her, over and again, as if it were the first time. The best way to calm her is to sing beautiful boleros from her childhood and she will sing them all. That’s how I change her conversation when she repeats herself. She just loves to sing, hug and laugh. I love my Mama’ ♥️. 🙏♥️
Sorry for your loss.
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s. I hadn’t seen her for a few years as she was moved to another state to live with my aunt. She had to be put in a nursing home after a couple of years. I went up to visit & my aunt kindly tried to warn me that my grandmother might not recognize me or might be afraid of me. When we got to the nursing home, there she was, her sweet Georgia accent and her musical laugh…. and she looked up and said You’re my Caroline!! Where have you been? Come give me some sugars, honey I’m so glad to see you! It was hands down the best day of my life. I miss her so much.
Beautiful.
My grandmother had Dementia . I went to visit her .
She didn’t know I was Her granddaughter .
She said to me “ You are the Sweetest Lady I have ever met “
It meant more than if she had known I was her granddaughter .. because I knew that’s exactly what she believed about me .. not because I was Her granddaughter ♥️♥️
@@HypsyGyspy1467 Grandmothers are one of the loveliest gifts we ever receive ♥️
@@caroline3776 Caroline
I completely agree .🎀
What do you think It is about them , that makes them a magical gift ?
@@HypsyGyspy1467 I think it’s the sharing of their wisdom. They have so much experience behind them, have lived long lives usually, and are happy to give us a good road to follow. Even though they may not always remember us, they’re usually still glad to see us and we can enjoy our time together.
My grandma had dementia. The last years of her life she cried every time I met her. She wanted to go home, but the home she wanted to go to was the one she lived in as a small child. She didn't recognize her home she had lived in for over 50 years. She was almost blind and didn't recognize us, her relatives. When me and my sister graduated, we visited her with our graduation caps so she would recognize those as something to be proud of. It made her happy as her generation rarely had the chance to get education beyond compulsory primary school. With dementia even little things that make the person happy are very important.
The thing is it wasn't a little thing.. It was very important to her.
Awe she’s so precious. My mom had those same reactions when me or my dad walked into the house. She talked like that and everything. Always had a big hug and a smile for us. Such a blessing to have so much love!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is why I will NEVER stop being a CAREGIVER. Those smiles are HEAVEN...
I agree. Been doing this job 23 years and I’ll probably only quit when my body won’t allow me cuz I’ll be dead. ❤
Many blessings to you!! Thank you!
Y’all are angels on earth thank you 😢❤
My mother, whom I take care of alone, is starting to seriously forget. I can only hope that can find somebody who sounds as caring and lovely as you all do, if even to give me a break sometimes. I’m afraid to leave her with somebody. Bless you.
@@mangot589 I hope you find somebody. I wish I could help everyone who finds themselves a caregiver for a loved one. No matter how much you love the person you are taking care of you still need breaks whenever possible.
I know what it's like to need a break, and I wasn't even taking care of my dad, who had ALS, alone. My mom did most of the work and my sisters helped. It was a ton of work for all of us. Wishing you and your mother the best. Hope you get some help soon.
My dad was a very damaged man. He got dementia and forgot he was an asshole. Now he's sweet and kind and grateful. Sometimes dementia can be a gift. He's living his best life now...always in the moment and surrounded by people who take great care of him and who love him.
I’d like to think he’s returning to the innocent childlike self within him that was there before the world damaged him 🥲
The reply below from esterjoy said it far better than I can and you are both right that somehow the Man your dad was MEANT to be has emerged so that you can experience each other as it was intended. 🙏❤️
Thats very interesting 😊 God Bless Julie in Canada
My mother had dementia. I was her sole care taker for 17 months during the pandemic until she passed. Being her caretaker was the highlight of my life.
She would be so proud!
What a beautiful way to word such a scary, often frustrating & heartbreaking time.
I can only pray if my boy ever faces such a journey with me, that he too can feel a sense of pride in his decisions prior to my going home to be w/the Lord.
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🙏💗God Bless you❣️
Being there for your parent at the end caring for them is hard but it is a gift that’s hard to describe. It gives you peace that stays with you long after . I held my moms hand while she talked to my deceased sister and was delighted she brought my brother who died a s a baby. I told her it was ok to go and she did. The others who couldn’t face her illness are fked up about her death . I have ☮️
@@AP-gb3ehI think they do see their deceased loved ones shortly before they pass. My mother had dementia and shortly before she died, she vividly talked about her deceased relatives. Before that, she had rarely uttered a complete sentence in years. I guess when one door closes another door opens.
My heart is breaking. My prayers & thoughts are with everyone who has/ is dealing with a loved one who suffers from these horrible illnesses 😢 I wish there was a way for me to take away the hurt that everyone feels when dealing with this! GOD Bless you all with the memories that you share with your loved ones!
Thank you may God bless you too and your family🙏🏼❤️
The dementia diseases are the worst of all diseases. Until you have been put jnto the arena of suffering yourself or caring for a loved one you can' fully appreciate its devastation. So so SO heartbreaking.
Bless this sweet couple!
you said the truth.
this woman 9nly looks to be 45 or 50.
she and her family were robbed, she's still alive but.....?
@Charlie Cottontail
I do agree.😥
Sweet
Truth
Dementia and Alzheimer's is a disease to the soul in my opinion. It kills your memories slowly making you a shell of your former self
My mum fought Dementia for 9 long years I whispered you can go now we ( her children) will be ok we’re adults now we don’t need you to protect us… she smiled and passed a few days later. 💔 the hardest words I’ve ever spoken. 😢xx
As a previous hospice nurse I can tell you with my whole heart, those were the kindest and most meaningful words you could tell her. I know it was hard but know now she can rest and be at peace. You are a strong person to have been able to say them. Loving thoughts to you and your family. 💜💜💜💜
The truth is, you never stop needing her.
I would never say to my mother, "I don't need you to protect me." I would never utter those words.
@@natbb9 it’s true though. She won’t be able to protect you forever. It may sound harsh but it is. It’s not that we don’t want her help, it’s that we don’t need it anymore. Because we want to protect our mothers the way she protected us.
@@natbb9 then don't! Totally your choice. 🙂 ❤ But for this lady it sounded like that's what needed to be said. I'm sure I will always feel like I need my mom but I don't want her to hang on suffering for me.
Being married for 42 years to my best friend, this makes me cry like a baby.
You're really blessed!
It makes me cry too 😢
One of the most loving couple moments I've ever seen. Thankyou for sharing your beautiful family❤
I was my mother's caregiver for 12 years. I slowly watched as dementia took over the person she was. As hard as it was for me to see her like that, I know it had to be harder for her to have to live and slowly lose the memory of the 86 years she lived. I'm grateful that when she passed, she still knew who I was.
I'm currently my moms and were just at the beginning of this journey. She was diagnosed in 2019. She is 74 and still doing great. I hope it is slow progression like your mom's was. I'm so scared.
I took care of a lady in her 80's with dementia, she had her in the later stages. She lived with her daughter. I would come while the daughter was working. Mom knew who her daughter was, she just didnt remember her name. The love they had was just beautiful.
@@queencerseilannister3519 I too am taking care of my mom who is 89 with dementia. I moved in with her 6 years ago. She has the most loving eyes and is happy like a child 99 percent of the time. It's hard sometimes. I thank God everyday for the help he gives me to take care of her. ❤
True meaning of " Till Death Due us Part ".
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Due? 😂
People these days don't know the meaning of that vow. Love is a verb, it's a choice.
Amen
I wouldn't know because in my marriage there is no death due us part.
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My grandpa had alzheimers and made it to final stages (very unlikely) where you basically forget to breath properly and you die. He forgot how to eat and would try and eat paintings of food and drawings etc. He lived at home with us until he couldn't breathe right. Even forgetting everything one could forget, he would even till the day he died cry out FLORA! His wife's name. Hoping she would come in the room. (She had died years earlier)
Oh no…so sorry. He is with Flora now…no more fear…no more pain.
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Maybe he saw Flora in the room. It is common for loved ones to come and help us cross over.🥰
@@mangafq8 yes ❤
I truly believe the veil thins & perhaps Flora really did come visit.
I took care of my grandmother with Alzheimer's. They may not remember your name or who exactly you are, but they always remember the love they feel.
When i visited my mom who had dementia.. the moment i entered the house, she knew we had a connection as she hugged me so tight and tears of joy started to flow for both of us. She just can't remember my name but I believe she knew I am her daughter. Pls. love deeply those who are struggling with dementia.
Your comment just moved me to tears! Thank you for what you shared!
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This is what marriage looks like. Good times and difficult times.
And mistakes
My mom reverted back to age 17. She thought she was in 11th grade and late for school in the morning. When she saw her reflection she was horrified to be 79. It’s such a hard job emotionally to be a parents caretaker. Esp when they can’t remember you. ❤
It would probably be a good idea to keep a photo album handy and show her her whole life beginning to end, might make her feel better. Idk just a thought makes me think of that movie 50 first dates. God bless anyone going through this. ❤
For what it's worth Hun, she knows you, she knows who you are. You are Always in her heart and in her memory. It's the pathways to recall these memories that are being hindered. Deep Down, She Really Knows Who You Are😘😘😘
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He ĺooks young enough to be her son.
Very touching video ❤
That's what I said !!!
I thought that was her son, too.
Yeah, I thought so too.
@@beautyonabarnbudgetthe way you just casually called him a vampire 😅😅
exactly
I was a CNA on a dementia Unit , I will never forget this nice lady that walked and walked around the floor in a circle everytime she would see me she would say “are you lost little girl , want me to help you find your mother” sweetest little lady ever ❤️
Would u also hear the dementia patients speak in a foreign language often like this woman did when she saw her husband?
It breaks my heart to see this happen,leaving this world,the same way, you came into it , Not knowing ANYTHING!!..
My great-grandma had it for a bit before she passed. We knew she was changing when she told my grandma she needed to get ready for school. She forgot our names in a whim, but referred to us by celebrity names, childhood nicknames, and skin color (very common in Spanish-speaking households). One night she was having trouble breathing, so I helped her set-up her breathing mask. She looked at me in the eyes and said “You will go very far in life. You’ll grow up a strong, young man and I’ll be very proud of you wherever I am.” She died the following week, but every time I’m having a hard day, I remember her and her kind words.
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The Blessing of a Grand Ma. You are Blessed
My pop had dementia and died in May of last year. He forgot pretty much everyone(even his children) but he remembered that I had tattoos all over and when he saw me, I was covered up since it was cold, he asked me where all my tattoos went. He couldn't remember my name but the fact he remembered me in some way really meant a lot to me.
I miss him so much.
This is so heart warming to watch. True love and caring .
This hits in 2 ways. Seeing the joy she feels when her husband walks in, yet showing the loss dementia puts a person through.
Well said it’s sort of happy & sad wrapped into one.
My friend's husband had dementia/Alzheimer's at 46. She'd go visit him in the hospital and he wouldn't know her. 46. It's not fair. This is a beautiful moment.
My mom had dementia, she always said who told you life would be fair.
Great, now every time I forget something I'm going to think I have early dementia or Alzheimer's
Don't ever let a doctor tell you there's nothing wrong with you. Demand you want to see a neurologist for spinal tap and memory test to see if you have Alzheimers.
Just at 46 ☹️.. so young
My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at 53 im 16years younger than him. These 8 years have been hard but his eyes still light up when I walk in the room. He's alittle violent from time to time but it from the confusion 😓
I cared for my dad who had dementia. Six years. He passed in 2018. I wouldn't trade those years for anything in the world. He was home, well cared for, surrounded by people he loved and who loved him. When he passed he was holding my mom's hand.❤😢
Rip to your beloved dad
Everyone deserves to be home right to the end.
This lovely lady and her daughter are a joy to listen to. ❤❤
It’s so amazing how a spouse who has dementia can’t remember nobody else but can remember the husband or wife before my husband passed he couldn’t remember I’ll kids but he remember me I miss him so much but God is awesome 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Not necessarily sometimes they don't recognise the old man/ old lady they have become and get angry telling them to get out frightening for both.
please use punctuation. I could hardly understand your comment.
@Ann Maree Skinner I know, a friend of ours is going through it with her husband, sometimes he knows her, sometimes he doesn't and he is afraid of her, so sad😢.
Losing your spouse is so hard. I wish you all the best.
Im sorry for your loss .😔
My Mother died from dementia 12/2/2022 she was one hell of a Mother and funny and loving and a great cook and I miss her a lot..
Sorry for you. 😢
Mine too 11/04/2021
God I hate dementia and Alzheimer's 👿
Going thru the sàme thing
Phil Church, Im so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Prayers for you sir. ❤😢
My Grandpa often didn't know my name, but he knew I was his grandchild.
My great grandmom did almost the same thing....when I came in her back door, she hugged me and held my hand, and said "I don't remember your name, but I know that I love you!". She passed away a few months after that.
same! i was in my grandparents' house and it took my grandma about 2wks to say my name, she told me bfast is ready ♥️ she knew i was her grandchild she just doesn't remember my name hehe
My Grandpa didn’t recognize me as me, but always called my daughter by my name. Somehow that was comforting 😊
My Uncle took care of his wife right up to the end. He is my hero. Gave us all the perfect example of what a husband should be.
The same is happening with my aunt and uncle, She’s still living at their home and he’s with her everyday. My uncle’s deep love for my aunt blows me away whenever I witness it
Talk about being torn between sadness and joy. What s loving family.
I cried. My dad has dementia and every other day is just further decline. He has moments of clarity and you can see the fear in his eyes. We all comfort him during these rare moment telling him that we will always be beside him. Dementia is a dark prison. Sometime a ray of light appears and you struggle to see through the hole to see outside before the hole closes.
My mother has vascular dementia and is genteel and soft with a similar build like this precious woman. I’m treating her with massive oxygenation to the brain using a Bemer at intensity 6 at the moment. Two straps going at the same time. Last night she started to sing (humming), after being nonverbal for a year after a stroke. With these types of patients you have to eliminate all sugar from the diet and that means processed foods. Sugar is highly inflammatory to the brain so basically feed them a Mediterranean dietary. Engage them in exercise and movement. Don’t let them sit too long. And put them to bed no later than 10:00 pm. The sleeping part is extremely important. And try to get a Bemer with two straps that you can apply to the brain directly. It’s a life savor.
Their studies being done that dementia and Alzheimer's are linked to l yme disease
God bless you. It is tough at times. I had to find humor in my dad's shenanigans. He was a funny guy and it helped to laugh along the way. I was so happy to be able to be with him during sone of his frightful times as he was for me as a child. I miss him dearly
My mother has late stage dementia, she is 77. I was, diagnosed with FTD dementia last year, I'm 61.
My mom has been robbed of her life and dignity by this cruel disease 😢
I am petrified and afraid, I wish we were allowed to choose our own end of life legally so we do not have to go through this.
My beautiful Mother had this and full blown Alzheimer’s. This made me cry. I cared for her till she passed. 😢
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Much respect for hanging in there. People who never have to take care of them will ever know the terrible emotional pain. Or the pure joy of spending fleeting moments with them.
God bless
Be certain that you’re blessed for doing that.
And God will bless you for that. Love to you.❤️ 🎉
At least she still remembers him right now. There will come a time she’ll think he’s her dad or that she gave birth to him. My grandmother died of Alzheimer’s and she didn’t have the speech problem, but thought her son, my dad, was her husband that had passed 6 months earlier. She thought she’d given birth to one of the caregivers when my parents couldn’t handle her anymore. She went from a fiery little spitfire to a meek and mild little lady. Alzheimer’s can totally change their personality, along with he memory loss. Such a heartbreaking disease, but at least she wasn’t in any physical pain with it. Thank God for that! 🙏🏼😇
Sorry about your Grandmother, Debbie. Sounds like you make up a wonderful family and I’m glad she had that
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My heart breaks for anyone who's loved one gets this. Be strong.
My mother in law has dementia and she is 81 years old with the flexibility and agility of a 21 year old. She can kick her leg high, squat down low and climb. She once climbed off the upstairs patio. The good part is that she is not violent. She is loving, and smiles a lot. I think if one has a loving childhood it’s reflected in their lives today.
So true
My grandma has it very violent
Not fair, not true, and a little cruel to say to those who might have family members with the violent tendencies. Dementia affects people differently and can completely change one’s personality. Someone can have a beautiful life with a lot of love and still become violent or just a different personality - cruelty of the disease. Maybe kindness and thinking before speaking is called for.
@@cq8822 better not be talking to me
@@cq8822 or else
😢 My mother has alzhiemers and I took care of her as long as I could, its the worst, saddening, exhausting thing in the world, you have to actually live in their world!! God bless her!
How ever long you did care for her it was a blessing.its very very hard to care for someone with allzhimer's.bless you and your family!!!
God bless you and your mother
I took care of my Dad at his home until he passed. Im so thankful he always knew me. It would have crushed me if he didn't because we were always so close. You're a great person for the love and care of your Mother. I remember how hard it was emotionally and physically. Love to you and your family.
As some who lost a father to dementia, seeing the love in her eyes makes me smile.
Likewise, miss my Dad
It made me cry.
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@@zoraidacastro2703 hugs
ThIs was so great! She has a wonderful husband and caregiver!❤
Please God, let there be a cure for this awful disease. What a wonderful man. May God bless them both.
Amen
there is a cure for those who believe in Jesus. The Bible says, By the stripes of Jesus we are healed. Jesus is THE cure. These kind of mental problems are cause by the enemy. I was very sick (not with this, but . . . ) and I took a fast, I was fasting and praying to Jesus to heal me and he did. And what I had was incurable.
People just need to have personal relationships with God and this is will not even happen. Every time the enemy is trying to bring something bad in my life, God will speak to me through my dreams or through my spirit and I will always know what to pray against.
We need to fast and pray all the time. We need to read Bible and declare the word of God upon out lives.
My Daddy had Alzheimer's, and mother later was diagnosed with Dementia. I had gotten Training in the Care of these awful diseases, and did private care. I finally quit my job, got a bigger place, my boyfriend moved in, mom moved in and we cared for her(though he worked another job) for almost 4 yrs.
One man I cared for with Dementia had Aphasia. His daughter was stunned how well I could communicate with him. She and I still text, send cards and gifts, even since his passing away in 2010. 🙏🏻🤗❤️
This is my ultimate fear... to not remember my 15 yr old granddaughter cuz she's my bestie. Losing our memories is just... ugh 😭
@@wereallabitcrazee4312 I agree! I've prayed, and I ask the Lord to please let me keep my sight and my mind.
My 2 yr old grandson and I are so close. He thinks Nana lives at his house, and my daughter and son-in-law have told me when I can't take care of myself, they have room for me. But, he and I have fun together. 🙏🏻🤗❤️
She looked so forlorn until her Daughter whispered 'Dad's home'. So sad, yet so beautiful. I've lost two loved ones to dementia. It's heartbreaking 💔🥺
Precious. My Mama died of dementia in 2017...worst day of my life. She took half my heart with her.😢
I'm so sorry 😢❤
@@christinamiller9347 Thank you. ❤️❤️
She's so precious such a gift and your Dad is still her prince charming, her heart and safe place. God be with you 🙏🙏
I know it’s still hard but she lives through you and how she raised you. My condolences to you mothers passing, something that is never easy on anyone but we must remain strong for them as they got us ready for the world.
Although my Mom didn’t pass from dementia, she did die from end stage colon cancer 1 week after we found out. She passed 8/20/2017. Still Hurts.
My Grandma had alzheimers/dementia and she thought I was her sister Lori. My mom had passed 11 months to the day before Grandma did and we had to tell her Mom was working because if we remined her mom was gone she grieved all over again. Anyway a week before she passed she opened her eyes and asked "Beth honey, we are good people aren't we?" Last words she ever spoke to me. A few minutes before she passed, she got a huge smile on her face and said my mom's name. I am convinced mom was there to show Grandma to her heavenly home
this happens often if you read about near death experiences
this made me cry
Beth, I have heard these death bed visions of loved ones smiling and reaching out their arms. I do believe the face of Jesus is there too. Tears to my eyes each time I hear one of these stories. Thx so much for sharing yours.
She was there. I've witness death enough to know this.
I’m not crying you’re crying 😭
Their love is so tender and real and deep. She could even say she missed him. I love it. She so happy Dad is home. ❤
Chris from Michigan
My mom had dementia. When she had a stroke, she declined rapidly. It was a blessing to her and we her children that she still remembered us and we were with her to the end. She remembered some grandkids but not great grandkids. There were around 12 people from her family that stayed at my house for a week as her body shut down. My sister-in-law sand Amazing Grace and though my mom was barely conscious, she sang along. Many treasured memories.
What a beautiful moment and at the same time awful disease for one to have. My great aunt had it. After her husband passed, she lived with my family. Every day she would stand by the window looking for her husband, and asking where John was, unfortunately we had to tell her each time he had passed away a few years before. She would break down and cry each time. It was always sad to see her go through the pain each time. They're both reunited in heaven.🙏🏼🥺
You could have told her that he is at work or put of town.
How awful for her to relive his loss every day. I probably would have lied to her - but only if she would forget she was waiting for him because having her wait for him non stop would be awful too. What a horrible disease.
@H B My grandma had dementia. She thought she was a child, always waiting for her mom to come home. We would tell her she was at work with another family member. Explaining the reality was to upsetting for her.
@@quki3 she would have forgotten it, the same way as she forget that he died. People with dementia has only feelings, one needs to make sure that those are good ones.
I'd have lied, no reason to make someone cry when they wont remember in 6 hrs
Never know what someone is going through.. Just Be kind to everyone you meet. ❤
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Wow you just said everything i think about almost every day. I try so hard not to forget that keep reminding myself i get it❤
You and your mom have a beautiful relationship . Your dad is so gentle.
This is why love, and marriage rules. Both of my parents had dementia, mom with a bad case of Alzheimer's. She died laying next to my dad, holding hands. Making that ending (together in the home they lived in for 50 years)possible was my goal and I think I'm more proud of that that anything I accomplished in my life.
Aww, that is precious but also sad. I lost my Mom to dementia. She was 97+.
Awww bless you I'm in tears after reading this 🌹
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Even with Alzheimer's her smile is light up the rooms your mom is beautiful , and she lucky to have a loving husband, and daughter be with HER every STEP of the way .